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"It's not that i only like slim ladies, im not that shallow. It was just a very big lady and wasn't my cup of tea, i thought id rather be honest and say the reason as we are all adults on here and all i got back was abuse and them calling me a bully and out of order, thought as adults honesty is what people want.. " I don’t give reasons, ever. You’re not obliged to. Just thanks for the message but no thanks kind of thing would suffice I think. | |||
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"It's not that i only like slim ladies, im not that shallow. It was just a very big lady and wasn't my cup of tea, i thought id rather be honest and say the reason as we are all adults on here and all i got back was abuse and them calling me a bully and out of order, thought as adults honesty is what people want.. " Oooooo fucking hell 
Do you not think, "thanks but no thanks" is polite enough?
You'll tend to find it's blokes who keeo getting rejected that want a reason, they want something to blame whereas the sensible among us know that can be very very destructive and slay someones confidence.
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"It's not that i only like slim ladies, im not that shallow. It was just a very big lady and wasn't my cup of tea, i thought id rather be honest and say the reason as we are all adults on here and all i got back was abuse and them calling me a bully and out of order, thought as adults honesty is what people want.. Oooooo fucking hell
Do you not think, "thanks but no thanks" is polite enough?
You'll tend to find it's blokes who keeo getting rejected that want a reason, they want something to blame whereas the sensible among us know that can be very very destructive and slay someones confidence.
"I have no confidence anyway haha. But i would always rather hear the truth, even if its not what i want to hear.. maybe that's just me, ive never replied aggressively or in a rude or unfriendly manner.. | |||
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"Not arguing that at all but ive had a few women now reply with "no you're not big enough, i like them much bigger than that" and had one that said "are you serious? You honestly thought id ever be interested in you?" That's what i mean by double standards, when i received those messages i didn't reply with abuse or acting the victim. Like i said it not everyone and that would be stupid to even assume." Well they're just cunts. I can be a cunt too. Usually if someone hasn't read my profile, and is clearly the type of person I state I'm trying to avoid. Then they'll get both barrels if I'm feeling particularly lesson teachy in the "I can outcunt you ya cunt" stakes. | |||
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"Just a quick one, how come when i or other males have said i don't like a bigger las or that i don't find someone attractive im a bad person for having a preference? But women constantly put guy's down ? Not everyone obviously but ive had a few now reply with Frankly unnecessary replies? Im not everyone's cuppa tea i get that but i said oh no sorry not interested in a bigger girl or i dont find you attractive its bad but its completely fine for a woman to do it ? Not bitter or annoying about it but honestly just curious that's all, maybe ive just spoke to the wrong people haha. Have a good day everyone " Do you only turn down fat women? Just an Oddly specific rejection rant. Was the unnecessary reply from a fat woman? | |||
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"Completely agree, always read the profile and make sure im in line with what they are looking for. If im not their type then im fine with it. Not once have a thought you know what im gonna be aggressive to this person now and intentionally make them feel shit. I understand that saying i didn't like someone because they were big isn't exactly the nicest thing in the world but wasn't intentionally rude. Some people go out of their way to be aggressive and rude, dont get me wrong I've obviously never seen it from the side of a woman after rejecting a guy, and i can imagine that some guys are absolutely awful " Don't see the point in becoming hostile because of a blow out Million more women in this world  | |||
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"Not arguing that at all but ive had a few women now reply with "no you're not big enough, i like them much bigger than that" and had one that said "are you serious? You honestly thought id ever be interested in you?" That's what i mean by double standards, when i received those messages i didn't reply with abuse or acting the victim. Like i said it not everyone and that would be stupid to even assume." I think you just need to ignore those people. Are they really worth your time and effort? You like what you like and it sounds like you haven’t been abusive. It’s not just women who do it. I’ve gone from being stunning and beautiful to an entitled fat slag in 10 seconds. | |||
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"Just a quick one, how come when i or other males have said i don't like a bigger las or that i don't find someone attractive im a bad person for having a preference? But women constantly put guy's down ? Not everyone obviously but ive had a few now reply with Frankly unnecessary replies? Im not everyone's cuppa tea i get that but i said oh no sorry not interested in a bigger girl or i dont find you attractive its bad but its completely fine for a woman to do it ? Not bitter or annoying about it but honestly just curious that's all, maybe ive just spoke to the wrong people haha. Have a good day everyone Do you only turn down fat women? Just an Oddly specific rejection rant. Was the unnecessary reply from a fat woman? " The reply from the larger woman was that of a victim, "how dare you say im not good enough because of my size? You're not my type anyway." Im sorry i have my preference its nothing personal. I don't mind a larger lady but everyone has their limitations and preferences. I didn't make the post to belittle larger women, i just simply wanted to hear the opinions of others as to why its okay for a wonen to have preference and im not haha that's all | |||
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"Not arguing that at all but ive had a few women now reply with "no you're not big enough, i like them much bigger than that" and had one that said "are you serious? You honestly thought id ever be interested in you?" That's what i mean by double standards, when i received those messages i didn't reply with abuse or acting the victim. Like i said it not everyone and that would be stupid to even assume. I think you just need to ignore those people. Are they really worth your time and effort? You like what you like and it sounds like you haven’t been abusive. It’s not just women who do it. I’ve gone from being stunning and beautiful to an entitled fat slag in 10 seconds. " Same, from wanting to slide upp and down to calling me an arrogant prick It's not arrogance It's pride | |||
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"Not arguing that at all but ive had a few women now reply with "no you're not big enough, i like them much bigger than that" and had one that said "are you serious? You honestly thought id ever be interested in you?" That's what i mean by double standards, when i received those messages i didn't reply with abuse or acting the victim. Like i said it not everyone and that would be stupid to even assume. I think you just need to ignore those people. Are they really worth your time and effort? You like what you like and it sounds like you haven’t been abusive. It’s not just women who do it. I’ve gone from being stunning and beautiful to an entitled fat slag in 10 seconds. " That's some mood swing... | |||
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"Just a quick one, how come when i or other males have said i don't like a bigger las or that i don't find someone attractive im a bad person for having a preference? But women constantly put guy's down ? Not everyone obviously but ive had a few now reply with Frankly unnecessary replies? Im not everyone's cuppa tea i get that but i said oh no sorry not interested in a bigger girl or i dont find you attractive its bad but its completely fine for a woman to do it ? Not bitter or annoying about it but honestly just curious that's all, maybe ive just spoke to the wrong people haha. Have a good day everyone Do you only turn down fat women? Just an Oddly specific rejection rant. Was the unnecessary reply from a fat woman? The reply from the larger woman was that of a victim, "how dare you say im not good enough because of my size? You're not my type anyway." Im sorry i have my preference its nothing personal. I don't mind a larger lady but everyone has their limitations and preferences. I didn't make the post to belittle larger women, i just simply wanted to hear the opinions of others as to why its okay for a wonen to have preference and im not haha that's all" It's fine for everyone to have preference, just not fine to be a prick about it regardless of gender. And this is part if the reason why the FAQs have no reply means no interest. To save this kinda shitstorm | |||
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"Not arguing that at all but ive had a few women now reply with "no you're not big enough, i like them much bigger than that" and had one that said "are you serious? You honestly thought id ever be interested in you?" That's what i mean by double standards, when i received those messages i didn't reply with abuse or acting the victim. Like i said it not everyone and that would be stupid to even assume. I think you just need to ignore those people. Are they really worth your time and effort? You like what you like and it sounds like you haven’t been abusive. It’s not just women who do it. I’ve gone from being stunning and beautiful to an entitled fat slag in 10 seconds. " Like i said men are just as bad, and ive obviously never experienced that from a guy and i can imagine its awfull sometimes. All im saying is that i try to as respectful as possible but to me honesty is the most important thing. Maybe i should think about how it might make them feel but honesty is always best in my opinion. | |||
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"Not arguing that at all but ive had a few women now reply with "no you're not big enough, i like them much bigger than that" and had one that said "are you serious? You honestly thought id ever be interested in you?" That's what i mean by double standards, when i received those messages i didn't reply with abuse or acting the victim. Like i said it not everyone and that would be stupid to even assume." Look, some of us have been around here a bit longer than you and have had all sorts of rejections at various times. Even though i am quite short in the height situation, i have never had any woman/couple say to me "your not big enough". Now, maybe you posting the message that got that reply could be interesting because context is everything. By the way, being a guy does not=automatic rejection and never has done on here. Being a prick certainly does, as does not taking enough time to compose an engaging first message. You will never meet unless you first talk, it therefore follows that unless you talk you won't meet. | |||
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"Not arguing that at all but ive had a few women now reply with "no you're not big enough, i like them much bigger than that" and had one that said "are you serious? You honestly thought id ever be interested in you?" That's what i mean by double standards, when i received those messages i didn't reply with abuse or acting the victim. Like i said it not everyone and that would be stupid to even assume. I think you just need to ignore those people. Are they really worth your time and effort? You like what you like and it sounds like you haven’t been abusive. It’s not just women who do it. I’ve gone from being stunning and beautiful to an entitled fat slag in 10 seconds. Like i said men are just as bad, and ive obviously never experienced that from a guy and i can imagine its awfull sometimes. All im saying is that i try to as respectful as possible but to me honesty is the most important thing. Maybe i should think about how it might make them feel but honesty is always best in my opinion." thanks but not for me is honest though. I’d stick with that in future. | |||
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"Not arguing that at all but ive had a few women now reply with "no you're not big enough, i like them much bigger than that" and had one that said "are you serious? You honestly thought id ever be interested in you?" That's what i mean by double standards, when i received those messages i didn't reply with abuse or acting the victim. Like i said it not everyone and that would be stupid to even assume. I think you just need to ignore those people. Are they really worth your time and effort? You like what you like and it sounds like you haven’t been abusive. It’s not just women who do it. I’ve gone from being stunning and beautiful to an entitled fat slag in 10 seconds. Like i said men are just as bad, and ive obviously never experienced that from a guy and i can imagine its awfull sometimes. All im saying is that i try to as respectful as possible but to me honesty is the most important thing. Maybe i should think about how it might make them feel but honesty is always best in my opinion." Yes honesty is great. There's honesty and then there's humiliation. "Not my type" is honest enough surely. | |||
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"I don't like fat lady's there just not my cup of tea i wouldnt date one so i wouldnt sleep with one but I don't tell them I don't like them because there fat I just politely decline anything else would be cruel. " | |||
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"There are some rather pretty, hot sexy looking bigger ladies out there as there is thin We all look the same in the dark and let's face it They can either do a good job at sucking a cock or they can't " | |||
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"Not arguing that at all but ive had a few women now reply with "no you're not big enough, i like them much bigger than that" and had one that said "are you serious? You honestly thought id ever be interested in you?" That's what i mean by double standards, when i received those messages i didn't reply with abuse or acting the victim. Like i said it not everyone and that would be stupid to even assume. I think you just need to ignore those people. Are they really worth your time and effort? You like what you like and it sounds like you haven’t been abusive. It’s not just women who do it. I’ve gone from being stunning and beautiful to an entitled fat slag in 10 seconds. Like i said men are just as bad, and ive obviously never experienced that from a guy and i can imagine its awfull sometimes. All im saying is that i try to as respectful as possible but to me honesty is the most important thing. Maybe i should think about how it might make them feel but honesty is always best in my opinion. Yes honesty is great. There's honesty and then there's humiliation. "Not my type" is honest enough surely." And this is what i mean. How is it humiliation? I didn't get them to that size. Dont get me wrong for anyone to put themselves out there on this site takes bravery and confidence, in no way doni want to belittle anyone, and i don't ever want to intentionally hurt anyone's feelings but i am always gonna be honest, that's who I am, that's how i was raised. | |||
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"There are some rather pretty, hot sexy looking bigger ladies out there as there is thin We all look the same in the dark and let's face it They can either do a good job at sucking a cock or they can't "Oh this is not heading in a good direction | |||
