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"Honestly dating sites tinder badoo etc are the worst
Full of fakes and one sided conversations
Has anyone had luck on other dating sites "
Never tried them, tbh if I was single these days I would be screwed. |
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over a year ago
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"I definitely have more success/interactions with people on here"
I've not made much effort with dating sites. But I find there's more honesty about interacting with people on Fab. For the most part. |
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over a year ago
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"Can't speak for everyone but Fab is quality purely because it cuts out the awkwardness. If you're interested you're interested, no Bs no faffing about"
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"Honestly dating sites tinder badoo etc are the worst
Full of fakes and one sided conversations
Has anyone had luck on other dating sites "
i think with you being a polyamorous couple your options on convention dating sites will be limited , id say leas than 1% of people i swipe on them mention polyamory - its mostly just people looking for 2 person monogamy |
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With Fab, everyone is so friendly. I can imagine it's a bit different for the women with overfriendly blokes. But is such a calm atmosphere, my first time in the live chat rooms this weekend and it's been a breath of fresh air! May even live stream myself in future  |
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It depends what you're looking for i.e actual proper long term relationship or hook up/one night stand/dail-a-shag  . We met through Match.com and still joke that a months subscription is the best money either of us ever spent.Weirdly Janes ex husband and his long term partner met on Match as well. There's still some on there that treat it as a sex/hook up site but the subscription fees and pre joining questionnaire seemed to out more of the chancers. So for proper dating leading to a relationship use a proper dating site and for swinging use FAB in our opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All dating sites are business places for extracting money. No way all the success stories are real. These apps have made us feel that we use it continuously so that we can pump in money. Nothing beats socialising with people ftf. |
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By *unforyou73Man
over a year ago
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I’m on a few dating sites and not being an oil painting and in skinny jeans etc I don’t get much luck, some swipe right by mistake or think better of it and never reply, then the rest are fake profiles
I do find fab or fet sites are more friendly and going to clubs more welcoming
Fingers crossed somebody takes a chance on me one day  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met my ex via PoF about 7 years ago and it was good then for a free site.
Now PoF is full of fake men and even had my account hacked twice. Unless you pay for others it's a waste of time. |
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over a year ago
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I used Badoo a few years ago. Made one good friend,who I'm still in touch with. Most women on there seemed to be looking for romance rather than NSA fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tried a couple of sites but they had the same men on who clearly weren't the dating types.
Last time I only lasted 24 hours. I made the mistake of checking out other women's profiles to see what the 'competition' was like. Horrendous.  *delete* |
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"I did very well on Tinder a few years ago. Luke "
Tinder worked for me too a while back.
But I guess it depends what you're looking for.
I was looking for dates and laughs and sex not a relationship.
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Had mixed results, trying to find someone for long term. POF is defiantly the one i have had most meets. but its tough out there as it is in here, to get to meet people.
I'm Back here as I'm bored of dating apps even though still on them |
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"Honestly dating sites tinder badoo etc are the worst
Full of fakes and one sided conversations
Has anyone had luck on other dating sites "
If you’re on dating sites/apps trying to find a bi woman for a threesome, you won’t have much luck. I’ve never used them myself, but in every bi group I’m in I hear endless complaints about couples on them, usually with a single woman profile, unicorn hunting. The majority of bi women aren’t into threesomes, and you should assume that if they’re on a dating app, and their profile doesn’t clearly state they’re looking for threesomes, they’re probably looking to date not hook up with couples. |
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over a year ago
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I used p.o.f and okay Cupid a few years back and found long term partners within a day. I joined again recently and both were a pile of crap. I think covid boredom is killing all kinds of on line interaction. Best to wait out the drought. |
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"I met my ex via PoF about 7 years ago and it was good then for a free site.
Now PoF is full of fake men and even had my account hacked twice. Unless you pay for others it's a waste of time. "
I totally agree |
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By *urflrCouple
over a year ago
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We met on POF and prior to that I’d met a couple of nice guys on Match. I used to hide my profile on POF, POF ninja haha, and then make first contact with people who I liked the look of. X |
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I seem to get good matches on tinder etc but i dont want to publicy post on there that i am in to the lifestyle as if people see me on here who know me then thats fine as they are like minded but not we are a minority compared to the vanilla world.
