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How do you tell someone No

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Jeez some people on this site are flaming rude.

I always reply to first messages and ask for a pic. I have a type. Type is if you turn me on then your my type lol. Had this fella message me and I said I dont like men with facial hair at all. So he then sent me a pic clean shaven and well he looked very serious, and i replied saying that he still weren't my type and that I hoped he find what he was looking for. Happy swinging. Im always polite and never rude. I hate folk with bad manners. Well the amount of messages he has sent. So had to block him.

Tell me How do you tell people that your not interested and that they are not your type.

Its not the first time I have had men being rude as get of asian men on here and well the names they call me. So I block them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

block is your friend

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

a no is a no sad they dont respect that...report any abuse tho...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would say your approach is spot on don't fear the block button! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"a no is a no sad they dont respect that...report any abuse tho..."

I never thought about reporting them maybe next time i will. As I do block them

Cheers

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"block is your friend

I do block but I do also hate doing it but seem to be blocking men more lately

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I would say your approach is spot on don't fear the block button! Lol"

Cheers thanx for that I didnt think my reply is rude or impolite. I shall not fear the block button

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By *abloBackMan over a year ago

London

I come over all gushing and enthusiastic to the point where they think I'm a bunny boiler

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"a no is a no sad they dont respect that...report any abuse tho...

I never thought about reporting them maybe next time i will. As I do block them

Cheers "

chances if they giving u abuse..they are doing it to others...dont let the cycle go on is my theory.If their not gonna play by established rules..they shouldnt be on the site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"block is your friend

I do block but I do also hate doing it but seem to be blocking men more lately"

dont be sorry to block, there are many people on here, and it saves them sending you another message in a few months after they have forgoten theyve already contacted you, so save them time

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

If they don't take no for an answer I send them my pooey bum picture.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I come over all gushing and enthusiastic to the point where they think I'm a bunny boiler"

Lol are you not then lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"a no is a no sad they dont respect that...report any abuse tho...

I never thought about reporting them maybe next time i will. As I do block them

Cheers

chances if they giving u abuse..they are doing it to others...dont let the cycle go on is my theory.If their not gonna play by established rules..they shouldnt be on the site."

I think im gonna start to report them now

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"block is your friend

I do block but I do also hate doing it but seem to be blocking men more lately

dont be sorry to block, there are many people on here, and it saves them sending you another message in a few months after they have forgoten theyve already contacted you, so save them time"

That is so true as I did have another man who had messaged me and he got shirty too. So if he does it agian report and block

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You doing the right thing being polite and they should respect you for that we can't all appeal to everyone xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If they don't take no for an answer I send them my pooey bum picture."

Oh funkymonkey I dont have one and not sure I could do that to anyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hope its not me, your commenting on Satty??

If it is 'Im sorry'I'll get the hint now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"block is your friend

I do block but I do also hate doing it but seem to be blocking men more lately

dont be sorry to block, there are many people on here, and it saves them sending you another message in a few months after they have forgoten theyve already contacted you, so save them time"

We are the same if you are not interested in meeting blocking saves everyone time. Its not rude its common sense as we see it.

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

"If they don't take no for an answer I send them my pooey bum picture.

Oh funkymonkey I dont have one and not sure I could do that to anyone"

Everyone should have a pooey bum picture. You will realise this in time x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You doing the right thing being polite and they should respect you for that we can't all appeal to everyone xx"

Thank you Glenlivy

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hope its not me, your commenting on Satty??

If it is 'Im sorry'I'll get the hint now."

lol babe if it were you would know about it in a polite manner. You are my friend babe so chill.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"block is your friend

I do block but I do also hate doing it but seem to be blocking men more lately

dont be sorry to block, there are many people on here, and it saves them sending you another message in a few months after they have forgoten theyve already contacted you, so save them time

We are the same if you are not interested in meeting blocking saves everyone time. Its not rude its common sense as we see it.

Cheers KLPL

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If they don't take no for an answer I send them my pooey bum picture.

Oh funkymonkey I dont have one and not sure I could do that to anyone

Everyone should have a pooey bum picture. You will realise this in time x"

I couldn't do but maybe I may get a pic of chucky or freddie to send them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Satty

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Satty

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By *Ryan-Man over a year ago

In Your Bush

Wonder if the block button can get you out of an online marriage?

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Jeez some people on this site are flaming rude.

Tell me How do you tell people that your not interested and that they are not your type.

Its not the first time I have had men being rude as get of asian men on here and well the names they call me. So I block them.

I'd like to think I learn from experiences. If my modus operandi was to reply to all messages but I got grief from sending a "no thanks" I think I'd work out for myself that "no thanks" followed by a block would be the way to go.

But that's just me!

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By *uckscouple2007Couple over a year ago

Bucks

"block is your friend "

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By *aceytopWoman over a year ago

from a town near you

"Wonder if the block button can get you out of an online marriage?"
how could you,we have the caterers and the flowers and the cake all arranged

and iv bought shoes

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By *uckscouple2007Couple over a year ago

Bucks

We are the same if you are not interested in meeting blocking saves everyone time.

