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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Hmmm. No. Actually twice. Both times on here. One because of intelligence, the other because of looks. And then I realised how awesome I was and stopped being intimidated and now they are both dear friends. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Being serious now, I get very intimidated by gorgeous men. Say Jason Mamoa was talking to me, I wouldn’t even be able to look at him. I’d avoid eye contact and go even more shy than I already am get tongue tied and blush.
I worked for a gorgeous man once, I spent half my working day talking and looking at his shoulder. |
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"Do certain people intimidate you
What is it about them that makes you feel that way?
Do you mean on here or in everyday life Mary ?? xx
Both"
Okey dokey . Although tbf nobody intimidates me anyway any more.
Been through too much shit already to let any fucker scare me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm usually intimidated by confidence as that is something I'm not (until I get comfortable in a setting or if I'm fronting it online lol).
Other than that, everyone intimidates me/has intimidated me at some point but that's more anxiety based  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope
I learned to face people early on in life
It's a vulgar analogy, but I remember being tasked with doing a presentation to a Board of Directors in my early 20's
I was bricking it and it showed
Dad pulled me to one side and just said 'You're doing this to yourself, they're not putting this pressure on, you are. So, look them all in the eye and think on... they all breath and shit, just the same as you' 
It's a simple 'mantra' but it worked  |
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There's only one person who intimidates me, the consultant I need to see quarterly. She's rude, patronising, condescending and does that smile that doesn't reach her eyes. I get nervous even talking to her on the phone.
People try to intimidate me when I'm driving butiI won't have it.
I suppose someone could intimidate me physically.There's not much I can do about that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's only one person who intimidates me, the consultant I need to see quarterly. She's rude, patronising, condescending and does that smile that doesn't reach her eyes. I get nervous even talking to her on the phone.
People try to intimidate me when I'm driving butiI won't have it.
I suppose someone could intimidate me physically.There's not much I can do about that"
Actually, you posting reminded me, Ruggers used to scare me... til I found out she danced for fig rolls   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In real life I’ve been intimidated by beautiful women, so much so that I couldn’t speak to them in just normal situations, it was a problem when I was younger, I’d always talk to there less attractive friend, it doesn’t help that a lot of them always seem to look bored with everything. I’m not intimidated by men in the slightest, they mostly just annoy me. |
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Initially, yes. A woman who is attractive, intelligent and funnier than me is something of a perfect storm, but actually they’re all qualities I like so I’ve learned to push through the intimated feeling.
Often it’s worked out well and we’ve had lovely chats. It’s also nice when others see it because they’re convinced I must be hung like a horse and a gazillionaire to have such a cool woman speak to a pathetic wretch like me |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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On here? Not in the slightest bit.
In person, mostly no, but there occasionally will be people I come across that I find intimidating for various reasons - often it's just a question of time before I feel comfortable and get to know them a little and the sense wears off.
I think intimidation often stems from lack of knowledge and false perceptions and once you understand someone better that intimidation diminishes - they may try and intimidate still (because some do) but on the receiving end it can be compartmentalised and dealt with. |
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Intimidation is not something I've ever felt tbh, but thats because I am over confident
I reached 6ft at a young age and have used it to intimidate people, mainly to break up fights. I also used to over smile to put people at ease and stop presenting myself as unapproachable  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think I'm intimidated by anyone on here.
In real life, I have been in the past, especially if it was someone really attractive , I would just avoid looking at them or speaking to them if possible.
Not so much these days |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me it's people that want to overly dominate, had a woman message us going full out wanting me to call her Mrs *her name* from now on whilst I was talking to her.
(I get this is some people's turn on)
Her x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for the replies - you're all a pretty confident bunch 
Please let me in on the secret!
I'm becoming a hermit because I just can't interact with people anymore and constantly feel judged.
It's my own shit.
