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"Now everyone take this warning.... Do not drink and post in the forums "And still others can post when sober... | |||
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"Now everyone take this warning.... Do not drink and post in the forums
And still others can post when sober..."you can tell?  | |||
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"Now everyone take this warning.... Do not drink and post in the forums
And still others can post when sober..."Do as I say, not do as I do! 
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"Now everyone take this warning.... Do not drink and post in the forums
And still others can post when sober...you can tell? "Yesh... Hic...  | |||
"k" Y... *pashes lipglosh hanuvver glash...  * | |||
"k Y... *pashes lipglosh hanuvver glash... *"Jelllyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy | |||
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"Yes I know sound like someone who is d*unk, but I am not, just very sad. In the grand scheme of things this will pale off into insignificance or complete drivel of other mundane shite that is posted everyday. Anyways just thought that by me posting how I felt would make me feel better and to some extent it has. So guess it was worth it. Oh the joys of self analysis. xx" I agree it's therapeutic to do that! My invoice is in the post | |||
"Yes I know sound like someone who is d*unk, but I am not, just very sad. In the grand scheme of things this will pale off into insignificance or complete drivel of other mundane shite that is posted everyday. Anyways just thought that by me posting how I felt would make me feel better and to some extent it has. So guess it was worth it. Oh the joys of self analysis. xx" Glad you feel better ....xxx | |||
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"k Y... *pashes lipglosh hanuvver glash... *
Jelllyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy"Yoiks...!! *ET sobers up exceedingly quickly...* | |||
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 god forbid.
It will take time ,but time is a great healer and good luck in the future....ohh and heres the tin hat as im.sure you will need it with certain.forumites....take care and hope the future will be bright. | |||
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"Why is it wrong its an open forum to post whatever peeps want to post.way too many people on here are quick to judge and hang ,draw n quarter..... A man who can express how he feels ...bloody hrll we should be celebrating that for one. Op sorry to hear how you feel and if posting helps....go for it and ignore the ones who are quick to shoot you down.....lets hope thier posts are never about life god forbid.
It will take time ,but time is a great healer and good luck in the future....ohh and heres the tin hat as im.sure you will need it with certain.forumites....take care and hope the future will be bright."Here here!!!  | |||
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"what a place to post this yuk. omg - you are a guy posting emotional junk on a swinging site - wrong in so many ways." Gosh... Thank heavens you are an easy going couple with a pleasant disposition who dont take things too seriously... | |||
"what a place to post this yuk. omg - you are a guy posting emotional junk on a swinging site - wrong in so many ways. Gosh... Thank heavens you are an easy going couple with a pleasant disposition who dont take things too seriously... "  | |||
"I have loved and been loved, yet I have lost my soul mate, my yang. Today we decided that we were not right for each other. So why does it hurt so much. I know you are going to say cause you loved her and that perhaps it was not right, but you know I looked at her and smiled she made me feel good about myself. So my journey begins of being a single guy AGAIN. No this is not one of these feel sorry for me give me a shag threads. I just feel empty and alone, and I know that I probably will regret this tomorrow, but fuck it I don't care. I have just lost the woman of my dreams and I just breathed to make her happy. Now if you think that I am a twat, then you are probably right I am, but I just loved her with my entire life, now she is gone. So my journey continues but I am a lesser man without her. Please forgive my sadness and thanks for reading this, I am not looking for comments just feeling very low and sad at the moment and just wanted to put my feelings down. God how I love her and don't really know how I will cope without her. These are my thoughts just wanted to share them with you. My tears continue to flow and my emptyness gets bigger how can someone make you feel this way. God I hate this feeling, frustration, hurt, pain. Listen all you people out there, please forgive me I don't mean to sound like a saddo, but just wanted to vent my frustrations whilst drinking wine. As I say will probably regret it tomorrow. Peace and love to you all, please forgive. xx" ahhh, how very sad to read this, you sound in pain..think about your happy memories you have, and feel lucky that you have shareed them, keep yourself busy too to keep your mind off things, time is a great healer..good luck | |||
"I have loved and been loved, yet I have lost my soul mate, my yang. Today we decided that we were not right for each other. So why does it hurt so much. I know you are going to say cause you loved her and that perhaps it was not right, but you know I looked at her and smiled she made me feel good about myself. So my journey begins of being a single guy AGAIN. No this is not one of these feel sorry for me give me a shag threads. I just feel empty and alone, and I know that I probably will regret this tomorrow, but fuck it I don't care. I have just lost the woman of my dreams and I just breathed to make her happy. Now if you think that I am a twat, then you are probably right I am, but I just loved her with my entire life, now she is gone. So my journey continues but I am a lesser man without her. Please forgive my sadness and thanks for reading this, I am not looking for comments just feeling very low and sad at the moment and just wanted to put my feelings down. God how I love her and don't really know how I will cope without her. These are my thoughts just wanted to share them with you. My tears continue to flow and my emptyness gets bigger how can someone make you feel this way. God I hate this feeling, frustration, hurt, pain. Listen all you people out there, please forgive me I don't mean to sound like a saddo, but just wanted to vent my frustrations whilst drinking wine. As I say will probably regret it tomorrow. Peace and love to you all, please forgive. xx ahhh, how very sad to read this, you sound in pain..think about your happy memories you have, and feel lucky that you have shareed them, keep yourself busy too to keep your mind off things, time is a great healer..good luck " | |||
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"what a place to post this yuk. omg - you are a guy posting emotional junk on a swinging site - wrong in so many ways." I permit you your emotional reaction to his emotional reaction. For the record. I thought it ( if true at all ) to be totally self pitying. I didn't say last night for two reasons. I'd hate to be wrong and hurt someone and he asked for no comments. Now he's gone I can say it. Total wallowing. | |||
"Sorry if this sounds a tad callous,,,, Although the pain you feel right now might burn with an intensity that feels it will destroy you…… If you truly loves this person in the way you describe you should try to convert your own distressful emotions into a genuine wish that whatever her future brings it rewards her with a happy and fulfilled life ,,,, Many people lose their soul mates through illness or accident, their lives tragically cut short,,,, But at least your soul mate still has the chance to reward your faith in her by living out a full and happy life… "Now if only you'd posted that before I started writing you'd have saved me the trouble Sox...... you are SO selfish at times ! :P | |||
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"pffft...Gwanny....... Come-on man! .... it's not like I get beat you that often.... is it!!!!! sheeeezzzzz..... #soxwearingasmugfacehere "Only when we are naked and alone but you promised not to talk about that .... | |||
"pffft...Gwanny....... Come-on man! .... it's not like I get beat you that often.... is it!!!!! sheeeezzzzz..... #soxwearingasmugfacehere
Only when we are naked and alone but you promised not to talk about that .... " | |||
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"Life goes on, enjoy what is left and make the most of it. In time the pain will ease. "
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"what a place to post this yuk. omg - you are a guy posting emotional junk on a swinging site - wrong in so many ways." what ways is it wrong in prticular? OK so this is a swinging site but things would get pretty boring on the forums if we talks about fannies and willies all the time. Its been commented on many times that the forums can be a great crutch when you are feeling low and maybe the OP just needed a realease to elp him feel better and he felt this was the best place for him to do that. | |||
"Why is it wrong its an open forum to post whatever peeps want to post.way too many people on here are quick to judge and hang ,draw n quarter..... A man who can express how he feels ...bloody hrll we should be celebrating that for one. Op sorry to hear how you feel and if posting helps....go for it and ignore the ones who are quick to shoot you down.....lets hope thier posts are never about life god forbid.