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"There are some rather pretty, hot sexy looking bigger ladies out there as there is thin We all look the same in the dark and let's face it They can either do a good job at sucking a cock or they can't
Oh this is not heading in a good direction "I could've told you that last March | |||
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"Just a quick one, how come when i or other males have said i don't like a bigger las or that i don't find someone attractive im a bad person for having a preference? But women constantly put guy's down ? Not everyone obviously but ive had a few now reply with Frankly unnecessary replies? Im not everyone's cuppa tea i get that but i said oh no sorry not interested in a bigger girl or i dont find you attractive its bad but its completely fine for a woman to do it ? Not bitter or annoying about it but honestly just curious that's all, maybe ive just spoke to the wrong people haha. Have a good day everyone Do you only turn down fat women? Just an Oddly specific rejection rant. Was the unnecessary reply from a fat woman? The reply from the larger woman was that of a victim, "how dare you say im not good enough because of my size? You're not my type anyway." Im sorry i have my preference its nothing personal. I don't mind a larger lady but everyone has their limitations and preferences. I didn't make the post to belittle larger women, i just simply wanted to hear the opinions of others as to why its okay for a wonen to have preference and im not haha that's all" I just need to point this bit out "Im sorry i have my preference its nothing personal" By stating the specific reason and it being such a sensitive subject ... you made it personal. | |||
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"Not arguing that at all but ive had a few women now reply with "no you're not big enough, i like them much bigger than that" and had one that said "are you serious? You honestly thought id ever be interested in you?" That's what i mean by double standards, when i received those messages i didn't reply with abuse or acting the victim. Like i said it not everyone and that would be stupid to even assume. I think you just need to ignore those people. Are they really worth your time and effort? You like what you like and it sounds like you haven’t been abusive. It’s not just women who do it. I’ve gone from being stunning and beautiful to an entitled fat slag in 10 seconds. Like i said men are just as bad, and ive obviously never experienced that from a guy and i can imagine its awfull sometimes. All im saying is that i try to as respectful as possible but to me honesty is the most important thing. Maybe i should think about how it might make them feel but honesty is always best in my opinion. Yes honesty is great. There's honesty and then there's humiliation. "Not my type" is honest enough surely. And this is what i mean. How is it humiliation? I didn't get them to that size. Dont get me wrong for anyone to put themselves out there on this site takes bravery and confidence, in no way doni want to belittle anyone, and i don't ever want to intentionally hurt anyone's feelings but i am always gonna be honest, that's who I am, that's how i was raised. " But surely common sense comes into play with most things! I’m quite thick skinned but I would much rather someone say not for me than you’re too fat/big for me! | |||
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"Just want to add I have been on here a few years and I have never had anyone message me with any Thing other than kind words even if its a simple sorry not my type message certainly never had an abusive message saying any Thing negative or abusive as a reply. so if you are recieveing abusive replys about your appearance and feel the need to then reply to people saying they look fat you probably need to look at the messages your sending in the first place. " You clearly haven't read everything have you.. Not once have i said i called her fat because of the messages ive received from completely different people. | |||
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"9 times out of 10 honesty is offensive and guess what 9 times out of 10p noones got the balls to be honest Would I fuck a bigger woman ? Of course I would. Would I fuck a thin woman ? Of course I would. Would I blow both there minds ? Without a shadow of doubt "Thank you David Brent. | |||
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"Not arguing that at all but ive had a few women now reply with "no you're not big enough, i like them much bigger than that" and had one that said "are you serious? You honestly thought id ever be interested in you?" That's what i mean by double standards, when i received those messages i didn't reply with abuse or acting the victim. Like i said it not everyone and that would be stupid to even assume. I think you just need to ignore those people. Are they really worth your time and effort? You like what you like and it sounds like you haven’t been abusive. It’s not just women who do it. I’ve gone from being stunning and beautiful to an entitled fat slag in 10 seconds. Like i said men are just as bad, and ive obviously never experienced that from a guy and i can imagine its awfull sometimes. All im saying is that i try to as respectful as possible but to me honesty is the most important thing. Maybe i should think about how it might make them feel but honesty is always best in my opinion. Yes honesty is great. There's honesty and then there's humiliation. "Not my type" is honest enough surely. And this is what i mean. How is it humiliation? I didn't get them to that size. Dont get me wrong for anyone to put themselves out there on this site takes bravery and confidence, in no way doni want to belittle anyone, and i don't ever want to intentionally hurt anyone's feelings but i am always gonna be honest, that's who I am, that's how i was raised. " I don't really have a dog in this fight but if I may.... You received messages saying youre too short... And I think I'm correct in saying that you thought those were "frankly unnecessary replies"... And yet almost identically when your write to someone "they are too large" you seem to have a blindspot to see they are very similar. And some may say unnecessary. | |||
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"Love watching blokes fucking it up for themselves, carry on fellas. " Don't see how this is fucking it up for myself. If a woman posted the same thing i did and said that a bloke started to act the victim after her response would this have got the same response of what its getting now ?? Genuine question... She asked why she wasn't for me and i told her | |||
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"There are some rather pretty, hot sexy looking bigger ladies out there as there is thin We all look the same in the dark and let's face it They can either do a good job at sucking a cock or they can't
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"Not arguing that at all but ive had a few women now reply with "no you're not big enough, i like them much bigger than that" and had one that said "are you serious? You honestly thought id ever be interested in you?" That's what i mean by double standards, when i received those messages i didn't reply with abuse or acting the victim. Like i said it not everyone and that would be stupid to even assume. I think you just need to ignore those people. Are they really worth your time and effort? You like what you like and it sounds like you haven’t been abusive. It’s not just women who do it. I’ve gone from being stunning and beautiful to an entitled fat slag in 10 seconds. Like i said men are just as bad, and ive obviously never experienced that from a guy and i can imagine its awfull sometimes. All im saying is that i try to as respectful as possible but to me honesty is the most important thing. Maybe i should think about how it might make them feel but honesty is always best in my opinion. Yes honesty is great. There's honesty and then there's humiliation. "Not my type" is honest enough surely. And this is what i mean. How is it humiliation? I didn't get them to that size. Dont get me wrong for anyone to put themselves out there on this site takes bravery and confidence, in no way doni want to belittle anyone, and i don't ever want to intentionally hurt anyone's feelings but i am always gonna be honest, that's who I am, that's how i was raised. I don't really have a dog in this fight but if I may.... You received messages saying youre too short... And I think I'm correct in saying that you thought those were "frankly unnecessary replies"... And yet almost identically when your write to someone "they are too large" you seem to have a blindspot to see they are very similar. And some may say unnecessary. " Didn't say too short, i said wasn't big enough, referring to my penis. And if you read through the posts i did mention that i did say that she wasn't for me, then she proceeded to ask why. | |||
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"There are some rather pretty, hot sexy looking bigger ladies out there as there is thin We all look the same in the dark and let's face it They can either do a good job at sucking a cock or they can't
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"Love watching blokes fucking it up for themselves, carry on fellas. Don't see how this is fucking it up for myself. If a woman posted the same thing i did and said that a bloke started to act the victim after her response would this have got the same response of what its getting now ?? Genuine question... She asked why she wasn't for me and i told her" Yeah, that’s not the bit I’m referring to, do you need a clue or do you want to try again ? | |||
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"There are some rather pretty, hot sexy looking bigger ladies out there as there is thin We all look the same in the dark and let's face it They can either do a good job at sucking a cock or they can't
Oh this is not heading in a good direction
This is where the facility of adding a private note to a profile comes in handy
Hope that notes nice words "Would I meet someone who doesn't care what I look like in the dark, as long as I suck cock ? That would be 'hell would freeze over'  | |||
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"There are some rather pretty, hot sexy looking bigger ladies out there as there is thin We all look the same in the dark and let's face it They can either do a good job at sucking a cock or they can't
Oh this is not heading in a good direction
This is where the facility of adding a private note to a profile comes in handy
Hope that notes nice words
Would I meet someone who doesn't care what I look like in the dark, as long as I suck cock ? That would be 'hell would freeze over' "Like I said 9 times out of 10 honesty if offensive I'd still blow your mind though | |||
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"There are some rather pretty, hot sexy looking bigger ladies out there as there is thin We all look the same in the dark and let's face it They can either do a good job at sucking a cock or they can't
Oh this is not heading in a good direction
This is where the facility of adding a private note to a profile comes in handy
Hope that notes nice words
Would I meet someone who doesn't care what I look like in the dark, as long as I suck cock ? That would be 'hell would freeze over'
Like I said 9 times out of 10 honesty if offensive
I'd still blow your mind though "No, you really wouldn't. | |||
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"There are some rather pretty, hot sexy looking bigger ladies out there as there is thin We all look the same in the dark and let's face it They can either do a good job at sucking a cock or they can't
Oh this is not heading in a good direction
This is where the facility of adding a private note to a profile comes in handy
Hope that notes nice words
Would I meet someone who doesn't care what I look like in the dark, as long as I suck cock ? That would be 'hell would freeze over'
Like I said 9 times out of 10 honesty if offensive
I'd still blow your mind though
No, you really wouldn't."30 seconds with me and your entire outlook on life would be altered Going crazy is unavoidable | |||
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" women constantly put guy's down ? Not everyone obviously but ive had a few now reply with Frankly unnecessary replies? Im not everyone's cuppa tea i get that but i said oh no sorry not interested in a bigger girl or i dont find you attractive its bad but its completely fine for a woman to do it ? " Who said its ok for woman to put guys down ? | |||
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"Not arguing that at all but ive had a few women now reply with "no you're not big enough, i like them much bigger than that" and had one that said "are you serious? You honestly thought id ever be interested in you?" That's what i mean by double standards, when i received those messages i didn't reply with abuse or acting the victim. Like i said it not everyone and that would be stupid to even assume. I think you just need to ignore those people. Are they really worth your time and effort? You like what you like and it sounds like you haven’t been abusive. It’s not just women who do it. I’ve gone from being stunning and beautiful to an entitled fat slag in 10 seconds. Like i said men are just as bad, and ive obviously never experienced that from a guy and i can imagine its awfull sometimes. All im saying is that i try to as respectful as possible but to me honesty is the most important thing. Maybe i should think about how it might make them feel but honesty is always best in my opinion. Yes honesty is great. There's honesty and then there's humiliation. "Not my type" is honest enough surely. And this is what i mean. How is it humiliation? I didn't get them to that size. Dont get me wrong for anyone to put themselves out there on this site takes bravery and confidence, in no way doni want to belittle anyone, and i don't ever want to intentionally hurt anyone's feelings but i am always gonna be honest, that's who I am, that's how i was raised. " "I didn't get them to that size"
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"There are some rather pretty, hot sexy looking bigger ladies out there as there is thin We all look the same in the dark and let's face it They can either do a good job at sucking a cock or they can't
Oh this is not heading in a good direction
This is where the facility of adding a private note to a profile comes in handy
Hope that notes nice words
Would I meet someone who doesn't care what I look like in the dark, as long as I suck cock ? That would be 'hell would freeze over'
Like I said 9 times out of 10 honesty if offensive
I'd still blow your mind though
No, you really wouldn't.
30 seconds with me and your entire outlook on life would be altered
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" women constantly put guy's down ? Not everyone obviously but ive had a few now reply with Frankly unnecessary replies? Im not everyone's cuppa tea i get that but i said oh no sorry not interested in a bigger girl or i dont find you attractive its bad but its completely fine for a woman to do it ? Who said its ok for woman to put guys down ?" Those that feel entitled and those that are simply desperate for the wetness | |||
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"There are some rather pretty, hot sexy looking bigger ladies out there as there is thin We all look the same in the dark and let's face it They can either do a good job at sucking a cock or they can't
Oh this is not heading in a good direction
This is where the facility of adding a private note to a profile comes in handy
Hope that notes nice words
Would I meet someone who doesn't care what I look like in the dark, as long as I suck cock ? That would be 'hell would freeze over'
Like I said 9 times out of 10 honesty if offensive
I'd still blow your mind though
No, you really wouldn't.
