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over a year ago
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Is it possible to too nice and gentlemanly on here? Genuine question as I've been often told I seem really nice and a gentleman just prior to be told "not for me"
Possibly they're being too nice themselves or I'm too sensitive!
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"Is it possible to too nice and gentlemanly on here? Genuine question as I've been often told I seem really nice and a gentleman just prior to be told "not for me"
Possibly they're being too nice themselves or I'm too sensitive!
What's your view? "
Yeah but your a doctor, not the same for us mere mortals |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it possible to too nice and gentlemanly on here? Genuine question as I've been often told I seem really nice and a gentleman just prior to be told "not for me"
Possibly they're being too nice themselves or I'm too sensitive!
What's your view? "
No I like that. But it’s probably some ladies are being polite and saying you’re not for me in a nice way x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes... It's an utter turn off when someone slides into my DM talking about how nice they are etc.. It immediately puts me on defensive as its like 'you have to interact with me 'cos I'm so nice blah blah blah'
It reeks of zero personality to me .. I'd rather they were themselves and let me get to know them / draw my own opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes... It's an utter turn off when someone slides into my DM talking about how nice they are etc.. It immediately puts me on defensive as its like 'you have to interact with me 'cos I'm so nice blah blah blah'
It reeks of zero personality to me .. I'd rather they were themselves and let me get to know them / draw my own opinion "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yes... It's an utter turn off when someone slides into my DM talking about how nice they are etc.. It immediately puts me on defensive as its like 'you have to interact with me 'cos I'm so nice blah blah blah'
It reeks of zero personality to me .. I'd rather they were themselves and let me get to know them / draw my own opinion "
It's not a fake persona, I assure you it's just naturally me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes... It's an utter turn off when someone slides into my DM talking about how nice they are etc.. It immediately puts me on defensive as its like 'you have to interact with me 'cos I'm so nice blah blah blah'
It reeks of zero personality to me .. I'd rather they were themselves and let me get to know them / draw my own opinion
It's not a fake persona, I assure you it's just naturally me. "
But that will come out through the conversation naturally  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes... It's an utter turn off when someone slides into my DM talking about how nice they are etc.. It immediately puts me on defensive as its like 'you have to interact with me 'cos I'm so nice blah blah blah'
It reeks of zero personality to me .. I'd rather they were themselves and let me get to know them / draw my own opinion
Savage "
Wow i didn't even put the bit i really wanted to include haha
... I think i have a strong personality so i just don't match with that kind of message.. I like sparring partners who have something about them lol |
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"Is it possible to too nice and gentlemanly on here? Genuine question as I've been often told I seem really nice and a gentleman just prior to be told "not for me"
Possibly they're being too nice themselves or I'm too sensitive!
What's your view? "
I think when people (esp women) are looking for a pure fuck as opposed to something meaningful they prefer an arsehole (1) because there's minimal risk of developing feelings of their own and (2) they can absolve themselves of any responsibility for hurting their feelings of the other party.
If you come across as sensitive, you stay on the shelf IMO. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes... It's an utter turn off when someone slides into my DM talking about how nice they are etc.. It immediately puts me on defensive as its like 'you have to interact with me 'cos I'm so nice blah blah blah'
It reeks of zero personality to me .. I'd rather they were themselves and let me get to know them / draw my own opinion
Savage
Wow i didn't even put the bit i really wanted to include haha
... I think i have a strong personality so i just don't match with that kind of message.. I like sparring partners who have something about them lol"
I can see you don't hold your punches I like that fire in women it's a turn on but it's a balancing act |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is it possible to too nice and gentlemanly on here? Genuine question as I've been often told I seem really nice and a gentleman just prior to be told "not for me"
Possibly they're being too nice themselves or I'm too sensitive!
What's your view?
I think when people (esp women) are looking for a pure fuck as opposed to something meaningful they prefer an arsehole (1) because there's minimal risk of developing feelings of their own and (2) they can absolve themselves of any responsibility for hurting their feelings of the other party.
If you come across as sensitive, you stay on the shelf IMO."
I think you are so right on that. I've posted threads about how I believe women on here prefer the leather clad, cigarette smoking motorcyclist type than romantic dinner types.
Hey ho, I'll plough on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Different women want different things at different times in their life.