It will take time ,but time is a great healer and good luck in the future....ohh and heres the tin hat as im.sure you will need it with certain.forumites....take care and hope the future will be bright." | |||
"what a place to post this yuk. omg - you are a guy posting emotional junk on a swinging site - wrong in so many ways. what ways is it wrong in prticular? OK so this is a swinging site but things would get pretty boring on the forums if we talks about fannies and willies all the time. Its been commented on many times that the forums can be a great crutch when you are feeling low and maybe the OP just needed a realease to elp him feel better and he felt this was the best place for him to do that." | |||
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"Undoubtedly for some people publicly un-packing innermost anxiety can have a cathartic effect, however there are also people _iew that process as unappealingly self-indulgent…. It will always divide opinion, but public forums is the place for people to express their opinions and whatever those opinion are, we should all defend our right to agree or disagree….. Hmmmmmm …. Now I know was going somewhere with this….but its just seems to have ran away from me….. oh well, as you where…… Anyway, Hey…..we’ve got empty seat at the Olympics…. Now that’s just wrong !!!! "Hmmmmmmmmmmmm can I respond to that or not ? | |||
"so who was it "It was a couple whose name escapes me .... Summat Summat Summat Cpl... She had big tits.... not floppy ones...... round hard ones like pudding basins and he was holding them from behind..... Knowing you men are visual I thought the tits image rather than the name might help. | |||
"Undoubtedly for some people publicly un-packing innermost anxiety can have a cathartic effect, however there are also people _iew that process as unappealingly self-indulgent…. It will always divide opinion, but public forums is the place for people to express their opinions and whatever those opinion are, we should all defend our right to agree or disagree….. Hmmmmmm …. Now I know was going somewhere with this….but its just seems to have ran away from me….. oh well, as you where…… Anyway, Hey…..we’ve got empty seat at the Olympics…. Now that’s just wrong !!!!
Hmmmmmmmmmmmm can I respond to that or not ?"Too right you can Gwanny….. Hey, ya just gotta pluck-up the courage and be open about your thoughts ….!. Come-on....... you can do-it..... | |||
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" Sometimes, for some people, it is better not to say anything than to say something that is mean or derogatory! IMHO. "I did just that. all the best for the future though OP | |||
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"Yes I know sound like someone who is d*unk, but I am not, just very sad. In the grand scheme of things this will pale off into insignificance or complete drivel of other mundane shite that is posted everyday. Anyways just thought that by me posting how I felt would make me feel better and to some extent it has. So guess it was worth it. Oh the joys of self analysis. xx" LOVE Its a strange thing can make you feel so much on top of the world and when its not there you feel part of you in missing a dead .. Now the only thing that helps is the passing of time .. You lean to live with things and some how the pain you feel too ... you fill your life with other things you like doing and other people and maybe they will never be them ... one thing What that heart once owned it shall never lose ......... Real love never leave you .. Is it better to have loved and lost then never to have loved ?? That i am not now sure about now.?(( Big HUGS)) | |||
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". In time, you will look back and realise that it was a part of your life, but not your whole life. " This I like.... | |||
"I like pork chops "Dont eat loads as make you fat , lol x | |||
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"I like pork chops Dont eat loads as make you fat , lol x"You could have told me that years ago | |||
"Ahh that was a sad post. Writing feelings and emotions in a journal is a great idea. " Looking back on what I wrote above last night could be misinterpreted. I hope it was taken in the way intended, in that it was a very sad and heart rendering post and the OP is obviously suffering from the loss of this relationship. I do feel for him, its not a nice place to be in but hopefully by being honest and recognising his feelings will be therapeutic. Its a shame he went but I guess if it was a couples profile then he couldn't really do any other. Poor chap hope he's feeling ok | |||
"Now everyone take this warning.... Do not drink and post in the forums "
thats wat i was thinkin.im guessing he regreted it as he removed himself lol | |||
"what a place to post this yuk. omg - you are a guy posting emotional junk on a swinging site - wrong in so many ways." why? would it be ok for a female? | |||
"Now everyone take this warning.... Do not drink and post in the forums
thats wat i was thinkin.im guessing he regreted it as he removed himself lol"Who was it ? I find some even if thay go thay come look at there posts at times .. or have more then one profile . | |||
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"I must be an old softy today as I thought it was sad and I don't see what difference it makes as to what gender posted it. If you are still about or come back once you don't hurt anymore and read this thread again.... good luck to both of you "awe thatz a sweet start 2 a thread a guy sharin hiz inner thoughtz n pain....chin up n if u dae com bk am sure thingz will look brighter n gd luck oan ya journey xx | |||
"what a place to post this yuk. omg - you are a guy posting emotional junk on a swinging site - wrong in so many ways." Why on earth is this the wrong place to post emotional stuff.......because we love sex we can't understand and support someone through their pain???? I have made some great friends on here! People I would turn to if I was hurting.......people who HAVE turned to me when they are hurting........swinging ain't just about fucking......it's about meeting people who don't judge! | |||
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"what a place to post this yuk. omg - you are a guy posting emotional junk on a swinging site - wrong in so many ways. Why on earth is this the wrong place to post emotional stuff.......because we love sex we can't understand and support someone through their pain???? I have made some great friends on here! People I would turn to if I was hurting.......people who HAVE turned to me when they are hurting........swinging ain't just about fucking......it's about meeting people who don't judge!" agreed | |||
"just as we are on a swinging site doesnt mean the forums cant be used for venting feelings x" agreed x | |||
"Hope the poor chap is ok, as he is no longer on this site!! It's not very nice when a relationship comes to an end!! He must be in a very dark sad Place right now " | |||
"what a place to post this yuk. omg - you are a guy posting emotional junk on a swinging site - wrong in so many ways. Gosh... Thank heavens you are an easy going couple with a pleasant disposition who dont take things too seriously... " If you're nasty you're nasty and there's no hiding it - if you don't 'agree' with a thread don't read it! I know the OP isn't here any more but I hope he's ok. Z | |||
"Hope the poor chap is ok, as he is no longer on this site!! It's not very nice when a relationship comes to an end!! He must be in a very dark sad Place right now
"My heart goes out to him. He must have been very upset to poor his heart out like that. I must be a big softie cause all I could think when I read his post was hope he ok and u wish I could give him a big hug. I'm suprised at how some people can be so cold and heartless. | |||
"what a place to post this yuk. omg - you are a guy posting emotional junk on a swinging site - wrong in so many ways. Why on earth is this the wrong place to post emotional stuff.......because we love sex we can't understand and support someone through their pain???? I have made some great friends on here! People I would turn to if I was hurting.......people who HAVE turned to me when they are hurting........swinging ain't just about fucking......it's about meeting people who don't judge!" | |||
"what a place to post this yuk. omg - you are a guy posting emotional junk on a swinging site - wrong in so many ways. Gosh... Thank heavens you are an easy going couple with a pleasant disposition who dont take things too seriously... If you're nasty you're nasty and there's no hiding it - if you don't 'agree' with a thread don't read it! I know the OP isn't here any more but I hope he's ok. Z" | |||
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"I am surprised at the bad reaction to my post about this guy - but then again should I be? In these days of Jeremy Kyle, Big Brother and Jerry Springer - self respect and dignity appears to be missing and is being replaced by show all, tell all, shamelesness broadcast in as public a way as possible. The OP was drinking and emotional and spilling it out on a public forum and invariably he was going to regret doing so, given the benefit of sobriety and time. A few years ago my friend on a motorcycling forum laid out his soul when his fiancee left him and he had too much to drink. A mod discreetly pulled the post knowing that it could always be written again when he was sober. My friend is grateful to this day that the mod stepped in and did what he did as his fiancee also looked at the Site and would have seen his ramblings. They are now married. I don't regret posting what I did, but it appears the OP did as he has now left the Site. Raw emotions should really only be shared with people who can help - close friends and family. I am really not sure that airing them to strangers like this can help in any way at all. I felt sorry that this guy had said what he said and a b_nch of strangers started pouring over his situation. Maybe I am old fashioned, but i see no dignity in that - either for the OP or the people who responded to him - albeit with all good intention." perhaps if you had put yourself across as well as you have here rather that apparently just scorning the guy there would ahve been a more reasoed response to your original post? | |||
