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By *ambozaMan
over a year ago
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Beauty is beautiful and can be found in all sorts of forms.... aesthetics and fashion change but beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
That may come across as a bit glib and I do understand the pressure felt by many people to conform to style guides and norms of all kinds.
If you find it beautiful it has value. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm not really down with the current beauty trends, I like to be a bit rough and ready but importantly also clean  "
You do need to elaborate on "rough and ready", please ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not intimidated, feeling old yes with teenagers wearing 90's fashion.
Previous partner wouldn't allow me to wear what I wanted. Now I just wear whatever the heck I like, "
Hence the grin I guess? Embrace it ! X |
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"I am me ... I am monkey ... I refuse to "comform" ... it is take me or leave me ... fashion is fleeting and changing ... I am consistent ... since you ask
How are Sandy and Pigsy Monkey?"
They're fine ... it's that fucking Shaolin monk though .... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am me ... I am monkey ... I refuse to "comform" ... it is take me or leave me ... fashion is fleeting and changing ... I am consistent ... since you ask
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So maybe those who follow trends are more adaptable creatures than those who don't? Just trying to see all the "sides" of it. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't have a particular timeless style but I'm not intimidated by those who fit the modern aesthetic. Life isn't a competition, well beauty certainly isn't. And I refuse to see other women and their beauty as something that's intimidating - I'd much rather celebrate them than tear them down whether they follow current beauty trends or not.
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"I'm not really down with the current beauty trends, I like to be a bit rough and ready but importantly also clean
You do need to elaborate on "rough and ready", please ! "
Looking a bit weathered |
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"Not intimidated, feeling old yes with teenagers wearing 90's fashion.
Previous partner wouldn't allow me to wear what I wanted. Now I just wear whatever the heck I like,
Hence the grin I guess? Embrace it ! X"
Think that's the thing beauty/fashion should be fun and an expression of self, definitely should be embraced  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me, everyone can do their own thing. As long as they're comfortable with how they look then it's not for me to judge
I dress to make me feel good. If someone wants to feed me cake, sit on my face and tell me I'm pretty as a result of that then who am I to argue?  |
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"I am me ... I am monkey ... I refuse to "comform" ... it is take me or leave me ... fashion is fleeting and changing ... I am consistent ... since you ask
So maybe those who follow trends are more adaptable creatures than those who don't? Just trying to see all the "sides" of it. "
Oh I adapt ... but I don't feel the need to change my looks to emerging trends to fit in ... I think adaptability goes deeper than appearance alone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Beauty is to be embraced and celebrated, as is ordinary "
I was going to say 'Beauty is to be embraced and celebrated, as long as it shines from within'
I mean, it does, but what stopped me typing that is that it's one of those statements that we use without thinking
It suggests you can't be beautiful to look at and be beautiful to be around
That's just a phallusy
I've been lucky enough to spend time with many people who are beautiful, outside AND in
There are those amongst us that can't cope with someone having both
Outward beauty often attracts negativity and cynicism |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Beauty is beautiful and can be found in all sorts of forms.... aesthetics and fashion change but beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
That may come across as a bit glib and I do understand the pressure felt by many people to conform to style guides and norms of all kinds.
If you find it beautiful it has value. "
I like checking what's "in" because I do like guidance to feel part of something too. Wave to a woman wearing same coat and get an air high 5;-) But I like my own spin and I don't pack things away because they are not currently fashionable.
As for looks.. I found what I'm comfortable with. It just needs little polish here and there  so no trend following here.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You know.. the current beauty trends.. are you intimated by people who fit into those or you rock your timeless style regardless?
What style?? "
A nonchalant one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wear what suits me, if it’s fashionable great but more often than not it’s more classic/timeless looks.
Not changed my makeup style since my 20’s.
Each to their own but I do struggle sometimes to see naturally beautiful young girls enhance themselves with fillers etc to fit an Instagram look. |
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Beauty , to me, is not so much as a symmetrical face as much as pure soul, twinkling eyes and simple truth.
Can't botox that in with a needle.
Give me the craggy face of a man who has lived a life. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't have a particular timeless style but I'm not intimidated by those who fit the modern aesthetic. Life isn't a competition, well beauty certainly isn't. And I refuse to see other women and their beauty as something that's intimidating - I'd much rather celebrate them than tear them down whether they follow current beauty trends or not.
