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By *iew OP Man
over a year ago
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Since you started posting on these forums have you changed your approach in any way..
Are you more direct, less direct or the same.
Are you more or less sensitive to how you post
Are you more or less sensitive in how other people's post impact you |
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By *iew OP Man
over a year ago
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I have changed quite a bit I think, when I first started I was probably far more sensitive to others post, less direct in my reply and probably more jocular in posts and thread creation.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes.
I used to post quite often. Now I get halfway through a post type what I want to say and then delete it.
I rarely post anymore."
thankfully u did i like ur boobs |
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By *iew OP Man
over a year ago
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"Yes.
I used to post quite often. Now I get halfway through a post type what I want to say and then delete it.
I rarely post anymore."
I do that a lot, type the whole thing then reread it and rather than post, I delete |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes.
I used to post quite often. Now I get halfway through a post type what I want to say and then delete it.
I rarely post anymore.
thankfully u did i like ur boobs"
lol thanks
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes.
I used to post quite often. Now I get halfway through a post type what I want to say and then delete it.
I rarely post anymore.
I do that a lot, type the whole thing then reread it and rather than post, I delete"
Its odd but sometimes after getting my reply typed out I just don't feel the need to post it. I've got what I want to say out! Sometimes it's because I can't be bothered to get into the debate I know it will probably cause. Other times it's just the tone of the thread that puts me off.
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
Great post and made me think you ll be pleased to hear ! 
I think from watching other posters who are really funny and yet inoffensive (like Soapy used to be and like Laine) I may have modified the way I put things now. I am naturally quite direct but I realised that on here, without intonation, smiles,facial expressions and body language messages can easily be misread or taken as offensive even when they were meant to be friendly or funny; so I guess I am more careful now as I genuinely dont wish to hurt anybody's feelings. |
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Im not sure to be honest, i just type what im thinking at that moment in time unless its a serious thread i want to post on then i think about it.
What does surprise me is the pms i get from people asking advice and telling me im well reasoned. But we all see our selves as different. My posts change from day to day, depending what frame of mind im in at the time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not sure... don't post very often these days, don't tend to get into any debates, have had a lot of stuff going on in real life though and think a lot of the time me head is too fried to get into anything much 
...still avoid argumentative threads though as they just depress me  |
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By *iew OP Man
over a year ago
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"I'm not sure... don't post very often these days, don't tend to get into any debates, have had a lot of stuff going on in real life though and think a lot of the time me head is too fried to get into anything much
...still avoid argumentative threads though as they just depress me "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think my posting style is largely a mix of :
a) reflections of my mood at the time
b) reactions to a comment made, be it negative or positive
c) genuine responses to queries, questions and requests for advice
d) out and out mickey taking, and
e) banter with friends and forumites alike
So, yes it has changed and will continue to change, sometimes consciously but more often than not sub consciously.
It is a dymanic, not a static feature of my site usage.
Great thread btw View |
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By *iew OP Man
over a year ago
Forum Mod Angus & Findhorn |
"I think my posting style is largely a mix of :
a) reflections of my mood at the time
b) reactions to a comment made, be it negative or positive
c) genuine responses to queries, questions and requests for advice
d) out and out mickey taking, and
e) banter with friends and forumites alike
So, yes it has changed and will continue to change, sometimes consciously but more often than not sub consciously.
It is a dymanic, not a static feature of my site usage.
Great thread btw View "
thank you sir |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't think I've changed much. Probably post more now than I used to originally!
I still use as much humour and the occasional bit of sarcasm but now avoid the 'help with my profile' and 'why can't I' type posts!
Must be working as haven't had a ban in ages!!! |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I try to type what I think less, due to a couple of time outs over the last year 
I avoid political threads like the plague, and avoid engaging certain forum members, whereas before I might have stayed up arguing and gone to bed mad. Life is too short to argue with internet strangers. |
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By *iew OP Man
over a year ago
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"Don't think I've changed much. Probably post more now than I used to originally!
I still use as much humour and the occasional bit of sarcasm but now avoid the 'help with my profile' and 'why can't I' type posts!
Must be working as haven't had a ban in ages!!! "
why do you avoid them ( hope you don't mind me asking ) |
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By *iew OP Man
over a year ago
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"I try to type what I think less, due to a couple of time outs over the last year
I avoid political threads like the plague, and avoid engaging certain forum members, whereas before I might have stayed up arguing and gone to bed mad. Life is too short to argue with internet strangers."
me too, it does impact sleep at times |
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I've changed since the beginning, a lot less hasty with my posts. Funny ones I love, serious ones I enjoy...and when mood takes me I'll post.
