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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I was chatting to my friend recently about what makes great sex and thought this would be a good place to open up the chat! What do you think?
Is it the chemistry, the diversity of positions, the flow? Is it when you feel comfortable to just go for it? Spill the beanz
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1. The desire to please each other. I've been in situations where it's been very one-sided.
2. Being on the same wavelength sexually is important too, so partners enjoy similar or compatible things.
3. And of course social chemistry, as in liking somebody just for who they are not just for what they can do for you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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In the past I’ve def been guilty on worrying how I look, or that the other person is or isn’t enjoying themselves. The times I let myself go fully - def makes the best experience. I guess just feeling comfortable right? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's definitely about chemistry, but defining what thst is is much harder!
To be able to connect on a mental, emotional, physical, and even spiritual level is where its at for me.
Not seeing sex as the goal, but actually almost a side benefit of the connection. I guess this is what people mean when they talk about soul mates.
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"In the past I’ve def been guilty on worrying how I look, or that the other person is or isn’t enjoying themselves. The times I let myself go fully - def makes the best experience. I guess just feeling comfortable right? "
I suppose another way to look at it, who is compatible for and what your looking for to have great sex. Once you meet that person, the rest of worries will not exist  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The chemistry, being how much you turn each other on and excite one another.
The compatibility in the kiss.
The energy you both put into it.
The adventurous mind at least one of you has to have.
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Yes. The kiss tells so much about how the sex will be.
And confidence goes a long way too. Not arrogance (necessarily), but being happy in your own skin, and knowing what you want |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's definitely about chemistry, but defining what thst is is much harder!
To be able to connect on a mental, emotional, physical, and even spiritual level is where its at for me.
Not seeing sex as the goal, but actually almost a side benefit of the connection. I guess this is what people mean when they talk about soul mates.
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My earlier reference was to raw hardcore sex.
Spiritual sex on the other hand is an explosion of pure love, sexual energy that goes beyond physical sensations and what I would call sacred sex which is meeting at the heart. This I’ve been fortunate to have encountered only once with someone very special (albeit for 6months, which ended the day she had to return back home).  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was chatting to my friend recently about what makes great sex and thought this would be a good place to open up the chat! What do you think?
Is it the chemistry, the diversity of positions, the flow? Is it when you feel comfortable to just go for it? Spill the beanz
Cx "
Sex is when you’re both (or more!) at your most open and vulnerable state, I reckon, so it implies that, in that moment, you’ve placed your complete trust in that person/people, so you must have made a connection that makes that state of mind possible, a connection that has to be more than just physical attraction, I guess |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It wont be found on here whatever it is.
A complete respect and selfless desire to pleasure.
Bed hopping with multi partners is the antithesis of that.its not even sex people are looking for on here,its a quick fix.a meaningless shag.
Like free prostitutes for penniless kerb crawlers. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"The chemistry, being how much you turn each other on and excite one another.
The compatibility in the kiss.
The energy you both put into it.
The adventurous mind at least one of you has to have.
Yes. The kiss tells so much about how the sex will be.
And confidence goes a long way too. Not arrogance (necessarily), but being happy in your own skin, and knowing what you want"
If the kiss works for me the sex is usually really good.
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"It wont be found on here whatever it is.
A complete respect and selfless desire to pleasure.
Bed hopping with multi partners is the antithesis of that.its not even sex people are looking for on here,its a quick fix.a meaningless shag.
Like free prostitutes for penniless kerb crawlers."
I beg to differ.
I've had some amazing sex with men I met through Fab.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It wont be found on here whatever it is.
A complete respect and selfless desire to pleasure.
Bed hopping with multi partners is the antithesis of that.its not even sex people are looking for on here,its a quick fix.a meaningless shag.
Like free prostitutes for penniless kerb crawlers."