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I didnt think of tearing down at all here. More of putting oneself down. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm not really down with the current beauty trends, I like to be a bit rough and ready but importantly also clean
You do need to elaborate on "rough and ready", please !
Looking a bit weathered "
Got ya! |
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I admire people who take snippets of different fashion and intermingle them into a style that suits them. My sister is way more girly than me and is effortlessly current. It just doesn’t compute with me so I dress for comfort. I’m not stylish but my outfits are very clearly me if that makes sense... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've never followed a trend. I'm just me, take it or leave it..."
How did you find "you"?
Trying on a trend or just getting lucky with shopping choices? |
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"I've never followed a trend. I'm just me, take it or leave it...
How did you find "you"?
Trying on a trend or just getting lucky with shopping choices? "
I don't even know what me is! My "fashion" choices in recent years have been dictated by comfort and a desire to avoid allodynia on my stupid leg |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is almost impossible to be 'you' without acknowledging others' view of you, therefore, every single person on earth is following a trend, mainstream or not.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I wouldn't say I am intimidated by the latest trends and those who fit into them, but the pressure definitely gets to me sometimes that I don't fit the high standards that society loves these days. I'd be lying if I said it didn't bother me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it hard when theres a mismatch, inner beauty is the really important thing!
If someone appears beautiful but exhibits ugly personality traits which I think I can see, maybe when others do not?
And yet, I will admit to being shallow and initially being attracted by a beautiful face, or body! But if theres no depth there, it fades, my liking, that is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It concerns me greatly that I don’t have a thigh gap.
Your dick would spoil the view anyway when it dangles down between your legs.  "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find it hard when theres a mismatch, inner beauty is the really important thing!
If someone appears beautiful but exhibits ugly personality traits which I think I can see, maybe when others do not?
And yet, I will admit to being shallow and initially being attracted by a beautiful face, or body! But if theres no depth there, it fades, my liking, that is."
And all the yeses to this  |
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Lots of things can be intimidating. Beauty, intelligence, profession, class, accent, confidence, aggression etc.
What is important is learning self respect and comfort within yourself then people with these other qualities become interesting as equals not scary or inaccessible. We can all learn from each other. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You know.. the current beauty trends.. are you intimated by people who fit into those or you rock your timeless style regardless?
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i wouldnt say intimated but definitely mesmerised by people like that... I met a woman recently and she was just so effortlessly cool...They way she dressed and a sexy tattoo that really suited her.. I wasn't intimated but I did want run out and get a tattoo!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Theres a girl I work with that I find super stunning! I can chat away to her without any issues via messenger etc but I stutter if I chat in person, feel really awkward around her and struggle to hold a conversation! I'm very intimidated when I'm in front of her |
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"Theres a girl I work with that I find super stunning! I can chat away to her without any issues via messenger etc but I stutter if I chat in person, feel really awkward around her and struggle to hold a conversation! I'm very intimidated when I'm in front of her"
Awwwww Bants, you didn't strike me as the intimidated type |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do 'me' I don't care if it's trendy or fashionable, if I like it I wear it....I don't do all that beauty stuff either...it's too high maintenance, I exercise, eat well and drink lots of water, only stuff I use is coconut oil.
Not intimidated by others either; they do them, I do me, be boring if we were all the same
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Theres a girl I work with that I find super stunning! I can chat away to her without any issues via messenger etc but I stutter if I chat in person, feel really awkward around her and struggle to hold a conversation! I'm very intimidated when I'm in front of her
Awwwww Bants, you didn't strike me as the intimidated type "
Normally I'm not but this girl is pretty amazing! I can chat and have a good laugh with her regular on messenger but just cant string a sentence in person.  |
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"Theres a girl I work with that I find super stunning! I can chat away to her without any issues via messenger etc but I stutter if I chat in person, feel really awkward around her and struggle to hold a conversation! I'm very intimidated when I'm in front of her
Awwwww Bants, you didn't strike me as the intimidated type
Normally I'm not but this girl is pretty amazing! I can chat and have a good laugh with her regular on messenger but just cant string a sentence in person. "
You're unveiling this rather cute and fluffy interior, my good man  |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Beautiful men intimidate me. I go shy and bashful and can’t look at them. It has always been so.
