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"Oops lol
Who didn't have orgasms.
I'd make it a life mission to make sure she does 
That just spoils sex."
Can't say iv ever noticed, but then again iv never been in that position, if she didn't want to hit the end result then I don't think I'd bother, stay home with my feet up  |
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"Oops lol
Who didn't have orgasms.
I'd make it a life mission to make sure she does
That just spoils sex.
Can't say iv ever noticed, but then again iv never been in that position, if she didn't want to hit the end result then I don't think I'd bother, stay home with my feet up "
Have you ever considered that there may be a medical reason why she can't orgasm but that she still gets a lot of pressure from the act it's self? |
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Speaking as a woman who doesn't have a problem in that department - I'm inclined to steer clear of men who see my orgasms as a referendum on their worth. Let's have fun. It's not a competition ffs |
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"Oops lol
Who didn't have orgasms.
I'd make it a life mission to make sure she does
That just spoils sex.
Can't say iv ever noticed, but then again iv never been in that position, if she didn't want to hit the end result then I don't think I'd bother, stay home with my feet up
Have you ever considered that there may be a medical reason why she can't orgasm but that she still gets a lot of pressure from the act it's self?"
No I hadn't because a medical condition wasn't mentioned, obviously that goes without saying, no sane minded person would try to get a woman to orgasm who can't medically, that would be like digging Henry the 8th up and trying to revive him |
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"Any woman that enjoys sex isn't going to want to meet me!!;
I do just cuddles aswell  "
You women are all the same. Have sex with us and then take advantage, one thing leads to another and we end up cuddling!! |
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If she could not orgasm because of a medical reason then yes I'd still be interested but if it was because she didn't want to, then I don't know how that would work, have sex but don't orgasm through choice, iv never met no-one that thinks that way and if someone could explain what the logic would be then of course I'm all ears |
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"Oops lol
Who didn't have orgasms.
I'd make it a life mission to make sure she does
That just spoils sex.
Can't say iv ever noticed, but then again iv never been in that position, if she didn't want to hit the end result then I don't think I'd bother, stay home with my feet up
Have you ever considered that there may be a medical reason why she can't orgasm but that she still gets a lot of pressure from the act it's self?
No I hadn't because a medical condition wasn't mentioned, obviously that goes without saying, no sane minded person would try to get a woman to orgasm who can't medically, that would be like digging Henry the 8th up and trying to revive him "
In a casual sex/swinging situation she may not disclose something like that to you.
Please mot My comment in no way relates to the op. it was just a hypothetical argument. |
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Why are there men that see it as a challenge, if you don't squirt/cum from oral/orgasm from sex, or whatever else? If it isn't a problem for us, why is it so much for you... Be a decent fuck! A great time is all that matters. If your only aim is orgasm you ain't enjoying the sex properly! It's not always a reflection on performance ffs!  |
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"If she could not orgasm because of a medical reason then yes I'd still be interested but if it was because she didn't want to, then I don't know how that would work, have sex but don't orgasm through choice, iv never met no-one that thinks that way and if someone could explain what the logic would be then of course I'm all ears "
Where did she say it's through choice?! Some women just don't |
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over a year ago
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"Why are there men that see it as a challenge, if you don't squirt/cum from oral/orgasm from sex, or whatever else? If it isn't a problem for us, why is it so much for you... Be a decent fuck! A great time is all that matters. If your only aim is orgasm you ain't enjoying the sex properly! It's not always a reflection on performance ffs! "
But that's why we bring an abacus - to keep count of the orgasms.  |
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"Why are there men that see it as a challenge, if you don't squirt/cum from oral/orgasm from sex, or whatever else? If it isn't a problem for us, why is it so much for you... Be a decent fuck! A great time is all that matters. If your only aim is orgasm you ain't enjoying the sex properly! It's not always a reflection on performance ffs! "
If it's more challenging then a daytime TV multiple choice quiz question than IL probably give up. |
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Sometimes the orgasm is just the full stop to a beautiful poem.
Words of love,feeling and emotion, making your heart beat faster.
An orgasm is just punctuation . |
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"Sometimes the orgasm is just the full stop to a beautiful poem.