The issue then is i get a few messages in, tell them after getting on and they are not and its then end of chat. On here the competition is high due to the volume of men just wanting NSA. I have NSA on here but id prefer a relationship with a swinger. |
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"I seem to get good matches on tinder etc but i dont want to publicy post on there that i am in to the lifestyle as if people see me on here who know me then thats fine as they are like minded but not we are a minority compared to the vanilla world.
The issue then is i get a few messages in, tell them after getting on and they are not and its then end of chat. On here the competition is high due to the volume of men just wanting NSA. I have NSA on here but id prefer a relationship with a swinger. "
How about stating an interest in non monogamy, which can mean a number of things and tends not to be demonised quite as much as ‘swinging’
OKCupid tends to be the best for non monogamy types
I reckon people are most likely to use Tinder out of boredom at the moment because of the set up which requires no effort and it is very gameified. That said, by doing this myself I’ve now had a quite a few social distance dates with an open minded guy who was not fazed at all when I mentioned swinging |
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Dateing sites are full of fakes and timewasters who have no interest in meeting a decent guy even tho they state on there profile. This site is sadly going the same way. Its really hard being single nowadays and trying to find a relationship or anything is near impossible and the years pass by and with it all the good things you can enjoy with sex or a relationship. |
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I think Fab comes out on top for a number of reasons, mostly because you can use the site almost in an unlimited way for free, where as most dating sites just seem to be out to make as much money as they can! |
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"It depends what you're looking for i.e actual proper long term relationship or hook up/one night stand/dail-a-shag . We met through Match.com and still joke that a months subscription is the best money either of us ever spent.Weirdly Janes ex husband and his long term partner met on Match as well. There's still some on there that treat it as a sex/hook up site but the subscription fees and pre joining questionnaire seemed to out more of the chancers. So for proper dating leading to a relationship use a proper dating site and for swinging use FAB in our opinion "
Nice to here a positive story from a dating site.
Yes I’m on both match and POF. Have just about as much luck on there as I do here lol. I think FAB should have an extra area for those who genuinely looking for a relationship as well as swinging, I’d be made up finding someone as kinky and perverse as myself who wants a relationship, but would also love to get into swinging too.
Don’t see the issue with having fun and being in an open and honest relationship, |
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If you are a single man like me who has been single for years you will agree that finding someone to date/be with or enjoy regular sex with is near impossible due to the influx of bad men who give us decent ones a bad name. Also a lot of women dont give a decent guy a chance even tho they have spent years going from loser to loser. As i have said being single us mentally very hard as with every passing year we are missing out on companionship and all the good things about sex that we could enjoy with a girlfriend  |
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"I seem to get good matches on tinder etc but i dont want to publicy post on there that i am in to the lifestyle as if people see me on here who know me then thats fine as they are like minded but not we are a minority compared to the vanilla world.
The issue then is i get a few messages in, tell them after getting on and they are not and its then end of chat. On here the competition is high due to the volume of men just wanting NSA. I have NSA on here but id prefer a relationship with a swinger. "
Thing is even if you say you're looking for long term on a dating site but mention sex in your profile, many think that's all you're there for. |
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"If you are a single man like me who has been single for years you will agree that finding someone to date/be with or enjoy regular sex with is near impossible due to the influx of bad men who give us decent ones a bad name. Also a lot of women dont give a decent guy a chance even tho they have spent years going from loser to loser. As i have said being single us mentally very hard as with every passing year we are missing out on companionship and all the good things about sex that we could enjoy with a girlfriend "
Here here!! Totally agree
Good luck hopefully there is some truth in the saying best comes to those who wait. |
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"If you are a single man like me who has been single for years you will agree that finding someone to date/be with or enjoy regular sex with is near impossible due to the influx of bad men who give us decent ones a bad name. Also a lot of women dont give a decent guy a chance even tho they have spent years going from loser to loser. As i have said being single us mentally very hard as with every passing year we are missing out on companionship and all the good things about sex that we could enjoy with a girlfriend
Here here!! Totally agree
Good luck hopefully there is some truth in the saying best comes to those who wait. "
I find its harder to find a girlfriend etc nowadays than it was 10 years ago in my experience. On dateing sites girls dont get to know a decent guy ir even get to know them yet have spent years going from loser to loser. What life is that? Why not just get to know a person who is decent rather than being judgemental over looks etc. I state i want a long term relationship and as someone said although i want to enjoy a good sex life you dare not mention the subject or they think you are only after one thing. You cant win as a single guy. Its not wrong to want a decent girlfriend for long term and to enjoy all the good things about sex with her in my opinion. The more years that go by being sinlge the more we are missing out on companionship and enjoying sex. |
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"I've never been on a dating site. I've recently been thinking about joining some "
Well hopefully it will work for you, please be kind to the shy ones, you just might find a diamond hiding in rough. Hopefully a filthy one. |
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"I've never been on a dating site. I've recently been thinking about joining some "
I wouldnt bother. They are full of timewasters sex pests and liers who have no intention of meeting someone decent to be together with as a couple. 4 years being single and trying as a decent guy tells me this sadly. |
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"If you are a single man like me who has been single for years you will agree that finding someone to date/be with or enjoy regular sex with is near impossible due to the influx of bad men who give us decent ones a bad name. Also a lot of women dont give a decent guy a chance even tho they have spent years going from loser to loser. As i have said being single us mentally very hard as with every passing year we are missing out on companionship and all the good things about sex that we could enjoy with a girlfriend
Here here!! Totally agree
Good luck hopefully there is some truth in the saying best comes to those who wait.
