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By *lla_east OP Woman
over a year ago
Manchester |
But cock pics on message number 1.
Really?
I know this is fab, and I expect to see exactly that plus more whilst browsing the site. But there’s something about having it forced upon me in message that just turns me right off.
This comes to mind because I deliberately avoid profiles in the specific area I work in (for obvious reasons), and I’ve recently received the cock of a regular customer in my inbox.
He clearly doesn’t know it’s me, and it’ll be a simple block and go, but I’m not going to be able to look him in the eye now when next in work.
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over a year ago
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"But cock pics on message number 1.
Really?
I know this is fab, and I expect to see exactly that plus more whilst browsing the site. But there’s something about having it forced upon me in message that just turns me right off.
This comes to mind because I deliberately avoid profiles in the specific area I work in (for obvious reasons), and I’ve recently received the cock of a regular customer in my inbox.
He clearly doesn’t know it’s me, and it’ll be a simple block and go, but I’m not going to be able to look him in the eye now when next in work.
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What about pussy or tits in a first message can that be equally off putting ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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 Look him in the eye.
I find cock pics in a first message the same as flashing on a dark path. It's deliberate and unsolicited. And vile.
If I had a gaping fanny pic on my profile I'd be less offended as like attracts like. |
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By *lla_east OP Woman
over a year ago
Manchester |
"But cock pics on message number 1.
Really?
I know this is fab, and I expect to see exactly that plus more whilst browsing the site. But there’s something about having it forced upon me in message that just turns me right off.
This comes to mind because I deliberately avoid profiles in the specific area I work in (for obvious reasons), and I’ve recently received the cock of a regular customer in my inbox.
He clearly doesn’t know it’s me, and it’ll be a simple block and go, but I’m not going to be able to look him in the eye now when next in work.
What about pussy or tits in a first message can that be equally off putting ? "
If it’s attached to a face of someone I have to see regularly then I’d say probably yes. That hasn’t happened (yet). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But cock pics on message number 1.
Really?
I know this is fab, and I expect to see exactly that plus more whilst browsing the site. But there’s something about having it forced upon me in message that just turns me right off.
This comes to mind because I deliberately avoid profiles in the specific area I work in (for obvious reasons), and I’ve recently received the cock of a regular customer in my inbox.
He clearly doesn’t know it’s me, and it’ll be a simple block and go, but I’m not going to be able to look him in the eye now when next in work.
What about pussy or tits in a first message can that be equally off putting ?
If it’s attached to a face of someone I have to see regularly then I’d say probably yes. That hasn’t happened (yet). "
Happened to me a few times this week, same person, same pic in succession and I'm like what at least send a different 1  |
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By *lla_east OP Woman
over a year ago
Manchester |
" Look him in the eye.
I find cock pics in a first message the same as flashing on a dark path. It's deliberate and unsolicited. And vile.
If I had a gaping fanny pic on my profile I'd be less offended as like attracts like. "
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Cock photos in general are a total turn off - I don’t respond to men with cock pics on pfp, in public folders or in first message. Surprising how many men can’t read and send them anyway. I’m hoping they can’t read as to read don’t send and send them makes me question what they’d do uninvited in person. |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria |
"But cock pics on message number 1.
Really?
I know this is fab, and I expect to see exactly that plus more whilst browsing the site. But there’s something about having it forced upon me in message that just turns me right off.
This comes to mind because I deliberately avoid profiles in the specific area I work in (for obvious reasons), and I’ve recently received the cock of a regular customer in my inbox.
He clearly doesn’t know it’s me, and it’ll be a simple block and go, but I’m not going to be able to look him in the eye now when next in work.
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Curious to your job now, do we need to block him also? 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cock photos in general are a total turn off - I don’t respond to men with cock pics on pfp, in public folders or in first message. Surprising how many men can’t read and send them anyway. I’m hoping they can’t read as to read don’t send and send them makes me question what they’d do uninvited in person. "
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"But cock pics on message number 1.
Really?
