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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So how does one go about getting a FWB ?
Always wanted one but never had the confidence to pursue it and wouldn't even know where to start..
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
And don't worry not looking for things right now, not until restrictions are eased |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't know if there's a particular way - it's one of those things that works best when it happens organically.
Talk to women like people, like a friend and not a fleshlight. Get to know them, start seeing them as friends.
If things work out and the sex is great, you like spending time with each other when you're not balls deeps inside her, you're both honest and open about things...
et voila. You've got yourself a fwb. |
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I found one through a Web site for casual dating several years ago.
The thing to remember is FWB includes friendship, not just sexual benefits. Try to get to know women because you like them, not because you want to shag them. When somebody feels valued by you, it can potentially open doors. If you make them feel you have an agenda then you are likely to put them off completely.
In FWB relationships, the F comes first and the B comes second. So focus on forming the friendships. You won't get the benefits until then.
Numbers can play a part too. The more friendships you foster, the more likely it is one of them will go in a sexual direction. But you should always be genuine and sincere about wanting the F even if there's no B. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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To be fair id rather just have a friend anyway haha im very lonely. But with every friend i have had that's been a wonan i start to care too much about them and wouldn't want to ruin said friendship by adding something like sex into the equation.
Maybe im just not cit from the right clothes for a FWB haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know if there's a particular way - it's one of those things that works best when it happens organically.
Talk to women like people, like a friend and not a fleshlight. Get to know them, start seeing them as friends.
If things work out and the sex is great, you like spending time with each other when you're not balls deeps inside her, you're both honest and open about things...
et voila. You've got yourself a fwb. "
I'd agree with this totally. There's no magic wand to make it happen, just think with your brain, not your cock around and don't be a dick! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you have the right attitude op. The important thing to my female friends who have or seek friends with benefits is that the guy actually wants to offer friendship, as well as the benefits. |
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IF I was looking for any sort of relationship with a man I'd want him to be absolutely clear as to his intentions. I wouldn't want him to drop hints, test the waters or any of those other phrases that essentially mean they're worried their real intent would frighten me off.
Be straight with women op, say what you're after and ask them if they want something similar.
Of course I'm only one woman and it's entirely possible that I don't represent them all  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't know if there's a particular way - it's one of those things that works best when it happens organically.
Talk to women like people, like a friend and not a fleshlight. Get to know them, start seeing them as friends.
If things work out and the sex is great, you like spending time with each other when you're not balls deeps inside her, you're both honest and open about things...
et voila. You've got yourself a fwb. "
I am still working on you! |
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From previous experience, it’s a case of finding someone you connect with and pursuing it if both find there is mutual attraction / chemistry. Not every connection leads to an FwB arrangement.
Mutual trust between you is important on a number of levels:
* how you approach divulging personal information
* your respect for one another’s personal lives
* establishing ground rules you are both happy to stick to
* define where the boundaries of the ‘relationship’ are
* don’t get too involved! Once you disclose a jealous streak it will kill it!
* walk away when it stops working
* discuss and explore what would work when you get together. If what you think would work sexually doesnt, shelve it and try something else you both enjoy
* enjoy it but don’t take it for granted and don’t treat your FwB as second best to your private life relationship!
Good luck OP  |
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Mine all started as fuck buddies then we started to make time for each other more and more frequently, real life mixed in our conversations and time spent together stretched over weekends,
It doesn't happen with everyone and relationships need maintenance and clear communication but when you have one its all worth it  |
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By *unforyou73Man
over a year ago
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Fwb is great works well I’ve had a couple, it’s nice go out have a laughs drinks dancing maybe more drinks and then great sex
In our busy lifes sometimes work better for both party’s than a full on relationship  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Not had one, so may be wrong, but I don't think it's necessarily something you can "look" for, more something you can be "open to the idea of" that then develops organically over time as you get to know someone, find yourself enjoying their company both in and out of the bedroom - essentially I imagine it's no different from how a traditional relationship develops, except there isn't necessarily a commitment beyond whatever both people agree to. |
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