I find its harder to find a girlfriend etc nowadays than it was 10 years ago in my experience. On dateing sites girls dont get to know a decent guy ir even get to know them yet have spent years going from loser to loser. What life is that? Why not just get to know a person who is decent rather than being judgemental over looks etc. I state i want a long term relationship and as someone said although i want to enjoy a good sex life you dare not mention the subject or they think you are only after one thing. You cant win as a single guy. Its not wrong to want a decent girlfriend for long term and to enjoy all the good things about sex with her in my opinion. The more years that go by being sinlge the more we are missing out on companionship and enjoying sex."
Well I’ll seam to find that they either contradict what they say on their profiles or don’t put anything in full stop. I had one lady who had 4 kids and expected me to take her and her kids, but wasn’t happy that I had mine 4 nights a week. I don’t understand
I know my profile on here is short, but I really don’t think it matters as I’m never going to get anywhere, and every time I join I get lazier as I’m less hopeful, in the past I’ve probably gone to the opposite extreme. I’m always honest and polite and I will 99% of the time attach a face pic, but I find it hard to start a conversation and I feel rude just asking for sex or sending what I think is banta to someone I don’t know.
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I think the problem with dating sites nowadays is that there are too many, which in turn makes it far too easy for heads to be turned by someone ‘better’.... you could be getting on great with someone but if an attractive profile comes knocking before the pair of you have really got to know one another - it’s all ruined! All a shame really |
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Here lies the issue. Women expect men to be decent and have a good profile on dateing sites yet they never read them and the double standards is that most of the time there profile is empty yet expect you to put in all the effort. Dateing if serious is a 2 way thing but women never give decent guys a chance even if you put effort and politness into msgs or your profile. They base everything on looks and thats shallow as hell and wonder why they are going from loser to loser. Give us decent guys a chance and get to know us as a person and they could end up with a stable nice guy. Also all this not wanting men to have kuds yet they have 4 by 4 different fathers is pure pathetic. Proves how loose they are and not someone i would want to date long term anyway. |
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"Honestly dating sites tinder badoo etc are the worst
Full of fakes and one sided conversations
Has anyone had luck on other dating sites "
In.my time.had some luck on bumble n tinder |
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I as the male half of a couple do much better on dating apps than I do here. Fully open on the profile about what it is I'm looking for/able to offer and appreciate that isn't necessarily what alot of people are looking for, only issue we have found is seeing people who we wouldn't share this side of our life with  |
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"I as the male half of a couple do much better on dating apps than I do here. Fully open on the profile about what it is I'm looking for/able to offer and appreciate that isn't necessarily what alot of people are looking for, only issue we have found is seeing people who we wouldn't share this side of our life with "
No offence but dateing sites should be for those who genuinly want to find a new girlfriend/boyfriend and i think advertising for sex is what attracts all the sex pests and gives us genuine decent guys a bad name. Im sure you mean well but its just my opinion as a long time single i struggle to find someone due to women thinking all blokes are just after sex. |
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"I as the male half of a couple do much better on dating apps than I do here. Fully open on the profile about what it is I'm looking for/able to offer and appreciate that isn't necessarily what alot of people are looking for, only issue we have found is seeing people who we wouldn't share this side of our life with
No offence but dateing sites should be for those who genuinly want to find a new girlfriend/boyfriend and i think advertising for sex is what attracts all the sex pests and gives us genuine decent guys a bad name. Im sure you mean well but its just my opinion as a long time single i struggle to find someone due to women thinking all blokes are just after sex."
