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HOW DO I TELL HER

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Need some advice i've recently come across a fab profile, now i have noticed that this profile is a female colleague from work. I have not mentioned anything to her but what shall i do?? i dont want anything sexually or anything like but shall i mention that ive seen her fab profile or shall i leave it???

HELP! LOL

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Leave it. Especially because it's a coworker.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just leave it and pretend you haven't seen it.

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By *litterbabeWoman over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I personally would block her and forget about it.

I would never mention it to her.

It is a completely separate thing and it's best not to mix the two in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why do you need to tell her anything. She has assured right to be here as you....

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By *BootyfulDayWoman over a year ago

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I've had people on here mention they know me in real life and it can make it awkward putting them in that position.

I would leave it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Need some advice i've recently come across a fab profile, now i have noticed that this profile is a female colleague from work. I have not mentioned anything to her but what shall i do?? i dont want anything sexually or anything like but shall i mention that ive seen her fab profile or shall i leave it???

HELP! LOL "

There's nothing to say to her. If it was me, I'd block and forget about it. Then bash my lovely bishop.

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By *BootyfulDayWoman over a year ago

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HELP! LOL

There's nothing to say to her. If it was me, I'd block and forget about it. Then bash my lovely bishop."

I have never heard bash bishop before! I kind of love it hehe

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

HELP! LOL

There's nothing to say to her. If it was me, I'd block and forget about it. Then bash my lovely bishop.

I have never heard bash bishop before! I kind of love it hehe

I'm a sexual educator.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you guys yeah i was planning to block her but i thought i get some advice from others and of course everyone has a right to do what they want. But yeah thanks people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Leave it. Dont say a word. I work for a large organisation and see a few i work with. If they havent seen you then they havent looked for you so wont be interested

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

She must be kinky tho!, I’d personally block as work is life and don’t need dramas but she may have seen ur profile to and feels the same guess ur never know haha

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By *xydadbodMan over a year ago

Milton keynes

Definitely leave it but I'm assuming you checked out her profile? If so.. on that assumption, if you got a face pic on your gallery and she check you out, she would know you are on here too. It may or may not have happen that way but I definitely say leave it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

HELP! LOL "

"What shall i do?"

About what? I dont understand the question

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mate just leave it

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By *urls and DressesWoman over a year ago

Somewhere near here

Never go there and say something. It would be horrible position to put her in. For me, I don’t mix fab world with “real world”. I’ve blocked people I know, I’ve also met people I know, but not realising until meeting, rules were put in place when we realised but I don’t think either of us would have met had we realised

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

" i dont want anything sexually or anything like "

So why even consider telling her ?

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By *iffy1968Man over a year ago

STAFFORD

" i dont want anything sexually or anything like

So why even consider telling her ? "

Exactly that block the profile and carry on as nothings happened

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's a chance it could be a revenge profile from an ex and she knows nothing about it.

If you've seen it then loads of people she knows or works with will have seen it.

Some people are happy with the whole town gossiping about them behind their back. She may well know her profile is identifiable and love the attention.

She may be naïve and think no-one knows her secret.

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By *oft69TouchMan over a year ago

Hythe

stick it on her b4 she has the chance to doit 2 u

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By *ecretlivesCouple over a year ago

FABWatch HQ

Nope nope nope. Do NOT tell her in real life.

She, like you, has a right to a personal life outside work. If you have seen her she may have seen you. If not mentioned there is a message there...

Say you do tell her - she may not appreciate it and could claim (rightfully) that a co-worker is trying to discuss sex with her.

She may look you up and down and go "Yeah I know" and walk off laughing

You could be wrong, its not her, you say something and all the things above are why you will not be a coworker for long

Ignore it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How would you feel if you hadn’t seen her profile and she waltzed up to you and outed you?

I’ve had a friend do it and that was pretty uncomfortable to be honest.

Let sleeping dogs lie is my advice. She might even take it really badly and tell colleagues what you’ve done.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple over a year ago

SW Scotland

Block her and move on, try your best not to make things awkward between each other at work though

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By *oxychicWoman over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

You dont ,you go on as tho you not seen it ,

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

OP it seems like 100% on Fab agree don't mention it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How would you like her to deal with recognising you?

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By *i1971Man over a year ago

Cornwall

Leave it & say nothing, block the profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What’s on fab stays on fab.

Block her and forget you ever saw.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you don’t want anything from her in the fab world there is zero reason to confront her, what should you say to someone who asked this questio?.

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By *entlemenpipMan over a year ago

not far

The only way I'd say anything is is if being on this site would impact your work ( people can be judgment A holes) if that's the case a quick message on here to let them know you were able to id them from profile and then say no more about it. If that is not the case say nothing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Forget it, block. But don't get d*unk on the works party and tell her then either lol

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"The only way I'd say anything is is if being on this site would impact your work ( people can be judgment A holes) if that's the case a quick message on here to let them know you were able to id them from profile and then say no more about it."