30 seconds with me and your entire outlook on life would be altered
Going crazy is unavoidable
God loves a tryer... If words were deeds... He knows his game! "30 seconds 
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"There are some rather pretty, hot sexy looking bigger ladies out there as there is thin We all look the same in the dark and let's face it They can either do a good job at sucking a cock or they can't
Oh this is not heading in a good direction
This is where the facility of adding a private note to a profile comes in handy
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Would I meet someone who doesn't care what I look like in the dark, as long as I suck cock ? That would be 'hell would freeze over'
Like I said 9 times out of 10 honesty if offensive
I'd still blow your mind though
No, you really wouldn't.
30 seconds with me and your entire outlook on life would be altered
Going crazy is unavoidable
God loves a tryer... If words were deeds... He knows his game!
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"Just a quick one, how come when i or other males have said i don't like a bigger las or that i don't find someone attractive im a bad person for having a preference? But women constantly put guy's down ? Not everyone obviously but ive had a few now reply with Frankly unnecessary replies? Im not everyone's cuppa tea i get that but i said oh no sorry not interested in a bigger girl or i dont find you attractive its bad but its completely fine for a woman to do it ? Not bitter or annoying about it but honestly just curious that's all, maybe ive just spoke to the wrong people haha. Have a good day everyone Do you only turn down fat women? Just an Oddly specific rejection rant. Was the unnecessary reply from a fat woman? The reply from the larger woman was that of a victim, "how dare you say im not good enough because of my size? You're not my type anyway." Im sorry i have my preference its nothing personal. I don't mind a larger lady but everyone has their limitations and preferences. I didn't make the post to belittle larger women, i just simply wanted to hear the opinions of others as to why its okay for a wonen to have preference and im not haha that's all" I'm still confused lol So the unnecessary reply from a message you sent was from a larger lady? The way you wrote your op implied you were rejected by someone you approached. Either way people can be dicks no matter their gender. The response you quoted isn't necessarily rude. Entitled maybe but not rude. Just reject and block then you won't get any of that. It's the same for blokes as well. The amount of begging, persuading and pleading gif me to give them a try after I've said I'm not interested in them is embarrassing. | |||
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"Love watching blokes fucking it up for themselves, carry on fellas. Don't see how this is fucking it up for myself. If a woman posted the same thing i did and said that a bloke started to act the victim after her response would this have got the same response of what its getting now ?? Genuine question... She asked why she wasn't for me and i told her" If a woman had posted this we wouldn't be able to see the words for all the glitter and hugs being thrown about! It's double standards. 
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"Please do not try to defend yourself or expect any intelligent debate from anyone in the forums..... If you’re a man that states you do not like bigger women in the forums, these things will happen..... Men will reply that they love bigger women to get a leg up. Women will call you arrogant and narcissistic.. People will state that they are blocking you.... Now we all have preferences about who we sleep with..... Smoking, drinking, height, etc , etc, But please don’t come to the forums expecting a intellectual debate nor learning anything from your thread...... You will be called a fat shamer and bully very soon...... I really hope this helps... " Awwww you never fail to try
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"Just a quick one, how come when i or other males have said i don't like a bigger las or that i don't find someone attractive im a bad person for having a preference? But women constantly put guy's down ? Not everyone obviously but ive had a few now reply with Frankly unnecessary replies? Im not everyone's cuppa tea i get that but i said oh no sorry not interested in a bigger girl or i dont find you attractive its bad but its completely fine for a woman to do it ? Not bitter or annoying about it but honestly just curious that's all, maybe ive just spoke to the wrong people haha. Have a good day everyone Do you only turn down fat women? Just an Oddly specific rejection rant. Was the unnecessary reply from a fat woman? The reply from the larger woman was that of a victim, "how dare you say im not good enough because of my size? You're not my type anyway." Im sorry i have my preference its nothing personal. I don't mind a larger lady but everyone has their limitations and preferences. I didn't make the post to belittle larger women, i just simply wanted to hear the opinions of others as to why its okay for a wonen to have preference and im not haha that's all I'm still confused lol So the unnecessary reply from a message you sent was from a larger lady? The way you wrote your op implied you were rejected by someone you approached. Either way people can be dicks no matter their gender. The response you quoted isn't necessarily rude. Entitled maybe but not rude. Just reject and block then you won't get any of that. It's the same for blokes as well. The amount of begging, persuading and pleading gif me to give them a try after I've said I'm not interested in them is embarrassing. " She messaged me. And i did say "no sorry not for me" she then proceeded to ask me why.... | |||
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"Just thought we are all meant to be adults and should be able to have a mature discussion. Im here to upset or offend anyone. If people get offened by what i say then i apologise that's not my intention. But I thought that's why the forums are here, to engage in discussion and debate?? " The ideal and the reality often diverge. Double standards can exist. Mind yourself and your behaviour, take other misbehaviour as a warning about other people. | |||
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"Just a quick one, how come when i or other males have said i don't like a bigger las or that i don't find someone attractive im a bad person for having a preference? But women constantly put guy's down ? Not everyone obviously but ive had a few now reply with Frankly unnecessary replies? Im not everyone's cuppa tea i get that but i said oh no sorry not interested in a bigger girl or i dont find you attractive its bad but its completely fine for a woman to do it ? Not bitter or annoying about it but honestly just curious that's all, maybe ive just spoke to the wrong people haha. Have a good day everyone Do you only turn down fat women? Just an Oddly specific rejection rant. Was the unnecessary reply from a fat woman? The reply from the larger woman was that of a victim, "how dare you say im not good enough because of my size? You're not my type anyway." Im sorry i have my preference its nothing personal. I don't mind a larger lady but everyone has their limitations and preferences. I didn't make the post to belittle larger women, i just simply wanted to hear the opinions of others as to why its okay for a wonen to have preference and im not haha that's all I'm still confused lol So the unnecessary reply from a message you sent was from a larger lady? The way you wrote your op implied you were rejected by someone you approached. Either way people can be dicks no matter their gender. The response you quoted isn't necessarily rude. Entitled maybe but not rude. Just reject and block then you won't get any of that. It's the same for blokes as well. The amount of begging, persuading and pleading gif me to give them a try after I've said I'm not interested in them is embarrassing. She messaged me. And i did say "no sorry not for me" she then proceeded to ask me why...." Oh OK I get it now, sorry
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"Please do not try to defend yourself or expect any intelligent debate from anyone in the forums..... If you’re a man that states you do not like bigger women in the forums, these things will happen..... Men will reply that they love bigger women to get a leg up. Women will call you arrogant and narcissistic.. People will state that they are blocking you.... Now we all have preferences about who we sleep with..... Smoking, drinking, height, etc , etc, But please don’t come to the forums expecting a intellectual debate nor learning anything from your thread...... You will be called a fat shamer and bully very soon...... I really hope this helps... Awwww you never fail to try
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" She messaged me. And i did say "no sorry not for me" she then proceeded to ask me why...." Never ever answer that question. | |||
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"Just thought we are all meant to be adults and should be able to have a mature discussion. Im here to upset or offend anyone. If people get offened by what i say then i apologise that's not my intention. But I thought that's why the forums are here, to engage in discussion and debate?? " It is. Unfortunately it’s impossible not to upset and offend on here whatever you post. Hope some of the replies were helpful though x | |||
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"Please do not try to defend yourself or expect any intelligent debate from anyone in the forums..... If you’re a man that states you do not like bigger women in the forums, these things will happen..... Men will reply that they love bigger women to get a leg up. Women will call you arrogant and narcissistic.. People will state that they are blocking you.... Now we all have preferences about who we sleep with..... Smoking, drinking, height, etc , etc, But please don’t come to the forums expecting a intellectual debate nor learning anything from your thread...... You will be called a fat shamer and bully very soon...... I really hope this helps... " Pretty spot on. Im a hypocrite, I dont like big guys but I wouldn't reject them saying that, I'd just say thanks but you're not my type
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"Please do not try to defend yourself or expect any intelligent debate from anyone in the forums..... If you’re a man that states you do not like bigger women in the forums, these things will happen..... Men will reply that they love bigger women to get a leg up. Women will call you arrogant and narcissistic.. People will state that they are blocking you.... Now we all have preferences about who we sleep with..... Smoking, drinking, height, etc , etc, But please don’t come to the forums expecting a intellectual debate nor learning anything from your thread...... You will be called a fat shamer and bully very soon...... I really hope this helps... Pretty spot on. Im a hypocrite, I dont like big guys but I wouldn't reject them saying that, I'd just say thanks but you're not my type
I'm fine reading profiles stipulating body type, there's one couple I really like but they want a women in fit shape and that simply isn't me. And thats jabsolutely fine. "You’re my hero. Thank you for being honest. It’s refreshing to see someone portray their true self and not what people want them to be on the forums..... | |||
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"Just read my original post and didn't realise i didn't actually meantion that i did at first say " hey sorry you seem lovely but you're not for me im afraid" It was only after that that she continued to ask why she wasnt for me. My apologies for not putting the whole story. Hopefully this makes things more clear" Yeah it probably would have been better to state this game changing crucial information at the start. In my eyes now, she poked the hornets nest and got her answer. Totally fucking different from responding with "nah luv, I don't do fatties, have a great day!" Context is everything, and making things clear from the start really does help. Feels like backtracking though, but that could simply be the cynic in me who thinks you'd have SURELY mentioned it at the very beginning. | |||
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"There are some rather pretty, hot sexy looking bigger ladies out there as there is thin We all look the same in the dark and let's face it They can either do a good job at sucking a cock or they can't
Oh this is not heading in a good direction
Which ever direction it heads in
I'm here for unforgettable sex and not to find who's the best at flipping an omelette "Perhaps if your profile was visible, people could ascertain what you claim, offer and seek | |||
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"Just read my original post and didn't realise i didn't actually meantion that i did at first say " hey sorry you seem lovely but you're not for me im afraid" It was only after that that she continued to ask why she wasnt for me. My apologies for not putting the whole story. Hopefully this makes things more clear Yeah it probably would have been better to state this game changing crucial information at the start. In my eyes now, she poked the hornets nest and got her answer. Totally fucking different from responding with "nah luv, I don't do fatties, have a great day!" Context is everything, and making things clear from the start really does help. Feels like backtracking though, but that could simply be the cynic in me who thinks you'd have SURELY mentioned it at the very beginning. " If i messaged and initiated the conversion why would i then proceed to call her a fatty ?? I thought i mentioned that i was polite with my rejection. | |||
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"There are some rather pretty, hot sexy looking bigger ladies out there as there is thin We all look the same in the dark and let's face it They can either do a good job at sucking a cock or they can't
Oh this is not heading in a good direction
Which ever direction it heads in
I'm here for unforgettable sex and not to find who's the best at flipping an omelette
Perhaps if your profile was visible, people could ascertain what you claim, offer and seek "What I seek is an extraordinary woman that probably doesn't exist. What I offer is me myself and I but not on a full time basis. | |||
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"It's not acceptable for anyone to be nasty but sometimes when someone doesn't take no for an answer bluntness is called for. I think that's what I done. I was respectful by saying "no sorry you're not for me" she then proceeded to ask why and i told her, she then acted like a victim. That's why i made this post" At that point you wish her well, block her, sit back, go , then move on. | |||
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"Just read my original post and didn't realise i didn't actually meantion that i did at first say " hey sorry you seem lovely but you're not for me im afraid" It was only after that that she continued to ask why she wasnt for me. My apologies for not putting the whole story. Hopefully this makes things more clear Yeah it probably would have been better to state this game changing crucial information at the start. In my eyes now, she poked the hornets nest and got her answer. Totally fucking different from responding with "nah luv, I don't do fatties, have a great day!" Context is everything, and making things clear from the start really does help. Feels like backtracking though, but that could simply be the cynic in me who thinks you'd have SURELY mentioned it at the very beginning. If i messaged and initiated the conversion why would i then proceed to call her a fatty ?? I thought i mentioned that i was polite with my rejection. " Maybe I didn't make it clear. I know you didn't initiate contact, but you didn't state ANYWHERE until just now that she asked for the why, it sounded like you gave her the why as a standard response, because you believe honesty is the best policy. That's why it sounded like you humiliated her... get it? (I also believe in that value) | |||
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"There are some rather pretty, hot sexy looking bigger ladies out there as there is thin We all look the same in the dark and let's face it They can either do a good job at sucking a cock or they can't
Oh this is not heading in a good direction
Which ever direction it heads in
I'm here for unforgettable sex and not to find who's the best at flipping an omelette
Perhaps if your profile was visible, people could ascertain what you claim, offer and seek
What I seek is an extraordinary woman that probably doesn't exist.