I need it to fuck off before I end up alone  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A cover of massive attack teardrops
Aurora- tear drops... that voice at 2:00 
if the northern lights could sing this is how they'd sound
https://youtu.be/GPTY6l_PX5k  |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the replies - you're all a pretty confident bunch
Please let me in on the secret!
I'm becoming a hermit because I just can't interact with people anymore and constantly feel judged.
It's my own shit.
I need it to fuck off before I end up alone "
I was literally about to reply with something very similar to this.....
Lockdown hasn't helped, as it's encouraged the overthinking and self flagelltion, but I've felt that way for a very long time. |
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No. I am not intimidated by other people.
I may admire certain characteristics they have but I can state categorically that no one intimidates me neither by character nor by looks.
Watch out for those that say ,'People find me intimidating but I don't know why........ They know they are viewed that way and like it and they are using guises to intimidate. |
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"Being serious now, I get very intimidated by gorgeous men. Say Jason Mamoa was talking to me, I wouldn’t even be able to look at him. I’d avoid eye contact and go even more shy than I already am get tongue tied and blush.
I worked for a gorgeous man once, I spent half my working day talking and looking at his shoulder."
I have a roll of tinfoil you could make a cap from ?? Then he couldn't mind read that you were saying something semi intelligent but just wanting a roll around fuck on the floor. |
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On here ...no one
When I joined the Army we had a training sergeant (think Officer and a Gentleman) big black guy. I suddenly realised what a real tough guy looked like, he ran us ragged and then made sure we spent our evenings cleaning up the mess (literally we were covered in mud) he’d created. Suddenly all of the provincial ‘tough guys’ realised what a tough guy actually looked like and behaved. He took no shit but also (very rarely) gave credit when it was deserved, nobody talked back to him, but we all agreed if we went into battle we’d certainly follow him.
He didn’t turn me into a tough guy but certainly a resilient one
So some who initially intimidate you can actually help you become a more confident person in the long run. |
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"Thanks for the replies - you're all a pretty confident bunch
Please let me in on the secret!
I'm becoming a hermit because I just can't interact with people anymore and constantly feel judged.
It's my own shit.
I need it to fuck off before I end up alone "
Firstly, Mary, I've never spoken to you but you seem lovely. And you're bloody stunning, too. You should never feel intimidated by someone you think is too hot - as I suspect that many people on here think YOU'RE hot.
I think every single female on here is younger, sexier, prettier, slimmer, more popular than I am. But then I give my head a wobble, because I know I have good qualities, too. It's a vicious mind set to get into, but so easily done when you live alone, like I do.
Be kinder to yourself. And remember, those fabulous people that you're intimidated by? They're overthinking, just the same as you.
Carry on being you |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the replies - you're all a pretty confident bunch
Please let me in on the secret!
I'm becoming a hermit because I just can't interact with people anymore and constantly feel judged.
It's my own shit.
I need it to fuck off before I end up alone "
I'm not confident in all areas and sometimes I do overthink... what I am, for the most part, is happy in myself and comfortable with my own self worth.
People probably aren't judging you as much as you think they are - that's your self doubt kicking in and because you compare people with yourself you think others do to. Well that's a lie, some people do compare - even on here I've heard people ask what size I am, what I look like, blah blah blah.
But for the most part, you've got to start liking you and not giving so much of a poo about others. Everyone has their flaws, their wobbles - no one is perfect but they get through life. So can you Mary, just practise loving who you are. |
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Before I went to any socials I was definitely intimidated by the bigger forum personalities, but it was based on what I perceived rather than what I knew. Once I met everyone I gave my head a wobble. Still intimidated by a group scenario but not by any individual. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the replies - you're all a pretty confident bunch
Please let me in on the secret!
I'm becoming a hermit because I just can't interact with people anymore and constantly feel judged.
It's my own shit.
I need it to fuck off before I end up alone
I was literally about to reply with something very similar to this.....
Lockdown hasn't helped, as it's encouraged the overthinking and self flagelltion, but I've felt that way for a very long time."
