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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ah but what happens if they don't like you back? People don't like being rejected."
In my experience, when I have received a rejection its been kind and respectful. Better to know where you stand, or don't, than waste your time and energy on unreciprocated attraction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually do! With various effects..  
I like you 
Oh thank you! A surprise. I like you too  "
Not been on the forums for Abit thought I'd see what's happening |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Ah but what happens if they don't like you back? People don't like being rejected."
Nobody likes being rejected of course, but what's the point of longing for somebody that you will never have anyway because you won't tell them. That is a very trapped and enclosed feeling. Rejection, while it can hurt, frees you from the captivity of ever knowing (but always wanting).
Sure, if they feel the same they should tell you they do... But what if they don't want to be rejected... Its and endless cycle of never having through fear of maybe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ah but what happens if they don't like you back? People don't like being rejected.
I dont think I can take any more rejection  "
I'm sure you don't get rejected |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ah but what happens if they don't like you back? People don't like being rejected.
I dont think I can take any more rejection
I'm sure you don't get rejected "
Erm you would be wrong...rejection isnt just for the men! Equal opportunities n all that!
I might just reach out to someone.... |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"How do you know if its genuine tho "
This is what scares me.
I find it so hard to believe it's genuine. Much easier to just stay quiet and not risk the rejection or the worry that it might be all just a joke to someone.
I've been there and it hurts so much more than initial rejection. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you know if its genuine tho
This is what scares me.
I find it so hard to believe it's genuine. Much easier to just stay quiet and not risk the rejection or the worry that it might be all just a joke to someone.
I've been there and it hurts so much more than initial rejection. "
Like every opening mail says 'i really like you..' and I'm like you've never talked to me how can you know  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"How do you know if its genuine tho
This is what scares me.
I find it so hard to believe it's genuine. Much easier to just stay quiet and not risk the rejection or the worry that it might be all just a joke to someone.
I've been there and it hurts so much more than initial rejection. "
In a not snarky way, this surprises me. I had you down as being quite forward with men you fancy. Sometimes we get it wrong, don't we? |
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"Ah but what happens if they don't like you back? People don't like being rejected.
In my experience, when I have received a rejection its been kind and respectful. Better to know where you stand, or don't, than waste your time and energy on unreciprocated attraction."
Do you reject everyone in the same manner? Ie not delete without replying etc? Just asking because I never look for guys but there definitely seems to be a discrepancy in how they are treated? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ah but what happens if they don't like you back? People don't like being rejected.
In my experience, when I have received a rejection its been kind and respectful. Better to know where you stand, or don't, than waste your time and energy on unreciprocated attraction.
Do you reject everyone in the same manner? Ie not delete without replying etc? Just asking because I never look for guys but there definitely seems to be a discrepancy in how they are treated? "
I dont reject everyone in the same manner, no.
I tend to ignore speculative mail from those I havent interacted with via the forum. And just delete as per site rules. Occasionally I get a well constructed, thought out message from someone who has actually read my profile and will offer a polite thanks but no thanks.
The men I interact with on the forums, you can get a sense of whether they like you or not pretty easily, so I tend to concentrate my efforts there, rather than where its not reciprocated.
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"Ah but what happens if they don't like you back? People don't like being rejected.
In my experience, when I have received a rejection its been kind and respectful. Better to know where you stand, or don't, than waste your time and energy on unreciprocated attraction.
Do you reject everyone in the same manner? Ie not delete without replying etc? Just asking because I never look for guys but there definitely seems to be a discrepancy in how they are treated?
I dont reject everyone in the same manner, no.
I tend to ignore speculative mail from those I havent interacted with via the forum. And just delete as per site rules. Occasionally I get a well constructed, thought out message from someone who has actually read my profile and will offer a polite thanks but no thanks.
The men I interact with on the forums, you can get a sense of whether they like you or not pretty easily, so I tend to concentrate my efforts there, rather than where its not reciprocated.
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Thanks for your answer |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"How do you know if its genuine tho
This is what scares me.
I find it so hard to believe it's genuine. Much easier to just stay quiet and not risk the rejection or the worry that it might be all just a joke to someone.
I've been there and it hurts so much more than initial rejection.
Like every opening mail says 'i really like you..' and I'm like you've never talked to me how can you know "
Yes! This! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ah but what happens if they don't like you back? People don't like being rejected.
I dont think I can take any more rejection
I'm sure you don't get rejected
Erm you would be wrong...rejection isnt just for the men! Equal opportunities n all that!
I might just reach out to someone...."
Go for it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you know if its genuine tho
This is what scares me.
I find it so hard to believe it's genuine. Much easier to just stay quiet and not risk the rejection or the worry that it might be all just a joke to someone.
