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"I'm not someone to know people down by their appearance or anything however this site gives people a false sense of confidence. Anyone else feel the same? People talk like they are Gods gift. Some profiles are extreemly rude.... some demands are OTT but each to their own. People lost their ability to have decent polite conversations these days. I think alot of people come here just to boost their ego. What ever happened to a polite no thank you? Worst is when you take ages forming a message to write to someone then next minute they post "too many messages, deleted inbox", then same people get arsey when they get copy paste messages. Sorry just wanted a rant..." What do you mean by a false sense of confidence, OP? If someone is confident, why is that false? Mrs kf x | |||
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"I'm not someone to know people down by their appearance or anything however this site gives people a false sense of confidence. Anyone else feel the same? People talk like they are Gods gift. Some profiles are extreemly rude.... some demands are OTT but each to their own. People lost their ability to have decent polite conversations these days. I think alot of people come here just to boost their ego. What ever happened to a polite no thank you? Worst is when you take ages forming a message to write to someone then next minute they post "too many messages, deleted inbox", then same people get arsey when they get copy paste messages. Sorry just wanted a rant..." Put people down* | |||
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"I'm not someone to know people down by their appearance or anything however this site gives people a false sense of confidence. Anyone else feel the same? People talk like they are Gods gift. Some profiles are extreemly rude.... some demands are OTT but each to their own. People lost their ability to have decent polite conversations these days. I think alot of people come here just to boost their ego. What ever happened to a polite no thank you? Worst is when you take ages forming a message to write to someone then next minute they post "too many messages, deleted inbox", then same people get arsey when they get copy paste messages. Sorry just wanted a rant... What do you mean by a false sense of confidence, OP? If someone is confident, why is that false? Mrs kf x" Like the way people talk and behave here isn't the way they would outside. | |||
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"I'm confident in real life when talking to the opposite sex. " Are you rude and arrogant to people and make demands? | |||
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"I'm not someone to know people down by their appearance or anything however this site gives people a false sense of confidence. Anyone else feel the same? People talk like they are Gods gift. Some profiles are extreemly rude.... some demands are OTT but each to their own. People lost their ability to have decent polite conversations these days. I think alot of people come here just to boost their ego. What ever happened to a polite no thank you? Worst is when you take ages forming a message to write to someone then next minute they post "too many messages, deleted inbox", then same people get arsey when they get copy paste messages. Sorry just wanted a rant..." This crops up on the forums a lot. The answers you get will be the same as every time this pint is made. In my case, I did reply to every message I received. It has now reached the point t that I just can't. In my case if some effort has gone I to the initial message I do try to give a nice reply. If the situation is like this for me, a bit of a niche appeal, and nothing special within that niche, imagine how much more difficult it must me for some others! | |||
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"Per site FAQ delete without reply means no thank you. The reasons why people do this are numerous." Delete is normal. Replying with insults to a "hey how are you? Hows your day etc..." is not | |||
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"Per site FAQ delete without reply means no thank you. The reasons why people do this are numerous. Delete is normal. Replying with insults to a "hey how are you? Hows your day etc..." is not" They've just filtered themselves out. Block them and think no more of it | |||
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"I'm not someone to know people down by their appearance or anything however this site gives people a false sense of confidence. Anyone else feel the same? People talk like they are Gods gift. Some profiles are extreemly rude.... some demands are OTT but each to their own. People lost their ability to have decent polite conversations these days. I think alot of people come here just to boost their ego. What ever happened to a polite no thank you? Worst is when you take ages forming a message to write to someone then next minute they post "too many messages, deleted inbox", then same people get arsey when they get copy paste messages. Sorry just wanted a rant... What do you mean by a false sense of confidence, OP? If someone is confident, why is that false? Mrs kf x" False in that there are so many sycophants on Fab, willing to say whatever it takes to get into your pants even if they don't believe it to be true. And even if it was said with genuineness at the time, online connections and interactions can be so transient. Here one minute, gone the next. | |||
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"if you could see some of the replies women and couples can get to a polite no thankyou, you may have a greater understanding of why some choose not to give them." Lord so much | |||
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"I'm not someone to know people down by their appearance or anything however this site gives people a false sense of confidence. Anyone else feel the same? People talk like they are Gods gift. Some profiles are extreemly rude.... some demands are OTT but each to their own. People lost their ability to have decent polite conversations these days. I think alot of people come here just to boost their ego. What ever happened to a polite no thank you? Worst is when you take ages forming a message to write to someone then next minute they post "too many messages, deleted inbox", then same people get arsey when they get copy paste messages. Sorry just wanted a rant... This crops up on the forums a lot. The answers you get will be the same as every time this pint is made. In my case, I did reply to every message I received. It has now reached the point t that I just can't. In my case if some effort has gone I to the initial message I do try to give a nice reply. If the situation is like this for me, a bit of a niche appeal, and nothing special within that niche, imagine how much more difficult it must me for some others! " Oh sorry you misunderstood. I'm not suggesting you reply to every message because women get mad amounts. But if you reply positively you'd make an effort or if you're not interested you'd not reply instead of hurling insults | |||
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"if you could see some of the replies women and couples can get to a polite no thankyou, you may have a greater understanding of why some choose not to give them." Well those people are the types I'm talking about | |||
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"I'm not someone to know people down by their appearance or anything however this site gives people a false sense of confidence. Anyone else feel the same? People talk like they are Gods gift. Some profiles are extreemly rude.... some demands are OTT but each to their own. People lost their ability to have decent polite conversations these days. I think alot of people come here just to boost their ego. What ever happened to a polite no thank you? Worst is when you take ages forming a message to write to someone then next minute they post "too many messages, deleted inbox", then same people get arsey when they get copy paste messages. Sorry just wanted a rant... This crops up on the forums a lot. The answers you get will be the same as every time this pint is made. In my case, I did reply to every message I received. It has now reached the point t that I just can't. In my case if some effort has gone I to the initial message I do try to give a nice reply. If the situation is like this for me, a bit of a niche appeal, and nothing special within that niche, imagine how much more difficult it must me for some others! Oh sorry you misunderstood. I'm not suggesting you reply to every message because women get mad amounts. But if you reply positively you'd make an effort or if you're not interested you'd not reply instead of hurling insults" Ah I get you. I save my rude responses for when they ate justified | |||
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"I'm not someone to know people down by their appearance or anything however this site gives people a false sense of confidence. Anyone else feel the same? People talk like they are Gods gift. Some profiles are extreemly rude.... some demands are OTT but each to their own. People lost their ability to have decent polite conversations these days. I think alot of people come here just to boost their ego. What ever happened to a polite no thank you? Worst is when you take ages forming a message to write to someone then next minute they post "too many messages, deleted inbox", then same people get arsey when they get copy paste messages. Sorry just wanted a rant..." Lot of people are here to stimulate their i.d to counterbalance their (domestic) superego, last thing they need is ego. However..... | |||
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"OP If you got 100 messages a day. Would you reply to all of them? If you did, would you then reply to the 95 “why not” messages? and then take on the chin the 59 “well you’re a fat slag anyway” messages? Well, would you? " That's not what i said mate. Re read my OP | |||
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"I'm not someone to know people down by their appearance or anything however this site gives people a false sense of confidence. Anyone else feel the same? People talk like they are Gods gift. Some profiles are extreemly rude.... some demands are OTT but each to their own. People lost their ability to have decent polite conversations these days. I think alot of people come here just to boost their ego. What ever happened to a polite no thank you? Worst is when you take ages forming a message to write to someone then next minute they post "too many messages, deleted inbox", then same people get arsey when they get copy paste messages. Sorry just wanted a rant..." I hate the ones who say the have a great sense of humour who then come out with shit banter on their daily status updates which always ends with 'LOOOOOOL' as if that itself makes it funnier for the rest of us. | |||
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"I'm not someone to know people down by their appearance or anything however this site gives people a false sense of confidence. Anyone else feel the same? People talk like they are Gods gift. Some profiles are extreemly rude.... some demands are OTT but each to their own. People lost their ability to have decent polite conversations these days. I think alot of people come here just to boost their ego. What ever happened to a polite no thank you? Worst is when you take ages forming a message to write to someone then next minute they post "too many messages, deleted inbox", then same people get arsey when they get copy paste messages. Sorry just wanted a rant... What do you mean by a false sense of confidence, OP? If someone is confident, why is that false? Mrs kf x Like the way people talk and behave here isn't the way they would outside. " So you mean people behave worse on here than in real life? Some do, I'm sure. Others are rude in both. I don't think that's confidence though, that's just being a dick. | |||
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"I agree with you O.P. apart from the bit where you think you should get a reply ... I rarely read profiles anymore but when I do ...... my eyes glaze over after the first 5 pages..... " That's not what i said though | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. " Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. | |||
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"I'm not someone to know people down by their appearance or anything however this site gives people a false sense of confidence. Anyone else feel the same? People talk like they are Gods gift. Some profiles are extreemly rude.... some demands are OTT but each to their own. People lost their ability to have decent polite conversations these days. I think alot of people come here just to boost their ego. What ever happened to a polite no thank you? Worst is when you take ages forming a message to write to someone then next minute they post "too many messages, deleted inbox", then same people get arsey when they get copy paste messages. Sorry just wanted a rant... What do you mean by a false sense of confidence, OP? If someone is confident, why is that false? Mrs kf x False in that there are so many sycophants on Fab, willing to say whatever it takes to get into your pants even if they don't believe it to be true. And even if it was said with genuineness at the time, online connections and interactions can be so transient. Here one minute, gone the next. " What's that to do with confidence? Isn't that just bullshit flattery? | |||
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"I agree with you O.P. apart from the bit where you think you should get a reply ... I rarely read profiles anymore but when I do ...... my eyes glaze over after the first 5 pages..... That's not what i said though" What is it you didn't say ? | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them." I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended | |||
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"I agree with you O.P. apart from the bit where you think you should get a reply ... I rarely read profiles anymore but when I do ...... my eyes glaze over after the first 5 pages..... That's not what i said though What is it you didn't say ?" I never said you should get a reply. I said don't reply with insults to a normal greeting message | |||
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"Being rude to people isn't confidence (or a false sense of), it's just twattery. Confidence is having a strong degree of certainty in your own skills, abilities, looks etc but not to such a degree that it's negative or detrimental to others. Then it might be arrogance or just plain rudeness." I think we are in agreement 
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"Being rude to people isn't confidence (or a false sense of), it's just twattery. Confidence is having a strong degree of certainty in your own skills, abilities, looks etc but not to such a degree that it's negative or detrimental to others. Then it might be arrogance or just plain rudeness." No I'm not talking about confident people I'm talking about people who have a false sense of confidence. | |||
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"if you could see some of the replies women and couples can get to a polite no thankyou, you may have a greater understanding of why some choose not to give them." This^^^ saying no is like a red rag to a bull on here. | |||
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"Being rude to people isn't confidence (or a false sense of), it's just twattery. Confidence is having a strong degree of certainty in your own skills, abilities, looks etc but not to such a degree that it's negative or detrimental to others. Then it might be arrogance or just plain rudeness. No I'm not talking about confident people I'm talking about people who have a false sense of confidence. " You mean arrogance or just plain rudeness? | |||
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 , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response | |||
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"Being rude to people isn't confidence (or a false sense of), it's just twattery. Confidence is having a strong degree of certainty in your own skills, abilities, looks etc but not to such a degree that it's negative or detrimental to others. Then it might be arrogance or just plain rudeness. No I'm not talking about confident people I'm talking about people who have a false sense of confidence. You mean arrogance or just plain rudeness? " Arrogance and rudeness stems from false confidence. A confident person has no need to insult or be a dick to someone as its beneath them to do so. I'm only talking about those types not confident people | |||
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"May I say something profile related OP? " Sure PM me if you like | |||
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"Being rude to people isn't confidence (or a false sense of), it's just twattery. Confidence is having a strong degree of certainty in your own skills, abilities, looks etc but not to such a degree that it's negative or detrimental to others. Then it might be arrogance or just plain rudeness. No I'm not talking about confident people I'm talking about people who have a false sense of confidence. " To me, a false sense of confidence would be the teacher who thinks their lesson was the best ever when actually, it was crap. The driver who thinks they're basically Nigel Mansell but in fact appear never to have passed a test. The person who believes their singing is going to win them Britain's Got Talent when actually it sounds like cats being skinned alive. That sort of thing. Thinking you have a very positive attribute or particular skill but actually don't. That's false confidence (to me, at least). What you describe sounds just like plain rude behaviour and there's plenty of that on anonymous internet fora. | |||
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"I'm confident in real life when talking to the opposite sex. Are you rude and arrogant to people and make demands?" If someone approached me in a bar and wanted a sexual relationship with me I would tell them what I wanted. If you call that rude and demanding then yes. I want what I want. If it's not what a man wants then he shouldn't message me. It's on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time. | |||
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"If there were more filters on here i think 90% of the rudeness would disappear. If you could pick your race for example and have a race filter so those seeking black guys could select "black men only" and those who are recorded as white wouldn't be able to message them.... you wouldn't have so many agro people on here. If you like athletic men for example then you'd select that filter so all your searches would be athletic guys or only athletic men can respond. " I'd have to blagantly lie then purely to give myself a chance of appearing in some search results. And no doubt others would too. Bringing us back to square one. | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response "You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying. | |||
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"Being rude to people isn't confidence (or a false sense of), it's just twattery. Confidence is having a strong degree of certainty in your own skills, abilities, looks etc but not to such a degree that it's negative or detrimental to others. Then it might be arrogance or just plain rudeness. No I'm not talking about confident people I'm talking about people who have a false sense of confidence. To me, a false sense of confidence would be the teacher who thinks their lesson was the best ever when actually, it was crap. The driver who thinks they're basically Nigel Mansell but in fact appear never to have passed a test. The person who believes their singing is going to win them Britain's Got Talent when actually it sounds like cats being skinned alive. That sort of thing. Thinking you have a very positive attribute or particular skill but actually don't. That's false confidence (to me, at least). What you describe sounds just like plain rude behaviour and there's plenty of that on anonymous internet fora." Yes exactly but rudeness, arrogance and belityling are traits stem from false confidence | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying. "I'm not sure the tone of this reply is appropriate or fair? You've said every respondent so far has misunderstood or got the wrong idea. Might I suggest that if everyone seems to have misunderstood, then the OP isn't conveying the message you intended? | |||
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"I'm confident in real life when talking to the opposite sex. Are you rude and arrogant to people and make demands? If someone approached me in a bar and wanted a sexual relationship with me I would tell them what I wanted. If you call that rude and demanding then yes. I want what I want. If it's not what a man wants then he shouldn't message me. It's on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time." That's not rude or demanding. If someone approached you and asked that and you responded with "ewww look at you" or something of that level then yes you would be. | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying. "What is strawmaning? | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying.
