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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I was talking to someone recently and they were almost repulsed by the thourght of having there body parts used for organ donation..I did tell them that you did have to be dead first...I don't mind they can have what they like off me when I'm gone...anyone else feel the same....ok its not a cheery subject but its better than talking about mind numbing shit like eastenders surely..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was talking to someone recently and they were almost repulsed by the thourght of having there body parts used for organ donation..I did tell them that you did have to be dead first...I don't mind they can have what they like off me when I'm gone...anyone else feel the same....ok its not a cheery subject but its better than talking about mind numbing shit like eastenders surely.. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was talking to someone recently and they were almost repulsed by the thourght of having there body parts used for organ donation..I did tell them that you did have to be dead first...I don't mind they can have what they like off me when I'm gone...anyone else feel the same....ok its not a cheery subject but its better than talking about mind numbing shit like eastenders surely.. "
They can have anything apart from my eyes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Met a lovely lady on here who goes all over the place campaigning on this very subject, she lost one of her children and because of allowing the organs to be donated saved several lives. A very brave decision, by a very brave lady. Don't know at that particular time if I could have made the same decision. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been on the organ donor register since my twenties.
They can have what they want off me when I'm gone. I'm not going to need it am I?
Mind it's all going to be worn out and useless to them soon!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be able to give someone the gift of life after Im gone is a lovely thought.
And if anything should happen to my children then Id want to do the same thing however hard it would be at the time. Life is very precious.
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dont mean to throw a spanner in the works guys but as someone who has donated a family memebers parts i can tell u it is not pleasant .. they firstly ask u to watch the operation .. and u have to wait while a doctor from london flies in ... one from ireland flies in .. etc etc as the doctor who takes the organ out has to put the organ back in ... its a very traumatic and time consuming event .. at ur darkest moment !! .. in the end .. someone .. with a modicum of sense from the donor organisation offered to watch the 12 hour operation on our behalf ! |
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Not sure what they can have of mine as I am a smoker and I drink.. But whatever they can get their hands on and is ok then great.. However not my eyes I am a great believer that your eyes are the window to your soul.. call me bonkers but its what I believe... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i lost my son when he was young and i donated his body parts
A lot of people in my family thought i did the wrong thing but to me if he could save the life of another child or maybe even two or three is life wasnt wasted, some cant cope with the thought of having a loved one cut up but i coped better knowing a bit of him was still living on
Its a very personal choice and theres no right or wrong i just felt it was the right thing for me to do and i have no regrets
As for me, they can take what they like why leave your body to rot or burn if you can help someone else |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They can take anything of me, like a beer though so my liver might not be tip top. I'd like to give blood too but mine is shite apparently with me being anaemic |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i lost my son when he was young and i donated his body parts
A lot of people in my family thought i did the wrong thing but to me if he could save the life of another child or maybe even two or three is life wasnt wasted, some cant cope with the thought of having a loved one cut up but i coped better knowing a bit of him was still living on
Its a very personal choice and theres no right or wrong i just felt it was the right thing for me to do and i have no regrets
As for me, they can take what they like why leave your body to rot or burn if you can help someone else"
Very brave decision on your part xx |
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"i lost my son when he was young and i donated his body parts
A lot of people in my family thought i did the wrong thing but to me if he could save the life of another child or maybe even two or three is life wasnt wasted, some cant cope with the thought of having a loved one cut up but i coped better knowing a bit of him was still living on
Its a very personal choice and theres no right or wrong i just felt it was the right thing for me to do and i have no regrets
As for me, they can take what they like why leave your body to rot or burn if you can help someone else"
fully understand ur decision .. we got a very nice letter of williams F1 team as it was one of their engineers who benefited from our gesture ..meant alot as the guy was young with alot to live for |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"i lost my son when he was young and i donated his body parts
A lot of people in my family thought i did the wrong thing but to me if he could save the life of another child or maybe even two or three is life wasnt wasted, some cant cope with the thought of having a loved one cut up but i coped better knowing a bit of him was still living on
Its a very personal choice and theres no right or wrong i just felt it was the right thing for me to do and i have no regrets
As for me, they can take what they like why leave your body to rot or burn if you can help someone else"
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I'm on the doner register, have told my family (even if you're on the register your next of kin has final say and could refuse) I'm also on the bone marrow register too - thats one to consider as well.
