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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm very much as I am on here once you know me. I'm silly, playful and make terrible jokes. But I'm very quiet and anxious around people I don't know well so you wouldn't see that side of me straight away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think I am like my profile leads people to expect me... I think I come across as like a sexy serious and confident but in reality I'm a bit of a div and will probably fall on my face at some point daft as a brush |
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By *rder66Man
over a year ago
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Obvoulsy, take away me hidding my identity for public view, I see no reason to anything but myself.
Sometimes I add silly comments onto forums but other then that, I see no reason to lie or to create a false persona.
I'm weird, creative and passionate and I embrace that.
Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth: Buddha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d say I’m probably better in real life as it’s easier to have a rapport with some or just generally give of good vibes going about your day to day business.
I think it’s one of the reasons why you hear so many horror stories about people not being like their profile. I’d rather be a pleasant surprise than a nasty one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have more confidence on fab. Essentially Jennie is the same Jennie, but online makes it easier to be more Jennie. If that makes sense.
Scott, however, never comes on fab cos he is a boring twat and Jennie doesn't like him much. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Due to the added thinking time I'm possibly more outgoing here but the core person and my values and beliefs are the same "
GM were you at the Manchester Lounge social in the pub where it was kind of split- our social room on one side and the pub bar on the other side? Ground floor. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm very similar. Less naked though. Silly societal rules 
You take that many great pics, I can’t imagine you being much less naked most of the day  "
Yours aren't hideous either  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm very similar. Less naked though. Silly societal rules
You take that many great pics, I can’t imagine you being much less naked most of the day
Yours aren't hideous either "
Why, thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm very similar. Less naked though. Silly societal rules
If I become prime minister those rules will be abolished "
You'll be a popular leader if you abolish clothes lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you in "real life" exactly like you are on here?
And if not... why not? Why not be the real you? "
in mind only, otherwise risk being arrested for indecent behaviour... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm very similar. Less naked though. Silly societal rules
If I become prime minister those rules will be abolished
You'll be a popular leader if you abolish clothes lol"
Hmm, there’s quite a few people where I live who I wish wore far more clothes in summer, so I’m not sure about that one. |
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We pretty much are the exact same apart from some of the sexy talk we write on here definitely does not sound that sexy in our common as muck accent
We are pretty much what you see and hear is what you get |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I have more confidence on fab. Essentially Jennie is the same Jennie, but online makes it easier to be more Jennie. If that makes sense.
Scott, however, never comes on fab cos he is a boring twat and Jennie doesn't like him much."
I like both of you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have more confidence on fab. Essentially Jennie is the same Jennie, but online makes it easier to be more Jennie. If that makes sense.
Scott, however, never comes on fab cos he is a boring twat and Jennie doesn't like him much.
I like both of you "
Scott's gone all awkward now.
He's such a gonk! |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I have more confidence on fab. Essentially Jennie is the same Jennie, but online makes it easier to be more Jennie. If that makes sense.
Scott, however, never comes on fab cos he is a boring twat and Jennie doesn't like him much.
I like both of you
Scott's gone all awkward now.
He's such a gonk! "
But without the upright hair.... |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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No, I'm not exactly like I am on here - I'm multifaceted and depending on the minute one or maybe two of those facets will be on display. Very few people see the real me, in the sense of they don't see all of me and I'm comfortable with that. Different people will have such different opinions of someone anyway.
I do post how I think or feel on the whole but like a poster above I do sit on my hands a bit, I don't fancy any naughty step trips.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes and no I am more dialed back on here than I am in real life
Lol
Wow  "
What I mean is by complement and such I am very very bad for just telling someone they are beautiful or sexy it can suck sometimes haveing no filter and just blurting out what’s on your mind to someone ha ha |
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I'm very much me on here as in real life. But the forums often let's one side of your persona shine through. So my silly side isn't on show here as much as in real life. But that's because I take a while to type because of my dyslexia, when I try being funny I rush more and it tends to go a bit wrong  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not really, in life I'm quite hyperactive, an extrovert, passionate about lots of things, annoyingly happy and optimistic, enthusiastic and a little bit wild ... none of these translate well into type and I come across as far to serious and sensible. This is a tiny part of the offline me ... but I'm not really into communication not in person ie without the body language. |
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I'd say I am the same offline as I am online. However, I act situationally appropriate. I might F and Jeff on a thread but wouldn't in the supermarket queue. I might jokingly ask someone to show me their balls on here but i'd never do that in work. I'm very serious at meetings whether they be work, duties or socials. At other socials where people know me and I feel safe I am open and noisy.....