What I offer is me myself and I but not on a full time basis.
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"Just read my original post and didn't realise i didn't actually meantion that i did at first say " hey sorry you seem lovely but you're not for me im afraid" It was only after that that she continued to ask why she wasnt for me. My apologies for not putting the whole story. Hopefully this makes things more clear Yeah it probably would have been better to state this game changing crucial information at the start. In my eyes now, she poked the hornets nest and got her answer. Totally fucking different from responding with "nah luv, I don't do fatties, have a great day!" Context is everything, and making things clear from the start really does help. Feels like backtracking though, but that could simply be the cynic in me who thinks you'd have SURELY mentioned it at the very beginning. If i messaged and initiated the conversion why would i then proceed to call her a fatty ?? I thought i mentioned that i was polite with my rejection. Maybe I didn't make it clear. I know you didn't initiate contact, but you didn't state ANYWHERE until just now that she asked for the why, it sounded like you gave her the why as a standard response, because you believe honesty is the best policy. That's why it sounded like you humiliated her... get it? (I also believe in that value) " I get that but i did mention it quite a while ago haha. And i would never intentionally humiliate anyone. I know what its like to be humiliated daily. Thank you for your replies and comments i appreciate all your thoughts | |||
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"Not arguing that at all but ive had a few women now reply with "no you're not big enough, i like them much bigger than that" and had one that said "are you serious? You honestly thought id ever be interested in you?" That's what i mean by double standards, when i received those messages i didn't reply with abuse or acting the victim. Like i said it not everyone and that would be stupid to even assume. I think you just need to ignore those people. Are they really worth your time and effort? You like what you like and it sounds like you haven’t been abusive. It’s not just women who do it. I’ve gone from being stunning and beautiful to an entitled fat slag in 10 seconds. Like i said men are just as bad, and ive obviously never experienced that from a guy and i can imagine its awfull sometimes. All im saying is that i try to as respectful as possible but to me honesty is the most important thing. Maybe i should think about how it might make them feel but honesty is always best in my opinion." I feel that a thank you but no thank you is honest enough ... | |||
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"Just read my original post and didn't realise i didn't actually meantion that i did at first say " hey sorry you seem lovely but you're not for me im afraid" It was only after that that she continued to ask why she wasnt for me. My apologies for not putting the whole story. Hopefully this makes things more clear Yeah it probably would have been better to state this game changing crucial information at the start. In my eyes now, she poked the hornets nest and got her answer. Totally fucking different from responding with "nah luv, I don't do fatties, have a great day!" Context is everything, and making things clear from the start really does help. Feels like backtracking though, but that could simply be the cynic in me who thinks you'd have SURELY mentioned it at the very beginning. If i messaged and initiated the conversion why would i then proceed to call her a fatty ?? I thought i mentioned that i was polite with my rejection. Maybe I didn't make it clear. I know you didn't initiate contact, but you didn't state ANYWHERE until just now that she asked for the why, it sounded like you gave her the why as a standard response, because you believe honesty is the best policy. That's why it sounded like you humiliated her... get it? (I also believe in that value) I get that but i did mention it quite a while ago haha. And i would never intentionally humiliate anyone. I know what its like to be humiliated daily. Thank you for your replies and comments i appreciate all your thoughts " I was on the phone, only just got back to it, felt like mere moments. What have you learned? Whole story helps. Details like that go from making you look like an inconsiderate arse to someone who answered a question. It's one of those ain't it, if you don't wanna hear the truth, don't ask the fucking question! (Covering for a surprise birthday party is ok tho ) | |||
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"So from what I can gather the OP turned a woman down for being to fat, but took offence when a woman turned him down for having a cock which is too small? And feels his response was cool in mentioning the woman's size, and can't understand why she was offended, but the other woman was totally out of order for mentioning his size when it came to rejecting him? " He forgot to mention, she asked the question..... "why?" Stupid fucking question that is and will only cause aggro. | |||
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"So from what I can gather the OP turned a woman down for being to fat, but took offence when a woman turned him down for having a cock which is too small? And feels his response was cool in mentioning the woman's size, and can't understand why she was offended, but the other woman was totally out of order for mentioning his size when it came to rejecting him? " Again this is what im saying about double standards.. have you read the whole forum ?? Or have you just read the things that make your argument seem valid ?? Not once have i said what i done is acceptable because of what people have said to me ? | |||
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"Just a quick one, how come when i or other males have said i don't like a bigger las or that i don't find someone attractive im a bad person for having a preference? But women constantly put guy's down ? Not everyone obviously but ive had a few now reply with Frankly unnecessary replies? Im not everyone's cuppa tea i get that but i said oh no sorry not interested in a bigger girl or i dont find you attractive its bad but its completely fine for a woman to do it ? Not bitter or annoying about it but honestly just curious that's all, maybe ive just spoke to the wrong people haha. Have a good day everyone " as long as your polite about it then i see no problems ..women are no better than men and preference is just that if they cant handle rejection then they should not be swinging male or female | |||
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"So from what I can gather the OP turned a woman down for being to fat, but took offence when a woman turned him down for having a cock which is too small? And feels his response was cool in mentioning the woman's size, and can't understand why she was offended, but the other woman was totally out of order for mentioning his size when it came to rejecting him? Again this is what im saying about double standards.. have you read the whole forum ?? Or have you just read the things that make your argument seem valid ?? Not once have i said what i done is acceptable because of what people have said to me ?" But you are the one complaining about someone being upset because of the way you reacted to them whilst also complaining about rhe way a different person responded to you in the past I have read the whole forum thread and, to me, whether this conversation actually took place between you and said female, you seem to have a big chip on your shoulder about big women and are looking to use this thread as a way to shout out about your dislike for very large women. You seem like someone who doesn't cope well with rejection and seem to want to vent that on women of a certain body type for some reason | |||
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"So from what I can gather the OP turned a woman down for being to fat, but took offence when a woman turned him down for having a cock which is too small? And feels his response was cool in mentioning the woman's size, and can't understand why she was offended, but the other woman was totally out of order for mentioning his size when it came to rejecting him? Again this is what im saying about double standards.. have you read the whole forum ?? Or have you just read the things that make your argument seem valid ?? Not once have i said what i done is acceptable because of what people have said to me ? But you are the one complaining about someone being upset because of the way you reacted to them whilst also complaining about rhe way a different person responded to you in the past I have read the whole forum thread and, to me, whether this conversation actually took place between you and said female, you seem to have a big chip on your shoulder about big women and are looking to use this thread as a way to shout out about your dislike for very large women. You seem like someone who doesn't cope well with rejection and seem to want to vent that on women of a certain body type for some reason "I can't see that myself. But forums are open to personal opinion and interpretation for sure | |||
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"So from what I can gather the OP turned a woman down for being to fat, but took offence when a woman turned him down for having a cock which is too small? And feels his response was cool in mentioning the woman's size, and can't understand why she was offended, but the other woman was totally out of order for mentioning his size when it came to rejecting him? Again this is what im saying about double standards.. have you read the whole forum ?? Or have you just read the things that make your argument seem valid ?? Not once have i said what i done is acceptable because of what people have said to me ? But you are the one complaining about someone being upset because of the way you reacted to them whilst also complaining about rhe way a different person responded to you in the past I have read the whole forum thread and, to me, whether this conversation actually took place between you and said female, you seem to have a big chip on your shoulder about big women and are looking to use this thread as a way to shout out about your dislike for very large women. You seem like someone who doesn't cope well with rejection and seem to want to vent that on women of a certain body type for some reason
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"So from what I can gather the OP turned a woman down for being to fat, but took offence when a woman turned him down for having a cock which is too small? And feels his response was cool in mentioning the woman's size, and can't understand why she was offended, but the other woman was totally out of order for mentioning his size when it came to rejecting him? Again this is what im saying about double standards.. have you read the whole forum ?? Or have you just read the things that make your argument seem valid ?? Not once have i said what i done is acceptable because of what people have said to me ? But you are the one complaining about someone being upset because of the way you reacted to them whilst also complaining about rhe way a different person responded to you in the past I have read the whole forum thread and, to me, whether this conversation actually took place between you and said female, you seem to have a big chip on your shoulder about big women and are looking to use this thread as a way to shout out about your dislike for very large women. You seem like someone who doesn't cope well with rejection and seem to want to vent that on women of a certain body type for some reason "Well that's where you are wrong.. i have nothing against bigger women ? They are just not my type.. And in regards to me mentioning what people have said to me isn't me complaining, its just me stating a fact, that women do it all the time, i said she wasn't for me and she continued to ask why, then she acted like the victim. When I've received a message like this i dont then message them back crying and acting like a victim. I can hadle rejection trust me, being non stop rejected for 25 years you get use to it, and as for the chip on my shoulder i would love to know on what shoulder you mean because i can't see it. I didn't post this to cause arguments or hostility as we are adults on an adult site. | |||
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"So from what I can gather the OP turned a woman down for being to fat, but took offence when a woman turned him down for having a cock which is too small? And feels his response was cool in mentioning the woman's size, and can't understand why she was offended, but the other woman was totally out of order for mentioning his size when it came to rejecting him? Again this is what im saying about double standards.. have you read the whole forum ?? Or have you just read the things that make your argument seem valid ?? Not once have i said what i done is acceptable because of what people have said to me ? But you are the one complaining about someone being upset because of the way you reacted to them whilst also complaining about rhe way a different person responded to you in the past I have read the whole forum thread and, to me, whether this conversation actually took place between you and said female, you seem to have a big chip on your shoulder about big women and are looking to use this thread as a way to shout out about your dislike for very large women. You seem like someone who doesn't cope well with rejection and seem to want to vent that on women of a certain body type for some reason
Well that's where you are wrong.. i have nothing against bigger women ? They are just not my type..
And in regards to me mentioning what people have said to me isn't me complaining, its just me stating a fact, that women do it all the time, i said she wasn't for me and she continued to ask why, then she acted like the victim. When I've received a message like this i dont then message them back crying and acting like a victim.
