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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Liking your pics being fabbed?
I love to fab pics that are creative, inventive or just gorgeous, but for some reason some people seem to think it is a ‘bad thing’? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Green eyed monster OP. It causes them no harm at all if others like their pics being fabbed but some folk just like to whinge.
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I agree. I don’t have any public pics but I do have a couple of videos and I suppose it is nice to receive likes. I also enjoy liking any nice pics or videos I view and especially some of the more creative ones. I also sometimes message to say nothing more than - I enjoyed with infant your video, thanks. |
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I don't think it's a bad thing, I think it can often be perceived as 'attention seeking' I'm not saying it is, but that is how it can look.
It's strange being a female (I should add, T is posting this, the male) because you have to look confident, that is sexy. guys want that. but if you look TOO confident, you look arrogant and it puts people off etc..
It's very tough, its a fine line for ladies to walk.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Liking your pics being fabbed?
I love to fab pics that are creative, inventive or just gorgeous, but for some reason some people seem to think it is a ‘bad thing’?"
As in you fabbing photos of others you mean? Didn’t know there was an issue if so  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Liking your pics being fabbed?
I love to fab pics that are creative, inventive or just gorgeous, but for some reason some people seem to think it is a ‘bad thing’?"
Which people?
Fuck em!  |
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I think it's more the intent and thought process behind your liking.
There are some that accept them with good grace and appreciate the appreciation.
Others that view it as a sign of popularity and power. It does something to their ego that isn't beneficial to who they are as a person. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Liking your pics being fabbed?
I love to fab pics that are creative, inventive or just gorgeous, but for some reason some people seem to think it is a ‘bad thing’?
As in you fabbing photos of others you mean? Didn’t know there was an issue if so "
I mean that I’ve seen comments in the forum, about pics being fabbed, and people living their pics fabbed is not a good thing apparently.
I think it’s a lovely part of the site where we can show our appreciation of people’s creativity, and have our pics fabbed too  .
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Liking your pics being fabbed?
I love to fab pics that are creative, inventive or just gorgeous, but for some reason some people seem to think it is a ‘bad thing’?
Which people?
Fuck em! "
I like your thinking |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think it's more the intent and thought process behind your liking.
There are some that accept them with good grace and appreciate the appreciation.
Others that view it as a sign of popularity and power. It does something to their ego that isn't beneficial to who they are as a person."
Yes, that makes sense, you make a good point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think a lot of people get too invested in how many fabs they have. Every week there's a thread about same faces on hot photos. The way I see it, fabs just show appreciation of a photo for whatever reason which can only be a good thing right? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Because we're supposed to be self deprecating and not like attention. Fuck that 
I like observing patterns. I don't enjoy the avalanche of messages if I get anywhere near hot pics"
Exactly this.
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Many of the people on the hot list are there every day and probably enjoy the attention but I’m fairness many of them are really good pics. I personally enjoy chatting/looking at ones that are not there as you get better conversations if that makes sense |
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"I don't think it's a bad thing, I think it can often be perceived as 'attention seeking' I'm not saying it is, but that is how it can look.
It's strange being a female (I should add, T is posting this, the male) because you have to look confident, that is sexy. guys want that. but if you look TOO confident, you look arrogant and it puts people off etc..
It's very tough, its a fine line for ladies to walk.
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The whole site is about attention seeking of one kind or another.
We are all here for some kind of interaction/attention.
Fabs are part of that, and that's cool.
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"Liking your pics being fabbed?
I love to fab pics that are creative, inventive or just gorgeous, but for some reason some people seem to think it is a ‘bad thing’?
As in you fabbing photos of others you mean? Didn’t know there was an issue if so
I mean that I’ve seen comments in the forum, about pics being fabbed, and people living their pics fabbed is not a good thing apparently.
I think it’s a lovely part of the site where we can show our appreciation of people’s creativity, and have our pics fabbed too .
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You look at them like art though x
lots of people view others pics as competition and want to be on top of the liked pile |
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We love fabbing pics that stand out - we don’t fab pics because we fancy that person/couple, we do it on the basis the pics got that x-factor...sensual, sexy, erotic, pure sex...something that’s gets the mind racing.
We love people fabbing our pics and don’t see it as anything other than an appreciation of a pic they enjoy.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Liking your pics being fabbed?
I love to fab pics that are creative, inventive or just gorgeous, but for some reason some people seem to think it is a ‘bad thing’?
Which people?
Fuck em!
I like your thinking "
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"I don't think it's a bad thing, I think it can often be perceived as 'attention seeking' I'm not saying it is, but that is how it can look.
It's strange being a female (I should add, T is posting this, the male) because you have to look confident, that is sexy. guys want that. but if you look TOO confident, you look arrogant and it puts people off etc..
It's very tough, its a fine line for ladies to walk.
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It exists in most areas of our life in one way or another. It's boring being told to walk that tightrope. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it’s the beggy types that have created the haters.
