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"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ?" Men reject females too. | |||
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"Im sure men reject their wives too. But Im not like that. I would so love to held close.I work hard I dont smell,Im polite I dont swear. I love my wife. But she is always cold and pushes me away." Maybe she found your Fab profile  | |||
"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ?" Maybe because it's the only time that they pay any attention to their wives? | |||
"Im sure men reject their wives too. But Im not like that. I would so love to held close.I work hard I dont smell,Im polite I dont swear. I love my wife. But she is always cold and pushes me away." Aww that's sad! Have u asked her why? X | |||
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"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ? Maybe because it's the only time that they pay any attention to their wives?" In my past experience of being married my husband didn’t seem to understand (or chose to ignore) that if I was unhappy because he wouldn’t deal with problems his son caused me then I couldn’t feel sexy for him. OP if you are not able to openly discuss problems in your marriage with your wife then maybe the marriage is dead - and that applies if she won’t talk about it too. | |||
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"Im sure men reject their wives too. But Im not like that. I would so love to held close.I work hard I dont smell,Im polite I dont swear. I love my wife. But she is always cold and pushes me away." Have you tried asking Her? | |||
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"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ?" Not here! | |||
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"Im sure men reject their wives too. But Im not like that. I would so love to held close.I work hard I dont smell,Im polite I dont swear. I love my wife. But she is always cold and pushes me away." Why do you say this is related specifically to her age? You make it sound like this a general thing amongst women of her age and I don't see why that would be the case. | |||
"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ? Maybe because it's the only time that they pay any attention to their wives?" | |||
Must brush my teeth more. Noted. | |||
"Im sure men reject their wives too. But Im not like that. I would so love to held close.I work hard I dont smell,Im polite I dont swear. I love my wife. But she is always cold and pushes me away." Maybe just maybe she has found out about your secret hobby!!!!! T | |||
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"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ?" My jen is 57 and has a higher sexdrive after the menopause than before it. So no not all women do that. You cannot tar all women with the same brush. Maybe you have just drifted apart to far to refain it. | |||
"Im sure men reject their wives too. But Im not like that. I would so love to held close.I work hard I dont smell,Im polite I dont swear. I love my wife. But she is always cold and pushes me away." I'm sorry to hear that, it must be horrible. Is it possible for you to discuss this? | |||
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"Me too jennifer. Though Im not Bi. " According to your profile you are seeking much more than a cuddle.x | |||
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"There could be numerous reasons. Mostly it starts in the mind, everyone is different but I can tell you right now if I'm holding anger or resentment, if I'm feeling let down by my partner I'm not wanting to share my body with them. If I'm feeling minging, if I look in the mirror and think fuck, where did this old woman come from, I ain't really feeling it. If I'm mentally tired, that will stop my sex drive more than being physically tired. Does sex hurt? If it isn't an enjoyable experience for her anymore due to pain then that's understandable. Shit for you, but understandable. An awful lot of men complain about women and their lack of sex drive without showing any understanding to the menopause and the mental and physical upheaval and strain on the body and mind. You feel pushed away right? Depending on how the menopause went for her (assuming she has been through it or is going through it given your indication to ladies of a certain age) she could feel utterly betrayed by not just you, but herself and her own body and mind. It can create a plethora of issues. And, speaking of betrayal... if she has even the slightest idea you're in here... well, there's your answer. Why would she give her body, her being, to someone who is abusing her trust. I'm telling you right here right now, when you give yourself to someone who abuses your trust (because you may sea it as your duty) it can feel like you're allowing yourself to be physically abused." But but but, it's just sex ain't it? | |||
