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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is a wonderful play on words blended together in my native language to create word friendship. It means something along "beside your consciousness".
I like that. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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In a nutshell, someone whose company I enjoy and who enjoys mine.
In more detail, friends can have varying degrees, some are a small step up from acquaintances where we'll see each other occasionally, enjoy spending time with each other and then go our separate ways till our paths cross again.
Others are more like brothers or sisters where I go out of my way to spend time with them, and make time for them, people I can turn to in times of crisis as well as joy, who I can tell almost anything to, and they me.
And of course there are all manner of in betweens to the above too. |
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"A friend is a second self, so that our consciousness of a friend’s existence, makes us more fully conscious of our own existence: Aristotle"
Great. He lived such a long time ago.
What do YOU think a friend is. What conclusions have YOU come to ? |
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"Somebody whose company doesn't drain the life out of me "
I have two of those. I consider them good friends. They have admirable qualities. When my listening resilience is low , I change the subject. |
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"You’ll never fill the five fingers on one hand in a life time of true friends
Well that implies that we'll never have more than 4 friends.
So now the question ........ What is a friend ?  "
It does imply that.. someone u trust, they trust u and are there for each other in good and bad times .... u understand them as they do u.. no hidden agendas ... etc |
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"You’ll never fill the five fingers on one hand in a life time of true friends
Well that implies that we'll never have more than 4 friends.
So now the question ........ What is a friend ?
It does imply that.. someone u trust, they trust u and are there for each other in good and bad times .... u understand them as they do u.. no hidden agendas ... etc "
Thank you very much for that. |
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"You’ll never fill the five fingers on one hand in a life time of true friends
Well that implies that we'll never have more than 4 friends.
So now the question ........ What is a friend ?
It does imply that.. someone u trust, they trust u and are there for each other in good and bad times .... u understand them as they do u.. no hidden agendas ... etc
Thank you very much for that."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have lots of friends. It’s one of the great things from being in the military.
Some I haven’t spoken to in years however when I catch up with them it’s like we’ve never been apart.
I can usually go anywhere put a notification on FB (other social media sites are available) and someone is usually in the area.
And we can chat about pretty much anything which is great. All problems aired and discussed. Then we go our separate ways and may not talk again for 10 years! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Someone with whom you share an affinity.
A great friend is someone with whom you can disagree whilst still retaining respect and liking for each other, who stands the test of time.
The family you choose. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is something I've been thinking about.
I have a few friends from online that I've never actually met in real life. Something has happened which has made me really upset for one of them, but I feel embarrassed to show emotion about it as I'd never met them face to face. Yet we have been friends for years and they feel really important to me, probably more so than many 'real life' friends. It's a strange thing.
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By *rder66Man
over a year ago
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"A friend is a second self, so that our consciousness of a friend’s existence, makes us more fully conscious of our own existence: Aristotle
Great. He lived such a long time ago.
What do YOU think a friend is. What conclusions have YOU come to ? "
Putting the quote would imply is this is what I think friendship is. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"This is something I've been thinking about.
I have a few friends from online that I've never actually met in real life. Something has happened which has made me really upset for one of them, but I feel embarrassed to show emotion about it as I'd never met them face to face. Yet we have been friends for years and they feel really important to me, probably more so than many 'real life' friends. It's a strange thing.
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I think it only seems "strange" if you allow it to be - she won't mind me saying this but I've never met Princess Peach and yet the friendship we have is very real, as real as any "real life" friendship, possibly more so in some respects as she knows things about me that my "real life" friends don't, she's someone I can turn to in times of crisis and she me, I hurt for her when she's in pain, and laugh with her when she's happy, just as much as I would any friend. Just embrace the friendship whatever the media it grew in, that doesn't matter, what matters is the closeness and the friendship you have found. |
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"A friend is a second self, so that our consciousness of a friend’s existence, makes us more fully conscious of our own existence: Aristotle
Great. He lived such a long time ago.
What do YOU think a friend is. What conclusions have YOU come to ? Putting the quote would imply is this is what I think friendship is."
Leaving someone's monika off the end would have been stronger than implication but thanks. |
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"Someone with whom you share an affinity.
A great friend is someone with whom you can disagree whilst still retaining respect and liking for each other, who stands the test of time.
The family you choose."
x Yours or nicked from the net ? I could agree with almost all of it. |
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"This is something I've been thinking about.
I have a few friends from online that I've never actually met in real life. Something has happened which has made me really upset for one of them, but I feel embarrassed to show emotion about it as I'd never met them face to face. Yet we have been friends for years and they feel really important to me, probably more so than many 'real life' friends. It's a strange thing.
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That's so interesting. You have connected mentally and emotionally it seems.... I cannot think why you deny yourself a response in that case. Pen pals have great connections. I don't see any difference in connecting via what is essentially snail main on speed. |
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The ones I hold dearest, are the ones I turn to in a crisis. I can turn up on their doorstep at any time and I know they'll have time to listen. They are ones I don't have to see often but when we do there's no awkwardness you pick up where you left off. The ones who love you for being you, even when you're being a right idiot. They are rare and I value them a lot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Someone with whom you share an affinity.