I know this is fab, and I expect to see exactly that plus more whilst browsing the site. But there’s something about having it forced upon me in message that just turns me right off.
This comes to mind because I deliberately avoid profiles in the specific area I work in (for obvious reasons), and I’ve recently received the cock of a regular customer in my inbox.
He clearly doesn’t know it’s me, and it’ll be a simple block and go, but I’m not going to be able to look him in the eye now when next in work.
What about pussy or tits in a first message can that be equally off putting ? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cock pics are a big no from me also. I find unsolicited cock pics quite an aggressive gesture. I'm assuming a bloke wouldn't flash his genitals at someone he didn't know in real life unless he wanted to intimidate them, so why do it here? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think unsolicited is the big point here. If you haven't asked for them, people shouldn't send them. When our filters allowed single guys, we asked for face and cock pic in first message. Amazing the number of guys who couldn't get that right when the vast number send them to everyone who didn't ask! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t have them in my public even, I only send them if I am asked to (and I fancy the other person!) or the conversation has developed to that stage where I think it’s ok....I feel kind of the same about the pussy spreading pics I’m not sure why they are required? Leave some thing to the imagination |
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"But cock pics on message number 1.
Really?
I know this is fab, and I expect to see exactly that plus more whilst browsing the site. But there’s something about having it forced upon me in message that just turns me right off.
This comes to mind because I deliberately avoid profiles in the specific area I work in (for obvious reasons), and I’ve recently received the cock of a regular customer in my inbox.
He clearly doesn’t know it’s me, and it’ll be a simple block and go, but I’m not going to be able to look him in the eye now when next in work.
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I hear you even when it states on the profile no cock pic in the first msg! I wouldn't dream of sending nudes in the first msg x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is definitely a modern thing, that has come about with tech. Back in the day at least you could spot them a mile off wearing there trench coat in 27 degree heat.
How the world has changed, what ever happened to decorum? |
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By *lla_east OP Woman
over a year ago
Manchester |
"I think unsolicited is the big point here. If you haven't asked for them, people shouldn't send them. When our filters allowed single guys, we asked for face and cock pic in first message. Amazing the number of guys who couldn't get that right when the vast number send them to everyone who didn't ask! "
Exactly that. I have a mere 3 sentences on my profile and even they get ignored 90% of the time. |
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When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
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By *lla_east OP Woman
over a year ago
Manchester |
"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
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Nice passive-aggressive remark there. I won’t apologise for not being a swinging veteran
FYI is a difference between being “fragile” and being selective. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
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I think the difference is, I love seeing a penis, god I love them, but when I choose to, not when someone else does!
It’s about consent, I hate opening a message to be confronted with a dick pic, and I personally ignore profiles that have them on there.
It’s down to personal choice rather than fragility. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
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Swingers just fuck anything that offers, that's why certain people get offended when someone says no. Swingers have a lot to answer for.
They should get down the library and look in the dictionary for what 'consent' means. |
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"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
Nice passive-aggressive remark there. I won’t apologise for not being a swinging veteran
FYI is a difference between being “fragile” and being selective. "
Why not just block and you choose who to respond to. That way you Ben be very selective?  |
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"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
Nice passive-aggressive remark there. I won’t apologise for not being a swinging veteran
FYI is a difference between being “fragile” and being selective. "
I've been attending swingers clubs most of my adult life so I have to laugh at being called "not a proper swinger" because I don't like random people's willy pictures in my inbox  . |
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"But cock pics on message number 1.
Really?
I know this is fab, and I expect to see exactly that plus more whilst browsing the site. But there’s something about having it forced upon me in message that just turns me right off.
This comes to mind because I deliberately avoid profiles in the specific area I work in (for obvious reasons), and I’ve recently received the cock of a regular customer in my inbox.
He clearly doesn’t know it’s me, and it’ll be a simple block and go, but I’m not going to be able to look him in the eye now when next in work.