"There could be numerous reasons. Mostly it starts in the mind, everyone is different but I can tell you right now if I'm holding anger or resentment, if I'm feeling let down by my partner I'm not wanting to share my body with them. If I'm feeling minging, if I look in the mirror and think fuck, where did this old woman come from, I ain't really feeling it. If I'm mentally tired, that will stop my sex drive more than being physically tired. Does sex hurt? If it isn't an enjoyable experience for her anymore due to pain then that's understandable. Shit for you, but understandable. An awful lot of men complain about women and their lack of sex drive without showing any understanding to the menopause and the mental and physical upheaval and strain on the body and mind. You feel pushed away right? Depending on how the menopause went for her (assuming she has been through it or is going through it given your indication to ladies of a certain age) she could feel utterly betrayed by not just you, but herself and her own body and mind. It can create a plethora of issues. And, speaking of betrayal... if she has even the slightest idea you're in here... well, there's your answer. Why would she give her body, her being, to someone who is abusing her trust. I'm telling you right here right now, when you give yourself to someone who abuses your trust (because you may sea it as your duty) it can feel like you're allowing yourself to be physically abused. But but but, it's just sex ain't it?" I was tempted to counter the balance with "why don't men of a certain age do some research into the impact and effect of the menopause on the body and mind?" but feared that would have been presumptuous of me to assume he hadn't. But then if he had, then would he be asking the very question asked in the OP? But yes, you're totally correct. It's just sex, body and mind don't need to work in tandem for it to happen, tis merely a case of opening ones legs. | |||
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"There could be numerous reasons. Mostly it starts in the mind, everyone is different but I can tell you right now if I'm holding anger or resentment, if I'm feeling let down by my partner I'm not wanting to share my body with them. If I'm feeling minging, if I look in the mirror and think fuck, where did this old woman come from, I ain't really feeling it. If I'm mentally tired, that will stop my sex drive more than being physically tired. Does sex hurt? If it isn't an enjoyable experience for her anymore due to pain then that's understandable. Shit for you, but understandable. An awful lot of men complain about women and their lack of sex drive without showing any understanding to the menopause and the mental and physical upheaval and strain on the body and mind. You feel pushed away right? Depending on how the menopause went for her (assuming she has been through it or is going through it given your indication to ladies of a certain age) she could feel utterly betrayed by not just you, but herself and her own body and mind. It can create a plethora of issues. And, speaking of betrayal... if she has even the slightest idea you're in here... well, there's your answer. Why would she give her body, her being, to someone who is abusing her trust. I'm telling you right here right now, when you give yourself to someone who abuses your trust (because you may sea it as your duty) it can feel like you're allowing yourself to be physically abused. But but but, it's just sex ain't it? I was tempted to counter the balance with "why don't men of a certain age do some research into the impact and effect of the menopause on the body and mind?" but feared that would have been presumptuous of me to assume he hadn't. But then if he had, then would he be asking the very question asked in the OP? But yes, you're totally correct. It's just sex, body and mind don't need to work in tandem for it to happen, tis merely a case of opening ones legs. " There was an American programme years ago called '30 Something' and it taught me much, even years later (I'm a product of the 70,s; I'm an object of derision and sexual thrill for men and constantly checking my responses for fear of retribution). There were three couples and the show was about their family lives and friendships in middle America in a time where women were attempting to claw their rightful place. One wife was having treatment for breast cancer, the storylne was complex and faced common stereotypes. In one scene, after debilitating chemo, heartfelt discussions about feeling like a woman, guilt about not being the wife she once was, dying, leaving her loved husband and children behind and everything in between, she finally felt she could make love with her husband again. He asked "have you stopped shaving your legs?" | |||
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"Im sure men reject their wives too. But Im not like that. I would so love to held close.I work hard I dont smell,Im polite I dont swear. I love my wife. But she is always cold and pushes me away." Maybe she’s just not sexually attracted to you anymore. There’s various reasons why, the best person to ask is your wife. | |||
"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ?" Have you not thought it's your Fab activities that might be behind this? Plus the fact that the two of you can't communicate. | |||
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"May I ask OP if you went down the couples counselling route? I see your earliest displayed veri is from 2013. That's almost a decade. Have you and your wife lacked communication and intimacy that entire time? That must be really hard on both of you if that's the case. If she has been kept in the dark the whole time I can pretty much guarantee she knows but is turning a blind eye and suffering inside. It would most definitely give you the answer to the question you asked." Well spotted PP. Infidelity that historic will absolutely have a negative impact. | |||
