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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I see quite a few profiles stating they want to meet someone who can "hold a conversation".
Always makes me chuckle this. I mean, who can't hold a conversation? Babies? Coma patients? I've never met anyone who can't hold a conversation, it's just some are more interesting to me than others.
I get what the request is, that the person is looking for more than just a fuck-and-go, but if that's the case then why not say that, instead of repeating some meaningless platitude.
If there's a plus side, it does help to filter, as anyone who says this is most likely less skilled at conversation than they like to think they are.
So that's my little rant over, and I've probably offended half of fab now. Are there any other hackneyed profile phrases that do your head in? |
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Not offended in any way by your comments but some people really do struggle to hold a conversation. Either they talk so much (nerves usually) that you end up just sitting making a shopping list in your head or they answer all your open ended questions with brief closed answers leaving you at a conversational dead end.
There are quite a few phrases I raise an eyebrow at on profiles but I expect people look at ours and sigh wearily  |
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I disagree O.P.
I've met many a person who thinks that mentioning what is on t.v. that night, the colour of their curtains or what they had for their last meal constitutes meaningful conversation ........
Conversation isn't just speaking in turns. |
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Come to think of it, i've been there myself on many an occassion. It all depends on the content of the conversation and my experience of the topic under discussion. Listening is an underrated skill.
Sometimes it's best to be quiet. |
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Some people have no "substance" cant see past the things that happen in their own lifes. Dont look outside the box
So once all the "how are you doing" thing is over.... its either talk about them or talk about surroundings.
I can't stand football, and as a bloke ..."almost" its the first thing men normally talk about.
I love psychology of other people so if you share common interests there will be stuff to hold the conversation.
Could also be joey essex, might aswell stand at the wall and talk to yourself |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I disagree O.P.
I've met many a person who thinks that mentioning what is on t.v. that night, the colour of their curtains or what they had for their last meal constitutes meaningful conversation ........
Conversation isn't just speaking in turns. "
 Yes. Sometimes I do like to listen and be present in a conversation but a fair few chats in the past on here have involved me asking questions, the person merrily responding and then nothing back. No questions. A closed comment and I can't really respond. It does make me think that they're not particularly interested in me or hearing my opinions on things but sooner or later they pop up with a hey or something, clearly expressing a desire to prolong the one sided chat. 
So no OP, I don't mind if people say they want good conversationalists or similar. It helps narrow down those who only want to talk when their small brain is in control. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My old profile had something similar in the text and while most people can talk, just moving your mouth and spouting random words isn't enough for me. If you can't stimulate my mind, you won't get anywhere need my body.
As usual, it's preference. |
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Well said Meli .......
I have a friend who starts ever meeting with How are you ..... how's ? and hows ? What have you done today ? Did you speak to ?
It's like being fucking interviewed ...... there is NOTHING coming back.
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"Death In Paradise, a retro print in muted yellows and greys, egg and tomato sandwich.
Mary Beard does Pole Dancing, Cherry Red Roller Blind , Home made mushroom soup and salad.....
God you inspire me !"
It's been said many a time 
Or was it "God I despair of you"? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My old profile had something similar in the text and while most people can talk, just moving your mouth and spouting random words isn't enough for me. If you can't stimulate my mind, you won't get anywhere need my body.
As usual, it's preference. "
Isn't that reciprocal though? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I chatted to a guy once, our text conversation flowed effortlessly, but when I asked for a phone call I knew within 1 minute I wouldn't be meeting this guy. It was just so awkward! He didn't have a clue what to say to me, I ended the call after 5 minutes. I've had other first phone calls last an hour or more so yes, some people really are not good at conversation! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Er, I totally disagree with you, plenty of people can’t hold a conversation, have nothing interesting to say outside of what’s the weather like and what did you have for tea. Conversation should flow naturally, have gentle piss taking, if they roll with it and take the piss back you know they’ve got something about them, when it’s hard work it’s like pulling teeth, like when you ask a question, they answer, but leave you nowhere to go and you’re thinking what the fuck can i reply to that. Usually you can get a feel for someone within the first few messages. |
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"I chatted to a guy once, our text conversation flowed effortlessly, but when I asked for a phone call I knew within 1 minute I wouldn't be meeting this guy. It was just so awkward! He didn't have a clue what to say to me, I ended the call after 5 minutes. I've had other first phone calls last an hour or more so yes, some people really are not good at conversation! "
I'm rubbish on the phone with people I don't know. Friends, family, work, the lady from British gas I'm fine. Via the written word I'm very chatty and in person too but on the phone I'm a dud. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I REALLY struggle to hold a conversation unless I know the person well. I find it overwhelming and never know what to say. I'm a very awkward person. So yeah, it's not just babies.  |
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"I chatted to a guy once, our text conversation flowed effortlessly, but when I asked for a phone call I knew within 1 minute I wouldn't be meeting this guy. It was just so awkward! He didn't have a clue what to say to me, I ended the call after 5 minutes. I've had other first phone calls last an hour or more so yes, some people really are not good at conversation! "
I've had the same so many times.