I have never personally followed beauty trends because I’m not conventionally attractive and would likely look awful. You have to work with what you’ve got. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Theres a girl I work with that I find super stunning! I can chat away to her without any issues via messenger etc but I stutter if I chat in person, feel really awkward around her and struggle to hold a conversation! I'm very intimidated when I'm in front of her
Awwwww Bants, you didn't strike me as the intimidated type
Normally I'm not but this girl is pretty amazing! I can chat and have a good laugh with her regular on messenger but just cant string a sentence in person.
You're unveiling this rather cute and fluffy interior, my good man "
Just a big softie! I'm actually quite shy too!  |
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"Theres a girl I work with that I find super stunning! I can chat away to her without any issues via messenger etc but I stutter if I chat in person, feel really awkward around her and struggle to hold a conversation! I'm very intimidated when I'm in front of her
Awwwww Bants, you didn't strike me as the intimidated type
Normally I'm not but this girl is pretty amazing! I can chat and have a good laugh with her regular on messenger but just cant string a sentence in person.
You're unveiling this rather cute and fluffy interior, my good man
Just a big softie! I'm actually quite shy too! "
Now I want to come up there and give you a big hug  |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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Odd one, wish what I know now I could take back a few (lot) of years.
However, as a large (body) person, I appear to have some attractive traits.
Plus, I have a couldn’t care attitude to things that are not important and cannot stand incongruent people.
So no, never intimidated.
There are stunning people on here and a massive amount of incongruous, from others, to match them.
Love the non pretentious. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends, some cases yes but I couldn’t tell you what it would depend on haha, guess how I’m feeling about myself at the time... love a bit of body dysmorphia  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm way too old now to be fashionable, and for me that's fine. I have a kind of style which to most would maybe be of a certain vintage but I'm comfortable with how I look and dress these days. I go for comfort over fashion but like to put my own spin on things. I don't feel intimidated by the beautiful young things or envious but I do hope they appreciate it while they have it. In the end it's more important to keep your personality at its best. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't find today's trends all that beautiful, seems like natural beauty is kinda lost behind fillers, extensions, foreheads that don't move! Obviously that's just my opinion.
I just wear what I feel good in and the older I get the less I give a stuff and comfortable in my own skin. |
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Trends do not intimidate me, I take what parts I like and use them, it's nice to have someone else do my make up as I like to see what parts they want to define, I know what suits me but it's always interesting to be seen with fresh eyes |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I just fell blissfully asleep last night.. I will be reading these today and post my reflections too.. thank you for all the replies so far. Something I have been musing over! |
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To answer your question, yes, I do think beauty can be intimidating.
Not in terms of trends or purely physical beauty, I'm talking about the amalgamation of a beautiful soul who shines both inside and out. There are many beautiful people who have raised my heartbeat and made me a sweaty nervous mess purely from being in their presence. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To answer your question, yes, I do think beauty can be intimidating.
Not in terms of trends or purely physical beauty, I'm talking about the amalgamation of a beautiful soul who shines both inside and out. There are many beautiful people who have raised my heartbeat and made me a sweaty nervous mess purely from being in their presence."
Thank you. It warmed my heart reading this. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It depends, some cases yes but I couldn’t tell you what it would depend on haha, guess how I’m feeling about myself at the time... love a bit of body dysmorphia "
Would you mind telling us more about this, please? I don't know much about body dysphoria and better to hear it from someone who experienced it than Google, I think. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Beautiful men intimidate me. I go shy and bashful and can’t look at them. It has always been so.
I have never personally followed beauty trends because I’m not conventionally attractive and would likely look awful. You have to work with what you’ve got."
I do like your point La Luna. Not everything out there will suit us and why 'ridicule' yourself looking awful in something trendy or altering our image, because it does nothing for your body shape or complexion or .. self esteem.
When you own it, you put your own stamp on it...maybe? Just brainstorming out loud.. not sure where my conclusion is heading yet! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Theres a girl I work with that I find super stunning! I can chat away to her without any issues via messenger etc but I stutter if I chat in person, feel really awkward around her and struggle to hold a conversation! I'm very intimidated when I'm in front of her"
I do wonder if she knows deep inside and finds your nerves a compliment in a way..? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I tend to wear what I’m comfortable in, not what trends going ..we are on about clothes aren’t we Rose "
Not exclusively! There are trends each decade when it comes to body shape, eyebrow shape, hair styles, etc. So you can alter your looks too or just remain faithful to what have you found suits you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Beauty , to me, is not so much as a symmetrical face as much as pure soul, twinkling eyes and simple truth.