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"I am surprised at the bad reaction to my post about this guy - but then again should I be? In these days of Jeremy Kyle, Big Brother and Jerry Springer - self respect and dignity appears to be missing and is being replaced by show all, tell all, shamelesness broadcast in as public a way as possible. The OP was drinking and emotional and spilling it out on a public forum and invariably he was going to regret doing so, given the benefit of sobriety and time. A few years ago my friend on a motorcycling forum laid out his soul when his fiancee left him and he had too much to drink. A mod discreetly pulled the post knowing that it could always be written again when he was sober. My friend is grateful to this day that the mod stepped in and did what he did as his fiancee also looked at the Site and would have seen his ramblings. They are now married. I don't regret posting what I did, but it appears the OP did as he has now left the Site. Raw emotions should really only be shared with people who can help - close friends and family. I am really not sure that airing them to strangers like this can help in any way at all. I felt sorry that this guy had said what he said and a b_nch of strangers started pouring over his situation. Maybe I am old fashioned, but i see no dignity in that - either for the OP or the people who responded to him - albeit with all good intention." At times when people are so so low they just need to let it out and get it of there chest.... If that helped him writing here in the forum i am glad ..as no ones the same here and in life sometime people just need some place they can let of steam and why not here .. we chat about everything here. It dont make him a week person it makes him human with feelings. | |||
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"I have loved and been loved, yet I have lost my soul mate, my yang. Today we decided that we were not right for each other. So why does it hurt so much. I know you are going to say cause you loved her and that perhaps it was not right, but you know I looked at her and smiled she made me feel good about myself. So my journey begins of being a single guy AGAIN. No this is not one of these feel sorry for me give me a shag threads. I just feel empty and alone, and I know that I probably will regret this tomorrow, but fuck it I don't care. I have just lost the woman of my dreams and I just breathed to make her happy. Now if you think that I am a twat, then you are probably right I am, but I just loved her with my entire life, now she is gone. So my journey continues but I am a lesser man without her. Please forgive my sadness and thanks for reading this, I am not looking for comments just feeling very low and sad at the moment and just wanted to put my feelings down. God how I love her and don't really know how I will cope without her. These are my thoughts just wanted to share them with you. My tears continue to flow and my emptyness gets bigger how can someone make you feel this way. God I hate this feeling, frustration, hurt, pain. Listen all you people out there, please forgive me I don't mean to sound like a saddo, but just wanted to vent my frustrations whilst drinking wine. As I say will probably regret it tomorrow. Peace and love to you all, please forgive. xx" Im sorry to see him gone, How very very sad he must feel and know we have all been there. I hope he finds peace and contentment | |||
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"what a place to post this yuk. omg - you are a guy posting emotional junk on a swinging site - wrong in so many ways." Not nearly as wrong as your post in response! | |||
"I am surprised at the bad reaction to my post about this guy - but then again should I be? In these days of Jeremy Kyle, Big Brother and Jerry Springer - self respect and dignity appears to be missing and is being replaced by show all, tell all, shamelesness broadcast in as public a way as possible. The OP was drinking and emotional and spilling it out on a public forum and invariably he was going to regret doing so, given the benefit of sobriety and time. A few years ago my friend on a motorcycling forum laid out his soul when his fiancee left him and he had too much to drink. A mod discreetly pulled the post knowing that it could always be written again when he was sober. My friend is grateful to this day that the mod stepped in and did what he did as his fiancee also looked at the Site and would have seen his ramblings. They are now married. I don't regret posting what I did, but it appears the OP did as he has now left the Site. Raw emotions should really only be shared with people who can help - close friends and family. I am really not sure that airing them to strangers like this can help in any way at all. I felt sorry that this guy had said what he said and a b_nch of strangers started pouring over his situation. Maybe I am old fashioned, but i see no dignity in that - either for the OP or the people who responded to him - albeit with all good intention." Yup, things are changing. Maybe I'm old fashioned but sometimes I find it best to say nothing at all  | |||
"what a place to post this yuk. omg - you are a guy posting emotional junk on a swinging site - wrong in so many ways. Not nearly as wrong as your post in response!" | |||
"what a place to post this yuk. omg - you are a guy posting emotional junk on a swinging site - wrong in so many ways. Not nearly as wrong as your post in response! "I find it sad that some people cant afford someone in obvious distress, a little compassion. | |||
"what a place to post this yuk. omg - you are a guy posting emotional junk on a swinging site - wrong in so many ways. I permit you your emotional reaction to his emotional reaction. For the record. I thought it ( if true at all ) to be totally self pitying. I didn't say last night for two reasons. I'd hate to be wrong and hurt someone and he asked for no comments. Now he's gone I can say it. Total wallowing. " If I was a nice person I'd hope you never felt so low you felt the need to "wallow" in that way. However I am not that nice. | |||
"I am surprised at the bad reaction to my post about this guy - but then again should I be? In these days of Jeremy Kyle, Big Brother and Jerry Springer - self respect and dignity appears to be missing and is being replaced by show all, tell all, shamelesness broadcast in as public a way as possible. The OP was drinking and emotional and spilling it out on a public forum and invariably he was going to regret doing so, given the benefit of sobriety and time. A few years ago my friend on a motorcycling forum laid out his soul when his fiancee left him and he had too much to drink. A mod discreetly pulled the post knowing that it could always be written again when he was sober. My friend is grateful to this day that the mod stepped in and did what he did as his fiancee also looked at the Site and would have seen his ramblings. They are now married. I don't regret posting what I did, but it appears the OP did as he has now left the Site. Raw emotions should really only be shared with people who can help - close friends and family. I am really not sure that airing them to strangers like this can help in any way at all. I felt sorry that this guy had said what he said and a b_nch of strangers started pouring over his situation. Maybe I am old fashioned, but i see no dignity in that - either for the OP or the people who responded to him - albeit with all good intention." Well its good that you've given time to think about and explain your _iews this time. As your first response was rude, scornful and mocking and unnecessary | |||
"what a place to post this yuk. omg - you are a guy posting emotional junk on a swinging site - wrong in so many ways. Not nearly as wrong as your post in response!
I find it sad that some people cant afford someone in obvious distress, a little compassion.
"Listen Peaches i can see both sides of the story, but its down to personal choice as i see it , and to be honest i have had personal experience and professional experience of people in need of someone to talk to, if you have stuff going on in your own life, it can be difficult to have patience and time etc... also of course there are just needy people ( NOT ALL SO DONT BITE MY HEAD OFF)and sometimes not all they can bleed you dry of all your energy n time, and actually have a negative effect on you, so its not all as easy or cut n dried as it can appear to be | |||
" I find it sad that some people cant afford someone in obvious distress, a little compassion. "
Same here. I just hope that those who responded with a dig to the OP is never in the need of compassion or empathy.
So much for being part of a 'community' eh | |||
"what a place to post this yuk. omg - you are a guy posting emotional junk on a swinging site - wrong in so many ways. Not nearly as wrong as your post in response!
I find it sad that some people cant afford someone in obvious distress, a little compassion.
Listen Peaches i can see both sides of the story, but its down to personal choice as i see it , and to be honest i have had personal experience and professional experience of people in need of someone to talk to, if you have stuff going on in your own life, it can be difficult to have patience and time etc... also of course there are just needy people ( NOT ALL SO DONT BITE MY HEAD OFF)and sometimes not all they can bleed you dry of all your energy n time, and actually have a negative effect on you, so its not all as easy or cut n dried as it can appear to be "But, via a forum it is easier to click the back button than to go ahead and type a response. | |||
" I find it sad that some people cant afford someone in obvious distress, a little compassion.
Same here. I just hope that those who responded with a dig to the OP is never in the need of compassion or empathy.