I'm not sure the tone of this reply is appropriate or fair? You've said every respondent so far has misunderstood or got the wrong idea. Might I suggest that if everyone seems to have misunderstood, then the OP isn't conveying the message you intended?"No i actually maden it very clear and even posted another comment to highlight what I'm saying. I specifically said "I am not saying you have to reply to every message" and people still are writing "People don't have to reply to every message OP you're not entitled to a reply" I think i made it clear but people don't want to understand | |||
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"Being rude to people isn't confidence (or a false sense of), it's just twattery. Confidence is having a strong degree of certainty in your own skills, abilities, looks etc but not to such a degree that it's negative or detrimental to others. Then it might be arrogance or just plain rudeness. No I'm not talking about confident people I'm talking about people who have a false sense of confidence. To me, a false sense of confidence would be the teacher who thinks their lesson was the best ever when actually, it was crap. The driver who thinks they're basically Nigel Mansell but in fact appear never to have passed a test. The person who believes their singing is going to win them Britain's Got Talent when actually it sounds like cats being skinned alive. That sort of thing. Thinking you have a very positive attribute or particular skill but actually don't. That's false confidence (to me, at least). What you describe sounds just like plain rude behaviour and there's plenty of that on anonymous internet fora. Yes exactly but rudeness, arrogance and belityling are traits stem from false confidence" Not necessarily. My experience in education (where we come across all sorts of negative behaviour) tells me that very insecure people can be rude or appear unpleasant, often as a way to mask their insecurity. People who have had very negative experiences (such as having been bullied) can actually replicate that behaviour and become bullies themselves and the reasons for this are complex. There are also people who are just plain rude and unpleasant. | |||
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"I'm confident in real life when talking to the opposite sex. Are you rude and arrogant to people and make demands? If someone approached me in a bar and wanted a sexual relationship with me I would tell them what I wanted. If you call that rude and demanding then yes. I want what I want. If it's not what a man wants then he shouldn't message me. It's on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time. That's not rude or demanding. If someone approached you and asked that and you responded with "ewww look at you" or something of that level then yes you would be. " Are you saying you have messaged people and they have responded with those kinds of messages, and you think they have false confidence because you think they aren't all that? | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying.
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"Being rude to people isn't confidence (or a false sense of), it's just twattery. Confidence is having a strong degree of certainty in your own skills, abilities, looks etc but not to such a degree that it's negative or detrimental to others. Then it might be arrogance or just plain rudeness. No I'm not talking about confident people I'm talking about people who have a false sense of confidence. To me, a false sense of confidence would be the teacher who thinks their lesson was the best ever when actually, it was crap. The driver who thinks they're basically Nigel Mansell but in fact appear never to have passed a test. The person who believes their singing is going to win them Britain's Got Talent when actually it sounds like cats being skinned alive. That sort of thing. Thinking you have a very positive attribute or particular skill but actually don't. That's false confidence (to me, at least). What you describe sounds just like plain rude behaviour and there's plenty of that on anonymous internet fora. Yes exactly but rudeness, arrogance and belityling are traits stem from false confidence" They may be confident. You may think it's false because you don't see them as particularly attractive. | |||
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"I'm confident in real life when talking to the opposite sex. Are you rude and arrogant to people and make demands? If someone approached me in a bar and wanted a sexual relationship with me I would tell them what I wanted. If you call that rude and demanding then yes. I want what I want. If it's not what a man wants then he shouldn't message me. It's on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time. That's not rude or demanding. If someone approached you and asked that and you responded with "ewww look at you" or something of that level then yes you would be. Are you saying you have messaged people and they have responded with those kinds of messages, and you think they have false confidence because you think they aren't all that?" Example of a message Me. Hey how are you? Saw your profile would love to get to know you a little. How's your day? Any plans for the weekend? Them- Pic? Side note- new profile no pics, no veris or anything. I just don't respond i delete their response so i don't engage but this is 1 example of the type of people I'm talking about | |||
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"My confidence isn't false - i know im adorable. "As a fellow chunky male i would 100% agree. | |||
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"I'm not someone to know people down by their appearance or anything however this site gives people a false sense of confidence. Anyone else feel the same? People talk like they are Gods gift. Some profiles are extreemly rude.... some demands are OTT but each to their own. People lost their ability to have decent polite conversations these days. I think alot of people come here just to boost their ego. What ever happened to a polite no thank you? Worst is when you take ages forming a message to write to someone then next minute they post "too many messages, deleted inbox", then same people get arsey when they get copy paste messages. Sorry just wanted a rant... What do you mean by a false sense of confidence, OP? If someone is confident, why is that false? Mrs kf x False in that there are so many sycophants on Fab, willing to say whatever it takes to get into your pants even if they don't believe it to be true. And even if it was said with genuineness at the time, online connections and interactions can be so transient. Here one minute, gone the next. " No different to a bar hook up and promises of a rematch, then boom. That's people for you. | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended" Goodness. No need to lash out 
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"Being rude to people isn't confidence (or a false sense of), it's just twattery. Confidence is having a strong degree of certainty in your own skills, abilities, looks etc but not to such a degree that it's negative or detrimental to others. Then it might be arrogance or just plain rudeness. No I'm not talking about confident people I'm talking about people who have a false sense of confidence. To me, a false sense of confidence would be the teacher who thinks their lesson was the best ever when actually, it was crap. The driver who thinks they're basically Nigel Mansell but in fact appear never to have passed a test. The person who believes their singing is going to win them Britain's Got Talent when actually it sounds like cats being skinned alive. That sort of thing. Thinking you have a very positive attribute or particular skill but actually don't. That's false confidence (to me, at least). What you describe sounds just like plain rude behaviour and there's plenty of that on anonymous internet fora. Yes exactly but rudeness, arrogance and belityling are traits stem from false confidence They may be confident. You may think it's false because you don't see them as particularly attractive. " Hmmm that's not true but I guess its perspective | |||
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"I'm confident in real life when talking to the opposite sex. Are you rude and arrogant to people and make demands? If someone approached me in a bar and wanted a sexual relationship with me I would tell them what I wanted. If you call that rude and demanding then yes. I want what I want. If it's not what a man wants then he shouldn't message me. It's on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time. That's not rude or demanding. If someone approached you and asked that and you responded with "ewww look at you" or something of that level then yes you would be. Are you saying you have messaged people and they have responded with those kinds of messages, and you think they have false confidence because you think they aren't all that? Example of a message Me. Hey how are you? Saw your profile would love to get to know you a little. How's your day? Any plans for the weekend? Them- Pic? Side note- new profile no pics, no veris or anything. I just don't respond i delete their response so i don't engage but this is 1 example of the type of people I'm talking about " I'd think you were desperate for messaging a new profile with no pics and no veris, especially saying you'd love to get to know them. | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter."I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying.
What is strawmaning?
Strawmaning is when you create an argument to argue against because you have no argument against the orginal statement. "That's not a straw man. That's extrapolating from your OP. Perhaps incorrectly given your elaboration, but reasonably given the way these threads often go. | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were"... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like? ... Oooooo-kay. | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying.
What is strawmaning?
Strawmaning is when you create an argument to argue against because you have no argument against the orginal statement.
That's not a straw man. That's extrapolating from your OP. Perhaps incorrectly given your elaboration, but reasonably given the way these threads often go."That's the definition of strawmaning and yes its how all online interactions go hense why i had to post again and say categorically that I'm not suggesting you have to answer every message but still people above said "hey OP you're not entitled to a reply" looool | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay."Why would i message a profile i didn't like? Weird thing to say | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say"Just as weird as telling people how to run their profiles. | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying. "I don't believe I have missed thr point at all and instead believe your doing a kind of back peddling thing because you've not received the support you thought you would, your first line is I'm not one to put people down on appearance but this site gives them a false sence of confidence (in plying they are more confident than there looks should alow or why mention putting people down about there looks?) some profiles are rude and ott (just because you find that what they are looking for or not looking for is rude an ott doesn't make that a fact, people have a right to express there wants and standards) what ever happend to a polite no thankyou (they don't owe you a polite no thankyou, thay don't owe you anything).... So please do tell me which part I miss read and where in your first post you said anything about you sending a polite Hay how are you message and receiving a torrent of abuse back? Because the only thing your post says is people hate copy and paste messages (because why should they make effort if you can't be bothered to) | |||
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"I'm not someone to know people down by their appearance or anything however this site gives people a false sense of confidence. Anyone else feel the same? People talk like they are Gods gift. Some profiles are extreemly rude.... some demands are OTT but each to their own. People lost their ability to have decent polite conversations these days. I think alot of people come here just to boost their ego. What ever happened to a polite no thank you? Worst is when you take ages forming a message to write to someone then next minute they post "too many messages, deleted inbox", then same people get arsey when they get copy paste messages. Sorry just wanted a rant... What do you mean by a false sense of confidence, OP? If someone is confident, why is that false? Mrs kf x False in that there are so many sycophants on Fab, willing to say whatever it takes to get into your pants even if they don't believe it to be true. And even if it was said with genuineness at the time, online connections and interactions can be so transient. Here one minute, gone the next. No different to a bar hook up and promises of a rematch, then boom. That's people for you. " Damn them peoples | |||
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"I'm confident in real life when talking to the opposite sex. Are you rude and arrogant to people and make demands? If someone approached me in a bar and wanted a sexual relationship with me I would tell them what I wanted. If you call that rude and demanding then yes. I want what I want. If it's not what a man wants then he shouldn't message me. It's on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time. That's not rude or demanding. If someone approached you and asked that and you responded with "ewww look at you" or something of that level then yes you would be. Are you saying you have messaged people and they have responded with those kinds of messages, and you think they have false confidence because you think they aren't all that? Example of a message Me. Hey how are you? Saw your profile would love to get to know you a little. How's your day? Any plans for the weekend? Them- Pic? Side note- new profile no pics, no veris or anything. I just don't respond i delete their response so i don't engage but this is 1 example of the type of people I'm talking about I'd think you were desperate for messaging a new profile with no pics and no veris, especially saying you'd love to get to know them. " No because they had profile bio which i liked hense why i messaged but that rey and your profile is exactly the type I'm talking about. Why would you call someone desperate when you don't know the full facts? You're just being rude because you have a false sense of confidence. Move on | |||
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"Being rude to people isn't confidence (or a false sense of), it's just twattery. Confidence is having a strong degree of certainty in your own skills, abilities, looks etc but not to such a degree that it's negative or detrimental to others. Then it might be arrogance or just plain rudeness. No I'm not talking about confident people I'm talking about people who have a false sense of confidence. To me, a false sense of confidence would be the teacher who thinks their lesson was the best ever when actually, it was crap. The driver who thinks they're basically Nigel Mansell but in fact appear never to have passed a test. The person who believes their singing is going to win them Britain's Got Talent when actually it sounds like cats being skinned alive. That sort of thing. Thinking you have a very positive attribute or particular skill but actually don't. That's false confidence (to me, at least). What you describe sounds just like plain rude behaviour and there's plenty of that on anonymous internet fora. Yes exactly but rudeness, arrogance and belityling are traits stem from false confidence Not necessarily. My experience in education (where we come across all sorts of negative behaviour) tells me that very insecure people can be rude or appear unpleasant, often as a way to mask their insecurity. People who have had very negative experiences (such as having been bullied) can actually replicate that behaviour and become bullies themselves and the reasons for this are complex. There are also people who are just plain rude and unpleasant." Thats what false sense of confidence is though | |||
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"I'm not someone to know people down by their appearance or anything however this site gives people a false sense of confidence. Anyone else feel the same? People talk like they are Gods gift. Some profiles are extreemly rude.... some demands are OTT but each to their own. People lost their ability to have decent polite conversations these days. I think alot of people come here just to boost their ego. What ever happened to a polite no thank you? Worst is when you take ages forming a message to write to someone then next minute they post "too many messages, deleted inbox", then same people get arsey when they get copy paste messages. Sorry just wanted a rant..." its because the male to female ratio is way out on here I've seen people in clubs so many times where the confidence levels are not as high the in a club due you the ratios being much closer and the competition from the the lady's that the guys lust after there's ladys on here that don't have no pictures up and a few words and still get 50+ messages a day | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say"Serious question based on the earlier example/scenario. How do you know you like a new profile with no pics and no veris etc?? Any time you message a blank avatar profile with no pics, you could be messaging absolutely anyone - you have no idea of gender, age or anything. | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say
Just as weird as telling people how to run their profiles."If you say so | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying.
I don't believe I have missed thr point at all and instead believe your doing a kind of back peddling thing because you've not received the support you thought you would, your first line is I'm not one to put people down on appearance but this site gives them a false sence of confidence (in plying they are more confident than there looks should alow or why mention putting people down about there looks?) some profiles are rude and ott (just because you find that what they are looking for or not looking for is rude an ott doesn't make that a fact, people have a right to express there wants and standards) what ever happend to a polite no thankyou (they don't owe you a polite no thankyou, thay don't owe you anything).... So please do tell me which part I miss read and where in your first post you said anything about you sending a polite Hay how are you message and receiving a torrent of abuse back? Because the only thing your post says is people hate copy and paste messages (because why should they make effort if you can't be bothered to) "Honestly couldn't be bothered to read all of that. I made it very clear from the beginning and you said the total opposite. I'm not here for support. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you | |||
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"I'm confident in real life when talking to the opposite sex. Are you rude and arrogant to people and make demands? If someone approached me in a bar and wanted a sexual relationship with me I would tell them what I wanted. If you call that rude and demanding then yes. I want what I want. If it's not what a man wants then he shouldn't message me. It's on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time. That's not rude or demanding. If someone approached you and asked that and you responded with "ewww look at you" or something of that level then yes you would be. Are you saying you have messaged people and they have responded with those kinds of messages, and you think they have false confidence because you think they aren't all that? Example of a message Me. Hey how are you? Saw your profile would love to get to know you a little. How's your day? Any plans for the weekend? Them- Pic? Side note- new profile no pics, no veris or anything. I just don't respond i delete their response so i don't engage but this is 1 example of the type of people I'm talking about I'd think you were desperate for messaging a new profile with no pics and no veris, especially saying you'd love to get to know them. No because they had profile bio which i liked hense why i messaged but that rey and your profile is exactly the type I'm talking about. Why would you call someone desperate when you don't know the full facts? You're just being rude because you have a false sense of confidence. Move on" So do you want me to lie to you to make you happy? I'm being honest. I really don't have a false sense of confidence at all. In fact I'm really quite insecure in many areas following an abusive relationship (mentally and physically) being cheated on, being lied to, finding out my last partner was married and being fucking crushed. So no... I really am not falsely confident at all. I'm fucking honest. I wasn't putting you down, I was telling you the impression it gave me .. ME ALONE. Only thing I'm confident in is my moral code and that includes being fucking truthful | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say
Serious question based on the earlier example/scenario. How do you know you like a new profile with no pics and no veris etc?? Any time you message a blank avatar profile with no pics, you could be messaging absolutely anyone - you have no idea of gender, age or anything. "Because i read their profiles and they have a bio which i may like so i respond. If its a new profile with nothing on I'm unlikely to respond | |||
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"I'm confident in real life when talking to the opposite sex. Are you rude and arrogant to people and make demands? If someone approached me in a bar and wanted a sexual relationship with me I would tell them what I wanted. If you call that rude and demanding then yes. I want what I want. If it's not what a man wants then he shouldn't message me. It's on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time. That's not rude or demanding. If someone approached you and asked that and you responded with "ewww look at you" or something of that level then yes you would be. Are you saying you have messaged people and they have responded with those kinds of messages, and you think they have false confidence because you think they aren't all that? Example of a message Me. Hey how are you? Saw your profile would love to get to know you a little. How's your day? Any plans for the weekend? Them- Pic? Side note- new profile no pics, no veris or anything. I just don't respond i delete their response so i don't engage but this is 1 example of the type of people I'm talking about I'd think you were desperate for messaging a new profile with no pics and no veris, especially saying you'd love to get to know them. No because they had profile bio which i liked hense why i messaged but that rey and your profile is exactly the type I'm talking about. Why would you call someone desperate when you don't know the full facts? You're just being rude because you have a false sense of confidence. Move on So do you want me to lie to you to make you happy? I'm being honest. I really don't have a false sense of confidence at all. In fact I'm really quite insecure in many areas following an abusive relationship (mentally and physically) being cheated on, being lied to, finding out my last partner was married and being fucking crushed. So no... I really am not falsely confident at all. I'm fucking honest. I wasn't putting you down, I was telling you the impression it gave me .. ME ALONE. Only thing I'm confident in is my moral code and that includes being fucking truthful " I really don't care for your opinion. I have no time for people who throw insults. "I'm being honest" isn't an excuse to be a dick to people. You wouldn't like me to be honest about you that's for sure. Have a pleasant day. I don't wish to engage with you | |||
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"if you got tons of messages in your inbox, truthfully are you willing to write back to each one with a personal note plus live your life? " Is that what i said though? | |||
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"I'm confident in real life when talking to the opposite sex. Are you rude and arrogant to people and make demands? If someone approached me in a bar and wanted a sexual relationship with me I would tell them what I wanted. If you call that rude and demanding then yes. I want what I want. If it's not what a man wants then he shouldn't message me. It's on my profile so I don't waste anyone's time. That's not rude or demanding. If someone approached you and asked that and you responded with "ewww look at you" or something of that level then yes you would be. Are you saying you have messaged people and they have responded with those kinds of messages, and you think they have false confidence because you think they aren't all that? Example of a message Me. Hey how are you? Saw your profile would love to get to know you a little. How's your day? Any plans for the weekend? Them- Pic? Side note- new profile no pics, no veris or anything. I just don't respond i delete their response so i don't engage but this is 1 example of the type of people I'm talking about I'd think you were desperate for messaging a new profile with no pics and no veris, especially saying you'd love to get to know them. No because they had profile bio which i liked hense why i messaged but that rey and your profile is exactly the type I'm talking about. Why would you call someone desperate when you don't know the full facts? You're just being rude because you have a false sense of confidence. Move on" And you know what? I had the fucking decency to ask you if I could say something about your profile, I messaged you as you asked me to rather than state it on the thread. Yet you can't show me the same grace and say my profile is one of the falsely confident ones. You're the rude person. Look in the damn mirror | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say
Serious question based on the earlier example/scenario. How do you know you like a new profile with no pics and no veris etc?? Any time you message a blank avatar profile with no pics, you could be messaging absolutely anyone - you have no idea of gender, age or anything.