Words of love,feeling and emotion, making your heart beat faster.
An orgasm is just punctuation ."
Marry me  |
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"Sometimes the orgasm is just the full stop to a beautiful poem.
Words of love,feeling and emotion, making your heart beat faster.
An orgasm is just punctuation .
Marry me "
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"Its amazing how many men see it as a challenge. For me sex is about mutual enjoyment. Im pretty easy to orgasm but if i wasnt id be put of by guys that see it as a challenge"
Its all a challenge, have you not heard of the single guy success rate on fab ? |
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"And there was me wondering why so many women feel they have to fake it.
Men fake it too...remember Milli vanilli?"
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"Its amazing how many men see it as a challenge. For me sex is about mutual enjoyment. Im pretty easy to orgasm but if i wasnt id be put of by guys that see it as a challenge
Its all a challenge, have you not heard of the single guy success rate on fab ? "
Is it. Blimey, I need to up my game |
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over a year ago
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"Its amazing how many men see it as a challenge. For me sex is about mutual enjoyment. Im pretty easy to orgasm but if i wasnt id be put of by guys that see it as a challenge"
Exactly. |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
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I say as long as everyone is comfortable and having fun.. why not? Understandable not everyone can reach orgasm but you never know though. One person I met ages ago had the same thing but when we met she did.. but that comes down to we been talking to each other for a while and we kinda open up to each other so when the time was right, it just made it that more special if that makes sense |
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over a year ago
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Wouldn't bother me as long as the lady is enjoying what we were doing it's not be all and end all,just pleasing them how they want would be surfice for me with some cuddles and sensual massage thrown in. |
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I can find it hard to orgasm, particularly with someone I don’t know particularly well, but it doesn’t bother me, the rest of it is just as enjoyable. If someone tells me they guarantee I will cum, that puts me off immediately, as straight away there is pressure, and trying to force it will have the opposite effect.
It’s not a competition or a badge of honour.
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Surely the best sex is getting to know each other’s likes and dislikes.
Then building up the sensual element so it’s intense and pleasure for both not a race to see who finishes first |
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"Oops lol
Who didn't have orgasms.
I'd make it a life mission to make sure she does
That just spoils sex.
I agree "
Me too. Why is there so much fixation on forcing women to cum like it's some prize or holy grail? Can't we just have great sex?
All that 'ladies first' bollocks puts as much pressure on women to cum as it does on men who think they have to stop themselves cumming. |
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I tend to go with the flow sometimes orgasms come easy for the women I meet, other times it takes longer. There is no finish line, so I enjoy the moment and if she relaxes she will cum...
Women always cum first, I will only follow after. But it’s the whole meet not just the crescendo that is enjoyable.
I agree with an earlier post. Don’t pressure anyone. Comfortable meets in turn, make for repeat meets. Everyone loves those.. |
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"I tend to go with the flow sometimes orgasms come easy for the women I meet, other times it takes longer. There is no finish line, so I enjoy the moment and if she relaxes she will cum...
Women always cum first, I will only follow after. But it’s the whole meet not just the crescendo that is enjoyable.
I agree with an earlier post. Don’t pressure anyone. Comfortable meets in turn, make for repeat meets. Everyone loves those.."
I’m curious though, don’t you think that by saying women always cum first is putting some pressure on? |
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"I tend to go with the flow sometimes orgasms come easy for the women I meet, other times it takes longer. There is no finish line, so I enjoy the moment and if she relaxes she will cum...
Women always cum first, I will only follow after. But it’s the whole meet not just the crescendo that is enjoyable.
I agree with an earlier post. Don’t pressure anyone. Comfortable meets in turn, make for repeat meets. Everyone loves those.."
Your post makes no sense.Why are you forcing women to cum first? What about women who take huge pleasure in watching and hearing a man cum?
Why does anyone have to cum at all? |
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"Why are there men that see it as a challenge, if you don't squirt/cum from oral/orgasm from sex, or whatever else? If it isn't a problem for us, why is it so much for you... Be a decent fuck! A great time is all that matters. If your only aim is orgasm you ain't enjoying the sex properly! It's not always a reflection on performance ffs! "
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"Oops lol
Who didn't have orgasms.