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I love your comment "I’ve recently received the cock of a regular customer in my inbox" it sounds like an "are you being served" 70's type innuendo |
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By *lla_east OP Woman
over a year ago
Manchester |
"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
Nice passive-aggressive remark there. I won’t apologise for not being a swinging veteran
FYI is a difference between being “fragile” and being selective.
Why not just block and you choose who to respond to. That way you Ben be very selective? "
If you bothered to read the entirety of my original post you’d see that’s exactly what I did.
What I’m doing now is having a discussion with fellow people of Fab about their personal preferences, without trying to undermine others based of their years (or lack thereof) of experience |
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"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
Nice passive-aggressive remark there. I won’t apologise for not being a swinging veteran
FYI is a difference between being “fragile” and being selective.
I've been attending swingers clubs most of my adult life so I have to laugh at being called "not a proper swinger" because I don't like random people's willy pictures in my inbox . "
That sounds like a euphemism |
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"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
Nice passive-aggressive remark there. I won’t apologise for not being a swinging veteran
FYI is a difference between being “fragile” and being selective.
Why not just block and you choose who to respond to. That way you Ben be very selective?
If you bothered to read the entirety of my original post you’d see that’s exactly what I did.
What I’m doing now is having a discussion with fellow people of Fab about their personal preferences, without trying to undermine others based of their years (or lack thereof) of experience "
Well I was taking part in that discussion, but as my opinion doesn’t suit your narrative, you are trying to pick a fight.
Have a great day, I’m out. |
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"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
Swingers just fuck anything that offers, that's why certain people get offended when someone says no. Swingers have a lot to answer for.
They should get down the library and look in the dictionary for what 'consent' means. "
Haha the "genuine swinger" debate... |
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"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
Swingers just fuck anything that offers, that's why certain people get offended when someone says no. Swingers have a lot to answer for.
They should get down the library and look in the dictionary for what 'consent' means. "
Are you saying swingers are r”pists? Wow |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But cock pics on message number 1.
Really?
I know this is fab, and I expect to see exactly that plus more whilst browsing the site. But there’s something about having it forced upon me in message that just turns me right off.
This comes to mind because I deliberately avoid profiles in the specific area I work in (for obvious reasons), and I’ve recently received the cock of a regular customer in my inbox.
He clearly doesn’t know it’s me, and it’ll be a simple block and go, but I’m not going to be able to look him in the eye now when next in work.
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I had to check how long you’d been on the site when I read this
It’s Fab users doing what Fab users do |
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By *lla_east OP Woman
over a year ago
Manchester |
"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
Nice passive-aggressive remark there. I won’t apologise for not being a swinging veteran
FYI is a difference between being “fragile” and being selective.
Why not just block and you choose who to respond to. That way you Ben be very selective?
If you bothered to read the entirety of my original post you’d see that’s exactly what I did.
What I’m doing now is having a discussion with fellow people of Fab about their personal preferences, without trying to undermine others based of their years (or lack thereof) of experience
Well I was taking part in that discussion, but as my opinion doesn’t suit your narrative, you are trying to pick a fight.
Have a great day, I’m out."
When you return please don’t forget to bring your copy of “Swinging for Dummies” to throw at all of us novices  |
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"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
Swingers just fuck anything that offers, that's why certain people get offended when someone says no. Swingers have a lot to answer for.
They should get down the library and look in the dictionary for what 'consent' means.
Haha the "genuine swinger" debate..."
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"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
Nice passive-aggressive remark there. I won’t apologise for not being a swinging veteran
FYI is a difference between being “fragile” and being selective.
Why not just block and you choose who to respond to. That way you Ben be very selective?
If you bothered to read the entirety of my original post you’d see that’s exactly what I did.
What I’m doing now is having a discussion with fellow people of Fab about their personal preferences, without trying to undermine others based of their years (or lack thereof) of experience "
Whereas if you had searched “cock pics” via the forum search facility you would see numerous threads discussing this point (and they are the ones with “cock pics” in the title, there are numerous from the last week on the same subject that have different titles). It is (in my experience after being off and on this site for 10+ yrs) an almost daily occurrence and to be honest, a little “oh great a man bashing thread again”.
