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over a year ago
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"How many times is too many times to have been let down by someone before you give up on them x "
Must be mad, letting a fine figure of a lady down such as your self x |
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"How many times is too many times to have been let down by someone before you give up on them x "
It depends....if you've met before then give the benefit of the doubt.
If you were building up to something and they ghost you, hear them out and if its believable then one chance.
Not believable then fuck them right off. |
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As others have said it depends on the circumstances, communication before meeting etc.
My big pet hate is having to do all the chasing, initiating all the conversations.
If all was well pre meet id hear them out as unforseen things can pop up. Twice id be suspect though  |
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By *oxyred41 OP Woman
over a year ago
Scunthorpe |
I have a male friend who I've met a few times we have an amazing time together we plan another meet and then the excuses come his babysitting, his doing a zoom call its raining he forgot! It always seems to be on his terms when we meet its getting a bit lame now |
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"I have a male friend who I've met a few times we have an amazing time together we plan another meet and then the excuses come his babysitting, his doing a zoom call its raining he forgot! It always seems to be on his terms when we meet its getting a bit lame now "
Ladies seemingly have all the choice on hear, its sad to think if a guy is lucky enough to catch someone's eye that fun and games start.
Try not being so available for him maybe. |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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I'd be at the point of no more with that, yes with kids it can be tricky and things can go tits up last minute, but if it's getting to a point where it's his way or no way then I'd be looking at moving on |
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"I have a male friend who I've met a few times we have an amazing time together we plan another meet and then the excuses come his babysitting, his doing a zoom call its raining he forgot! It always seems to be on his terms when we meet its getting a bit lame now "
I'd give him the benefit of the doubt for the babysitting but how could he forget? Raining? Get a bloody brolly! Can I ask who messages who first? My friend once told me the best bit of advice. If he doesn't message he's not that bothered. Stung like hell but she was totally right x |
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"I have a male friend who I've met a few times we have an amazing time together we plan another meet and then the excuses come his babysitting, his doing a zoom call its raining he forgot! It always seems to be on his terms when we meet its getting a bit lame now
I'd give him the benefit of the doubt for the babysitting but how could he forget? Raining? Get a bloody brolly! Can I ask who messages who first? My friend once told me the best bit of advice. If he doesn't message he's not that bothered. Stung like hell but she was totally right x"
You put it better than me, why would you want to meet someone who treats you as a convenience  |
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By *oxyred41 OP Woman
over a year ago
Scunthorpe |
"I have a male friend who I've met a few times we have an amazing time together we plan another meet and then the excuses come his babysitting, his doing a zoom call its raining he forgot! It always seems to be on his terms when we meet its getting a bit lame now
I'd give him the benefit of the doubt for the babysitting but how could he forget? Raining? Get a bloody brolly! Can I ask who messages who first? My friend once told me the best bit of advice. If he doesn't message he's not that bothered. Stung like hell but she was totally right x"
Good bit of advice there!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a male friend who I've met a few times we have an amazing time together we plan another meet and then the excuses come his babysitting, his doing a zoom call its raining he forgot! It always seems to be on his terms when we meet its getting a bit lame now
I'd give him the benefit of the doubt for the babysitting but how could he forget? Raining? Get a bloody brolly! Can I ask who messages who first? My friend once told me the best bit of advice. If he doesn't message he's not that bothered. Stung like hell but she was totally right x
You put it better than me, why would you want to meet someone who treats you as a convenience "
Funny thing when you're into someone though you turn a blind eye. It's not until you meet someone that treats you the way you deserve you realise how much of an ass the person before was! If he is making you feel shit about yourself then you deserve better and walk away xx |
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"I have a male friend who I've met a few times we have an amazing time together we plan another meet and then the excuses come his babysitting, his doing a zoom call its raining he forgot! It always seems to be on his terms when we meet its getting a bit lame now "
Those excuses are lame and sounds like he's married and cheating. Time to say bye and find someone more on your wave length. |
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"I have a male friend who I've met a few times we have an amazing time together we plan another meet and then the excuses come his babysitting, his doing a zoom call its raining he forgot! It always seems to be on his terms when we meet its getting a bit lame now
I'd give him the benefit of the doubt for the babysitting but how could he forget? Raining? Get a bloody brolly! Can I ask who messages who first? My friend once told me the best bit of advice. If he doesn't message he's not that bothered. Stung like hell but she was totally right x
Good bit of advice there!