Because i read their profiles and they have a bio which i may like so i respond. If its a new profile with nothing on I'm unlikely to respond "But without pics means that what appears by the text to be a woman might well not be. A hint, lots of new profiles with no pics, claiming to be women or couples are in fact blokes. Some people seem to get perverse pleasure from baiting people (often men) into messaging and then trolling them. Just report them, block and move on and try not to dwell on it. That's the internet for you. | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying.
I don't believe I have missed thr point at all and instead believe your doing a kind of back peddling thing because you've not received the support you thought you would, your first line is I'm not one to put people down on appearance but this site gives them a false sence of confidence (in plying they are more confident than there looks should alow or why mention putting people down about there looks?) some profiles are rude and ott (just because you find that what they are looking for or not looking for is rude an ott doesn't make that a fact, people have a right to express there wants and standards) what ever happend to a polite no thankyou (they don't owe you a polite no thankyou, thay don't owe you anything).... So please do tell me which part I miss read and where in your first post you said anything about you sending a polite Hay how are you message and receiving a torrent of abuse back? Because the only thing your post says is people hate copy and paste messages (because why should they make effort if you can't be bothered to)
Honestly couldn't be bothered to read all of that. I made it very clear from the beginning and you said the total opposite. I'm not here for support. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you"And you have the audacity to call other people rude... Comical really given your post and attitude towards the people on the thread. Not supprised you you've been having negative experiences on fab when you treat people like they are inferior to you | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say
Serious question based on the earlier example/scenario. How do you know you like a new profile with no pics and no veris etc?? Any time you message a blank avatar profile with no pics, you could be messaging absolutely anyone - you have no idea of gender, age or anything.
Because i read their profiles and they have a bio which i may like so i respond. If its a new profile with nothing on I'm unlikely to respond
But without pics means that what appears by the text to be a woman might well not be.
A hint, lots of new profiles with no pics, claiming to be women or couples are in fact blokes. Some people seem to get perverse pleasure from baiting people (often men) into messaging and then trolling them.
Just report them, block and move on and try not to dwell on it. That's the internet for you."No I usually can tell a catfish a mile away or a dude. But often women make profiles or they return from a hiatus and write their bio but don't upload pics straight away. Looks are important but i like to read a profile and catch someones vibe to see if theybare a sexual match, hense why i reply. I'll probably do that less until there is a pic veri though. | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say
Serious question based on the earlier example/scenario. How do you know you like a new profile with no pics and no veris etc?? Any time you message a blank avatar profile with no pics, you could be messaging absolutely anyone - you have no idea of gender, age or anything.
Because i read their profiles and they have a bio which i may like so i respond. If its a new profile with nothing on I'm unlikely to respond
But without pics means that what appears by the text to be a woman might well not be.
A hint, lots of new profiles with no pics, claiming to be women or couples are in fact blokes. Some people seem to get perverse pleasure from baiting people (often men) into messaging and then trolling them.
Just report them, block and move on and try not to dwell on it. That's the internet for you."surely being verified by fab and other members helps? I get asked if I'm fake and need to prove my authenticity...  | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying.
I don't believe I have missed thr point at all and instead believe your doing a kind of back peddling thing because you've not received the support you thought you would, your first line is I'm not one to put people down on appearance but this site gives them a false sence of confidence (in plying they are more confident than there looks should alow or why mention putting people down about there looks?) some profiles are rude and ott (just because you find that what they are looking for or not looking for is rude an ott doesn't make that a fact, people have a right to express there wants and standards) what ever happend to a polite no thankyou (they don't owe you a polite no thankyou, thay don't owe you anything).... So please do tell me which part I miss read and where in your first post you said anything about you sending a polite Hay how are you message and receiving a torrent of abuse back? Because the only thing your post says is people hate copy and paste messages (because why should they make effort if you can't be bothered to)
Honestly couldn't be bothered to read all of that. I made it very clear from the beginning and you said the total opposite. I'm not here for support. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you
And you have the audacity to call other people rude... Comical really given your post and attitude towards the people on the thread. Not supprised you you've been having negative experiences on fab when you treat people like they are inferior to you"Once again you still missed the point despite me being clear what I'm talking about. I said i don't eant to engage with you and still you respond with ad hominems and insults. I guess my original post hit a nerve | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say
Serious question based on the earlier example/scenario. How do you know you like a new profile with no pics and no veris etc?? Any time you message a blank avatar profile with no pics, you could be messaging absolutely anyone - you have no idea of gender, age or anything.
Because i read their profiles and they have a bio which i may like so i respond. If its a new profile with nothing on I'm unlikely to respond
But without pics means that what appears by the text to be a woman might well not be.
A hint, lots of new profiles with no pics, claiming to be women or couples are in fact blokes. Some people seem to get perverse pleasure from baiting people (often men) into messaging and then trolling them.
Just report them, block and move on and try not to dwell on it. That's the internet for you.
surely being verified by fab and other members helps? I get asked if I'm fake and need to prove my authenticity... "Believe it or not alot of veris are fake | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying.
I don't believe I have missed thr point at all and instead believe your doing a kind of back peddling thing because you've not received the support you thought you would, your first line is I'm not one to put people down on appearance but this site gives them a false sence of confidence (in plying they are more confident than there looks should alow or why mention putting people down about there looks?) some profiles are rude and ott (just because you find that what they are looking for or not looking for is rude an ott doesn't make that a fact, people have a right to express there wants and standards) what ever happend to a polite no thankyou (they don't owe you a polite no thankyou, thay don't owe you anything).... So please do tell me which part I miss read and where in your first post you said anything about you sending a polite Hay how are you message and receiving a torrent of abuse back? Because the only thing your post says is people hate copy and paste messages (because why should they make effort if you can't be bothered to)
Honestly couldn't be bothered to read all of that. I made it very clear from the beginning and you said the total opposite. I'm not here for support. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you
And you have the audacity to call other people rude... Comical really given your post and attitude towards the people on the thread. Not supprised you you've been having negative experiences on fab when you treat people like they are inferior to you
Once again you still missed the point despite me being clear what I'm talking about. I said i don't eant to engage with you and still you respond with ad hominems and insults. I guess my original post hit a nerve "Just don't engage then | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say
Serious question based on the earlier example/scenario. How do you know you like a new profile with no pics and no veris etc?? Any time you message a blank avatar profile with no pics, you could be messaging absolutely anyone - you have no idea of gender, age or anything.
Because i read their profiles and they have a bio which i may like so i respond. If its a new profile with nothing on I'm unlikely to respond
But without pics means that what appears by the text to be a woman might well not be.
A hint, lots of new profiles with no pics, claiming to be women or couples are in fact blokes. Some people seem to get perverse pleasure from baiting people (often men) into messaging and then trolling them.
Just report them, block and move on and try not to dwell on it. That's the internet for you.
surely being verified by fab and other members helps? I get asked if I'm fake and need to prove my authenticity... "I'd say being verified helps, but could be faked (get a female friend to do it for you, for example) and member veris can also be faked if you know others who are willing to do it. However the sum total of the profile text, pictures, veris etc should reduce the likelihood of fake members being uncovered. Cherry blossom, I'm sure people ask you such things if you've declined their advances and it's because you are an attractive lady and people are jealous or angry about rejection, especially if they think the other person is exactly what they are looking for (even if they're NOT your cuppa). | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying.
I don't believe I have missed thr point at all and instead believe your doing a kind of back peddling thing because you've not received the support you thought you would, your first line is I'm not one to put people down on appearance but this site gives them a false sence of confidence (in plying they are more confident than there looks should alow or why mention putting people down about there looks?) some profiles are rude and ott (just because you find that what they are looking for or not looking for is rude an ott doesn't make that a fact, people have a right to express there wants and standards) what ever happend to a polite no thankyou (they don't owe you a polite no thankyou, thay don't owe you anything).... So please do tell me which part I miss read and where in your first post you said anything about you sending a polite Hay how are you message and receiving a torrent of abuse back? Because the only thing your post says is people hate copy and paste messages (because why should they make effort if you can't be bothered to)
Honestly couldn't be bothered to read all of that. I made it very clear from the beginning and you said the total opposite. I'm not here for support. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you
And you have the audacity to call other people rude... Comical really given your post and attitude towards the people on the thread. Not supprised you you've been having negative experiences on fab when you treat people like they are inferior to you
Once again you still missed the point despite me being clear what I'm talking about. I said i don't eant to engage with you and still you respond with ad hominems and insults. I guess my original post hit a nerve
Just don't engage then"I try not to. As you can tell by a couple of people on here and their rude replies you can see what I'm talking about. Everyone else responding normally and we're having a normal conversation. Some ask me to elaborate and i did and they understand what I'm saying. Imagine calling someone "desperate" and hiding behind the guise of honesty and saying you're not rude. Laughable | |||
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"I don't really see people being rude responding to you, OP." You were one of them but please. Lets leave it. Not interested in engaging in Discourse | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying.
I don't believe I have missed thr point at all and instead believe your doing a kind of back peddling thing because you've not received the support you thought you would, your first line is I'm not one to put people down on appearance but this site gives them a false sence of confidence (in plying they are more confident than there looks should alow or why mention putting people down about there looks?) some profiles are rude and ott (just because you find that what they are looking for or not looking for is rude an ott doesn't make that a fact, people have a right to express there wants and standards) what ever happend to a polite no thankyou (they don't owe you a polite no thankyou, thay don't owe you anything).... So please do tell me which part I miss read and where in your first post you said anything about you sending a polite Hay how are you message and receiving a torrent of abuse back? Because the only thing your post says is people hate copy and paste messages (because why should they make effort if you can't be bothered to)
Honestly couldn't be bothered to read all of that. I made it very clear from the beginning and you said the total opposite. I'm not here for support. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you
And you have the audacity to call other people rude... Comical really given your post and attitude towards the people on the thread. Not supprised you you've been having negative experiences on fab when you treat people like they are inferior to you" 100% this! | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying.
I don't believe I have missed thr point at all and instead believe your doing a kind of back peddling thing because you've not received the support you thought you would, your first line is I'm not one to put people down on appearance but this site gives them a false sence of confidence (in plying they are more confident than there looks should alow or why mention putting people down about there looks?) some profiles are rude and ott (just because you find that what they are looking for or not looking for is rude an ott doesn't make that a fact, people have a right to express there wants and standards) what ever happend to a polite no thankyou (they don't owe you a polite no thankyou, thay don't owe you anything).... So please do tell me which part I miss read and where in your first post you said anything about you sending a polite Hay how are you message and receiving a torrent of abuse back? Because the only thing your post says is people hate copy and paste messages (because why should they make effort if you can't be bothered to)
Honestly couldn't be bothered to read all of that. I made it very clear from the beginning and you said the total opposite. I'm not here for support. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you
And you have the audacity to call other people rude... Comical really given your post and attitude towards the people on the thread. Not supprised you you've been having negative experiences on fab when you treat people like they are inferior to you
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying.
I don't believe I have missed thr point at all and instead believe your doing a kind of back peddling thing because you've not received the support you thought you would, your first line is I'm not one to put people down on appearance but this site gives them a false sence of confidence (in plying they are more confident than there looks should alow or why mention putting people down about there looks?) some profiles are rude and ott (just because you find that what they are looking for or not looking for is rude an ott doesn't make that a fact, people have a right to express there wants and standards) what ever happend to a polite no thankyou (they don't owe you a polite no thankyou, thay don't owe you anything).... So please do tell me which part I miss read and where in your first post you said anything about you sending a polite Hay how are you message and receiving a torrent of abuse back? Because the only thing your post says is people hate copy and paste messages (because why should they make effort if you can't be bothered to)
Honestly couldn't be bothered to read all of that. I made it very clear from the beginning and you said the total opposite. I'm not here for support. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you
And you have the audacity to call other people rude... Comical really given your post and attitude towards the people on the thread. Not supprised you you've been having negative experiences on fab when you treat people like they are inferior to you
Once again you still missed the point despite me being clear what I'm talking about. I said i don't eant to engage with you and still you respond with ad hominems and insults. I guess my original post hit a nerve "maybe if I have missed the point please try educating me, I love a lesson... Let's start with where I broke down your post and made comments on the idervidual points you made... I know you can't be bothered to read all that but it would be a massive help in showing me the error of my ways... Let's start with the I'm not one to put people down by there looks but this site gives them a false sence of confidence... I've obviously mistaken that to mean ugly people don't act like ugly people should, they should be more grateful for attention and I'm so sorry I got the wrong end of the stick, please do tell me the actual intent of that sentence | |||
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"I don't really see people being rude responding to you, OP. You were one of them but please. Lets leave it. Not interested in engaging in Discourse " I'm sorry you feel that way. | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying.
I don't believe I have missed thr point at all and instead believe your doing a kind of back peddling thing because you've not received the support you thought you would, your first line is I'm not one to put people down on appearance but this site gives them a false sence of confidence (in plying they are more confident than there looks should alow or why mention putting people down about there looks?) some profiles are rude and ott (just because you find that what they are looking for or not looking for is rude an ott doesn't make that a fact, people have a right to express there wants and standards) what ever happend to a polite no thankyou (they don't owe you a polite no thankyou, thay don't owe you anything).... So please do tell me which part I miss read and where in your first post you said anything about you sending a polite Hay how are you message and receiving a torrent of abuse back? Because the only thing your post says is people hate copy and paste messages (because why should they make effort if you can't be bothered to)
Honestly couldn't be bothered to read all of that. I made it very clear from the beginning and you said the total opposite. I'm not here for support. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you
And you have the audacity to call other people rude... Comical really given your post and attitude towards the people on the thread. Not supprised you you've been having negative experiences on fab when you treat people like they are inferior to you
Once again you still missed the point despite me being clear what I'm talking about. I said i don't eant to engage with you and still you respond with ad hominems and insults. I guess my original post hit a nerve
Just don't engage then
I try not to. As you can tell by a couple of people on here and their rude replies you can see what I'm talking about. Everyone else responding normally and we're having a normal conversation. Some ask me to elaborate and i did and they understand what I'm saying.
