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Ok.... sure this has been asked before but I'm quite new to it And really curious.
There are some absolutely outstanding looking people on this site, why do you need fab to get what your after?
Surely your mail boxes are overflowing as it is?
Love. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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Probably the short answer is that for swingers, this is one of the places to make those connections, and as clubs are out, online is the only real way now.
For non swingers, basically same answer. |
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"Ok.... sure this has been asked before but I'm quite new to it And really curious.
There are some absolutely outstanding looking people on this site, why do you need fab to get what your after?
Surely your mail boxes are overflowing as it is?
Love. "
Restraining orders. |
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"So is it for you the forums and stuff like that?
Just noticed aswell stuff like the party invitations.
Think I've just answered my own question  "
Forums are mostly idle entertainment for me. The group socials I'm interested in though and it's good for staying in touch with people I meet in clubs or finding out about new events. Occasionally I meet the odd person too  . |
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"Ok.... sure this has been asked before but I'm quite new to it And really curious.
There are some absolutely outstanding looking people on this site, why do you need fab to get what your after?
Surely your mail boxes are overflowing as it is?
Love. "
Is this a trick question... Those that answer think they're outstanding in order to answer it?
Ignoring that aspect....
I don't think I could find the kinks and swinging lifestyle in the vanilla world. Nothing to do with what people look like. All about what they are into.
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"It is crazy seeing model looking folk saying what they want as if they can't get it.
But obviously its the build up of mutral understanding.
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Couple of things...
If you use reply+quote then we know who you are replying to.
Also, not all folk on here are model looking, and it's for everyone. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't need it what with being so outstanding.
I do prefer it though, it's easier for me to explain my situation. The men who approach me at supermarkets (or pubs/bars back in days of yore) are very much after a quick, discreet bonk. Or they are the sort who worry that if they do more than briefly glance at your lips you're going to fall madly in love with them. Women in the real world can't have casual sex without picking out their wedding dress apparently.
And yes, the forum can be a hoot at times, an eye roll at others. It's fun overall. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Ha no although it could be seen that way... ots more of a universal question for the group.
Is there something I'm missing? Are you all mates from parties and such.
Did say I was a newbie  "
I have some friends and acquaintances on Fab, but not many use the forums.
I do get plenty of sex from places other than Fab. I like a lot of people to choose from.
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"So is it for you the forums and stuff like that?
Just noticed aswell stuff like the party invitations.
Think I've just answered my own question
Forums are mostly idle entertainment for me. The group socials I'm interested in though and it's good for staying in touch with people I meet in clubs or finding out about new events. Occasionally I meet the odd person too . "
Sometimes it's the very odd person...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m actually massively socially awkward. Fabswingers has been a great way for me to make friends and to be upfront about what I’m looking for.
I also find it the best site for finding couples to have fun with which I enjoy.
I struggle massively to find relationships and I often mess them up over thinking so I’ve kinda given up for now! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ha no although it could be seen that way... ots more of a universal question for the group.
Is there something I'm missing? Are you all mates from parties and such.
Did say I was a newbie "
Are you? Your profile is over a year old.  |
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"I don't need it what with being so outstanding.
I do prefer it though, it's easier for me to explain my situation. The men who approach me at supermarkets (or pubs/bars back in days of yore) are very much after a quick, discreet bonk. Or they are the sort who worry that if they do more than briefly glance at your lips you're going to fall madly in love with them. Women in the real world can't have casual sex without picking out their wedding dress apparently.
And yes, the forum can be a hoot at times, an eye roll at others. It's fun overall."
That's it. Was just wandering
Sorry I'll get used to it.
Main concern people were going to say they were fake profiles etc.
And im far from model looks dont mean we don't find someone attractive.
Id prefer sexy over looks any day |
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"It is crazy seeing model looking folk saying what they want as if they can't get it.
But obviously its the build up of mutral understanding.