If it’s any consolation I have got more and more confident as I’ve got older. Mid forties - huge turning point - just thought I needed to sort my shit so I could enjoy myself being me - and if there are people who don’t like it that’s fine they can jog on. The people who matter will be support you. I think bizarrely I now come across intimidating by some rather than being intimidated - wtf! I’m really very nice and easy going. Haha. (Mrs T) x   |
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"There's only one person who intimidates me, the consultant I need to see quarterly. She's rude, patronising, condescending and does that smile that doesn't reach her eyes. I get nervous even talking to her on the phone.
People try to intimidate me when I'm driving butiI won't have it.
I suppose someone could intimidate me physically.There's not much I can do about that"
Hmmmmmmmmm as your lay psychiatrist..... your lay lay lay psychiatrist.... I empathise with the first part of what you say but I don't think it's intimidation i'd be feeling , it'd be that i'd have to bite my tongue instead of speaking my mind ( for a variety of reasons ) and because it's pretty much frowned on if I take a baseball bat to her smirky face and knock her teeth out....
Frustration ..... grrrrrr. |
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"In real life I’ve been intimidated by beautiful women, so much so that I couldn’t speak to them in just normal situations, it was a problem when I was younger, I’d always talk to there less attractive friend, it doesn’t help that a lot of them always seem to look bored with everything. I’m not intimidated by men in the slightest, they mostly just annoy me. "
That's not intimidation either. That's a lob on causing shortage of blood to the brain ........ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The world was intimidating late teens. But you just got to be aware there hurdles. Bad people. I don’t fear it now, I have the best people, worked a way up, and took so far, what I could from my world. The best people create the best people.
As a standard this site is full of greatness  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Intimidated only in the sexual play context for example first time meet-up in new surroundings with alpha top big cocks about to be ravaged (otherwise not).
...overawe all of which dissipates when enjoying the moment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do certain people intimidate you
What is it about them that makes you feel that way?
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I think there is a lot of fake confidence on here and I dont mean that in a bad way...we all try and portray a better version of ourselves online and we can't be our online versions in real life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A cover of massive attack teardrops
Aurora- tear drops... that voice at 2:00
if the northern lights could sing this is how they'd sound
https://youtu.be/GPTY6l_PX5k "
Wtf... i replied to another post |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I first joined here, yes, certain people/couples really intimidated me. But not now. I used to feel intimidated for many reasons, such as a persons reputation or their ability of being very clever with words. But, I have realised that other people here don't have the same skills, background, goals, personality, looks etc as me and, for that reason, they are no better than me. I suppose I used to think that those type of people felt a need to "outdo" me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In real life I’ve been intimidated by beautiful women, so much so that I couldn’t speak to them in just normal situations, it was a problem when I was younger, I’d always talk to there less attractive friend, it doesn’t help that a lot of them always seem to look bored with everything. I’m not intimidated by men in the slightest, they mostly just annoy me.
That's not intimidation either. That's a lob on causing shortage of blood to the brain ........"
It wasn’t even that, nothing to do with my penis, I’d get a mental block, I just wouldn’t be comfortable around them, not their problem, it was all in my head, I had to make a conscious decision to remember they are just people, it must have been bad cause even my mates would notice me clam up. |
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People don't intimidate me but in my daily live i would love to have the courage to tell to some people on their face f...k you ,like today i go do an extra shift and that's what i would love to say to some of the people who they will be doing the shift f...k you!!! |
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"People don't intimidate me but in my daily live i would love to have the courage to tell to some people on their face f...k you ,like today i go do an extra shift and that's what i would love to say to some of the people who they will be doing the shift f...k you!!! "
Let me be there when that happens..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Someone in the field I'm interested in, can intimidate me a little with their knowledge. But I think its just a quiet respect.. when I'm not usual loud myself and just embrace being in their presence, soak the words they speak and how they interact with their students or colleagues.