Also, just Like you and Ms Purple,I have wrote out many a post and thought "nah, I've got it out now so no point" and delete it.
I read the forums every day and I love them for the variety of subjects discussed...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've learnt to keep my big mouth shut
and thighs open
Always darling xxx
didn't I just know that he would pop up
What else did you expect View"
Paddy
Are you aware that she's touring this summer ? |
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By *iew OP Man
over a year ago
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"I've learnt to keep my big mouth shut
and thighs open
Always darling xxx
didn't I just know that he would pop up
What else did you expect View"
I know, I know He is as regular as regular can be... but a good soul |
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By *iew OP Man
over a year ago
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"Heat thread View
I've changed since the beginning, a lot less hasty with my posts. Funny ones I love, serious ones I enjoy...and when mood takes me I'll post.
Also, just Like you and Ms Purple,I have wrote out many a post and thought "nah, I've got it out now so no point" and delete it.
I read the forums every day and I love them for the variety of subjects discussed... "
I mostly avoid the politics ones but I do love the passion in them... |
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"I've learnt to keep my big mouth shut
and thighs open
Always darling xxx
didn't I just know that he would pop up
What else did you expect View
Paddy
Are you aware that she's touring this summer ?"
Heading North  |
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"Heat thread View
I've changed since the beginning, a lot less hasty with my posts. Funny ones I love, serious ones I enjoy...and when mood takes me I'll post.
Also, just Like you and Ms Purple,I have wrote out many a post and thought "nah, I've got it out now so no point" and delete it.
I read the forums every day and I love them for the variety of subjects discussed... "
Ffs.....*GREAT instead of heat!! |
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By *iew OP Man
over a year ago
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"Mine have changed to a much mellower laid back style, I have had to change to stay off the naughty step"
to be fair we have all been there.
I redecorated it the last time, lovely new cushions and drapes |
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"Heat thread View
I've changed since the beginning, a lot less hasty with my posts. Funny ones I love, serious ones I enjoy...and when mood takes me I'll post.
Also, just Like you and Ms Purple,I have wrote out many a post and thought "nah, I've got it out now so no point" and delete it.
I read the forums every day and I love them for the variety of subjects discussed...
I mostly avoid the politics ones but I do love the passion in them... "
Me too View...but sometimes ya just "gorra gerrin there"  !!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't think I've changed much. Probably post more now than I used to originally!
I still use as much humour and the occasional bit of sarcasm but now avoid the 'help with my profile' and 'why can't I' type posts!
Must be working as haven't had a ban in ages!!!
why do you avoid them ( hope you don't mind me asking )"
Of course not - ask away!!!
Part of me thinks if you're not capable of creating a profile yourself that portrays you in a positive manner and clearly states what you're looking for, tells a bit about you and contains enough info and pics to attract interest - then getting someone else to do it for you defeats the object of being on a site such as this! It either means you probably won't be able to communicate on a social level face to face, or are just looking for a quick and easy way to get meets!
As for the 'why can't I' threads - the above probably explains a lot - and if you don't have the ability to sit back and reflect on your profile content, style of communication and the image you're portraying - again - seeking advice will tend to get people to change their profile and actions to suit what they think people want to see, in order to boost their chances of meets, rather than just being themselves - thus running the risk of dissapointing others during meets - and creating a vicious circle where by acting in a manner unnatural to themselves online, they can't continue the fakery in reality - and will then continue to struggle!
God - that was a bit serious for me!!!  |
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By *iew OP Man
over a year ago
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"Heat thread View
I've changed since the beginning, a lot less hasty with my posts. Funny ones I love, serious ones I enjoy...and when mood takes me I'll post.
Also, just Like you and Ms Purple,I have wrote out many a post and thought "nah, I've got it out now so no point" and delete it.
I read the forums every day and I love them for the variety of subjects discussed...
I mostly avoid the politics ones but I do love the passion in them...
Me too View...but sometimes ya just "gorra gerrin there" !!!"
to be fair when they are in full flow you can pop in, throw in something and run.
they are so wound up, they fail to notice
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"Mine have changed to a much mellower laid back style, I have had to change to stay off the naughty step
to be fair we have all been there.
I redecorated it the last time, lovely new cushions and drapes"
Nice and comfy though |
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By *iew OP Man
over a year ago
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"Don't think I've changed much. Probably post more now than I used to originally!
I still use as much humour and the occasional bit of sarcasm but now avoid the 'help with my profile' and 'why can't I' type posts!
Must be working as haven't had a ban in ages!!!
why do you avoid them ( hope you don't mind me asking )
Of course not - ask away!!!
