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Tell people on the forums why it is when couples become popular and both parties are equally respected that should a speration occur but a profile remains the male of the couple becomes instantly outcast.
He was the same man yesterday with many friends and popular in messages. Why today is he now ostricised, outcast, not worth the time to say hello to.
People are shallow, very shallow with alarmingly short memories.
Curious... What's the reasons to it.
Enlighten me. (JJ) xx
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"Are you this man? "
Jane jetson.
Not exactly a man's name is it.
Profile is going through transition and I haven't even fully left the scene yet and already the friends we made over the years are hitting the block button.
Certainly opened my eyes and I'm a little shocked at how quickly the door is closing tbh. x |
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I'm not sure that's the case at all, but I have no idea as the closest I've come to that is my ex and myself splitting.
He left the site to concentrate on his marriage when lockdown part 1 revealed the full truth (yes, you read that right) and I remained.
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"Are you this man?
Jane jetson.
Not exactly a man's name is it.
Profile is going through transition and I haven't even fully left the scene yet and already the friends we made over the years are hitting the block button.
Certainly opened my eyes and I'm a little shocked at how quickly the door is closing tbh. x"
The profile appears to be a man only.
When couples split people often take sides because it's difficult to stay friends with both.
Swingers often only 'care' when there's a chance of a fuck.
If they are closing the door be glad you are rid of them. X |
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"Are you this man?
Jane jetson.
Not exactly a man's name is it.
Profile is going through transition and I haven't even fully left the scene yet and already the friends we made over the years are hitting the block button.
Certainly opened my eyes and I'm a little shocked at how quickly the door is closing tbh. x"
Could it come down to things you can't see perhaps?
There are so many variables and I think it will likely come down to the individual relationship.
I've had relationships that have ended and friends have said things like "I know you're sad, but he wasn't good for your you deserved so much more, I was only pleasant to him for your sake" and suchlike. |
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"Tell people on the forums why it is when couples become popular and both parties are equally respected that should a speration occur but a profile remains the male of the couple becomes instantly outcast.
He was the same man yesterday with many friends and popular in messages. Why today is he now ostricised, outcast, not worth the time to say hello to.
People are shallow, very shallow with alarmingly short memories.
Curious... What's the reasons to it.
Enlighten me. (JJ) xx
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The man hasn't got boobies ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because they only had to flatter your ego to get your wife?
Hopefully this isn’t a reflection of real life and your real friends will be more objective and supportive.
Lou x "
Imo this says it all |
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Also, a split can be awkward on friends too, they might be wary of saying the wrong thing or upsetting.
They may be thinking the right thing to do is give some space.
As I say, there are loads of invisible reasons, not all of them bad. |
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All the friendships I have with couples there is usually one member of the couple I am more friendly with than the other. Sometimes it is the man sometimes it is the Sian and on occasion it’s fairly balanced. On the swinging scene I think the attraction factor can make that even more stark. As Princess Peach said sometimes people are friendly with the partner just because they are with you but don’t have any loyalty to them. |
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"This is quite confusing if it really is Jane that's posting"
Yes, it is Jane posting.
The profile will be a single man by the end of the weekend, the reasons behind the stepping away are a touch too personal but for the next day or 2 I will be on forums and saying goodbyes.
The shocking part is the friends we made are closing doors the second they are aware I'm stepping down from swinging without a 2nd though to Mr.J who's been just as much involved as I have over the last 5 years. |
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"This is quite confusing if it really is Jane that's posting
Yes, it is Jane posting.
The profile will be a single man by the end of the weekend, the reasons behind the stepping away are a touch too personal but for the next day or 2 I will be on forums and saying goodbyes.
The shocking part is the friends we made are closing doors the second they are aware I'm stepping down from swinging without a 2nd though to Mr.J who's been just as much involved as I have over the last 5 years. "
Why is he sticking around |
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"This is quite confusing if it really is Jane that's posting
Yes, it is Jane posting.
The profile will be a single man by the end of the weekend, the reasons behind the stepping away are a touch too personal but for the next day or 2 I will be on forums and saying goodbyes.
The shocking part is the friends we made are closing doors the second they are aware I'm stepping down from swinging without a 2nd though to Mr.J who's been just as much involved as I have over the last 5 years. "
They were using you. Pussy sells on here. It's a bit sick really.
Hope you are both ok and have real friends that don't treat you this way.  |
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"This is quite confusing if it really is Jane that's posting
Yes, it is Jane posting.
The profile will be a single man by the end of the weekend, the reasons behind the stepping away are a touch too personal but for the next day or 2 I will be on forums and saying goodbyes.