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I'm guessing you mean single people who use fab as a hook up site, couples ues fab as you cannot just walk upto another couple in the pub and ask to swop partners |
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We can’t play so it’s about maintaining relationships, establishing new ones for when times allow us to meet others.
It’s also the only place you can actually be yourself...in vanilla world you have to hide a part of you.
Plus we can’t post these pics on other social platforms as my family might be a little surprised 
K |
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"Ok.... sure this has been asked before but I'm quite new to it And really curious.
There are some absolutely outstanding looking people on this site, why do you need fab to get what your after?
Surely your mail boxes are overflowing as it is?
Love.
Is this a trick question... Those that answer think they're outstanding in order to answer it?
Ignoring that aspect....
I don't think I could find the kinks and swinging lifestyle in the vanilla world. Nothing to do with what people look like. All about what they are into.
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I didnt take it that way. That would have been "There are some absolutely outstanding looking people on this site, why do they need fab to get what they're after?" The change in person I took to mean a general statement followed by a direct question. Could just be me though. |
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"I’m actually massively socially awkward. Fabswingers has been a great way for me to make friends and to be upfront about what I’m looking for.
I also find it the best site for finding couples to have fun with which I enjoy.
I struggle massively to find relationships and I often mess them up over thinking so I’ve kinda given up for now! "
I'm like that too.
But only around the wrong people im super confident of i feel comfortable.
Can say I've never met anyone off a site like this.
Obviously always been dating apps. Been hurt, dont really want a relationship but boy has needs you know? |
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"Ha no although it could be seen that way... ots more of a universal question for the group.
Is there something I'm missing? Are you all mates from parties and such.
Did say I was a newbie
Are you? Your profile is over a year old. "
I had no photos or anything I joined to see if a mate was in here, then just got into it.
I'll be honest I read profiles all day I absolutely love seeing what people's kicks are.
Makes me so horny.
But yeah only just started talking and putting pics up. |
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"So is it for you the forums and stuff like that?
Just noticed aswell stuff like the party invitations.
Think I've just answered my own question
Forums are mostly idle entertainment for me. The group socials I'm interested in though and it's good for staying in touch with people I meet in clubs or finding out about new events. Occasionally I meet the odd person too .
Sometimes it's the very odd person... "
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"It is crazy seeing model looking folk saying what they want as if they can't get it.
But obviously its the build up of mutral understanding.
I'm guessing you mean single people who use fab as a hook up site, couples ues fab as you cannot just walk upto another couple in the pub and ask to swop partners "
But you can use dating sites.
There are other means.
I'm just saying this more to the women if anything.
Its hard to find someone unattractive here. Just normally on social media youll alwaus get the try hard blokes.
Thsts why I thought it was a bit odd. Just now understand why a lot more.
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For us as a couple it’s a way of trying to find other like minded couples. Not easy to do that outside of a site like this as we live abroad and don’t do clubs.
For singles I think it’s a bit like a sex dating site.
Actually if you’d asked us the definition of swingers we would have said couples, we don’t really class singles as swingers
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"It is crazy seeing model looking folk saying what they want as if they can't get it.
But obviously its the build up of mutral understanding.
I'm guessing you mean single people who use fab as a hook up site, couples ues fab as you cannot just walk upto another couple in the pub and ask to swop partners
But you can use dating sites.
There are other means.
I'm just saying this more to the women if anything.
Its hard to find someone unattractive here. Just normally on social media youll alwaus get the try hard blokes.
Thsts why I thought it was a bit odd. Just now understand why a lot more.
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Let's turn the question around, OP - why not fab? 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like fab, because I can chat to likeminded people.... share pics of me nekkid and have a nice time....Facebook are far less understanding..... lols I don’t know any other places I can do that!!  |
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Why wouldn't anyone into the lifestyle or looking for others with similar sexual interests be on here?
Looks are no guarantee of anything.
Put me in a regular pub and I'm an object of ridicule more often than not, on here where your character shows through via the forums and its a different matter.
