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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Like it's honestly 10x easier to meet someone on fab for sex than meet someone for a drink/walk/date of a dating site  .
Am I missing something? Is there some kind of algorithm or special tactics? |
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Fans is easier as people are honest, dating sites are hard as everyone on their just wants sex but too scared to find a “sex site”
This in my theory anyways
Internet dating was best pre 2008 before it became cool
Anyone remember face party?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Fans is easier as people are honest, dating sites are hard as everyone on their just wants sex but too scared to find a “sex site”
This in my theory anyways
Internet dating was best pre 2008 before it became cool
Anyone remember face party? "
So I should just send a faf messaged on tinder/bumble instead  ? |
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"Fans is easier as people are honest, dating sites are hard as everyone on their just wants sex but too scared to find a “sex site”
Yes i agree, tinder is just sex site, every girl i met on Tinder the conversations where no sex first date blah blah..then meet have a drink..back to mine or hers for sex..i think fab people know what they want and although we have sexy chats or share photos ..its respectful and open
This in my theory anyways
Internet dating was best pre 2008 before it became cool
Anyone remember face party? "
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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From my limited experience of "dating" sites, all the men I spoke to on them just want sex; with maybe a drink or lunch thrown in so they don't feel guilty about fucking a stranger.
The paid sites don't seem much better.
Men pay hundred or thousand of pounds for dates with beautiful women, only for those women to throw the towel in when the men want to see them again. |
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Surely it all depends though?
The guys that never get meets from here must bruise your ego?
All dating sites are bad. Although the new Facebook one is by far better. Its free and not limited like the others that take the piss.
Its clear there are a lot more interesting people on fab.
It has a lot more to offer.
I've come here in a pandemic I just like the forums.
Hope get some meets after |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"Surely it all depends though?
The guys that never get meets from here must bruise your ego?
All dating sites are bad. Although the new Facebook one is by far better. Its free and not limited like the others that take the piss.
Its clear there are a lot more interesting people on fab.
It has a lot more to offer.
I've come here in a pandemic I just like the forums.
Hope get some meets after "
I had forgotten about Facebook dating. I checked it out and it was bloody awful.
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"Surely it all depends though?
The guys that never get meets from here must bruise your ego?
All dating sites are bad. Although the new Facebook one is by far better. Its free and not limited like the others that take the piss.
Its clear there are a lot more interesting people on fab.
It has a lot more to offer.
I've come here in a pandemic I just like the forums.
Hope get some meets after
I had forgotten about Facebook dating. I checked it out and it was bloody awful.
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Its free, does the same as every other one basically just not charing the earth to look back etc. Or pay to see who likes you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get on fine on dating apps tbh, joined Hinge a little while back and had three video dates with three separate women within a few days, still chatting to one and she now knows about my swinging and kink preferences, looking forward to post-lockdown.
In the past too I've always done fine on other apps. I do ok here too but I certainly find fab the hardest to get traction, probably because it's a swinging site so naturally for a lot of people it's going to be a bit more superficial (which is fine).
I've always been pretty good at making people laugh with messages tho, I think that's what gives me an edge. Make someone laugh/smile and the conversation starts flowing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wether on here or other dating sites, people lie. They only show their best side.
When I fill out dating sites I am sure to include my problems with my legs, my hypermobility, that I have a fairly busy life and they wont be instantly a part of it etc etc. Then they dont get a shock.
I just wish others did the same |
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"I get on fine on dating apps tbh, joined Hinge a little while back and had three video dates with three separate women within a few days, still chatting to one and she now knows about my swinging and kink preferences, looking forward to post-lockdown.
In the past too I've always done fine on other apps. I do ok here too but I certainly find fab the hardest to get traction, probably because it's a swinging site so naturally for a lot of people it's going to be a bit more superficial (which is fine).
I've always been pretty good at making people laugh with messages tho, I think that's what gives me an edge. Make someone laugh/smile and the conversation starts flowing."
I've never got in with them at all.
Out of curiosity in your bio do you post about anything sexual?
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"Surely it all depends though?
The guys that never get meets from here must bruise your ego?
All dating sites are bad. Although the new Facebook one is by far better. Its free and not limited like the others that take the piss.
Its clear there are a lot more interesting people on fab.
It has a lot more to offer.
I've come here in a pandemic I just like the forums.
Hope get some meets after
I had forgotten about Facebook dating. I checked it out and it was bloody awful.
Its free, does the same as every other one basically just not charing the earth to look back etc. Or pay to see who likes you. "
I've been on it. It was very poor pickings for me I'm afraid. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is it a problem with the sites or with the people who are on them? "
I don't think site matching algorithms help. They did a test and paying active users have a much greater chance to receive matches. But on the other hand being too active also hurts your algorithm, it's really specific as to how you should use them |
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"Surely it all depends though?
The guys that never get meets from here must bruise your ego?
All dating sites are bad. Although the new Facebook one is by far better. Its free and not limited like the others that take the piss.
Its clear there are a lot more interesting people on fab.
It has a lot more to offer.
I've come here in a pandemic I just like the forums.
Hope get some meets after
I had forgotten about Facebook dating. I checked it out and it was bloody awful.
Its free, does the same as every other one basically just not charing the earth to look back etc. Or pay to see who likes you.
I've been on it. It was very poor pickings for me I'm afraid. "
Its quite new, wont be long till you're having to pay for it no doubt |
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I love dating sites because:
a) I love to travel — oooh that’s unique (swipe left)
B) my kids come first - what kind of men have you selected in the past that has prompted you to make a point of that? I am concerned about your life choices (swipe left)
C) social drinker - every one of your pictures is of you in a pink cowboy hat holding a bucket of wine (swipe left)
When I feel particularly down and lonely. I spend half an hour reading dating app profiles and get a warm cozy feeling that being alone is the best place to be |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you don't pay for them these days, they're pretty useless.
I met an ex on PoF about 6 years ago and for a free site it wasn't bad. Now, it's bloody useless. So many fake men and the search function stopped working and the supposed "technical dept" have never offered a solution to fix it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get on fine on dating apps tbh, joined Hinge a little while back and had three video dates with three separate women within a few days, still chatting to one and she now knows about my swinging and kink preferences, looking forward to post-lockdown.
In the past too I've always done fine on other apps. I do ok here too but I certainly find fab the hardest to get traction, probably because it's a swinging site so naturally for a lot of people it's going to be a bit more superficial (which is fine).
I've always been pretty good at making people laugh with messages tho, I think that's what gives me an edge. Make someone laugh/smile and the conversation starts flowing.