Imagine calling someone "desperate" and hiding behind the guise of honesty and saying you're not rude. Laughable "I didn't call you desperate. I said I'd think you were based on messaging incomplete profiles, that to me is the impression that kind of behaviour gives. When I first joined and had an incomplete profile, and every other fucking woman on the site who hasn't found their filters yet, gets bombarded with hundreds of messages within the first few hours. Hundreds. You feel like you've been fed to the sharks and desperate men are trying to get their hands on you before the others. So yes, that is the impression it gives ME based on MY experience of being new. | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying.
I don't believe I have missed thr point at all and instead believe your doing a kind of back peddling thing because you've not received the support you thought you would, your first line is I'm not one to put people down on appearance but this site gives them a false sence of confidence (in plying they are more confident than there looks should alow or why mention putting people down about there looks?) some profiles are rude and ott (just because you find that what they are looking for or not looking for is rude an ott doesn't make that a fact, people have a right to express there wants and standards) what ever happend to a polite no thankyou (they don't owe you a polite no thankyou, thay don't owe you anything).... So please do tell me which part I miss read and where in your first post you said anything about you sending a polite Hay how are you message and receiving a torrent of abuse back? Because the only thing your post says is people hate copy and paste messages (because why should they make effort if you can't be bothered to)
Honestly couldn't be bothered to read all of that. I made it very clear from the beginning and you said the total opposite. I'm not here for support. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you
And you have the audacity to call other people rude... Comical really given your post and attitude towards the people on the thread. Not supprised you you've been having negative experiences on fab when you treat people like they are inferior to you
Once again you still missed the point despite me being clear what I'm talking about. I said i don't eant to engage with you and still you respond with ad hominems and insults. I guess my original post hit a nerve
maybe if I have missed the point please try educating me, I love a lesson... Let's start with where I broke down your post and made comments on the idervidual points you made... I know you can't be bothered to read all that but it would be a massive help in showing me the error of my ways... Let's start with the I'm not one to put people down by there looks but this site gives them a false sence of confidence... I've obviously mistaken that to mean ugly people don't act like ugly people should, they should be more grateful for attention and I'm so sorry I got the wrong end of the stick, please do tell me the actual intent of that sentence "Maybe if you responded like a normal person and asked me to elaborate on what i meant in each point then i would have. Instead you strawmaned and responded in a rude manner then got upset when i said i didn't want to engage with you and still your writing negative comments and engaging in ad hominems. You're actually proving my point. I imagine if i messaged a greeting to you, you'd reply with an insult like your pinup pro friend who seems to be on your wavelength. Have a nice day | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say
Serious question based on the earlier example/scenario. How do you know you like a new profile with no pics and no veris etc?? Any time you message a blank avatar profile with no pics, you could be messaging absolutely anyone - you have no idea of gender, age or anything.
Because i read their profiles and they have a bio which i may like so i respond. If its a new profile with nothing on I'm unlikely to respond
But without pics means that what appears by the text to be a woman might well not be.
A hint, lots of new profiles with no pics, claiming to be women or couples are in fact blokes. Some people seem to get perverse pleasure from baiting people (often men) into messaging and then trolling them.
Just report them, block and move on and try not to dwell on it. That's the internet for you.
surely being verified by fab and other members helps? I get asked if I'm fake and need to prove my authenticity...
I'd say being verified helps, but could be faked (get a female friend to do it for you, for example) and member veris can also be faked if you know others who are willing to do it. However the sum total of the profile text, pictures, veris etc should reduce the likelihood of fake members being uncovered.
Cherry blossom, I'm sure people ask you such things if you've declined their advances and it's because you are an attractive lady and people are jealous or angry about rejection, especially if they think the other person is exactly what they are looking for (even if they're NOT your cuppa)."no i get these questions if they're interested... i get outrageous abuse when i decline so i rarely reply because of this. more hassle than its worth. i come here to have fun, not to be abused by strangers | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying.
I don't believe I have missed thr point at all and instead believe your doing a kind of back peddling thing because you've not received the support you thought you would, your first line is I'm not one to put people down on appearance but this site gives them a false sence of confidence (in plying they are more confident than there looks should alow or why mention putting people down about there looks?) some profiles are rude and ott (just because you find that what they are looking for or not looking for is rude an ott doesn't make that a fact, people have a right to express there wants and standards) what ever happend to a polite no thankyou (they don't owe you a polite no thankyou, thay don't owe you anything).... So please do tell me which part I miss read and where in your first post you said anything about you sending a polite Hay how are you message and receiving a torrent of abuse back? Because the only thing your post says is people hate copy and paste messages (because why should they make effort if you can't be bothered to)
Honestly couldn't be bothered to read all of that. I made it very clear from the beginning and you said the total opposite. I'm not here for support. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you
And you have the audacity to call other people rude... Comical really given your post and attitude towards the people on the thread. Not supprised you you've been having negative experiences on fab when you treat people like they are inferior to you
Once again you still missed the point despite me being clear what I'm talking about. I said i don't eant to engage with you and still you respond with ad hominems and insults. I guess my original post hit a nerve
Just don't engage then
I try not to. As you can tell by a couple of people on here and their rude replies you can see what I'm talking about. Everyone else responding normally and we're having a normal conversation. Some ask me to elaborate and i did and they understand what I'm saying.
Imagine calling someone "desperate" and hiding behind the guise of honesty and saying you're not rude. Laughable
I didn't call you desperate.
I said I'd think you were based on messaging incomplete profiles, that to me is the impression that kind of behaviour gives. When I first joined and had an incomplete profile, and every other fucking woman on the site who hasn't found their filters yet, gets bombarded with hundreds of messages within the first few hours. Hundreds. You feel like you've been fed to the sharks and desperate men are trying to get their hands on you before the others.
So yes, that is the impression it gives ME based on MY experience of being new."I honestly don't care. I didn't even read the rest of your message. Like i said i don't wish to engage with you. You can stop messaging or perhaps form your own thread with your other friends and talk about me on your own thread. Have a pleasant day | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say
Serious question based on the earlier example/scenario. How do you know you like a new profile with no pics and no veris etc?? Any time you message a blank avatar profile with no pics, you could be messaging absolutely anyone - you have no idea of gender, age or anything.
Because i read their profiles and they have a bio which i may like so i respond. If its a new profile with nothing on I'm unlikely to respond ""If its a new profile with nothing on im unlikely to respond" Unless there's a bio that you liked, of course. Do you genuinely not care what someone looks like? Surely if you want to get to know them, you'd first like to make sure that 35 year old Sally isn't 50 year old Steve. Verifications aren't mandatory after all. Anywho, it seems you're just spoiling for any kind of argument, with anyone. I hope whatever is troubling you ceases soon and you can have a happy weekend. | |||
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"OP, another serious question. Is it intentional that the tone of your replies varies massively between the couples and the single women who have replied? It's an observation......" Text has no tone so you may be reading into it but i tend to be polite and civil with those who respond with politeness and genuine conversation in mind. For example you asked a few questions and asked me to elaborate on some of the points and i did and we a cordial conversation. Others respond with ad hominems, insults and mockery so i respond in a non engaging manner and tell them i don't wish to engage with them and yet they still bombared me with messages. Its the equivalent of someone messaging you and you decline their advances and they start throwing abuse. | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying.
I don't believe I have missed thr point at all and instead believe your doing a kind of back peddling thing because you've not received the support you thought you would, your first line is I'm not one to put people down on appearance but this site gives them a false sence of confidence (in plying they are more confident than there looks should alow or why mention putting people down about there looks?) some profiles are rude and ott (just because you find that what they are looking for or not looking for is rude an ott doesn't make that a fact, people have a right to express there wants and standards) what ever happend to a polite no thankyou (they don't owe you a polite no thankyou, thay don't owe you anything).... So please do tell me which part I miss read and where in your first post you said anything about you sending a polite Hay how are you message and receiving a torrent of abuse back? Because the only thing your post says is people hate copy and paste messages (because why should they make effort if you can't be bothered to)
Honestly couldn't be bothered to read all of that. I made it very clear from the beginning and you said the total opposite. I'm not here for support. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you"Its a shame you can't be bothered to read this lady's response because it explains exactly why you are getting the replies you are. Perhaps if you calmed down, were less defensive and tried to understand that other people have opinions too then you may actually gain something from this thread. Frankly, I'm amazed you're getting the level of politeness you are, you have been rude, arrogant and dismissive of everybody who has taken time to help you. For what it's worth, some people (ourselves included) specifically ask not to recieve generic 'hey, how are you messages' I don't actually care if you've got bored of taking you time to craft a decent first message, we don't ask you to message us, just that if you do there are tired of messages we don't like and will not respond to. It may be that you consider it false confidence but I call it manners to expect that you message in a way that says you've read and understood our profile. Failure to do so suggests that you don't care about what we want which makes us not interested in responding. Opening messages that are clearly not in line with what we ask for do on occasion get a rude response, just the same as if you politely asked someone in real life not to address you in a certain way and they continued to do so. Mr | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say
Serious question based on the earlier example/scenario. How do you know you like a new profile with no pics and no veris etc?? Any time you message a blank avatar profile with no pics, you could be messaging absolutely anyone - you have no idea of gender, age or anything.
Because i read their profiles and they have a bio which i may like so i respond. If its a new profile with nothing on I'm unlikely to respond
"If its a new profile with nothing on im unlikely to respond"
Unless there's a bio that you liked, of course.
Do you genuinely not care what someone looks like? Surely if you want to get to know them, you'd first like to make sure that 35 year old Sally isn't 50 year old Steve. Verifications aren't mandatory after all.
Anywho, it seems you're just spoiling for any kind of argument, with anyone. I hope whatever is troubling you ceases soon and you can have a happy weekend."Thats a very odd reply. It tells me you haven't read the whole thread. Take care | |||
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"OP, another serious question. Is it intentional that the tone of your replies varies massively between the couples and the single women who have replied? It's an observation...... Text has no tone so you may be reading into it but i tend to be polite and civil with those who respond with politeness and genuine conversation in mind. For example you asked a few questions and asked me to elaborate on some of the points and i did and we a cordial conversation. Others respond with ad hominems, insults and mockery so i respond in a non engaging manner and tell them i don't wish to engage with them and yet they still bombared me with messages. Its the equivalent of someone messaging you and you decline their advances and they start throwing abuse. " It does, whether intentional or not, come across that some of your replies are curt, sometimes to the point of sounding rude to observers who are impartial. It also, again, perhaps coincidental, that the curter replies are to single women, with more considered replies to couples. Now, that might well just be random coincidence, but it's still an observation. Goodnight and I'm off to raid Sappyofile's cupboards for hot chocolate. | |||
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"Being rude to people isn't confidence (or a false sense of), it's just twattery. Confidence is having a strong degree of certainty in your own skills, abilities, looks etc but not to such a degree that it's negative or detrimental to others. Then it might be arrogance or just plain rudeness. No I'm not talking about confident people I'm talking about people who have a false sense of confidence. To me, a false sense of confidence would be the teacher who thinks their lesson was the best ever when actually, it was crap. The driver who thinks they're basically Nigel Mansell but in fact appear never to have passed a test. The person who believes their singing is going to win them Britain's Got Talent when actually it sounds like cats being skinned alive. That sort of thing. Thinking you have a very positive attribute or particular skill but actually don't. That's false confidence (to me, at least). What you describe sounds just like plain rude behaviour and there's plenty of that on anonymous internet fora. Yes exactly but rudeness, arrogance and belityling are traits stem from false confidence" I’d say it stems from insecurities or a dislike of themselves | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say
Serious question based on the earlier example/scenario. How do you know you like a new profile with no pics and no veris etc?? Any time you message a blank avatar profile with no pics, you could be messaging absolutely anyone - you have no idea of gender, age or anything.
Because i read their profiles and they have a bio which i may like so i respond. If its a new profile with nothing on I'm unlikely to respond
"If its a new profile with nothing on im unlikely to respond"
Unless there's a bio that you liked, of course.
Do you genuinely not care what someone looks like? Surely if you want to get to know them, you'd first like to make sure that 35 year old Sally isn't 50 year old Steve. Verifications aren't mandatory after all.
Anywho, it seems you're just spoiling for any kind of argument, with anyone. I hope whatever is troubling you ceases soon and you can have a happy weekend.
Thats a very odd reply. It tells me you haven't read the whole thread.
Take care"I feel you're missing my point, which is unfortunate. Shame your reply was rude when I was very genuine in wishing you a happy weekend and to feel better. You come across stressed/down and so, whilst very politely making a valid comment and point, I wished you well and you met me with rudeness and condescension. Ouch. | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying.
I don't believe I have missed thr point at all and instead believe your doing a kind of back peddling thing because you've not received the support you thought you would, your first line is I'm not one to put people down on appearance but this site gives them a false sence of confidence (in plying they are more confident than there looks should alow or why mention putting people down about there looks?) some profiles are rude and ott (just because you find that what they are looking for or not looking for is rude an ott doesn't make that a fact, people have a right to express there wants and standards) what ever happend to a polite no thankyou (they don't owe you a polite no thankyou, thay don't owe you anything).... So please do tell me which part I miss read and where in your first post you said anything about you sending a polite Hay how are you message and receiving a torrent of abuse back? Because the only thing your post says is people hate copy and paste messages (because why should they make effort if you can't be bothered to)
Honestly couldn't be bothered to read all of that. I made it very clear from the beginning and you said the total opposite. I'm not here for support. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you
Its a shame you can't be bothered to read this lady's response because it explains exactly why you are getting the replies you are. Perhaps if you calmed down, were less defensive and tried to understand that other people have opinions too then you may actually gain something from this thread. Frankly, I'm amazed you're getting the level of politeness you are, you have been rude, arrogant and dismissive of everybody who has taken time to help you.
For what it's worth, some people (ourselves included) specifically ask not to recieve generic 'hey, how are you messages' I don't actually care if you've got bored of taking you time to craft a decent first message, we don't ask you to message us, just that if you do there are tired of messages we don't like and will not respond to. It may be that you consider it false confidence but I call it manners to expect that you message in a way that says you've read and understood our profile. Failure to do so suggests that you don't care about what we want which makes us not interested in responding. Opening messages that are clearly not in line with what we ask for do on occasion get a rude response, just the same as if you politely asked someone in real life not to address you in a certain way and they continued to do so.
Mr"I completely disagree with you. Firstly the lady in question didn't understand what i said or read my next post that made what i said clear. It's like i said "I like blue" and she replied with "why do you hate blue?" Literally all her points were exactly opposite of what i was saying so she had non point to make. With the rest of your stuff. If someone sent a generic message and you wanted a personalised why would you respond with a rude message? Why not just delete their message and block them? Why the energy to engage in insults and rudeness? If you have the time to send a rude message then surely you could send a pleasant message and find out about them no? I find that attitude rather bizare | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying.
I don't believe I have missed thr point at all and instead believe your doing a kind of back peddling thing because you've not received the support you thought you would, your first line is I'm not one to put people down on appearance but this site gives them a false sence of confidence (in plying they are more confident than there looks should alow or why mention putting people down about there looks?) some profiles are rude and ott (just because you find that what they are looking for or not looking for is rude an ott doesn't make that a fact, people have a right to express there wants and standards) what ever happend to a polite no thankyou (they don't owe you a polite no thankyou, thay don't owe you anything).... So please do tell me which part I miss read and where in your first post you said anything about you sending a polite Hay how are you message and receiving a torrent of abuse back? Because the only thing your post says is people hate copy and paste messages (because why should they make effort if you can't be bothered to)
Honestly couldn't be bothered to read all of that. I made it very clear from the beginning and you said the total opposite. I'm not here for support. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you
And you have the audacity to call other people rude... Comical really given your post and attitude towards the people on the thread. Not supprised you you've been having negative experiences on fab when you treat people like they are inferior to you
Once again you still missed the point despite me being clear what I'm talking about. I said i don't eant to engage with you and still you respond with ad hominems and insults. I guess my original post hit a nerve
maybe if I have missed the point please try educating me, I love a lesson... Let's start with where I broke down your post and made comments on the idervidual points you made... I know you can't be bothered to read all that but it would be a massive help in showing me the error of my ways... Let's start with the I'm not one to put people down by there looks but this site gives them a false sence of confidence... I've obviously mistaken that to mean ugly people don't act like ugly people should, they should be more grateful for attention and I'm so sorry I got the wrong end of the stick, please do tell me the actual intent of that sentence
Maybe if you responded like a normal person and asked me to elaborate on what i meant in each point then i would have. Instead you strawmaned and responded in a rude manner then got upset when i said i didn't want to engage with you and still your writing negative comments and engaging in ad hominems. You're actually proving my point. I imagine if i messaged a greeting to you, you'd reply with an insult like your pinup pro friend who seems to be on your wavelength.