Personally it doesn’t bother me, I’ll fab pictures that I like.
I turned my fab pictures off for a really long time just to encourage more messages rather than fabs which worked to an extent.
Then with the forum picture challenge threads I liked showing my appreciation for others and felt it’d be nice to have the appreciation back for mine so I turned them back on.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Liking your pics being fabbed?
I love to fab pics that are creative, inventive or just gorgeous, but for some reason some people seem to think it is a ‘bad thing’?
As in you fabbing photos of others you mean? Didn’t know there was an issue if so
I mean that I’ve seen comments in the forum, about pics being fabbed, and people living their pics fabbed is not a good thing apparently.
I think it’s a lovely part of the site where we can show our appreciation of people’s creativity, and have our pics fabbed too .
You look at them like art though x
lots of people view others pics as competition and want to be on top of the liked pile"
That’s true, I love to fab pics that are pleasing to the eye .
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Liking your pics being fabbed?
I love to fab pics that are creative, inventive or just gorgeous, but for some reason some people seem to think it is a ‘bad thing’?
Which people?
Fuck em!
I like your thinking
I like your pictures! "
And you know I like yours |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I fab pics daily of both men and women if I like the photo. No ulterior motive. If people don't want their pics fabbed can turn off that feature and as fur getting to pg 1 on hot pics as a curvy lady I take it as a compliment but also with a pinch of salt. Its nice to be nice |
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"I think it's more the intent and thought process behind your liking.
There are some that accept them with good grace and appreciate the appreciation.
Others that view it as a sign of popularity and power. It does something to their ego that isn't beneficial to who they are as a person.
Yes, that makes sense, you make a good point. "
I feel all clever now 
Expanding on that a smidgen, there's also that line between appreciating the appreciation, or NEEDING the attention and posting pics you'd actually be quite ashamed of if they got out into the public realm. That worries me. There are a few that I have genuine concerns about as far as their use of fabs as validation. A quick fix for inner turmoil and instead of working on their "who-ness" they'll slap up another photo coz it's easier than addressing their issues. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We love fabbing pics that stand out - we don’t fab pics because we fancy that person/couple, we do it on the basis the pics got that x-factor...sensual, sexy, erotic, pure sex...something that’s gets the mind racing.
We love people fabbing our pics and don’t see it as anything other than an appreciation of a pic they enjoy.
Agreed
K"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't think it's a bad thing, I think it can often be perceived as 'attention seeking' I'm not saying it is, but that is how it can look.
It's strange being a female (I should add, T is posting this, the male) because you have to look confident, that is sexy. guys want that. but if you look TOO confident, you look arrogant and it puts people off etc..
It's very tough, its a fine line for ladies to walk.
It exists in most areas of our life in one way or another. It's boring being told to walk that tightrope."
I agree, it is perceived as attention seeking.
If I come right out and say yes, I like getting fabbed, I appreciate the love, some will understand, but some will say urgh, arrogant or attention seeker.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't think it's a bad thing, I think it can often be perceived as 'attention seeking' I'm not saying it is, but that is how it can look.
It's strange being a female (I should add, T is posting this, the male) because you have to look confident, that is sexy. guys want that. but if you look TOO confident, you look arrogant and it puts people off etc..
It's very tough, its a fine line for ladies to walk.
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
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I think there is no harm in fabbing pictures or videos you like.Also it can be a way of the person that had their pictures fabbed to notice someone that maybe out is out of their age range and maybe likes something in their profile and may decide to take things further. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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There's not a stigma around liking your photos being fabbed but there is one surrounding seeking attention. We all do it - you've done it OP by the very nature of starting this thread, I've done it by replying.
I think there are different levels of attention seeking people find palatable; much like in anything in life you're not going to like the behaviour of everyone you encounter are you?
Perhaps the way in which people seek attention for their photos is more grating? People don't think women should be so self confident? Maybe they don't particularly care for the person and it's an easy thing to pick at. Saying jealousy and forgetting how nuanced emotions can be is a bit of a cop out.
My waffling posts probably cause some to eye roll, much like your seeking Fabs might as well.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think it's more the intent and thought process behind your liking.
There are some that accept them with good grace and appreciate the appreciation.
Others that view it as a sign of popularity and power. It does something to their ego that isn't beneficial to who they are as a person.
Yes, that makes sense, you make a good point.
I feel all clever now
Expanding on that a smidgen, there's also that line between appreciating the appreciation, or NEEDING the attention and posting pics you'd actually be quite ashamed of if they got out into the public realm. That worries me. There are a few that I have genuine concerns about as far as their use of fabs as validation. A quick fix for inner turmoil and instead of working on their "who-ness" they'll slap up another photo coz it's easier than addressing their issues."
Ah well, this is probably a whole other thread , there’s a world of difference between liking the fabs/validation and needing the fabs/validation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't think it's a bad thing, I think it can often be perceived as 'attention seeking' I'm not saying it is, but that is how it can look.