Part of me thinks if you're not capable of creating a profile yourself that portrays you in a positive manner and clearly states what you're looking for, tells a bit about you and contains enough info and pics to attract interest - then getting someone else to do it for you defeats the object of being on a site such as this! It either means you probably won't be able to communicate on a social level face to face, or are just looking for a quick and easy way to get meets!
As for the 'why can't I' threads - the above probably explains a lot - and if you don't have the ability to sit back and reflect on your profile content, style of communication and the image you're portraying - again - seeking advice will tend to get people to change their profile and actions to suit what they think people want to see, in order to boost their chances of meets, rather than just being themselves - thus running the risk of dissapointing others during meets - and creating a vicious circle where by acting in a manner unnatural to themselves online, they can't continue the fakery in reality - and will then continue to struggle!
God - that was a bit serious for me!!! "
thank you very much for that... really get where you are coming from on |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Don't think I've changed much. Probably post more now than I used to originally!
I still use as much humour and the occasional bit of sarcasm but now avoid the 'help with my profile' and 'why can't I' type posts!
Must be working as haven't had a ban in ages!!!
why do you avoid them ( hope you don't mind me asking )
Of course not - ask away!!!
Part of me thinks if you're not capable of creating a profile yourself that portrays you in a positive manner and clearly states what you're looking for, tells a bit about you and contains enough info and pics to attract interest - then getting someone else to do it for you defeats the object of being on a site such as this! It either means you probably won't be able to communicate on a social level face to face, or are just looking for a quick and easy way to get meets!
As for the 'why can't I' threads - the above probably explains a lot - and if you don't have the ability to sit back and reflect on your profile content, style of communication and the image you're portraying - again - seeking advice will tend to get people to change their profile and actions to suit what they think people want to see, in order to boost their chances of meets, rather than just being themselves - thus running the risk of dissapointing others during meets - and creating a vicious circle where by acting in a manner unnatural to themselves online, they can't continue the fakery in reality - and will then continue to struggle!
God - that was a bit serious for me!!! "
Well put! |
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I just say the first thing that comes into my head not always the right thing.. I admit when I am wrong and say sorry if need be... I have become accepting that some people like my forum posts and sdome people don't... |
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By *iew OP Man
over a year ago
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"I just say the first thing that comes into my head not always the right thing.. I admit when I am wrong and say sorry if need be... I have become accepting that some people like my forum posts and sdome people don't..."
we have all said something wrong at some point |
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Oooo, just thought of another thing.
For some unknown reason I have a knack for "halting a thread", you know, the ones that know one else posts after me...its happened a few times, I know not why...that kinda stops from posting for a while  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I try,,lol, the  horns do come out when i see the "groundhog day" repeat threads, then i catch myself on that its maybe folks new and think they are saying something fresh n new.
Terminolgy, turn of phrase, things ironic often bite you on the arse though i've learnt. Or have i? |
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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago
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"Yes.
I used to post quite often. Now I get halfway through a post type what I want to say and then delete it.
I rarely post anymore.
I do that a lot, type the whole thing then reread it and rather than post, I delete"
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By *adgeeMan
over a year ago
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"Yes.
I used to post quite often. Now I get halfway through a post type what I want to say and then delete it.
I rarely post anymore.
I do that a lot, type the whole thing then reread it and rather than post, I delete"
I bet there a far bit of that goes on, I'm guilty of that too |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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I am pretty much the same i think, a bit more deviant, a little darker, but still pretty much me....i dont post stuff i would like sometimes as i feel there are some people who are over sensitive, the forums are a lot more sanitized than they used to be....still straight n direct as i need to be but a little less than i want to be  |
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By *adgeeMan
over a year ago
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"Mine have changed to a much mellower laid back style, I have had to change to stay off the naughty step
to be fair we have all been there.
I redecorated it the last time, lovely new cushions and drapes"
You've always been good that way with the Soft furnishings  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think I've changed View, I think I aproach each thread in the same way I always have, maybe others would disagree.
If anything I probably post less than I used to, but I don't think I've ever been a huge poster. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't know if my posting style has changed. I don't think it has. I do voice my opinions but I hope I do so in an assertive rather than aggressive way. But moods and state of mind at the time will affect most peoples style of posting.
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By *ncMan
over a year ago
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I've not been frequenting the forums here for long enough to have a style to change Not sure I'll stay as while there are some really nice, interesting, funny, caring and helpful folk here there are a couple whose heads are so far up their own arses they are human donuts. I'm sure I'd get a ban at some point so may be safer chatting privately |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i come across as angry and nasty.
i know that but people who know me will tell you im not like that.
just some things you get off your chest and the forum is a way of doing that.
im direct. yes sometimes wrong but we cannot get it right all of the time. |
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