Other than that, I am not intimidating, thank God for that. and any attempts of that my way are met with unusual for me wrath. |
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"People don't intimidate me but in my daily live i would love to have the courage to tell to some people on their face f...k you ,like today i go do an extra shift and that's what i would love to say to some of the people who they will be doing the shift f...k you!!!
Let me be there when that happens..... "
To be there you need to talk with the night manager , maybe she will let you join to her A team |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks for the replies - you're all a pretty confident bunch
Please let me in on the secret!
I'm becoming a hermit because I just can't interact with people anymore and constantly feel judged.
It's my own shit.
I need it to fuck off before I end up alone "
I don't think intimidation by others equates with a loss confidence
I'm confident about some things, yet worry about other things
Throughout though, I know my self worth and it is that which drives the fact that I am not intimidated by others
FWIW, it may (or may not) help to know that I regard you with esteem
We've never met or chatted at length in private, but I can tell from your interactions here that you are a decent human with a nice way about them
It will take us all time to acclimatise to life again, you won't be on your own and again, it isn't a race, we will all integrate at our own pace
Once you do though, you'll be like a duck to water and you'll wonder what the heck you were worrying about |
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"No. I am not intimidated by other people.
I may admire certain characteristics they have but I can state categorically that no one intimidates me neither by character nor by looks.
Watch out for those that say ,'People find me intimidating but I don't know why........ They know they are viewed that way and like it and they are using guises to intimidate. "
I have been described as intimidating but I genuinely have no idea why, Granny. I certainly do not "use guises to intimidate". I go out of my way to be helpful and supportive to my friends and family. I've been everyone's emotional sponge and counsellor since I was a child, which has certainly scarred my personality to some extent. Children should not have to parent their parents. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I agree that it's all in your head
People do it to themselves they do
Courtesy of Radiohead. "
Agreed. A lot of it is in our heads. That person you think is trying to be intimidating/find intimidating? Probably not. A lot of it is down to us and how we frame situations. |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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"Do certain people intimidate you
What is it about them that makes you feel that way?
I think there is a lot of fake confidence on here and I dont mean that in a bad way...we all try and portray a better version of ourselves online and we can't be our online versions in real life"
There is certainly, but there genuine confidence, not speaking kinda sexual overconfidence. In my own experiences I am confident in who I am, do a lot speaking in public, etc.
Comes with that a natural confidence, which people find intimidating, some people see it as arrogance. But any who know me, I'm a very modest person, and humble. But they don't see that unless they know me, always try and help others with theirs if I can. |
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Historically I have been in many situations where someone generally physically larger has tried to intimidate me.
Suffice to say I can't recall any times it worked.
Like someone has said it is a psychological response to a perceived situation. |
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I'll admit it yeah.
I'll stand up to any fucker but I still get intimidated, the "nope, I WILL NOT let this happen again" takes over and that's that. I still shake after people get in my face, I still get the adrenaline rush and crash. I'm human.
I have that awareness that although it's unlikely, I don't know if someone is gonna pull a knife on me or not, I've had it before so why wouldn't it happen again?
Relationships are where I get most intimidated tho. I realised I was afraid of disappointing, so I was intimated by the fear rather than the person.
If they raise their voice tho I crumble, even if they're angry at something else but I'm there with them.
On here? Hmmm. Depends who. Some people are frightening because they don't realise they have issues. I tend to stay away from them now coz I simply cannot be arsed with dealing with the fallout. I'm not intimidated coz I think they'll beat me up or any shit like that but I don't want someone coming up with a ton of bullshit to get me arrested so I can't make the meet that's been arranged all because they fancy the person who wants to stick his dick in me. |
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"No. I am not intimidated by other people.
I may admire certain characteristics they have but I can state categorically that no one intimidates me neither by character nor by looks.
Watch out for those that say ,'People find me intimidating but I don't know why........ They know they are viewed that way and like it and they are using guises to intimidate.