Why would this help if being on the site impacted on his work ?

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

HELP! LOL "

We take the view that what happens on fab stays on fab. Unless you meet each other at a club of social in future, say nothing. She's said nothing to you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd mention it with a lascivious wink. But that's just me. Plus no one at work is that exciting

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A bloke at work's girlfriend posted pics on Facebook of them in bed together. He doesn't have Facebook because he is fiercely private and hates things like that.

His mates etc were laughing at them because the pics weren't really suitable for Facebook.

I told him- he had no idea she'd posted them. She hadn't asked him, he thought the pics were private between them.

Ended up I was the bad guy. He's still mates with the people who were laughing at him behind his back.

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By *2000ManMan over a year ago

Worthing

Just leave it. Just go to work and do that....work.

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple over a year ago

Maidstone

Block her and never mention it to her or anyone else.

We’ve spotted friends on here and we blocked them straight away to save all our blushes. But they were sharing face pics so it was easy to spot them.

Lou x

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"A bloke at work's girlfriend posted pics on Facebook of them in bed together. He doesn't have Facebook because he is fiercely private and hates things like that.

His mates etc were laughing at them because the pics weren't really suitable for Facebook.

I told him- he had no idea she'd posted them. She hadn't asked him, he thought the pics were private between them.

Ended up I was the bad guy. He's still mates with the people who were laughing at him behind his back. "

You can't win.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Leave it!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

HELP! LOL "

Block and move on!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Only do it if.....

a) She does your performance review

b) She has the ability to advance your career

c) She can influence / help with a merit rise

d) If non of the above and you want the weirdest dissmissal in the history of the company

Decisions decisions.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Do you like your job? Stay quiet, seriously!

Hate your job & dying to leave - tell her

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By *arker secrets 321Man over a year ago

West Bromwich

Wot diff does it make its 1 of those unwritten codes wot gos on here stays on here .dont worry about it

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By *ecretlivesCouple over a year ago

FABWatch HQ

"A bloke at work's girlfriend posted pics on Facebook of them in bed together. He doesn't have Facebook because he is fiercely private and hates things like that.

His mates etc were laughing at them because the pics weren't really suitable for Facebook.

I told him- he had no idea she'd posted them. She hadn't asked him, he thought the pics were private between them.

Ended up I was the bad guy. He's still mates with the people who were laughing at him behind his back. "

Fascinating to imagine gender roles reversed. Man publishes pics of girlfriend without permission, her friends appalled, man gets arrested (as should be). Interesting sideline to Op's note, but actually may help illustrate different thought process M/F that could *still* see Op speaking to work colleague

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By *dam1971Man over a year ago

Bedford

"Only do it if.....

a) She does your performance review

b) She has the ability to advance your career

c) She can influence / help with a merit rise

d) If non of the above and you want the weirdest dissmissal in the history of the company

Decisions decisions. "

I’d like to see a work appraisal done in the style of a Fab veri

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Block the profile and ignore it - it's really really not worth it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I personally would block her and forget about it.

I would never mention it to her.

It is a completely separate thing and it's best not to mix the two in my opinion."

Espescially the block, out of mutual respect

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Only do it if.....

a) She does your performance review

b) She has the ability to advance your career

c) She can influence / help with a merit rise

d) If non of the above and you want the weirdest dissmissal in the history of the company

Decisions decisions.

I’d like to see a work appraisal done in the style of a Fab veri

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

HELP! LOL "

Let it be, she’s on fab for her own wants and probs seen your profile too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

She is just as entitled to discretion as you and the rest of us.

Leave her be, don't mention it to her, block her and continue with your own fab experience.

Her x

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

Block her and forget about it

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By *ecadent_DevonMan over a year ago

Okehampton

If you have no interest in meeting her. Block her and move on. Certainly don’t gossip about her or pass her images on.

If you are interested in her, use the site system. I wouldn’t raise the fact that you worked together, more that you are interested in her profile or pics. It is fab that you have in common here not work. If she does not reply. Leave it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you for everyones advice i have blocked her. if its meant to be in the future its meant to be but until then blocked is the best way to go about it

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

HELP! LOL "

Leave her be, it’s her business. Block her profile so you don’t see any updates from her, and forget about it

I’ve recognised two of my customers in here, I don’t know if they have twigged this is me, but we’re all entitled to our privacy

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Every time I see the title of this the Cat Stevens song goes through my head.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do you not think she,s put 2x2 togather about you maybe .role,s reverse,d she just might be pondering the same quistion about you. Block her and move on . In the future you just might meet her in a club sometime ,talk and laugh about it .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Every time I see the title of this the Cat Stevens song goes through my head."