I'd make it a life mission to make sure she does
That just spoils sex.
I agree
Me too. Why is there so much fixation on forcing women to cum like it's some prize or holy grail? Can't we just have great sex?
All that 'ladies first' bollocks puts as much pressure on women to cum as it does on men who think they have to stop themselves cumming."
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"I tend to go with the flow sometimes orgasms come easy for the women I meet, other times it takes longer. There is no finish line, so I enjoy the moment and if she relaxes she will cum...
Women always cum first, I will only follow after. But it’s the whole meet not just the crescendo that is enjoyable.
I agree with an earlier post. Don’t pressure anyone. Comfortable meets in turn, make for repeat meets. Everyone loves those.."
why does the woman gave to cum first? I much prefer a man to cum before me |
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"Would you still be interested in meeting a woman who enjoyed sex but did have orgasms?"
Had a woman years ago who could orgasm through other means but never with a guy actually inside her.
Had a few fun meets and made sure she had her orgasm in other ways until the one time when she was totally relaxed with me and riding me cowgirl and it happened.
Awesome experience to be part of and her face and "oh my god" language when it was happening was a delight to be part of.
So yes I definitely would. |
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"Sometimes the orgasm is just the full stop to a beautiful poem.
Words of love,feeling and emotion, making your heart beat faster.
An orgasm is just punctuation .
Marry me "
How many husbands is that now?.. |
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"Speaking as a woman who doesn't have a problem in that department - I'm inclined to steer clear of men who see my orgasms as a referendum on their worth. Let's have fun. It's not a competition ffs "
Agreed. Also sometimes someone can give me an orgasm but it not necessarily be that enjoyable. Usually if they go too hard. It's kinda like an uncomfortable orgasm  . |
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"Would you still be interested in meeting a woman who enjoyed sex but did have orgasms?
Had a woman years ago who could orgasm through other means but never with a guy actually inside her.
Had a few fun meets and made sure she had her orgasm in other ways until the one time when she was totally relaxed with me and riding me cowgirl and it happened.
Awesome experience to be part of and her face and "oh my god" language when it was happening was a delight to be part of.
So yes I definitely would."
You missed the correction,who doesn't orgasm. |
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"Oops lol
Who didn't have orgasms.
I'd make it a life mission to make sure she does
That just spoils sex.
Can't say iv ever noticed, but then again iv never been in that position, if she didn't want to hit the end result then I don't think I'd bother, stay home with my feet up
Have you ever considered that there may be a medical reason why she can't orgasm but that she still gets a lot of pressure from the act it's self?
No I hadn't because a medical condition wasn't mentioned, obviously that goes without saying, no sane minded person would try to get a woman to orgasm who can't medically, that would be like digging Henry the 8th up and trying to revive him "
No sane minded person would try to get a woman to orgasm if she says she doesn’t.
Far too many people see “orgasm” as the “end goal” and forget about all that goes on in between. You can have enjoyable pleasurable sex without reaching climax. |
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"If she relaxes she will cum
So that's what i've been doing wrong for the last 11 years. "
Silly you, your orgasms are about men and if you don't have them you should apologise to them for letting them down |
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Flipping it around, I've felt "not good enough" if the guy hasn't cum, even though I can get the mental block and not cum myself.
I need my wand to bring me off most of the time and that's with me being in control of it. |
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"Flipping it around, I've felt "not good enough" if the guy hasn't cum, even though I can get the mental block and not cum myself.
I need my wand to bring me off most of the time and that's with me being in control of it."
Same. But I don't tell him that he has to cum or anything. |
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I think that it could have a negative impact on my sexual psychology, which in turn could manifest itself physically or emotionally. So I’m going to say “no”.
If I find out that someone has lied about it (usually one of the hurtful/truthful things that ex partners say as they are in process of becoming ex’s) then it does impact me. Apologies I know that is very Neanderthal and “basic” but that’s the up and down of it. |
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"Flipping it around, I've felt "not good enough" if the guy hasn't cum, even though I can get the mental block and not cum myself.