"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ?" Has this certain age been stated yet? I'd like to know so I can avoid marrying some incorrectly aged frigid muff. | |||
"There could be numerous reasons. Mostly it starts in the mind, everyone is different but I can tell you right now if I'm holding anger or resentment, if I'm feeling let down by my partner I'm not wanting to share my body with them. If I'm feeling minging, if I look in the mirror and think fuck, where did this old woman come from, I ain't really feeling it. If I'm mentally tired, that will stop my sex drive more than being physically tired. Does sex hurt? If it isn't an enjoyable experience for her anymore due to pain then that's understandable. Shit for you, but understandable. An awful lot of men complain about women and their lack of sex drive without showing any understanding to the menopause and the mental and physical upheaval and strain on the body and mind. You feel pushed away right? Depending on how the menopause went for her (assuming she has been through it or is going through it given your indication to ladies of a certain age) she could feel utterly betrayed by not just you, but herself and her own body and mind. It can create a plethora of issues. And, speaking of betrayal... if she has even the slightest idea you're in here... well, there's your answer. Why would she give her body, her being, to someone who is abusing her trust. I'm telling you right here right now, when you give yourself to someone who abuses your trust (because you may sea it as your duty) it can feel like you're allowing yourself to be physically abused. But but but, it's just sex ain't it? I was tempted to counter the balance with "why don't men of a certain age do some research into the impact and effect of the menopause on the body and mind?" but feared that would have been presumptuous of me to assume he hadn't. But then if he had, then would he be asking the very question asked in the OP? But yes, you're totally correct. It's just sex, body and mind don't need to work in tandem for it to happen, tis merely a case of opening ones legs. There was an American programme years ago called '30 Something' and it taught me much, even years later (I'm a product of the 70,s; I'm an object of derision and sexual thrill for men and constantly checking my responses for fear of retribution). There were three couples and the show was about their family lives and friendships in middle America in a time where women were attempting to claw their rightful place. One wife was having treatment for breast cancer, the storylne was complex and faced common stereotypes. In one scene, after debilitating chemo, heartfelt discussions about feeling like a woman, guilt about not being the wife she once was, dying, leaving her loved husband and children behind and everything in between, she finally felt she could make love with her husband again. He asked "have you stopped shaving your legs?"" It took me a while to respond to this because it knocked me sideways. I had to do a little processing, not because it's outdated or untrue.... but because it speaks volumes. For a generation or 3 that has seen so much progression, there really still will be attitudes like this and I find that hard to handle. | |||
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"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ? Has this certain age been stated yet? I'd like to know so I can avoid marrying some incorrectly aged frigid muff."  | |||
"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ? Maybe because it's the only time that they pay any attention to their wives?" In my previous marriage this was me...but after a while it didn't bother me as I couldn't stand the sight of him let alone have sex with him! | |||
"Ive tried so many times to discuss it with her. But she wont talk about it.There are other benifts. the house is imaculate. she is a fantastic cook the food is brilliant. She is great with our business. Customers love her.She is super looking.........." Have you said all this to her? Does she know how much she is appreciated? Do you ask her how her day was, or how she is feeling. Sometimes life just gets to much and the past thing she is thinking about is sex, think back to when and if you rejected her at all...and what your reasons are...however at the end if the day you have a wife...being on here could not just end sex but end your marriage. I hope you can work this out with her. | |||