That's fair, but it's not solely sex, more a poly aspect to our marriage. |
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"I as the male half of a couple do much better on dating apps than I do here. Fully open on the profile about what it is I'm looking for/able to offer and appreciate that isn't necessarily what alot of people are looking for, only issue we have found is seeing people who we wouldn't share this side of our life with
No offence but dateing sites should be for those who genuinly want to find a new girlfriend/boyfriend and i think advertising for sex is what attracts all the sex pests and gives us genuine decent guys a bad name. Im sure you mean well but its just my opinion as a long time single i struggle to find someone due to women thinking all blokes are just after sex.
That's fair, but it's not solely sex, more a poly aspect to our marriage."
I understand that and seems you are on for genuine reasons. My problem.is with cheating or sex pest men who just want sex and give us decent guys a bad name. Because these types flood the dateing sites it makes it really hard to meet a new girlfriend as these men just put them off. 4 years single and i have never struggled so much and i blame the internet sex pests for that. Would love to meet a girl in a bar etc but again thats harder nowadays than it was 10 years ago say. |
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"Here lies the issue. Women expect men to be decent and have a good profile on dateing sites yet they never read them and the double standards is that most of the time there profile is empty yet expect you to put in all the effort. Dateing if serious is a 2 way thing but women never give decent guys a chance even if you put effort and politness into msgs or your profile. They base everything on looks and thats shallow as hell and wonder why they are going from loser to loser. Give us decent guys a chance and get to know us as a person and they could end up with a stable nice guy. Also all this not wanting men to have kuds yet they have 4 by 4 different fathers is pure pathetic. Proves how loose they are and not someone i would want to date long term anyway. "
You: Decentdecentdecentdecentgenuinedecent
Also you: Slags off women, calls them all shallow and “loose”, whatever the hell “loose” is supposed to mean in this day and age
Also you: Mystified as to why you’re struggling to find a woman (who you probably don’t want to date anyway because she’s “loose”). |
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"Here lies the issue. Women expect men to be decent and have a good profile on dateing sites yet they never read them and the double standards is that most of the time there profile is empty yet expect you to put in all the effort. Dateing if serious is a 2 way thing but women never give decent guys a chance even if you put effort and politness into msgs or your profile. They base everything on looks and thats shallow as hell and wonder why they are going from loser to loser. Give us decent guys a chance and get to know us as a person and they could end up with a stable nice guy. Also all this not wanting men to have kuds yet they have 4 by 4 different fathers is pure pathetic. Proves how loose they are and not someone i would want to date long term anyway.
You: Decentdecentdecentdecentgenuinedecent
Also you: Slags off women, calls them all shallow and “loose”, whatever the hell “loose” is supposed to mean in this day and age
Also you: Mystified as to why you’re struggling to find a woman (who you probably don’t want to date anyway because she’s “loose”)."
You are totally missing the point. I am on about trying to find someone for a relationship on dateing sites not for sex. My appologies if this wasnt clear |
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"Here lies the issue. Women expect men to be decent and have a good profile on dateing sites yet they never read them and the double standards is that most of the time there profile is empty yet expect you to put in all the effort. Dateing if serious is a 2 way thing but women never give decent guys a chance even if you put effort and politness into msgs or your profile. They base everything on looks and thats shallow as hell and wonder why they are going from loser to loser. Give us decent guys a chance and get to know us as a person and they could end up with a stable nice guy. Also all this not wanting men to have kuds yet they have 4 by 4 different fathers is pure pathetic. Proves how loose they are and not someone i would want to date long term anyway.
You: Decentdecentdecentdecentgenuinedecent
Also you: Slags off women, calls them all shallow and “loose”, whatever the hell “loose” is supposed to mean in this day and age
Also you: Mystified as to why you’re struggling to find a woman (who you probably don’t want to date anyway because she’s “loose”).
You are totally missing the point. I am on about trying to find someone for a relationship on dateing sites not for sex. My appologies if this wasnt clear "
So because you want a relationship, you think that justifies making nasty comments about women? |
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"Here lies the issue. Women expect men to be decent and have a good profile on dateing sites yet they never read them and the double standards is that most of the time there profile is empty yet expect you to put in all the effort. Dateing if serious is a 2 way thing but women never give decent guys a chance even if you put effort and politness into msgs or your profile. They base everything on looks and thats shallow as hell and wonder why they are going from loser to loser. Give us decent guys a chance and get to know us as a person and they could end up with a stable nice guy. Also all this not wanting men to have kuds yet they have 4 by 4 different fathers is pure pathetic. Proves how loose they are and not someone i would want to date long term anyway.