The site provides message filters, you are the one that chooses the messages you get.
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
Swingers just fuck anything that offers, that's why certain people get offended when someone says no. Swingers have a lot to answer for.
They should get down the library and look in the dictionary for what 'consent' means.
Are you saying swingers are r”pists? Wow"
Obviously not. The thread is about cock pics in an inbox and consent being ignored when sending them.
Put the pineapple down.  |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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Have to admit not keen in getting them in first messages but ut happens but just as wasy to delete and forget about them. If they are attached to a decent profile and message they do on occasion get a reply. If they are attached to a faf message etc they get blocked.
I don't really give it a lot of thought honestly as some people will send them. I've had similar pics of womens vags sent to me as on occasion and I just delete them as well. There's no point in getting upset about it on here. If it did upset me I'd just block incoming messages.
Op that will be a bit strange seeing that guy in real life but try and just act normal if you can. At least then he won't know you are on here also. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I would display whatever photo I wanted to because it’s my profile however, if I saw a profile that said ‘no boobs’ I wouldn’t then send a message with my boobs on display. It’s quite simple really |
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By *lla_east OP Woman
over a year ago
Manchester |
"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
Nice passive-aggressive remark there. I won’t apologise for not being a swinging veteran
FYI is a difference between being “fragile” and being selective.
Why not just block and you choose who to respond to. That way you Ben be very selective?
If you bothered to read the entirety of my original post you’d see that’s exactly what I did.
What I’m doing now is having a discussion with fellow people of Fab about their personal preferences, without trying to undermine others based of their years (or lack thereof) of experience
Whereas if you had searched “cock pics” via the forum search facility you would see numerous threads discussing this point (and they are the ones with “cock pics” in the title, there are numerous from the last week on the same subject that have different titles). It is (in my experience after being off and on this site for 10+ yrs) an almost daily occurrence and to be honest, a little “oh great a man bashing thread again”.
The site provides message filters, you are the one that chooses the messages you get.
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”
Rumi"
Credit where credit’s due, I’d never performed a ‘forum search’ before. Genuine thanks for that little bit of intel
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"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
Nice passive-aggressive remark there. I won’t apologise for not being a swinging veteran
FYI is a difference between being “fragile” and being selective.
Why not just block and you choose who to respond to. That way you Ben be very selective?
If you bothered to read the entirety of my original post you’d see that’s exactly what I did.
What I’m doing now is having a discussion with fellow people of Fab about their personal preferences, without trying to undermine others based of their years (or lack thereof) of experience
Well I was taking part in that discussion, but as my opinion doesn’t suit your narrative, you are trying to pick a fight.
Have a great day, I’m out.
When you return please don’t forget to bring your copy of “Swinging for Dummies” to throw at all of us novices "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But cock pics on message number 1.
Really?
I know this is fab, and I expect to see exactly that plus more whilst browsing the site. But there’s something about having it forced upon me in message that just turns me right off.
This comes to mind because I deliberately avoid profiles in the specific area I work in (for obvious reasons), and I’ve recently received the cock of a regular customer in my inbox.
He clearly doesn’t know it’s me, and it’ll be a simple block and go, but I’m not going to be able to look him in the eye now when next in work.
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So, I'm confused
I get the bit about no cock pics
What I don't get is how you avoid profiles 'in the specific area you work for'
Do you mean that if someone messages you that you might be interested in, your message back is 'what do you do for a job?' |
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"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
Nice passive-aggressive remark there. I won’t apologise for not being a swinging veteran
FYI is a difference between being “fragile” and being selective. "
Hahaha exactly this!!! I really don’t want to see random cocks just because their owner thinks I should and tbh the fact that you think it’s due to fragility is a bit  |
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"But cock pics on message number 1.
Really?
I know this is fab, and I expect to see exactly that plus more whilst browsing the site. But there’s something about having it forced upon me in message that just turns me right off.
