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Given I been doing this properly for about 3 weeks.
I've come across people I know in my home town.
They have not said anything at all yet, is that common like an unwritten rule?
Or do you folks make the effort to talk to the people you know?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont mix fab with non fab.
If you saw me for example then let on just cos you seen me on here.. I'd feel very unnerved. Infact trigger my PTSD. So unless you really know them and have agreed to say hello...its a big NO |
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Be very careful. Most people keep "real life" and Fab separate. That said, if you are fully embracing a swinging lifestyle then being open is part of it. Also depends a lot on the friends!
I think as you are early days you would to well to grow your confidence and awareness of what you want without bringing the rest of your life into it. You have seen them, and they may have seen you. If they do not contact you you probably have your message.  |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
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Be careful . Many years ago , a male who worked at same company as me joined site. I did not know he had. Saw me in chat room with cam on. I was clothed . He told others at work. Luckily for me he had told someone else at work about site and showed them his profile. So was easy to check as site supporter. Confronted him in front of others and he had to admit it was him. Plus proved he was on here. So now if I see profiles looking at me / think may know me. Block very quick. |
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"Yeah massively agree with all this. Very early days for sure for me, can imagine doing anything on your doorstep could possibly create the same kind of drama.
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Suppose it depends on how you know them and the specific relationship you have with them, is it a work colleague or someone you no from the local pub?
If they are site supporters and you have looked at their profile they will know you are here too. I would leave it them if they are interested in taking things further when safe to do so they will contact you |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
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"Suppose it depends on how you know them and the specific relationship you have with them, is it a work colleague or someone you no from the local pub?
If they are site supporters and you have looked at their profile they will know you are here too. I would leave it them if they are interested in taking things further when safe to do so they will contact you"
Unless they use stealth mode. Then would not know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Given I been doing this properly for about 3 weeks.
I've come across people I know in my home town.
They have not said anything at all yet, is that common like an unwritten rule?
Or do you folks make the effort to talk to the people you know?
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Just don’t approach them in public in the first instance.
If you fancy the person / persons then drop them a fab message.
If there’s no response or they block you and delete the message then you know not to bother them again.
If it goes well though it could be the start of something beautiful. |
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I (fem) get this quite often on my single profile (I’m extremely open about my lifestyle and it has face pics on) and I absolutely do not mind people I know In ‘real life’ approaching me for advice/support/info or to just say hello - I know I’m likely in a very small category that would say that they ‘don’t care who knows’ they are on here BUT what I DO mind is people who know me and either say ‘oh (real name), I bet you can’t guess who I am, I will never tell you though’ or that expect that it’ll be a guaranteed meet just because you’re a swinger (& I often find it’s those I know in real life that are quickest to ask to go to a club and stand me up)
So, if you do decide to mail them, be polite and courteous and of course, keep their secret, as I’m sure you will.
Happy swinging. Hope you have plenty fun xx |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
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"Be careful . Many years ago , a male who worked at same company as me joined site. I did not know he had. Saw me in chat room with cam on. I was clothed . He told others at work. Luckily for me he had told someone else at work about site and showed them his profile. So was easy to check as site supporter. Confronted him in front of others and he had to admit it was him. Plus proved he was on here. So now if I see profiles looking at me / think may know me. Block very quick. "
Bloody hell. Some people though. If my workplace found out I'm using this site, they may hit the roof. Which is why I don't put my face on here as much as I would like to but you just never know with some people really |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would hate to be approached by someone I know on here.
I've blocked familiar faces and would never meet anyone too nearby.
I like a peaceful life without drama. |
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"I (fem) get this quite often on my single profile (I’m extremely open about my lifestyle and it has face pics on) and I absolutely do not mind people I know In ‘real life’ approaching me for advice/support/info or to just say hello - I know I’m likely in a very small category that would say that they ‘don’t care who knows’ they are on here BUT what I DO mind is people who know me and either say ‘oh (real name), I bet you can’t guess who I am, I will never tell you though’ or that expect that it’ll be a guaranteed meet just because you’re a swinger (& I often find it’s those I know in real life that are quickest to ask to go to a club and stand me up)
So, if you do decide to mail them, be polite and courteous and of course, keep their secret, as I’m sure you will.
Happy swinging. Hope you have plenty fun xx"
I am a free spirit like this also.
I wont post anything apart from face. I had one time I sent a local girl a nude and it spread like wild fire.
Went to an Indian restaurant with the boys and on my reservation chair was a picture of my cock.
I can handle myself in that sense im my own boss so it can't effect work. I do wonder if it could effect my time with the kids though.
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"Given I been doing this properly for about 3 weeks.
I've come across people I know in my home town.
They have not said anything at all yet, is that common like an unwritten rule?
Or do you folks make the effort to talk to the people you know?
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Do they have public face pics? How do you know it's them? |
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"Given I been doing this properly for about 3 weeks.
I've come across people I know in my home town.
They have not said anything at all yet, is that common like an unwritten rule?
Or do you folks make the effort to talk to the people you know?
Do they have public face pics? How do you know it's them?"
Yeah fave pics same tattoos
100% them
I dont look at the blokes profiles but know there's a lot from harlow. |
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over a year ago
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"Given I been doing this properly for about 3 weeks.
I've come across people I know in my home town.
They have not said anything at all yet, is that common like an unwritten rule?
Or do you folks make the effort to talk to the people you know?
"
The best advice has been given and you have taken it 
I just want to reassure you that you don't need to apologise for asking questions. We were all new to swinging and Fab at one time and at different stages to each other. On the whole this community is friendly and helpful, so please just ask us to help when you need to.
Her x |
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"Given I been doing this properly for about 3 weeks.
I've come across people I know in my home town.
They have not said anything at all yet, is that common like an unwritten rule?
Or do you folks make the effort to talk to the people you know?
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Depends how well I know them, if I can trust them not to tell people or if I wanna fuck them to be honest. |
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"Given I been doing this properly for about 3 weeks.
I've come across people I know in my home town.
They have not said anything at all yet, is that common like an unwritten rule?
Or do you folks make the effort to talk to the people you know?
The best advice has been given and you have taken it
I just want to reassure you that you don't need to apologise for asking questions. We were all new to swinging and Fab at one time and at different stages to each other. On the whole this community is friendly and helpful, so please just ask us to help when you need to.
Her x"
Thanks
I enjoy it lots already.
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"Given I been doing this properly for about 3 weeks.
I've come across people I know in my home town.
They have not said anything at all yet, is that common like an unwritten rule?
Or do you folks make the effort to talk to the people you know?
Depends how well I know them, if I can trust them not to tell people or if I wanna fuck them to be honest. "
Don't think I'd do it on my own doorstep to be honest. |
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"Given I been doing this properly for about 3 weeks.
I've come across people I know in my home town.
They have not said anything at all yet, is that common like an unwritten rule?
Or do you folks make the effort to talk to the people you know?
Depends how well I know them, if I can trust them not to tell people or if I wanna fuck them to be honest.
Don't think I'd do it on my own doorstep to be honest. "
Then don't contact them and maybe block them as you have your face as your profile pic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Given I been doing this properly for about 3 weeks.
I've come across people I know in my home town.
They have not said anything at all yet, is that common like an unwritten rule?
Or do you folks make the effort to talk to the people you know?
The best advice has been given and you have taken it
I just want to reassure you that you don't need to apologise for asking questions. We were all new to swinging and Fab at one time and at different stages to each other. On the whole this community is friendly and helpful, so please just ask us to help when you need to.
Her x"
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