Can't botox that in with a needle.
Give me the craggy face of a man who has lived a life."
There is a magical beauty in wrinkles and scars. A life story on our skin. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I admire people who take snippets of different fashion and intermingle them into a style that suits them. My sister is way more girly than me and is effortlessly current. It just doesn’t compute with me so I dress for comfort. I’m not stylish but my outfits are very clearly me if that makes sense... "
It does! I saw you
Yes, if you can add your own twist on merge things tastefully that's a skill.. |
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"For me, everyone can do their own thing. As long as they're comfortable with how they look then it's not for me to judge
I dress to make me feel good. If someone wants to feed me cake, sit on my face and tell me I'm pretty as a result of that then who am I to argue? "
Sit on your face AND feed you cake? That's just greedy. You should be feeding the face sitter cake as her mouth isn't otherwise occupied. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I like things of beauty.
I stared, rather rudely, at a Virgin Airlines co-pilot on the tube once.
He was very handsome and in uniform.
I had to keep dragging my eyes away.
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Captivating.
My youngest child looks beautiful asleep.. the shadows of eyelashes in the night light and softness of relaxed muscles all over the face, peacefulness and stillness in beauty..are a mesmerising sight. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am me ... I am monkey ... I refuse to "comform" ... it is take me or leave me ... fashion is fleeting and changing ... I am consistent ... since you ask
How are Sandy and Pigsy Monkey?
They're fine ... it's that fucking Shaolin monk though ...."
Was they boy or girl? |
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What one may see as beauty another may see as ugly.
Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder as they say and is definitely not intimidating.
I think of myself as ugly on the outside but beautiful on the inside |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I wouldn't say I am intimidated by the latest trends and those who fit into them, but the pressure definitely gets to me sometimes that I don't fit the high standards that society loves these days. I'd be lying if I said it didn't bother me.
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Thanks for sharing that LBC.
I do feel sometimes that to look good in a certain dress for example, I need a certain body shape. I might be right, or wrong, but the fact I don't allow myself to get out of the comfort zone on occasion, does make me frustrated. So I do push myself. Just a little.
And I like proving myself wrong.
There is more than one trend after all. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"I like things of beauty.
I stared, rather rudely, at a Virgin Airlines co-pilot on the tube once.
He was very handsome and in uniform.
I had to keep dragging my eyes away.
Captivating.
My youngest child looks beautiful asleep.. the shadows of eyelashes in the night light and softness of relaxed muscles all over the face, peacefulness and stillness in beauty..are a mesmerising sight. "
My daughters have beautiful eyes. We often get commented on our eyes when we're out together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have no clue about trends or fashion. A friend was laughing (in a nice way) at me for having my jeans turned up at the bottom. I had no clue it was an old obsolete fashion trend. The issue was my correct waist size vs my trouser length back then was hard to find
Yes I would love to look like a model of a magazine but I love dessert too much. I would love to buy nice clothes but right now my money is needed elsewhere and I don’t earn enough.
Not something I take too serious but when I can I do like to look good. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Beauty is to be embraced and celebrated, as is ordinary
I was going to say 'Beauty is to be embraced and celebrated, as long as it shines from within'
I mean, it does, but what stopped me typing that is that it's one of those statements that we use without thinking
It suggests you can't be beautiful to look at and be beautiful to be around
That's just a phallusy
I've been lucky enough to spend time with many people who are beautiful, outside AND in
There are those amongst us that can't cope with someone having both
Outward beauty often attracts negativity and cynicism "
Yes there are. But I was aiming more at what we feel inside like.. does it downgrade our confidence being surrounded by those of "standard beauty" or we are able to free ourselves from comparing. |
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I have never followed fashion.
I have always worn what I feel comfortable in.
I love Beauty in all aspects and think the world is full of things that make you feel good.
I have felt intimidated by people's intelligence before, but not beauty, I don't think.
Jo.Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have never followed fashion.
I have always worn what I feel comfortable in.
I love Beauty in all aspects and think the world is full of things that make you feel good.
I have felt intimidated by people's intelligence before, but not beauty, I don't think.
I think you’re amazing
Jo.Xx "
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