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"I don't believe I've been rude in the slightest, asking for clarification of your points is not rude, the fact your response to that was to try and belittle me. Not only does your post read as being rude and derogatory but your responses to the single women are outrageous and uncalled for " Your first message was rude, your 2nd was even ruder. I asked you to stop messaging and you're still replying. I said i don't wish to engage with you. I'm not sure how clearer i can be. If your 1st responce was civil i would have pointed out and elaborated what you misunderstood. Can you kindly stop messaging me? | |||
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"I don't believe you've been bombarded with messages OP, I sent the 1 message which you asked me to. The rest have been replies on an open forum thread, so please don't make it out to be something it isn't. I made a generalisation on your behaviour, and the impression it gave me. That's not acceptable in your eyes You made a judgement on me based on my profile text but that IS acceptable in your eyes Play fair now." Once again i don't wish to engage with you. Have a nice day | |||
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"I don't believe I've been rude in the slightest, asking for clarification of your points is not rude, the fact your response to that was to try and belittle me. Not only does your post read as being rude and derogatory but your responses to the single women are outrageous and uncalled for Your first message was rude, your 2nd was even ruder. I asked you to stop messaging and you're still replying. I said i don't wish to engage with you. I'm not sure how clearer i can be. If your 1st responce was civil i would have pointed out and elaborated what you misunderstood. Can you kindly stop messaging me? " It's a public thread. People can respond | |||
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"OP, another serious question. Is it intentional that the tone of your replies varies massively between the couples and the single women who have replied? It's an observation...... Text has no tone so you may be reading into it but i tend to be polite and civil with those who respond with politeness and genuine conversation in mind. For example you asked a few questions and asked me to elaborate on some of the points and i did and we a cordial conversation. Others respond with ad hominems, insults and mockery so i respond in a non engaging manner and tell them i don't wish to engage with them and yet they still bombared me with messages. Its the equivalent of someone messaging you and you decline their advances and they start throwing abuse. It does, whether intentional or not, come across that some of your replies are curt, sometimes to the point of sounding rude to observers who are impartial. It also, again, perhaps coincidental, that the curter replies are to single women, with more considered replies to couples. Now, that might well just be random coincidence, but it's still an observation. Goodnight and I'm off to raid Sappyofile's cupboards for hot chocolate. " Probably coincidental. I would say the opposite. I've been detailed with couples but a few single profiles I've sent short replies and asked them not to respond to me. Have a nice night. Please chatting | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say
Serious question based on the earlier example/scenario. How do you know you like a new profile with no pics and no veris etc?? Any time you message a blank avatar profile with no pics, you could be messaging absolutely anyone - you have no idea of gender, age or anything.
Because i read their profiles and they have a bio which i may like so i respond. If its a new profile with nothing on I'm unlikely to respond
"If its a new profile with nothing on im unlikely to respond"
Unless there's a bio that you liked, of course.
Do you genuinely not care what someone looks like? Surely if you want to get to know them, you'd first like to make sure that 35 year old Sally isn't 50 year old Steve. Verifications aren't mandatory after all.
Anywho, it seems you're just spoiling for any kind of argument, with anyone. I hope whatever is troubling you ceases soon and you can have a happy weekend.
Thats a very odd reply. It tells me you haven't read the whole thread.
Take care
I feel you're missing my point, which is unfortunate.
Shame your reply was rude when I was very genuine in wishing you a happy weekend and to feel better. You come across stressed/down and so, whilst very politely making a valid comment and point, I wished you well and you met me with rudeness and condescension.
Ouch. "I actually addressed the point you made earlier in the thread so if you read it you wouldn't have written that. You suggested I'm spoiling for a fight and that I'm "troubled" which is an insult and yet you're clammering to the moral high ground by calling me rude because i said "you didn't read the thread" Okaaaay. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you either | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying.
I don't believe I have missed thr point at all and instead believe your doing a kind of back peddling thing because you've not received the support you thought you would, your first line is I'm not one to put people down on appearance but this site gives them a false sence of confidence (in plying they are more confident than there looks should alow or why mention putting people down about there looks?) some profiles are rude and ott (just because you find that what they are looking for or not looking for is rude an ott doesn't make that a fact, people have a right to express there wants and standards) what ever happend to a polite no thankyou (they don't owe you a polite no thankyou, thay don't owe you anything).... So please do tell me which part I miss read and where in your first post you said anything about you sending a polite Hay how are you message and receiving a torrent of abuse back? Because the only thing your post says is people hate copy and paste messages (because why should they make effort if you can't be bothered to)
Honestly couldn't be bothered to read all of that. I made it very clear from the beginning and you said the total opposite. I'm not here for support. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you
Its a shame you can't be bothered to read this lady's response because it explains exactly why you are getting the replies you are. Perhaps if you calmed down, were less defensive and tried to understand that other people have opinions too then you may actually gain something from this thread. Frankly, I'm amazed you're getting the level of politeness you are, you have been rude, arrogant and dismissive of everybody who has taken time to help you.
For what it's worth, some people (ourselves included) specifically ask not to recieve generic 'hey, how are you messages' I don't actually care if you've got bored of taking you time to craft a decent first message, we don't ask you to message us, just that if you do there are tired of messages we don't like and will not respond to. It may be that you consider it false confidence but I call it manners to expect that you message in a way that says you've read and understood our profile. Failure to do so suggests that you don't care about what we want which makes us not interested in responding. Opening messages that are clearly not in line with what we ask for do on occasion get a rude response, just the same as if you politely asked someone in real life not to address you in a certain way and they continued to do so.
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I completely disagree with you. Firstly the lady in question didn't understand what i said or read my next post that made what i said clear. It's like i said "I like blue" and she replied with "why do you hate blue?" Literally all her points were exactly opposite of what i was saying so she had non point to make.
With the rest of your stuff. If someone sent a generic message and you wanted a personalised why would you respond with a rude message? Why not just delete their message and block them? Why the energy to engage in insults and rudeness? If you have the time to send a rude message then surely you could send a pleasant message and find out about them no? I find that attitude rather bizare"I'll answer that, even though I don't respond rudely. Some women become frustrated when they open generic message after generic message; because it's written plain and clear on their profiles they don't want them. If people can't be bothered to read profiles then they should expect a terse reply from some women. There are men on here who are offended and complain when their messages are deleted with no reply or left unread. Abuse isn't tolerated here and should be reported. | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say
Serious question based on the earlier example/scenario. How do you know you like a new profile with no pics and no veris etc?? Any time you message a blank avatar profile with no pics, you could be messaging absolutely anyone - you have no idea of gender, age or anything.
Because i read their profiles and they have a bio which i may like so i respond. If its a new profile with nothing on I'm unlikely to respond
"If its a new profile with nothing on im unlikely to respond"
Unless there's a bio that you liked, of course.
Do you genuinely not care what someone looks like? Surely if you want to get to know them, you'd first like to make sure that 35 year old Sally isn't 50 year old Steve. Verifications aren't mandatory after all.
Anywho, it seems you're just spoiling for any kind of argument, with anyone. I hope whatever is troubling you ceases soon and you can have a happy weekend.
Thats a very odd reply. It tells me you haven't read the whole thread.
Take care
I feel you're missing my point, which is unfortunate.
Shame your reply was rude when I was very genuine in wishing you a happy weekend and to feel better. You come across stressed/down and so, whilst very politely making a valid comment and point, I wished you well and you met me with rudeness and condescension.
Ouch.
I actually addressed the point you made earlier in the thread so if you read it you wouldn't have written that. You suggested I'm spoiling for a fight and that I'm "troubled" which is an insult and yet you're clammering to the moral high ground by calling me rude because i said "you didn't read the thread"
Okaaaay. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you either"Because that's how you're coming across. Don't come across that way and it won't be commented on. It's that simple. Side note and off topic of the original post..: I deleted your message 12 weeks ago yet you felt the need to message me again this evening telling me you're sad that I didnt reply but I'm super hot anyway. That, to me, implies that I can get away with deleting your message cause you find me attractive. Are you saying if I weren't attractive, I'd have been wrong to delete your message? | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say
Serious question based on the earlier example/scenario. How do you know you like a new profile with no pics and no veris etc?? Any time you message a blank avatar profile with no pics, you could be messaging absolutely anyone - you have no idea of gender, age or anything.
Because i read their profiles and they have a bio which i may like so i respond. If its a new profile with nothing on I'm unlikely to respond
"If its a new profile with nothing on im unlikely to respond"
Unless there's a bio that you liked, of course.
Do you genuinely not care what someone looks like? Surely if you want to get to know them, you'd first like to make sure that 35 year old Sally isn't 50 year old Steve. Verifications aren't mandatory after all.
Anywho, it seems you're just spoiling for any kind of argument, with anyone. I hope whatever is troubling you ceases soon and you can have a happy weekend.
Thats a very odd reply. It tells me you haven't read the whole thread.
Take care
I feel you're missing my point, which is unfortunate.
Shame your reply was rude when I was very genuine in wishing you a happy weekend and to feel better. You come across stressed/down and so, whilst very politely making a valid comment and point, I wished you well and you met me with rudeness and condescension.
Ouch.
I actually addressed the point you made earlier in the thread so if you read it you wouldn't have written that. You suggested I'm spoiling for a fight and that I'm "troubled" which is an insult and yet you're clammering to the moral high ground by calling me rude because i said "you didn't read the thread"
Okaaaay. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you either"Seems like a fair few people who you don't wish to engage with OP. Shame. Some insightful feedback | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying.
I don't believe I have missed thr point at all and instead believe your doing a kind of back peddling thing because you've not received the support you thought you would, your first line is I'm not one to put people down on appearance but this site gives them a false sence of confidence (in plying they are more confident than there looks should alow or why mention putting people down about there looks?) some profiles are rude and ott (just because you find that what they are looking for or not looking for is rude an ott doesn't make that a fact, people have a right to express there wants and standards) what ever happend to a polite no thankyou (they don't owe you a polite no thankyou, thay don't owe you anything).... So please do tell me which part I miss read and where in your first post you said anything about you sending a polite Hay how are you message and receiving a torrent of abuse back? Because the only thing your post says is people hate copy and paste messages (because why should they make effort if you can't be bothered to)
Honestly couldn't be bothered to read all of that. I made it very clear from the beginning and you said the total opposite. I'm not here for support. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you
Its a shame you can't be bothered to read this lady's response because it explains exactly why you are getting the replies you are. Perhaps if you calmed down, were less defensive and tried to understand that other people have opinions too then you may actually gain something from this thread. Frankly, I'm amazed you're getting the level of politeness you are, you have been rude, arrogant and dismissive of everybody who has taken time to help you.
For what it's worth, some people (ourselves included) specifically ask not to recieve generic 'hey, how are you messages' I don't actually care if you've got bored of taking you time to craft a decent first message, we don't ask you to message us, just that if you do there are tired of messages we don't like and will not respond to. It may be that you consider it false confidence but I call it manners to expect that you message in a way that says you've read and understood our profile. Failure to do so suggests that you don't care about what we want which makes us not interested in responding. Opening messages that are clearly not in line with what we ask for do on occasion get a rude response, just the same as if you politely asked someone in real life not to address you in a certain way and they continued to do so.
Mr
I completely disagree with you. Firstly the lady in question didn't understand what i said or read my next post that made what i said clear. It's like i said "I like blue" and she replied with "why do you hate blue?" Literally all her points were exactly opposite of what i was saying so she had non point to make.
With the rest of your stuff. If someone sent a generic message and you wanted a personalised why would you respond with a rude message? Why not just delete their message and block them? Why the energy to engage in insults and rudeness? If you have the time to send a rude message then surely you could send a pleasant message and find out about them no? I find that attitude rather bizare
I'll answer that, even though I don't respond rudely.
Some women become frustrated when they open generic message after generic message; because it's written plain and clear on their profiles they don't want them.
If people can't be bothered to read profiles then they should expect a terse reply from some women.
There are men on here who are offended and complain when their messages are deleted with no reply or left unread.
Abuse isn't tolerated here and should be reported. "That leaves the door open for abuse. If you read generic replies after generic replies just delete and block. Simple. You're not going to have amazing replies all the time. If you don't like generic replies and abuse people for it then people can then send abuse to you because they don't like generic profiles with the same wordings and the same sort of pics.... opens up a can of worms and tit for tat attitude. No one should send abusive messages and if you do then you deserve one back or to be removed. Men who complain or offended when their messages are deleted are the types of people I'm talking about in this thread also. You arent entitled to a reply and if you dont get one move on. No need to abuse people | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say
Serious question based on the earlier example/scenario. How do you know you like a new profile with no pics and no veris etc?? Any time you message a blank avatar profile with no pics, you could be messaging absolutely anyone - you have no idea of gender, age or anything.
Because i read their profiles and they have a bio which i may like so i respond. If its a new profile with nothing on I'm unlikely to respond
"If its a new profile with nothing on im unlikely to respond"
Unless there's a bio that you liked, of course.
Do you genuinely not care what someone looks like? Surely if you want to get to know them, you'd first like to make sure that 35 year old Sally isn't 50 year old Steve. Verifications aren't mandatory after all.
Anywho, it seems you're just spoiling for any kind of argument, with anyone. I hope whatever is troubling you ceases soon and you can have a happy weekend.
Thats a very odd reply. It tells me you haven't read the whole thread.
Take care
I feel you're missing my point, which is unfortunate.
Shame your reply was rude when I was very genuine in wishing you a happy weekend and to feel better. You come across stressed/down and so, whilst very politely making a valid comment and point, I wished you well and you met me with rudeness and condescension.
Ouch.
I actually addressed the point you made earlier in the thread so if you read it you wouldn't have written that. You suggested I'm spoiling for a fight and that I'm "troubled" which is an insult and yet you're clammering to the moral high ground by calling me rude because i said "you didn't read the thread"
Okaaaay. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you either
Because that's how you're coming across. Don't come across that way and it won't be commented on. It's that simple.
Side note and off topic of the original post..: I deleted your message 12 weeks ago yet you felt the need to message me again this evening telling me you're sad that I didnt reply but I'm super hot anyway.
That, to me, implies that I can get away with deleting your message cause you find me attractive. Are you saying if I weren't attractive, I'd have been wrong to delete your message?"Did you and the other 2 girls go to the same strawmaning school? You're right instead of sending a nice "shame you didn't reply, you're beautiful anyway" i should have been like the sort of people I'm complaining about and sent abuse right? Jheeze. Adios | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying.
I don't believe I have missed thr point at all and instead believe your doing a kind of back peddling thing because you've not received the support you thought you would, your first line is I'm not one to put people down on appearance but this site gives them a false sence of confidence (in plying they are more confident than there looks should alow or why mention putting people down about there looks?) some profiles are rude and ott (just because you find that what they are looking for or not looking for is rude an ott doesn't make that a fact, people have a right to express there wants and standards) what ever happend to a polite no thankyou (they don't owe you a polite no thankyou, thay don't owe you anything).... So please do tell me which part I miss read and where in your first post you said anything about you sending a polite Hay how are you message and receiving a torrent of abuse back? Because the only thing your post says is people hate copy and paste messages (because why should they make effort if you can't be bothered to)
Honestly couldn't be bothered to read all of that. I made it very clear from the beginning and you said the total opposite. I'm not here for support. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you
Its a shame you can't be bothered to read this lady's response because it explains exactly why you are getting the replies you are. Perhaps if you calmed down, were less defensive and tried to understand that other people have opinions too then you may actually gain something from this thread. Frankly, I'm amazed you're getting the level of politeness you are, you have been rude, arrogant and dismissive of everybody who has taken time to help you.