So much for being part of a 'community' eh "a swinging community, personally i come on here to have a laugh n a bit of fun, bit of escapism....not to counsel those in need, sounds hard but i just dont have the energy....as someone has said some may just prefer to pm...but its down to personal choice after all....  | |||
"what a place to post this yuk. omg - you are a guy posting emotional junk on a swinging site - wrong in so many ways. Not nearly as wrong as your post in response!
I find it sad that some people cant afford someone in obvious distress, a little compassion.
Listen Peaches i can see both sides of the story, but its down to personal choice as i see it , and to be honest i have had personal experience and professional experience of people in need of someone to talk to, if you have stuff going on in your own life, it can be difficult to have patience and time etc... also of course there are just needy people ( NOT ALL SO DONT BITE MY HEAD OFF)and sometimes not all they can bleed you dry of all your energy n time, and actually have a negative effect on you, so its not all as easy or cut n dried as it can appear to be "Sorry for butting in Femme, I just felt sorry for the OP and ok, maybe this isn't the best of places to pour your heart out, but there is no need for some of the replies. I just think they needed support of some kind rather than digs, even though they left x | |||
"what a place to post this yuk. omg - you are a guy posting emotional junk on a swinging site - wrong in so many ways. Not nearly as wrong as your post in response!
I find it sad that some people cant afford someone in obvious distress, a little compassion.
Listen Peaches i can see both sides of the story, but its down to personal choice as i see it , and to be honest i have had personal experience and professional experience of people in need of someone to talk to, if you have stuff going on in your own life, it can be difficult to have patience and time etc... also of course there are just needy people ( NOT ALL SO DONT BITE MY HEAD OFF)and sometimes not all they can bleed you dry of all your energy n time, and actually have a negative effect on you, so its not all as easy or cut n dried as it can appear to be
But, via a forum it is easier to click the back button than to go ahead and type a response. "again i will say personal choice, i have been on these forums a long time and all those who have typed a sympathetic response to one in need thread wont have done it to all others i can guarantee it.... | |||
"what a place to post this yuk. omg - you are a guy posting emotional junk on a swinging site - wrong in so many ways. Not nearly as wrong as your post in response!
I find it sad that some people cant afford someone in obvious distress, a little compassion.
Listen Peaches i can see both sides of the story, but its down to personal choice as i see it , and to be honest i have had personal experience and professional experience of people in need of someone to talk to, if you have stuff going on in your own life, it can be difficult to have patience and time etc... also of course there are just needy people ( NOT ALL SO DONT BITE MY HEAD OFF)and sometimes not all they can bleed you dry of all your energy n time, and actually have a negative effect on you, so its not all as easy or cut n dried as it can appear to be
Sorry for butting in Femme, I just felt sorry for the OP and ok, maybe this isn't the best of places to pour your heart out, but there is no need for some of the replies.
I just think they needed support of some kind rather than digs, even though they left x "And whilst i can agree in part i will say the same, but then again look at my response above | |||
" I find it sad that some people cant afford someone in obvious distress, a little compassion.
Same here. I just hope that those who responded with a dig to the OP is never in the need of compassion or empathy.
So much for being part of a 'community' eh a swinging community, personally i come on here to have a laugh n a bit of fun, bit of escapism....not to counsel those in need, sounds hard but i just dont have the energy....as someone has said some may just prefer to pm...but its down to personal choice after all.... "I get that. As I said, some people need compassion not putting down | |||
" I find it sad that some people cant afford someone in obvious distress, a little compassion.
Same here. I just hope that those who responded with a dig to the OP is never in the need of compassion or empathy.
So much for being part of a 'community' eh a swinging community, personally i come on here to have a laugh n a bit of fun, bit of escapism....not to counsel those in need, sounds hard but i just dont have the energy....as someone has said some may just prefer to pm...but its down to personal choice after all....
I get that. As I said, some people need compassion not putting down "some people need trained samaritians not a wannabe self help group on a swinging site , IMHO | |||
"what a place to post this yuk. omg - you are a guy posting emotional junk on a swinging site - wrong in so many ways. Not nearly as wrong as your post in response!
I find it sad that some people cant afford someone in obvious distress, a little compassion.
Listen Peaches i can see both sides of the story, but its down to personal choice as i see it , and to be honest i have had personal experience and professional experience of people in need of someone to talk to, if you have stuff going on in your own life, it can be difficult to have patience and time etc... also of course there are just needy people ( NOT ALL SO DONT BITE MY HEAD OFF)and sometimes not all they can bleed you dry of all your energy n time, and actually have a negative effect on you, so its not all as easy or cut n dried as it can appear to be
But, via a forum it is easier to click the back button than to go ahead and type a response. again i will say personal choice, i have been on these forums a long time and all those who have typed a sympathetic response to one in need thread wont have done it to all others i can guarantee it...."Nope, and those posting a less than sympathetic response wont have done it to all either. As I've said before, often the response depends on the OP. I see lot's of crap here I choose to ignore, I ignored this thread last night, tonight I respond to responses. | |||
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"what a place to post this yuk. omg - you are a guy posting emotional junk on a swinging site - wrong in so many ways. Not nearly as wrong as your post in response!
I find it sad that some people cant afford someone in obvious distress, a little compassion.
Listen Peaches i can see both sides of the story, but its down to personal choice as i see it , and to be honest i have had personal experience and professional experience of people in need of someone to talk to, if you have stuff going on in your own life, it can be difficult to have patience and time etc... also of course there are just needy people ( NOT ALL SO DONT BITE MY HEAD OFF)and sometimes not all they can bleed you dry of all your energy n time, and actually have a negative effect on you, so its not all as easy or cut n dried as it can appear to be
But, via a forum it is easier to click the back button than to go ahead and type a response. again i will say personal choice, i have been on these forums a long time and all those who have typed a sympathetic response to one in need thread wont have done it to all others i can guarantee it....
Nope, and those posting a less than sympathetic response wont have done it to all either.
As I've said before, often the response depends on the OP.
I see lot's of crap here I choose to ignore, I ignored this thread last night, tonight I respond to responses."All posters have taken the piss out of someone that others felt needed compassion, dont tell me they havent cause they have, if people choose to put very private stuff on the forums, so be it, but you cannot tell people what to post... | |||
"what a place to post this yuk. omg - you are a guy posting emotional junk on a swinging site - wrong in so many ways. Not nearly as wrong as your post in response!
I find it sad that some people cant afford someone in obvious distress, a little compassion.
Listen Peaches i can see both sides of the story, but its down to personal choice as i see it , and to be honest i have had personal experience and professional experience of people in need of someone to talk to, if you have stuff going on in your own life, it can be difficult to have patience and time etc... also of course there are just needy people ( NOT ALL SO DONT BITE MY HEAD OFF)and sometimes not all they can bleed you dry of all your energy n time, and actually have a negative effect on you, so its not all as easy or cut n dried as it can appear to be
But, via a forum it is easier to click the back button than to go ahead and type a response. again i will say personal choice, i have been on these forums a long time and all those who have typed a sympathetic response to one in need thread wont have done it to all others i can guarantee it....
Nope, and those posting a less than sympathetic response wont have done it to all either.
As I've said before, often the response depends on the OP.
I see lot's of crap here I choose to ignore, I ignored this thread last night, tonight I respond to responses.All posters have taken the piss out of someone that others felt needed compassion, dont tell me they havent cause they have, if people choose to put very private stuff on the forums, so be it, but you cannot tell people what to post..."Of course not, but we can comment on peoples posts, as I have. I still say, sometimes it's better to click the back button. | |||
" some people need trained samaritians not a wannabe self help group on a swinging site , IMHO "I know. Maybe I'm just too soft for my own good at times. Just felt for the OP and some comments were out of order IMO. Maybe they have moved into my cupboard under the stairs with all the refugees and strays I take in on a daily basis | |||
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" some people need trained samaritians not a wannabe self help group on a swinging site , IMHO
I know. Maybe I'm just too soft for my own good at times. Just felt for the OP and some comments were out of order IMO.