I've never got in with them at all.
Out of curiosity in your bio do you post about anything sexual?
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I tend to put something like, 'you should know, I'm a bit of a pervert'. I think people think I'm joking (and I have had comments as such) but that then allows me to tell them that no, I'm not joking, I am a perv. The conversation normally progresses from there. Sometimes one way, sometimes another, but it gets the topic started.
I never open with anything outright sexual unless the profile indicates to do so. I just leave a subtle hint that I'm not totally vanilla.
Top tips, gents. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"Surely it all depends though?
The guys that never get meets from here must bruise your ego?
All dating sites are bad. Although the new Facebook one is by far better. Its free and not limited like the others that take the piss.
Its clear there are a lot more interesting people on fab.
It has a lot more to offer.
I've come here in a pandemic I just like the forums.
Hope get some meets after
I had forgotten about Facebook dating. I checked it out and it was bloody awful.
Its free, does the same as every other one basically just not charing the earth to look back etc. Or pay to see who likes you.
I've been on it. It was very poor pickings for me I'm afraid.
Its quite new, wont be long till you're having to pay for it no doubt "
Or there will be ads popping up.
I wouldn't pay for it.
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"I love dating sites because:
a) I love to travel — oooh that’s unique (swipe left)
B) my kids come first - what kind of men have you selected in the past that has prompted you to make a point of that? I am concerned about your life choices (swipe left)
C) social drinker - every one of your pictures is of you in a pink cowboy hat holding a bucket of wine (swipe left)
When I feel particularly down and lonely. I spend half an hour reading dating app profiles and get a warm cozy feeling that being alone is the best place to be"
My Facebook dating profile was a hoot. No one read it anyway. |
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"I get on fine on dating apps tbh, joined Hinge a little while back and had three video dates with three separate women within a few days, still chatting to one and she now knows about my swinging and kink preferences, looking forward to post-lockdown.
In the past too I've always done fine on other apps. I do ok here too but I certainly find fab the hardest to get traction, probably because it's a swinging site so naturally for a lot of people it's going to be a bit more superficial (which is fine).
I've always been pretty good at making people laugh with messages tho, I think that's what gives me an edge. Make someone laugh/smile and the conversation starts flowing.
I've never got in with them at all.
Out of curiosity in your bio do you post about anything sexual?
I tend to put something like, 'you should know, I'm a bit of a pervert'. I think people think I'm joking (and I have had comments as such) but that then allows me to tell them that no, I'm not joking, I am a perv. The conversation normally progresses from there. Sometimes one way, sometimes another, but it gets the topic started.
I never open with anything outright sexual unless the profile indicates to do so. I just leave a subtle hint that I'm not totally vanilla.
Top tips, gents."
Nice, ive given up on them.
Id rather just know someone has a big sexual appetite than guess.
Just something to waste a bit of time. |
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"Surely it all depends though?
The guys that never get meets from here must bruise your ego?
All dating sites are bad. Although the new Facebook one is by far better. Its free and not limited like the others that take the piss.
Its clear there are a lot more interesting people on fab.
It has a lot more to offer.
I've come here in a pandemic I just like the forums.
Hope get some meets after
I had forgotten about Facebook dating. I checked it out and it was bloody awful.
Its free, does the same as every other one basically just not charing the earth to look back etc. Or pay to see who likes you.
I've been on it. It was very poor pickings for me I'm afraid.
Its quite new, wont be long till you're having to pay for it no doubt
Or there will be ads popping up.
I wouldn't pay for it.
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Me either, huge con. At least with Facebook if you make a mistake you can correct it.
Bumble wants 10 quid a month to do that.
Rip off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep agreed
I looked to join one recently which over 6 months was £400.
It may have been worth the money but as you have to do the finance first before unlocking enough of the site to look it’s just not worth it.
I find it frustrating as what I want is a mix of there but with a twist of here.
It doesn’t exist does it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep agreed
I looked to join one recently which over 6 months was £400.
It may have been worth the money but as you have to do the finance first before unlocking enough of the site to look it’s just not worth it.
I find it frustrating as what I want is a mix of there but with a twist of here.
It doesn’t exist does it? "
I met jenny on tinder. We met and really hit it off bigtime. Had so much in common. Then through frank and honest chats we both admitted we had played on fab as singles. We could not believe our luck. And not we are in here as a cpl to make friends and play with other cpls when we can meet up when safe to do so. So yes it can exist the mix of finding love and the kink of this site. Keep searching lovely. John |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love dating sites because:
a) I love to travel — oooh that’s unique (swipe left)
B) my kids come first - what kind of men have you selected in the past that has prompted you to make a point of that? I am concerned about your life choices (swipe left)
C) social drinker - every one of your pictures is of you in a pink cowboy hat holding a bucket of wine (swipe left)
When I feel particularly down and lonely. I spend half an hour reading dating app profiles and get a warm cozy feeling that being alone is the best place to be"
A & C *snort-laugh* not far off the truth though
B: ohhhh buddy you'd be surprised at the entitlement of some men on dating sites. Some are not too keen on coming second, even to children. Not even kidding. |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
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Most dating sites are shit anyway. You match with someone then have a great convo and then, it stops for some reason. I get that people have busy lives and with covid.. organising dates is impossible which doesn't help really. |
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Dating sites are from one extreme to another you have those looking for that fairytale happy ending of a wedding to those looking for a hook up. Least with fab its pretty much upfront with what people are after x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope cause half are just on there for sex as well  "
Yes agree with that and tbh I've met a few girls off tinder etc and quite a few girls are just wanting sex tbh I've had more luck on there than fab lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My experience has been terrible, I deleted all the apps I tried.
I did notice quite a few men from here.
I’m just resigned to being alone and lonely (where is that yellow pages, hello is that the crazy cat shop..?) |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
Milton keynes |
Every now and then you get a match which is great but when you have to swipe left 5 times in a row on fake profiles that advertises other sites that when it get tedious. Those profile that say "I'm hot for you right now. Find me on naked.com or fuckaduck.com or some shit like that |
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"My experience has been terrible, I deleted all the apps I tried.
I did notice quite a few men from here.
I’m just resigned to being alone and lonely (where is that yellow pages, hello is that the crazy cat shop..?)"
Too fussy I bet  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My experience has been terrible, I deleted all the apps I tried.
I did notice quite a few men from here.
I’m just resigned to being alone and lonely (where is that yellow pages, hello is that the crazy cat shop..?)
Too fussy I bet "
I’m curious as to why you think that? |
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"My experience has been terrible, I deleted all the apps I tried.
