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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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On my social media today on one of the groups that I'm in somebody mention Valentine's Day saying should it be scrapped? So now I am asking you guys and girls that you think it should just be scrapped. I've always said if there is someone out there yeah that you love and you are in a relationship you should show that person how special they are everyday not just one day to get their leg over  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I think birthday should definitely be scrapped that way I could pretend that I'm still only 21 and get lucky all the time  but then again who am I kidding  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't mind more excuses to celebrate and have some joy. You can opt in or out, but cancel? Bit extreme. But this reminds me there were some protests in India few years back against it!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well well it's amazing with me working in retail the amount of flowers that come in the amount of chocolates that come in the champagne the bottles of wine and even now in some £1 stores they are actually selling sexual toys just for Valentine's Day as a special offer |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well well it's amazing with me working in retail the amount of flowers that come in the amount of chocolates that come in the champagne the bottles of wine and even now in some £1 stores they are actually selling sexual toys just for Valentine's Day as a special offer "
Again you don't have to give in to all the consumerism and keep it low budget. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm an old romantic. I love valentines day. Yup I'm single, but I think romance and love should be shown every day, but valentines gives the extra excuse to be extra romantic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love it when I'm in a relationship but I am a ridiculous romantic.
My 10 year old said he was sad because he might not get a card, I replied saying that neither would I so don't worry about it. He said 'no offence mummy but you have been single forever so you are used to it'....out of the mouths of babes eh  |
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I don't think it should be scrapped, but I agree it's lush making gestures to show love all year round.
It can amplify feelings of loneliness for those not in relationships, but so does Xmas, birthdays, would be anniversaries, seeing any kind of social media where others are plastering their "wonderful life" in people's faces.
Valentines was more painful for me whilst in relationships than not if I'm honest. I'm uber romantic and adore things like flowers or house plants, gestures etc. My abusive ex preferred the pub and my last ex was either away with work or elsewhere.
Relying on other people to make you feel important only lends itself to disappointment.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't celebrate it, we don't need a day of the year to let each other know they are loved or fancied. It's important for us that we both feel and know that all the time.
I am not saying to get rid of the occasion though as many people really do enjoy it and I think that's sweet.
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I'm in two minds about it, I'm not an overly romantic person to be honest so I find it a bit ott personally. But I also have friends who adore it.
I find it strange though with little kids the age of 4 are giving cards and gifts in school though. That to me doesn't fit right whatsoever. |
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"I love Valentines day...
It usually means Pancake day is just around the corner
16th February this year. Very close together"
I'm sure there will be lots of post valentine's tossing threads on here |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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I find it strange though with little kids the age of 4 are giving cards and gifts in school though. That to me doesn't fit right whatsoever. "
I completely agree with you on that. It just feels so wrong.
When I was young my parents told me it was a day for grown ups to give and receive cards and presents (they did that spontaneously at other times as well though). |
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I find it strange though with little kids the age of 4 are giving cards and gifts in school though. That to me doesn't fit right whatsoever.
I completely agree with you on that. It just feels so wrong.
When I was young my parents told me it was a day for grown ups to give and receive cards and presents (they did that spontaneously at other times as well though)."
In Ms daughter school they exchange gifts and cards at 4!!! I wasn't that impressed to be honest. Imagine being the only child in class not to get one? Bad enough as an adult  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't think it should be scrapped. It is a big money making scheme but to be honest I like an excuse to have a little bit of an extra special night.
I let my partner know every single day that I love him, but a day dedicated to making a big deal out of it isn't too bad in my opinion.
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I find it strange though with little kids the age of 4 are giving cards and gifts in school though. That to me doesn't fit right whatsoever.
I completely agree with you on that. It just feels so wrong.
When I was young my parents told me it was a day for grown ups to give and receive cards and presents (they did that spontaneously at other times as well though).
In Ms daughter school they exchange gifts and cards at 4!!! I wasn't that impressed to be honest. Imagine being the only child in class not to get one? Bad enough as an adult "
I was just thinking, does it build character getting left out or create insecurity?
I think it will be very rare on the occasion it builds character. |
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I find it strange though with little kids the age of 4 are giving cards and gifts in school though. That to me doesn't fit right whatsoever.
I completely agree with you on that. It just feels so wrong.
When I was young my parents told me it was a day for grown ups to give and receive cards and presents (they did that spontaneously at other times as well though).
In Ms daughter school they exchange gifts and cards at 4!!! I wasn't that impressed to be honest. Imagine being the only child in class not to get one? Bad enough as an adult
I was just thinking, does it build character getting left out or create insecurity?
I think it will be very rare on the occasion it builds character. "
To me that the girls are also learning that their worth is measured by boys fancying them which is mind boggling |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
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I find it strange though with little kids the age of 4 are giving cards and gifts in school though. That to me doesn't fit right whatsoever.
I completely agree with you on that. It just feels so wrong.
When I was young my parents told me it was a day for grown ups to give and receive cards and presents (they did that spontaneously at other times as well though).
In Ms daughter school they exchange gifts and cards at 4!!! I wasn't that impressed to be honest. Imagine being the only child in class not to get one? Bad enough as an adult
I was just thinking, does it build character getting left out or create insecurity?
I think it will be very rare on the occasion it builds character.
To me that the girls are also learning that their worth is measured by boys fancying them which is mind boggling "
I think it's appalling for both those reasons. But the last one... shows both boys and girls that they're measured by their appeal. |
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I find it strange though with little kids the age of 4 are giving cards and gifts in school though. That to me doesn't fit right whatsoever.
I completely agree with you on that. It just feels so wrong.
When I was young my parents told me it was a day for grown ups to give and receive cards and presents (they did that spontaneously at other times as well though).
In Ms daughter school they exchange gifts and cards at 4!!! I wasn't that impressed to be honest. Imagine being the only child in class not to get one? Bad enough as an adult
I was just thinking, does it build character getting left out or create insecurity?
I think it will be very rare on the occasion it builds character.
To me that the girls are also learning that their worth is measured by boys fancying them which is mind boggling
I think it's appalling for both those reasons. But the last one... shows both boys and girls that they're measured by their appeal."
Exactly wrong at the age of 4. Though the boys think they'll catch some disease if they kiss a girl. I'm happy enough with them thinking that at the moment |
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