You: Decentdecentdecentdecentgenuinedecent
Also you: Slags off women, calls them all shallow and “loose”, whatever the hell “loose” is supposed to mean in this day and age
Also you: Mystified as to why you’re struggling to find a woman (who you probably don’t want to date anyway because she’s “loose”).
You are totally missing the point. I am on about trying to find someone for a relationship on dateing sites not for sex. My appologies if this wasnt clear
So because you want a relationship, you think that justifies making nasty comments about women?"
Totally wasnt my intention. What i was agreeing with is a poster who said women expect you not to have kids etc yet they have lots with different fathers and its all a bit unbalaced and one sided. A lot of women have been on dateing sites for years because rather than giveing a decent guy a chance and getting to know him as a person they jump from one good looking loser to another and wonder why. Lots of single decent guys will agree with this. |
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"Here lies the issue. Women expect men to be decent and have a good profile on dateing sites yet they never read them and the double standards is that most of the time there profile is empty yet expect you to put in all the effort. Dateing if serious is a 2 way thing but women never give decent guys a chance even if you put effort and politness into msgs or your profile. They base everything on looks and thats shallow as hell and wonder why they are going from loser to loser. Give us decent guys a chance and get to know us as a person and they could end up with a stable nice guy. Also all this not wanting men to have kuds yet they have 4 by 4 different fathers is pure pathetic. Proves how loose they are and not someone i would want to date long term anyway.
You: Decentdecentdecentdecentgenuinedecent
Also you: Slags off women, calls them all shallow and “loose”, whatever the hell “loose” is supposed to mean in this day and age
Also you: Mystified as to why you’re struggling to find a woman (who you probably don’t want to date anyway because she’s “loose”).
You are totally missing the point. I am on about trying to find someone for a relationship on dateing sites not for sex. My appologies if this wasnt clear
So because you want a relationship, you think that justifies making nasty comments about women?
Totally wasnt my intention. What i was agreeing with is a poster who said women expect you not to have kids etc yet they have lots with different fathers and its all a bit unbalaced and one sided. A lot of women have been on dateing sites for years because rather than giveing a decent guy a chance and getting to know him as a person they jump from one good looking loser to another and wonder why. Lots of single decent guys will agree with this."
Lots of women as they get older are deciding they can’t be arsed with dating or relationships anymore. After about 35, most women have had at least one shit relationship, and many (based on talking to my friends) have decided they’d rather stay single and just have hookups or FBs for the physical side of things. Many don’t want to give up their independence for a man, especially if like me they don’t want children. To get the attention of a woman like that, you’ll need a lot more going for you than just “decent” (which, by the way, is the absolute bare minimum I expect from people, it’s definitely not a USP). They also will probably want to be seen as complete human beings, not just sex on tap. |
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"Here lies the issue. Women expect men to be decent and have a good profile on dateing sites yet they never read them and the double standards is that most of the time there profile is empty yet expect you to put in all the effort. Dateing if serious is a 2 way thing but women never give decent guys a chance even if you put effort and politness into msgs or your profile. They base everything on looks and thats shallow as hell and wonder why they are going from loser to loser. Give us decent guys a chance and get to know us as a person and they could end up with a stable nice guy. Also all this not wanting men to have kuds yet they have 4 by 4 different fathers is pure pathetic. Proves how loose they are and not someone i would want to date long term anyway.
You: Decentdecentdecentdecentgenuinedecent
Also you: Slags off women, calls them all shallow and “loose”, whatever the hell “loose” is supposed to mean in this day and age
Also you: Mystified as to why you’re struggling to find a woman (who you probably don’t want to date anyway because she’s “loose”).
You are totally missing the point. I am on about trying to find someone for a relationship on dateing sites not for sex. My appologies if this wasnt clear
So because you want a relationship, you think that justifies making nasty comments about women?
Totally wasnt my intention. What i was agreeing with is a poster who said women expect you not to have kids etc yet they have lots with different fathers and its all a bit unbalaced and one sided. A lot of women have been on dateing sites for years because rather than giveing a decent guy a chance and getting to know him as a person they jump from one good looking loser to another and wonder why. Lots of single decent guys will agree with this.