I need my wand to bring me off most of the time and that's with me being in control of it.
Same. But I don't tell him that he has to cum or anything. "
I'm like, go on then son, finish yerself off |
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"Flipping it around, I've felt "not good enough" if the guy hasn't cum, even though I can get the mental block and not cum myself.
I need my wand to bring me off most of the time and that's with me being in control of it.
Same. But I don't tell him that he has to cum or anything.
I'm like, go on then son, finish yerself off "
With the Countdown timer music playing? |
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"If she relaxes she will cum
So that's what i've been doing wrong for the last 11 years.
Silly you, your orgasms are about men and if you don't have them you should apologise to them for letting them down "
I mentioned my problem to someone i was chatting to recently and he said (i quote) get the fuck off this site. |
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"Flipping it around, I've felt "not good enough" if the guy hasn't cum, even though I can get the mental block and not cum myself.
I need my wand to bring me off most of the time and that's with me being in control of it.
Same. But I don't tell him that he has to cum or anything.
I'm like, go on then son, finish yerself off
With the Countdown timer music playing? "
With an audience too but me on the countdown bongo |
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"Flipping it around, I've felt "not good enough" if the guy hasn't cum, even though I can get the mental block and not cum myself.
I need my wand to bring me off most of the time and that's with me being in control of it.
Same. But I don't tell him that he has to cum or anything.
I'm like, go on then son, finish yerself off "
I don't want to upset anyone |
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"If she relaxes she will cum
So that's what i've been doing wrong for the last 11 years.
Silly you, your orgasms are about men and if you don't have them you should apologise to them for letting them down
I mentioned my problem to someone i was chatting to recently and he said (i quote) get the fuck off this site."
Wtaf! Well, the issue is with him my lovely, and not you |
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"If she relaxes she will cum
So that's what i've been doing wrong for the last 11 years.
Silly you, your orgasms are about men and if you don't have them you should apologise to them for letting them down
I mentioned my problem to someone i was chatting to recently and he said (i quote) get the fuck off this site."
Niiice. So charming. Such manners.
Women can have sex for any reason they want. Their pleasure is about them. |
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"Flipping it around, I've felt "not good enough" if the guy hasn't cum, even though I can get the mental block and not cum myself.
I need my wand to bring me off most of the time and that's with me being in control of it.
Same. But I don't tell him that he has to cum or anything.
I'm like, go on then son, finish yerself off
I don't want to upset anyone"
Even chuck em in a free wank sock. |
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"If she relaxes she will cum
So that's what i've been doing wrong for the last 11 years.
Silly you, your orgasms are about men and if you don't have them you should apologise to them for letting them down
I mentioned my problem to someone i was chatting to recently and he said (i quote) get the fuck off this site."
I hope that your reply included the words "yourself", "fuck" and "go" in some order... |
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"If she relaxes she will cum
So that's what i've been doing wrong for the last 11 years.
Silly you, your orgasms are about men and if you don't have them you should apologise to them for letting them down
I mentioned my problem to someone i was chatting to recently and he said (i quote) get the fuck off this site."
You know I want you to send em my way don't ya? I love a bully. Let me rephrase.... I love taking on a male bully, not in the bedroom sense, but leftover abuse venom I have. |
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"Flipping it around, I've felt "not good enough" if the guy hasn't cum, even though I can get the mental block and not cum myself.
I need my wand to bring me off most of the time and that's with me being in control of it.
Same. But I don't tell him that he has to cum or anything.
I'm like, go on then son, finish yerself off
I don't want to upset anyone
Even chuck em in a free wank sock."
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"One of the complications of a hysterectomy can be nerve damage and an inability to orgasm.
I'm tired of trying to explain to people who won't listen, that regardless of what technique they use, not all women can cum.
Too much emphasis is placed on orgasms that the pleasure of sex itself is lost and that's a real shame.
Telling someone constantly that they should only behave in a certain way, ie. have an orgasm, puts so much pressure on them to conform what is considered to be the norm, that it has the opposite effect and actually makes it mush harder or even impossible to achieve.