We've in a world now where everything is over text or email.
Phone calls are so rare.
I alwaus get the feeling from people they are embarrassed to talk.
I hate texting, you can never get the vibe or tone someone has.
I'm also dyslexic so you know its more embarrassing for me to type anything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is the weather like C.J. ?
Do those initials go over your head C.J. ? "
How’s you GC ?
How are you finding Fab GC ?
Are you having buttery crumpets for tea GC ? |
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I disagree too Op , there are people that I describe as socially inept , by that I mean that it is impossible to get more than a few words sentence out of them , in any circumstances not just on "swinging" meets / socials.
I find those encounters incredibly "painful" hence I'd rather meet gregarious peeps that " can hold a decent conversation " on all kind of drivel and not just on how much they like my boobs and how hard they are .
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"I chatted to a guy once, our text conversation flowed effortlessly, but when I asked for a phone call I knew within 1 minute I wouldn't be meeting this guy. It was just so awkward! He didn't have a clue what to say to me, I ended the call after 5 minutes. I've had other first phone calls last an hour or more so yes, some people really are not good at conversation!
I've had the same so many times.
We've in a world now where everything is over text or email.
Phone calls are so rare.
I alwaus get the feeling from people they are embarrassed to talk.
I hate texting, you can never get the vibe or tone someone has.
I'm also dyslexic so you know its more embarrassing for me to type anything."
My brothers the same. I text him and he phones me. We play to our strengths |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
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"I REALLY struggle to hold a conversation unless I know the person well. I find it overwhelming and never know what to say. I'm a very awkward person. So yeah, it's not just babies. "
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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There is certainly an art to conversation and it's dictated by *all* people involved in it - and it's not necessarily because one or the other is "good" at it, more that there is a compatibility between those involved, some hidden spark that keeps the conversation flowing from one topic to the next.
I've had chats here that have just rolled and flowed naturally and effortlessly, and others where two messages in you're either struggling to think of something to say, or just know that it won't last another two messages. It doesn't necessarily mean that either person is "bad" at conversation more that there isn't compatibility there, or one or other is not interested in taking it further. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I REALLY struggle to hold a conversation unless I know the person well. I find it overwhelming and never know what to say. I'm a very awkward person. So yeah, it's not just babies. "
Nawwwww, come chat with me and if you do good you can chop my dick  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My old profile had something similar in the text and while most people can talk, just moving your mouth and spouting random words isn't enough for me. If you can't stimulate my mind, you won't get anywhere need my body.
As usual, it's preference.
Isn't that reciprocal though?"
Of course it is but generally I can hold a conversation and have more to talk about than just what I want to do to the other person sexually.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for your responses.
My point was that the ability to converse with other people (ie hold a conversation) is pretty much universal, so to say that you are looking for someone with this ability is to say practically nothing at all.
Of course I recognise that some people are better at conversarion than others, but that all depends on the subject, participants and context, as has been pointed out here by several people.
It's the banality of the phrase itself and its ubiquitous use in profiles that I was taking issue with. |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"I REALLY struggle to hold a conversation unless I know the person well. I find it overwhelming and never know what to say. I'm a very awkward person. So yeah, it's not just babies. "
This is me to a tee, send me a message I can talk for hours, sit me in front of you and I get bashful and awkward and clam up  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Plenty on here that have the chat or should I say that they message OK.