I can hadle rejection trust me, being non stop rejected for 25 years you get use to it, and as for the chip on my shoulder i would love to know on what shoulder you mean because i can't see it. I didn't post this to cause arguments or hostility as we are adults on an adult site."No argument from me OP, just letting you know how you've come across to me in this post. Rejection is part of Fab life for everyone at some point. All the best | |||
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"Just thought we are all meant to be adults and should be able to have a mature discussion. Im here to upset or offend anyone. If people get offened by what i say then i apologise that's not my intention. But I thought that's why the forums are here, to engage in discussion and debate?? " But that's what you are getting so it seems to me it's the fact but not everyone is agreed with you seems to be the problem. This looks like a discussion and debate to means that I don't understand what you mean to be honest. | |||
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"Well i apologies for my response if they came across aggressive or rude, it just seemed as though you came in with a narative and didn't read anything that disproved it. I have nothing against anyone by their size, their skin color, sexual orientation or anything like that. I was just making a point through observations ive had not only within this site but in life in general. Never meant to cause offence or hostility. Ive taken all replies and comments into consideration and will implement them in my message replies." You haven't upset or offended people We have just given our views on your post | |||
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"So from what I can gather the OP turned a woman down for being to fat, but took offence when a woman turned him down for having a cock which is too small? And feels his response was cool in mentioning the woman's size, and can't understand why she was offended, but the other woman was totally out of order for mentioning his size when it came to rejecting him? Again this is what im saying about double standards.. have you read the whole forum ?? Or have you just read the things that make your argument seem valid ?? Not once have i said what i done is acceptable because of what people have said to me ? But you are the one complaining about someone being upset because of the way you reacted to them whilst also complaining about rhe way a different person responded to you in the past I have read the whole forum thread and, to me, whether this conversation actually took place between you and said female, you seem to have a big chip on your shoulder about big women and are looking to use this thread as a way to shout out about your dislike for very large women. You seem like someone who doesn't cope well with rejection and seem to want to vent that on women of a certain body type for some reason
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"What you need to remember OP, is that different people will join the thread. They'll answer the original question and not scroll down and read every reply. That's why it's so important to get the relevant info in the opening post and not leave out vital information like ..... she ASKED why." According to him she asked why.... Which he only seemed to add after he didn't get the response he wanted from his OP | |||
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"What you need to remember OP, is that different people will join the thread. They'll answer the original question and not scroll down and read every reply. That's why it's so important to get the relevant info in the opening post and not leave out vital information like ..... she ASKED why. According to him she asked why.... Which he only seemed to add after he didn't get the response he wanted from his OP" I did think the same thing, and mentioned it further up. That the cynic in me thinks that ain't the kind of info you'd not put in to start with. | |||
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"Please do not try to defend yourself or expect any intelligent debate from anyone in the forums..... If you’re a man that states you do not like bigger women in the forums, these things will happen..... Men will reply that they love bigger women to get a leg up. Women will call you arrogant and narcissistic.. People will state that they are blocking you.... Now we all have preferences about who we sleep with..... Smoking, drinking, height, etc , etc, But please don’t come to the forums expecting a intellectual debate nor learning anything from your thread...... You will be called a fat shamer and bully very soon...... I really hope this helps... Pretty spot on. Im a hypocrite, I dont like big guys but I wouldn't reject them saying that, I'd just say thanks but you're not my type
I'm fine reading profiles stipulating body type, there's one couple I really like but they want a women in fit shape and that simply isn't me. And thats jabsolutely fine.
You’re my hero. Thank you for being honest.
It’s refreshing to see someone portray their true self and not what people want them to be on the forums....."That's very true, there seems to be a fair bit of that | |||
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"What you need to remember OP, is that different people will join the thread. They'll answer the original question and not scroll down and read every reply. That's why it's so important to get the relevant info in the opening post and not leave out vital information like ..... she ASKED why. According to him she asked why.... Which he only seemed to add after he didn't get the response he wanted from his OP" I wasn't looking for any response in my favour. And ask again would you be questioning that if a woman genuinely thought she mentioned something? Or would you be more inclined to just believe she forgot ? Like i don't know anyone on here why would i need to back track and make myself look better for people im never even gonna know their name let alone meet. | |||
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"What you need to remember OP, is that different people will join the thread. They'll answer the original question and not scroll down and read every reply. That's why it's so important to get the relevant info in the opening post and not leave out vital information like ..... she ASKED why. According to him she asked why.... Which he only seemed to add after he didn't get the response he wanted from his OP I did think the same thing, and mentioned it further up. That the cynic in me thinks that ain't the kind of info you'd not put in to start with." The cynic in me questions whether this conversation between the OP and the female he supposedly rejected ever actually took place, or if he just made it up as a way to publically announce that he isn't attracted to very large women on the forum, in an attempt to put them down | |||
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"I think men and woman need to have a bit more tact you can body shame without meaning to I’ve seen it , and it’s easy for some to get a complex especially if they are trying to use fab to help boost confidence, at the same time we all have to try not be so sensitive , only very few of us will tickle everyone’s pickle , peace love and fabbing " Hmmm fab is many things but I'm not sure anyone comes here to boost their confidence. | |||
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"What you need to remember OP, is that different people will join the thread. They'll answer the original question and not scroll down and read every reply. That's why it's so important to get the relevant info in the opening post and not leave out vital information like ..... she ASKED why. According to him she asked why.... Which he only seemed to add after he didn't get the response he wanted from his OP I did think the same thing, and mentioned it further up. That the cynic in me thinks that ain't the kind of info you'd not put in to start with. The cynic in me questions whether this conversation between the OP and the female he supposedly rejected ever actually took place, or if he just made it up as a way to publically announce that he isn't attracted to very large women on the forum, in an attempt to put them down" Hahahahah exactly my point. I guess im not even a single 25 year old male either. In fact im 58 year old married woman, you caught me. Like I said what do i gain from lying?? Honestly what ? | |||
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"Just a quick one, how come when i or other males have said i don't like a bigger las or that i don't find someone attractive im a bad person for having a preference? But women constantly put guy's down ? Not everyone obviously but ive had a few now reply with Frankly unnecessary replies? Im not everyone's cuppa tea i get that but i said oh no sorry not interested in a bigger girl or i dont find you attractive its bad but its completely fine for a woman to do it ? Not bitter or annoying about it but honestly just curious that's all, maybe ive just spoke to the wrong people haha. Have a good day everyone Do you only turn down fat women? Just an Oddly specific rejection rant. Was the unnecessary reply from a fat woman? The reply from the larger woman was that of a victim, "how dare you say im not good enough because of my size? You're not my type anyway." Im sorry i have my preference its nothing personal. I don't mind a larger lady but everyone has their limitations and preferences. I didn't make the post to belittle larger women, i just simply wanted to hear the opinions of others as to why its okay for a wonen to have preference and im not haha that's all" Your comments are confused because you say you’re not attracted to the bigger woman but then you say I don’t mind a larger lady... If I were you I’d make what you like clear in your profile that way if people who aren’t your type message you, you don’t have to respond, just block and delete. | |||
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"Just a quick one, how come when i or other males have said i don't like a bigger las or that i don't find someone attractive im a bad person for having a preference? But women constantly put guy's down ? Not everyone obviously but ive had a few now reply with Frankly unnecessary replies? Im not everyone's cuppa tea i get that but i said oh no sorry not interested in a bigger girl or i dont find you attractive its bad but its completely fine for a woman to do it ? Not bitter or annoying about it but honestly just curious that's all, maybe ive just spoke to the wrong people haha. Have a good day everyone " At least you're getting replies from the messages you've sent  | |||
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"What you need to remember OP, is that different people will join the thread. They'll answer the original question and not scroll down and read every reply. That's why it's so important to get the relevant info in the opening post and not leave out vital information like ..... she ASKED why. According to him she asked why.... Which he only seemed to add after he didn't get the response he wanted from his OP I did think the same thing, and mentioned it further up. That the cynic in me thinks that ain't the kind of info you'd not put in to start with. The cynic in me questions whether this conversation between the OP and the female he supposedly rejected ever actually took place, or if he just made it up as a way to publically announce that he isn't attracted to very large women on the forum, in an attempt to put them down" Seriously?? | |||
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"Just a quick one, how come when i or other males have said i don't like a bigger las or that i don't find someone attractive im a bad person for having a preference? But women constantly put guy's down ? Not everyone obviously but ive had a few now reply with Frankly unnecessary replies? Im not everyone's cuppa tea i get that but i said oh no sorry not interested in a bigger girl or i dont find you attractive its bad but its completely fine for a woman to do it ? Not bitter or annoying about it but honestly just curious that's all, maybe ive just spoke to the wrong people haha. Have a good day everyone Do you only turn down fat women? Just an Oddly specific rejection rant. Was the unnecessary reply from a fat woman? The reply from the larger woman was that of a victim, "how dare you say im not good enough because of my size? You're not my type anyway." Im sorry i have my preference its nothing personal. I don't mind a larger lady but everyone has their limitations and preferences. I didn't make the post to belittle larger women, i just simply wanted to hear the opinions of others as to why its okay for a wonen to have preference and im not haha that's all Your comments are confused because you say you’re not attracted to the bigger woman but then you say I don’t mind a larger lady... If I were you I’d make what you like clear in your profile that way if people who aren’t your type message you, you don’t have to respond, just block and delete. " But why block them ? Is this not a site to also make friends not just meet for sex ? Why block them ? And what i mean by i dont mind a larger lady is im still happy to converse with them, can still be friendly and engage in conversation? Just because im not attracted to them doesn't mean i can't or won't talk or eventually become friends | |||
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"Jesus, give the lad a break, he said no to a woman, then she kept asking why as she didnt like his rejection of her so he told her why, simple as that "Read the thread! It is not a simple as that on he is put some very unpleasant things in along the way including well he didn't make them that big. So no it is not to simple as that at all. | |||
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"Jesus, give the lad a break, he said no to a woman, then she kept asking why as she didnt like his rejection of her so he told her why, simple as that
Read the thread! It is not a simple as that on he is put some very unpleasant things in along the way including well he didn't make them that big.
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"Jesus, give the lad a break, he said no to a woman, then she kept asking why as she didnt like his rejection of her so he told her why, simple as that
Read the thread! It is not a simple as that on he is put some very unpleasant things in along the way including well he didn't make them that big.
So no it is not to simple as that at all."I didn't make them like that ? I said it because like I've said she started to act like the victim. People are more than entitled to live how they want but then dont proceed to act like a victim or blame others for that you've done to yourself | |||
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"Just a quick one, how come when i or other males have said i don't like a bigger las or that i don't find someone attractive im a bad person for having a preference? But women constantly put guy's down ? Not everyone obviously but ive had a few now reply with Frankly unnecessary replies? Im not everyone's cuppa tea i get that but i said oh no sorry not interested in a bigger girl or i dont find you attractive its bad but its completely fine for a woman to do it ? Not bitter or annoying about it but honestly just curious that's all, maybe ive just spoke to the wrong people haha. Have a good day everyone Do you only turn down fat women? Just an Oddly specific rejection rant. Was the unnecessary reply from a fat woman? The reply from the larger woman was that of a victim, "how dare you say im not good enough because of my size? You're not my type anyway." Im sorry i have my preference its nothing personal. I don't mind a larger lady but everyone has their limitations and preferences. I didn't make the post to belittle larger women, i just simply wanted to hear the opinions of others as to why its okay for a wonen to have preference and im not haha that's all Your comments are confused because you say you’re not attracted to the bigger woman but then you say I don’t mind a larger lady... If I were you I’d make what you like clear in your profile that way if people who aren’t your type message you, you don’t have to respond, just block and delete. But why block them ? Is this not a site to also make friends not just meet for sex ? Why block them ? And what i mean by i dont mind a larger lady is im still happy to converse with them, can still be friendly and engage in conversation? Just because im not attracted to them doesn't mean i can't or won't talk or eventually become friends " If you’re not interested in them, why not block them? I’m sure you don’t want to make friends with every single person on here so surely to stop you getting abusive messages it’s best to block those you’re not interested in? So you’d reject a larger lady for sex but you’d have her as a friend? I don’t think this is the site for that... you’re not doing yourself any favours by not using the filters & blocking system on here... | |||
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"Jesus, give the lad a break, he said no to a woman, then she kept asking why as she didnt like his rejection of her so he told her why, simple as that
Read the thread! It is not a simple as that on he is put some very unpleasant things in along the way including well he didn't make them that big.
So no it is not to simple as that at all.