A great friend is someone with whom you can disagree whilst still retaining respect and liking for each other, who stands the test of time.
The family you choose.
x Yours or nicked from the net ? I could agree with almost all of it."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Great.
What is a friend ?
A noun
Shush .... I liked your first answer best. I'm still thinking about it. It's poetic , mystical and magnetic....."
Yes Mrs 
I googled it myself again breaking down the words. More literal would be "with your ego". I preferred the first one too. |
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"Great.
What is a friend ?
A noun
Shush .... I liked your first answer best. I'm still thinking about it. It's poetic , mystical and magnetic.....
Yes Mrs
I googled it myself again breaking down the words. More literal would be "with your ego". I preferred the first one too. "
So far 3 of you have said this or very similar....... This is soooooooo thought provoking. Maybe our best friends are ourselves if we allow us to be ....... to love ourselves... ( I mean i've been at one with my amazingness for years ) but i've never thought of gathering around me people in my own likeness.....
Birds of a Feather or Opposites attract.........hmmmmmmmmm
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Great.
What is a friend ?
A noun
Shush .... I liked your first answer best. I'm still thinking about it. It's poetic , mystical and magnetic.....
Yes Mrs
I googled it myself again breaking down the words. More literal would be "with your ego". I preferred the first one too.
So far 3 of you have said this or very similar....... This is soooooooo thought provoking. Maybe our best friends are ourselves if we allow us to be ....... to love ourselves... ( I mean i've been at one with my amazingness for years ) but i've never thought of gathering around me people in my own likeness.....
Birds of a Feather or Opposites attract.........hmmmmmmmmm
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Do you consciously chose a friend or people just grow on you? I don't think I'm similar to mu friends but we process the world in similar ways. I wonder if its a nature thing or the fact we rub off each other over time. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Do you consciously chose a friend or people just grow on you? I don't think I'm similar to mu friends but we process the world in similar ways. I wonder if its a nature thing or the fact we rub off each other over time. "
I don't think you do consciously choose people as such - life throws you together through coincidence, from there it is about finding a connection and things in common and a friendship growing from there naturally and organically.
You don't necessarily have to be similar either, one of my best and longest standing friends is the polar opposite of me, yet we've been friends for 40 odd years and will be to the day one of us shuffles off this mortal coil. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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A friend can be many things.
There is a massive sliding scale of friendship and if I were to define a friend thoroughly I'd leave something out and have to keep coming back to it. So, for me, in the very basic form a friend is someone you like, who likes you.
I think social media in particular has rather bastardised the word personally. |
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"A friend can be many things.
There is a massive sliding scale of friendship and if I were to define a friend thoroughly I'd leave something out and have to keep coming back to it. So, for me, in the very basic form a friend is someone you like, who likes you.
I think social media in particular has rather bastardised the word personally."
Yep to all of this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A friend is someone you can tell anything to, that won't judge and won't tell your secrets to anyone else. Someone you can have a laugh with or even a cry. I love my friends very much |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A friend can be many things.
There is a massive sliding scale of friendship and if I were to define a friend thoroughly I'd leave something out and have to keep coming back to it. So, for me, in the very basic form a friend is someone you like, who likes you.
I think social media in particular has rather bastardised the word personally."
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There is no specific definition of a friend. It can be defined by what ever criteria an individual chooses, but for me it is , but not limited too -:
Someone for whom I am always there when needed, regardless of whether said person has put themselves in a position through fault or stupidity, and if that is the case I will make them aware of and understand that.
This would be reciprocal.
I have many acquaintances and people with whom I am friendly, but I would only consider that I have two true friends.
Bit harsh maybe but you asked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Friends are people that come in and out of life a certain points some may move on some may stick around. Always there was connection that meant you wanted to stay in touch with each other. |
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By *rder66Man
over a year ago
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"Personally I think Aristotle is way off the mark but he's entitle to his thoughts. In his Greek men only arena. "
What you put into the universe is reflected back to you, so if a friend is a reflection of conscience, what type of person that friend is can be seen in yourself by other people.
A friend is a person who uplifts you, makes you a better person without judgement. If you see something in a friend you don't like, person it is a a part of you, you need to change.
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A friend is a two-way street.....
* there is mutual respect for one another
* you/they can be themselves without judgement
* they are there for you when needed as you are for them
* some one who knows you inside out
* some one you can share anything with
* someone you feel ‘safe’ with ( who doesn’t feel the need to talk about you to others in a derogatory way)
* some one who you can see often or not but it’s a strong bond |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Someone who knows what you’re thinking by the look on your face , someone you can sit in silence with and it’s not awkward, someone who knows and accepts your faults , someone who’s honest with you and your choices , someone who checks in on you if they haven’t heard from you in a while , and most importantly to me someone who is loyal x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Someone who knows what you’re thinking by the look on your face , someone you can sit in silence with and it’s not awkward, someone who knows and accepts your faults , someone who’s honest with you and your choices , someone who checks in on you if they haven’t heard from you in a while , and most importantly to me someone who is loyal x"
Exactly how i see it. Not always living in each others pockets but always for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Someone who knows what you’re thinking by the look on your face , someone you can sit in silence with and it’s not awkward, someone who knows and accepts your faults , someone who’s honest with you and your choices , someone who checks in on you if they haven’t heard from you in a while , and most importantly to me someone who is loyal x
Exactly how i see it. Not always living in each others pockets but always for you. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or... as someone once said to me....