Maybe they have moved into my cupboard under the stairs with all the refugees and strays I take in on a daily basis "Of course you are entitled to your opinion sexy, as am i entitled to disagree, anyway it could all have been a wind up, certainly been a good few taken in by stuff on here over the years...lol...i actually dont think it was a wind up but i mean it could have been... | |||
"It kind of reminded me of the old Radio 1 Simon Bates show feature..... 'Our Tune' So I imagined the 'Our Tune' music playing in the background as I read the Original Post....made it so much more authentic." | |||
"It kind of reminded me of the old Radio 1 Simon Bates show feature..... 'Our Tune' So I imagined the 'Our Tune' music playing in the background as I read the Original Post....made it so much more authentic. "Looney you know thats a pisstake right? And yest you agree with it...tut tut | |||
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" some people need trained samaritians not a wannabe self help group on a swinging site , IMHO
I know. Maybe I'm just too soft for my own good at times. Just felt for the OP and some comments were out of order IMO.
Maybe they have moved into my cupboard under the stairs with all the refugees and strays I take in on a daily basis Of course you are entitled to your opinion sexy, as am i entitled to disagree, anyway it could all have been a wind up, certainly been a good few taken in by stuff on here over the years...lol...i actually dont think it was a wind up but i mean it could have been..."Ffs if I have to say I know one more time we'll be accused of highjacking lol Anyway, everyone has their own opinions about things and thats what makes forums work | |||
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"For the Op....and all the lonely souls out there in Fabland.... 'Have you seen her?'.....The Chi-lites http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xVYxKRXDT2I" Jane JANE "Can you play my misty for me" | |||
"It kind of reminded me of the old Radio 1 Simon Bates show feature..... 'Our Tune' So I imagined the 'Our Tune' music playing in the background as I read the Original Post....made it so much more authentic. Looney you know thats a pisstake right? And yest you agree with it...tut tut "Of course, you misunderstand. Jayne's comment was not abusive but funny and with the OP already having left the building. | |||
"For the Op....and all the lonely souls out there in Fabland.... 'Have you seen her?'.....The Chi-lites http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xVYxKRXDT2I Jane JANE "Can you play my misty for me" "The Johnny Mathis version? | |||
"It kind of reminded me of the old Radio 1 Simon Bates show feature..... 'Our Tune' So I imagined the 'Our Tune' music playing in the background as I read the Original Post....made it so much more authentic. Looney you know thats a pisstake right? And yest you agree with it...tut tut
Of course, you misunderstand.
Jayne's comment was not abusive but funny and with the OP already having left the building."Jane, not Jayne. Sorry Jane | |||
"For the Op....and all the lonely souls out there in Fabland.... 'Have you seen her?'.....The Chi-lites http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xVYxKRXDT2I Jane JANE "Can you play my misty for me"
The Johnny Mathis version?"Fuck knows the one from the Clint Eastwood film | |||
"It kind of reminded me of the old Radio 1 Simon Bates show feature..... 'Our Tune' So I imagined the 'Our Tune' music playing in the background as I read the Original Post....made it so much more authentic. Looney you know thats a pisstake right? And yest you agree with it...tut tut
Of course, you misunderstand.
Jayne's comment was not abusive but funny and with the OP already having left the building."But could be reading? You can _iew offline...or even ..shock horror have another account...it does happen | |||
"It kind of reminded me of the old Radio 1 Simon Bates show feature..... 'Our Tune' So I imagined the 'Our Tune' music playing in the background as I read the Original Post....made it so much more authentic. Looney you know thats a pisstake right? And yest you agree with it...tut tut
Of course, you misunderstand.
Jayne's comment was not abusive but funny and with the OP already having left the building.But could be reading? You can _iew offline...or even ..shock horror have another account...it does happen "I realise that, I'm smarter than I let on (the smart ones usually are ), but if he wants to punish himself that way after giving the illusion he is not around then he's asking to be kicked. | |||
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"It kind of reminded me of the old Radio 1 Simon Bates show feature..... 'Our Tune' So I imagined the 'Our Tune' music playing in the background as I read the Original Post....made it so much more authentic. Looney you know thats a pisstake right? And yest you agree with it...tut tut
Of course, you misunderstand.
Jayne's comment was not abusive but funny and with the OP already having left the building.But could be reading? You can _iew offline...or even ..shock horror have another account...it does happen
I realise that, I'm smarter than I let on (the smart ones usually are ), but if he wants to punish himself that way after giving the illusion he is not around then he's asking to be kicked."How is he asking to be kicked??? | |||
"There are those that think the O.P's post warrants some sympathy. There are those that think it doesn't. All well n good. What i DON'T like about this thread and other threads like this is that some of those who empathise seem to think their stance makes them morally superior and have therefore earned the right to make others look _ncaring and immoral. Just make your point with out the ' I am such a nicer person than you' crap. " I'll make my point as I see fit, as I can best make my point. We all have a little holier than thou in us | |||
"There are those that think the O.P's post warrants some sympathy. There are those that think it doesn't. All well n good. What i DON'T like about this thread and other threads like this is that some of those who empathise seem to think their stance makes them morally superior and have therefore earned the right to make others look _ncaring and immoral. Just make your point with out the ' I am such a nicer person than you' crap. " not morally superior or a 'nicer person' than the next, just think some posts were _ncalled for and stated so. | |||
"There are those that think the O.P's post warrants some sympathy. There are those that think it doesn't. All well n good. What i DON'T like about this thread and other threads like this is that some of those who empathise seem to think their stance makes them morally superior and have therefore earned the right to make others look _ncaring and immoral. Just make your point with out the ' I am such a nicer person than you' crap. " No one has made anyone look _ncaring. Those who were _ncaring did it themselves. | |||
"It kind of reminded me of the old Radio 1 Simon Bates show feature..... 'Our Tune' So I imagined the 'Our Tune' music playing in the background as I read the Original Post....made it so much more authentic. Looney you know thats a pisstake right? And yest you agree with it...tut tut
Of course, you misunderstand.
Jayne's comment was not abusive but funny and with the OP already having left the building.But could be reading? You can _iew offline...or even ..shock horror have another account...it does happen
I realise that, I'm smarter than I let on (the smart ones usually are ), but if he wants to punish himself that way after giving the illusion he is not around then he's asking to be kicked.
How is he asking to be kicked???
"If he deleted his profile due to this thread but yet still reads then he's a fool to himself. | |||
"There are those that think the O.P's post warrants some sympathy. There are those that think it doesn't. All well n good. What i DON'T like about this thread and other threads like this is that some of those who empathise seem to think their stance makes them morally superior and have therefore earned the right to make others look _ncaring and immoral. Just make your point with out the ' I am such a nicer person than you' crap. No one has made anyone look _ncaring. Those who were _ncaring did it themselves." Yep your right all the caring ones thought "fuck i've got to help" so got off their arses after posting sympathy and sort out the chap who was down in the dumps. Then the fairies came out and the pixies and went to the end of the rainbow where the leprechaun used his magic to make things all better. | |||
"There are those that think the O.P's post warrants some sympathy. There are those that think it doesn't. All well n good. What i DON'T like about this thread and other threads like this is that some of those who empathise seem to think their stance makes them morally superior and have therefore earned the right to make others look _ncaring and immoral. Just make your point with out the ' I am such a nicer person than you' crap. No one has made anyone look _ncaring. Those who were _ncaring did it themselves. Yep your right all the caring ones thought "fuck i've got to help" so got off their arses after posting sympathy and sort out the chap who was down in the dumps. Then the fairies came out and the pixies and went to the end of the rainbow where the leprechaun used his magic to make things all better. "Not quite true, some didn't post at all. | |||
"There are those that think the O.P's post warrants some sympathy. There are those that think it doesn't. All well n good. What i DON'T like about this thread and other threads like this is that some of those who empathise seem to think their stance makes them morally superior and have therefore earned the right to make others look _ncaring and immoral. Just make your point with out the ' I am such a nicer person than you' crap. No one has made anyone look _ncaring. Those who were _ncaring did it themselves. Yep your right all the caring ones thought "fuck i've got to help" so got off their arses after posting sympathy and sort out the chap who was down in the dumps. Then the fairies came out and the pixies and went to the end of the rainbow where the leprechaun used his magic to make things all better. "The leprechaun got ran over. | |||
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" I realise that, I'm smarter than I let on (the smart ones usually are ), but if he wants to punish himself that way after giving the illusion he is not around then he's asking to be kicked.