I have read it thank you "Then I am not quite sure why you said it was simple because it really isn't the OP is being very contradictory Also could you show me if you have read the whole thread where it says that she kept asking because I've only seen the post where she asked once so he thought honesty was the best policy. Please don't make out people out people are needlessly giving him a hard time because that is not the case is it. | |||
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"Just a quick one, how come when i or other males have said i don't like a bigger las or that i don't find someone attractive im a bad person for having a preference? But women constantly put guy's down ? Not everyone obviously but ive had a few now reply with Frankly unnecessary replies? Im not everyone's cuppa tea i get that but i said oh no sorry not interested in a bigger girl or i dont find you attractive its bad but its completely fine for a woman to do it ? Not bitter or annoying about it but honestly just curious that's all, maybe ive just spoke to the wrong people haha. Have a good day everyone Do you only turn down fat women? Just an Oddly specific rejection rant. Was the unnecessary reply from a fat woman? The reply from the larger woman was that of a victim, "how dare you say im not good enough because of my size? You're not my type anyway." Im sorry i have my preference its nothing personal. I don't mind a larger lady but everyone has their limitations and preferences. I didn't make the post to belittle larger women, i just simply wanted to hear the opinions of others as to why its okay for a wonen to have preference and im not haha that's all Your comments are confused because you say you’re not attracted to the bigger woman but then you say I don’t mind a larger lady... If I were you I’d make what you like clear in your profile that way if people who aren’t your type message you, you don’t have to respond, just block and delete. But why block them ? Is this not a site to also make friends not just meet for sex ? Why block them ? And what i mean by i dont mind a larger lady is im still happy to converse with them, can still be friendly and engage in conversation? Just because im not attracted to them doesn't mean i can't or won't talk or eventually become friends If you’re not interested in them, why not block them? I’m sure you don’t want to make friends with every single person on here so surely to stop you getting abusive messages it’s best to block those you’re not interested in? So you’d reject a larger lady for sex but you’d have her as a friend? I don’t think this is the site for that... you’re not doing yourself any favours by not using the filters & blocking system on here..." Why isn't this the site for it ? Is it not a form of social media? And like a lot of profiles ive seen on here alot say "only looking for friends" just because there is no attraction doesn't mean we cant talk or be friends?? That just doesn't make sense | |||
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"Jesus, give the lad a break, he said no to a woman, then she kept asking why as she didnt like his rejection of her so he told her why, simple as that
Read the thread! It is not a simple as that on he is put some very unpleasant things in along the way including well he didn't make them that big.
So no it is not to simple as that at all.
I didn't make them like that ? I said it because like I've said she started to act like the victim. People are more than entitled to live how they want but then dont proceed to act like a victim or blame others for that you've done to yourself "I future fella just say “not for me thank you” then block the profile so you don’t get the to-ing and fro/ing asking why, it’s much simpler | |||
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"Not arguing that at all but ive had a few women now reply with "no you're not big enough, i like them much bigger than that" and had one that said "are you serious? You honestly thought id ever be interested in you?" That's what i mean by double standards, when i received those messages i didn't reply with abuse or acting the victim. Like i said it not everyone and that would be stupid to even assume. I think you just need to ignore those people. Are they really worth your time and effort? You like what you like and it sounds like you haven’t been abusive. It’s not just women who do it. I’ve gone from being stunning and beautiful to an entitled fat slag in 10 seconds. " It was that fifth doughnut wasn't it?..  | |||
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"Jesus, give the lad a break, he said no to a woman, then she kept asking why as she didnt like his rejection of her so he told her why, simple as that
Read the thread! It is not a simple as that on he is put some very unpleasant things in along the way including well he didn't make them that big.
So no it is not to simple as that at all.
I didn't make them like that ? I said it because like I've said she started to act like the victim. People are more than entitled to live how they want but then dont proceed to act like a victim or blame others for that you've done to yourself "How did she play the victim because it seems to me you said no to her she asked why and you said it's because you didn't like large women. You didn't say what she said after that, so doesn't sound like someone playing the victim. | |||
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"I think men and woman need to have a bit more tact you can body shame without meaning to I’ve seen it , and it’s easy for some to get a complex especially if they are trying to use fab to help boost confidence, at the same time we all have to try not be so sensitive , only very few of us will tickle everyone’s pickle , peace love and fabbing Hmmm fab is many things but I'm not sure anyone comes here to boost their confidence. " I think many are here for exactly that | |||
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"What you need to remember OP, is that different people will join the thread. They'll answer the original question and not scroll down and read every reply. That's why it's so important to get the relevant info in the opening post and not leave out vital information like ..... she ASKED why. According to him she asked why.... Which he only seemed to add after he didn't get the response he wanted from his OP I did think the same thing, and mentioned it further up. That the cynic in me thinks that ain't the kind of info you'd not put in to start with. The cynic in me questions whether this conversation between the OP and the female he supposedly rejected ever actually took place, or if he just made it up as a way to publically announce that he isn't attracted to very large women on the forum, in an attempt to put them down Seriously?? "100% seriously I could be 100 % wrong but that is my opinion on this post, whether you roll your eyes or not | |||
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"Just a quick one, how come when i or other males have said i don't like a bigger las or that i don't find someone attractive im a bad person for having a preference? But women constantly put guy's down ? Not everyone obviously but ive had a few now reply with Frankly unnecessary replies? Im not everyone's cuppa tea i get that but i said oh no sorry not interested in a bigger girl or i dont find you attractive its bad but its completely fine for a woman to do it ? Not bitter or annoying about it but honestly just curious that's all, maybe ive just spoke to the wrong people haha. Have a good day everyone Do you only turn down fat women? Just an Oddly specific rejection rant. Was the unnecessary reply from a fat woman? The reply from the larger woman was that of a victim, "how dare you say im not good enough because of my size? You're not my type anyway." Im sorry i have my preference its nothing personal. I don't mind a larger lady but everyone has their limitations and preferences. I didn't make the post to belittle larger women, i just simply wanted to hear the opinions of others as to why its okay for a wonen to have preference and im not haha that's all Your comments are confused because you say you’re not attracted to the bigger woman but then you say I don’t mind a larger lady... If I were you I’d make what you like clear in your profile that way if people who aren’t your type message you, you don’t have to respond, just block and delete. But why block them ? Is this not a site to also make friends not just meet for sex ? Why block them ? And what i mean by i dont mind a larger lady is im still happy to converse with them, can still be friendly and engage in conversation? Just because im not attracted to them doesn't mean i can't or won't talk or eventually become friends If you’re not interested in them, why not block them? I’m sure you don’t want to make friends with every single person on here so surely to stop you getting abusive messages it’s best to block those you’re not interested in? So you’d reject a larger lady for sex but you’d have her as a friend? I don’t think this is the site for that... you’re not doing yourself any favours by not using the filters & blocking system on here... Why isn't this the site for it ? Is it not a form of social media? And like a lot of profiles ive seen on here alot say "only looking for friends" just because there is no attraction doesn't mean we cant talk or be friends?? That just doesn't make sense " No. I wouldn’t class Fabswingers as social media. It’s a swingers site... quite different to Facebook. If you think Fabswingers & Facebook are in the same category then I don’t know for you... People can look for what they like on here of course, but it is still a swingers site. In my opinion if one isn’t going to use the features on this site to aid in their success and minimise the negativity they’re not really helping themselves. | |||
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" The reply from the larger woman was that of a victim, "how dare you say im not good enough because of my size? You're not my type anyway." Im sorry i have my preference its nothing personal. I don't mind a larger lady but everyone has their limitations and preferences. I didn't make the post to belittle larger women, i just simply wanted to hear the opinions of others as to why its okay for a wonen to have preference and im not haha that's all" So did you actually read the whole forum post ? | |||
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"Jesus, give the lad a break, he said no to a woman, then she kept asking why as she didnt like his rejection of her so he told her why, simple as that
Read the thread! It is not a simple as that on he is put some very unpleasant things in along the way including well he didn't make them that big.
So no it is not to simple as that at all.
I didn't make them like that ? I said it because like I've said she started to act like the victim. People are more than entitled to live how they want but then dont proceed to act like a victim or blame others for that you've done to yourself
I future fella just say “not for me thank you” then block the profile so you don’t get the to-ing and fro/ing asking why, it’s much simpler "He doesn’t want to block anybody... | |||
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"Jesus, give the lad a break, he said no to a woman, then she kept asking why as she didnt like his rejection of her so he told her why, simple as that
Read the thread! It is not a simple as that on he is put some very unpleasant things in along the way including well he didn't make them that big.
So no it is not to simple as that at all.
I have read it thank you
Then I am not quite sure why you said it was simple because it really isn't the OP is being very contradictory Also could you show me if you have read the whole thread where it says that she kept asking because I've only seen the post where she asked once so he thought honesty was the best policy.
Please don't make out people out people are needlessly giving him a hard time because that is not the case is it."Yes it is the case I’m afraid, he’s even been accused of making it up because he doesn’t like large women, how is that right or fair? It’s not right, you see posts like this from women all the time and no one accuses them of making things up. | |||
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"Jesus, give the lad a break, he said no to a woman, then she kept asking why as she didnt like his rejection of her so he told her why, simple as that
Read the thread! It is not a simple as that on he is put some very unpleasant things in along the way including well he didn't make them that big.
So no it is not to simple as that at all.
I have read it thank you
Then I am not quite sure why you said it was simple because it really isn't the OP is being very contradictory Also could you show me if you have read the whole thread where it says that she kept asking because I've only seen the post where she asked once so he thought honesty was the best policy.
Please don't make out people out people are needlessly giving him a hard time because that is not the case is it.
Yes it is the case I’m afraid, he’s even been accused of making it up because he doesn’t like large women, how is that right or fair? It’s not right, you see posts like this from women all the time and no one accuses them of making things up. "Because his story has changed several times you can't blame people for being sceptical. | |||
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"Jesus, give the lad a break, he said no to a woman, then she kept asking why as she didnt like his rejection of her so he told her why, simple as that
Read the thread! It is not a simple as that on he is put some very unpleasant things in along the way including well he didn't make them that big.
So no it is not to simple as that at all.
I have read it thank you
Then I am not quite sure why you said it was simple because it really isn't the OP is being very contradictory Also could you show me if you have read the whole thread where it says that she kept asking because I've only seen the post where she asked once so he thought honesty was the best policy.
Please don't make out people out people are needlessly giving him a hard time because that is not the case is it.
Yes it is the case I’m afraid, he’s even been accused of making it up because he doesn’t like large women, how is that right or fair? It’s not right, you see posts like this from women all the time and no one accuses them of making things up. "It's fair because from reading the whole thread that is the impression I have been given. Like I said I could be completely wrong | |||
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"Please do not try to defend yourself or expect any intelligent debate from anyone in the forums..... If you’re a man that states you do not like bigger women in the forums, these things will happen..... Men will reply that they love bigger women to get a leg up. Women will call you arrogant and narcissistic.. People will state that they are blocking you.... Now we all have preferences about who we sleep with..... Smoking, drinking, height, etc , etc, But please don’t come to the forums expecting a intellectual debate nor learning anything from your thread...... You will be called a fat shamer and bully very soon...... I really hope this helps... " How right you are | |||
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"Jesus, give the lad a break, he said no to a woman, then she kept asking why as she didnt like his rejection of her so he told her why, simple as that
Read the thread! It is not a simple as that on he is put some very unpleasant things in along the way including well he didn't make them that big.
So no it is not to simple as that at all.
I have read it thank you
Then I am not quite sure why you said it was simple because it really isn't the OP is being very contradictory Also could you show me if you have read the whole thread where it says that she kept asking because I've only seen the post where she asked once so he thought honesty was the best policy.
Please don't make out people out people are needlessly giving him a hard time because that is not the case is it.
Yes it is the case I’m afraid, he’s even been accused of making it up because he doesn’t like large women, how is that right or fair? It’s not right, you see posts like this from women all the time and no one accuses them of making things up.