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"There could be numerous reasons. Mostly it starts in the mind, everyone is different but I can tell you right now if I'm holding anger or resentment, if I'm feeling let down by my partner I'm not wanting to share my body with them. If I'm feeling minging, if I look in the mirror and think fuck, where did this old woman come from, I ain't really feeling it. If I'm mentally tired, that will stop my sex drive more than being physically tired. Does sex hurt? If it isn't an enjoyable experience for her anymore due to pain then that's understandable. Shit for you, but understandable. An awful lot of men complain about women and their lack of sex drive without showing any understanding to the menopause and the mental and physical upheaval and strain on the body and mind. You feel pushed away right? Depending on how the menopause went for her (assuming she has been through it or is going through it given your indication to ladies of a certain age) she could feel utterly betrayed by not just you, but herself and her own body and mind. It can create a plethora of issues. And, speaking of betrayal... if she has even the slightest idea you're in here... well, there's your answer. Why would she give her body, her being, to someone who is abusing her trust. I'm telling you right here right now, when you give yourself to someone who abuses your trust (because you may sea it as your duty) it can feel like you're allowing yourself to be physically abused. But but but, it's just sex ain't it? I was tempted to counter the balance with "why don't men of a certain age do some research into the impact and effect of the menopause on the body and mind?" but feared that would have been presumptuous of me to assume he hadn't. But then if he had, then would he be asking the very question asked in the OP? But yes, you're totally correct. It's just sex, body and mind don't need to work in tandem for it to happen, tis merely a case of opening ones legs. There was an American programme years ago called '30 Something' and it taught me much, even years later (I'm a product of the 70,s; I'm an object of derision and sexual thrill for men and constantly checking my responses for fear of retribution). There were three couples and the show was about their family lives and friendships in middle America in a time where women were attempting to claw their rightful place. One wife was having treatment for breast cancer, the storylne was complex and faced common stereotypes. In one scene, after debilitating chemo, heartfelt discussions about feeling like a woman, guilt about not being the wife she once was, dying, leaving her loved husband and children behind and everything in between, she finally felt she could make love with her husband again. He asked "have you stopped shaving your legs?""
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"Thank you for all your kind messages and comments. But I shall not bother anymore. I give up. if I want to cuddle from someone then I guess I will have to pay someone to cuddle me.And its just to be held close and its not about sex." You're going to ignore all the advice about looking at your relationship, seek counselling, trying to talk with your wife, learning how to open up communication? You've been here many years OP so has your infidelity always been a part of your marriage? Is her attitude towards you recent or have you only just noticed? There are many things you can do to relieve your misery but they are scarier than the misery so make a decision about how you want to carry on with your relationship. | |||
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"Thank you for all your kind messages and comments. But I shall not bother anymore. I give up. if I want to cuddle from someone then I guess I will have to pay someone to cuddle me.And its just to be held close and its not about sex. You're going to ignore all the advice about looking at your relationship, seek counselling, trying to talk with your wife, learning how to open up communication? You've been here many years OP so has your infidelity always been a part of your marriage? Is her attitude towards you recent or have you only just noticed? There are many things you can do to relieve your misery but they are scarier than the misery so make a decision about how you want to carry on with your relationship. " This exactly | |||
"Im sure men reject their wives too. But Im not like that. I would so love to held close.I work hard I dont smell,Im polite I dont swear. I love my wife. But she is always cold and pushes me away." Perhaps it's time you looked at your bad points,and not just your good ones | |||
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"Because you’ve asked him (let’s call him Dave) 23 times to sort that crack in the ceiling and 23 times he has said “I’ll do it later”. When guess what Dave, I’m going to do your cock “later”. And later never cums. And neither does Dave. Meanwhile Mrs Dave is in orgasm heaven thanks to her Turbo Thruster 900 that’s currently vibrating her clit off. Relationships eh "Not way my so called relationship works lol I decorate the house and do all the jobs.. Another thing I've given up on him doing lol | |||
"All I really want is a cuddle and to be held........is that so wrong." know that feeling and I'm the female being constantly rejected and turning bk to me in bed | |||
"Could be a million reasons eg - work pressures children too much to do elsewhere not enough help from you or someone else tiredness health issues menopause not feeling sexy in herself not feeling sexy to you feeling like she only matters if you want sex and many other reasons. " Totally agree! The only way you’ll know is if you talk to her. Show her you care, I’m much more likely to feel like having sex when I feel loved, desired and happy. The worst thing you could probably do is come on here to be honest. She may be aware of your profile and that has completely turned her off. As usual, communication is key. Lou x | |||