I did notice quite a few men from here.
I’m just resigned to being alone and lonely (where is that yellow pages, hello is that the crazy cat shop..?)
Too fussy I bet
I’m curious as to why you think that? "
Because You're stunning.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it a problem with the sites or with the people who are on them?
I don't think site matching algorithms help. They did a test and paying active users have a much greater chance to receive matches. But on the other hand being too active also hurts your algorithm, it's really specific as to how you should use them "
I once sat with a friend - both on Tinder. We swapped phones and set limited preferences. We couldn’t find each other.
I have no idea how the algorithm works but it’s rubbish.
Tinder - most want casual. I’m on there but use it for dating and won’t consider and top off/groin shots profiles. My sharp tongue quickly gets me unmatched if they try sexting.... it’s a fun game lol
If I want sex, it’s Fab. I can see photos for one thing and it’s clear what you both want.
Fab for dating? Noooooo!
I think women are more accepting of dating men on here then men of woman. Still very double standard. . My experience is men like their woman more ‘angelic’ for dating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Internet dating doesn't work for me.
Endless profiles that all blend into one after a while - soul crushing boring conversations that I just cannot be arsed to have anymore until it phases out and you both move on to the next shiny new profile.
Swiping left and right because of pictures and maybe a paragraph about someone is madness and doomed to failure unless you date someone new every weekend.
No.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you don't pay for them these days, they're pretty useless.
I met an ex on PoF about 6 years ago and for a free site it wasn't bad. Now, it's bloody useless. So many fake men and the search function stopped working and the supposed "technical dept" have never offered a solution to fix it. "
Agreed!
Bumble... a security nightmare!!! Gets matches to my street due to not being able to set location. Ok In a city only. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My experience has been terrible, I deleted all the apps I tried.
I did notice quite a few men from here.
I’m just resigned to being alone and lonely (where is that yellow pages, hello is that the crazy cat shop..?)
Too fussy I bet
I’m curious as to why you think that?
Because You're stunning.
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Thank you, but that doesn’t necessarily equal fussy.
I am particular about what I’m looking for, but I don’t see why you wouldn’t be if you’re looking for a partner. |
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"My experience has been terrible, I deleted all the apps I tried.
I did notice quite a few men from here.
I’m just resigned to being alone and lonely (where is that yellow pages, hello is that the crazy cat shop..?)
Too fussy I bet
I’m curious as to why you think that?
Because You're stunning.
Thank you, but that doesn’t necessarily equal fussy.
I am particular about what I’m looking for, but I don’t see why you wouldn’t be if you’re looking for a partner."
My point was you must get attention?
But yeah you are right be fussy with a partner i totally get that im the same.
Was just being nice, have a good weekend
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By (user no longer on site)
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I am on dating sites to look for a boyfriend. The last man I chatted to on a dating site, said my picture had given him a hard on. It was only a face picture. I blocked him. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My experience has been terrible, I deleted all the apps I tried.
I did notice quite a few men from here.
I’m just resigned to being alone and lonely (where is that yellow pages, hello is that the crazy cat shop..?)"
Whilst you've got yellow pages open could you try to find a book I'm looking for, please? My name? J. R. Hartley..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am on dating sites to look for a boyfriend. The last man I chatted to on a dating site, said my picture had given him a hard on. It was only a face picture. I blocked him. X"
Dating sites like Tinder etc .. are full of people looking for hookups.
If you're looking for a relationship I'm sure it's soul destroying.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My experience has been terrible, I deleted all the apps I tried.
I did notice quite a few men from here.
I’m just resigned to being alone and lonely (where is that yellow pages, hello is that the crazy cat shop..?)
Too fussy I bet
I’m curious as to why you think that?
Because You're stunning.
Thank you, but that doesn’t necessarily equal fussy.
I am particular about what I’m looking for, but I don’t see why you wouldn’t be if you’re looking for a partner.
My point was you must get attention?
But yeah you are right be fussy with a partner i totally get that im the same.
Was just being nice, have a good weekend
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I put face pics on dating sites though, rather than my boobs like on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My experience has been terrible, I deleted all the apps I tried.
I did notice quite a few men from here.
I’m just resigned to being alone and lonely (where is that yellow pages, hello is that the crazy cat shop..?)
Whilst you've got yellow pages open could you try to find a book I'm looking for, please? My name? J. R. Hartley....."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Like it's honestly 10x easier to meet someone on fab for sex than meet someone for a drink/walk/date of a dating site
Am I missing something? Is there some kind of algorithm or special tactics?"
We met on one, and I had a good laugh on it to Mrs Cs  |
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I met my husband on adult friend finder I was in the scene already and he had found the site after clicking on one of those 'meet hot women for sex in your area' links whilst watching porn..he was meant to be a fuck buddy but the silly boy fell in love  I introduced him to swinging and then found fab. I really liked Tinder but only because I was open about the fact I just wanted sex and no strings xx |
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"My experience has been terrible, I deleted all the apps I tried.
I did notice quite a few men from here.
I’m just resigned to being alone and lonely (where is that yellow pages, hello is that the crazy cat shop..?)
Too fussy I bet
I’m curious as to why you think that?
Because You're stunning.
Thank you, but that doesn’t necessarily equal fussy.
I am particular about what I’m looking for, but I don’t see why you wouldn’t be if you’re looking for a partner.
My point was you must get attention?
But yeah you are right be fussy with a partner i totally get that im the same.
Was just being nice, have a good weekend
I put face pics on dating sites though, rather than my boobs like on here "
Can still tell you're FAF |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I found they users on dating sites were never honest about what they want or who they are.
Always seems more honest on here"
Yep this.
Also many men seem ashamed to be on here which means they are less likely to blab to their mates. No face pics so they want to be discreet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love dating sites because:
a) I love to travel — oooh that’s unique (swipe left)
B) my kids come first - what kind of men have you selected in the past that has prompted you to make a point of that? I am concerned about your life choices (swipe left)
C) social drinker - every one of your pictures is of you in a pink cowboy hat holding a bucket of wine (swipe left)
When I feel particularly down and lonely. I spend half an hour reading dating app profiles and get a warm cozy feeling that being alone is the best place to be"
I do the same on Fab! Kills my sex drive stone dead. |
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Most of my friends have been been on dating sites at one point and had great chats and met some lovely people. If you make the most of yourself you'll get the most out of them. I don't believe half the time it's the site that's the problem
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By (user no longer on site)
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Nowadays unless you pay they are all but useless. Their algorithms are as good as the predicted grades algorithm- ie favour the favourable.