For some who struggle, myself included, I want to enjoy the journey, not fixate on the destination. "
As someone with no problems, it's a filter for me too. Anyone telling me how to have sex is a no go. |
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One of the complications of a hysterectomy can be nerve damage and an inability to orgasm.
I'm tired of trying to explain to people who won't listen, that regardless of what technique they use, not all women can cum.
Too much emphasis is placed on orgasms that the pleasure of sex itself is lost and that's a real shame.
Telling someone constantly that they should only behave in a certain way, ie. have an orgasm, puts so much pressure on them to conform what is considered to be the norm, that it has the opposite effect and actually makes it much harder or even impossible to achieve.
For some who struggle, myself included, I want to enjoy the journey, not fixate on the destination.
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"One of the complications of a hysterectomy can be nerve damage and an inability to orgasm.
I'm tired of trying to explain to people who won't listen, that regardless of what technique they use, not all women can cum.
Too much emphasis is placed on orgasms that the pleasure of sex itself is lost and that's a real shame.
Telling someone constantly that they should only behave in a certain way, ie. have an orgasm, puts so much pressure on them to conform what is considered to be the norm, that it has the opposite effect and actually makes it much harder or even impossible to achieve.
For some who struggle, myself included, I want to enjoy the journey, not fixate on the destination.
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I'd just like to add if I may, that assuming you need to go harder, faster and deeper, that picking a woman up by her vag for maximum power REALLY isn't gonna force it out. |
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"Oops lol
Who didn't have orgasms.
I'd make it a life mission to make sure she does
That just spoils sex.
Can't say iv ever noticed, but then again iv never been in that position, if she didn't want to hit the end result then I don't think I'd bother, stay home with my feet up "
It's not always about not wanting to hit the end result. I struggle to cum in front of people. I can feel amazing and like I'm about to cum, but it very rarely happens.
Guys who say they make it their mission or duty or a challenge to make a woman cum would be shown the door. Enjoy the time you have together, enjoy the feelings. It doesn't matter if there's not a big O if everything else is there. |
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"I would be pissed off at myself if I ended up finishing before the woman had an orgasm  it hasn't happened so far...  "
Honestly... you've probably been faked on.
A bold statement but I really do believe that any bloke who has never failed to make a woman cum has been a victim of the *let's get this finished* "oooo oooo oooohhhhhhhhhhh" |
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"I would be pissed off at myself if I ended up finishing before the woman had an orgasm it hasn't happened so far...
Honestly... you've probably been faked on.
A bold statement but I really do believe that any bloke who has never failed to make a woman cum has been a victim of the *let's get this finished* "oooo oooo oooohhhhhhhhhhh" "
Agreed. "Oh god I can't deal with the tantrum" *makes noises and stuff* |
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"I would be pissed off at myself if I ended up finishing before the woman had an orgasm it hasn't happened so far...
Honestly... you've probably been faked on.
A bold statement but I really do believe that any bloke who has never failed to make a woman cum has been a victim of the *let's get this finished* "oooo oooo oooohhhhhhhhhhh" "
That sounds familiar.
Hey, wait - so you....?  |
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When I had a full profile it was on there about me not cumming. I got so many messages telling me how to do it or that they could do it for me. Instant delete. |
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"I would be pissed off at myself if I ended up finishing before the woman had an orgasm it hasn't happened so far... "
Why would you be pissed off.
I don’t get it, it’s not a failing on anyone’s part. |
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"I think that it could have a negative impact on my sexual psychology, which in turn could manifest itself physically or emotionally. So I’m going to say “no”.
If I find out that someone has lied about it (usually one of the hurtful/truthful things that ex partners say as they are in process of becoming ex’s) then it does impact me. Apologies I know that is very Neanderthal and “basic” but that’s the up and down of it. "
It is very neanderthal since around 15% of women have never orgasmed.
If one is good at what they do, there’s no need to wait for the “climax”. |
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"If she relaxes she will cum
So that's what i've been doing wrong for the last 11 years.
Silly you, your orgasms are about men and if you don't have them you should apologise to them for letting them down
I mentioned my problem to someone i was chatting to recently and he said (i quote) get the fuck off this site."