I'm average looking but this place works for me. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
The simple answer OP is that the underlying purpose of the site is so that people can meet others for NSA sex (it might not be what everyone uses it for, but it's still the underlying principle) - so it makes sense that if that is what someone is looking for for them to join here rather than use other means.
At least that initial ice has been broken in terms of any awkwardness about what you're looking for and being able to be relatively open and honest about sexual desires, which might not be the case via more traditional routes. |
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"It is crazy seeing model looking folk saying what they want as if they can't get it.
But obviously its the build up of mutral understanding.
I'm guessing you mean single people who use fab as a hook up site, couples ues fab as you cannot just walk upto another couple in the pub and ask to swop partners
But you can use dating sites.
There are other means.
I'm just saying this more to the women if anything.
Its hard to find someone unattractive here. Just normally on social media youll alwaus get the try hard blokes.
Thsts why I thought it was a bit odd. Just now understand why a lot more.
Let's turn the question around, OP - why not fab?
Mrs kf x"
No no I love it. Dont take it away.
Was actually just curious that's all
Just cant imagine a girl like you not being bombarded else where. |
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"Why wouldn't anyone into the lifestyle or looking for others with similar sexual interests be on here?
Looks are no guarantee of anything.
Put me in a regular pub and I'm an object of ridicule more often than not, on here where your character shows through via the forums and its a different matter.
I'm average looking but this place works for me."
Same for me mate, people are just shit but I genuinely believe your in the wrong place.
I know essex shouldn't be my home. |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria |
"Ha no although it could be seen that way... ots more of a universal question for the group.
Is there something I'm missing? Are you all mates from parties and such.
Did say I was a newbie "
It would be one heck of a big party  |
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"Ha no although it could be seen that way... ots more of a universal question for the group.
Is there something I'm missing? Are you all mates from parties and such.
Did say I was a newbie
It would be one heck of a big party "
Id be watching wouldn't know where to look |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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As a single woman who is not looking for hook ups I wouldn't walk up to a man in a pub and ask if he's looking for a friend with benefits, then reel off what I'm looking for.
He would probably think I'm a lunatic.
On here men can read my profile blurb (oh I really wish they all would) and message me
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok.... sure this has been asked before but I'm quite new to it And really curious.
There are some absolutely outstanding looking people on this site, why do you need fab to get what your after?
Surely your mail boxes are overflowing as it is?
Love.
Is this a trick question... Those that answer think they're outstanding in order to answer it?
Ignoring that aspect....
I don't think I could find the kinks and swinging lifestyle in the vanilla world. Nothing to do with what people look like. All about what they are into.
I didnt take it that way. That would have been "There are some absolutely outstanding looking people on this site, why do they need fab to get what they're after?" The change in person I took to mean a general statement followed by a direct question. Could just be me though. "
I may well have read it wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are some absolutely outstanding looking people on this site, why do you need fab to get what your after? "
I think it's fairly naïve to think that just because people look attractive their lives are sexually fulfilled.
It's a bit like assuming that because people are rich they must be happy. |
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"On here men can read my profile blurb (oh I really wish they all would) and message me "
Would read it if your profile wasn't hidden
To add my 2p to this conversation, I do believe it's so that like minded people can connect without the social derogatory comments, or the awkward glares of disgust etc..
Society doesn't like swinging as it's considered taboo. So people (fab users) end up on here to connect, share stories, and sometimes arrange get together's. |
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"Ok.... sure this has been asked before but I'm quite new to it And really curious.
There are some absolutely outstanding looking people on this site, why do you need fab to get what your after?
Surely your mail boxes are overflowing as it is?
Love.
Is this a trick question... Those that answer think they're outstanding in order to answer it?
Ignoring that aspect....
I don't think I could find the kinks and swinging lifestyle in the vanilla world. Nothing to do with what people look like. All about what they are into.
I didnt take it that way. That would have been "There are some absolutely outstanding looking people on this site, why do they need fab to get what they're after?" The change in person I took to mean a general statement followed by a direct question. Could just be me though.