How is he asking to be kicked???
If he deleted his profile due to this thread but yet still reads then he's a fool to himself."Why though?? Maybe he posted it for support and wanted to read supportive messages? I dont know, I dont even know who posted it but they must have felt like they wanted support rather than being ridiculed | |||
"Aawww poor leprachaun "Never mind poor leprachaun .... I got green squirted all down my long johns. | |||
" I realise that, I'm smarter than I let on (the smart ones usually are ), but if he wants to punish himself that way after giving the illusion he is not around then he's asking to be kicked.
How is he asking to be kicked???
If he deleted his profile due to this thread but yet still reads then he's a fool to himself.
Why though?? Maybe he posted it for support and wanted to read supportive messages? I dont know, I dont even know who posted it but they must have felt like they wanted support rather than being ridiculed"Who ridiculed the OP ? I just don't see any post ridiculing the OP | |||
"Aawww poor leprachaun "He didn't care his boyfriend dumped him for a well hung Gnome. | |||
"There are those that think the O.P's post warrants some sympathy. There are those that think it doesn't. All well n good. What i DON'T like about this thread and other threads like this is that some of those who empathise seem to think their stance makes them morally superior and have therefore earned the right to make others look _ncaring and immoral. Just make your point with out the ' I am such a nicer person than you' crap. No one has made anyone look _ncaring. Those who were _ncaring did it themselves. Yep your right all the caring ones thought "fuck i've got to help" so got off their arses after posting sympathy and sort out the chap who was down in the dumps. Then the fairies came out and the pixies and went to the end of the rainbow where the leprechaun used his magic to make things all better. "Maybe those who were being compassionate/sympathetic were not online earlier or hadnt checked forums
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" I realise that, I'm smarter than I let on (the smart ones usually are ), but if he wants to punish himself that way after giving the illusion he is not around then he's asking to be kicked.
How is he asking to be kicked???
If he deleted his profile due to this thread but yet still reads then he's a fool to himself.
Why though?? Maybe he posted it for support and wanted to read supportive messages? I dont know, I dont even know who posted it but they must have felt like they wanted support rather than being ridiculed
Who ridiculed the OP ? I just don't see any post ridiculing the OP"Maybe ridicule was the wrong terminology, but the negative replies as I said previously were un called for. | |||
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" I realise that, I'm smarter than I let on (the smart ones usually are ), but if he wants to punish himself that way after giving the illusion he is not around then he's asking to be kicked.
How is he asking to be kicked???
If he deleted his profile due to this thread but yet still reads then he's a fool to himself.
Why though?? Maybe he posted it for support and wanted to read supportive messages? I dont know, I dont even know who posted it but they must have felt like they wanted support rather than being ridiculed
Who ridiculed the OP ? I just don't see any post ridiculing the OP
Maybe ridicule was the wrong terminology, but the negative replies as I said previously were un called for.
"The sympathy vote was _ncalled for. He actually said ' I want no comment' | |||
" I realise that, I'm smarter than I let on (the smart ones usually are ), but if he wants to punish himself that way after giving the illusion he is not around then he's asking to be kicked.
How is he asking to be kicked???
If he deleted his profile due to this thread but yet still reads then he's a fool to himself.
Why though?? Maybe he posted it for support and wanted to read supportive messages? I dont know, I dont even know who posted it but they must have felt like they wanted support rather than being ridiculed"Now you are being too nicey nicey Lulu.
Because it's not too dissimilar to reading someone's diary, in that you may read something you wish you hadn't.
If he wanted support but felt ridiculed then he really would be a fool to hide and read more. | |||
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"There are those that think the O.P's post warrants some sympathy. There are those that think it doesn't. All well n good. What i DON'T like about this thread and other threads like this is that some of those who empathise seem to think their stance makes them morally superior and have therefore earned the right to make others look _ncaring and immoral. Just make your point with out the ' I am such a nicer person than you' crap. No one has made anyone look _ncaring. Those who were _ncaring did it themselves. Yep your right all the caring ones thought "fuck i've got to help" so got off their arses after posting sympathy and sort out the chap who was down in the dumps. Then the fairies came out and the pixies and went to the end of the rainbow where the leprechaun used his magic to make things all better. "Can I have one of what you're on please  | |||
"The guy has gone FFS. Presumably embarrassed at what he wrote - does that not tell the story of this thread? 126 posts after a d*unk guy bares his soul to a b_nch of anonymous strangers on a swinging site and people are arguing about who was caring and who was _ncaring. Who really cares at all? It was a dumbass thing to do and he has now realised that. Hopefully he is now with close friends and family who can give him the support and guidance that he really needs. Just as an aside - I wonder if his ex girlfriend was/is on this Site and has read all of this." The thread has still tempted you back to post
Hopefully he's given his head a wobble and feels a little stronger to pick himself up.
I wondered if his ex partner may have been a member here, also expected this thread to turn into the usual 'you don't deserve a partner if you're here as a single' 'maybe she found out' kind of comments. | |||
" I realise that, I'm smarter than I let on (the smart ones usually are ), but if he wants to punish himself that way after giving the illusion he is not around then he's asking to be kicked.
How is he asking to be kicked???
If he deleted his profile due to this thread but yet still reads then he's a fool to himself.
Why though?? Maybe he posted it for support and wanted to read supportive messages? I dont know, I dont even know who posted it but they must have felt like they wanted support rather than being ridiculed
Who ridiculed the OP ? I just don't see any post ridiculing the OP
Maybe ridicule was the wrong terminology, but the negative replies as I said previously were un called for.
The sympathy vote was _ncalled for.
He actually said ' I want no comment' "But people commented. He also asked for forgiveness for posting it and that he felt like a twat for writing it. Doesnt mean he should be treated like one. | |||
" Maybe ridicule was the wrong terminology, but the negative replies as I said previously were un called for. " See above for post ridiculing OP now that he has gone! lol Negative responses (IMO) were called for because in the real world (not the Jeremy Kyle, Jerry Springer world) people need dignity, self respect and very good close friends and family to deal with emotional truama - not impersonal web sites. Having said that, Swinging websites are the great bastions of anonymity and so the OP can dissappear and reapper tomorrow as a new person. Which means .... After all this.... Does it really matter at all?? | |||
" I realise that, I'm smarter than I let on (the smart ones usually are ), but if he wants to punish himself that way after giving the illusion he is not around then he's asking to be kicked.
How is he asking to be kicked???
If he deleted his profile due to this thread but yet still reads then he's a fool to himself.
Why though?? Maybe he posted it for support and wanted to read supportive messages? I dont know, I dont even know who posted it but they must have felt like they wanted support rather than being ridiculed
Now you are being too nicey nicey Lulu.
Because it's not too dissimilar to reading someone's diary, in that you may read something you wish you hadn't.
