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At the moment you'll struggle because of the pandemic. The site is a lot quieter than it was, most aren't meeting (and it's against the rules/ law).
Do you think your messages and your profile give the best impression of you? |
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It's a website not a microwave you've lost the manual to, so I'm not sure entirely what you mean by "doing it wrong". We've been in a pandemic for a year (all but a couple of weeks) so you'd be needing to be referring to your time before covid struck to have any baring.
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By *arko B OP Man
over a year ago
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"At the moment you'll struggle because of the pandemic. The site is a lot quieter than it was, most aren't meeting (and it's against the rules/ law).
Do you think your messages and your profile give the best impression of you?"
This is true & maybe that’s something I may need to look at, thank you |
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By *arko B OP Man
over a year ago
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"It's a website not a microwave you've lost the manual to, so I'm not sure entirely what you mean by "doing it wrong". We've been in a pandemic for a year (all but a couple of weeks) so you'd be needing to be referring to your time before covid struck to have any baring.
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Haha, makes sense lol |
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"To be honest your profile says nothing about you and doesn't make you stand out.
Never thought I would have to spend time on my profile... might as well treat it like my CV. Noted "
I'm flabbergasted, what were your expectations? How did you hear about the site and what drew you to it?
I can be a sarcastic little fucknugget but I'm genuinely curious. |
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By *arko B OP Man
over a year ago
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"Have you seen the news, OP?
No
P'raps ask ya mum to fill you in about whats been happening in the world"
I mean, I know what’s happening on in the world. Everyone must do. But, I’m not talking about only now, I’ve had my account since 2018. |
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over a year ago
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"To be honest your profile says nothing about you and doesn't make you stand out.
Never thought I would have to spend time on my profile... might as well treat it like my CV. Noted "
Funny joke
Haha |
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"Have you seen the news, OP?
No
P'raps ask ya mum to fill you in about whats been happening in the world
I mean, I know what’s happening on in the world. Everyone must do. But, I’m not talking about only now, I’ve had my account since 2018."
And you've not learnt in 3 years you'd be better off writing a profile? How many clubs did you go to? How many organised socials did you go to? If you're into kink how many munches did you go to?
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By *arko B OP Man
over a year ago
Dartford |
"To be honest your profile says nothing about you and doesn't make you stand out.
Never thought I would have to spend time on my profile... might as well treat it like my CV. Noted
I'm flabbergasted, what were your expectations? How did you hear about the site and what drew you to it?
I can be a sarcastic little fucknugget but I'm genuinely curious."
I mean, I was using Craigslist before the dating section got taken down, I was looking everywhere for a site like that & came across fabswingers. |
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By *arko B OP Man
over a year ago
Dartford |
"Do you really think 2 cock pictures that are basically the same and one with your middle finger is really going to grab attention or make you stand out?"
Thanks, taking a lot of notes & learning... don’t worry |
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"To be honest your profile says nothing about you and doesn't make you stand out.
Never thought I would have to spend time on my profile... might as well treat it like my CV. Noted
I'm flabbergasted, what were your expectations? How did you hear about the site and what drew you to it?
I can be a sarcastic little fucknugget but I'm genuinely curious.
I mean, I was using Craigslist before the dating section got taken down, I was looking everywhere for a site like that & came across fabswingers. "
You must realise that age wise you're in a very niche market. The average age here is easily 40 and many folks won't entertain people who are young enough age wise to be their own children.
It sounds like you were expecting to show a bit of cock and that's all you needed to do.
What's your idea of swinging? It ain't a trick question coz people so use the site in different ways. |
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Agree with the other posters regarding profile and pics (I'm personally not a fan of dick pics and really don't like people using the middle finger) but what are you messages like? If you're sending "How's you?/What's up?/Wanna fuck/cam?" then I imagine most will just delete
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"I mean, you're quite literally telling everyone to fuck off in your display pic... yep. Have to agree with Amber on the finger pic.