For what it's worth, some people (ourselves included) specifically ask not to recieve generic 'hey, how are you messages' I don't actually care if you've got bored of taking you time to craft a decent first message, we don't ask you to message us, just that if you do there are tired of messages we don't like and will not respond to. It may be that you consider it false confidence but I call it manners to expect that you message in a way that says you've read and understood our profile. Failure to do so suggests that you don't care about what we want which makes us not interested in responding. Opening messages that are clearly not in line with what we ask for do on occasion get a rude response, just the same as if you politely asked someone in real life not to address you in a certain way and they continued to do so.
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I completely disagree with you. Firstly the lady in question didn't understand what i said or read my next post that made what i said clear. It's like i said "I like blue" and she replied with "why do you hate blue?" Literally all her points were exactly opposite of what i was saying so she had non point to make.
With the rest of your stuff. If someone sent a generic message and you wanted a personalised why would you respond with a rude message? Why not just delete their message and block them? Why the energy to engage in insults and rudeness? If you have the time to send a rude message then surely you could send a pleasant message and find out about them no? I find that attitude rather bizare
I'll answer that, even though I don't respond rudely.
Some women become frustrated when they open generic message after generic message; because it's written plain and clear on their profiles they don't want them.
If people can't be bothered to read profiles then they should expect a terse reply from some women.
There are men on here who are offended and complain when their messages are deleted with no reply or left unread.
Abuse isn't tolerated here and should be reported.
That leaves the door open for abuse. If you read generic replies after generic replies just delete and block. Simple. You're not going to have amazing replies all the time. If you don't like generic replies and abuse people for it then people can then send abuse to you because they don't like generic profiles with the same wordings and the same sort of pics.... opens up a can of worms and tit for tat attitude. No one should send abusive messages and if you do then you deserve one back or to be removed.
Men who complain or offended when their messages are deleted are the types of people I'm talking about in this thread also. You arent entitled to a reply and if you dont get one move on. No need to abuse people"Do people who do not read profiles and send generic message not deserve an abusive reply then? Some people, like myself will respond to all messages, regardless. Some delete and block. Some lose their patience and send abuse. If you don't like those replies, block and report them. | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say
Serious question based on the earlier example/scenario. How do you know you like a new profile with no pics and no veris etc?? Any time you message a blank avatar profile with no pics, you could be messaging absolutely anyone - you have no idea of gender, age or anything.
Because i read their profiles and they have a bio which i may like so i respond. If its a new profile with nothing on I'm unlikely to respond
"If its a new profile with nothing on im unlikely to respond"
Unless there's a bio that you liked, of course.
Do you genuinely not care what someone looks like? Surely if you want to get to know them, you'd first like to make sure that 35 year old Sally isn't 50 year old Steve. Verifications aren't mandatory after all.
Anywho, it seems you're just spoiling for any kind of argument, with anyone. I hope whatever is troubling you ceases soon and you can have a happy weekend.
Thats a very odd reply. It tells me you haven't read the whole thread.
Take care
I feel you're missing my point, which is unfortunate.
Shame your reply was rude when I was very genuine in wishing you a happy weekend and to feel better. You come across stressed/down and so, whilst very politely making a valid comment and point, I wished you well and you met me with rudeness and condescension.
Ouch.
I actually addressed the point you made earlier in the thread so if you read it you wouldn't have written that. You suggested I'm spoiling for a fight and that I'm "troubled" which is an insult and yet you're clammering to the moral high ground by calling me rude because i said "you didn't read the thread"
Okaaaay. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you either
Seems like a fair few people who you don't wish to engage with OP. Shame. Some insightful feedback "It may be ensightful to you because you're a rude person and you're offended by my OP because it apllies to people like you. Seems weird how you lot complain about harrasment and yet you've bombarded me with messages on here. Pot kettle | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say
Serious question based on the earlier example/scenario. How do you know you like a new profile with no pics and no veris etc?? Any time you message a blank avatar profile with no pics, you could be messaging absolutely anyone - you have no idea of gender, age or anything.
Because i read their profiles and they have a bio which i may like so i respond. If its a new profile with nothing on I'm unlikely to respond
"If its a new profile with nothing on im unlikely to respond"
Unless there's a bio that you liked, of course.
Do you genuinely not care what someone looks like? Surely if you want to get to know them, you'd first like to make sure that 35 year old Sally isn't 50 year old Steve. Verifications aren't mandatory after all.
Anywho, it seems you're just spoiling for any kind of argument, with anyone. I hope whatever is troubling you ceases soon and you can have a happy weekend.
Thats a very odd reply. It tells me you haven't read the whole thread.
Take care
I feel you're missing my point, which is unfortunate.
Shame your reply was rude when I was very genuine in wishing you a happy weekend and to feel better. You come across stressed/down and so, whilst very politely making a valid comment and point, I wished you well and you met me with rudeness and condescension.
Ouch.
I actually addressed the point you made earlier in the thread so if you read it you wouldn't have written that. You suggested I'm spoiling for a fight and that I'm "troubled" which is an insult and yet you're clammering to the moral high ground by calling me rude because i said "you didn't read the thread"
Okaaaay. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you either
Because that's how you're coming across. Don't come across that way and it won't be commented on. It's that simple.
Side note and off topic of the original post..: I deleted your message 12 weeks ago yet you felt the need to message me again this evening telling me you're sad that I didnt reply but I'm super hot anyway.
That, to me, implies that I can get away with deleting your message cause you find me attractive. Are you saying if I weren't attractive, I'd have been wrong to delete your message?
Did you and the other 2 girls go to the same strawmaning school?
You're right instead of sending a nice "shame you didn't reply, you're beautiful anyway" i should have been like the sort of people I'm complaining about and sent abuse right?
Jheeze. Adios"Instead of answering my question, you get defensive. If you had replied when I deleted the message TWELEVE weeks ago then fair enough, your compliment would have been understood.  | |||
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"Could it be that people are frustrated OP? Frustrated by being contacted by folk who arent a good match for them? Could be the hurt ppl hurt ppl thing theres a lot of bored, upset or confused folk that join fab and they just want someone to be shit to? Trolls and attention seekers, keyboard warriors etc Difficult for you if your coming from a positive place but you do have to be very thick skinned on here. Shitty reply? Delete block and move on. " I think you hit the nail on the head. People join just to be shit to others because in their life they arent happy or they feel big when they send abuse. Its why i suggested fab has more filters so you can be more specific with who replies to you. | |||
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"People are entitled to have preferences and they are heaven sent people here making things so explicitly clear for people like OP. When you know you are not what they are looking for, you give up with them and use your time intelligently, as you must know how to. You move on. Making it explicitly clear demonstrates that they are God's gift to you, preventing you crafting exquisite words flowing, extolling your qualities like no other since the great Bard, in eager anticipation of a quivering quim. They are entitled to any confidence they may have, whether they want someone like you, or wouldn't be seen dead with you. Their rules govern their bodies, despite what others may think is right or wrong for them to seek. Rejoice, you have set yourself free from never having your unwanted, unsolicited tarted-up FAF deleted " Oops we have another one who completely misread what i said. | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say
Serious question based on the earlier example/scenario. How do you know you like a new profile with no pics and no veris etc?? Any time you message a blank avatar profile with no pics, you could be messaging absolutely anyone - you have no idea of gender, age or anything.
Because i read their profiles and they have a bio which i may like so i respond. If its a new profile with nothing on I'm unlikely to respond
"If its a new profile with nothing on im unlikely to respond"
Unless there's a bio that you liked, of course.
Do you genuinely not care what someone looks like? Surely if you want to get to know them, you'd first like to make sure that 35 year old Sally isn't 50 year old Steve. Verifications aren't mandatory after all.
Anywho, it seems you're just spoiling for any kind of argument, with anyone. I hope whatever is troubling you ceases soon and you can have a happy weekend.
Thats a very odd reply. It tells me you haven't read the whole thread.
Take care
I feel you're missing my point, which is unfortunate.
Shame your reply was rude when I was very genuine in wishing you a happy weekend and to feel better. You come across stressed/down and so, whilst very politely making a valid comment and point, I wished you well and you met me with rudeness and condescension.
Ouch.
I actually addressed the point you made earlier in the thread so if you read it you wouldn't have written that. You suggested I'm spoiling for a fight and that I'm "troubled" which is an insult and yet you're clammering to the moral high ground by calling me rude because i said "you didn't read the thread"
Okaaaay. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you either
Because that's how you're coming across. Don't come across that way and it won't be commented on. It's that simple.
Side note and off topic of the original post..: I deleted your message 12 weeks ago yet you felt the need to message me again this evening telling me you're sad that I didnt reply but I'm super hot anyway.
That, to me, implies that I can get away with deleting your message cause you find me attractive. Are you saying if I weren't attractive, I'd have been wrong to delete your message?
Did you and the other 2 girls go to the same strawmaning school?
You're right instead of sending a nice "shame you didn't reply, you're beautiful anyway" i should have been like the sort of people I'm complaining about and sent abuse right?
Jheeze. Adios"We are women not girls you arrogant man. I'm absolutely loving the fact that your trying to gaslight a group of people into believing your original post doesn't say what your original post says... It would be comical if it wasn't so sad, its even more amusing that you think if you keep throwing around selden used words like strawmongering then that would somehow prove your point or back up your argument... It doesn't by the way, you know what might tho? An explanation of what what you ment by what you said. But of course you can't do that... Not because you can't but because we are all rude | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying.
I don't believe I have missed thr point at all and instead believe your doing a kind of back peddling thing because you've not received the support you thought you would, your first line is I'm not one to put people down on appearance but this site gives them a false sence of confidence (in plying they are more confident than there looks should alow or why mention putting people down about there looks?) some profiles are rude and ott (just because you find that what they are looking for or not looking for is rude an ott doesn't make that a fact, people have a right to express there wants and standards) what ever happend to a polite no thankyou (they don't owe you a polite no thankyou, thay don't owe you anything).... So please do tell me which part I miss read and where in your first post you said anything about you sending a polite Hay how are you message and receiving a torrent of abuse back? Because the only thing your post says is people hate copy and paste messages (because why should they make effort if you can't be bothered to)
Honestly couldn't be bothered to read all of that. I made it very clear from the beginning and you said the total opposite. I'm not here for support. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you
Its a shame you can't be bothered to read this lady's response because it explains exactly why you are getting the replies you are. Perhaps if you calmed down, were less defensive and tried to understand that other people have opinions too then you may actually gain something from this thread. Frankly, I'm amazed you're getting the level of politeness you are, you have been rude, arrogant and dismissive of everybody who has taken time to help you.
For what it's worth, some people (ourselves included) specifically ask not to recieve generic 'hey, how are you messages' I don't actually care if you've got bored of taking you time to craft a decent first message, we don't ask you to message us, just that if you do there are tired of messages we don't like and will not respond to. It may be that you consider it false confidence but I call it manners to expect that you message in a way that says you've read and understood our profile. Failure to do so suggests that you don't care about what we want which makes us not interested in responding. Opening messages that are clearly not in line with what we ask for do on occasion get a rude response, just the same as if you politely asked someone in real life not to address you in a certain way and they continued to do so.
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I completely disagree with you. Firstly the lady in question didn't understand what i said or read my next post that made what i said clear. It's like i said "I like blue" and she replied with "why do you hate blue?" Literally all her points were exactly opposite of what i was saying so she had non point to make.
With the rest of your stuff. If someone sent a generic message and you wanted a personalised why would you respond with a rude message? Why not just delete their message and block them? Why the energy to engage in insults and rudeness? If you have the time to send a rude message then surely you could send a pleasant message and find out about them no? I find that attitude rather bizare
I'll answer that, even though I don't respond rudely.
Some women become frustrated when they open generic message after generic message; because it's written plain and clear on their profiles they don't want them.
If people can't be bothered to read profiles then they should expect a terse reply from some women.
There are men on here who are offended and complain when their messages are deleted with no reply or left unread.
Abuse isn't tolerated here and should be reported.
That leaves the door open for abuse. If you read generic replies after generic replies just delete and block. Simple. You're not going to have amazing replies all the time. If you don't like generic replies and abuse people for it then people can then send abuse to you because they don't like generic profiles with the same wordings and the same sort of pics.... opens up a can of worms and tit for tat attitude. No one should send abusive messages and if you do then you deserve one back or to be removed.
Men who complain or offended when their messages are deleted are the types of people I'm talking about in this thread also. You arent entitled to a reply and if you dont get one move on. No need to abuse people
Do people who do not read profiles and send generic message not deserve an abusive reply then?
Some people, like myself will respond to all messages, regardless. Some delete and block.
Some lose their patience and send abuse. If you don't like those replies, block and report them.
"No one deserves abuse. If you send abuse you should be blocked. Alot of people read profiles but chance it anyway. If they don't just delete and block and they can't message anymore. Why waste energy on abusing them? Then i can send you an abusive message because i "don't like your profile pic" or whatever. | |||
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"Could it be that people are frustrated OP? Frustrated by being contacted by folk who arent a good match for them? Could be the hurt ppl hurt ppl thing theres a lot of bored, upset or confused folk that join fab and they just want someone to be shit to? Trolls and attention seekers, keyboard warriors etc Difficult for you if your coming from a positive place but you do have to be very thick skinned on here. Shitty reply? Delete block and move on. I think you hit the nail on the head. People join just to be shit to others because in their life they arent happy or they feel big when they send abuse. Its why i suggested fab has more filters so you can be more specific with who replies to you. " They may be very happy people away from Fab. I'm a firm believer that if you don't like the messages you receive then block men and message them yourself. I have to block men most of them time so I can reply to everyone. I can't search myself as I get decision fatigue and eye ache from scrolling. I took the lazy road and I have to manage my inbox accordingly. The only advice I will give (which I don't often do) is only message profiles you are really interested in and don't send generic messages to lots. Also, don't take bad responses to heart and become bitter, as it could ruin your experience on here. | |||
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"Wow well that's a lot tk unravel a there op , firstly how can you tell the difference between confidence and false confidence (especially being as you've not actually met the person)? And by stuck up profiles do you mean the person has there own personal standards and expectations outlined (you know on There profile) as for the rude for not replying I'm interested to know why you think you are owed a response, why somone would owe you there time and effort just because you want it? Because some people would find it rude that a person thinks sending a message automatically gives them the right to expect a response
You've completely missed the point and not understood anything i said. Not sure if you're strawmaning or you genuinely misunderstandood what I'm saying.
I don't believe I have missed thr point at all and instead believe your doing a kind of back peddling thing because you've not received the support you thought you would, your first line is I'm not one to put people down on appearance but this site gives them a false sence of confidence (in plying they are more confident than there looks should alow or why mention putting people down about there looks?) some profiles are rude and ott (just because you find that what they are looking for or not looking for is rude an ott doesn't make that a fact, people have a right to express there wants and standards) what ever happend to a polite no thankyou (they don't owe you a polite no thankyou, thay don't owe you anything).... So please do tell me which part I miss read and where in your first post you said anything about you sending a polite Hay how are you message and receiving a torrent of abuse back? Because the only thing your post says is people hate copy and paste messages (because why should they make effort if you can't be bothered to)
Honestly couldn't be bothered to read all of that. I made it very clear from the beginning and you said the total opposite. I'm not here for support. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you
Its a shame you can't be bothered to read this lady's response because it explains exactly why you are getting the replies you are. Perhaps if you calmed down, were less defensive and tried to understand that other people have opinions too then you may actually gain something from this thread. Frankly, I'm amazed you're getting the level of politeness you are, you have been rude, arrogant and dismissive of everybody who has taken time to help you.