Because his story has changed several times you can't blame people for being sceptical. "When has my story changed several times ?? I thought i mentioned something which i didn't and when i noticed i posted it? So if you can tell me or show me when and where my story change several times id like to see that | |||
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"Jesus, give the lad a break, he said no to a woman, then she kept asking why as she didnt like his rejection of her so he told her why, simple as that
Read the thread! It is not a simple as that on he is put some very unpleasant things in along the way including well he didn't make them that big.
So no it is not to simple as that at all.
I have read it thank you
Then I am not quite sure why you said it was simple because it really isn't the OP is being very contradictory Also could you show me if you have read the whole thread where it says that she kept asking because I've only seen the post where she asked once so he thought honesty was the best policy.
Please don't make out people out people are needlessly giving him a hard time because that is not the case is it.
Yes it is the case I’m afraid, he’s even been accused of making it up because he doesn’t like large women, how is that right or fair? It’s not right, you see posts like this from women all the time and no one accuses them of making things up.
Because his story has changed several times you can't blame people for being sceptical.
When has my story changed several times ?? I thought i mentioned something which i didn't and when i noticed i posted it? So if you can tell me or show me when and where my story change several times id like to see that "Look OP When you post on the forums, not everyone is going to agree with you or in some cases (mine) even believe you As long as you are happy with how you interacted with the woman you are telling us about then nothing any of us say should matter to you, as you were there, we weren't | |||
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"Jesus, give the lad a break, he said no to a woman, then she kept asking why as she didnt like his rejection of her so he told her why, simple as that
Read the thread! It is not a simple as that on he is put some very unpleasant things in along the way including well he didn't make them that big.
So no it is not to simple as that at all.
I have read it thank you
Then I am not quite sure why you said it was simple because it really isn't the OP is being very contradictory Also could you show me if you have read the whole thread where it says that she kept asking because I've only seen the post where she asked once so he thought honesty was the best policy.
Please don't make out people out people are needlessly giving him a hard time because that is not the case is it.
Yes it is the case I’m afraid, he’s even been accused of making it up because he doesn’t like large women, how is that right or fair? It’s not right, you see posts like this from women all the time and no one accuses them of making things up.
Because his story has changed several times you can't blame people for being sceptical.
When has my story changed several times ?? I thought i mentioned something which i didn't and when i noticed i posted it? So if you can tell me or show me when and where my story change several times id like to see that "You said to start with you rejected her and told her you didn't like larger women, Then later on you said she asked you why you rejected her, then said she kept going on and behaved like a victim but haven't given any evidence of this that is why people are sceptical you then made a comment saying well you didn't make her large. | |||
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"Jesus, give the lad a break, he said no to a woman, then she kept asking why as she didnt like his rejection of her so he told her why, simple as that
Read the thread! It is not a simple as that on he is put some very unpleasant things in along the way including well he didn't make them that big.
So no it is not to simple as that at all.
I have read it thank you
Then I am not quite sure why you said it was simple because it really isn't the OP is being very contradictory Also could you show me if you have read the whole thread where it says that she kept asking because I've only seen the post where she asked once so he thought honesty was the best policy.
Please don't make out people out people are needlessly giving him a hard time because that is not the case is it.
Yes it is the case I’m afraid, he’s even been accused of making it up because he doesn’t like large women, how is that right or fair? It’s not right, you see posts like this from women all the time and no one accuses them of making things up.
Because his story has changed several times you can't blame people for being sceptical.
When has my story changed several times ?? I thought i mentioned something which i didn't and when i noticed i posted it? So if you can tell me or show me when and where my story change several times id like to see that
You said to start with you rejected her and told her you didn't like larger women, Then later on you said she asked you why you rejected her, then said she kept going on and behaved like a victim but haven't given any evidence of this that is why people are sceptical you then made a comment saying well you didn't make her large."If you read up, it wasn't that long ago you will see i have replied in a quoted message that states what her reply was. You can read back through the whole thing if you wish. | |||
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"Jesus, give the lad a break, he said no to a woman, then she kept asking why as she didnt like his rejection of her so he told her why, simple as that
Read the thread! It is not a simple as that on he is put some very unpleasant things in along the way including well he didn't make them that big.
So no it is not to simple as that at all.
I have read it thank you
Then I am not quite sure why you said it was simple because it really isn't the OP is being very contradictory Also could you show me if you have read the whole thread where it says that she kept asking because I've only seen the post where she asked once so he thought honesty was the best policy.
Please don't make out people out people are needlessly giving him a hard time because that is not the case is it.
Yes it is the case I’m afraid, he’s even been accused of making it up because he doesn’t like large women, how is that right or fair? It’s not right, you see posts like this from women all the time and no one accuses them of making things up.
Because his story has changed several times you can't blame people for being sceptical.
When has my story changed several times ?? I thought i mentioned something which i didn't and when i noticed i posted it? So if you can tell me or show me when and where my story change several times id like to see that
Look OP
When you post on the forums, not everyone is going to agree with you or in some cases (mine) even believe you
As long as you are happy with how you interacted with the woman you are telling us about then nothing any of us say should matter to you, as you were there, we weren't "I couldn't care less if you don't believe me or think im in the wrong.. that doesn't affect me in the slightest. But if a woman posted the same as i did would you or anyone else for that matter give the same response ive received?? | |||
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"Jesus, give the lad a break, he said no to a woman, then she kept asking why as she didnt like his rejection of her so he told her why, simple as that
Read the thread! It is not a simple as that on he is put some very unpleasant things in along the way including well he didn't make them that big.
So no it is not to simple as that at all.
I have read it thank you
Then I am not quite sure why you said it was simple because it really isn't the OP is being very contradictory Also could you show me if you have read the whole thread where it says that she kept asking because I've only seen the post where she asked once so he thought honesty was the best policy.
Please don't make out people out people are needlessly giving him a hard time because that is not the case is it.
Yes it is the case I’m afraid, he’s even been accused of making it up because he doesn’t like large women, how is that right or fair? It’s not right, you see posts like this from women all the time and no one accuses them of making things up.
Because his story has changed several times you can't blame people for being sceptical.
When has my story changed several times ?? I thought i mentioned something which i didn't and when i noticed i posted it? So if you can tell me or show me when and where my story change several times id like to see that
Look OP
When you post on the forums, not everyone is going to agree with you or in some cases (mine) even believe you
As long as you are happy with how you interacted with the woman you are telling us about then nothing any of us say should matter to you, as you were there, we weren't
I couldn't care less if you don't believe me or think im in the wrong.. that doesn't affect me in the slightest.
But if a woman posted the same as i did would you or anyone else for that matter give the same response ive received?? "I have absolutely no idea OP, I have only responded based on your post, I can't speculate how other people would respond to another person's post | |||
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"Jesus, give the lad a break, he said no to a woman, then she kept asking why as she didnt like his rejection of her so he told her why, simple as that
Read the thread! It is not a simple as that on he is put some very unpleasant things in along the way including well he didn't make them that big.
So no it is not to simple as that at all.
I have read it thank you
Then I am not quite sure why you said it was simple because it really isn't the OP is being very contradictory Also could you show me if you have read the whole thread where it says that she kept asking because I've only seen the post where she asked once so he thought honesty was the best policy.
Please don't make out people out people are needlessly giving him a hard time because that is not the case is it.
Yes it is the case I’m afraid, he’s even been accused of making it up because he doesn’t like large women, how is that right or fair? It’s not right, you see posts like this from women all the time and no one accuses them of making things up.
Because his story has changed several times you can't blame people for being sceptical.
When has my story changed several times ?? I thought i mentioned something which i didn't and when i noticed i posted it? So if you can tell me or show me when and where my story change several times id like to see that
Look OP
When you post on the forums, not everyone is going to agree with you or in some cases (mine) even believe you
As long as you are happy with how you interacted with the woman you are telling us about then nothing any of us say should matter to you, as you were there, we weren't
I couldn't care less if you don't believe me or think im in the wrong.. that doesn't affect me in the slightest.
But if a woman posted the same as i did would you or anyone else for that matter give the same response ive received?? "Yes I would and have given the same response to a woman. I don't think anybody regardless of sex should point out someone's personal appearance as a reason for rejection. | |||
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"Jesus, give the lad a break, he said no to a woman, then she kept asking why as she didnt like his rejection of her so he told her why, simple as that
Read the thread! It is not a simple as that on he is put some very unpleasant things in along the way including well he didn't make them that big.
So no it is not to simple as that at all.
I have read it thank you
Then I am not quite sure why you said it was simple because it really isn't the OP is being very contradictory Also could you show me if you have read the whole thread where it says that she kept asking because I've only seen the post where she asked once so he thought honesty was the best policy.
Please don't make out people out people are needlessly giving him a hard time because that is not the case is it.
Yes it is the case I’m afraid, he’s even been accused of making it up because he doesn’t like large women, how is that right or fair? It’s not right, you see posts like this from women all the time and no one accuses them of making things up.
Because his story has changed several times you can't blame people for being sceptical.
When has my story changed several times ?? I thought i mentioned something which i didn't and when i noticed i posted it? So if you can tell me or show me when and where my story change several times id like to see that
Look OP
When you post on the forums, not everyone is going to agree with you or in some cases (mine) even believe you
As long as you are happy with how you interacted with the woman you are telling us about then nothing any of us say should matter to you, as you were there, we weren't
I couldn't care less if you don't believe me or think im in the wrong.. that doesn't affect me in the slightest.
But if a woman posted the same as i did would you or anyone else for that matter give the same response ive received??
I have absolutely no idea OP, I have only responded based on your post, I can't speculate how other people would respond to another person's post "No no if they posted the exact same as what i have would you be more inclined to believe them because its a woman? Simple question. | |||
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"Jesus, give the lad a break, he said no to a woman, then she kept asking why as she didnt like his rejection of her so he told her why, simple as that
Read the thread! It is not a simple as that on he is put some very unpleasant things in along the way including well he didn't make them that big.
So no it is not to simple as that at all.
I have read it thank you
Then I am not quite sure why you said it was simple because it really isn't the OP is being very contradictory Also could you show me if you have read the whole thread where it says that she kept asking because I've only seen the post where she asked once so he thought honesty was the best policy.
Please don't make out people out people are needlessly giving him a hard time because that is not the case is it.
Yes it is the case I’m afraid, he’s even been accused of making it up because he doesn’t like large women, how is that right or fair? It’s not right, you see posts like this from women all the time and no one accuses them of making things up.
Because his story has changed several times you can't blame people for being sceptical.
When has my story changed several times ?? I thought i mentioned something which i didn't and when i noticed i posted it? So if you can tell me or show me when and where my story change several times id like to see that
Look OP
When you post on the forums, not everyone is going to agree with you or in some cases (mine) even believe you
As long as you are happy with how you interacted with the woman you are telling us about then nothing any of us say should matter to you, as you were there, we weren't
I couldn't care less if you don't believe me or think im in the wrong.. that doesn't affect me in the slightest.
But if a woman posted the same as i did would you or anyone else for that matter give the same response ive received??
Yes I would and have given the same response to a woman.
I don't think anybody regardless of sex should point out someone's personal appearance as a reason for rejection. "That is the main and most of the time the only reason people have because of rejection?? And again if she asked why would i not tell her the truth ?? | |||
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"Jesus, give the lad a break, he said no to a woman, then she kept asking why as she didnt like his rejection of her so he told her why, simple as that
Read the thread! It is not a simple as that on he is put some very unpleasant things in along the way including well he didn't make them that big.
So no it is not to simple as that at all.
I have read it thank you
Then I am not quite sure why you said it was simple because it really isn't the OP is being very contradictory Also could you show me if you have read the whole thread where it says that she kept asking because I've only seen the post where she asked once so he thought honesty was the best policy.
Please don't make out people out people are needlessly giving him a hard time because that is not the case is it.