This comes to mind because I deliberately avoid profiles in the specific area I work in (for obvious reasons), and I’ve recently received the cock of a regular customer in my inbox.
He clearly doesn’t know it’s me, and it’ll be a simple block and go, but I’m not going to be able to look him in the eye now when next in work.
So, I'm confused
I get the bit about no cock pics
What I don't get is how you avoid profiles 'in the specific area you work for'
Do you mean that if someone messages you that you might be interested in, your message back is 'what do you do for a job?' "
They meant geographical area where they work |
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"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
Swingers just fuck anything that offers, that's why certain people get offended when someone says no. Swingers have a lot to answer for.
They should get down the library and look in the dictionary for what 'consent' means.
Are you saying swingers are r”pists? Wow"
If someone specifically states no cock photos and someone insists on sending one regardless of the wants of the recipient then that would lead me to believe that they are equally as selfish, demanding and well forceful in person. You were the person that decided swingers don’t care who forces what on anyone. |
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"But cock pics on message number 1.
Really?
I know this is fab, and I expect to see exactly that plus more whilst browsing the site. But there’s something about having it forced upon me in message that just turns me right off.
This comes to mind because I deliberately avoid profiles in the specific area I work in (for obvious reasons), and I’ve recently received the cock of a regular customer in my inbox.
He clearly doesn’t know it’s me, and it’ll be a simple block and go, but I’m not going to be able to look him in the eye now when next in work.
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Just a thought here... what if this guy actually knows that it is you? Maybe he’s trying to tell you he’s available!!
Just a thought... you do look pretty darn hot though!! |
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over a year ago
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"But cock pics on message number 1.
Really?
I know this is fab, and I expect to see exactly that plus more whilst browsing the site. But there’s something about having it forced upon me in message that just turns me right off.
This comes to mind because I deliberately avoid profiles in the specific area I work in (for obvious reasons), and I’ve recently received the cock of a regular customer in my inbox.
He clearly doesn’t know it’s me, and it’ll be a simple block and go, but I’m not going to be able to look him in the eye now when next in work.
So, I'm confused
I get the bit about no cock pics
What I don't get is how you avoid profiles 'in the specific area you work for'
Do you mean that if someone messages you that you might be interested in, your message back is 'what do you do for a job?'
They meant geographical area where they work "
Ah, yes
That makes more sense 
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over a year ago
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"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
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Probably those that want to be romanced! If you're looking to be fucked a cock is the thing you're interested in! |
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over a year ago
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I just delete and move on when sent cock pics. It happens, it won't stop no matter what you write on your profile.
But I'm not getting any atm as I blocked males anyway.
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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That's the chance men take when they send pics with a first message.
Face or cock, they have to be prepared to be sending them to someone they know.
I've been sent face and cock pics by men I know really well. A quick no thank you block from me and forget about them. My reason for not sending my face pic first to local men is because I don't trust them to keep it quiet if they know me. |
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By *lla_east OP Woman
over a year ago
Manchester |
"But cock pics on message number 1.
Really?
I know this is fab, and I expect to see exactly that plus more whilst browsing the site. But there’s something about having it forced upon me in message that just turns me right off.
This comes to mind because I deliberately avoid profiles in the specific area I work in (for obvious reasons), and I’ve recently received the cock of a regular customer in my inbox.
He clearly doesn’t know it’s me, and it’ll be a simple block and go, but I’m not going to be able to look him in the eye now when next in work.
So, I'm confused
I get the bit about no cock pics
What I don't get is how you avoid profiles 'in the specific area you work for'
Do you mean that if someone messages you that you might be interested in, your message back is 'what do you do for a job?' "
I’m referring to geographical area. Not sector. |
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"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
Probably those that want to be romanced! If you're looking to be fucked a cock is the thing you're interested in!"
Yeah I guess if all you want is a human sex toy nothing else matters. I however you’re looking for someone who has the ability to hold a conversation it’s more than just a cock. Nothing to do with romance just standards my dear. |
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"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
Probably those that want to be romanced! If you're looking to be fucked a cock is the thing you're interested in!