Its not really the kind of finger action that I'd like !! "
I use the middle finger and that's not because I think I'm cool, or hard.... it's coz I actually want people to fuck right off. No mixed messages from me! |
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By *arko B OP Man
over a year ago
Dartford |
"To be honest your profile says nothing about you and doesn't make you stand out.
Never thought I would have to spend time on my profile... might as well treat it like my CV. Noted
I'm flabbergasted, what were your expectations? How did you hear about the site and what drew you to it?
I can be a sarcastic little fucknugget but I'm genuinely curious.
I mean, I was using Craigslist before the dating section got taken down, I was looking everywhere for a site like that & came across fabswingers.
You must realise that age wise you're in a very niche market. The average age here is easily 40 and many folks won't entertain people who are young enough age wise to be their own children.
It sounds like you were expecting to show a bit of cock and that's all you needed to do.
What's your idea of swinging? It ain't a trick question coz people so use the site in different ways."
If this is true, I was not aware of this. I joined this website straightly open minded. |
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over a year ago
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"I mean, you're quite literally telling everyone to fuck off in your display pic...
Literally didn’t see it this way, thank you "
Which way DID you see it? I'm genuinely interested too
Cos i gotta say i cant fathom what goes on in men's heads, right now |
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By *arko B OP Man
over a year ago
Dartford |
"I mean, you're quite literally telling everyone to fuck off in your display pic... yep. Have to agree with Amber on the finger pic.
Its not really the kind of finger action that I'd like !!
I use the middle finger and that's not because I think I'm cool, or hard.... it's coz I actually want people to fuck right off. No mixed messages from me!"
Different things mean different things to different people, thank you for sharing your opinion of things. |
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"To be honest your profile says nothing about you and doesn't make you stand out.
Never thought I would have to spend time on my profile... might as well treat it like my CV. Noted
I'm flabbergasted, what were your expectations? How did you hear about the site and what drew you to it?
I can be a sarcastic little fucknugget but I'm genuinely curious.
I mean, I was using Craigslist before the dating section got taken down, I was looking everywhere for a site like that & came across fabswingers.
You must realise that age wise you're in a very niche market. The average age here is easily 40 and many folks won't entertain people who are young enough age wise to be their own children.
It sounds like you were expecting to show a bit of cock and that's all you needed to do.
What's your idea of swinging? It ain't a trick question coz people so use the site in different ways.
If this is true, I was not aware of this. I joined this website straightly open minded. "
You've not done any research or water testing at all have ya?
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"I mean, you're quite literally telling everyone to fuck off in your display pic... yep. Have to agree with Amber on the finger pic.
Its not really the kind of finger action that I'd like !!
I use the middle finger and that's not because I think I'm cool, or hard.... it's coz I actually want people to fuck right off. No mixed messages from me!
Different things mean different things to different people, thank you for sharing your opinion of things. "
... I wasn't aware it meant anything other than fuck off or fuck you.
Damn I'm old |
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By *arko B OP Man
over a year ago
Dartford |
"I mean, you're quite literally telling everyone to fuck off in your display pic...
Literally didn’t see it this way, thank you
Which way DID you see it? I'm genuinely interested too
Cos i gotta say i cant fathom what goes on in men's heads, right now"
Didn’t know you was being sarcastic... saw it as just a picture. Thank you for sharing you opinion though |
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over a year ago
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"I mean, you're quite literally telling everyone to fuck off in your display pic...
Literally didn’t see it this way, thank you
Which way DID you see it? I'm genuinely interested too
Cos i gotta say i cant fathom what goes on in men's heads, right now
Didn’t know you was being sarcastic... saw it as just a picture. Thank you for sharing you opinion though "
Just a picture that would attract the laydeez? |
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By *arko B OP Man
over a year ago
Dartford |
"To be honest your profile says nothing about you and doesn't make you stand out.