Lots of women as they get older are deciding they can’t be arsed with dating or relationships anymore. After about 35, most women have had at least one shit relationship, and many (based on talking to my friends) have decided they’d rather stay single and just have hookups or FBs for the physical side of things. Many don’t want to give up their independence for a man, especially if like me they don’t want children. To get the attention of a woman like that, you’ll need a lot more going for you than just “decent” (which, by the way, is the absolute bare minimum I expect from people, it’s definitely not a USP). They also will probably want to be seen as complete human beings, not just sex on tap."
Sorry this is probably my fault, it was just one example of what I have experienced, I totally get where you are coming from (_irty pretty) I also think that go’s both ways women can treat men badly too, I think maybe men can get a little jealous of the ladies being able to do that, when obviously it much harder to achieve as a man |
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Lots of women as they get older are deciding they can’t be arsed with dating or relationships anymore. After about 35, most women have had at least one shit relationship, and many (based on talking to my friends) have decided they’d rather stay single and just have hookups or FBs for the physical side of things. Many don’t want to give up their independence for a man, especially if like me they don’t want children. To get the attention of a woman like that, you’ll need a lot more going for you than just “decent” (which, by the way, is the absolute bare minimum I expect from people, it’s definitely not a USP). They also will probably want to be seen as complete human beings, not just sex on tap.
Sorry this is probably my fault, it was just one example of what I have experienced, I totally get where you are coming from (_irty pretty) I also think that go’s both ways women can treat men badly too, I think maybe men can get a little jealous of the ladies being able to do that, when obviously it much harder to achieve as a man "
I’m mystified I’m sorry, I have no idea what’s harder to achieve as a man. |
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I remember a time when meeting someone of the internet was seen as a bit weird and few people would admit to it.
Now ,its just the done thing.
Match is probally about the best one out there If you are looking for a relationship.
Finding someone who you truly connect is probally more down to luck than anything else. |
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"Here lies the issue. Women expect men to be decent and have a good profile on dateing sites yet they never read them and the double standards is that most of the time there profile is empty yet expect you to put in all the effort. Dateing if serious is a 2 way thing but women never give decent guys a chance even if you put effort and politness into msgs or your profile. They base everything on looks and thats shallow as hell and wonder why they are going from loser to loser. Give us decent guys a chance and get to know us as a person and they could end up with a stable nice guy. Also all this not wanting men to have kuds yet they have 4 by 4 different fathers is pure pathetic. Proves how loose they are and not someone i would want to date long term anyway.
You: Decentdecentdecentdecentgenuinedecent
Also you: Slags off women, calls them all shallow and “loose”, whatever the hell “loose” is supposed to mean in this day and age
Also you: Mystified as to why you’re struggling to find a woman (who you probably don’t want to date anyway because she’s “loose”).
You are totally missing the point. I am on about trying to find someone for a relationship on dateing sites not for sex. My appologies if this wasnt clear
So because you want a relationship, you think that justifies making nasty comments about women?"
i know there are further replies in the chain but me for i can’t get past the descriptions of women or the sense of entitlement. you have shown your hand now that you think there are groups of women good enough for sex and different groups of women good enough for dating, and for me those red flags would be a blanket no
i am being very presumptuous here, but given you dont seem to have clocked what bit of your post _irty pretty was objecting to or see that its not ok to say those things just because you follow it up oh sorry thats not what i meant , i imagine your profile to be a bit like those tik tok trends ....
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I’ve found the dating sites are just guys fronting wanting a relationship, but they just want a hook up. I never really know how to broach the swinger lifestyle side when on a dating site, when I’ve matched with guys they just see it as a negative thing and a bad trait because if you aren’t into swinging they don’t understand. X |
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Was on POF years ago, she approached me for an ”active” friendship if we had chemistry. Turned into a great relationship including being members on here, meeting other couples, swing holidays etc.
Sadly lost her recently so I’m back on POF (and here!) seeking a partner who’s great company and into occasional swinging together.
Yes, POF is much more restricted for free members regarding searches etc since Match bought them. Lots of interest generally though but less easy to find lifestyle friends. |
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Five years on Tinder: Zero meets. Zero matches since 2018.
Five years on OkCupid: Two meets, another potentially lined up for after the pandemic.
One year on Bumble: Zero matches.
None of the above are any substitute for going to clubs and meeting people in person. |
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