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"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ?" You've made an enormous generalisation there when your only evidence is your own experience. I wonder if you have some other big ideas about women in general. Could that be part of the problem? | |||
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"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ? You've made an enormous generalisation there when your only evidence is your own experience. I wonder if you have some other big ideas about women in general. Could that be part of the problem? " Exactly it is a generalisation | |||
"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ?" They don't... However, some husband's take their wives for granted and this is likely to lead to rejection. Women usually need to feel loved, supported and cared for to want sex. | |||
"why do ladies of a certain age reject their husbands advances ? You've made an enormous generalisation there when your only evidence is your own experience. I wonder if you have some other big ideas about women in general. Could that be part of the problem? " Agreed, I very much doubt it's an "age" thing or a thing only women do. Also the reasoning could be plentiful. Health, mental state, situation, self confidence or simply that just arent feeling like it and more. | |||
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"I think the menopause has a lot to do with it in older women as can medication. It's difficult for a bloke to understand especially when you've been used to intimacy and then it's no longer needed but you just have to live with it and carry on loving your wife, get used to the new normal and hope things change. Talk it through with her, you might be surprised at her reaction, that's how I ended up on here with her approval. Personally I'd rather have an intimate sexual relationship with my wife and if her views change I'll be out of here like a shot. If you live her just be honest." This is so off putting. I woukd never meet a man with 'permission ' you can pay me if that's what you want. | |||
"I think the menopause has a lot to do with it in older women as can medication. It's difficult for a bloke to understand especially when you've been used to intimacy and then it's no longer needed but you just have to live with it and carry on loving your wife, get used to the new normal and hope things change. Talk it through with her, you might be surprised at her reaction, that's how I ended up on here with her approval. Personally I'd rather have an intimate sexual relationship with my wife and if her views change I'll be out of here like a shot. If you live her just be honest." And that's how you do it! Thank you. I've been cheated on and it's crushing. It's a relief to see someone going about things the respectful way and having open lines of communication. People could learn a thing or 2 from you. | |||
"Im sure men reject their wives too. But Im not like that. I would so love to held close.I work hard I dont smell,Im polite I dont swear. I love my wife. But she is always cold and pushes me away." I know exactly what you mean mate that's what I'm going through too, the mere suggestion of anything intimate invokes a look of pure disdain. | |||
"I think the menopause has a lot to do with it in older women as can medication. It's difficult for a bloke to understand especially when you've been used to intimacy and then it's no longer needed but you just have to live with it and carry on loving your wife, get used to the new normal and hope things change. Talk it through with her, you might be surprised at her reaction, that's how I ended up on here with her approval. Personally I'd rather have an intimate sexual relationship with my wife and if her views change I'll be out of here like a shot. If you live her just be honest. And that's how you do it! Thank you. I've been cheated on and it's crushing. It's a relief to see someone going about things the respectful way and having open lines of communication. People could learn a thing or 2 from you." You would like to be used like that Peachy? I think it's insulting. | |||
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"Because marriage isn't a free pass to ignore someone's wishes? "exactly this just because you are married does not mean you are entitled to anything | |||
"I think the menopause has a lot to do with it in older women as can medication. It's difficult for a bloke to understand especially when you've been used to intimacy and then it's no longer needed but you just have to live with it and carry on loving your wife, get used to the new normal and hope things change. Talk it through with her, you might be surprised at her reaction, that's how I ended up on here with her approval. Personally I'd rather have an intimate sexual relationship with my wife and if her views change I'll be out of here like a shot. If you live her just be honest. And that's how you do it! Thank you. I've been cheated on and it's crushing. It's a relief to see someone going about things the respectful way and having open lines of communication. People could learn a thing or 2 from you. You would like to be used like that Peachy? I think it's insulting. " Oh no, I wouldn't meet someone who openly admits they'd prefer to be banging their wife, but I do respect the fact they've spoken rather than him taking the easy cheaty route. In these cases where it is just sex they want I feel it would be fairer on everyone involved to visit an escort. | |||
