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Are you less desirable if you don’t accommodate?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Im posing this question, sorry if its been asked before, yes I know about current restrictions and covid and not meeting.
But for example you’re trying to get to know someone now for later, they tell you they don't accommodate. Do you keep talking as you’d still meet them regardless? Cool of until later comes (what if later is July????)? Sack them off, because you want to be able to be accommodated by them and they can’t/don’t/won’t..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone can accommodate, just not necessarily in their own home. There are other options, so no, I'd still get in touch and any meet would be based on desire rather than ease of accommodation. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Everyone can accommodate, just not necessarily in their own home. There are other options, so no, I'd still get in touch and any meet would be based on desire rather than ease of accommodation."
Yes, desire and interest is much more important than distance or location , they are just the little details |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never accommodate under any circumstances. Not sure if it would put anyone off. Doesn’t put me off if other people can’t. I wouldn’t go to their house unless I knew them extremely well anyway x |
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"Everyone can accommodate, just not necessarily in their own home. There are other options, so no, I'd still get in touch and any meet would be based on desire rather than ease of accommodation.
Yes, desire and interest is much more important than distance or location , they are just the little details "
Agree.
If they've said from day one they don't accomodate it wouldnt be an issue.
I much prefer a day use hotel anyway.
Neutral ground. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I meet within 2 weeks of first chatting or not at all, so no I wouldn't wait.
I don't go to people's houses. Doesn't matter to me if they accommodate or not. |
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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago
from the womb and tryout to get back |
I can accommodate however i would never invite someone i didn't know to my home I'd be to tempted to tie them to the cross and never let them go  seriously you wouldn't expect anyone to accommodate in there home without getting to know them and building trust first |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I must be a bit of a cow. I straight delete anyone that says that can't accommodate 90% of the time.
Usually because to me it could well mean they are attached so it puts me off.
I'm well aware that kids, house shares, living with relatives or only meeting in clubs can be be reasons but I'd rather not take chances and find out later they had lied and were attached.
But even in saying that I just prefer it when it works both ways, you share the travel, swap round who's accommodating and it's not one sided or just one person's territory all the time. It's just a prefence at the end of the day for me.
I like to get out of my 4 walls. But I'd feel awful if they paid for a hotel all the time and wouldn't be comfortable with that either.
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I never accommodate due to a very nasty and scary experience. I am more than happy to book a hotel though and make that clear if I chose to meet someone.
It certainly wouldn't put me off if they couldn't/don't/won't either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am not going to anyones house. Its always hotel or air bnb, preferably with a hot tub  "
There is a hotel in Chesterfield, called casa has hot tub on balcony of room |
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I can host only in hotels, it’s not a problem when we click and discuss meets. Over the years, I have had a few potentials withdraw as well.
Everyone’s got their priorities.
The funniest was someone who said that they are part of hotel industry and never considering meeting at hotels |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"My home is a space for me and my family. There's photos of my kids around and it would just be weird.
Also... I have a very protective German Shepherd... your shout "
I wanna come to your house!  |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
Shangri-la |
I never accommodate. I also never go to the home of someone I barely know.
If someone says on their profile they can't accommodate I generally want to know the reason why,if I think there's any chance they are attached then I end the conversation (unless they are a couple who play together of course). |
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"My home is a space for me and my family. There's photos of my kids around and it would just be weird.
Also... I have a very protective German Shepherd... your shout
I wanna come to your house! "
Prepare to be LICKED to death!!!!
And I might not be talking about the dog...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My home is a space for me and my family. There's photos of my kids around and it would just be weird.
Also... I have a very protective German Shepherd... your shout "
Same goes for me.... I have two monster huskies, I can accommodate but prefer not to in case they take a dislike to the person.actually, being a naturist, its all about outdoors for me anyway so it really isn't an issue |
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It wouldn't stop me from meeting anyone if they couldn't accommodate but if anything regular came from it then it would make meeting up harder to do.
I can accommodate but would only do so if I felt I could trust that person. |
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By *palWoman
over a year ago
The Bermuda Triangle in Suffolk |
It puts me off as I won't have hotel meets or club as an option.
With the situation as it is now I don't see it changing for at least 6-9 months, so if they can't accommodate but we strike up a good conversation chances are that either they or I will be bored or chat will just run dry anyway. |
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