Yeah I guess if all you want is a human sex toy nothing else matters. I however you’re looking for someone who has the ability to hold a conversation it’s more than just a cock. Nothing to do with romance just standards my dear. "
Well that was unnecessarily rude! |
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"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
Probably those that want to be romanced! If you're looking to be fucked a cock is the thing you're interested in!
Yeah I guess if all you want is a human sex toy nothing else matters. I however you’re looking for someone who has the ability to hold a conversation it’s more than just a cock. Nothing to do with romance just standards my dear.
Well that was unnecessarily rude!"
Can never understand why people can’t respect other’s opinions without being rude. |
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"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
Probably those that want to be romanced! If you're looking to be fucked a cock is the thing you're interested in!
Yeah I guess if all you want is a human sex toy nothing else matters. I however you’re looking for someone who has the ability to hold a conversation it’s more than just a cock. Nothing to do with romance just standards my dear.
Well that was unnecessarily rude!"
You suggested those that don’t think cock is all that mattered want romancing - I was pointing out my opinion as someone who has to see more than a cock before I’ll fuck then. Not rude in the slightest just care about more than just what’s between their legs. |
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"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
Probably those that want to be romanced! If you're looking to be fucked a cock is the thing you're interested in!
Yeah I guess if all you want is a human sex toy nothing else matters. I however you’re looking for someone who has the ability to hold a conversation it’s more than just a cock. Nothing to do with romance just standards my dear.
Well that was unnecessarily rude! Can never understand why people can’t respect other’s opinions without being rude."
Wasn’t rude just pointing out my opinion as someone who cares about more than just cock. Swinging is about friendship too in my opinion. |
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"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
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Now that is hilarious! Swingers, probably more than vanillas, understand the concept and application of consent. It's not about fragility. If anyone makes it clear they have a preference for what they see or receive, others should respect that. Winks, fAbs, dick pics, shit messages, friend requests. All things that people have a view on receiving, that they're entitled to have respected. And that's the crux here, respect. Ignoring someone's preference doesn't make them fragile, it makes you disrespectful. That's the beauty of block/delete. It's says no thanks politely rather than spelling out why. |
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"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
Probably those that want to be romanced! If you're looking to be fucked a cock is the thing you're interested in!
Yeah I guess if all you want is a human sex toy nothing else matters. I however you’re looking for someone who has the ability to hold a conversation it’s more than just a cock. Nothing to do with romance just standards my dear.
Well that was unnecessarily rude!
You suggested those that don’t think cock is all that mattered want romancing - I was pointing out my opinion as someone who has to see more than a cock before I’ll fuck then. Not rude in the slightest just care about more than just what’s between their legs. "
And that's the beauty of swinging. Lots of different preferences, and everyone is entitle to theirs. As long as legal and not causing distress to anyone, we should all crack on with what we like . I'd say the term criteria is more accurate than standards in this case. Standards implies a hierarchy, whereas you just have different requirements than us. |
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"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
Probably those that want to be romanced! If you're looking to be fucked a cock is the thing you're interested in!
Yeah I guess if all you want is a human sex toy nothing else matters. I however you’re looking for someone who has the ability to hold a conversation it’s more than just a cock. Nothing to do with romance just standards my dear.
Well that was unnecessarily rude!
You suggested those that don’t think cock is all that mattered want romancing - I was pointing out my opinion as someone who has to see more than a cock before I’ll fuck then. Not rude in the slightest just care about more than just what’s between their legs.
And that's the beauty of swinging. Lots of different preferences, and everyone is entitle to theirs. As long as legal and not causing distress to anyone, we should all crack on with what we like . I'd say the term criteria is more accurate than standards in this case. Standards implies a hierarchy, whereas you just have different requirements than us. "
Ahh yes see your point .... I meant different standards not higher ones but can see how it was interpreted as such. |
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"But cock pics on message number 1.
Really?
I know this is fab, and I expect to see exactly that plus more whilst browsing the site. But there’s something about having it forced upon me in message that just turns me right off.