I try to give blood, but I have low.blood pressure so they can't always take the full pint so its only any use for lab use not for surgeries. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i lost my son when he was young and i donated his body parts
A lot of people in my family thought i did the wrong thing but to me if he could save the life of another child or maybe even two or three is life wasnt wasted, some cant cope with the thought of having a loved one cut up but i coped better knowing a bit of him was still living on
Its a very personal choice and theres no right or wrong i just felt it was the right thing for me to do and i have no regrets
As for me, they can take what they like why leave your body to rot or burn if you can help someone else"
NN, I simply cannot articulate how I feel about this, such a beautiful blessing to many at what must have been such a difficult time for you xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i lost my son when he was young and i donated his body parts
A lot of people in my family thought i did the wrong thing but to me if he could save the life of another child or maybe even two or three is life wasnt wasted, some cant cope with the thought of having a loved one cut up but i coped better knowing a bit of him was still living on
Its a very personal choice and theres no right or wrong i just felt it was the right thing for me to do and i have no regrets
As for me, they can take what they like why leave your body to rot or burn if you can help someone else
fully understand ur decision .. we got a very nice letter of williams F1 team as it was one of their engineers who benefited from our gesture ..meant alot as the guy was young with alot to live for "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been on the bone marrow list for 26yrs now, I used to give blood until they told me they didn't want it coz I have MS, and as far as my organs are concerned, I am on the donor list, but I've been told that it will be down to the discretion of the intended recipient as to whether they are prepared to receive my organs. Surely, to have the heart from someone who has MS (which is a condition of the nervous system) has to be better than dying because you refused it, but hey, if someone wants my bits after I'm gone, they are there for the taking, as are those of any member of my family too.
I have always been an advocate of an "Opting Out" system rather than "Opting In", especially as even if you've opten in, your family can override your choice. I have had it marked on all my medical records, hospital, gp, etc, to say that my organs are there for the taking and that my decision is final, although I suppose I'm lucky in that my family have assured me that they would support my decision if asked. |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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I've had a donor card for years but finally registered online t'other week and posted the link on my Facebook page and some of my friends have now registered....my family also know my wishes so hopefully shouldn't over-ride them when the time comes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the hospital we donated to told us they get 3 donations a year on average so donor cards dont work as families can override ur decisions ..donor card or not"
That's why I think it should be opt out, not opt in. It drives me mad to think that I have carried a donor card for years, then when the time comes a member of my family could override my wishes.  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I've had a donor card for years but finally registered online t'other week and posted the link on my Facebook page and some of my friends have now registered....my family also know my wishes so hopefully shouldn't over-ride them when the time comes "
If my family over-rides my wishes I'll come back and haunt 'em! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i lost my son when he was young and i donated his body parts
A lot of people in my family thought i did the wrong thing but to me if he could save the life of another child or maybe even two or three is life wasnt wasted, some cant cope with the thought of having a loved one cut up but i coped better knowing a bit of him was still living on
Its a very personal choice and theres no right or wrong i just felt it was the right thing for me to do and i have no regrets
As for me, they can take what they like why leave your body to rot or burn if you can help someone else
fully understand ur decision .. we got a very nice letter of williams F1 team as it was one of their engineers who benefited from our gesture ..meant alot as the guy was young with alot to live for "
i never got any feed back after i got my sons body back, but i ask them not to, not because i didnt care but because i wasnt sure how id feel if i ever came face to face with someone who had a part of my child in them
I know that may sound odd but after they had taken what they needed i didnt want anymore to do with it, i just wanted to bury my child and get on with my life as i had another two children, i had my own memories and i was happy leaving it at that
If that makes sence
I guess we all deal with grief in our own way |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"dont mean to throw a spanner in the works guys but as someone who has donated a family memebers parts i can tell u it is not pleasant .. they firstly ask u to watch the operation .. and u have to wait while a doctor from london flies in ... one from ireland flies in .. etc etc as the doctor who takes the organ out has to put the organ back in ... its a very traumatic and time consuming event .. at ur darkest moment !! .. in the end .. someone .. with a modicum of sense from the donor organisation offered to watch the 12 hour operation on our behalf ! "