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Ita a great bit of advice, also if they never ask how you are too and always talk about them. Run a damn mile and don't stop. |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"There's a lot more to the back story too but sometimes he contradicts himself with what he is saying. I definitely feel there's more to his story thrn what he is telling.  "
Putting it out there, you for sure 100 percent know he's single right? Cause that's another Spidey sense that would be kicking in for me |
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By *oxyred41 OP Woman
over a year ago
Scunthorpe |
"There's a lot more to the back story too but sometimes he contradicts himself with what he is saying. I definitely feel there's more to his story thrn what he is telling.
Putting it out there, you for sure 100 percent know he's single right? Cause that's another Spidey sense that would be kicking in for me "
That's the thing he says he is but im not sure! Respect and trust is a big thing for me even tho we are just meeting for fun.
He's too laid back and chilled for my liking
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"There's a lot more to the back story too but sometimes he contradicts himself with what he is saying. I definitely feel there's more to his story thrn what he is telling. "
Always go with your gut even if you don't want to listen to it. If things don't add up it's generally because something isn't right. Not meaning to sound like a total pessimist!!! I could be totally wrong but me thinks you kinda know already lovely. I've been there and it's shit. Big hugs xx |
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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago
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"There's a lot more to the back story too but sometimes he contradicts himself with what he is saying. I definitely feel there's more to his story thrn what he is telling.
Putting it out there, you for sure 100 percent know he's single right? Cause that's another Spidey sense that would be kicking in for me
That's the thing he says he is but im not sure! Respect and trust is a big thing for me even tho we are just meeting for fun.
He's too laid back and chilled for my liking
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to laid back and chilled for your liking ? How do u like them?
Have you developed feelings for him ? As for something casual , ur questioning it , if it gets to point your questioning it , then it time for him to go , as for the excuses what does your gut tell you when he telling you them , |
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On here I give 1 chance only
If he's not as into you as you are into him, are you sure you are his only option, he may have lots of women options he is considering. The other choice is call him on it and be prepared to accept whatever consequence that happens |
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"I have a male friend who I've met a few times we have an amazing time together we plan another meet and then the excuses come his babysitting, his doing a zoom call its raining he forgot! It always seems to be on his terms when we meet its getting a bit lame now "
He forgot???!!! He's not worth a second thought from you. Block all contact with him and move on. You deserve better. |
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"There's a lot more to the back story too but sometimes he contradicts himself with what he is saying. I definitely feel there's more to his story thrn what he is telling.
Putting it out there, you for sure 100 percent know he's single right? Cause that's another Spidey sense that would be kicking in for me
That's the thing he says he is but im not sure! Respect and trust is a big thing for me even tho we are just meeting for fun.
He's too laid back and chilled for my liking
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He's got a long term partner and he's lying to you both.
I know that sounds harsh but what other explanation is there? |
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By *oxyred41 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I have a male friend who I've met a few times we have an amazing time together we plan another meet and then the excuses come his babysitting, his doing a zoom call its raining he forgot! It always seems to be on his terms when we meet its getting a bit lame now
He forgot???!!! He's not worth a second thought from you. Block all contact with him and move on. You deserve better."
Thank you
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By (user no longer on site)
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Depends
If it’s a first meet then if they don’t turn up then they had they chance and will not get a nother
If meet before then I let the odd let down slip though as I know real life things can crop up
But two in a row and it’s you not get a nother chance or if it’s starting to become frequent ie turn up one week let down the next then turn up the next and the next again then let down again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmmm you know it depends what they are going through.. And believe me there is a lot that nobody knows about me, so i imagine others are the same..
sometimes there comes a time where sadly you need to extricate yourself for your own wellbeing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Life does get in the way, though it does sound like life is getting in the way too often.
Sounds like you already made the decision, good for you. If he thinks he can get away with crappy behaviour then it won't change
Good luck lovely. Be strong you're worth more than that
*Wanders off singing Ultrabeat Pretty Green Eyes
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a male friend who I've met a few times we have an amazing time together we plan another meet and then the excuses come his babysitting, his doing a zoom call its raining he forgot! It always seems to be on his terms when we meet its getting a bit lame now
I'd give him the benefit of the doubt for the babysitting but how could he forget? Raining? Get a bloody brolly! Can I ask who messages who first? My friend once told me the best bit of advice. If he doesn't message he's not that bothered. Stung like hell but she was totally right x"
This!!! |
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