For what it's worth, some people (ourselves included) specifically ask not to recieve generic 'hey, how are you messages' I don't actually care if you've got bored of taking you time to craft a decent first message, we don't ask you to message us, just that if you do there are tired of messages we don't like and will not respond to. It may be that you consider it false confidence but I call it manners to expect that you message in a way that says you've read and understood our profile. Failure to do so suggests that you don't care about what we want which makes us not interested in responding. Opening messages that are clearly not in line with what we ask for do on occasion get a rude response, just the same as if you politely asked someone in real life not to address you in a certain way and they continued to do so.
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I completely disagree with you. Firstly the lady in question didn't understand what i said or read my next post that made what i said clear. It's like i said "I like blue" and she replied with "why do you hate blue?" Literally all her points were exactly opposite of what i was saying so she had non point to make.
With the rest of your stuff. If someone sent a generic message and you wanted a personalised why would you respond with a rude message? Why not just delete their message and block them? Why the energy to engage in insults and rudeness? If you have the time to send a rude message then surely you could send a pleasant message and find out about them no? I find that attitude rather bizare
I'll answer that, even though I don't respond rudely.
Some women become frustrated when they open generic message after generic message; because it's written plain and clear on their profiles they don't want them.
If people can't be bothered to read profiles then they should expect a terse reply from some women.
There are men on here who are offended and complain when their messages are deleted with no reply or left unread.
Abuse isn't tolerated here and should be reported.
That leaves the door open for abuse. If you read generic replies after generic replies just delete and block. Simple. You're not going to have amazing replies all the time. If you don't like generic replies and abuse people for it then people can then send abuse to you because they don't like generic profiles with the same wordings and the same sort of pics.... opens up a can of worms and tit for tat attitude. No one should send abusive messages and if you do then you deserve one back or to be removed.
Men who complain or offended when their messages are deleted are the types of people I'm talking about in this thread also. You arent entitled to a reply and if you dont get one move on. No need to abuse people
Do people who do not read profiles and send generic message not deserve an abusive reply then?
Some people, like myself will respond to all messages, regardless. Some delete and block.
Some lose their patience and send abuse. If you don't like those replies, block and report them.
No one deserves abuse. If you send abuse you should be blocked. Alot of people read profiles but chance it anyway. If they don't just delete and block and they can't message anymore. Why waste energy on abusing them? Then i can send you an abusive message because i "don't like your profile pic" or whatever. "Why send generic copy and paste messages? I've had men send me messages starting with another profiles name or addressing 2 people. That doesn't make me feel special or confident the person read my profile and knows what I want. You reap what you sow on here. | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say
Serious question based on the earlier example/scenario. How do you know you like a new profile with no pics and no veris etc?? Any time you message a blank avatar profile with no pics, you could be messaging absolutely anyone - you have no idea of gender, age or anything.
Because i read their profiles and they have a bio which i may like so i respond. If its a new profile with nothing on I'm unlikely to respond
"If its a new profile with nothing on im unlikely to respond"
Unless there's a bio that you liked, of course.
Do you genuinely not care what someone looks like? Surely if you want to get to know them, you'd first like to make sure that 35 year old Sally isn't 50 year old Steve. Verifications aren't mandatory after all.
Anywho, it seems you're just spoiling for any kind of argument, with anyone. I hope whatever is troubling you ceases soon and you can have a happy weekend.
Thats a very odd reply. It tells me you haven't read the whole thread.
Take care
I feel you're missing my point, which is unfortunate.
Shame your reply was rude when I was very genuine in wishing you a happy weekend and to feel better. You come across stressed/down and so, whilst very politely making a valid comment and point, I wished you well and you met me with rudeness and condescension.
Ouch.
I actually addressed the point you made earlier in the thread so if you read it you wouldn't have written that. You suggested I'm spoiling for a fight and that I'm "troubled" which is an insult and yet you're clammering to the moral high ground by calling me rude because i said "you didn't read the thread"
Okaaaay. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you either
Because that's how you're coming across. Don't come across that way and it won't be commented on. It's that simple.
Side note and off topic of the original post..: I deleted your message 12 weeks ago yet you felt the need to message me again this evening telling me you're sad that I didnt reply but I'm super hot anyway.
That, to me, implies that I can get away with deleting your message cause you find me attractive. Are you saying if I weren't attractive, I'd have been wrong to delete your message?
Did you and the other 2 girls go to the same strawmaning school?
You're right instead of sending a nice "shame you didn't reply, you're beautiful anyway" i should have been like the sort of people I'm complaining about and sent abuse right?
Jheeze. Adios
Instead of answering my question, you get defensive.
If you had replied when I deleted the message TWELEVE weeks ago then fair enough, your compliment would have been understood. "Hate to break it to you but messages i sent 12 weeks ago DON'T show up on my sent folders. Sent folders only show a handful of messages so i had no idea i sent a message 12 weeks ago. I simply saw you checked my profile and responded with that message. No one is defensive but your negative tones and insults are not needed. Seems you're egging for a conflict yourself. Irony | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say
Serious question based on the earlier example/scenario. How do you know you like a new profile with no pics and no veris etc?? Any time you message a blank avatar profile with no pics, you could be messaging absolutely anyone - you have no idea of gender, age or anything.
Because i read their profiles and they have a bio which i may like so i respond. If its a new profile with nothing on I'm unlikely to respond
"If its a new profile with nothing on im unlikely to respond"
Unless there's a bio that you liked, of course.
Do you genuinely not care what someone looks like? Surely if you want to get to know them, you'd first like to make sure that 35 year old Sally isn't 50 year old Steve. Verifications aren't mandatory after all.
Anywho, it seems you're just spoiling for any kind of argument, with anyone. I hope whatever is troubling you ceases soon and you can have a happy weekend.
Thats a very odd reply. It tells me you haven't read the whole thread.
Take care
I feel you're missing my point, which is unfortunate.
Shame your reply was rude when I was very genuine in wishing you a happy weekend and to feel better. You come across stressed/down and so, whilst very politely making a valid comment and point, I wished you well and you met me with rudeness and condescension.
Ouch.
I actually addressed the point you made earlier in the thread so if you read it you wouldn't have written that. You suggested I'm spoiling for a fight and that I'm "troubled" which is an insult and yet you're clammering to the moral high ground by calling me rude because i said "you didn't read the thread"
Okaaaay. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you either
Because that's how you're coming across. Don't come across that way and it won't be commented on. It's that simple.
Side note and off topic of the original post..: I deleted your message 12 weeks ago yet you felt the need to message me again this evening telling me you're sad that I didnt reply but I'm super hot anyway.
That, to me, implies that I can get away with deleting your message cause you find me attractive. Are you saying if I weren't attractive, I'd have been wrong to delete your message?
Did you and the other 2 girls go to the same strawmaning school?
You're right instead of sending a nice "shame you didn't reply, you're beautiful anyway" i should have been like the sort of people I'm complaining about and sent abuse right?
Jheeze. Adios
Instead of answering my question, you get defensive.
If you had replied when I deleted the message TWELEVE weeks ago then fair enough, your compliment would have been understood.
Hate to break it to you but messages i sent 12 weeks ago DON'T show up on my sent folders. Sent folders only show a handful of messages so i had no idea i sent a message 12 weeks ago. I simply saw you checked my profile and responded with that message.
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say
Serious question based on the earlier example/scenario. How do you know you like a new profile with no pics and no veris etc?? Any time you message a blank avatar profile with no pics, you could be messaging absolutely anyone - you have no idea of gender, age or anything.
Because i read their profiles and they have a bio which i may like so i respond. If its a new profile with nothing on I'm unlikely to respond
"If its a new profile with nothing on im unlikely to respond"
Unless there's a bio that you liked, of course.
Do you genuinely not care what someone looks like? Surely if you want to get to know them, you'd first like to make sure that 35 year old Sally isn't 50 year old Steve. Verifications aren't mandatory after all.
Anywho, it seems you're just spoiling for any kind of argument, with anyone. I hope whatever is troubling you ceases soon and you can have a happy weekend.
Thats a very odd reply. It tells me you haven't read the whole thread.
Take care
I feel you're missing my point, which is unfortunate.
Shame your reply was rude when I was very genuine in wishing you a happy weekend and to feel better. You come across stressed/down and so, whilst very politely making a valid comment and point, I wished you well and you met me with rudeness and condescension.
Ouch.
I actually addressed the point you made earlier in the thread so if you read it you wouldn't have written that. You suggested I'm spoiling for a fight and that I'm "troubled" which is an insult and yet you're clammering to the moral high ground by calling me rude because i said "you didn't read the thread"
Okaaaay. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you either
Because that's how you're coming across. Don't come across that way and it won't be commented on. It's that simple.
Side note and off topic of the original post..: I deleted your message 12 weeks ago yet you felt the need to message me again this evening telling me you're sad that I didnt reply but I'm super hot anyway.
That, to me, implies that I can get away with deleting your message cause you find me attractive. Are you saying if I weren't attractive, I'd have been wrong to delete your message?
Did you and the other 2 girls go to the same strawmaning school?
You're right instead of sending a nice "shame you didn't reply, you're beautiful anyway" i should have been like the sort of people I'm complaining about and sent abuse right?
Jheeze. Adios
We are women not girls you arrogant man. I'm absolutely loving the fact that your trying to gaslight a group of people into believing your original post doesn't say what your original post says... It would be comical if it wasn't so sad, its even more amusing that you think if you keep throwing around selden used words like strawmongering then that would somehow prove your point or back up your argument... It doesn't by the way, you know what might tho? An explanation of what what you ment by what you said. But of course you can't do that... Not because you can't but because we are all rude "Me: No one is entitled to a reply but don't send an abusive message if you're not interested. Just delete their message and move on or block them You: Hey you're not entitled to a reply Mr Do you understand now? I made it super simple what i said and am saying. I even repeated 5 times but yet you and your friends are still saying the same nonsense. Strawmaning. | |||
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"Could it be that people are frustrated OP? Frustrated by being contacted by folk who arent a good match for them? Could be the hurt ppl hurt ppl thing theres a lot of bored, upset or confused folk that join fab and they just want someone to be shit to? Trolls and attention seekers, keyboard warriors etc Difficult for you if your coming from a positive place but you do have to be very thick skinned on here. Shitty reply? Delete block and move on. I think you hit the nail on the head. People join just to be shit to others because in their life they arent happy or they feel big when they send abuse. Its why i suggested fab has more filters so you can be more specific with who replies to you. " Would more filters not mean ppl would lie to get around them or feel even more marginalised than they already do. There would be more fake profiles and more aggro all round. Fab wasnt like this pre covid, it wasnt so concentrated as a means of social interaction and people were generally under less pressure. I think you just have to be responsible for yourself. If a profile doesnt seem complete ignore it. If someone is abusive report block move on. We’re all grown and should use fab sensibly and kindly and for fun. | |||
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"OP, you are coming across as quite kross Perhaps a break from Fab would be good?" It gets frustrating when people don't actually read what you write then argue with you and call you names because they misunderstandood what you said and don't have the decency to just ask politely or the arrogance and ego to not admit they made a mistake | |||
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"OP, you are coming across as quite kross Perhaps a break from Fab would be good? It gets frustrating when people don't actually read what you write then argue with you and call you names because they misunderstandood what you said and don't have the decency to just ask politely or the arrogance and ego to not admit they made a mistake" Indeed I asked a question based on your OP ^^^ Its up there | |||
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"People are entitled to have preferences and they are heaven sent people here making things so explicitly clear for people like OP. When you know you are not what they are looking for, you give up with them and use your time intelligently, as you must know how to. You move on. Making it explicitly clear demonstrates that they are God's gift to you, preventing you crafting exquisite words flowing, extolling your qualities like no other since the great Bard, in eager anticipation of a quivering quim. They are entitled to any confidence they may have, whether they want someone like you, or wouldn't be seen dead with you. Their rules govern their bodies, despite what others may think is right or wrong for them to seek. Rejoice, you have set yourself free from never having your unwanted, unsolicited tarted-up FAF deleted Oops we have another one who completely misread what i said. " It seems like many people have "misread" what you said
Perhaps you're not coming across very well OP
Have a break, have a KitKat . Reflect on some of the replies you've had. Stop being so dismissive.
Your idea of "insult" or "rude" may not match with others. In fact, from what I've read, yours absolutely doesn't
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say
Serious question based on the earlier example/scenario. How do you know you like a new profile with no pics and no veris etc?? Any time you message a blank avatar profile with no pics, you could be messaging absolutely anyone - you have no idea of gender, age or anything.
Because i read their profiles and they have a bio which i may like so i respond. If its a new profile with nothing on I'm unlikely to respond
"If its a new profile with nothing on im unlikely to respond"
Unless there's a bio that you liked, of course.
Do you genuinely not care what someone looks like? Surely if you want to get to know them, you'd first like to make sure that 35 year old Sally isn't 50 year old Steve. Verifications aren't mandatory after all.
Anywho, it seems you're just spoiling for any kind of argument, with anyone. I hope whatever is troubling you ceases soon and you can have a happy weekend.
Thats a very odd reply. It tells me you haven't read the whole thread.
Take care
I feel you're missing my point, which is unfortunate.
Shame your reply was rude when I was very genuine in wishing you a happy weekend and to feel better. You come across stressed/down and so, whilst very politely making a valid comment and point, I wished you well and you met me with rudeness and condescension.
Ouch.
I actually addressed the point you made earlier in the thread so if you read it you wouldn't have written that. You suggested I'm spoiling for a fight and that I'm "troubled" which is an insult and yet you're clammering to the moral high ground by calling me rude because i said "you didn't read the thread"
Okaaaay. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you either
Because that's how you're coming across. Don't come across that way and it won't be commented on. It's that simple.
Side note and off topic of the original post..: I deleted your message 12 weeks ago yet you felt the need to message me again this evening telling me you're sad that I didnt reply but I'm super hot anyway.
That, to me, implies that I can get away with deleting your message cause you find me attractive. Are you saying if I weren't attractive, I'd have been wrong to delete your message?
Did you and the other 2 girls go to the same strawmaning school?
You're right instead of sending a nice "shame you didn't reply, you're beautiful anyway" i should have been like the sort of people I'm complaining about and sent abuse right?
Jheeze. Adios
Instead of answering my question, you get defensive.
If you had replied when I deleted the message TWELEVE weeks ago then fair enough, your compliment would have been understood.
Hate to break it to you but messages i sent 12 weeks ago DON'T show up on my sent folders. Sent folders only show a handful of messages so i had no idea i sent a message 12 weeks ago. I simply saw you checked my profile and responded with that message.