However we have found that most of the men can't hold a conversation when we have seen them at a party or a club. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for your responses.
My point was that the ability to converse with other people (ie hold a conversation) is pretty much universal, so to say that you are looking for someone with this ability is to say practically nothing at all.
Of course I recognise that some people are better at conversarion than others, but that all depends on the subject, participants and context, as has been pointed out here by several people.
It's the banality of the phrase itself and its ubiquitous use in profiles that I was taking issue with."
I get OP, it's the repetitive phrase which covers everything and nothing at the same time if taken literally. Maybe try not to take things so literally, reading between the lines can be fun... |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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I can barely hold a conversation at the moment. My brain is so tired and slow I can't think of anything interesting to say to steer the topic away from the usual mundane stuff.
I take full responsibility for the crap conversations I'm having. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I REALLY struggle to hold a conversation unless I know the person well. I find it overwhelming and never know what to say. I'm a very awkward person. So yeah, it's not just babies.
This is me to a tee, send me a message I can talk for hours, sit me in front of you and I get bashful and awkward and clam up "
Hahahha yup. It's so frustrating.
I really admire people who can see you're worth it and have the patience to stick with you to help you come out of your shell. Because once they manage to crack the shell open, I seriously don't stop talking. I honestly have so much love for those kind of people.
I've had people completely dismiss me as ignorant and rude before, and that shit hurts as I would honestly love to be able to flow conversation easily... if only they knew how difficult it was!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There seems to be two themes to this thread.
A reasonable objective view that it is hard to hold a conversation with someone who replies with monosyllabic responses and offers no return questions/opinions.
Then there is the frankly subjective (and boringly familiar) judgemental comments about the topics others choose to converse about. I too have no interest in football or what's on the TV (and have almost no knowledge of these subjects) but to claim that those who do cannot converse or are somehow less says more about you than them. I wouldn't choose to meet people who have nothing else to talk about that TV but then I wouldn't claim that they are unable to converse either.
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"I REALLY struggle to hold a conversation unless I know the person well. I find it overwhelming and never know what to say. I'm a very awkward person. So yeah, it's not just babies.
This is me to a tee, send me a message I can talk for hours, sit me in front of you and I get bashful and awkward and clam up
Hahahha yup. It's so frustrating.
I really admire people who can see you're worth it and have the patience to stick with you to help you come out of your shell. Because once they manage to crack the shell open, I seriously don't stop talking. I honestly have so much love for those kind of people.
I've had people completely dismiss me as ignorant and rude before, and that shit hurts as I would honestly love to be able to flow conversation easily... if only they knew how difficult it was! "
Once I know someone I'm completely fine, anyone I've had a good chat with on here for example I probably won't be awkward with, complete stranger.. not happening |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would assume "Can hold a conversation" means an actual coherent sentence. The bar is quite low.
Anything better than "wuu2" or "u wanna suk mi dick"."
I had a four word message the other day and there were 3 typos, thats a gift. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I disagree O.P.
I've met many a person who thinks that mentioning what is on t.v. that night, the colour of their curtains or what they had for their last meal constitutes meaningful conversation ........
Conversation isn't just speaking in turns.
Yes. Sometimes I do like to listen and be present in a conversation but a fair few chats in the past on here have involved me asking questions, the person merrily responding and then nothing back. No questions. A closed comment and I can't really respond. It does make me think that they're not particularly interested in me or hearing my opinions on things but sooner or later they pop up with a hey or something, clearly expressing a desire to prolong the one sided chat.
So no OP, I don't mind if people say they want good conversationalists or similar. It helps narrow down those who only want to talk when their small brain is in control."
^^^ this hate it when people do that, you literally have nothing to go on to keep the conversation going in that case I just delete the chat as I cannot be bothered with it. Its just laziness to me |
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"I see quite a few profiles stating they want to meet someone who can "hold a conversation".
Always makes me chuckle this. I mean, who can't hold a conversation? Babies? Coma patients? I've never met anyone who can't hold a conversation, it's just some are more interesting to me than others.
I get what the request is, that the person is looking for more than just a fuck-and-go, but if that's the case then why not say that, instead of repeating some meaningless platitude.