I did meet a ‘relationship level’ someone on a dating app a good few years ago before the app developers greed set in. So if your on them it might still work. You never know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Definitely don't work for me but happily except I'm too way out & full on lol
Resigned to only meeting people organically in life from now on "
Oh and in an impossible location! I'd have to lie and change counties! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Problem I find is, my brain still thinks I'm on fab lol
So always have to consciously switch my approach to vanilla mode"
Why change yourself? If that's how you are in life then isn't that how you should portray yourself? Interested |
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"I love dating sites because:
a) I love to travel — oooh that’s unique (swipe left)
B) my kids come first - what kind of men have you selected in the past that has prompted you to make a point of that? I am concerned about your life choices (swipe left)
C) social drinker - every one of your pictures is of you in a pink cowboy hat holding a bucket of wine (swipe left)
When I feel particularly down and lonely. I spend half an hour reading dating app profiles and get a warm cozy feeling that being alone is the best place to be
I do the same on Fab! Kills my sex drive stone dead. "
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"Most of my friends have been been on dating sites at one point and had great chats and met some lovely people. If you make the most of yourself you'll get the most out of them. I don't believe half the time it's the site that's the problem
R"
I think you might be right 
I'm not speaking for anyone else but I am truly undateable now.
I've been single a long time so find it difficult to allow anyone in - and the thought of constant compromise and other people's family/ kids and cohabitation etc makes me shudder 
I have had a lot of matches in the past on dating sites and rarely met anyone because of my own stuff.
It's definitely me that's the problem.
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I didn't find them any different. Both my fwb were from dating sites. I've never had any from fab. The only redeeming feature of fab is the lower charges and the forums/communication channels. |
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"Most of my friends have been been on dating sites at one point and had great chats and met some lovely people. If you make the most of yourself you'll get the most out of them. I don't believe half the time it's the site that's the problem
R
I think you might be right
I'm not speaking for anyone else but I am truly undateable now.
I've been single a long time so find it difficult to allow anyone in - and the thought of constant compromise and other people's family/ kids and cohabitation etc makes me shudder
I have had a lot of matches in the past on dating sites and rarely met anyone because of my own stuff.
It's definitely me that's the problem.
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I agree and am the same! I've been happily single for 28 years and my kids have left home now, just getting my life exactly how I like it! BUT would love to meet similar for life adventures ... though leaving it up to real world adventures! Who knows might be fun and my next adventure! |
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over a year ago
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"Problem I find is, my brain still thinks I'm on fab lol
So always have to consciously switch my approach to vanilla mode
Why change yourself? If that's how you are in life then isn't that how you should portray yourself? Interested "
Thing is on here it's a swingers site I'm extra cheeky & use innuendos in 1st messages to break the ice which is fine & works.
On dating site most tend to be stuck up & quick to conclude I'm just after sex so have to consciously tone the approach down |
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"Most of my friends have been been on dating sites at one point and had great chats and met some lovely people. If you make the most of yourself you'll get the most out of them. I don't believe half the time it's the site that's the problem
R
I think you might be right
I'm not speaking for anyone else but I am truly undateable now.
I've been single a long time so find it difficult to allow anyone in - and the thought of constant compromise and other people's family/ kids and cohabitation etc makes me shudder
I have had a lot of matches in the past on dating sites and rarely met anyone because of my own stuff.
It's definitely me that's the problem.
I agree and am the same! I've been happily single for 28 years and my kids have left home now, just getting my life exactly how I like it! BUT would love to meet similar for life adventures ... though leaving it up to real world adventures! Who knows might be fun and my next adventure! "
I think meeting someone organically and letting it evolve is definitely the better option.
Maybe through activities that you enjoy rather than a dating site - which is essentially a blind date 
If I met someone in real life I had a connection with I would go with it - maybe
But I'm not going to go on endless soul destroying dates. |
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On dating site most tend to be stuck up & quick to conclude I'm just after sex so have to consciously tone the approach down"
Or maybe they're not stuck up at all and just find your chat rubbish |
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I’ve used a few dating apps, I searched for the best ones to use without paying and I found them ok.
Maybe it depends on your expectations and of course where you live too. If I was closer to a big city it would be a lot easier.
The results I get from Fab are that it’s slow to find someone you like and of those it’s even slower to find someone who likes me.
I don’t have a body that looks good in a photo, I’m fresh through a divorce and until the house is sold I can’t accommodate either - that’s not great in Fab terms. There are upsides to Fab too; the forum is handy to give a bit of colour to your profile.
So compared to that, dating sites are ok. On some there’s not much room to write a profile and the questions they ask are banal in the extreme, one of them also plays fast and loose with the 25 miles radius too.
But the number of positive replies I got was much better than here, even being honest about my level of filth. To be honest it’s the same here - plenty of profiles say no to things that I like so it’s no different to the dating sites |
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The only dating site I have used I found perfectly OK. A mixture of people wanting different things. But then im very candid from the get go. I found it easier to meet women on there than on here too |
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On dating site most tend to be stuck up & quick to conclude I'm just after sex so have to consciously tone the approach down
Or maybe they're not stuck up at all and just find your chat rubbish "
Noice baiting |
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Was on bumble and pof for a while and met some lovely people and had fun with some. Like the idea of women contacting you first, so refreshing and so different to this site, not so many timewasters too. |
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"Women swipe right on 10% of men if you are looking at the tinder stats."
Which is probably 10 times better than on here, with a more equal number of men to women.
Nothing is perfect, do what you can and you’re comfortable with to find someone who’s compatibly filthy with you. To put it in context, I don’t remember a brilliant success rate from pre-internet methods either, while others found it easy |
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Only website I've had any success with was plenty of fish, that was about 11 years ago though, someone mention faceparty, these websites were great pre smartphone era because people were more down to earth I'd say and just honest. I'm just echoing comments and like others have said it's probably a little depressing now. But then I remember Facebook in the good old days when only people with university email could sign up, bad thing about that was all the potentials or conquests could see each other. |
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I find it *fascinating* that other people live in a world where sex is so accessible that they're unhappy about it.
My experience of dating sites:
Tinder:
- User for over five years.
- Paid account for two of those years.
- Zero meets.
- No matches at all since 2018.
OKC:
- User for over five years.
- Paid account for two of those years.
- Two meets. One ghosted in 2017, the other died in 2018.
- Occasional matches here and there. Twice a year, maybe?
- Plans to meet up with another match once it's safe to be around other humans again.
Bumble:
- User for over a year.
- Never paid for an account.
- User base so tiny that I've "completed" it – I've swiped through all UK users.