This comes to mind because I deliberately avoid profiles in the specific area I work in (for obvious reasons), and I’ve recently received the cock of a regular customer in my inbox.
He clearly doesn’t know it’s me, and it’ll be a simple block and go, but I’m not going to be able to look him in the eye now when next in work.
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Think you were right with your prediction op... It has divided the group.
Now what's the score going to be in this afternoons footie? |
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"But cock pics on message number 1.
Really?
I know this is fab, and I expect to see exactly that plus more whilst browsing the site. But there’s something about having it forced upon me in message that just turns me right off.
This comes to mind because I deliberately avoid profiles in the specific area I work in (for obvious reasons), and I’ve recently received the cock of a regular customer in my inbox.
He clearly doesn’t know it’s me, and it’ll be a simple block and go, but I’m not going to be able to look him in the eye now when next in work.
What about pussy or tits in a first message can that be equally off putting ? "
To us, yes definitely!!!!  |
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By *lla_east OP Woman
over a year ago
Manchester |
"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
Now that is hilarious! Swingers, probably more than vanillas, understand the concept and application of consent. It's not about fragility. If anyone makes it clear they have a preference for what they see or receive, others should respect that. Winks, fAbs, dick pics, shit messages, friend requests. All things that people have a view on receiving, that they're entitled to have respected. And that's the crux here, respect. Ignoring someone's preference doesn't make them fragile, it makes you disrespectful. That's the beauty of block/delete. It's says no thanks politely rather than spelling out why."
Expertly put.
And while I’m back, just like to add that one would hope that respect would be applied in the forums too. |
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By *lla_east OP Woman
over a year ago
Manchester |
"Does the message not say there is an attachment? ,if.so.just delete the whole message"
Right....
So that’s assuming that the picture is necessarily of dick? I’ve received plenty of mails with PG pictures attached. |
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"When fabswingers was a swingers site, this was never a problem. Now fabswingers is some kind of sex dating site and now many people who don’t identify as swingers are using it.
The people who aren’t swingers seem to be a bit more fragile about seeing a penis.
Now that is hilarious! Swingers, probably more than vanillas, understand the concept and application of consent. It's not about fragility. If anyone makes it clear they have a preference for what they see or receive, others should respect that. Winks, fAbs, dick pics, shit messages, friend requests. All things that people have a view on receiving, that they're entitled to have respected. And that's the crux here, respect. Ignoring someone's preference doesn't make them fragile, it makes you disrespectful. That's the beauty of block/delete. It's says no thanks politely rather than spelling out why."
Agree with you, some people are disrespectful. But being offended by a wink would suggest that they are indeed fragile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think unsolicited is the big point here. If you haven't asked for them, people shouldn't send them. When our filters allowed single guys, we asked for face and cock pic in first message. Amazing the number of guys who couldn't get that right when the vast number send them to everyone who didn't ask!
Exactly that. I have a mere 3 sentences on my profile and even they get ignored 90% of the time. "
Seems 99.9% of fabs can’t read..... and r those that do try the “I was trying my luck” regardless of profile stating please don’t try your luck it won’t work”
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By (user no longer on site)
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I just can't be bothered with dick pics. I mean come on lads, put some effort into it & show a bit of imagination. I get a lot in their opening message. I deliberately don't reply. It specifically says in my profile that im not interested in them, which means you haven't taken the time to read it either |
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By *lla_east OP Woman
over a year ago
Manchester |
"I was told today that only woman of my age prefer not to have cock pics in the first message, young women won't reply unless a picture of a decent cock is attached. "
If I can put myself in the bracket of “young women” at 29, I’d say whoever told you that is misinformed |
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By *rs BxxWoman
over a year ago
Chippenham, Wiltshire. |
"I was told today that only woman of my age prefer not to have cock pics in the first message, young women won't reply unless a picture of a decent cock is attached.
If I can put myself in the bracket of “young women” at 29, I’d say whoever told you that is misinformed "
He was trying to justify himself, didn't believe him for a second |
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