If there's a plus side, it does help to filter, as anyone who says this is most likely less skilled at conversation than they like to think they are.
So that's my little rant over, and I've probably offended half of fab now. Are there any other hackneyed profile phrases that do your head in?"
I've come across plenty who cant hold a conversation.
People who just talk about themselves etc
I fully know where they are coming from. |
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"There is certainly an art to conversation and it's dictated by *all* people involved in it - and it's not necessarily because one or the other is "good" at it, more that there is a compatibility between those involved, some hidden spark that keeps the conversation flowing from one topic to the next.
I've had chats here that have just rolled and flowed naturally and effortlessly, and others where two messages in you're either struggling to think of something to say, or just know that it won't last another two messages. It doesn't necessarily mean that either person is "bad" at conversation more that there isn't compatibility there, or one or other is not interested in taking it further."
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By (user no longer on site)
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Following on from other comments on here. Is it really that necessary to hold a long drawn out conversation? If the primary motive for joining fab and visiting clubs is to play with others then surely all that’s really necessary once you see someone pleasing on the eye is to just check out compatibility and whether anyone wants to play. That’s more enjoyable than sitting around trying to think of something to say. People generally don’t give too much away about their personal lives and quite right too so that doesn’t leave much room for manoeuvre. Small talk just gets pointless and plain boring. Don’t get us wrong we like a chat about subjects in depth. Thoughts please! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Plus what about those who may not be good at making conversation but having said that happen to be excellent when it comes to play. We’ve experienced this someone may appear shy and retiring but you get them in bed and they alive and kicking! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I see quite a few profiles stating they want to meet someone who can "hold a conversation".
Always makes me chuckle this. I mean, who can't hold a conversation? Babies? Coma patients? I've never met anyone who can't hold a conversation, it's just some are more interesting to me than others.
I get what the request is, that the person is looking for more than just a fuck-and-go, but if that's the case then why not say that, instead of repeating some meaningless platitude.
If there's a plus side, it does help to filter, as anyone who says this is most likely less skilled at conversation than they like to think they are.
So that's my little rant over, and I've probably offended half of fab now. Are there any other hackneyed profile phrases that do your head in?"
Think you should add people with a ASD to your list! Yes, we can hold a conversation but it's not always easy |
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I like a good conversation. It can be about anything as long as it's flowing.
Truth be told some days I can chatter away and others I don't have the emotional capacity for it.
At times I can't even string a sentence together.
Maybe I shouldn't log on on those days!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Following on from other comments on here. Is it really that necessary to hold a long drawn out conversation? If the primary motive for joining fab and visiting clubs is to play with others then surely all that’s really necessary once you see someone pleasing on the eye is to just check out compatibility and whether anyone wants to play. That’s more enjoyable than sitting around trying to think of something to say. People generally don’t give too much away about their personal lives and quite right too so that doesn’t leave much room for manoeuvre. Small talk just gets pointless and plain boring. Don’t get us wrong we like a chat about subjects in depth. Thoughts please! "
Personally for us we love the social side of this just as much as the naughty fun, we understand this isn't for everybody which is absolutely fine but I just simply could not jump into bed with someone that cannot hold a conversation as its just off putting for us, we understand this might be different in person / at a club but as we cannot visit them at the moment we can only go from messages exchanged or video chat with that person.
Our first couple we played with we can even call our friends now, have a drink, have a laugh with them and for us it makes that better connection for hot sex! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Following on from other comments on here. Is it really that necessary to hold a long drawn out conversation? If the primary motive for joining fab and visiting clubs is to play with others then surely all that’s really necessary once you see someone pleasing on the eye is to just check out compatibility and whether anyone wants to play. That’s more enjoyable than sitting around trying to think of something to say. People generally don’t give too much away about their personal lives and quite right too so that doesn’t leave much room for manoeuvre. Small talk just gets pointless and plain boring. Don’t get us wrong we like a chat about subjects in depth. Thoughts please! "
That's a good point. If I fancy someone then whether or not they can hold a conversation with me makes no difference whatsoever to whether I want to play with them.
I appreciate this may not be a popular thing to say, but I'd defy anyone who thinks I'm shallow because of it. I'm simply being honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If you wanna talk about daft things on profiles then "loves to laugh" has to be up there.