Never thought I would have to spend time on my profile... might as well treat it like my CV. Noted
I'm flabbergasted, what were your expectations? How did you hear about the site and what drew you to it?
I can be a sarcastic little fucknugget but I'm genuinely curious.
I mean, I was using Craigslist before the dating section got taken down, I was looking everywhere for a site like that & came across fabswingers.
You must realise that age wise you're in a very niche market. The average age here is easily 40 and many folks won't entertain people who are young enough age wise to be their own children.
It sounds like you were expecting to show a bit of cock and that's all you needed to do.
What's your idea of swinging? It ain't a trick question coz people so use the site in different ways.
If this is true, I was not aware of this. I joined this website straightly open minded.
You've not done any research or water testing at all have ya?
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I have done my research about this site before joining, umm.. that’s why I joined |
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By *arko B OP Man
over a year ago
Dartford |
"I mean, you're quite literally telling everyone to fuck off in your display pic...
Literally didn’t see it this way, thank you
Which way DID you see it? I'm genuinely interested too
Cos i gotta say i cant fathom what goes on in men's heads, right now
Didn’t know you was being sarcastic... saw it as just a picture. Thank you for sharing you opinion though
Just a picture that would attract the laydeez?"
No.. just a picture of my body & the “Rude” gesture... no worries, would just have to take another one without the “Rude” gesture. |
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"To be honest your profile says nothing about you and doesn't make you stand out.
Never thought I would have to spend time on my profile... might as well treat it like my CV. Noted
I'm flabbergasted, what were your expectations? How did you hear about the site and what drew you to it?
I can be a sarcastic little fucknugget but I'm genuinely curious.
I mean, I was using Craigslist before the dating section got taken down, I was looking everywhere for a site like that & came across fabswingers.
You must realise that age wise you're in a very niche market. The average age here is easily 40 and many folks won't entertain people who are young enough age wise to be their own children.
It sounds like you were expecting to show a bit of cock and that's all you needed to do.
What's your idea of swinging? It ain't a trick question coz people so use the site in different ways.
If this is true, I was not aware of this. I joined this website straightly open minded.
You've not done any research or water testing at all have ya?
I have done my research about this site before joining, umm.. that’s why I joined "
I'm talking about since you've been here. If you'd not noticed the average age then you've really had your eyes closed the way I see it.
There are hundreds of threads where people ask for advice and you've clearly not read any of them or you'd not be asking, so no, you haven't done research.
If you've not been to a club or realised that a cougars and cubs night is your best bet, guess what? You’ve not done any research.
What you did was find a site where it seems people sometimes hook up and bang.
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"To be honest your profile says nothing about you and doesn't make you stand out.
Never thought I would have to spend time on my profile... might as well treat it like my CV. Noted
I'm flabbergasted, what were your expectations? How did you hear about the site and what drew you to it?
I can be a sarcastic little fucknugget but I'm genuinely curious.
I mean, I was using Craigslist before the dating section got taken down, I was looking everywhere for a site like that & came across fabswingers.
You must realise that age wise you're in a very niche market. The average age here is easily 40 and many folks won't entertain people who are young enough age wise to be their own children.
It sounds like you were expecting to show a bit of cock and that's all you needed to do.
What's your idea of swinging? It ain't a trick question coz people so use the site in different ways.
If this is true, I was not aware of this. I joined this website straightly open minded.
You've not done any research or water testing at all have ya?
I have done my research about this site before joining, umm.. that’s why I joined
I'm talking about since you've been here. If you'd not noticed the average age then you've really had your eyes closed the way I see it.
There are hundreds of threads where people ask for advice and you've clearly not read any of them or you'd not be asking, so no, you haven't done research.
If you've not been to a club or realised that a cougars and cubs night is your best bet, guess what? You’ve not done any research.
What you did was find a site where it seems people sometimes hook up and bang.