I know when to be upfront and when to take a backseat.. If i'm quiet , i'm usually enjoying what others are doing......
Yes. I think is the short answer |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of the time. I have to reign it in a bit on here sometimes to avoid a trip to the naughty step and I don't show my whole self on here, there's parts that are reserved for those close to me. In real life I wear clothes a lot more too |
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As you'd imagine there are 2 sides to me and it depends a lot on how I'm dressed.
The Sophie side of me is playful, daft, a bit of a social butterfly and up for pretty much anything so what you see of me on here is what you get.
Guy me though is quieter and more in depth, not as flirty and a little more reserved until I get to know you better and then I'm very much a mix of the two. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On the whole I'm probably a bit more outgoing on here because it's the company of strangers.
With friends and fam you have the weight of past experiences and expectations, whereas with you lovely lot I can be a tad more open and outgoing. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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I'm an introvert, so I'm more reserved offline. However I don't pretend to be something I'm not, all views and opinions, thought processes and actions are very much my own. I don't change who I am, being online and away from a large crowd empowers me to worry less about the reservations I'd probably have if this were a crowded room for example. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm an introvert, so I'm more reserved offline. However I don't pretend to be something I'm not, all views and opinions, thought processes and actions are very much my own. I don't change who I am, being online and away from a large crowd empowers me to worry less about the reservations I'd probably have if this were a crowded room for example. "
Who said that 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm an introvert, so I'm more reserved offline. However I don't pretend to be something I'm not, all views and opinions, thought processes and actions are very much my own. I don't change who I am, being online and away from a large crowd empowers me to worry less about the reservations I'd probably have if this were a crowded room for example. "
A very good summary and one I can certainly understand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope, I pretty much stay impartial on here when it comes to certain subjects in order to avoid confrontation.
I'm also a huge wind up merchant with my mates which I don't do on here because it's harder for it to come across as if I'm joking |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a lot more outgoing on here. In real life I'm introverted and shy until I get to know you. Then I'm more like the online me..cheeky, weird and make worse jokes haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As many posters have already said of themselves, I'm quite reserved until I get to know someone, so only my nearest and dearest see the fab forum persona, apart from the nakedness. They do not see the nakedness |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you in "real life" exactly like you are on here?
And if not... why not? Why not be the real you? "
Like all men on Fab, my cock is much smaller, less significant and relatable to EVERY conversation topic in real life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All online profiles are a version of ourselves. We curate, edit and alter them and inevitably we emphasise our best side. Doesn’t mean that is fake, it’s just a partial picture. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Due to the added thinking time I'm possibly more outgoing here but the core person and my values and beliefs are the same
GM were you at the Manchester Lounge social in the pub where it was kind of split- our social room on one side and the pub bar on the other side? Ground floor. "
I was indeed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I make a conscious effort here to be a more outgoing version of myself from the get go... I think I'd probably look at it as being online fastforwards that sometimes first awkward few minutes in real life and just lets my personality out straight away (although a sarcy sense of humour is harder to get across in writing )
I also think I'm more optimistic on here... its a lot easier to not take life as seriously online, especially mid pandemic! |
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I think I am similar....I am probably more approachable in real life as maybe I can be a bit guarded on here especially in terms of messages.
Mainly though I am a bit of a clumsy pleb and a silly sausage in real life. And incredibly shy/awkward when meeting new people. |
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I’m rarely the “real” me with anyone apart, there are usually parts of myself that I don’t share with particular groups of people. For example, my work colleagues know hardly anything about me after nearly 18 months. HR and two of the bosses know some of the important stuff but apart from that I’ve deliberately not told anyone anything personal.
In some ways I’m more “real” here because I can be openly bi here. But on the other hand there are things I wouldn’t be willing to share openly here. But that’s for my own protection more than to be “fake”, I don’t have the energy to create and maintain a fake persona! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I type a lot less in real life and don’t consider my answers so much, less considered and more frivolous. More bouts of abstract malaise.