Wow. Sorry you had to experience that.
I have no issue with orgasms but the pressure from some is off putting and triggering.
It must feel awful for you that some men demand that of you. Sex isn’t just about the orgasm, that’s one element of pleasure, that most of the time many men can’t even tell if it’s authentic or not. |
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"I would be pissed off at myself if I ended up finishing before the woman had an orgasm it hasn't happened so far...
Why would you be pissed off.
I don’t get it, it’s not a failing on anyone’s part. "
Many men see it as their own failing. They weren’t good enough so their partner didn’t climax. Regardless of if it’s correct many men do believe in that, deep down. |
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"I would be pissed off at myself if I ended up finishing before the woman had an orgasm it hasn't happened so far...
Why would you be pissed off.
I don’t get it, it’s not a failing on anyone’s part.
Many men see it as their own failing. They weren’t good enough so their partner didn’t climax. Regardless of if it’s correct many men do believe in that, deep down. "
It seems many men need to let go of that mentality and understand that sex isn’t just about an orgasm. |
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"Sex isn’t just about the orgasm, that’s one element of pleasure, that most of the time many men can’t even tell if it’s authentic or not.
[Bloke mode]
We can tell
[Bloke mode off]
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You cannot!
When a woman knows exactly what she does when she orgasms she can replicate it perfectly when needed!
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"It seems many men need to let go of that mentality and understand that sex isn’t just about an orgasm. "
Yep you’re right. It is interesting to explore why they feel that way. Lack or wrong education is probably one of many factors. |
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"It seems many men need to let go of that mentality and understand that sex isn’t just about an orgasm.
Yep you’re right. It is interesting to explore why they feel that way. Lack or wrong education is probably one of many factors. "
Yeah, I think lack of education and also locker room talk.
When men get together and they brag a bit about their sexual prowess, I don’t think that helps, but boys will be boys! |
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"It seems many men need to let go of that mentality and understand that sex isn’t just about an orgasm.
Yep you’re right. It is interesting to explore why they feel that way. Lack or wrong education is probably one of many factors.
Yeah, I think lack of education and also locker room talk.
When men get together and they brag a bit about their sexual prowess, I don’t think that helps, but boys will be boys! "
Often it’s not only exaggerated but totally fabricated |
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"I would be pissed off at myself if I ended up finishing before the woman had an orgasm it hasn't happened so far...
Why would you be pissed off.
I don’t get it, it’s not a failing on anyone’s part.
Many men see it as their own failing. They weren’t good enough so their partner didn’t climax. Regardless of if it’s correct many men do believe in that, deep down. "
That's a fair point. Especially on a site with gushing bollocks TripAdvisor sex reviews.
"Oooh s/he was the best shag ever, we had 345 simultaneous mind blowing orgasms!!"  |
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"It seems many men need to let go of that mentality and understand that sex isn’t just about an orgasm.
Yep you’re right. It is interesting to explore why they feel that way. Lack or wrong education is probably one of many factors.
Yeah, I think lack of education and also locker room talk.
When men get together and they brag a bit about their sexual prowess, I don’t think that helps, but boys will be boys!
Often it’s not only exaggerated but totally fabricated "
I’m glad you said it.. |
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"It seems many men need to let go of that mentality and understand that sex isn’t just about an orgasm.
Yep you’re right. It is interesting to explore why they feel that way. Lack or wrong education is probably one of many factors.
Yeah, I think lack of education and also locker room talk.
When men get together and they brag a bit about their sexual prowess, I don’t think that helps, but boys will be boys!
Often it’s not only exaggerated but totally fabricated
I’m glad you said it.. "
And porn! |
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"Sex isn’t just about the orgasm, that’s one element of pleasure, that most of the time many men can’t even tell if it’s authentic or not.
[Bloke mode]
We can tell
[Bloke mode off]
You cannot!
When a woman knows exactly what she does when she orgasms she can replicate it perfectly when needed!
Trust me. "
Only teasing, I know we can’t |
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"That's a fair point. Especially on a site with gushing bollocks TripAdvisor sex reviews.