I have been described as intimidating but I genuinely have no idea why, Granny. I certainly do not "use guises to intimidate". I go out of my way to be helpful and supportive to my friends and family. I've been everyone's emotional sponge and counsellor since I was a child, which has certainly scarred my personality to some extent. Children should not have to parent their parents."
Are you telling me off ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's not possible to get intimidated by someone over the internet, unless you know they are in reach of you, or possibly your boss.
In person it's different. I have been told that in person I'm intimidating, but I'm very quiet, and actually lovely once you get past the fuck off stare. |
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"No. I am not intimidated by other people.
I may admire certain characteristics they have but I can state categorically that no one intimidates me neither by character nor by looks.
Watch out for those that say ,'People find me intimidating but I don't know why........ They know they are viewed that way and like it and they are using guises to intimidate.
I have been described as intimidating but I genuinely have no idea why, Granny. I certainly do not "use guises to intimidate". I go out of my way to be helpful and supportive to my friends and family. I've been everyone's emotional sponge and counsellor since I was a child, which has certainly scarred my personality to some extent. Children should not have to parent their parents.
Are you telling me off ? "
No Granny, I am not. |
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"It's not possible to get intimidated by someone over the internet, unless you know they are in reach of you, or possibly your boss.
In person it's different. I have been told that in person I'm intimidating, but I'm very quiet, and actually lovely once you get past the fuck off stare."
A lot of people are intimidated by physical appearance and perceived attractiveness and status. Physical appearance can certainly be conveyed via the net. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not possible to get intimidated by someone over the internet, unless you know they are in reach of you, or possibly your boss.
In person it's different. I have been told that in person I'm intimidating, but I'm very quiet, and actually lovely once you get past the fuck off stare.
A lot of people are intimidated by physical appearance and perceived attractiveness and status. Physical appearance can certainly be conveyed via the net. "
Intelligence and wit can also be conveyed via the net, which can also be intimidating. |
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"No. I am not intimidated by other people.
I may admire certain characteristics they have but I can state categorically that no one intimidates me neither by character nor by looks.
Watch out for those that say ,'People find me intimidating but I don't know why........ They know they are viewed that way and like it and they are using guises to intimidate.
I have been described as intimidating but I genuinely have no idea why, Granny. I certainly do not "use guises to intimidate". I go out of my way to be helpful and supportive to my friends and family. I've been everyone's emotional sponge and counsellor since I was a child, which has certainly scarred my personality to some extent. Children should not have to parent their parents.
Are you telling me off ?
No Granny, I am not."
Oh go on ......... |
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"It's not possible to get intimidated by someone over the internet, unless you know they are in reach of you, or possibly your boss.
In person it's different. I have been told that in person I'm intimidating, but I'm very quiet, and actually lovely once you get past the fuck off stare.
A lot of people are intimidated by physical appearance and perceived attractiveness and status. Physical appearance can certainly be conveyed via the net.
Intelligence and wit can also be conveyed via the net, which can also be intimidating. "
I think intelligence and wit used as weapons can be intended to intimidate for sure. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do - I can’t say it’s a particular type although really laddie lads I’m not hugely comfortable with
Here, no one really intimidates me as most of you are just dots on a screen |
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"No. I am not intimidated by other people.
I may admire certain characteristics they have but I can state categorically that no one intimidates me neither by character nor by looks.
Watch out for those that say ,'People find me intimidating but I don't know why........ They know they are viewed that way and like it and they are using guises to intimidate.
I have been described as intimidating but I genuinely have no idea why, Granny. I certainly do not "use guises to intimidate". I go out of my way to be helpful and supportive to my friends and family. I've been everyone's emotional sponge and counsellor since I was a child, which has certainly scarred my personality to some extent. Children should not have to parent their parents.
Are you telling me off ?
No Granny, I am not.
Oh go on ......... "
I shared my own experience. That's all. |
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On here, no. Ultimately here they are people behind a screen & undoubtedly in some cases the persona they portray is probably nothing like who they are in real life.