I've been there and it hurts so much more than initial rejection.
Like every opening mail says 'i really like you..' and I'm like you've never talked to me how can you know "
Id like to talk to you |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"How do you know if its genuine tho
This is what scares me.
I find it so hard to believe it's genuine. Much easier to just stay quiet and not risk the rejection or the worry that it might be all just a joke to someone.
I've been there and it hurts so much more than initial rejection.
In a not snarky way, this surprises me. I had you down as being quite forward with men you fancy. Sometimes we get it wrong, don't we? "
It depends. I'm flirty, yes, but find it hard to take the actual leap to admit that actually I do fancy a person.
Because that way, terror lies. Sometimes I put my big girl pants on and just bite the bullet, but that's rare. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've told people before and it's not gone as I hoped....so my gobs shut "
But in the long run surely thats better than awaiting someone elses whim to tell you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In
I bet you don't suffer from rejection
It’s a daily recurrence I’m afraid  "
*reaches for delete profile button and bottle of whisky*. Then there’s no hope for us mortals then. |
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I now will tell someone if I like them. When I first joined and with how big the site is and the number of men I looked at them and thought who the hell will look at me. Some I never approached in fear of rejection and thought (And it's this thing that's been covered before) I'm not in their league. Some I messaged and got rejected but I started using the forums a bit and then a bit more and those who rejected me now showed and interest as I interacted with them and they get to know you that way. And then people I thought wouldn't have an interest did. Confidence grew from that and now I have no fear of telling someone if I like them and if it's a no then that's fine. The forums helped my confidence a lot.
Sorry for waffling on. Carry on folks |
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I bet you don't suffer from rejection
It’s a daily recurrence I’m afraid
*reaches for delete profile button and bottle of whisky*. Then there’s no hope for us mortals then.
^ What he said   "
Guys we can do this, we are winners. We WILL eventually get to feel the warmth of ladies love tunnel once more. Stay strong  |
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I bet you don't suffer from rejection
It’s a daily recurrence I’m afraid
*reaches for delete profile button and bottle of whisky*. Then there’s no hope for us mortals then.
^ What he said
Guys we can do this, we are winners. We WILL eventually get to feel the warmth of ladies love tunnel once more. Stay strong "
I'm not even fussed about that part of it atm , but yes we will get there |
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I bet you don't suffer from rejection
It’s a daily recurrence I’m afraid
*reaches for delete profile button and bottle of whisky*. Then there’s no hope for us mortals then. "
Ermmm did someone say whiskey??
Where is my invite?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In
I bet you don't suffer from rejection
It’s a daily recurrence I’m afraid
*reaches for delete profile button and bottle of whisky*. Then there’s no hope for us mortals then.
Ermmm did someone say whiskey??
Where is my invite??"
You have an open invite.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In
I bet you don't suffer from rejection
It’s a daily recurrence I’m afraid
*reaches for delete profile button and bottle of whisky*. Then there’s no hope for us mortals then.
I’ll join you "
I like you. |
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"In
I bet you don't suffer from rejection
It’s a daily recurrence I’m afraid
*reaches for delete profile button and bottle of whisky*. Then there’s no hope for us mortals then.
Ermmm did someone say whiskey??
Where is my invite??
You have an open invite. "
Ohh that sounds promising x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ah but what happens if they don't like you back? People don't like being rejected.
Nobody likes being rejected of course, but what's the point of longing for somebody that you will never have anyway because you won't tell them. That is a very trapped and enclosed feeling. Rejection, while it can hurt, frees you from the captivity of ever knowing (but always wanting).
Sure, if they feel the same they should tell you they do... But what if they don't want to be rejected... Its and endless cycle of never having through fear of maybe. "
absolutely this ?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Waiting "
Why wait, send a message if you like someone?
In fact, you are a case in point!
I told you I liked you ages ago, you showed no interest, but have always been polite and courteous even when I continue to perve, I mean, look at your thighs! 
But did I get all butthurt about it? Nope, theres a glove for every hand xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I now will tell someone if I like them. When I first joined and with how big the site is and the number of men I looked at them and thought who the hell will look at me. Some I never approached in fear of rejection and thought (And it's this thing that's been covered before) I'm not in their league. Some I messaged and got rejected but I started using the forums a bit and then a bit more and those who rejected me now showed and interest as I interacted with them and they get to know you that way. And then people I thought wouldn't have an interest did. Confidence grew from that and now I have no fear of telling someone if I like them and if it's a no then that's fine. The forums helped my confidence a lot.
Sorry for waffling on. Carry on folks "
I am glad it has been a positive experience here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you like someone.
Just tell them.
There.
Easy."
What, like adults? That will never happen.
People love to ignore/ delete/ block but if anyone does the same to them................. |
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