"Oooh s/he was the best shag ever, we had 345 simultaneous mind blowing orgasms!!" "
there should be a compilation of the top fab reviews. I’m surprised there isn’t a scoring system!! |
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"I think that it could have a negative impact on my sexual psychology, which in turn could manifest itself physically or emotionally. So I’m going to say “no”.
If I find out that someone has lied about it (usually one of the hurtful/truthful things that ex partners say as they are in process of becoming ex’s) then it does impact me. Apologies I know that is very Neanderthal and “basic” but that’s the up and down of it.
It is very neanderthal since around 15% of women have never orgasmed.
If one is good at what they do, there’s no need to wait for the “climax”. "
This I completely understand. However I was just expressing how it would make me feel and being honest with that. I fully appreciate that spending time with someone in a physical way is much more than about achieving orgasm. However I would feel (rightly or wrongly) that I had “failed” either consciously or subconsciously and I feel that would have a negative effect on me, mentally, which in turn may make my partner feel inadequate, which they aren’t. It is inevitable that we meet people that we don’t click with, physically, mentally or emotionally or people who have different elements of sex that they enjoy/don’t enjoy. I would never believe that I could make someone experience something that they categorically could not experience and fully respect them articulating that. I guess for me it’s just a psychological thing and probably one of those leftover primeval things or comes from reading too much vogue/cosmopolitan in my youth.
Sorry just me being me |
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And porn!"
I don’t agree with that. We can all pound away at top speed for 4-5 hours straight without breaking a sweat while making a woman scream so loud that we have to ask her to turn the volume down And if you can’t hold her upside down in a standing 69 then what really as a man CAN YOU DO! |
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"I think that it could have a negative impact on my sexual psychology, which in turn could manifest itself physically or emotionally. So I’m going to say “no”.
If I find out that someone has lied about it (usually one of the hurtful/truthful things that ex partners say as they are in process of becoming ex’s) then it does impact me. Apologies I know that is very Neanderthal and “basic” but that’s the up and down of it.
It is very neanderthal since around 15% of women have never orgasmed.
If one is good at what they do, there’s no need to wait for the “climax”.
This I completely understand. However I was just expressing how it would make me feel and being honest with that. I fully appreciate that spending time with someone in a physical way is much more than about achieving orgasm. However I would feel (rightly or wrongly) that I had “failed” either consciously or subconsciously and I feel that would have a negative effect on me, mentally, which in turn may make my partner feel inadequate, which they aren’t. It is inevitable that we meet people that we don’t click with, physically, mentally or emotionally or people who have different elements of sex that they enjoy/don’t enjoy. I would never believe that I could make someone experience something that they categorically could not experience and fully respect them articulating that. I guess for me it’s just a psychological thing and probably one of those leftover primeval things or comes from reading too much vogue/cosmopolitan in my youth.
Sorry just me being me "
I’d say it’s more to do with lack of education, and the notion that orgasm is somehow a measure of someone’s ability to pleasure someone.
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"I think that it could have a negative impact on my sexual psychology, which in turn could manifest itself physically or emotionally. So I’m going to say “no”.
If I find out that someone has lied about it (usually one of the hurtful/truthful things that ex partners say as they are in process of becoming ex’s) then it does impact me. Apologies I know that is very Neanderthal and “basic” but that’s the up and down of it.
It is very neanderthal since around 15% of women have never orgasmed.
If one is good at what they do, there’s no need to wait for the “climax”.
This I completely understand. However I was just expressing how it would make me feel and being honest with that. I fully appreciate that spending time with someone in a physical way is much more than about achieving orgasm. However I would feel (rightly or wrongly) that I had “failed” either consciously or subconsciously and I feel that would have a negative effect on me, mentally, which in turn may make my partner feel inadequate, which they aren’t. It is inevitable that we meet people that we don’t click with, physically, mentally or emotionally or people who have different elements of sex that they enjoy/don’t enjoy. I would never believe that I could make someone experience something that they categorically could not experience and fully respect them articulating that. I guess for me it’s just a psychological thing and probably one of those leftover primeval things or comes from reading too much vogue/cosmopolitan in my youth.
