Hello all hope you're well and thanks for taking a min to read this.
I'm fairly new to the swingers scene. Started being into the fet scene first as a sub. I've noticed that things cross over obviously and kinks and desires although generalised are very personalised to each individual.
(Ok mouthful over onto actual question!lol)
From observing and dipping my toe in a couple of times via swingers clubs it seems that this scene is lead by wifes/gf (talking about straight couples swinging)
Does this mean the woman generally are more dominant than their husbands in this scene?
If so, how am I to fit in?! Naturally submissive and at times shy and socially awkward, it seems quite daunting!
Sorry if all that was a bit of long winded woffle! Haven't had a cuppa tea yet    |
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"Hello all hope you're well and thanks for taking a min to read this.
I'm fairly new to the swingers scene. Started being into the fet scene first as a sub. I've noticed that things cross over obviously and kinks and desires although generalised are very personalised to each individual.
(Ok mouthful over onto actual question!lol)
From observing and dipping my toe in a couple of times via swingers clubs it seems that this scene is lead by wifes/gf (talking about straight couples swinging)
Does this mean the woman generally are more dominant than their husbands in this scene?
If so, how am I to fit in?! Naturally submissive and at times shy and socially awkward, it seems quite daunting!
Sorry if all that was a bit of long winded woffle! Haven't had a cuppa tea yet "
Is this Mrs talking?
I don’t think there is a prescribed form, it can be led by either than man or woman, depending on your dynamic? |
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No, in my experience it's mostly led by the men but the women get most of the attention.
As a couple, who would you say has pushed for the move from the fet scene to swinging in your relationship? |
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"Hello all hope you're well and thanks for taking a min to read this.
I'm fairly new to the swingers scene. Started being into the fet scene first as a sub. I've noticed that things cross over obviously and kinks and desires although generalised are very personalised to each individual.
(Ok mouthful over onto actual question!lol)
From observing and dipping my toe in a couple of times via swingers clubs it seems that this scene is lead by wifes/gf (talking about straight couples swinging)
Does this mean the woman generally are more dominant than their husbands in this scene?
If so, how am I to fit in?! Naturally submissive and at times shy and socially awkward, it seems quite daunting!
Sorry if all that was a bit of long winded woffle! Haven't had a cuppa tea yet
Is this Mrs talking?
I don’t think there is a prescribed form, it can be led by either than man or woman, depending on your dynamic?"
Yes it is, ah ok just must be from what I've seen so far. Thanks for that |
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"No, in my experience it's mostly led by the men but the women get most of the attention.
As a couple, who would you say has pushed for the move from the fet scene to swinging in your relationship? "
Ahh ok I'd not thought of it like that thank you.
Hmmm not sure, he was already in the scene as a single man when we met and I had already kind of stepped away from kink a bit. So it seems we both had the same idea really |
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"Thats where the difference and indifference lies with swinging and dom/sub S & M.
The lifestyle plays how you choose to play it so there are no rules to follow as such."
Hmmm I see, that does make sense thank you |
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The woman is in charge, by the means if she says NO, its a no or stop.
If shes says no in the first instant. It's a no, don't pursue or hound her to meet / play.
If in the middle of a play she says no or stop. You stop!
If after a meet or play she says stop or no. You guessed it!
No matter if single fem, a couple or in the middle of a gangbang. |
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"The woman is in charge, by the means if she says NO, its a no or stop.
If shes says no in the first instant. It's a no, don't pursue or hound her to meet / play.
If in the middle of a play she says no or stop. You stop!
If after a meet or play she says stop or no. You guessed it!
No matter if single fem, a couple or in the middle of a gangbang. "
What if the guy says no? |
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"The woman is in charge, by the means if she says NO, its a no or stop.
If shes says no in the first instant. It's a no, don't pursue or hound her to meet / play.
If in the middle of a play she says no or stop. You stop!
If after a meet or play she says stop or no. You guessed it!
No matter if single fem, a couple or in the middle of a gangbang.
What if the guy says no? "
Ohhh could be a touchy subject....
But I 100% agree, every single participant should be equal and have the right to say no and everybody stops! |
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I guess it depends how submissive you are. I like certain aspects of it but not fully into it. It's me who does the chatting on here and I choose who we meet when it comes to the men. If we are playing with someone who I am going to be submissive with then the men will take control when it comes down to play but i will have discussed expectations before the meet so we all know how it's to play out.
I think you just find the way that it works for you.
Kx |
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