If he wanted support but felt ridiculed then he really would be a fool to hide and read more. "Not nicey nicey, im just me. And I'm posting my opinion on it as others have. As for the reading of someone else's diary kind of feeling, then you have done the same then. My main point of this thread is why post negative comments in response to someone who obviously needed some sort of comfort in venting? | |||
" Maybe ridicule was the wrong terminology, but the negative replies as I said previously were un called for. See above for post ridiculing OP now that he has gone! lol Negative responses (IMO) were called for because in the real world (not the Jeremy Kyle, Jerry Springer world) people need dignity, self respect and very good close friends and family to deal with emotional truama - not impersonal web sites. Having said that, Swinging websites are the great bastions of anonymity and so the OP can dissappear and reapper tomorrow as a new person. Which means .... After all this.... Does it really matter at all??" May not matter to you, but it must have mattered to the OP | |||
" I realise that, I'm smarter than I let on (the smart ones usually are ), but if he wants to punish himself that way after giving the illusion he is not around then he's asking to be kicked.
How is he asking to be kicked???
If he deleted his profile due to this thread but yet still reads then he's a fool to himself.
Why though?? Maybe he posted it for support and wanted to read supportive messages? I dont know, I dont even know who posted it but they must have felt like they wanted support rather than being ridiculed
Who ridiculed the OP ? I just don't see any post ridiculing the OP
Maybe ridicule was the wrong terminology, but the negative replies as I said previously were un called for.
The sympathy vote was _ncalled for.
He actually said ' I want no comment'
But people commented.
He also asked for forgiveness for posting it and that he felt like a twat for writing it. Doesnt mean he should be treated like one.
"Just SHOW me which post treated him like a twat ? P.M me with what you are talking about. It's just not there. no one ridiculed him or treated him like a twat. | |||
" Maybe ridicule was the wrong terminology, but the negative replies as I said previously were un called for. See above for post ridiculing OP now that he has gone! lol Negative responses (IMO) were called for because in the real world (not the Jeremy Kyle, Jerry Springer world) people need dignity, self respect and very good close friends and family to deal with emotional truama - not impersonal web sites. Having said that, Swinging websites are the great bastions of anonymity and so the OP can dissappear and reapper tomorrow as a new person. Which means .... After all this.... Does it really matter at all??" Unfortunately a life around the internet, forums and the like are fast becoming real life for many. Kyle and Springer here are irrelevant, society is confused not by them but by this metrosexual generation, it's now cool for men to have emotions and to express them. Though I'm not completely disagreeing with your points here, just adding and expressing that things have changed. | |||
" I realise that, I'm smarter than I let on (the smart ones usually are ), but if he wants to punish himself that way after giving the illusion he is not around then he's asking to be kicked.
How is he asking to be kicked???
If he deleted his profile due to this thread but yet still reads then he's a fool to himself.
Why though?? Maybe he posted it for support and wanted to read supportive messages? I dont know, I dont even know who posted it but they must have felt like they wanted support rather than being ridiculed
Who ridiculed the OP ? I just don't see any post ridiculing the OP
Maybe ridicule was the wrong terminology, but the negative replies as I said previously were un called for.
The sympathy vote was _ncalled for.
He actually said ' I want no comment'
But people commented.
He also asked for forgiveness for posting it and that he felt like a twat for writing it. Doesnt mean he should be treated like one.
Just SHOW me which post treated him like a twat ? P.M me with what you are talking about.
It's just not there. no one ridiculed him or treated him like a twat.
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" Just SHOW me which post treated him like a twat ? P.M me with what you are talking about. It's just not there. no one ridiculed him or treated him like a twat. " How very dare you ask a logical question. Are you some kind of _ncaring, callous person - or something? | |||
" I realise that, I'm smarter than I let on (the smart ones usually are ), but if he wants to punish himself that way after giving the illusion he is not around then he's asking to be kicked.
How is he asking to be kicked???
If he deleted his profile due to this thread but yet still reads then he's a fool to himself.
Why though?? Maybe he posted it for support and wanted to read supportive messages? I dont know, I dont even know who posted it but they must have felt like they wanted support rather than being ridiculed
Who ridiculed the OP ? I just don't see any post ridiculing the OP
Maybe ridicule was the wrong terminology, but the negative replies as I said previously were un called for.
The sympathy vote was _ncalled for.
He actually said ' I want no comment'
But people commented.
He also asked for forgiveness for posting it and that he felt like a twat for writing it. Doesnt mean he should be treated like one.
Just SHOW me which post treated him like a twat ? P.M me with what you are talking about.
It's just not there. no one ridiculed him or treated him like a twat.
Perception is often more important to a situation than fact."Only to the perceiver but thanks for agreeing that what people perceive as ridicule or twatty is not fact and didn't happen. | |||
" Just SHOW me which post treated him like a twat ? P.M me with what you are talking about. It's just not there. no one ridiculed him or treated him like a twat. How very dare you ask a logical question. Are you some kind of _ncaring, callous person - or something?" I'm a very caring person. I just don't need to blacken others to look good. | |||
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" I realise that, I'm smarter than I let on (the smart ones usually are ), but if he wants to punish himself that way after giving the illusion he is not around then he's asking to be kicked.
How is he asking to be kicked???
If he deleted his profile due to this thread but yet still reads then he's a fool to himself.
Why though?? Maybe he posted it for support and wanted to read supportive messages? I dont know, I dont even know who posted it but they must have felt like they wanted support rather than being ridiculed
Who ridiculed the OP ? I just don't see any post ridiculing the OP
Maybe ridicule was the wrong terminology, but the negative replies as I said previously were un called for.
The sympathy vote was _ncalled for.
He actually said ' I want no comment'
But people commented.
He also asked for forgiveness for posting it and that he felt like a twat for writing it. Doesnt mean he should be treated like one.
Just SHOW me which post treated him like a twat ? P.M me with what you are talking about.
It's just not there. no one ridiculed him or treated him like a twat.
Perception is often more important to a situation than fact.
Only to the perceiver but thanks for agreeing that what people perceive as ridicule or twatty is not fact and didn't happen."Just goes to show that posts can be perceived differently. | |||
" Unfortunately a life around the internet, forums and the like are fast becoming real life for many. " Which is particularly worrying in respect of interpersonal, real life interactions. " Kyle and Springer here are irrelevant, society is confused not by them but by this metrosexual generation, it's now cool for men to have emotions and to express them. " But not in a domain full of anonymity surely? Another post in this forum suggested that 50% of the women were men and virtually all of the single men were married men. Do you bare your emotional baggage to people who have set out to be pathological liars at the outset or do you entrust your troubles to people that you know, love and trust? " Though I'm not completely disagreeing with your points here, just adding and expressing that things have changed. " NP - point taken | |||
" I realise that, I'm smarter than I let on (the smart ones usually are ), but if he wants to punish himself that way after giving the illusion he is not around then he's asking to be kicked.
How is he asking to be kicked???
If he deleted his profile due to this thread but yet still reads then he's a fool to himself.
Why though?? Maybe he posted it for support and wanted to read supportive messages? I dont know, I dont even know who posted it but they must have felt like they wanted support rather than being ridiculed
Now you are being too nicey nicey Lulu.
Because it's not too dissimilar to reading someone's diary, in that you may read something you wish you hadn't.
If he wanted support but felt ridiculed then he really would be a fool to hide and read more.
Not nicey nicey, im just me. And I'm posting my opinion on it as others have.
As for the reading of someone else's diary kind of feeling, then you have done the same then.
My main point of this thread is why post negative comments in response to someone who obviously needed some sort of comfort in venting?
"No, I've not read anyone's diary, I do recall someone showing me their very first page that stated something like 'If you're afraid of hearing the truth about yourself then don't read on', summat along those lines, many years ago. I agree and have expressed that negativity could have been avoided here, as you say he needed some sort of comfort in venting. However, we can't expect anyone to consider his feelings if they believe he's not around to _iew comments, if he's pretending to have gone but is secretly listening in then more fool him. I personally believe he's beggered off, as others will believe, the posted appearing to have gone leaves open piss taking comments from those that might not mean it harshly, they're just having a chuckle and assume it wont offend the OP as he's gone. | |||
" I realise that, I'm smarter than I let on (the smart ones usually are ), but if he wants to punish himself that way after giving the illusion he is not around then he's asking to be kicked.