- Zero meets.
Fab:
- User for over a year.
- Gold supporter in the past, silver supporter at present.
- Zero meets, but, well, pandemic.
- Had a few nice conversations that have petered out.
Universal experiences:
- All sites are FLOODED with people looking for a Proper Relationship™ with The One™.
- If "hook-up apps" exist, I'm yet to discover one.
- Paying for a service has made no difference.
Advice:
- Wait for the pandemic to be over.
- Fulfil all the on-hold plans I've made with people I met in person.
- Go back to clubs and resume meeting people in person. |
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Never been on a dating site.I heard the opposite though.A friend from uni was on here and had no meets in a year.At the saje tome he was on a dating site and met 3 women and had sex with them so I guess it's just down finding what each of you want in the right place.Some expect this to be instant sex and get frustrated when people expect more.Some think dating sites are just for relationships so put more effort in as they think the people there are not into instant sex.Yet some of the same people there are here.So I would say it depends on what you put into it here and on dating sites x |
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Was on dating sites 8 years ago ,was fantastic they must have deteriorated,my friend was on one same time as me and he also had a fantastic time and actually meet his wife on one , we meet on a dating site 6 years ago might be better for older age group ? |
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Someone once posted a fantastic thread on here called 'The BBW theory' explaining how as much as she understood that dating sites and Fab were different.
If a BBW woman is on a dating site, their inbox gathers dust.
Put a BBW on Fab and we could have a different man every night if we wanted.
I don't think it just comes down to necessarily what you put in. I have good pictures, I have a well written profile hinting I have a naughty side and still nothing...
Maybe all BBW like myself are good for is sex and not dating... |
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over a year ago
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I used to use them about 4/5 years ago before I came on here I can’t speak for them now but back then they were okay. I have no intention of using one again though happy here |
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"Was on dating sites 8 years ago ,was fantastic they must have deteriorated,my friend was on one same time as me and he also had a fantastic time and actually meet his wife on one , we meet on a dating site 6 years ago might be better for older age group ?"
I think they have got worse over time. The internet has made people disposable. "Don't like this one, swipe and get a new one". 
I think you may be right about the older age group too. I'm absolutely not saying that people over 50 are 'past it'! But they may have sex lower down on their list of priorities.
Friendship and having things in common may be more important than sex jumping off a wardrobe. So they may treat dating as dating and not as disposable sex toys, if that makes sense. |
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"Was on dating sites 8 years ago ,was fantastic they must have deteriorated,my friend was on one same time as me and he also had a fantastic time and actually meet his wife on one , we meet on a dating site 6 years ago might be better for older age group ?
I think they have got worse over time. The internet has made people disposable. "Don't like this one, swipe and get a new one".
I think you may be right about the older age group too. I'm absolutely not saying that people over 50 are 'past it'! But they may have sex lower down on their list of priorities.
Friendship and having things in common may be more important than sex jumping off a wardrobe. So they may treat dating as dating and not as disposable sex toys, if that makes sense. "
Speak for yourself lol.....sex would be very important to me....!!!! |
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"Someone once posted a fantastic thread on here called 'The BBW theory' explaining how as much as she understood that dating sites and Fab were different.
If a BBW woman is on a dating site, their inbox gathers dust.
Put a BBW on Fab and we could have a different man every night if we wanted.
I don't think it just comes down to necessarily what you put in. I have good pictures, I have a well written profile hinting I have a naughty side and still nothing...
Maybe all BBW like myself are good for is sex and not dating... "
Some will think that. Some will adore BBW but be scared to openly date them due to crappy peer pressure from their horrible mates. X |
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I tried bumble a couple of years ago, found it awful. No one replied once matched. Tried Tinder at the same time and it was a little better, had a few dates from it and some sex but it still had it downsides.
My profile is brutally honest about what I'm looking for so while it may cut the matches down, I'm more like my to match with like-minded people. I've had some good conversations from there recently with a view to meet once we are allowed.
I think it's like most things, pot luck. Depending on your area and what you are looking for. |
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"Was on dating sites 8 years ago ,was fantastic they must have deteriorated,my friend was on one same time as me and he also had a fantastic time and actually meet his wife on one , we meet on a dating site 6 years ago might be better for older age group ?
I think they have got worse over time. The internet has made people disposable. "Don't like this one, swipe and get a new one".
I think you may be right about the older age group too. I'm absolutely not saying that people over 50 are 'past it'! But they may have sex lower down on their list of priorities.
Friendship and having things in common may be more important than sex jumping off a wardrobe. So they may treat dating as dating and not as disposable sex toys, if that makes sense. "
This makes sense to me.
I think if you can build friendship and have a mutually enjoyable time together, there's a better chance of the sex being as mutually enjoyable too.
Rather than starting with some kind of sex tick list |
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My most unusual internet dating experience was a couple of years ago. Paid the monthly subscription and set about looking at some lovely ladies.
Arranged to meet Angie in a local country pub ( yes I remember the days). All went well as she was attractive and she said I looked like my pictures.
We went and got a table and the conversation flowed no pregnant pauses. We ordered food which was served in good time. The waiter put the starters on the table and Angie lurched forward and grabbed both my hands. I immediately thought she was a fabster and wanted rampant sex. Sadly no, she wanted to thank the Lord Jesus Christ for the food and asked I minded if she blessed the calamari and sticky ribs whilst saying grace.
From that point the sticky ribs had no appeal whatsoever. She was a recent convert to some local evangelical church group and kept on asking if I wanted to be saved. I sat there for the next two hours in a daze save for imagining Angie naked save for ankle strapped high heels and hold up stockings. Angie on the other hand produced a Gideon bible from her bag ( probably nicked it from the local travel tavern whilst on a fab meeting) and kept on quoting St Paul’s letter to the Corinthians and batting on about saving sinners souls!
I got the bill and we shook hands in the car park. She asked if I would accompany her to church on Sunday as there was a prayer vigil from 7 am until 3pm.
I asked if I could check my diary and get back to her. I sped out of the car park checking the rear view mirror to make sure I wasn’t being tailed.
I got home cancelled my subscription to love lines and immediately joined Fab where you know a letter to the corinthians won’t be that much of an issue. |
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"I tried bumble a couple of years ago, found it awful. No one replied once matched. Tried Tinder at the same time and it was a little better, had a few dates from it and some sex but it still had it downsides.
My profile is brutally honest about what I'm looking for so while it may cut the matches down, I'm more like my to match with like-minded people. I've had some good conversations from there recently with a view to meet once we are allowed.