I have no idea who I am, I’m a mystery to me, all I know is one day I arrived on this planet, (I’ve still yet to find out the reason why), anyway here I am, just trying to make it through. Everyone creates their own persona, through life experiences or whatever, they let people see what they want to see, but what is the soul, I know it’s contain in this shell we call a body, does it live on, not sure. All I know is we are merely shadows on the wall, fleeting, like dust in the wind. It’s like when you see those early black and white films where they’re filming on a street with horse and carts and trams, all those people going about their daily lives, but they’ve all gone now, they all had the same hopes, Aspirations and loves as we have, each one with their own story to tell, but they are no more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m pretty much the same in real life as I am here, for the bits that actually translate online anyway.
By that I mean I can be quiet, which could manifest here as me not posting that much but there’s no real reference to judge that by.
I can also be a bit moody in real life, but that’s usually down to a life situation making me so and I’m much less likely to be triggered that way by something I see here and extremely unlikely to be by a social setting such as a private meet or interacting in a club. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probably not much different tbh. Maybe a little more flirty and slutty on here. But I'm generally a fairly open and direct person anyway xx"
You’re so hot xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone says they're the same in life as they are on here ... does this mean that they are all openly on here/swingers in offline world? "
Of course not, just as most don’t show their faces !
Everyone here shows a chosen side of themselves. They may be completely honest about that but it’s not the whole person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone says they're the same in life as they are on here ... does this mean that they are all openly on here/swingers in offline world?
Of course not, just as most don’t show their faces !
Everyone here shows a chosen side of themselves. They may be completely honest about that but it’s not the whole person."
Surely that's not really being the same on here as in the offline world then? Just wondering really ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone says they're the same in life as they are on here ... does this mean that they are all openly on here/swingers in offline world?
Of course not, just as most don’t show their faces !
Everyone here shows a chosen side of themselves. They may be completely honest about that but it’s not the whole person.
Surely that's not really being the same on here as in the offline world then? Just wondering really ... "
The OP’s question was are you ‘exactly’ the same on here as in real life. In my opinion the obvious answer for most people is ‘no’ yet most on the thread say ‘yes’. I think people are interpreting the question as do they behave the same on Fab as in reality - funny, shy, flirty, etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My accent is stronger in real life than here."
Offt that's hot! I have a very prominent unusual accent ... luckily doesn't come across much in messaging lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone says they're the same in life as they are on here ... does this mean that they are all openly on here/swingers in offline world?
Of course not, just as most don’t show their faces !
Everyone here shows a chosen side of themselves. They may be completely honest about that but it’s not the whole person.
Surely that's not really being the same on here as in the offline world then? Just wondering really ...
The OP’s question was are you ‘exactly’ the same on here as in real life. In my opinion the obvious answer for most people is ‘no’ yet most on the thread say ‘yes’. I think people are interpreting the question as do they behave the same on Fab as in reality - funny, shy, flirty, etc."
Thank you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone says they're the same in life as they are on here ... does this mean that they are all openly on here/swingers in offline world?
Of course not, just as most don’t show their faces !
Everyone here shows a chosen side of themselves. They may be completely honest about that but it’s not the whole person.
Surely that's not really being the same on here as in the offline world then? Just wondering really ...
The OP’s question was are you ‘exactly’ the same on here as in real life. In my opinion the obvious answer for most people is ‘no’ yet most on the thread say ‘yes’. I think people are interpreting the question as do they behave the same on Fab as in reality - funny, shy, flirty, etc.
Thank you! "
That's very much what I was thinking/confused by really |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Everyone says they're the same in life as they are on here ... does this mean that they are all openly on here/swingers in offline world?
Of course not, just as most don’t show their faces !
Everyone here shows a chosen side of themselves. They may be completely honest about that but it’s not the whole person.
Surely that's not really being the same on here as in the offline world then? Just wondering really ...
The OP’s question was are you ‘exactly’ the same on here as in real life. In my opinion the obvious answer for most people is ‘no’ yet most on the thread say ‘yes’. I think people are interpreting the question as do they behave the same on Fab as in reality - funny, shy, flirty, etc."
A fair point, however if you take that a step further no-one is "exactly" the same all the time in the real world either - we all adopt and display different personas at different times down to circumstance, the individual we're interacting with and more besides - the only time we're "exactly" the same is with ourselves and our inner thoughts and feelings.