It's strange being a female (I should add, T is posting this, the male) because you have to look confident, that is sexy. guys want that. but if you look TOO confident, you look arrogant and it puts people off etc..
It's very tough, its a fine line for ladies to walk.
It exists in most areas of our life in one way or another. It's boring being told to walk that tightrope.
I agree, it is perceived as attention seeking.
If I come right out and say yes, I like getting fabbed, I appreciate the love, some will understand, but some will say urgh, arrogant or attention seeker.
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Everyone on here who has any pics is an attention seeker.
Attention seeking isn't a bad thing. Ego boosts are nice.
Probably the people who are annoyed by it don't get any attention.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There's not a stigma around liking your photos being fabbed but there is one surrounding seeking attention. We all do it - you've done it OP by the very nature of starting this thread, I've done it by replying.
I think there are different levels of attention seeking people find palatable; much like in anything in life you're not going to like the behaviour of everyone you encounter are you?
Perhaps the way in which people seek attention for their photos is more grating? People don't think women should be so self confident? Maybe they don't particularly care for the person and it's an easy thing to pick at. Saying jealousy and forgetting how nuanced emotions can be is a bit of a cop out.
My waffling posts probably cause some to eye roll, much like your seeking Fabs might as well.
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I will openly say, yes, I like getting fabs, and for me it is attention seeking, but not in an “I need it way”, but because I like it.
This kind of reply is why I started the thread, because I wanted to hear more about the whys? If that makes sense (and you know we all love your waffling )
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"I don't think it's a bad thing, I think it can often be perceived as 'attention seeking' I'm not saying it is, but that is how it can look.
It's strange being a female (I should add, T is posting this, the male) because you have to look confident, that is sexy. guys want that. but if you look TOO confident, you look arrogant and it puts people off etc..
It's very tough, its a fine line for ladies to walk.
It exists in most areas of our life in one way or another. It's boring being told to walk that tightrope.
I agree, it is perceived as attention seeking.
If I come right out and say yes, I like getting fabbed, I appreciate the love, some will understand, but some will say urgh, arrogant or attention seeker.
Everyone on here who has any pics is an attention seeker.
Attention seeking isn't a bad thing. Ego boosts are nice.
Probably the people who are annoyed by it don't get any attention. "
I haven't read through all the comments but I did read this and I think this is the issue.
Outsider hit the nail on the head!
Jo.Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't think it's a bad thing, I think it can often be perceived as 'attention seeking' I'm not saying it is, but that is how it can look.
It's strange being a female (I should add, T is posting this, the male) because you have to look confident, that is sexy. guys want that. but if you look TOO confident, you look arrogant and it puts people off etc..
It's very tough, its a fine line for ladies to walk.
It exists in most areas of our life in one way or another. It's boring being told to walk that tightrope.
I agree, it is perceived as attention seeking.
If I come right out and say yes, I like getting fabbed, I appreciate the love, some will understand, but some will say urgh, arrogant or attention seeker.
Everyone on here who has any pics is an attention seeker.
Attention seeking isn't a bad thing. Ego boosts are nice.
Probably the people who are annoyed by it don't get any attention.
I haven't read through all the comments but I did read this and I think this is the issue.
Outsider hit the nail on the head!
Jo.Xx "
I think you’re both right |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For me, I prefer it if people fab my pics because they like the picture, the effort that went in, the concept etc NOT because it was me that posted it.
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You are the ultimate in creativity and imagination (and piss myself funny too) |
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By *eliWoman
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I think there are different levels of attention seeking people find palatable; much like in anything in life you're not going to like the behaviour of everyone you encounter are you?
Perhaps the way in which people seek attention for their photos is more grating? People don't think women should be so self confident? Maybe they don't particularly care for the person and it's an easy thing to pick at. Saying jealousy and forgetting how nuanced emotions can be is a bit of a cop out.
This kind of reply is why I started the thread, because I wanted to hear more about the whys? If that makes sense (and you know we all love your waffling )
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Yes, I know you wanted to hear about the potential whys, that's why I posted some (see above). I am actually curious about this now so I'm going to ask some of my friends why they dislike it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I think there are different levels of attention seeking people find palatable; much like in anything in life you're not going to like the behaviour of everyone you encounter are you?
Perhaps the way in which people seek attention for their photos is more grating? People don't think women should be so self confident? Maybe they don't particularly care for the person and it's an easy thing to pick at. Saying jealousy and forgetting how nuanced emotions can be is a bit of a cop out.
This kind of reply is why I started the thread, because I wanted to hear more about the whys? If that makes sense (and you know we all love your waffling )
Yes, I know you wanted to hear about the potential whys, that's why I posted some (see above). I am actually curious about this now so I'm going to ask some of my friends why they dislike it. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Never ever come across someone not liking a pic fabbed..."
I don’t mean people not liking their own pics being fabbed, as if you don’t like it you can turn that facility off.
I mean, people disapproving of others liking their pics being fabbed. |
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