Its not rude its common sense as we see it. )"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wonder if the block button can get you out of an online marriage?"

Tut tut

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What surprises me is that people try and mould into what they think you would like them to be.

It really is quite simple, send a pic and see what the response is.

If it is :

no thanks

no reply

message deleted

blocked

then the response is a NO THANKS - end of !

Why try and convince them otherwise. If anything, it will just serve to alienate them further.

If the response is 'hmmm maybe' then just be yourself and see where it leads.

People generally want to see you for what and who you are, not what and who you think they want you to be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Wonder if the block button can get you out of an online marriage?"

why do you not want to marry me now then

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Jeez some people on this site are flaming rude.

Tell me How do you tell people that your not interested and that they are not your type.

Its not the first time I have had men being rude as get of asian men on here and well the names they call me. So I block them.

But that's just me! "

Cool Mis Tress

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Wonder if the block button can get you out of an online marriage?how could you,we have the caterers and the flowers and the cake all arranged

and iv bought shoes"

Lol he is a tart has he propsed to you too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wonder if the block button can get you out of an online marriage?"
ah cyber divorce, what a sad sign of the online times....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What surprises me is that people try and mould into what they think you would like them to be.

It really is quite simple, send a pic and see what the response is.

If it is :

no thanks

no reply

message deleted

blocked

then the response is a NO THANKS - end of !

Why try and convince them otherwise. If anything, it will just serve to alienate them further.

If the response is 'hmmm maybe' then just be yourself and see where it leads.

People generally want to see you for what and who you are, not what and who you think they want you to be."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Meeeeeeeeeeeeeoooooooooooooooooowwwwwwwwwwww!!!!! LOL

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Wonder if the block button can get you out of an online marriage?ah cyber divorce, what a sad sign of the online times.... "

lol such is the times lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Meeeeeeeeeeeeeoooooooooooooooooowwwwwwwwwwww!!!!! LOL

Yyyyyyyyyyyoooooouuuuuuuuuu

what lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry Catlady, Was just perving your profile & pix!!

And thats all I could come out with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Sorry Catlady, Was just perving your profile & pix!!

And thats all I could come out with. "

Lol Babe you perve away until we can meet up for a social first

Crack on as they say lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez some people on this site are flaming rude.

Tell me How do you tell people that your not interested and that they are not your type.

Its not the first time I have had men being rude as get of asian men on here and well the names they call me. So I block them.

Some couples get really stroppy if you happen to say you are not interested in the mrs. Block and ignore is best option plenty more on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Sorry Catlady, Was just perving your profile & pix!!

And thats all I could come out with. "

Thought you wanted to marry me lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Jeez some people on this site are flaming rude.

Tell me How do you tell people that your not interested and that they are not your type.

Its not the first time I have had men being rude as get of asian men on here and well the names they call me. So I block them.

Some couples get really stroppy if you happen to say you are not interested in the mrs. Block and ignore is best option plenty more on here.

very true archangel

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Catlady Blimey so soon, we havent met yet!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez some people on this site are flaming rude.

Tell me How do you tell people that your not interested and that they are not your type.

Its not the first time I have had men being rude as get of asian men on here and well the names they call me. So I block them.

Some couples get really stroppy if you happen to say you are not interested in the mrs. Block and ignore is best option plenty more on here.

very true archangel

I have had some right replies! Some make me laugh others I think what planet are you on! The trick is to take it and most things with a pinch of salt. Keybord commandos are pussys in real life so laugh it off, block and leave them to it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

some guys just cant take no for an answer...once i said no thanks, happy swinging and got a message back saying i should be grateful for what i got seeing as i was a fat ugly munter LOL

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lindalush by name & by nature lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Catlady Blimey so soon, we havent met yet!! "

Lol well what can i say apart frrom

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

yes ok, we will have to arrange a meet pretty soon lol. As ure pictures are getting me rather aroused lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Jeez some people on this site are flaming rude.

Tell me How do you tell people that your not interested and that they are not your type.

Its not the first time I have had men being rude as get of asian men on here and well the names they call me. So I block them.

Some couples get really stroppy if you happen to say you are not interested in the mrs. Block and ignore is best option plenty more on here.

very true archangel

true archangel loving the bloack and report button today

its my new best friend lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

its easy.

say no thanks, then block,

they cant send you any more messages.. end of..

if you have a type and they dont fit that, then you may as well block straight away..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"some guys just cant take no for an answer...once i said no thanks, happy swinging and got a message back saying i should be grateful for what i got seeing as i was a fat ugly munter LOL

Do you know what Lush you are totally gorg and fabalious so ignore them the twats. Make the report and block buttins your new best friends lol

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By *orkscrew CurlsWoman over a year ago

Loughborough Leics

"Jeez some people on this site are flaming rude.

Tell me How do you tell people that your not interested and that they are not your type.

Its not the first time I have had men being rude as get of asian men on here and well the names they call me. So I block them.

You do go to a lot of trouble! If they don't have a face pic or send one I'm less likely to reply fullstop. If they do meet my preferences but I don't fancy them my standard response is 'thanks, but no thanks, Take Care, Curls'

No explanation to be questioned, if they come back shirty with me they get blocked, simple!