I may well have read it wrong. "
I'm certainly not the best at gathering scribblings together.
It was a lot more innocent but I got it straight away. |
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I don’t for a minute think I’m outstanding or model looking, I’d just like to say that upfront. I probably would get interest on Tinder or whatever, if I could be bothered with it, but I don’t think that means I’m anything special. I used to get interest offline as well, in the days when we could go out, it just wasn’t the kind of interest I was interested in.
If you see Fab as a place for singles to hook up with other singles for NSA sex, then I can see why you might wonder what people get here that they can’t get elsewhere. Personally, I would never use Tinder or anything like it, because I’m not interested in a string of dismal ONS with sexually unadventurous men. I’m here because I want more than that. Where else would I look for three-, four-, and moresomes? Would Tinder be any use for arranging a gangbang? Doubt it! So regardless of what I might look like, what I can get elsewhere just doesn’t measure up to what I can get here. |
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"I don’t for a minute think I’m outstanding or model looking, I’d just like to say that upfront. I probably would get interest on Tinder or whatever, if I could be bothered with it, but I don’t think that means I’m anything special. I used to get interest offline as well, in the days when we could go out, it just wasn’t the kind of interest I was interested in.
If you see Fab as a place for singles to hook up with other singles for NSA sex, then I can see why you might wonder what people get here that they can’t get elsewhere. Personally, I would never use Tinder or anything like it, because I’m not interested in a string of dismal ONS with sexually unadventurous men. I’m here because I want more than that. Where else would I look for three-, four-, and moresomes? Would Tinder be any use for arranging a gangbang? Doubt it! So regardless of what I might look like, what I can get elsewhere just doesn’t measure up to what I can get here."
Yeah, there's so much more I understand now.
Suppose you girls are sick of the
Can you send "bobs and vergine"
Here you get what you want.
Like I said it was a lot more innocent feel a bit stupid now. |
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"There are some absolutely outstanding looking people on this site, why do you need fab to get what your after?
I think it's fairly naïve to think that just because people look attractive their lives are sexually fulfilled.
It's a bit like assuming that because people are rich they must be happy."
I've been with a lot of women mate. None have been forward or as kinky as some here.
Point was they must just be getting attention everywhere.
But now I know you can be who you want here.
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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago
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"I don’t for a minute think I’m outstanding or model looking, I’d just like to say that upfront. I probably would get interest on Tinder or whatever, if I could be bothered with it, but I don’t think that means I’m anything special. I used to get interest offline as well, in the days when we could go out, it just wasn’t the kind of interest I was interested in.
If you see Fab as a place for singles to hook up with other singles for NSA sex, then I can see why you might wonder what people get here that they can’t get elsewhere. Personally, I would never use Tinder or anything like it, because I’m not interested in a string of dismal ONS with sexually unadventurous men. I’m here because I want more than that. Where else would I look for three-, four-, and moresomes? Would Tinder be any use for arranging a gangbang? Doubt it! So regardless of what I might look like, what I can get elsewhere just doesn’t measure up to what I can get here."
This post perfectly answers the question.
This is a swinger (kink) site with the clue in the name. It is not meant to be a vanilla dating site. Sure some folks meet for one-on-one but they are still looking for kink or adventurous playmates. |
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over a year ago
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I hadn't long come out of a relationship that put me off relationships for life.
A friend was on here and kept telling me how much fun there is out there.
I needed smiles so I joined.
It's that simples x |
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"Why wouldn't anyone into the lifestyle or looking for others with similar sexual interests be on here?
Looks are no guarantee of anything.
Put me in a regular pub and I'm an object of ridicule more often than not, on here where your character shows through via the forums and its a different matter.
I'm average looking but this place works for me.
Same for me mate, people are just shit but I genuinely believe your in the wrong place.
I know essex shouldn't be my home. "
I'm definitely not in the wrong place, I've met my best friend through Fab amd some bloody lovely people too and had some amazing times at the few clubs I have been to before we were all locked down and the clubs closed and that was due to Fab and some of the frankly lovely people on here.