I think it's like most things, pot luck. Depending on your area and what you are looking for. "
We need that coffee pronto
On bumble the girk has to make the first move maybe thats why you didn't get a response |
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"My most unusual internet dating experience was a couple of years ago. Paid the monthly subscription and set about looking at some lovely ladies.
Arranged to meet Angie in a local country pub ( yes I remember the days). All went well as she was attractive and she said I looked like my pictures.
We went and got a table and the conversation flowed no pregnant pauses. We ordered food which was served in good time. The waiter put the starters on the table and Angie lurched forward and grabbed both my hands. I immediately thought she was a fabster and wanted rampant sex. Sadly no, she wanted to thank the Lord Jesus Christ for the food and asked I minded if she blessed the calamari and sticky ribs whilst saying grace.
From that point the sticky ribs had no appeal whatsoever. She was a recent convert to some local evangelical church group and kept on asking if I wanted to be saved. I sat there for the next two hours in a daze save for imagining Angie naked save for ankle strapped high heels and hold up stockings. Angie on the other hand produced a Gideon bible from her bag ( probably nicked it from the local travel tavern whilst on a fab meeting) and kept on quoting St Paul’s letter to the Corinthians and batting on about saving sinners souls!
I got the bill and we shook hands in the car park. She asked if I would accompany her to church on Sunday as there was a prayer vigil from 7 am until 3pm.
I asked if I could check my diary and get back to her. I sped out of the car park checking the rear view mirror to make sure I wasn’t being tailed.
I got home cancelled my subscription to love lines and immediately joined Fab where you know a letter to the corinthians won’t be that much of an issue."
I take it you hadn't chatted very much before meeting? |
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As a single guy I have had way more success on tinder and bumble than on here. I rarely chat to anyone on fab about anything other than sex and that can get tedious. |
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"My most unusual internet dating experience was a couple of years ago. Paid the monthly subscription and set about looking at some lovely ladies.
Arranged to meet Angie in a local country pub ( yes I remember the days). All went well as she was attractive and she said I looked like my pictures.
We went and got a table and the conversation flowed no pregnant pauses. We ordered food which was served in good time. The waiter put the starters on the table and Angie lurched forward and grabbed both my hands. I immediately thought she was a fabster and wanted rampant sex. Sadly no, she wanted to thank the Lord Jesus Christ for the food and asked I minded if she blessed the calamari and sticky ribs whilst saying grace.
From that point the sticky ribs had no appeal whatsoever. She was a recent convert to some local evangelical church group and kept on asking if I wanted to be saved. I sat there for the next two hours in a daze save for imagining Angie naked save for ankle strapped high heels and hold up stockings. Angie on the other hand produced a Gideon bible from her bag ( probably nicked it from the local travel tavern whilst on a fab meeting) and kept on quoting St Paul’s letter to the Corinthians and batting on about saving sinners souls!
I got the bill and we shook hands in the car park. She asked if I would accompany her to church on Sunday as there was a prayer vigil from 7 am until 3pm.
I asked if I could check my diary and get back to her. I sped out of the car park checking the rear view mirror to make sure I wasn’t being tailed.
I got home cancelled my subscription to love lines and immediately joined Fab where you know a letter to the corinthians won’t be that much of an issue.
I take it you hadn't chatted very much before meeting?"
Couple of calls but no indication whatsoever of a god junkie. |
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over a year ago
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"My most unusual internet dating experience was a couple of years ago. Paid the monthly subscription and set about looking at some lovely ladies.
Arranged to meet Angie in a local country pub ( yes I remember the days). All went well as she was attractive and she said I looked like my pictures.
We went and got a table and the conversation flowed no pregnant pauses. We ordered food which was served in good time. The waiter put the starters on the table and Angie lurched forward and grabbed both my hands. I immediately thought she was a fabster and wanted rampant sex. Sadly no, she wanted to thank the Lord Jesus Christ for the food and asked I minded if she blessed the calamari and sticky ribs whilst saying grace.
From that point the sticky ribs had no appeal whatsoever. She was a recent convert to some local evangelical church group and kept on asking if I wanted to be saved. I sat there for the next two hours in a daze save for imagining Angie naked save for ankle strapped high heels and hold up stockings. Angie on the other hand produced a Gideon bible from her bag ( probably nicked it from the local travel tavern whilst on a fab meeting) and kept on quoting St Paul’s letter to the Corinthians and batting on about saving sinners souls!
I got the bill and we shook hands in the car park. She asked if I would accompany her to church on Sunday as there was a prayer vigil from 7 am until 3pm.
I asked if I could check my diary and get back to her. I sped out of the car park checking the rear view mirror to make sure I wasn’t being tailed.
I got home cancelled my subscription to love lines and immediately joined Fab where you know a letter to the corinthians won’t be that much of an issue."
I hate it when that happens.
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"As a single guy I have had way more success on tinder and bumble than on here. I rarely chat to anyone on fab about anything other than sex and that can get tedious."
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"My most unusual internet dating experience was a couple of years ago. Paid the monthly subscription and set about looking at some lovely ladies.
Arranged to meet Angie in a local country pub ( yes I remember the days). All went well as she was attractive and she said I looked like my pictures.
We went and got a table and the conversation flowed no pregnant pauses. We ordered food which was served in good time. The waiter put the starters on the table and Angie lurched forward and grabbed both my hands. I immediately thought she was a fabster and wanted rampant sex. Sadly no, she wanted to thank the Lord Jesus Christ for the food and asked I minded if she blessed the calamari and sticky ribs whilst saying grace.
From that point the sticky ribs had no appeal whatsoever. She was a recent convert to some local evangelical church group and kept on asking if I wanted to be saved. I sat there for the next two hours in a daze save for imagining Angie naked save for ankle strapped high heels and hold up stockings. Angie on the other hand produced a Gideon bible from her bag ( probably nicked it from the local travel tavern whilst on a fab meeting) and kept on quoting St Paul’s letter to the Corinthians and batting on about saving sinners souls!
I got the bill and we shook hands in the car park. She asked if I would accompany her to church on Sunday as there was a prayer vigil from 7 am until 3pm.
I asked if I could check my diary and get back to her. I sped out of the car park checking the rear view mirror to make sure I wasn’t being tailed.
I got home cancelled my subscription to love lines and immediately joined Fab where you know a letter to the corinthians won’t be that much of an issue.
I hate it when that happens.
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That you meet a religious nut or my sticky ribs got blessed? |
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"I tried bumble a couple of years ago, found it awful. No one replied once matched. Tried Tinder at the same time and it was a little better, had a few dates from it and some sex but it still had it downsides.