In real life it is different though and there are times where I will feel intimidated by others. That is probably rooted far more in my own insecurities & sense of inadequacy though, but I'm working on that.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm intimidated by aggressive behaviour. I tend to back away from aggression... unless I've had a drink and feel like I can take them on.
I'm in awe of so many people not intimidated by anyone ever. Only on an Internet forum eh? |
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"I'm intimidated by aggressive behaviour. I tend to back away from aggression... unless I've had a drink and feel like I can take them on.
I'm in awe of so many people not intimidated by anyone ever. Only on an Internet forum eh?"
No Scarlet. I wouldn't say i'm intimidated when backing off from aggression. There's many other reasons that make a person back off... common sense is one of them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm intimidated by aggressive behaviour. I tend to back away from aggression... unless I've had a drink and feel like I can take them on.
I'm in awe of so many people not intimidated by anyone ever. Only on an Internet forum eh?
No Scarlet. I wouldn't say i'm intimidated when backing off from aggression. There's many other reasons that make a person back off... common sense is one of them. "
I'm saying I do feel intimidated by aggression. Not that backing away is being intimidated |
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"I'm intimidated by aggressive behaviour. I tend to back away from aggression... unless I've had a drink and feel like I can take them on.
I'm in awe of so many people not intimidated by anyone ever. Only on an Internet forum eh?
No Scarlet. I wouldn't say i'm intimidated when backing off from aggression. There's many other reasons that make a person back off... common sense is one of them.
I'm saying I do feel intimidated by aggression. Not that backing away is being intimidated"
I try to leave aggressive people to it. They can have all the adrenalin ...... ohhmmmmm |
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over a year ago
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"Thanks for the replies - you're all a pretty confident bunch
Please let me in on the secret!
I'm becoming a hermit because I just can't interact with people anymore and constantly feel judged.
It's my own shit.
I need it to fuck off before I end up alone
Firstly, Mary, I've never spoken to you but you seem lovely. And you're bloody stunning, too. You should never feel intimidated by someone you think is too hot - as I suspect that many people on here think YOU'RE hot.
I think every single female on here is younger, sexier, prettier, slimmer, more popular than I am. But then I give my head a wobble, because I know I have good qualities, too. It's a vicious mind set to get into, but so easily done when you live alone, like I do.
Be kinder to yourself. And remember, those fabulous people that you're intimidated by? They're overthinking, just the same as you.
Carry on being you "
Thankyou for your kind words
I needed those today x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thanks for the replies - you're all a pretty confident bunch
Please let me in on the secret!
I'm becoming a hermit because I just can't interact with people anymore and constantly feel judged.
It's my own shit.
I need it to fuck off before I end up alone
I'm not confident in all areas and sometimes I do overthink... what I am, for the most part, is happy in myself and comfortable with my own self worth.
People probably aren't judging you as much as you think they are - that's your self doubt kicking in and because you compare people with yourself you think others do to. Well that's a lie, some people do compare - even on here I've heard people ask what size I am, what I look like, blah blah blah.
But for the most part, you've got to start liking you and not giving so much of a poo about others. Everyone has their flaws, their wobbles - no one is perfect but they get through life. So can you Mary, just practise loving who you are. "
Thanks Meli x
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thanks for the replies - you're all a pretty confident bunch
Please let me in on the secret!
I'm becoming a hermit because I just can't interact with people anymore and constantly feel judged.
It's my own shit.
I need it to fuck off before I end up alone
I don't think intimidation by others equates with a loss confidence
I'm confident about some things, yet worry about other things
Throughout though, I know my self worth and it is that which drives the fact that I am not intimidated by others
FWIW, it may (or may not) help to know that I regard you with esteem
We've never met or chatted at length in private, but I can tell from your interactions here that you are a decent human with a nice way about them
It will take us all time to acclimatise to life again, you won't be on your own and again, it isn't a race, we will all integrate at our own pace
Once you do though, you'll be like a duck to water and you'll wonder what the heck you were worrying about "
Thanks Bussy x
I've been like this a long time - regardless of the pandemic.