How can I tell you?

One of the saddest songs ever written

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Every time I see the title of this the Cat Stevens song goes through my head.

How can I tell you?

One of the saddest songs ever written"

Yes. I thought the thread was going to be along those lines

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Every time I see the title of this the Cat Stevens song goes through my head.

How can I tell you?

One of the saddest songs ever written

Yes. I thought the thread was going to be along those lines"

I saw him live

Well, what I saw through my tears

Totally in awe of the man

A bit like a stupid teenager, watching Bros

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What's seen on here, stays on here. If she wants fun in her life, be silently pleased that she's chosen here to try and find it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What's seen on here, stays on here. If she wants fun in her life, be silently pleased that she's chosen here to try and find it."

Totally agree.

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

"Thank you for everyones advice i have blocked her. if its meant to be in the future its meant to be but until then blocked is the best way to go about it

It's not meant to be.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Let her have a safe place, where she can relax and be free from work related hassle. Ignore and block her, so that you acquire nothing further about her

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

Block her. Don't mention it.

Don't shit where you eat so she might not want you knowing her personal business.

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By *lirt and funCouple over a year ago

ilford

"She must be kinky tho!, I’d personally block as work is life and don’t need dramas but she may have seen ur profile to and feels the same guess ur never know haha"

Was going to say exactly the same! I have actually met up with a person who I unwittingly have a connection with due to my job. He has been a gentleman about it and I would be mortified if it got out. Dignified silence!! X (Plus it is kind of hot knowing....you have to admit!)

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By *lirt and funCouple over a year ago

ilford

"She must be kinky tho!, I’d personally block as work is life and don’t need dramas but she may have seen ur profile to and feels the same guess ur never know haha"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why feel the need to even ask for advice it’s pretty obvious you should never mention it to her, she’s as much right to be here as you .

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By *lint-EverhardMan over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

Leave it alone.

Also don't people have colleagues anymore?

Always work colleagues (which is exactly what a colleague is).

Even co worker (which is exactly what a colleague is too).

This gets me really annoyed!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *melia DominaTV/TS over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

Basic rule of thumb; Don't date work colleagues.

Fab or not....blocking is the easiest way to ensure no mistakes are made.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

HELP! LOL "
Why would you bother mentioning it to them, if you are not interested in any sexual encounters with the person. Leave well alone I would say.

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By *ools and the brainCouple over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

HELP! LOL "

Leave it be.

Don't go down the creepy route.

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By *host63Man over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

Leave it. If you have no interest in her. It is her life and she has every right to be here

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By *eefyBangerMan over a year ago

edinburgh

If you don’t want anything to happen then why mention it. The op reeks of mischief making or at best attention seeking.

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By *oomarangMan over a year ago

Chester

You don’t say anything act as if you don’t know she’s on fab and hope she comes across your profile and brings it up in work. What’s to say she’s already seen your profile and isn’t interested in you

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By *RSTCouple over a year ago

S. Northants

Just ignore it and move on. If you've no interest in her then why make things awkward? If she messages you just politely decline and move on. Even better, just block the profile to avoid any weirdness.

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By *ickJMan over a year ago

Hemel Hempstead

Nothing good is likely to come out if you tell her, and many bad things could happen.

you could block her, that way she can't see you on the site, and you won't be able to see her again, or you could just ignore her without blocking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ahh,. We all know that look it when you recognise each other whilst in tesco.

But..‘it you are joy friends with them and you not doing it. Don’t mention it say hello. It’s weird.

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By *ilverjagMan over a year ago

swansea

Say nothing, don't block and just keep your knowledge up your sleeve. It's inevitable that we are likely to come across people on here who we know in the outside world. I've been blocked by several local people, including a neighbour four doors away. With swingers being a fairly close knit community, it only takes a bit of delving especially if you are verified, and with connections, to discover who the people are who have really blocked you in your locality, especially again if they are too are verified. Then you are then sat there secure in the knowledge that although they know who you are, they don't that you know who they are. The chances are that if you block her, she might make it her business to find out exactly who you are in exactly the same way as I do with people from this area who block me.

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By *bwlookingforfunWoman over a year ago

crawley

I would say block and move on, but someone mentioned revenge account...

Years back I got a message from a friend, he told me about my pictures being all over the site. My ex made an account and added things I would never add myself. So ..you never know

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By *ack69erMan over a year ago

Beverley

If you have a problem with her being on the forum, you have to question your own morality of why you are on here yourself. She has as much right to be here as yourself unless you consider yourself more worthy to be on the forum then her or are you too embarrased that she might recognise you and that is probably where your problem lies, so in which case to resolve the problem leave. Otherwise, just stop worrying about her being here as she is only here for the same reasons as yourself unless you do not think she should be having some fun whereas it's OK for yourself to have some fun.

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