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Yeah
Sometimes they even get to know each other a bit, first
Weirdos |
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By *arko B OP Man
over a year ago
Dartford |
"To be honest your profile says nothing about you and doesn't make you stand out.
Never thought I would have to spend time on my profile... might as well treat it like my CV. Noted
I'm flabbergasted, what were your expectations? How did you hear about the site and what drew you to it?
I can be a sarcastic little fucknugget but I'm genuinely curious.
I mean, I was using Craigslist before the dating section got taken down, I was looking everywhere for a site like that & came across fabswingers.
You must realise that age wise you're in a very niche market. The average age here is easily 40 and many folks won't entertain people who are young enough age wise to be their own children.
It sounds like you were expecting to show a bit of cock and that's all you needed to do.
What's your idea of swinging? It ain't a trick question coz people so use the site in different ways.
If this is true, I was not aware of this. I joined this website straightly open minded.
You've not done any research or water testing at all have ya?
I have done my research about this site before joining, umm.. that’s why I joined
I'm talking about since you've been here. If you'd not noticed the average age then you've really had your eyes closed the way I see it.
There are hundreds of threads where people ask for advice and you've clearly not read any of them or you'd not be asking, so no, you haven't done research.
If you've not been to a club or realised that a cougars and cubs night is your best bet, guess what? You’ve not done any research.
What you did was find a site where it seems people sometimes hook up and bang.
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I mean.. respectfully I am very interested in what you say is the average age of women on this website.
Thanks you, I will find these threads you are talking about.
I have established this.
No, I knew it may take some time & I was willing to do what it takes. But, coming to think of it... I did research, but I assume I did not do this research properly. You was correct.
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By *arko B OP Man
over a year ago
Dartford |
"To be honest your profile says nothing about you and doesn't make you stand out.
Never thought I would have to spend time on my profile... might as well treat it like my CV. Noted
I'm flabbergasted, what were your expectations? How did you hear about the site and what drew you to it?
I can be a sarcastic little fucknugget but I'm genuinely curious.
I mean, I was using Craigslist before the dating section got taken down, I was looking everywhere for a site like that & came across fabswingers.
You must realise that age wise you're in a very niche market. The average age here is easily 40 and many folks won't entertain people who are young enough age wise to be their own children.
It sounds like you were expecting to show a bit of cock and that's all you needed to do.
What's your idea of swinging? It ain't a trick question coz people so use the site in different ways.
If this is true, I was not aware of this. I joined this website straightly open minded.
You've not done any research or water testing at all have ya?
I have done my research about this site before joining, umm.. that’s why I joined
I'm talking about since you've been here. If you'd not noticed the average age then you've really had your eyes closed the way I see it.
There are hundreds of threads where people ask for advice and you've clearly not read any of them or you'd not be asking, so no, you haven't done research.
If you've not been to a club or realised that a cougars and cubs night is your best bet, guess what? You’ve not done any research.
What you did was find a site where it seems people sometimes hook up and bang.
Yeah
Sometimes they even get to know each other a bit, first
Weirdos"
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I fail to see from the OP or profile what you have been aiming for and get wrong?
Almost a year without fab meets is standard, if that's your point.
Read a lot of hot advice request posts from single men, if any of their predicaments chimes with you. Even in the best of times, single men have to invest huge levels of energy and time to try to become established. When clubs are open, use them |
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"I mean, you're quite literally telling everyone to fuck off in your display pic...
Literally didn’t see it this way, thank you
Which way DID you see it? I'm genuinely interested too
Cos i gotta say i cant fathom what goes on in men's heads, right now
Didn’t know you was being sarcastic... saw it as just a picture. Thank you for sharing you opinion though
Just a picture that would attract the laydeez?"
Waterlilies perhaps? |
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"I mean, you're quite literally telling everyone to fuck off in your display pic...
