"old" like saying someone is "93 years young".
Why are we so caught up on being old/older? Why do people dislike being called mature?
" ooo I'm not mature me, I still act like an 18 year old"  .
Is that a good thing at 55 or even 25? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"And being 64 years young myself I've cocked up the title   "
That's ok, we all know people of your young age aren't good at technology. You did your best dear.
*Answering your OP, I don't understand it. What's wrong with being older? Accepting the age you are? I think we place too much value on youth and its "beauty" in society. |
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"And being 64 years young myself I've cocked up the title
That's ok, we all know people of your young age aren't good at technology. You did your best dear.
*Answering your OP, I don't understand it. What's wrong with being older? Accepting the age you are? I think we place too much value on youth and its "beauty" in society."
I agree and I think we equate beauty with youth (I noted you put it in quotes).
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I was 40 in the first lockdown last year.
As I’ve said to you before, it’s all relative.
I feel old.
I feel robbed of a massive weekend binge drinking in a beach setting with all my mates too but that’s for a different thread.
I think a lot of the feeling is that those care free I’ll do it cause I’m gonna live forever type things don’t seem such good ideas anymore.
It’s a bit like I was all geared up to have another season chasing eggs this season and now I’m thinking I’ll be at least 41 before I get chance to play again... is that sensible? It really fucking hurt in my 30’s so it might be the breaking of me.
I’ve had a real good waffle there.
More tea needed now. |
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"doesnt bother me. As i get older i find sex just gets better and better.  Have fun and dont worry about being mature"
I'm not worried about it. I prefer someone with a mature attitude to life. I don't want to mix with people who behave like perpetual teenagers it's wearing. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Apart from when I was a kid and wished I was grown up in the way that kids do, I've always embraced the age I am and accepted it - I'm no different just because a number clicked round on a meter, aging is a gradual process.
It's like when people say "OMG I'll be 50 next week" - they won't be any different as a person a week after they're 50.
Yes there are times I wish I was younger still, like when my body creaks when I get out of a chair or I have to put responsibilities before something, but they're wistful wishes rather than overriding ones. |
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"Old is usually closer to death I guess
That is undeniably true in most cases. "
One must love a truism.
I believe its about a denial. I'm 93 years young because I wish my youth wasn't gone and I'm going to hold to that by convincing myself I'm still young on the inside. Maybe because old has so many negative things attached in one's mind we don't want to accept it as part of us and define it with less fear and doom.
"Oh my, look at her she looks so old in that jacket"
" God I'm getting old can't do that anymore"
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"I was 40 in the first lockdown last year.
As I’ve said to you before, it’s all relative.
I feel old.
I feel robbed of a massive weekend binge drinking in a beach setting with all my mates too but that’s for a different thread.
I think a lot of the feeling is that those care free I’ll do it cause I’m gonna live forever type things don’t seem such good ideas anymore.
It’s a bit like I was all geared up to have another season chasing eggs this season and now I’m thinking I’ll be at least 41 before I get chance to play again... is that sensible? It really fucking hurt in my 30’s so it might be the breaking of me.
I’ve had a real good waffle there.
More tea needed now."
For a lot of people 40 is a kind of line in the sand and does make you think and feel differently about yourself. I felt like that at 50 then again at 60.
Get that cup of tea, then have a Sanatogen chaser |
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"Apart from when I was a kid and wished I was grown up in the way that kids do, I've always embraced the age I am and accepted it - I'm no different just because a number clicked round on a meter, aging is a gradual process.
It's like when people say "OMG I'll be 50 next week" - they won't be any different as a person a week after they're 50.
Yes there are times I wish I was younger still, like when my body creaks when I get out of a chair or I have to put responsibilities before something, but they're wistful wishes rather than overriding ones."
I don't know if it's happening to you but a lot of people are starting to reassure me that my age doesn't matter.
If I say I'm going to be 65 this year they reply with "age is just a number" or "but you still look good" or as my mum said the other day "but you're a young 64" . Why do people think they need to reassure me? |
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"Old is usually closer to death I guess
That is undeniably true in most cases.
One must love a truism.
I believe its about a denial. I'm 93 years young because I wish my youth wasn't gone and I'm going to hold to that by convincing myself I'm still young on the inside. Maybe because old has so many negative things attached in one's mind we don't want to accept it as part of us and define it with less fear and doom.
"Oh my, look at her she looks so old in that jacket"
" God I'm getting old can't do that anymore"
.. and so on.. "
I think you could be right. My dad who is 94 days he still feels the same inside as he did when he was 25 and gets upset if someone offers him a seat on the bus because it must mean he looks old  |
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"Old is usually closer to death I guess
That is undeniably true in most cases.
One must love a truism.
I believe its about a denial. I'm 93 years young because I wish my youth wasn't gone and I'm going to hold to that by convincing myself I'm still young on the inside. Maybe because old has so many negative things attached in one's mind we don't want to accept it as part of us and define it with less fear and doom.
"Oh my, look at her she looks so old in that jacket"
" God I'm getting old can't do that anymore"
.. and so on..
I think you could be right. My dad who is 94 days he still feels the same inside as he did when he was 25 and gets upset if someone offers him a seat on the bus because it must mean he looks old "
My late grandfather was the same.. never liked showing weakness I that way. |
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Because they don't want to get old. They think youth is good. Until the little shits are getting pissed and puking in your garden... then they should grow up!!  |
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"I was 40 in the first lockdown last year.
As I’ve said to you before, it’s all relative.
I feel old.
I feel robbed of a massive weekend binge drinking in a beach setting with all my mates too but that’s for a different thread.
I think a lot of the feeling is that those care free I’ll do it cause I’m gonna live forever type things don’t seem such good ideas anymore.
It’s a bit like I was all geared up to have another season chasing eggs this season and now I’m thinking I’ll be at least 41 before I get chance to play again... is that sensible? It really fucking hurt in my 30’s so it might be the breaking of me.
I’ve had a real good waffle there.
More tea needed now."
I can relate to this.
I've been sorting out the spare room, and my ice hockey kit is in there. As much as I would in my heart absolutely love to get back on the ice again, my brain tells me that's a really dumb thing to think or hope for. In my twenties taking a big hit or fall was bad enough or puck to a bit where there's no padding was excruciating. A really tough game or tournament and I'd be barely able to move for days. I can't imagine doing that now and trying to do my job the next day or for the next week! The whole sensible thing resonates a lot more now. I think it's having the responsibility of the bills being all mine and if I did get injured I'd only have myself to rely on physically and financially.
Calculated risks these days. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Old is usually closer to death I guess
Having my younger brother killed in a motorbike accident at 29 changed my view on that I am afraid.
I'm sorry to hear that."
Thanks - it was a long time ago but difficult to get over for a long time. He never lived to see his 2 babies grow up so age can be immaterial where it matters. |
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"Old is usually closer to death I guess
Having my younger brother killed in a motorbike accident at 29 changed my view on that I am afraid.
I'm sorry to hear that.
Thanks - it was a long time ago but difficult to get over for a long time. He never lived to see his 2 babies grow up so age can be immaterial where it matters."
Yes, I can see that. |
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