Even to take the example of "are you openly a swinger in the real world?" that may vary depending on who you are talking to - would I want family to know I was? Probably not. Would I tell select friends? I haven't, but there may be some who do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I keep both lives separate as i work in the public eye and its more a buzz than my mundane day to day sex life .it's better as you know people on here are more open than the vanilla ones had one or two that have been a reel eye opener
God bless fab  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A fair point, however if you take that a step further no-one is "exactly" the same all the time in the real world either - we all adopt and display different personas at different times down to circumstance, the individual we're interacting with and more besides - the only time we're "exactly" the same is with ourselves and our inner thoughts and feelings.
Even to take the example of "are you openly a swinger in the real world?" that may vary depending on who you are talking to - would I want family to know I was? Probably not. Would I tell select friends? I haven't, but there may be some who do."
That is very true and I guess only our very closest family and some friends see the whole person, for better or worse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes and No. Doc is more of an exploratory shadow persona that I created to explore parts of me that had been repressed. So while some of the time when you chat to me or see me post you are seeing what others outside Fab see, you also get much more of an uncensored me. Many of my messages or posts are stream of consciousness posts, so not previously thought through or not articulated in that way. My pictures show a me that rarely ventures outside the Fab world. I have used it to express more different aspects of me and try on different ways of being and expressing myself. So Fab and other sites and media before it have been a bit of a developmental sandpit for me to play in, in relative anonymity and safety for the last 20 years.
How much longer I will need the sandpit or have time for it is the big question for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interesting thread and something that always intrigues about the internet and online personalities..
I’d say I’m pretty much the same generally, aside from the standard being a little guarded about being on a swinging site  |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
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One thing people always have said about me, is what you see is what you get
So going by that, yes I am the same I'm real life as on my profile
Whether that's a good thing or not I dont know.
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"Are you in "real life" exactly like you are on here?
And if not... why not? Why not be the real you? "
Hi op!
I think I’m pretty much the same here - in that I’ll try to give an opinion or put a point across without offence where possible - but of course don’t always manage it. I’m never intentionally unkind - but sometimes I feel I may come across that way.
A case in point was a recent thread by an op who asked people to ‘rate’ her vagina. Not all comments were in praise of said vagina - and I pointed out that people had a right not to ‘like’ it if they were asked for an opinion. However - I wasn’t excusing a few of the cruel jibes people had made. Fab can be a minefield - especially when you’re not in a great place to cross it - which is why I’m rarely online these days.
I think I used to be more lighthearted and amusing - both on here and in general - but a year of virtual isolation has pretty much sucked that out of me I think! |
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"Everyone says they're the same in life as they are on here ... does this mean that they are all openly on here/swingers in offline world?
Of course not, just as most don’t show their faces !
Everyone here shows a chosen side of themselves. They may be completely honest about that but it’s not the whole person.
Surely that's not really being the same on here as in the offline world then? Just wondering really ...
The OP’s question was are you ‘exactly’ the same on here as in real life. In my opinion the obvious answer for most people is ‘no’ yet most on the thread say ‘yes’. I think people are interpreting the question as do they behave the same on Fab as in reality - funny, shy, flirty, etc.
A fair point, however if you take that a step further no-one is "exactly" the same all the time in the real world either - we all adopt and display different personas at different times down to circumstance, the individual we're interacting with and more besides - the only time we're "exactly" the same is with ourselves and our inner thoughts and feelings.
Even to take the example of "are you openly a swinger in the real world?" that may vary depending on who you are talking to - would I want family to know I was? Probably not. Would I tell select friends? I haven't, but there may be some who do."
That’s what I was trying to say - only my very closest people get to know the “real” me. I keep a lot hidden from different groups of people. Some might find that deceitful, but I’d rather not open myself up to discrimination and harassment if I don’t have to. But even my family and closest friends don’t get my inner self, I’m not even sure how you’d share that with someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you in "real life" exactly like you are on here?
And if not... why not? Why not be the real you? "
I'm as genuine as I can be on here. My sense of humour is still a little dodgy, I'm a little awkward, but well meaning and enthusiatic too! Plus, this has made me more confident both online and in real life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmmm...might need to reconsider my previous post here...
I'm actually the same person when you talk to me, but I think we all project the image of how we want to be perceived. Either in real life or on here. But on here it is easier to project the edited version of ourselves. Xx |
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I have to dial it down a bit here at times 