My profile is brutally honest about what I'm looking for so while it may cut the matches down, I'm more like my to match with like-minded people. I've had some good conversations from there recently with a view to meet once we are allowed.
I think it's like most things, pot luck. Depending on your area and what you are looking for.
We need that coffee pronto
On bumble the girk has to make the first move maybe thats why you didn't get a response "
Yeah, I know. I messaged when I matched but got nothing back. Maybe it's me.... |
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over a year ago
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"My most unusual internet dating experience was a couple of years ago. Paid the monthly subscription and set about looking at some lovely ladies.
Arranged to meet Angie in a local country pub ( yes I remember the days). All went well as she was attractive and she said I looked like my pictures.
We went and got a table and the conversation flowed no pregnant pauses. We ordered food which was served in good time. The waiter put the starters on the table and Angie lurched forward and grabbed both my hands. I immediately thought she was a fabster and wanted rampant sex. Sadly no, she wanted to thank the Lord Jesus Christ for the food and asked I minded if she blessed the calamari and sticky ribs whilst saying grace.
From that point the sticky ribs had no appeal whatsoever. She was a recent convert to some local evangelical church group and kept on asking if I wanted to be saved. I sat there for the next two hours in a daze save for imagining Angie naked save for ankle strapped high heels and hold up stockings. Angie on the other hand produced a Gideon bible from her bag ( probably nicked it from the local travel tavern whilst on a fab meeting) and kept on quoting St Paul’s letter to the Corinthians and batting on about saving sinners souls!
I got the bill and we shook hands in the car park. She asked if I would accompany her to church on Sunday as there was a prayer vigil from 7 am until 3pm.
I asked if I could check my diary and get back to her. I sped out of the car park checking the rear view mirror to make sure I wasn’t being tailed.
I got home cancelled my subscription to love lines and immediately joined Fab where you know a letter to the corinthians won’t be that much of an issue."
Sounds like an off-putting experience for sure. Must confess, your story made me chuckle though |
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"My most unusual internet dating experience was a couple of years ago. Paid the monthly subscription and set about looking at some lovely ladies.
Arranged to meet Angie in a local country pub ( yes I remember the days). All went well as she was attractive and she said I looked like my pictures.
We went and got a table and the conversation flowed no pregnant pauses. We ordered food which was served in good time. The waiter put the starters on the table and Angie lurched forward and grabbed both my hands. I immediately thought she was a fabster and wanted rampant sex. Sadly no, she wanted to thank the Lord Jesus Christ for the food and asked I minded if she blessed the calamari and sticky ribs whilst saying grace.
From that point the sticky ribs had no appeal whatsoever. She was a recent convert to some local evangelical church group and kept on asking if I wanted to be saved. I sat there for the next two hours in a daze save for imagining Angie naked save for ankle strapped high heels and hold up stockings. Angie on the other hand produced a Gideon bible from her bag ( probably nicked it from the local travel tavern whilst on a fab meeting) and kept on quoting St Paul’s letter to the Corinthians and batting on about saving sinners souls!
I got the bill and we shook hands in the car park. She asked if I would accompany her to church on Sunday as there was a prayer vigil from 7 am until 3pm.
I asked if I could check my diary and get back to her. I sped out of the car park checking the rear view mirror to make sure I wasn’t being tailed.
I got home cancelled my subscription to love lines and immediately joined Fab where you know a letter to the corinthians won’t be that much of an issue.
Sounds like an off-putting experience for sure. Must confess, your story made me chuckle though "
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"Was on dating sites 8 years ago ,was fantastic they must have deteriorated,my friend was on one same time as me and he also had a fantastic time and actually meet his wife on one , we meet on a dating site 6 years ago might be better for older age group ?
I think they have got worse over time. The internet has made people disposable. "Don't like this one, swipe and get a new one".
I think you may be right about the older age group too. I'm absolutely not saying that people over 50 are 'past it'! But they may have sex lower down on their list of priorities.
Friendship and having things in common may be more important than sex jumping off a wardrobe. So they may treat dating as dating and not as disposable sex toys, if that makes sense. "
Think your right , never went out on the dates with sex being a priority, the ladies I meet mostly was looking for love , |
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I think fab gives more choice for women
I think dating sites give roughly equal choice
I think men fib on dating sites regarding what they want
I think the level of expectation from women on dating sites is off-putting to “normal” men
I had an honest profile on dating/hook up sites. Stating clearly my life choices. More often than not messages received either insulted me (for being honest) or resulted in a few dates which inevitably led to the “so we’re going steady now”...”erm, no”
When I choose to go on bee or firewood, my profile is extremely honest. I do better there than here. But I think that is because in the case of the Bee, women have to make the first move and on Firewood, women actively have to indicate they like someone.
On fab, they can just sit back and it comes to the door, but in that, I believe, many of the problems lie. |
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"My experience has been terrible, I deleted all the apps I tried.
I did notice quite a few men from here.
I’m just resigned to being alone and lonely (where is that yellow pages, hello is that the crazy cat shop..?)"
Oh you poor thing. Never forget, the cosmos has set someone on this planet for you. It’s finding the fecker that’s the problem before they leg it |
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"I think I might need a day off to read through all these replies
I just want a lass to move to Canada with me  "
Can you not move there then meet a lovely lady? |
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"I think I might need a day off to read through all these replies
I just want a lass to move to Canada with me
Can you not move there then meet a lovely lady? "
It’s that kinda thinking that’s gonna get you in trouble.
The first rule to understanding men is that there is a logical way to do things and an illogical way of doing things, men will always pick the illogical way first..... |
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"I think I might need a day off to read through all these replies
I just want a lass to move to Canada with me
Can you not move there then meet a lovely lady?
It’s that kinda thinking that’s gonna get you in trouble.
The first rule to understanding men is that there is a logical way to do things and an illogical way of doing things, men will always pick the illogical way first....."
Hahahahahahahaha loads of my male friends did it the other way around traveled/moved saying they absolutely wouldn't meet anyone or prefer being on their own etc then met someone, got married & stayed permanently |
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"I think I might need a day off to read through all these replies
I just want a lass to move to Canada with me
Can you not move there then meet a lovely lady?
It’s that kinda thinking that’s gonna get you in trouble.
The first rule to understanding men is that there is a logical way to do things and an illogical way of doing things, men will always pick the illogical way first.....
Hahahahahahahaha loads of my male friends did it the other way around traveled/moved saying they absolutely wouldn't meet anyone or prefer being on their own etc then met someone, got married & stayed permanently "
Shhhh we do not talk about “those men” |
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"My experience has been terrible, I deleted all the apps I tried.