How is he asking to be kicked???
If he deleted his profile due to this thread but yet still reads then he's a fool to himself.
Why though?? Maybe he posted it for support and wanted to read supportive messages? I dont know, I dont even know who posted it but they must have felt like they wanted support rather than being ridiculed
Who ridiculed the OP ? I just don't see any post ridiculing the OP
Maybe ridicule was the wrong terminology, but the negative replies as I said previously were un called for.
The sympathy vote was _ncalled for.
He actually said ' I want no comment'
But people commented.
He also asked for forgiveness for posting it and that he felt like a twat for writing it. Doesnt mean he should be treated like one.
Just SHOW me which post treated him like a twat ? P.M me with what you are talking about.
It's just not there. no one ridiculed him or treated him like a twat.
Perception is often more important to a situation than fact.
Only to the perceiver but thanks for agreeing that what people perceive as ridicule or twatty is not fact and didn't happen."That's your perception on my comment. | |||
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" Just SHOW me which post treated him like a twat ? P.M me with what you are talking about. It's just not there. no one ridiculed him or treated him like a twat. How very dare you ask a logical question. Are you some kind of _ncaring, callous person - or something?" So there IS truth in the old saw 'it takes one to know one'! | |||
" Just SHOW me which post treated him like a twat ? P.M me with what you are talking about. It's just not there. no one ridiculed him or treated him like a twat. How very dare you ask a logical question. Are you some kind of _ncaring, callous person - or something? So there IS truth in the old saw 'it takes one to know one'!" What IS that buzzing sound ? | |||
" I realise that, I'm smarter than I let on (the smart ones usually are ), but if he wants to punish himself that way after giving the illusion he is not around then he's asking to be kicked.
How is he asking to be kicked???
If he deleted his profile due to this thread but yet still reads then he's a fool to himself.
Why though?? Maybe he posted it for support and wanted to read supportive messages? I dont know, I dont even know who posted it but they must have felt like they wanted support rather than being ridiculed
Now you are being too nicey nicey Lulu.
Because it's not too dissimilar to reading someone's diary, in that you may read something you wish you hadn't.
If he wanted support but felt ridiculed then he really would be a fool to hide and read more.
Not nicey nicey, im just me. And I'm posting my opinion on it as others have.
As for the reading of someone else's diary kind of feeling, then you have done the same then.
My main point of this thread is why post negative comments in response to someone who obviously needed some sort of comfort in venting?
No, I've not read anyone's diary, I do recall someone showing me their very first page that stated something like 'If you're afraid of hearing the truth about yourself then don't read on', summat along those lines, many years ago.
I agree and have expressed that negativity could have been avoided here, as you say he needed some sort of comfort in venting.
However, we can't expect anyone to consider his feelings if they believe he's not around to _iew comments, if he's pretending to have gone but is secretly listening in then more fool him.
I personally believe he's beggered off, as others will believe, the posted appearing to have gone leaves open piss taking comments from those that might not mean it harshly, they're just having a chuckle and assume it wont offend the OP as he's gone."So basically youre saying you wouldnt have posted your true thoughts on the matter if the OP was still here? Why have a go if a poster is still here or not? My main point is why take the piss or have a dig etc? Maybe it was because I was taught if you dont have anything nice to say etc etc. I dont know the OP, and i am not being all nicey nice to a stranger, I am just saying some posts were _ncalled for. Put yourself in their shoes! If you didnt have close friends or family and felt fab was the only place left to open up to, how would you feel if you got some of the responses? | |||
" Just SHOW me which post treated him like a twat ? P.M me with what you are talking about. It's just not there. no one ridiculed him or treated him like a twat. How very dare you ask a logical question. Are you some kind of _ncaring, callous person - or something? So there IS truth in the old saw 'it takes one to know one'! What IS that buzzing sound ?" Probably the lie detector picking up on 'I'm a caring person'. | |||
" Unfortunately a life around the internet, forums and the like are fast becoming real life for many. Which is particularly worrying in respect of interpersonal, real life interactions. Kyle and Springer here are irrelevant, society is confused not by them but by this metrosexual generation, it's now cool for men to have emotions and to express them. But not in a domain full of anonymity surely? Another post in this forum suggested that 50% of the women were men and virtually all of the single men were married men. Do you bare your emotional baggage to people who have set out to be pathological liars at the outset or do you entrust your troubles to people that you know, love and trust? Though I'm not completely disagreeing with your points here, just adding and expressing that things have changed. NP - point taken" 1) I fully agree, just wait for the next generation. 
2) Personally, No I don't but some do.
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" I realise that, I'm smarter than I let on (the smart ones usually are ), but if he wants to punish himself that way after giving the illusion he is not around then he's asking to be kicked.
How is he asking to be kicked???
If he deleted his profile due to this thread but yet still reads then he's a fool to himself.
Why though?? Maybe he posted it for support and wanted to read supportive messages? I dont know, I dont even know who posted it but they must have felt like they wanted support rather than being ridiculed
Now you are being too nicey nicey Lulu.
Because it's not too dissimilar to reading someone's diary, in that you may read something you wish you hadn't.
If he wanted support but felt ridiculed then he really would be a fool to hide and read more.
Not nicey nicey, im just me. And I'm posting my opinion on it as others have.
As for the reading of someone else's diary kind of feeling, then you have done the same then.
My main point of this thread is why post negative comments in response to someone who obviously needed some sort of comfort in venting?
No, I've not read anyone's diary, I do recall someone showing me their very first page that stated something like 'If you're afraid of hearing the truth about yourself then don't read on', summat along those lines, many years ago.
I agree and have expressed that negativity could have been avoided here, as you say he needed some sort of comfort in venting.
However, we can't expect anyone to consider his feelings if they believe he's not around to _iew comments, if he's pretending to have gone but is secretly listening in then more fool him.
I personally believe he's beggered off, as others will believe, the posted appearing to have gone leaves open piss taking comments from those that might not mean it harshly, they're just having a chuckle and assume it wont offend the OP as he's gone.
So basically youre saying you wouldnt have posted your true thoughts on the matter if the OP was still here?
Why have a go if a poster is still here or not?
My main point is why take the piss or have a dig etc? Maybe it was because I was taught if you dont have anything nice to say etc etc.
I dont know the OP, and i am not being all nicey nice to a stranger, I am just saying some posts were _ncalled for.
Put yourself in their shoes!
If you didnt have close friends or family and felt fab was the only place left to open up to, how would you feel if you got some of the responses?"I'm not talking on how I may or may not have posted, but on how others might post. I'm kinda on the fence here, it was foolish to expect any sympathy from strangers on a web site (if indeed he did seek any), but also believe it's best to say nothing at all at times. If I was to post such a thread, it would be Jane's post regarding the comment on 'our tune' that would most likely raise a smile in me. | |||
"Stop winking at me shaggy ... im coming over all unecessary" That's the nicest thing a woman has said to me in some time. *must avoid wink here* | |||
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"I say do on to others as you wish for yourself . Some here just think of themselves and don't care there words cut like a knifes .. I bet he was not d*unk but up-set . He just needed a place to off loads as i bet he had no one he could turn too .. some thing you dont wish close family and close friends to know as you put a front on .. so thay dont see . " I think you could be right. several years ago my son was a bit down when he finished with his girlfriend. i had health problems at the time and thought he was being a bit silly. i said to him he was better off without her and he did agree with me he was realy. I said to him plenty more fish in the sea. looking back though i do feel a bit guilty i was not more understanding, i had forgotten what it feels like when a reationship ends because he was very fond of her for a while. I try to be extra nice to him now to make up for it. | |||