Is this true? You have to watch them take the organ? |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"i lost my son when he was young and i donated his body parts
A lot of people in my family thought i did the wrong thing but to me if he could save the life of another child or maybe even two or three is life wasnt wasted, some cant cope with the thought of having a loved one cut up but i coped better knowing a bit of him was still living on
Its a very personal choice and theres no right or wrong i just felt it was the right thing for me to do and i have no regrets
As for me, they can take what they like why leave your body to rot or burn if you can help someone else"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i lost my son when he was young and i donated his body parts
A lot of people in my family thought i did the wrong thing but to me if he could save the life of another child or maybe even two or three is life wasnt wasted, some cant cope with the thought of having a loved one cut up but i coped better knowing a bit of him was still living on
Its a very personal choice and theres no right or wrong i just felt it was the right thing for me to do and i have no regrets
As for me, they can take what they like why leave your body to rot or burn if you can help someone else
fully understand ur decision .. we got a very nice letter of williams F1 team as it was one of their engineers who benefited from our gesture ..meant alot as the guy was young with alot to live for
i never got any feed back after i got my sons body back, but i ask them not to, not because i didnt care but because i wasnt sure how id feel if i ever came face to face with someone who had a part of my child in them
I know that may sound odd but after they had taken what they needed i didnt want anymore to do with it, i just wanted to bury my child and get on with my life as i had another two children, i had my own memories and i was happy leaving it at that
If that makes sence
I guess we all deal with grief in our own way "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"dont mean to throw a spanner in the works guys but as someone who has donated a family memebers parts i can tell u it is not pleasant .. they firstly ask u to watch the operation .. and u have to wait while a doctor from london flies in ... one from ireland flies in .. etc etc as the doctor who takes the organ out has to put the organ back in ... its a very traumatic and time consuming event .. at ur darkest moment !! .. in the end .. someone .. with a modicum of sense from the donor organisation offered to watch the 12 hour operation on our behalf !
Is this true? You have to watch them take the organ?"
i have to be honest i was never asked such a thing
After i agreed to donate the next i heard was when they realised my child back to me for burial
it was never even suggested to me that i should watch them
maybe different areas or hospitals do things differently i dont know |
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By *aldybiMan
over a year ago
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"i lost my son when he was young and i donated his body parts
A lot of people in my family thought i did the wrong thing but to me if he could save the life of another child or maybe even two or three is life wasnt wasted, some cant cope with the thought of having a loved one cut up but i coped better knowing a bit of him was still living on"
Wow! Enormously brave decision in the toughest of times, and deepest respect to you. X |
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"have been on the donor register for years, I think it should be compulsory for people to be on it, and should be able to opt out if they don't want to be a donor.
Devil  "
i agree with this, however, i would still not be art of it. |
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"dont mean to throw a spanner in the works guys but as someone who has donated a family memebers parts i can tell u it is not pleasant .. they firstly ask u to watch the operation .. and u have to wait while a doctor from london flies in ... one from ireland flies in .. etc etc as the doctor who takes the organ out has to put the organ back in ... its a very traumatic and time consuming event .. at ur darkest moment !! .. in the end .. someone .. with a modicum of sense from the donor organisation offered to watch the 12 hour operation on our behalf ! "
Not calling you a liar but this sounds incredulous. Why on earth would a traumatised family be asked to watch their loved one dissected? For what purpose? Also, how can the second part be true when the donated organs can be blue lighted or even flown miles to the recipient? I've never seen the doctor on the back of the motorbike transporting the organ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"dont mean to throw a spanner in the works guys but as someone who has donated a family memebers parts i can tell u it is not pleasant .. they firstly ask u to watch the operation .. and u have to wait while a doctor from london flies in ... one from ireland flies in .. etc etc as the doctor who takes the organ out has to put the organ back in ... its a very traumatic and time consuming event .. at ur darkest moment !! .. in the end .. someone .. with a modicum of sense from the donor organisation offered to watch the 12 hour operation on our behalf !