"Because marriage isn't a free pass to ignore someone's wishes? exactly this just because you are married does not mean you are entitled to anything "Yes you are correct but I don't think this thread is about entitlement, it's about expectations, how that changes over the course of a marriage, why it changes and how both sides deal with the changes. | |||
"I think the menopause has a lot to do with it in older women as can medication. It's difficult for a bloke to understand especially when you've been used to intimacy and then it's no longer needed but you just have to live with it and carry on loving your wife, get used to the new normal and hope things change. Talk it through with her, you might be surprised at her reaction, that's how I ended up on here with her approval. Personally I'd rather have an intimate sexual relationship with my wife and if her views change I'll be out of here like a shot. If you live her just be honest. And that's how you do it! Thank you. I've been cheated on and it's crushing. It's a relief to see someone going about things the respectful way and having open lines of communication. People could learn a thing or 2 from you. You would like to be used like that Peachy? I think it's insulting. Oh no, I wouldn't meet someone who openly admits they'd prefer to be banging their wife, but I do respect the fact they've spoken rather than him taking the easy cheaty route. In these cases where it is just sex they want I feel it would be fairer on everyone involved to visit an escort." Yep an escort is the answer. Being treated like a free prostitute isn't exactly foreplay 
People that go the easy cheaty route understand that it's probably better not to say outloud that they would rather be fucking someone else but you were available.
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"Because marriage isn't a free pass to ignore someone's wishes? exactly this just because you are married does not mean you are entitled to anything "Yes your right no means no. But for me and seems like a few others on here it's not just the sex it's the total lack of any sort of intimacy or affection, no hugs kisses etc just rejection every time you try. Myself I kiss my wife good bye every morning at 5.30 when I go to work and tell her I love her, what response do it get,, sod all. I'd give my right arm for her to put her arms round me and tell me she loves me but she dose'nt can't remember the last time she did to be honest and after time this just grinds you down. | |||
"I think the menopause has a lot to do with it in older women as can medication. It's difficult for a bloke to understand especially when you've been used to intimacy and then it's no longer needed but you just have to live with it and carry on loving your wife, get used to the new normal and hope things change. Talk it through with her, you might be surprised at her reaction, that's how I ended up on here with her approval. Personally I'd rather have an intimate sexual relationship with my wife and if her views change I'll be out of here like a shot. If you live her just be honest. And that's how you do it! Thank you. I've been cheated on and it's crushing. It's a relief to see someone going about things the respectful way and having open lines of communication. People could learn a thing or 2 from you. You would like to be used like that Peachy? I think it's insulting. Oh no, I wouldn't meet someone who openly admits they'd prefer to be banging their wife, but I do respect the fact they've spoken rather than him taking the easy cheaty route. In these cases where it is just sex they want I feel it would be fairer on everyone involved to visit an escort. Yep an escort is the answer. Being treated like a free prostitute isn't exactly foreplay
People that go the easy cheaty route understand that it's probably better not to say outloud that they would rather be fucking someone else but you were available.
Urgh!"I think you are misinterpreting my comments. I'm looking for couples so that there is a lot less chance of emotional involvement and it's just a bit of 'adult fun' between three people who all know the situation. I'd never use anyone knowingly which is why I'm not looking for single females. As for the comments about my wife, what do you expect me to say? If what I was doing was making her unhappy why on earth would I not stop and put her first? If I'm friends with a couple I'd just be honest and tell them why I was stopping and they could look elsewhere. It's hardly like there's a lack of single males on here. | |||
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"She’s had a nosey at your internet history. Found you up to no good and thought, fuck it! So she’s now getting lots of random dick and too tired for yours, shit happens " | |||
"She’s had a nosey at your internet history. Found you up to no good and thought, fuck it! So she’s now getting lots of random dick and too tired for yours, shit happens "Fair is fair I guess  | |||