You're right it's more about loss of confidence than being intimidated x
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"Thanks for the replies - you're all a pretty confident bunch
Please let me in on the secret!
I'm becoming a hermit because I just can't interact with people anymore and constantly feel judged.
It's my own shit.
I need it to fuck off before I end up alone "
You need to come out on a girly night out or spa day xxx |
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"Thanks for the replies - you're all a pretty confident bunch
Please let me in on the secret!
I'm becoming a hermit because I just can't interact with people anymore and constantly feel judged.
It's my own shit.
I need it to fuck off before I end up alone
You need to come out on a girly night out or spa day xxx"
I'd like that
As soon as this lockdown fucks off let's all go out x |
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"Do certain people intimidate you
What is it about them that makes you feel that way?
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Angry,pushy and aggressively overconfident people intimidate Me too the point of me avoiding at all costs.
I'm a very easy going guy who doesn't like confrontation.
Living in Portsmouth and working in the building trade makes it kinda difficult to avoid these assholes. |
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Definitely not intimidated, but got a wink, had a chat, and got a friend invite from one of the very regular people in the hot pics. I’d not even Fab’d one of their pics. Totally out of the blue. Put a smile on my face |
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I can't recall being intimidated by anyone...there are certain behaviours I will avoid (mainly because I find people displaying those behaviours twatty and don't want to be around them), but that's intolerance and a short fuse rather than intimidation. In fact, if people deliberately try to intimidate me I will stand up to them even more...I really don't like bullies! |
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"I am hazarding a guess that all those who claim not to be intimidated by anyone are the ones who intimidate others!!!
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That's harsh.
The fact a person isn't easily intimidated, doesn't mean they are intimidating. |
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Except in affairs of the heart, I am direct, which does intimidate some people although I take that to be a by-product of their own insecurities.
Romance-wise, I am slightly less direct than Hugh Grant in his rom-com heyday  |
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"I’m not the type to take intimidation, I will kick back
I’m aware I may sometimes comes across as intimidating though but like Incandescent, I’m not really at all. "
Doesn’t personality play a part in this? I’m a rather loud, direct person who needs some getting used to as are you DC. I reach out to people and draw them out of themselves and that could be thought of as being intimidating by some who watch...
Mary- Ms Poppins- OP, I’m really sad to hear you’re feeling the way you are. Introspection is a fine thing indeed but soon it will be time to socialise with others again and simply enjoy their company again. I’m looking forward to a night out on the town with you |
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"Except in affairs of the heart, I am direct, which does intimidate some people although I take that to be a by-product of their own insecurities.
Romance-wise, I am slightly less direct than Hugh Grant in his rom-com heyday "
I think I'll adopt you. Only ethereally of course..... |
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"I am hazarding a guess that all those who claim not to be intimidated by anyone are the ones who intimidate others!!!
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Nope, not at all
I go out of my way to make people feel comfortable professionally, in person or, indeed, on a Fab meet
The fact I am not intimidated is a result of years of flack, both personally and professionally
I don't devalue myself and stand my ground both emotionally and professionally and, if necessary, physically
Thankfully, the latter has never arisen in my adult life
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"I’m not the type to take intimidation, I will kick back
I’m aware I may sometimes comes across as intimidating though but like Incandescent, I’m not really at all.
Doesn’t personality play a part in this? I’m a rather loud, direct person who needs some getting used to as are you DC. I reach out to people and draw them out of themselves and that could be thought of as being intimidating by some who watch...
Mary- Ms Poppins- OP, I’m really sad to hear you’re feeling the way you are. Introspection is a fine thing indeed but soon it will be time to socialise with others again and simply enjoy their company again. I’m looking forward to a night out on the town with you "
We need to arrange a girls night I'd really like that x |
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"I’m not the type to take intimidation, I will kick back
I’m aware I may sometimes comes across as intimidating though but like Incandescent, I’m not really at all.