Do you work in Marketing? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Chemistry. Chemistry is key to it for me and I’m incredibly lucky to have found someone on here who not only compliments my sexual appetite and desires but has just been amazing in every way. Best sex I’ve ever had. All down to chemistry |
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By (user no longer on site)
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All good answers above. The one I’d put as most important is communication which can take many forms. With some people the chemistry that’s been mentioned is so immediate that few words are needed. With others there isn’t that instant spark but taking time to know and understand each other’s tastes and fantasies can still lead to great sex, and that dialogue can be ongoing. |
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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact |
"I was chatting to my friend recently about what makes great sex and thought this would be a good place to open up the chat! What do you think?
Is it the chemistry, the diversity of positions, the flow? Is it when you feel comfortable to just go for it? Spill the beanz
Cx "
I find I enjoy sex more when no beans are involved.
Oh, I see where I've been going wrong now. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I was chatting to my friend recently about what makes great sex and thought this would be a good place to open up the chat! What do you think?
Is it the chemistry, the diversity of positions, the flow? Is it when you feel comfortable to just go for it? Spill the beanz
Cx
I find I enjoy sex more when no beans are involved.
Oh, I see where I've been going wrong now. "
Nothing like a tin of heinz to spice things up in the bedroom |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I think chemistry yes, but actually communication more - obviously you wanna hit it off and be in synch with the person, but there has been people where it hasn’t been explosive to begin with but we’ve grown together and learned and it becomes amazing over time. So patience too! |
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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact |
"I was chatting to my friend recently about what makes great sex and thought this would be a good place to open up the chat! What do you think?
Is it the chemistry, the diversity of positions, the flow? Is it when you feel comfortable to just go for it? Spill the beanz
Cx
I find I enjoy sex more when no beans are involved.
Oh, I see where I've been going wrong now.
Nothing like a tin of heinz to spice things up in the bedroom "
I'm meant to flick them? In which direction? What trajectory? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Chemistry is massive thing for me, feeling that connection, building trust so you can push boundaries  "
Same here.. 
Chemistry all the way...that crazy animal attraction. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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First and foremost above all others - connection and chemistry.
Once those are in place though many of the other qualities already mentioned around mutual desire, communication, open mindedness, being on the same wavelength etc.
I think sexual compatibility counts for a lot too - I've met people who were absolutely lovely and as a person I've got on with but sexually there just wasn't a compatibility there - neither of our faults, it just didn't work between us.
One that hasn't been mentioned though is understanding - not only each other, what makes a partner tick, and which buttons to press, but understanding each others limitations or that things don't always go as you'd like or were expecting.
Oh and one more, an ability to laugh and see the funny side and make it fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"First and foremost above all others - connection and chemistry.
Once those are in place though many of the other qualities already mentioned around mutual desire, communication, open mindedness, being on the same wavelength etc.
I think sexual compatibility counts for a lot too - I've met people who were absolutely lovely and as a person I've got on with but sexually there just wasn't a compatibility there - neither of our faults, it just didn't work between us.
One that hasn't been mentioned though is understanding - not only each other, what makes a partner tick, and which buttons to press, but understanding each others limitations or that things don't always go as you'd like or were expecting.
Oh and one more, an ability to laugh and see the funny side and make it fun."
What he said ^^ |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"First and foremost above all others - connection and chemistry.
Once those are in place though many of the other qualities already mentioned around mutual desire, communication, open mindedness, being on the same wavelength etc.
I think sexual compatibility counts for a lot too - I've met people who were absolutely lovely and as a person I've got on with but sexually there just wasn't a compatibility there - neither of our faults, it just didn't work between us.
One that hasn't been mentioned though is understanding - not only each other, what makes a partner tick, and which buttons to press, but understanding each others limitations or that things don't always go as you'd like or were expecting.
Oh and one more, an ability to laugh and see the funny side and make it fun."
Omg all of this!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good vibes and the right atmosphere. Plus the people who you're fucking Feeling the same vibe!! 
Jo.Xx "
Agree jo. Atmosphere and people with good vibes make the sex much more enjoyable. |
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