Literally didn’t see it this way, thank you
Which way DID you see it? I'm genuinely interested too
Cos i gotta say i cant fathom what goes on in men's heads, right now
Didn’t know you was being sarcastic... saw it as just a picture. Thank you for sharing you opinion though
Just a picture that would attract the laydeez?
Waterlilies perhaps? "
I like lilies
Water, or otherwise |
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"I mean, you're quite literally telling everyone to fuck off in your display pic...
Literally didn’t see it this way, thank you
Which way DID you see it? I'm genuinely interested too
Cos i gotta say i cant fathom what goes on in men's heads, right now
Didn’t know you was being sarcastic... saw it as just a picture. Thank you for sharing you opinion though
Just a picture that would attract the laydeez?
Waterlilies perhaps?
I like lilies
Water, or otherwise"
Maybe a Monet? |
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"I mean, you're quite literally telling everyone to fuck off in your display pic...
Literally didn’t see it this way, thank you
Which way DID you see it? I'm genuinely interested too
Cos i gotta say i cant fathom what goes on in men's heads, right now
Didn’t know you was being sarcastic... saw it as just a picture. Thank you for sharing you opinion though
Just a picture that would attract the laydeez?
Waterlilies perhaps?
I like lilies
Water, or otherwise
Maybe a Monet?"
I'll have a double with ice....
Or Girl with an Umbrella |
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"I mean, you're quite literally telling everyone to fuck off in your display pic...
Literally didn’t see it this way, thank you
Which way DID you see it? I'm genuinely interested too
Cos i gotta say i cant fathom what goes on in men's heads, right now
Didn’t know you was being sarcastic... saw it as just a picture. Thank you for sharing you opinion though
Just a picture that would attract the laydeez?
Waterlilies perhaps?
I like lilies
Water, or otherwise
Maybe a Monet?
I'll have a double with ice....
Or Girl with an Umbrella "
Is that a euphemism for an MFF? |
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By *arko B OP Man
over a year ago
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"I fail to see from the OP or profile what you have been aiming for and get wrong?
Almost a year without fab meets is standard, if that's your point.
Read a lot of hot advice request posts from single men, if any of their predicaments chimes with you. Even in the best of times, single men have to invest huge levels of energy and time to try to become established. When clubs are open, use them "
Okay... thank you, noted. |
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I'll give you one thing, OP, you're taking this all very graciously. Considering the messages that have popped through recently from guys in their 40s, age does not necessarily bring wisdom or frankly anything than more candles on your cake.
You've had lots of sensible (albeit sometimes sarcastically toned) advice so build on that. More/better pics, actual profile text and get involved on the forum for now. We're not supposed to be meeting right now so yes, there should be no interest in actually bumping uglies.
If you say you joined in 2018 at the age of 18 (assuming you are 22) then you were and are way down at the very youngest age range and many people here are quite a bit older and looking for slightly older people as a consequence. We have an 18yo son and prefer to avoid his age group and immediate contemporaries, for example. |
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"I'll give you one thing, OP, you're taking this all very graciously. Considering the messages that have popped through recently from guys in their 40s, age does not necessarily bring wisdom or frankly anything than more candles on your cake.
You've had lots of sensible (albeit sometimes sarcastically toned) advice so build on that. More/better pics, actual profile text and get involved on the forum for now. We're not supposed to be meeting right now so yes, there should be no interest in actually bumping uglies.
If you say you joined in 2018 at the age of 18 (assuming you are 22) then you were and are way down at the very youngest age range and many people here are quite a bit older and looking for slightly older people as a consequence. We have an 18yo son and prefer to avoid his age group and immediate contemporaries, for example. "
Thank you very much, you have gave me more of an understanding... this has really helped a lot. Like you said, I will 100% build & learn from all advice given in this forum. Thank you. |
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As you are quite young my best advice would be to read profiles and concentrate on people who are looking for your age group. So many people message profiles that they obviously don't fit what they are looking for, which is a pointless time wasting exercise
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