No one is defensive but your negative tones and insults are not needed. Seems you're egging for a conflict yourself. Irony
How did you have no idea you sent me a message 12 weeks ago, when your message tonight was "I'm sad you didn't reply..." "Because you CHECKED out my profile. I said I'm sad you didn't reply but you're beautiful anyway. Crime of the century. Thank you though you taught me a lesson. I won't even send a follow up message thanking people for their reply or wishing them good luck or anything going forward | |||
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"Could it be that people are frustrated OP? Frustrated by being contacted by folk who arent a good match for them? Could be the hurt ppl hurt ppl thing theres a lot of bored, upset or confused folk that join fab and they just want someone to be shit to? Trolls and attention seekers, keyboard warriors etc Difficult for you if your coming from a positive place but you do have to be very thick skinned on here. Shitty reply? Delete block and move on. I think you hit the nail on the head. People join just to be shit to others because in their life they arent happy or they feel big when they send abuse. Its why i suggested fab has more filters so you can be more specific with who replies to you. Would more filters not mean ppl would lie to get around them or feel even more marginalised than they already do. There would be more fake profiles and more aggro all round. Fab wasnt like this pre covid, it wasnt so concentrated as a means of social interaction and people were generally under less pressure. I think you just have to be responsible for yourself. If a profile doesnt seem complete ignore it. If someone is abusive report block move on. We’re all grown and should use fab sensibly and kindly and for fun. " I think fab was always like this. I mean you get women who say they only want a particular type eg black or white. If you selected your race you wouldn't be able to change it so only selected groups would respond to you. If you just wanted black guys then only they would respond. Would reduce alot of agro | |||
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"OP, you are coming across as quite kross Perhaps a break from Fab would be good? It gets frustrating when people don't actually read what you write then argue with you and call you names because they misunderstandood what you said and don't have the decency to just ask politely or the arrogance and ego to not admit they made a mistake Indeed I asked a question based on your OP ^^^ Its up there" Based on the minority on here in sure if i told you in detail they would misconstrued it and go off on one. So no point elaborating | |||
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"For the record I'm not suggesting people reply to every message. What I'm saying goes for women, men and couples alike. Don't keep deleting inboxes then get mad people send copy paste messages. People don't want to sit and write a long message only for it to be deleted without it being read. If you're not interested in someone either politely decline or don't respond and delete the message...no need to reply with abuse to a introductory message. Don't make demands, especially when you just created a profile and have no veris or you have been here for 2 years and have no photo veri. These are some of the types I'm talking about. Maybe don't tell people how to run their profiles, and if they don't suit you don't message them. I guess that hit too close to home for you hense why you're offended Goodness. No need to lash out
I'm not offended, nor do I think it applies to me.
I think you are best served by using it as a filter.
I wasn't lashing out at all. But your reply suggested you were
... What, suggesting that you don't message people whose profiles you don't like?
... Oooooo-kay.
Why would i message a profile i didn't like?
Weird thing to say
Serious question based on the earlier example/scenario. How do you know you like a new profile with no pics and no veris etc?? Any time you message a blank avatar profile with no pics, you could be messaging absolutely anyone - you have no idea of gender, age or anything.
Because i read their profiles and they have a bio which i may like so i respond. If its a new profile with nothing on I'm unlikely to respond
"If its a new profile with nothing on im unlikely to respond"
Unless there's a bio that you liked, of course.
Do you genuinely not care what someone looks like? Surely if you want to get to know them, you'd first like to make sure that 35 year old Sally isn't 50 year old Steve. Verifications aren't mandatory after all.
Anywho, it seems you're just spoiling for any kind of argument, with anyone. I hope whatever is troubling you ceases soon and you can have a happy weekend.
Thats a very odd reply. It tells me you haven't read the whole thread.
Take care
I feel you're missing my point, which is unfortunate.
Shame your reply was rude when I was very genuine in wishing you a happy weekend and to feel better. You come across stressed/down and so, whilst very politely making a valid comment and point, I wished you well and you met me with rudeness and condescension.
Ouch.
I actually addressed the point you made earlier in the thread so if you read it you wouldn't have written that. You suggested I'm spoiling for a fight and that I'm "troubled" which is an insult and yet you're clammering to the moral high ground by calling me rude because i said "you didn't read the thread"
Okaaaay. Have a nice day. I don't wish to engage with you either
Because that's how you're coming across. Don't come across that way and it won't be commented on. It's that simple.
Side note and off topic of the original post..: I deleted your message 12 weeks ago yet you felt the need to message me again this evening telling me you're sad that I didnt reply but I'm super hot anyway.
That, to me, implies that I can get away with deleting your message cause you find me attractive. Are you saying if I weren't attractive, I'd have been wrong to delete your message?
Did you and the other 2 girls go to the same strawmaning school?
You're right instead of sending a nice "shame you didn't reply, you're beautiful anyway" i should have been like the sort of people I'm complaining about and sent abuse right?
Jheeze. Adios
Instead of answering my question, you get defensive.
If you had replied when I deleted the message TWELEVE weeks ago then fair enough, your compliment would have been understood.
Hate to break it to you but messages i sent 12 weeks ago DON'T show up on my sent folders. Sent folders only show a handful of messages so i had no idea i sent a message 12 weeks ago. I simply saw you checked my profile and responded with that message.
No one is defensive but your negative tones and insults are not needed. Seems you're egging for a conflict yourself. Irony
How did you have no idea you sent me a message 12 weeks ago, when your message tonight was "I'm sad you didn't reply..."
Because you CHECKED out my profile. I said I'm sad you didn't reply but you're beautiful anyway. Crime of the century. Thank you though you taught me a lesson. I won't even send a follow up message thanking people for their reply or wishing them good luck or anything going forward "Riiight.
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"Could it be that people are frustrated OP? Frustrated by being contacted by folk who arent a good match for them? Could be the hurt ppl hurt ppl thing theres a lot of bored, upset or confused folk that join fab and they just want someone to be shit to? Trolls and attention seekers, keyboard warriors etc Difficult for you if your coming from a positive place but you do have to be very thick skinned on here. Shitty reply? Delete block and move on. I think you hit the nail on the head. People join just to be shit to others because in their life they arent happy or they feel big when they send abuse. Its why i suggested fab has more filters so you can be more specific with who replies to you. Would more filters not mean ppl would lie to get around them or feel even more marginalised than they already do. There would be more fake profiles and more aggro all round. Fab wasnt like this pre covid, it wasnt so concentrated as a means of social interaction and people were generally under less pressure. I think you just have to be responsible for yourself. If a profile doesnt seem complete ignore it. If someone is abusive report block move on. We’re all grown and should use fab sensibly and kindly and for fun. I think fab was always like this. I mean you get women who say they only want a particular type eg black or white. If you selected your race you wouldn't be able to change it so only selected groups would respond to you. If you just wanted black guys then only they would respond. Would reduce alot of agro " Could you explain how that would work please Like if i was only interested in bearded men, or those with brown hair? | |||
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"OP, you are coming across as quite kross Perhaps a break from Fab would be good? It gets frustrating when people don't actually read what you write then argue with you and call you names because they misunderstandood what you said and don't have the decency to just ask politely or the arrogance and ego to not admit they made a mistake" You are the one not reading what people actually write op... At no point have I asked you about messages so what mistake have I made... Your whole point of why you are right and everyone els is wrong is because you ment that it's harsh for women to respond to your messages with abuse cool consider that point made, now shall we get back to what your post actually says, because thats the part I think is rude, my whole point is that I think it's rude to imply ugly women should have low standards and that this site makes them feel more confident than they should be... At no point have you addressed what way you ment that which isn't rude and I've misunderstood it as being rude whan it's not, the fact that your comeback is either I'm dismissing you silly girl with limited understanding or well you misunderstand simple minded child I'm talking about messages is just showing that you don't have a reasonable response. And please.... Please please please op learn the difference between a comment and a message, you keep telling me to stop bombarding you with messages and yet I haven't sent you a single one | |||
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"People are entitled to have preferences and they are heaven sent people here making things so explicitly clear for people like OP. When you know you are not what they are looking for, you give up with them and use your time intelligently, as you must know how to. You move on. Making it explicitly clear demonstrates that they are God's gift to you, preventing you crafting exquisite words flowing, extolling your qualities like no other since the great Bard, in eager anticipation of a quivering quim. They are entitled to any confidence they may have, whether they want someone like you, or wouldn't be seen dead with you. Their rules govern their bodies, despite what others may think is right or wrong for them to seek. Rejoice, you have set yourself free from never having your unwanted, unsolicited tarted-up FAF deleted Oops we have another one who completely misread what i said. It seems like many people have "misread" what you said
Perhaps you're not coming across very well OP
Have a break, have a KitKat . Reflect on some of the replies you've had. Stop being so dismissive.
Your idea of "insult" or "rude" may not match with others. In fact, from what I've read, yours absolutely doesn't
"Not Many people just 4 of you. The rest got it just fine and we had a lovely chat and discussion in a civil manner. Shame you and the others couldn't participate in a civil conversation and felt the need to be rude and abusive and harrass then cry about it. Perhaps next time you'll learn to ask questions without being rude. Like normal people | |||
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"Could it be that people are frustrated OP? Frustrated by being contacted by folk who arent a good match for them? Could be the hurt ppl hurt ppl thing theres a lot of bored, upset or confused folk that join fab and they just want someone to be shit to? Trolls and attention seekers, keyboard warriors etc Difficult for you if your coming from a positive place but you do have to be very thick skinned on here. Shitty reply? Delete block and move on. I think you hit the nail on the head. People join just to be shit to others because in their life they arent happy or they feel big when they send abuse. Its why i suggested fab has more filters so you can be more specific with who replies to you. Would more filters not mean ppl would lie to get around them or feel even more marginalised than they already do. There would be more fake profiles and more aggro all round. Fab wasnt like this pre covid, it wasnt so concentrated as a means of social interaction and people were generally under less pressure. I think you just have to be responsible for yourself. If a profile doesnt seem complete ignore it. If someone is abusive report block move on. We’re all grown and should use fab sensibly and kindly and for fun. I think fab was always like this. I mean you get women who say they only want a particular type eg black or white. If you selected your race you wouldn't be able to change it so only selected groups would respond to you. If you just wanted black guys then only they would respond. Would reduce alot of agro " Or people could just read profiles before messaging. Most people clearly state on their profile's what they're after Local, with face pics for example | |||
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"Could it be that people are frustrated OP? Frustrated by being contacted by folk who arent a good match for them? Could be the hurt ppl hurt ppl thing theres a lot of bored, upset or confused folk that join fab and they just want someone to be shit to? Trolls and attention seekers, keyboard warriors etc Difficult for you if your coming from a positive place but you do have to be very thick skinned on here. Shitty reply? Delete block and move on. I think you hit the nail on the head. People join just to be shit to others because in their life they arent happy or they feel big when they send abuse. Its why i suggested fab has more filters so you can be more specific with who replies to you. Would more filters not mean ppl would lie to get around them or feel even more marginalised than they already do. There would be more fake profiles and more aggro all round. Fab wasnt like this pre covid, it wasnt so concentrated as a means of social interaction and people were generally under less pressure. I think you just have to be responsible for yourself. If a profile doesnt seem complete ignore it. If someone is abusive report block move on. We’re all grown and should use fab sensibly and kindly and for fun. I think fab was always like this. I mean you get women who say they only want a particular type eg black or white. If you selected your race you wouldn't be able to change it so only selected groups would respond to you. If you just wanted black guys then only they would respond. Would reduce alot of agro Could you explain how that would work please Like if i was only interested in bearded men, or those with brown hair?" Hair and colour changes your race doesn't. | |||
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"People are entitled to have preferences and they are heaven sent people here making things so explicitly clear for people like OP. When you know you are not what they are looking for, you give up with them and use your time intelligently, as you must know how to. You move on. Making it explicitly clear demonstrates that they are God's gift to you, preventing you crafting exquisite words flowing, extolling your qualities like no other since the great Bard, in eager anticipation of a quivering quim. They are entitled to any confidence they may have, whether they want someone like you, or wouldn't be seen dead with you. Their rules govern their bodies, despite what others may think is right or wrong for them to seek. Rejoice, you have set yourself free from never having your unwanted, unsolicited tarted-up FAF deleted Oops we have another one who completely misread what i said. " It can be insightful to learn what you have said, or thought you have sad, actually creates for others | |||
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"Could it be that people are frustrated OP? Frustrated by being contacted by folk who arent a good match for them? Could be the hurt ppl hurt ppl thing theres a lot of bored, upset or confused folk that join fab and they just want someone to be shit to? Trolls and attention seekers, keyboard warriors etc Difficult for you if your coming from a positive place but you do have to be very thick skinned on here. Shitty reply? Delete block and move on. I think you hit the nail on the head. People join just to be shit to others because in their life they arent happy or they feel big when they send abuse. Its why i suggested fab has more filters so you can be more specific with who replies to you. Would more filters not mean ppl would lie to get around them or feel even more marginalised than they already do. There would be more fake profiles and more aggro all round. Fab wasnt like this pre covid, it wasnt so concentrated as a means of social interaction and people were generally under less pressure. I think you just have to be responsible for yourself. If a profile doesnt seem complete ignore it. If someone is abusive report block move on. We’re all grown and should use fab sensibly and kindly and for fun. I think fab was always like this. I mean you get women who say they only want a particular type eg black or white. If you selected your race you wouldn't be able to change it so only selected groups would respond to you. If you just wanted black guys then only they would respond. Would reduce alot of agro Or people could just read profiles before messaging. Most people clearly state on their profile's what they're after Local, with face pics for example "You mean like the verifications from londoners when you're in Liverpool for example? | |||
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"Could it be that people are frustrated OP? Frustrated by being contacted by folk who arent a good match for them? Could be the hurt ppl hurt ppl thing theres a lot of bored, upset or confused folk that join fab and they just want someone to be shit to? Trolls and attention seekers, keyboard warriors etc Difficult for you if your coming from a positive place but you do have to be very thick skinned on here. Shitty reply? Delete block and move on. I think you hit the nail on the head. People join just to be shit to others because in their life they arent happy or they feel big when they send abuse. Its why i suggested fab has more filters so you can be more specific with who replies to you. Would more filters not mean ppl would lie to get around them or feel even more marginalised than they already do. There would be more fake profiles and more aggro all round. Fab wasnt like this pre covid, it wasnt so concentrated as a means of social interaction and people were generally under less pressure. I think you just have to be responsible for yourself. If a profile doesnt seem complete ignore it. If someone is abusive report block move on. We’re all grown and should use fab sensibly and kindly and for fun. I think fab was always like this. I mean you get women who say they only want a particular type eg black or white. If you selected your race you wouldn't be able to change it so only selected groups would respond to you. If you just wanted black guys then only they would respond. Would reduce alot of agro Could you explain how that would work please Like if i was only interested in bearded men, or those with brown hair? Hair and colour changes your race doesn't. " That doesnt answer my question. | |||
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"I think fab was always like this. I mean you get women who say they only want a particular type eg black or white. If you selected your race you wouldn't be able to change it so only selected groups would respond to you. If you just wanted black guys then only they would respond. Would reduce alot of agro " I see your point but what then when ppl make fake profile to get around such filters? I’d be rather cross if i said tall guys only and some one shorter lied on their profile in order to message me. Then imagine 8 out of 10 messagers did that. Its just swapping one form of aggro for another. The onus should be on you as the adult to manage your own interactions with others. Delete messages if the person is not for you and just be a good human being imho. | |||
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"People are entitled to have preferences and they are heaven sent people here making things so explicitly clear for people like OP. When you know you are not what they are looking for, you give up with them and use your time intelligently, as you must know how to. You move on. Making it explicitly clear demonstrates that they are God's gift to you, preventing you crafting exquisite words flowing, extolling your qualities like no other since the great Bard, in eager anticipation of a quivering quim. They are entitled to any confidence they may have, whether they want someone like you, or wouldn't be seen dead with you. Their rules govern their bodies, despite what others may think is right or wrong for them to seek. Rejoice, you have set yourself free from never having your unwanted, unsolicited tarted-up FAF deleted Oops we have another one who completely misread what i said. It seems like many people have "misread" what you said
Perhaps you're not coming across very well OP
Have a break, have a KitKat . Reflect on some of the replies you've had. Stop being so dismissive.
Your idea of "insult" or "rude" may not match with others. In fact, from what I've read, yours absolutely doesn't
Not Many people just 4 of you. The rest got it just fine and we had a lovely chat and discussion in a civil manner. Shame you and the others couldn't participate in a civil conversation and felt the need to be rude and abusive and harrass then cry about it.
Perhaps next time you'll learn to ask questions without being rude. Like normal people "Like I've said before, report abuse to admin on here. Apologies for not being more "normal". I'm yet to understand where I insulted you 
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