Is this true? You have to watch them take the organ?"
In 'some' hospitals they give you the option to watch the operation, but not in all. I understand it is so that families who are concerned their deceased will simply be 'butchered' (sorry to have to use that term to some of the posters) can see that the donors body is treated in exactly the same way as the recipients.
I have never heard of anyone being asked , or - worse - told, to watch the operation being carried out. Personally I wouldn't.... 
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"dont mean to throw a spanner in the works guys but as someone who has donated a family memebers parts i can tell u it is not pleasant .. they firstly ask u to watch the operation .. and u have to wait while a doctor from london flies in ... one from ireland flies in .. etc etc as the doctor who takes the organ out has to put the organ back in ... its a very traumatic and time consuming event .. at ur darkest moment !! .. in the end .. someone .. with a modicum of sense from the donor organisation offered to watch the 12 hour operation on our behalf !
Is this true? You have to watch them take the organ?
In 'some' hospitals they give you the option to watch the operation, but not in all. I understand it is so that families who are concerned their deceased will simply be 'butchered' (sorry to have to use that term to some of the posters) can see that the donors body is treated in exactly the same way as the recipients.
I have never heard of anyone being asked , or - worse - told, to watch the operation being carried out. Personally I wouldn't....
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Can't see them getting many offers if that was part of the conditions |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"dont mean to throw a spanner in the works guys but as someone who has donated a family memebers parts i can tell u it is not pleasant .. they firstly ask u to watch the operation .. and u have to wait while a doctor from london flies in ... one from ireland flies in .. etc etc as the doctor who takes the organ out has to put the organ back in ... its a very traumatic and time consuming event .. at ur darkest moment !! .. in the end .. someone .. with a modicum of sense from the donor organisation offered to watch the 12 hour operation on our behalf !
Is this true? You have to watch them take the organ?
In 'some' hospitals they give you the option to watch the operation, but not in all. I understand it is so that families who are concerned their deceased will simply be 'butchered' (sorry to have to use that term to some of the posters) can see that the donors body is treated in exactly the same way as the recipients.
I have never heard of anyone being asked , or - worse - told, to watch the operation being carried out. Personally I wouldn't....
Can't see them getting many offers if that was part of the conditions"
Quite.........
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By (user no longer on site)
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i am a registered organ donor and have been for many years, i have four gorgeous kids and have spoken at length with their dad (no longer together) about what we would do if anything happened to them an we agreed that if it gave another child or person the chance of life then we would take it.
as for watching the operations that is a matter of choice and should never have been tried to have been forced on you and is not something i ever witnessed during my nursing career, although i have been present at organ retrieval and donation and it truly is an awe inspiring experience.
fair play to everyone who wishes to donate their organs and to those who dont it is purely a matter of choice. |
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"I've been on the bone marrow list for 26yrs now, I used to give blood until they told me they didn't want it coz I have MS, and as far as my organs are concerned, I am on the donor list, but I've been told that it will be down to the discretion of the intended recipient as to whether they are prepared to receive my organs. Surely, to have the heart from someone who has MS (which is a condition of the nervous system) has to be better than dying because you refused it, but hey, if someone wants my bits after I'm gone, they are there for the taking, as are those of any member of my family too.
I have always been an advocate of an "Opting Out" system rather than "Opting In", especially as even if you've opten in, your family can override your choice. I have had it marked on all my medical records, hospital, gp, etc, to say that my organs are there for the taking and that my decision is final, although I suppose I'm lucky in that my family have assured me that they would support my decision if asked."
I'm in a similar position to you as I also have MS. I'm interested they told you it was down to the discretion of the intended recipient as I was told my organs would/could not be used for transplant purposes. I'm glad they are now not ruling it out completely. |
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