Ok here is my issue known a certain man from here (fab not forums) for a long time now and like to think we know him quite well. Always normally reply to each other’s msgs within a couple of days at the longest. Over the last week or so we have sent a few msgs and nothing back. And we cant decide if we are getting ghosted or if there is something wrong. If he lived closer and wasn’t in lockdown we would go see for ourselves but as it stands we can’t |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If he's been online, and not read your messages, you probably have the answer.
If he hasn't, and you have known him a while, do you have his contact details?
Maybe a text? |
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"If he's been online, and not read your messages, you probably have the answer.
If he hasn't, and you have known him a while, do you have his contact details?
Maybe a text? "
That’s how we have been getting intouch with him through txt msgs. And not been on here for 3days |
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
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Taking the information into consideration, not been on for 3 days and not replying to texts I would say you are right to be concerned, it's a matter of what to do that's the difficult decision. |
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"Taking the information into consideration, not been on for 3 days and not replying to texts I would say you are right to be concerned, it's a matter of what to do that's the difficult decision."
Exactly any ideas. We see him as a good friend too |
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"Do you know where he lives ?
Do you have an e mail address ?
Do you know where he works ?
Do you know anyone else who knows him ?"
First 3 yes but last one no as he keeps this life and other life separate |
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
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"Taking the information into consideration, not been on for 3 days and not replying to texts I would say you are right to be concerned, it's a matter of what to do that's the difficult decision.
Exactly any ideas. We see him as a good friend too "
I don't suppose you are familiar enough to have any of his friends names or numbers? I know it's unlikely due to discretion reasons. Could you maybe send something small and personal with a 24 hour delivery that has to be signed for, if it gets signed for you know they are OK, if it doesn't then it's more confirmation something is wrong. Tricky to know what else to suggest, nice of you to be so concerned. |
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"Ok here is my issue known a certain man from here (fab not forums) for a long time now and like to think we know him quite well. Always normally reply to each other’s msgs within a couple of days at the longest. Over the last week or so we have sent a few msgs and nothing back. And we cant decide if we are getting ghosted or if there is something wrong. If he lived closer and wasn’t in lockdown we would go see for ourselves but as it stands we can’t "
If you know 100% he is not with a new partner and you know his address then send him a letter in the post just saying 'Hi how are you doing..we haven't been in contact lately'...if you don't receive an answer then maybe leave well alone and leave it for him to contact you. |
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"Taking the information into consideration, not been on for 3 days and not replying to texts I would say you are right to be concerned, it's a matter of what to do that's the difficult decision.
Exactly any ideas. We see him as a good friend too
I don't suppose you are familiar enough to have any of his friends names or numbers? I know it's unlikely due to discretion reasons. Could you maybe send something small and personal with a 24 hour delivery that has to be signed for, if it gets signed for you know they are OK, if it doesn't then it's more confirmation something is wrong. Tricky to know what else to suggest, nice of you to be so concerned."
That’s hard really as I say I know where he lives but don’t know his actual address. But know how to get there if that makes sense |
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"Have you tried calling rather than text?
I can understand why youd be growing concerned. "
This would be my suggestion, you obviously have his number so try giving him a quick call to see how he is |
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"  3 hours of messaging and 23 posts to get round to making a call when you’re concerned about someone. Glad I wasn’t lying on the kitchen floor having banged my head on the cupboard door. "
It’s his private life not sure if it was appropriate. You can always say a txt was from whoever but say someone else answered. |
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If he's read your messages and not replied it could be either Ghosting you, or he could be going through a rough time and not replied until he feels he's ready to bounce back. Could be a few things! You never know. Maybe give him some time and if he doesn't answer back after a week, then ask questions! |
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"If he's read your messages and not replied it could be either Ghosting you, or he could be going through a rough time and not replied until he feels he's ready to bounce back. Could be a few things! You never know. Maybe give him some time and if he doesn't answer back after a week, then ask questions!"
Already spoke to him and he definitely isent ghosting us. |
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"If he's read your messages and not replied it could be either Ghosting you, or he could be going through a rough time and not replied until he feels he's ready to bounce back. Could be a few things! You never know. Maybe give him some time and if he doesn't answer back after a week, then ask questions!
Already spoke to him and he definitely isent ghosting us. "
Glad you’ve heard from your friend and he’s ok! |
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