Doesn’t personality play a part in this? I’m a rather loud, direct person who needs some getting used to as are you DC. I reach out to people and draw them out of themselves and that could be thought of as being intimidating by some who watch...
Mary- Ms Poppins- OP, I’m really sad to hear you’re feeling the way you are. Introspection is a fine thing indeed but soon it will be time to socialise with others again and simply enjoy their company again. I’m looking forward to a night out on the town with you
We need to arrange a girls night I'd really like that x"
It’s going to happen and I promise, no Smash but a great restaurant |
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We need to arrange a girls night I'd really like that x
It’s going to happen and I promise, no Smash but a great restaurant "
I worked in restaurants for years in my 20's if you order mashed potato - it comes in frozen pellets in plastic bags 
Smash restaurants |
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"Do certain people intimidate you
What is it about them that makes you feel that way?
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I do think there's a small minority here who's only sole purpose is to intimidate by throwing abuse for absolutely no reason whatsoever. They seem to get a buzz out of it... It can be difficult not to take the bait. # Always ignore Trolls
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"I am hazarding a guess that all those who claim not to be intimidated by anyone are the ones who intimidate others!!!
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Not necessarily so, I’m not easily intimidated in the real world, I deal lorry drivers and some of them can get very aggressive if things don’t go their way, unfortunately I’m not a pushover and they either do it my way or they can leave site, it literally is my way or the highway I’ve even had one in the past threaten a fight, I just told him he can fucking try!!!
As for on here I don’t know any of you well enough to be worried by you
And to Mary, you are so lovely and gorgeous, but self confidence is a bugger when it starts leaving us, even going to the corner shop is a trial for me most days so I understand how you feel |
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"Being serious now, I get very intimidated by gorgeous men. Say Jason Mamoa was talking to me, I wouldn’t even be able to look at him. I’d avoid eye contact and go even more shy than I already am get tongue tied and blush.
I worked for a gorgeous man once, I spent half my working day talking and looking at his shoulder."
Awe you didn't have to block me because of that |
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"Except in affairs of the heart, I am direct, which does intimidate some people although I take that to be a by-product of their own insecurities.
Romance-wise, I am slightly less direct than Hugh Grant in his rom-com heyday
I think I'll adopt you. Only ethereally of course..... "
That's all I could really commit to TBH. |
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We need to arrange a girls night I'd really like that x
It’s going to happen and I promise, no Smash but a great restaurant
I worked in restaurants for years in my 20's if you order mashed potato - it comes in frozen pellets in plastic bags
Smash restaurants "
I am simply blown away. How dare they... |
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I wouldn't say intimidated but I will just withdraw sometimes from interaction until I have sussed them out a bit more, if they are people I may feel less confident around, for whatever that resaon is. |
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"I’m not the type to take intimidation, I will kick back
I’m aware I may sometimes comes across as intimidating though but like Incandescent, I’m not really at all.
Doesn’t personality play a part in this? I’m a rather loud, direct person who needs some getting used to as are you DC. I reach out to people and draw them out of themselves and that could be thought of as being intimidating by some who watch...
Mary- Ms Poppins- OP, I’m really sad to hear you’re feeling the way you are. Introspection is a fine thing indeed but soon it will be time to socialise with others again and simply enjoy their company again. I’m looking forward to a night out on the town with you "
Personality certainly plays a part yes! |
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I've felt physically intimidated by men who behave aggressively towards me. I've felt intimidated by incredibly intelligent or talented people.
I don't really get intimidated by looks as I don't really register attraction based just on that so it doesn't really have an effect on me beyond being aware if a person is objectively beautiful. |
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I've also felt uncomfortable around people who are overly obsessed with image and popular opinion and judge me by the same standards as themselves. I wouldn't call it intimidated though, more just not comfortable being fully myself, not because I'm upset by not living up to their expectations, more that I don't intend to be fake in order to try and therefore don't enjoy their company. |
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