Who the fuck hates laughing? Anyone?
I know, I know, they're just trying to convey they are cheery natured... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Following on from other comments on here. Is it really that necessary to hold a long drawn out conversation? If the primary motive for joining fab and visiting clubs is to play with others then surely all that’s really necessary once you see someone pleasing on the eye is to just check out compatibility and whether anyone wants to play. That’s more enjoyable than sitting around trying to think of something to say. People generally don’t give too much away about their personal lives and quite right too so that doesn’t leave much room for manoeuvre. Small talk just gets pointless and plain boring. Don’t get us wrong we like a chat about subjects in depth. Thoughts please!
That's a good point. If I fancy someone then whether or not they can hold a conversation with me makes no difference whatsoever to whether I want to play with them.
I appreciate this may not be a popular thing to say, but I'd defy anyone who thinks I'm shallow because of it. I'm simply being honest. "
Definitely not shallow, everyone has their own opinions |
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"I see quite a few profiles stating they want to meet someone who can "hold a conversation".
Always makes me chuckle this. I mean, who can't hold a conversation? Babies? Coma patients? I've never met anyone who can't hold a conversation, it's just some are more interesting to me than others.
I get what the request is, that the person is looking for more than just a fuck-and-go, but if that's the case then why not say that, instead of repeating some meaningless platitude.
If there's a plus side, it does help to filter, as anyone who says this is most likely less skilled at conversation than they like to think they are.
So that's my little rant over, and I've probably offended half of fab now. Are there any other hackneyed profile phrases that do your head in?"
Have you really never met anyone who can’t hold a conversation? I come across many. In real life that is. Those who just struggle on a social level especially with strangers. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Have you really never met anyone who can’t hold a conversation? I come across many. In real life that is. Those who just struggle on a social level especially with strangers."
Of course I've met people who struggle to hold a conversation in certain circumstances, and I've struggled with it myself on more occasions than I care to remember.
But that's my point, everyone can and can't converse to a greater or lesser degree depending on the situation, so to specify it as a meet requirement just appears redundant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would assume "Can hold a conversation" means an actual coherent sentence. The bar is quite low.
Anything better than "wuu2" or "u wanna suk mi dick".
I had a four word message the other day and there were 3 typos, thats a gift. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well said Meli .......
I have a friend who starts ever meeting with How are you ..... how's ? and hows ? What have you done today ? Did you speak to ?
It's like being fucking interviewed ...... there is NOTHING coming back.
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"I see quite a few profiles stating they want to meet someone who can "hold a conversation".
Always makes me chuckle this. I mean, who can't hold a conversation? Babies? Coma patients? I've never met anyone who can't hold a conversation, it's just some are more interesting to me than others.
I get what the request is, that the person is looking for more than just a fuck-and-go, but if that's the case then why not say that, instead of repeating some meaningless platitude.
If there's a plus side, it does help to filter, as anyone who says this is most likely less skilled at conversation than they like to think they are.
So that's my little rant over, and I've probably offended half of fab now. Are there any other hackneyed profile phrases that do your head in?"
I had to double check to see if that was written on my profile and it is
You’d be surprised at how limited some people are with their conversation.
One fabber who I chatted to on my old profile could seriously only talk about sex, everything turns sexual and it irritated the fuck out of me.There’s only some much of such boringness I could take.
It all depends on what someone is after, for me it’s finding someone who I feel like I can have a natural flowing convo without it going dry fee.That interest of wanting to know more and seeing where it goes.
Now with current situation with this pandemic, I feel like I don’t want to put much effort into trying to keep a convo going, I guess I mentally feel out of it.
I’m hoping others are feeling the same way as me or maybe I’m just a little weird
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"I see quite a few profiles stating they want to meet someone who can "hold a conversation".
Always makes me chuckle this. I mean, who can't hold a conversation? Babies? Coma patients? I've never met anyone who can't hold a conversation, it's just some are more interesting to me than others.
I get what the request is, that the person is looking for more than just a fuck-and-go, but if that's the case then why not say that, instead of repeating some meaningless platitude.
If there's a plus side, it does help to filter, as anyone who says this is most likely less skilled at conversation than they like to think they are.