I must say I'm likely to get bored faster with someone nice than with someone with a bit of attitude to them, but then it's also a delicate balance of not just being a dick. |
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"Is it possible to too nice and gentlemanly on here? Genuine question as I've been often told I seem really nice and a gentleman just prior to be told "not for me"
Possibly they're being too nice themselves or I'm too sensitive!
What's your view?
I think when people (esp women) are looking for a pure fuck as opposed to something meaningful they prefer an arsehole (1) because there's minimal risk of developing feelings of their own and (2) they can absolve themselves of any responsibility for hurting their feelings of the other party.
If you come across as sensitive, you stay on the shelf IMO.
I think you are so right on that. I've posted threads about how I believe women on here prefer the leather clad, cigarette smoking motorcyclist type than romantic dinner types.
Hey ho, I'll plough on. "
Gotta keep on keepin' on  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it possible to too nice and gentlemanly on here? Genuine question as I've been often told I seem really nice and a gentleman just prior to be told "not for me"
Possibly they're being too nice themselves or I'm too sensitive!
What's your view? "
It's interesting because I think women say that to be polite but if a woman specifically says you're too nice then they're maybe into other types of guys. But different strokes for different folks.
When I asked the question a couple of months ago about flowers on a first meet most women here said no. Then when I was actually on a meet the woman said bringing flowers was lovely, so you have to be yourself and trust that the right person will find you or you find them. Don't try to please everyone be true to yourself and always have good intentions and you'll be just fine mate. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is it possible to too nice and gentlemanly on here? Genuine question as I've been often told I seem really nice and a gentleman just prior to be told "not for me"
Possibly they're being too nice themselves or I'm too sensitive!
What's your view?
I think when people (esp women) are looking for a pure fuck as opposed to something meaningful they prefer an arsehole (1) because there's minimal risk of developing feelings of their own and (2) they can absolve themselves of any responsibility for hurting their feelings of the other party.
If you come across as sensitive, you stay on the shelf IMO.
I think you are so right on that. I've posted threads about how I believe women on here prefer the leather clad, cigarette smoking motorcyclist type than romantic dinner types.
Hey ho, I'll plough on.
Gotta keep on keepin' on "
Six years in, I'm resilient! |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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Ultimately just be your true self, some will like you & some wont. A gentleman can be a very attractive thing, as long as he has a bit of personality about him. I've had a few messages where the sender seems just too 'nice' & overly polite & it doesn't feel genuine. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Too nice, too nasty...neither of those actually matter overly...the one thing you can never be is too genuine...
...and by that I mean being genuinely yourself and sticking to who you are rather than trying to fit what people want and tick their boxes in some way - accept that you won't appeal to *everyone*, but that by being genuinely you the chances are that you will appeal to *someone* |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think you can be to nice. Its boring. Im always wary of people who harp on anout how nice they are. I will be the judge of whether i think your nice or not"
Okay |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just be you, there will always be someone who will pick apart even the good in people. Nice is good, kind is great and being yourself is the best thing you can be |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Just be you, there will always be someone who will pick apart even the good in people. Nice is good, kind is great and being yourself is the best thing you can be "
It appears to be a somewhat solitary road but, thank you and I agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it possible to too nice and gentlemanly on here? Genuine question as I've been often told I seem really nice and a gentleman just prior to be told "not for me"
Possibly they're being too nice themselves or I'm too sensitive!
What's your view? "
Look on the positive side. Your niceness has paid off by getting a polite decline. Thats more than you get for not being nice |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You can be nice but still have a personality, a sense of humour and a thoroughly deviant side to you.
Being nice doesn't mean you're a wet blanket  "
Couldn’t have said it better myself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What’s in a word ? If nice means being bland or submissive then I guess that could be a negative, if it means being considerate and treating people well then I think many would find that attractive, and if they don’t then move on to someone who does. Good luck Doc. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is it possible to too nice and gentlemanly on here? Genuine question as I've been often told I seem really nice and a gentleman just prior to be told "not for me"
Possibly they're being too nice themselves or I'm too sensitive!
What's your view?
Look on the positive side. Your niceness has paid off by getting a polite decline. Thats more than you get for not being nice "
Actually, that so true, thank you |
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