Sorry just me being me
I’d say it’s more to do with lack of education, and the notion that orgasm is somehow a measure of someone’s ability to pleasure someone.
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"That's a fair point. Especially on a site with gushing bollocks TripAdvisor sex reviews.
"Oooh s/he was the best shag ever, we had 345 simultaneous mind blowing orgasms!!"
there should be a compilation of the top fab reviews. I’m surprised there isn’t a scoring system!! "
A scoring system would be amazing. My lack of stars would be epic. |
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"I think that it could have a negative impact on my sexual psychology, which in turn could manifest itself physically or emotionally. So I’m going to say “no”.
If I find out that someone has lied about it (usually one of the hurtful/truthful things that ex partners say as they are in process of becoming ex’s) then it does impact me. Apologies I know that is very Neanderthal and “basic” but that’s the up and down of it.
It is very neanderthal since around 15% of women have never orgasmed.
If one is good at what they do, there’s no need to wait for the “climax”.
This I completely understand. However I was just expressing how it would make me feel and being honest with that. I fully appreciate that spending time with someone in a physical way is much more than about achieving orgasm. However I would feel (rightly or wrongly) that I had “failed” either consciously or subconsciously and I feel that would have a negative effect on me, mentally, which in turn may make my partner feel inadequate, which they aren’t. It is inevitable that we meet people that we don’t click with, physically, mentally or emotionally or people who have different elements of sex that they enjoy/don’t enjoy. I would never believe that I could make someone experience something that they categorically could not experience and fully respect them articulating that. I guess for me it’s just a psychological thing and probably one of those leftover primeval things or comes from reading too much vogue/cosmopolitan in my youth.
Sorry just me being me
I’d say it’s more to do with lack of education, and the notion that orgasm is somehow a measure of someone’s ability to pleasure someone.
Okay. "
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I dont see any reason why not frankly.
Im stupidly difficult to make orgasm to the point its something I've never had someone do for me, it is usually of my own doing even as part of regular sex woth a person. I have to take control and control rhythms etc.
Whatever someone else's reason for not orgasming is theirs and sexually as long as they enjoy sex then let's get it on.
Its what you do together that makes it enjoyable for me, an orgasm is just the cherry on the top and you can have a beautiful bakewell tart without needing that cherry
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over a year ago
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"Orgasams are essential. X"
Why are they? Does it make the experience any less pleasurable for anyone? Surely the important thing is whether all involved have had a good time and walk away with a smile on their face and wanting to do it again regardless of orgasms? |
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"I would be pissed off at myself if I ended up finishing before the woman had an orgasm it hasn't happened so far...
Why would you be pissed off.
I don’t get it, it’s not a failing on anyone’s part.
Many men see it as their own failing. They weren’t good enough so their partner didn’t climax. Regardless of if it’s correct many men do believe in that, deep down. "
Not understanding biology nor basic sexual pleasure, is their failing, not not getting someone to orgasm |
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"Oops lol
Who didn't have orgasms."
This sounds like me.
I do have them but just as often don't.
Still I sure as hell enjoy the journey
I don't think it puts my partners off...had no complaints anyway.
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I don't cum easy.
It's the rolled up shirt sleeves, grim determination that crosses their face that makes me heart sink.
The frantic pawing, sometimes they scratch! And then the ones who move my hand just as I'm getting there because they know better than me how my body works.
It's easier and less hazardous to fake. |
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"I can find it hard to orgasm, particularly with someone I don’t know particularly well, but it doesn’t bother me, the rest of it is just as enjoyable. If someone tells me they guarantee I will cum, that puts me off immediately, as straight away there is pressure, and trying to force it will have the opposite effect.
It’s not a competition or a badge of honour.
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That so applies to men too. It sometimes feels like you have to be a performing sealion! Everyone if likely to have more fun if they're relaxed with no expectations of orgasms or cumming. In fact it's more likely to happen that way. |
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"Speaking as a woman who doesn't have a problem in that department - I'm inclined to steer clear of men who see my orgasms as a referendum on their worth. Let's have fun. It's not a competition ffs "
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