Drains and Radiators!
Radiators give you warmth and make you feel good
Drains will suck the life out of you"
 love this |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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A friend is someone I can tell anything too.
Someone I can go away with, go shopping with and go out socialising with.
I tell one of my friends more than I tell me family.
I don't borrow from friends.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is something I've been thinking about.
I have a few friends from online that I've never actually met in real life. Something has happened which has made me really upset for one of them, but I feel embarrassed to show emotion about it as I'd never met them face to face. Yet we have been friends for years and they feel really important to me, probably more so than many 'real life' friends. It's a strange thing.
I think it only seems "strange" if you allow it to be - she won't mind me saying this but I've never met Princess Peach and yet the friendship we have is very real, as real as any "real life" friendship, possibly more so in some respects as she knows things about me that my "real life" friends don't, she's someone I can turn to in times of crisis and she me, I hurt for her when she's in pain, and laugh with her when she's happy, just as much as I would any friend. Just embrace the friendship whatever the media it grew in, that doesn't matter, what matters is the closeness and the friendship you have found."
I think sometimes online friends are a deeper friendship because it can be easier to open up to someone we've never met.
They can't really go gossiping around work or town about stuff you told them, because they usually live far away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That knows you inside out and back to front and still loves you unconditionally 
Do they? I think some conditions are there, no? "
Only that I try not to behave like Victor Meldrew in public  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My 6 best friends are the sunshine in my life. We are all there for each other through good and bad times. They aren't just friends, they are my family. I can barely remember what life was like without them . We are like a really small gang of support, help and love. 
P.S. There was a 7th member but she turned out not to be that friendly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Depressing thread. My ex friends are shit.
Better to have no-one to talk to than tell them your personal stuff and they blab it all over. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Acquaintance:
Someone I know, maybe from school or clubs, that I will chat in passing or on a night out, maybe have a few drinks with
Friend:
Someone I can confide in, laugh with, has my back and I have their, can show up when I am in my pjs and the house a mess and not give a shit. Can turn up with a suitcase and know they will take you in and vice versa
Frienemy:
Pretends all the above, blabs to others about your life and does so just for gossip for those who do not like you. |
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I think the last 12 months will leave many reassessing their ‘friends’ and what friendship means.
I was part of a social circle of 10 before lockdown. 3/4 of them have continually met up socially when we were specifically asked not to. They have also encouraged other members of the group to do so but they have declined.
Three of of us have remained in constant contact and value each other as friends... I suspect we will not be the same group of 10 going forward. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I think sometimes online friends are a deeper friendship because it can be easier to open up to someone we've never met. "
Yes, I made a similar point on another thread not long ago - not sure it's necessarily "deeper", just different and more open in some ways.
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They can't really go gossiping around work or town about stuff you told them, because they usually live far away."
How long have you been on Fab now? 
As you know gossips exist in the virtual world as well, and can be just as damaging |
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They can't really go gossiping around work or town about stuff you told them, because they usually live far away.
How long have you been on Fab now?
As you know gossips exist in the virtual world as well, and can be just as damaging "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A friend is like a lover or life partner, but you don’t have the sex with them, I repeat no the sex with them. "
I fuck my best friend.
Hasn't affected the friendship.
I think I may have fucked all my male friends 
Curiosity kills me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A friend is like a lover or life partner, but you don’t have the sex with them, I repeat no the sex with them.
I fuck my best friend.
Hasn't affected the friendship.
I think I may have fucked all my male friends
Curiosity kills me "
This changes everything |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Someone you can trust with everything that you can turn to whenever ,who will tell you things straight and help you.
Someone who doesn't leave you feeling like crap |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A friend is someone who you can rely on. It's unconditional love and trust. It's somebody who gets you as a person and listens. Someone who makes your life a little bit better.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think sometimes online friends are a deeper friendship because it can be easier to open up to someone we've never met.
Yes, I made a similar point on another thread not long ago - not sure it's necessarily "deeper", just different and more open in some ways.
They can't really go gossiping around work or town about stuff you told them, because they usually live far away.
How long have you been on Fab now?
As you know gossips exist in the virtual world as well, and can be just as damaging "
Yeah I did do this  at myself when I typed it.
I think I meant online gossip is different to friend and colleague gossip. I can delete Fab but can't block the knobs at work.. |
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A good friend is someone who might not agree with you but always supports you. Someone who can kindly point out the error of your ways without judging you but also always fights your corner.
Someone who is there for the hard times as well as the good times.
Soneone you can feel as comfortable laughing with as crying with.
Think that covers it
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