So that's my little rant over, and I've probably offended half of fab now. Are there any other hackneyed profile phrases that do your head in?
I had to double check to see if that was written on my profile and it is
You’d be surprised at how limited some people are with their conversation.
One fabber who I chatted to on my old profile could seriously only talk about sex, everything turns sexual and it irritated the fuck out of me.There’s only some much of such boringness I could take.
It all depends on what someone is after, for me it’s finding someone who I feel like I can have a natural flowing convo without it going dry fee.That interest of wanting to know more and seeing where it goes.
Now with current situation with this pandemic, I feel like I don’t want to put much effort into trying to keep a convo going, I guess I mentally feel out of it.
I’m hoping others are feeling the same way as me or maybe I’m just a little weird
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Although sex is always on my mind somewhere in there.....
I also can’t stand someone who only wants to talk sex....it is probably one of the things that turns me off the most once I have got to know someone a bit. |
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"I see quite a few profiles stating they want to meet someone who can "hold a conversation".
Always makes me chuckle this. I mean, who can't hold a conversation? Babies? Coma patients? I've never met anyone who can't hold a conversation, it's just some are more interesting to me than others.
I get what the request is, that the person is looking for more than just a fuck-and-go, but if that's the case then why not say that, instead of repeating some meaningless platitude.
If there's a plus side, it does help to filter, as anyone who says this is most likely less skilled at conversation than they like to think they are.
So that's my little rant over, and I've probably offended half of fab now. Are there any other hackneyed profile phrases that do your head in?
I had to double check to see if that was written on my profile and it is
You’d be surprised at how limited some people are with their conversation.
One fabber who I chatted to on my old profile could seriously only talk about sex, everything turns sexual and it irritated the fuck out of me.There’s only some much of such boringness I could take.
It all depends on what someone is after, for me it’s finding someone who I feel like I can have a natural flowing convo without it going dry fee.That interest of wanting to know more and seeing where it goes.
Now with current situation with this pandemic, I feel like I don’t want to put much effort into trying to keep a convo going, I guess I mentally feel out of it.
I’m hoping others are feeling the same way as me or maybe I’m just a little weird
Although sex is always on my mind somewhere in there.....
I also can’t stand someone who only wants to talk sex....it is probably one of the things that turns me off the most once I have got to know someone a bit."
Are women worse than men with this??
It just feels like they haven’t got much substance if that’s all they are going to talk about.
I think as sparkle said above - stimulation of the mind is key and that comes on many forms and different for most of us. |
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I think if the chemistry is there the subject of sex is immediately there, however its the subtle cat and mouse and probing each other’s mind while getting goosebumps and trying to hide those horns that are trying to get out!
I love to have a conversation with somebody confident but empathetic at the same time |
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Believe me, there are lots of people who have no clue about how to have a conversation. We have been contacted by several and I've given some of them a chance but they were hopeless. One in particular really only said "Hello", "How are you?", and "Do you want to meet?" several times in different orders. That was the content of his conversation. It was painful. |
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"There is certainly an art to conversation and it's dictated by *all* people involved in it - and it's not necessarily because one or the other is "good" at it, more that there is a compatibility between those involved, some hidden spark that keeps the conversation flowing from one topic to the next.
I've had chats here that have just rolled and flowed naturally and effortlessly, and others where two messages in you're either struggling to think of something to say, or just know that it won't last another two messages. It doesn't necessarily mean that either person is "bad" at conversation more that there isn't compatibility there, or one or other is not interested in taking it further."
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"I would assume "Can hold a conversation" means an actual coherent sentence. The bar is quite low.
Anything better than "wuu2" or "u wanna suk mi dick"."
God women what do you expect?
This is not book club!
Just suck it and shut it |
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"I would assume "Can hold a conversation" means an actual coherent sentence. The bar is quite low.
Anything better than "wuu2" or "u wanna suk mi dick".
God women what do you expect?
This is not book club!
Just suck it and shut it "
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"I would assume "Can hold a conversation" means an actual coherent sentence. The bar is quite low.
Anything better than "wuu2" or "u wanna suk mi dick".
God women what do you expect?
This is not book club!
Just suck it and shut it
Hi bbe u ok "
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