The shocking part is the friends we made are closing doors the second they are aware I'm stepping down from swinging without a 2nd though to Mr.J who's been just as much involved as I have over the last 5 years. "
I had women that would speak to me, be seemingly supportive of me.... why? To keep me sweet so that could bang my fella.
Once we split I've heard fuck all from them other than "I don't wanna get involved, it's nothing to do with me"
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"This is quite confusing if it really is Jane that's posting
Yes, it is Jane posting.
The profile will be a single man by the end of the weekend, the reasons behind the stepping away are a touch too personal but for the next day or 2 I will be on forums and saying goodbyes.
The shocking part is the friends we made are closing doors the second they are aware I'm stepping down from swinging without a 2nd though to Mr.J who's been just as much involved as I have over the last 5 years.
Why is he sticking around "
Why not.
That choice is his.
The last 5 years have gathered a lot of experiences.
I gather at some point he'll also step away but for the time being he decided to remain.
The fallout to men from women stepping back is the topic here |
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"This is quite confusing if it really is Jane that's posting
Yes, it is Jane posting.
The profile will be a single man by the end of the weekend, the reasons behind the stepping away are a touch too personal but for the next day or 2 I will be on forums and saying goodbyes.
The shocking part is the friends we made are closing doors the second they are aware I'm stepping down from swinging without a 2nd though to Mr.J who's been just as much involved as I have over the last 5 years.
I had women that would speak to me, be seemingly supportive of me.... why? To keep me sweet so that could bang my fella.
Once we split I've heard fuck all from them other than "I don't wanna get involved, it's nothing to do with me"
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Even in Vanilla life friends can be the same. When i split with my ex friends we had fucked me off and kept in touch with her because the kids were friendly. Sometimes you are better off without these cunts in your life. Funny part is a few of them split and then when i bumped in to them tried to be social again. I just did the same and ignored the twats back in return. Karma is a bitch some times and it bites their arse hard in return |
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Something else to think about, possibly they think it's a bit sneaky keeping the same profile instead of starting a new single man one. Maybe they believe any veris should be credited as a single and see it as a bit deceptive having couples veris on a singles profile? Almost like "pass go collect £200" instead of making your way round the monopoly board perhaps. |
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"Something else to think about, possibly they think it's a bit sneaky keeping the same profile instead of starting a new single man one. Maybe they believe any veris should be credited as a single and see it as a bit deceptive having couples veris on a singles profile? Almost like "pass go collect £200" instead of making your way round the monopoly board perhaps. "
Fair point. I don't think profiles should be able to be changed, new ones should be started if people couple up or separate. It makes an absolute joke of the verification system. |
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"Tell people on the forums why it is when couples become popular and both parties are equally respected that should a speration occur but a profile remains the male of the couple becomes instantly outcast.
He was the same man yesterday with many friends and popular in messages. Why today is he now ostricised, outcast, not worth the time to say hello to.
People are shallow, very shallow with alarmingly short memories.
Curious... What's the reasons to it.
Enlighten me. (JJ) xx
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Because you have nothing to offer but cock... |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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Unfortunately it's quite common place that people will do this as sometimes they are just really only interested in one part of the couple in particular.
I've had it many years ago when I was with an ex on here, where we had a social, all seemed to get on but they were ultimately really only interested in me and tolerated him so to speak as a means to an end and it came to light later on |
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"Unfortunately it's quite common place that people will do this as sometimes they are just really only interested in one part of the couple in particular.
I've had it many years ago when I was with an ex on here, where we had a social, all seemed to get on but they were ultimately really only interested in me and tolerated him so to speak as a means to an end and it came to light later on "
This is the case with most single guys who want to meet m/f couples. They will say and do anything to get at the female half, even pretending to get on with the man. Thats why we only want to meet cpls or bi fems. |
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"Another nother thing ...
Couples are little "threat" to a relationship in comparison to single people, especially single people who may need a shoulder or boobies to comfort them and cry on."
Agree. Had a mates gf try to hit on me when in my twenties. She wanted a shoulder to cry on but blurted out that she always fancied me more. Ended said convo and told my best mate as i was not losing my mate who i had known since nursery school for a woman. Some people have no morals at all and less on a swinging site where getting pussy is concerned! |
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Also, depending on how long it's been since you last communicated or whatever, they could feel a little betrayed.
I know what goes on in people's lives isn't anyones business but, hear me out.
I've met couples before now and they've split not long after or something has come to light that they weren't as stable as they seemed or made out. I've felt like they tried to make me believe all was dandy when deep down it wasn't. Like they've sold me a perfect picture but they actually had a forgery. |
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