Hope that helps, Curls x

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

"some guys just cant take no for an answer...once i said no thanks, happy swinging and got a message back saying i should be grateful for what i got seeing as i was a fat ugly munter LOL

"
ya nar years ago ive bit at replys like that ,now we think phew what an escape

remember we had 1 like this then months later we where at a big social were talking away this fella says would we fancy going back to his hotel (we already knew who he was) should seen his face when the mrs says "sorry but you dont do fat fuckers" priceless

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Lindalush by name & by nature lol."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mmmmmmmmmm Catlady & Lindalush mmmmm mmmmmm

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"its easy.

say no thanks, then block,

they cant send you any more messages.. end of..

if you have a type and they dont fit that, then you may as well block straight away.."

If we had more filters to choose from then I could block them straight away

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Mmmmmmmmmm Catlady & Lindalush mmmmm mmmmmm

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is goin for a cold shower lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Jeez some people on this site are flaming rude.

Tell me How do you tell people that your not interested and that they are not your type.

Its not the first time I have had men being rude as get of asian men on here and well the names they call me. So I block them.

No explanation to be questioned, if they come back shirty with me they get blocked, simple!

Hope that helps, Curls x"

Cool Curls

I have to reply to first message as I dont like to be rude babe

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"some guys just cant take no for an answer...once i said no thanks, happy swinging and got a message back saying i should be grateful for what i got seeing as i was a fat ugly munter LOL

ya nar years ago ive bit at replys like that ,now we think phew what an escape

LOL

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"some guys just cant take no for an answer...once i said no thanks, happy swinging and got a message back saying i should be grateful for what i got seeing as i was a fat ugly munter LOL

ya nar years ago ive bit at replys like that ,now we think phew what an escape

(thumbshould of taken a pic lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Mmmmmmmmmm Catlady & Lindalush mmmmm mmmmmm

Shower time and make sure its a cold one lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im not meaning to be rude, copy cut & pasting captions, im not just the clever or quick to do it lol.

Thinks back to all the Mastercard Priceless ads & pics ive seen. lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wishess Catlady & LindaLush could join me!! X's Ladies.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Wishess Catlady & LindaLush could join me!! X's Ladies."

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By *issBehavingxxWoman over a year ago

Glasgow

If they match what I'm looking for, but they're just not my type, I just send a sorry, I'm not interested, brief mail. If they ask "why" ... I ignore..... If they mail yet again.... I block

If they dont match what I'm looking for according to my profile, I just delete and block. They either haven't read it, or chose to ignore it, so I don't waste my time replying to those.

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By *emmefataleWoman over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Jeez some people on this site are flaming rude.

Tell me How do you tell people that your not interested and that they are not your type.

Its not the first time I have had men being rude as get of asian men on here and well the names they call me. So I block them.

"
I dont understand how people have difficulty saying no in a clear concise manner, you will always get the triers, but in my experience when i say no, people realize i mean no, end of story, you will always get the petulant buggers but that just amuses me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez some people on this site are flaming rude.

Tell me How do you tell people that your not interested and that they are not your type.

Its not the first time I have had men being rude as get of asian men on here and well the names they call me. So I block them.

I dont understand how people have difficulty saying no in a clear concise manner, you will always get the triers, but in my experience when i say no, people realize i mean no, end of story, you will always get the petulant buggers but that just amuses me

can i play with ur tits.can I? can I? please.Can I?

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By *emmefataleWoman over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Jeez some people on this site are flaming rude.

Tell me How do you tell people that your not interested and that they are not your type.

Its not the first time I have had men being rude as get of asian men on here and well the names they call me. So I block them.

can i play with ur tits.can I? can I? please.Can I?"
only if you wear a Spongebob t shirt

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If they match what I'm looking for, but they're just not my type, I just send a sorry, I'm not interested, brief mail. If they ask "why" ... I ignore..... If they mail yet again.... I block

If they dont match what I'm looking for according to my profile, I just delete and block. They either haven't read it, or chose to ignore it, so I don't waste my time replying to those."

Thats a good thing to do babe xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Jeez some people on this site are flaming rude.

Tell me How do you tell people that your not interested and that they are not your type.

Its not the first time I have had men being rude as get of asian men on here and well the names they call me. So I block them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Jeez some people on this site are flaming rude.

Tell me How do you tell people that your not interested and that they are not your type.

Its not the first time I have had men being rude as get of asian men on here and well the names they call me. So I block them.

can i play with ur tits.can I? can I? please.Can I?"

Lol Keen your are keen

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By *irtydanMan over a year ago

Blackpool

tell em to fuck off

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i had a guy whom i said no thanks,he kept asking why and i said he wasnt my type but im sure he would have fun with others etc He then messaged me and told me he read my verifications,and that the guys i had met where no where near as handsome as he was and i had no taste haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if someone is rude to me i never reply i just block them.

a reply fans the flames of rage and the next message back is usually worse.

you dont need that shit so block.

some get the message and some dont.

why we are human after all.

just block.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"tell em to fuck off "

I cant be that rude dirty dan