Yes it is the case I’m afraid, he’s even been accused of making it up because he doesn’t like large women, how is that right or fair? It’s not right, you see posts like this from women all the time and no one accuses them of making things up.
Because his story has changed several times you can't blame people for being sceptical.
When has my story changed several times ?? I thought i mentioned something which i didn't and when i noticed i posted it? So if you can tell me or show me when and where my story change several times id like to see that
Look OP
When you post on the forums, not everyone is going to agree with you or in some cases (mine) even believe you
As long as you are happy with how you interacted with the woman you are telling us about then nothing any of us say should matter to you, as you were there, we weren't
I couldn't care less if you don't believe me or think im in the wrong.. that doesn't affect me in the slightest.
But if a woman posted the same as i did would you or anyone else for that matter give the same response ive received??
I have absolutely no idea OP, I have only responded based on your post, I can't speculate how other people would respond to another person's post
No no if they posted the exact same as what i have would you be more inclined to believe them because its a woman? Simple question. "What, would I believe that a woman rejected a man and told him because he is too overweight? Then when she was challenged on it, she later changes it to say she only pointed out his size because he asked her for a reason? Whilst she mentioned several times about this guy being large, overweight etc in the post? I would think exactly the same as I do of you. That you invented the whole thing as a way to put down overweight people to make yourself feel better for having been rejected | |||
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"Jesus, give the lad a break, he said no to a woman, then she kept asking why as she didnt like his rejection of her so he told her why, simple as that
Read the thread! It is not a simple as that on he is put some very unpleasant things in along the way including well he didn't make them that big.
So no it is not to simple as that at all.
I have read it thank you
Then I am not quite sure why you said it was simple because it really isn't the OP is being very contradictory Also could you show me if you have read the whole thread where it says that she kept asking because I've only seen the post where she asked once so he thought honesty was the best policy.
Please don't make out people out people are needlessly giving him a hard time because that is not the case is it.
Yes it is the case I’m afraid, he’s even been accused of making it up because he doesn’t like large women, how is that right or fair? It’s not right, you see posts like this from women all the time and no one accuses them of making things up.
Because his story has changed several times you can't blame people for being sceptical.
When has my story changed several times ?? I thought i mentioned something which i didn't and when i noticed i posted it? So if you can tell me or show me when and where my story change several times id like to see that
Look OP
When you post on the forums, not everyone is going to agree with you or in some cases (mine) even believe you
As long as you are happy with how you interacted with the woman you are telling us about then nothing any of us say should matter to you, as you were there, we weren't
I couldn't care less if you don't believe me or think im in the wrong.. that doesn't affect me in the slightest.
But if a woman posted the same as i did would you or anyone else for that matter give the same response ive received??
Yes I would and have given the same response to a woman.
I don't think anybody regardless of sex should point out someone's personal appearance as a reason for rejection.
That is the main and most of the time the only reason people have because of rejection??
And again if she asked why would i not tell her the truth ?? "OK so you've decided to brush past the fact that I would have treated you exactly the same here a woman. I have been asked many times by men why I'm not interested and I just tell them because I'm not and then I block them I don't feel the need to tell someone it's because of the way they look. | |||
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"Jesus, give the lad a break, he said no to a woman, then she kept asking why as she didnt like his rejection of her so he told her why, simple as that
Read the thread! It is not a simple as that on he is put some very unpleasant things in along the way including well he didn't make them that big.
So no it is not to simple as that at all.
I have read it thank you
Then I am not quite sure why you said it was simple because it really isn't the OP is being very contradictory Also could you show me if you have read the whole thread where it says that she kept asking because I've only seen the post where she asked once so he thought honesty was the best policy.
Please don't make out people out people are needlessly giving him a hard time because that is not the case is it.
Yes it is the case I’m afraid, he’s even been accused of making it up because he doesn’t like large women, how is that right or fair? It’s not right, you see posts like this from women all the time and no one accuses them of making things up.
Because his story has changed several times you can't blame people for being sceptical.
When has my story changed several times ?? I thought i mentioned something which i didn't and when i noticed i posted it? So if you can tell me or show me when and where my story change several times id like to see that
Look OP
When you post on the forums, not everyone is going to agree with you or in some cases (mine) even believe you
As long as you are happy with how you interacted with the woman you are telling us about then nothing any of us say should matter to you, as you were there, we weren't
I couldn't care less if you don't believe me or think im in the wrong.. that doesn't affect me in the slightest.
But if a woman posted the same as i did would you or anyone else for that matter give the same response ive received??
I have absolutely no idea OP, I have only responded based on your post, I can't speculate how other people would respond to another person's post
No no if they posted the exact same as what i have would you be more inclined to believe them because its a woman? Simple question.
What, would I believe that a woman rejected a man and told him because he is too overweight? Then when she was challenged on it, she later changes it to say she only pointed out his size because he asked her for a reason? Whilst she mentioned several times about this guy being large, overweight etc in the post? I would think exactly the same as I do of you. That you invented the whole thing as a way to put down overweight people to make yourself feel better for having been rejected "Well i don't believe that for a second. And your assumption of me not liking overweight people couldn't be further from the truth. You know nothing about me and are trying to justify your narrative. I use to be 17 stone when i was 16 i know how it feels to be overweight, my mum is over 20 stone and so is my brother. So just because i don't find someone overweight attractive doesn't mean i dislike them as people or they are less of a person?? | |||
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"Please do not try to defend yourself or expect any intelligent debate from anyone in the forums..... If you’re a man that states you do not like bigger women in the forums, these things will happen..... Men will reply that they love bigger women to get a leg up. Women will call you arrogant and narcissistic.. People will state that they are blocking you.... Now we all have preferences about who we sleep with..... Smoking, drinking, height, etc , etc, But please don’t come to the forums expecting a intellectual debate nor learning anything from your thread...... You will be called a fat shamer and bully very soon...... I really hope this helps... How right you are "Just call me Negrodomus | |||
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"It's not that i only like slim ladies, im not that shallow. It was just a very big lady and wasn't my cup of tea, i thought id rather be honest and say the reason as we are all adults on here and all i got back was abuse and them calling me a bully and out of order, thought as adults honesty is what people want.. " Honesty is best policy Most times in life I'm what people call brutally honest, but that's just me . What's point in sugar coating my thoughts and opinions It's the receivers issue if they take it hard | |||
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"Jesus, give the lad a break, he said no to a woman, then she kept asking why as she didnt like his rejection of her so he told her why, simple as that
Read the thread! It is not a simple as that on he is put some very unpleasant things in along the way including well he didn't make them that big.
So no it is not to simple as that at all.
I have read it thank you
Then I am not quite sure why you said it was simple because it really isn't the OP is being very contradictory Also could you show me if you have read the whole thread where it says that she kept asking because I've only seen the post where she asked once so he thought honesty was the best policy.
Please don't make out people out people are needlessly giving him a hard time because that is not the case is it.
Yes it is the case I’m afraid, he’s even been accused of making it up because he doesn’t like large women, how is that right or fair? It’s not right, you see posts like this from women all the time and no one accuses them of making things up.
Because his story has changed several times you can't blame people for being sceptical.
When has my story changed several times ?? I thought i mentioned something which i didn't and when i noticed i posted it? So if you can tell me or show me when and where my story change several times id like to see that
Look OP
When you post on the forums, not everyone is going to agree with you or in some cases (mine) even believe you
As long as you are happy with how you interacted with the woman you are telling us about then nothing any of us say should matter to you, as you were there, we weren't
I couldn't care less if you don't believe me or think im in the wrong.. that doesn't affect me in the slightest.
But if a woman posted the same as i did would you or anyone else for that matter give the same response ive received??
I have absolutely no idea OP, I have only responded based on your post, I can't speculate how other people would respond to another person's post
No no if they posted the exact same as what i have would you be more inclined to believe them because its a woman? Simple question.
What, would I believe that a woman rejected a man and told him because he is too overweight? Then when she was challenged on it, she later changes it to say she only pointed out his size because he asked her for a reason? Whilst she mentioned several times about this guy being large, overweight etc in the post? I would think exactly the same as I do of you. That you invented the whole thing as a way to put down overweight people to make yourself feel better for having been rejected
Well i don't believe that for a second.
And your assumption of me not liking overweight people couldn't be further from the truth. You know nothing about me and are trying to justify your narrative. I use to be 17 stone when i was 16 i know how it feels to be overweight, my mum is over 20 stone and so is my brother. So just because i don't find someone overweight attractive doesn't mean i dislike them as people or they are less of a person??
"That's fine OP, I'm not asking you to believe me. I just answered a question that you asked. Sorry if I didn't give you the answer you wanted to hear | |||
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"It's not that i only like slim ladies, im not that shallow. It was just a very big lady and wasn't my cup of tea, i thought id rather be honest and say the reason as we are all adults on here and all i got back was abuse and them calling me a bully and out of order, thought as adults honesty is what people want.. Honesty is best policy Most times in life I'm what people call brutally honest, but that's just me . What's point in sugar coating my thoughts and opinions It's the receivers issue if they take it hard " Really! I just don't think it's necessary to be brutally honest unless somebody specifically asks you to be. I just don't see the point in picking apart somebody's personal appearance it just sounds rather nasty and unnecessary. | |||
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"It's not that i only like slim ladies, im not that shallow. It was just a very big lady and wasn't my cup of tea, i thought id rather be honest and say the reason as we are all adults on here and all i got back was abuse and them calling me a bully and out of order, thought as adults honesty is what people want.. Honesty is best policy Most times in life I'm what people call brutally honest, but that's just me . What's point in sugar coating my thoughts and opinions It's the receivers issue if they take it hard Really! I just don't think it's necessary to be brutally honest unless somebody specifically asks you to be. I just don't see the point in picking apart somebody's personal appearance it just sounds rather nasty and unnecessary." THEY ASKED WHY ?????? Im sorry for being honest, if they ask why then surely they should be able to handle whatever is said ? If not then why even ask in the first place? | |||
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"It's not that i only like slim ladies, im not that shallow. It was just a very big lady and wasn't my cup of tea, i thought id rather be honest and say the reason as we are all adults on here and all i got back was abuse and them calling me a bully and out of order, thought as adults honesty is what people want.. Honesty is best policy Most times in life I'm what people call brutally honest, but that's just me . What's point in sugar coating my thoughts and opinions It's the receivers issue if they take it hard Really! I just don't think it's necessary to be brutally honest unless somebody specifically asks you to be. I just don't see the point in picking apart somebody's personal appearance it just sounds rather nasty and unnecessary. THEY ASKED WHY ?????? Im sorry for being honest, if they ask why then surely they should be able to handle whatever is said ? If not then why even ask in the first place? " Ummm not sure why you are shouting as I wasn't replying to you! | |||
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"I simply say something like "Thanks for your interest. I've looked at your profile and photos and I don't think we're suited. Hope you soon find someone on here." No need for rudeness or any actual explanation." Indeed. Often been asked why and tell em why not | |||
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"Just a quick one, how come when i or other males have said i don't like a bigger las or that i don't find someone attractive im a bad person for having a preference? But women constantly put guy's down ? Not everyone obviously but ive had a few now reply with Frankly unnecessary replies? Im not everyone's cuppa tea i get that but i said oh no sorry not interested in a bigger girl or i dont find you attractive its bad but its completely fine for a woman to do it ? Not bitter or annoying about it but honestly just curious that's all, maybe ive just spoke to the wrong people haha. Have a good day everyone " Having read this rather unnecessarily combative thread... I suspect op you've come to the correct conclusion.! | |||
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"You say that like us women never get abuse for telling a guy he isn't our type. " No, Again if you read it i quite clearly say on a number of occasions that i know women get the same to them | |||
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"You say that like us women never get abuse for telling a guy he isn't our type. No, Again if you read it i quite clearly say on a number of occasions that i know women get the same to them" If it happens to men and women, how is it a double standard? | |||
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