I'm in the right place for me.
Oh and calling a tv/ts person mate isn't the right thing to do but I'll let you off this time  |
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"Why wouldn't anyone into the lifestyle or looking for others with similar sexual interests be on here?
Looks are no guarantee of anything.
Put me in a regular pub and I'm an object of ridicule more often than not, on here where your character shows through via the forums and its a different matter.
I'm average looking but this place works for me.
Same for me mate, people are just shit but I genuinely believe your in the wrong place.
I know essex shouldn't be my home.
I'm definitely not in the wrong place, I've met my best friend through Fab amd some bloody lovely people too and had some amazing times at the few clubs I have been to before we were all locked down and the clubs closed and that was due to Fab and some of the frankly lovely people on here.
I'm in the right place for me.
Oh and calling a tv/ts person mate isn't the right thing to do but I'll let you off this time "
I legit call everyone mate.
No offence at all
And im glad yoyr happy,just wouldn't be the centre of ridicule if it was the right place.
Wow I think my first day on forums are going down like a bag o shit!
Not intended at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's fairly naïve to think that just because people look attractive their lives are sexually fulfilled.
It's a bit like assuming that because people are rich they must be happy.
I've been with a lot of women mate. None have been forward or as kinky as some here.
Point was they must just be getting attention everywhere. "
You ask a fair question about why people feel the need to use this site, but I was slightly offended by the implication that it should not be necessary for good looking people (even if you didn't intend it, the implication was there).
Also saying things like "I've been with a lot of women mate" is not likely to endear yourself to many people. |
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I think it's fairly naïve to think that just because people look attractive their lives are sexually fulfilled.
It's a bit like assuming that because people are rich they must be happy.
I've been with a lot of women mate. None have been forward or as kinky as some here.
Point was they must just be getting attention everywhere.
You ask a fair question about why people feel the need to use this site, but I was slightly offended by the implication that it should not be necessary for good looking people (even if you didn't intend it, the implication was there).
Also saying things like "I've been with a lot of women mate" is not likely to endear yourself to many people."
It wasn't intended and it would only be the truth. I've also been in a secure relationship with a great sex life for 8 years and had two kids.
And if yoyr talking like I'm objectifying women im not. Simply saying in my experience they have never been kinky not like this site. I get it a lot more now.
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over a year ago
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I don't need Fab but I enjoy it. I use a mixture of places including "vanilla" sites too. I like the forum (sometimes) the friends I've made, how it works and the fact I can post pics that I can't in most places. They aren't really suitable for FB
Welcome to the forum OP |
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"I don't need Fab but I enjoy it. I use a mixture of places including "vanilla" sites too. I like the forum (sometimes) the friends I've made, how it works and the fact I can post pics that I can't in most places. They aren't really suitable for FB
Welcome to the forum OP "
Thank you mate I appreciate it.
Not off to a good start but as a newb its just a learning curve.
If there was dog shit id be tredding on it, always put my foot in it somehow.
Cheers for the welcome x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm guessing you mean single people who use fab as a hook up site, couples ues fab as you cannot just walk upto another couple in the pub and ask to swop partners "
Agree! Basically this reason for us lol |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
Redhill |
I’ve been socialising online since 1992, during my first year at university. The internet provided me with such relief- making friends easily, whether it was in the same computer lab or thousands of miles away from me. It helped a lot with my social awkwardness. I met my husband online in 1998, when it was still seen as “weird” if anyone dated/married anyone they’d met online.
Since then I have used all sorts of social internet tools to meet people of different interests, so Fab is a natural step for me. I consider myself relatively insecure in real life- so talking online is so much easier and more natural for me. Progression to a face-to-face meet is much more natural and fluid and happier when time has been invested talking...
I have no “needs” whatsoever, I am not desperate for sex and my purpose on Fab has been to meet amazing people and collect incredible moments and memories, and oh boy, has this little website delivered on that front. I owe it so much.   |
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