I did notice quite a few men from here.
I’m just resigned to being alone and lonely (where is that yellow pages, hello is that the crazy cat shop..?)
Oh you poor thing. Never forget, the cosmos has set someone on this planet for you. It’s finding the fecker that’s the problem before they leg it "
It’ll happen one day |
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Dating sites are rubbish. I was on a few in 2019. Not much different to Fab, full of entitled men but pretending they want love.
Arranged to meet a guy after work. Rocked up and he was in uniform on call in a shopping centre where he had just done a call out and he was in his work uniform, maintenance clothing checking his phone for his next call out, looking round in case he was caught on a date whilst working.
I was not very pleased so told him I had to get off and he never got back in touch. |
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"Dating sites are rubbish. I was on a few in 2019. Not much different to Fab, full of entitled men but pretending they want love.
Arranged to meet a guy after work. Rocked up and he was in uniform on call in a shopping centre where he had just done a call out and he was in his work uniform, maintenance clothing checking his phone for his next call out, looking round in case he was caught on a date whilst working.
I was not very pleased so told him I had to get off and he never got back in touch. "
Thats pretty bad though. I don't mind people checking their phones on dates but when you're sat there for ages while you wait is pretty off-putting. One date I was on, the lady I was with was constantly doing this for ages while I was trying to make convo. When I ask, she said she was checking Facebook. That was my cue to finished my coffee quickly |
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I find it much easier on tinder but then im hoping for a connection with someone who is in to the swinger scene and i dare not advertise it on tinder as too many vanilla people who know me on there. I am not bothered if they asw me
On here as they have same interests then. Am ready for a sex fwb who i cam enjoy doing normal stuff too and if that develops in to something else then even better. |
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"Like it's honestly 10x easier to meet someone on fab for sex than meet someone for a drink/walk/date of a dating site .
Am I missing something? Is there some kind of algorithm or special tactics?"
Are you trying to meet on for a date during lockdown pandemic ? |
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"Like it's honestly 10x easier to meet someone on fab for sex than meet someone for a drink/walk/date of a dating site .
Am I missing something? Is there some kind of algorithm or special tactics?
Are you trying to meet on for a date during lockdown pandemic ? "
You can meet for a socially distanced walk? |
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Free dating sites have far too many fakes / dead accounts / attention seekers etc,
If you use a paid site, many of them allow free members to join. That complete defeats the point of paying for the site even if you're willing to, in theory, pay to filter out the time wasters.
They're there to make money, not help your dating life, and it shows. |
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I think the problem is nobody wants to admit they WANT sex for dear of being labeled sometbing.
or are unclear or cagey about admitting what they DO want. Or place limitations on what they are looking for.
In holland they are far more open.
But i think attitudes to sex are changing with openness |
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I’ve had a lady look at my profile on a dating site about 2/3 times a month for last few months, sent her a message asking to chat, she blocks me, then continues the same pattern of looking at my profile - I just don’t understand |
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"As a single guy I have had way more success on tinder and bumble than on here. I rarely chat to anyone on fab about anything other than sex and that can get tedious."
If I'm looking for a FWB rather than a one and done hook up I have a much better success rate elsewhere, and I agree it's a lot easier to have a conversation that doesn't immediately turn to sex on other sites.
The biggest issue with those sites for me is that they tend to build false expectations. I don't want a relationship, but somehow you sleep with a guy for a year or two and in his head he's already moved in and is naming babies. It always ends badly when my feelings haven't changed.
I figured on here surely that would be less of an issue? |
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Men are at least honest on here about their intentions. Men lie on tinder/bumble. I've been chatting to a guy on tinder, says he wants to go on a date once covid over etc etc, showed me a photo of a leg tattoo, very distinct, felt familiar, and was, cos he is also in fab, declaring just wants NSA as in relationship!!
So huge thanks to you men in fab land who are honest about what they're looking for, really does save the head fuck! |
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It’s because online dating is deceiving. It promotes itself as an easier alternative to “real” dating. Will never pay a dating site to find my soulmate (leave it to kismet). |
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Dateing sites are full of timewasters and the sex pest men who use it for the wrong reasons put women off and make it harder for decent guys who actually want a girlfriend. Never gound it so hard to meet a new girlfriend in my life. Years single and no sign of that changing as cant catch a break on a dateing site with all the idiots. |
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"My most unusual internet dating experience was a couple of years ago. Paid the monthly subscription and set about looking at some lovely ladies.
Arranged to meet Angie in a local country pub ( yes I remember the days). All went well as she was attractive and she said I looked like my pictures.
We went and got a table and the conversation flowed no pregnant pauses. We ordered food which was served in good time. The waiter put the starters on the table and Angie lurched forward and grabbed both my hands. I immediately thought she was a fabster and wanted rampant sex. Sadly no, she wanted to thank the Lord Jesus Christ for the food and asked I minded if she blessed the calamari and sticky ribs whilst saying grace.
From that point the sticky ribs had no appeal whatsoever. She was a recent convert to some local evangelical church group and kept on asking if I wanted to be saved. I sat there for the next two hours in a daze save for imagining Angie naked save for ankle strapped high heels and hold up stockings. Angie on the other hand produced a Gideon bible from her bag ( probably nicked it from the local travel tavern whilst on a fab meeting) and kept on quoting St Paul’s letter to the Corinthians and batting on about saving sinners souls!
I got the bill and we shook hands in the car park. She asked if I would accompany her to church on Sunday as there was a prayer vigil from 7 am until 3pm.
I asked if I could check my diary and get back to her. I sped out of the car park checking the rear view mirror to make sure I wasn’t being tailed.
I got home cancelled my subscription to love lines and immediately joined Fab where you know a letter to the corinthians won’t be that much of an issue.
I take it you hadn't chatted very much before meeting?
Couple of calls but no indication whatsoever of a god junkie."
At least she was useing the dateing site how it should be and was genuinely looking for a relationship. Proves not everyone is a sex pest |
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Dating sites aren't really designed for people wanting casual sex so please don't abuse it for that, as the people who genuinely wanting fulfilling relationships and romance aren't tainted by men just looking for one night stands  |
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"It’s because online dating is deceiving. It promotes itself as an easier alternative to “real” dating. Will never pay a dating site to find my soulmate (leave it to kismet). "
I met a amazing guy who I fell in love with on a dating app... alot of people meet and marry from dating apps.. my friend is marrying her Internet boyfriend this summer. So it does work |
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