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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In real life? Yes
On here? Probably not. Depends who, I only really have a couple of true female friends on here so if it was them then yeah I would (and I have done) |
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"Would you step away from a potential date/meet if your mate was interested in them too..."
Hummmm I don't know but I don't think so , in the case of "date" I'm assuming that if he's asked me rather than her he's interested in me rather than her... as for "meet" nothing stops him from getting together with both of us if he's that way inclined and not necessarily at the same time  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To twist it a little: would you step down if your friend ask you to?
No, that’s different. That would annoy me  "
That’s the stubbornness in me though haha. I smoke but would never ever smoke when meeting someone if they don’t. However if they told me not to I’d have 20 and blow it in their face  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To twist it a little: would you step down if your friend ask you to?
No, that’s different. That would annoy me
That’s the stubbornness in me though haha. I smoke but would never ever smoke when meeting someone if they don’t. However if they told me not to I’d have 20 and blow it in their face "
I get it. I can be like that too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I were in the dating world I would be looking for a post conventional relationship, so I would be engaging all of them in a collaborative inquiry into what kind of relationships they were interested in, and suggesting some experiments we could try to see what worked for all of us. I know I am not really compatible with someone who see relationships in a conventional way, albeit I have learned to deal with that too, albeit unsatisfactorily. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For a real friend, yes i would. Although most of my friends are good with sharing luckily  I like those kind of friends "
Me too, wanna share with me Doc?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In real life it wouldn’t be a question, you just don’t go there.
As for here, I don’t discuss with anyone who I am meeting and those I talk to don’t divulge either, so it’s not an issue. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends on a variety of factors, but I have in the past and would do again.
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If it was over you, I would challenge them to a duel, the. Proceed to slap them with a leather glove
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"Depends on a variety of factors, but I have in the past and would do again.
If it was over you, I would challenge them to a duel, the. Proceed to slap them with a leather glove
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If you win.... save the leather glove |
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It's bad enough the fallout and drama that comes from people you ain't mates with trying to fuck things up for ya or behaving like proper cunts. If I see people flirting I'm like nah, can't be dealing with that, a wank will be far less aggro.
A lot of that will come down to the who tho. You kinda learn who's gonna come with drama depending on who else has their eye on them but even then you can get caught off guard.
With mates, it would come down to whether or not they said "you should meet him/her" but that would be after I pulled back from any flirting.
Couples are my safest bet I think if I become meet active again.
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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I've done it for a friend, even with how I felt about the guy, in my eyes she was more his type, looked better together yada yada so I stepped back and let her go for him.... She messed him about and dumped him after a few weeks  |
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If it was just for a sexual meet then there aren't really any feelings involved so knock yourselves out.
When its much deeper than that and there are good reasons for being told don't go there then I would respect those wishes and walk away.
A happy life is a drama free life as far as I'm concerned and there are other people out there to play with or build a connection with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh god this reminds me of when I was 15. I fancied this guy for months and we would all hang out in the nights and I’d kiss him and we’d walk round holding hands and I’d sit on his lap when we were all hanging around outside (as you do in your teens). Then my friend decided that she fancied him and I wasn’t allowed to like him anymore. When he went to kiss me or hold my hand I’d have to shrug him off and tell him I can’t anymore cos ***** fancied him! He was like I don’t fancy her though I fancy you!
Think we really did fancy each other cos 22 years on I still shag him! |
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"Would you step away from a potential date/meet if your mate was interested in them too...
WHY?
This a swingers site, why can't we both date/meet the interest? "
Coz something always bloody happens meaning someone will feel pushed out/left out. |
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"Would you step away from a potential date/meet if your mate was interested in them too...
WHY?
This a swingers site, why can't we both date/meet the interest?
Coz something always bloody happens meaning someone will feel pushed out/left out."
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I don't mean at the same time. If me and friend like the same bloke (and he fancies us both) he could date/meet us both; as separate people we aren't a package deal. |
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"Would you step away from a potential date/meet if your mate was interested in them too...
WHY?
This a swingers site, why can't we both date/meet the interest?
Coz something always bloody happens meaning someone will feel pushed out/left out.
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I don't mean at the same time. If me and friend like the same bloke (and he fancies us both) he could date/meet us both; as separate people we aren't a package deal. "
I'm with ya, sods law you'd (not YOU) both want to meet on the same day and then shit hits the fan. Someone feels second best and nose out of joint |
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