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"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct " | |||
"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct " Seems a bit OTT to me to say they won’t walk to anyone that hasn’t had a verification for months or no verification etc. I’ve met guys with no actual verification on fab and they were fun meets and also who they said they were (they did confirm with pics on other messaging apps) I think people should chill more | |||
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"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct Seems a bit OTT to me to say they won’t walk to anyone that hasn’t had a verification for months or no verification etc. I’ve met guys with no actual verification on fab and they were fun meets and also who they said they were (they did confirm with pics on other messaging apps) I think people should chill more " Yes I’ve seen it all, that’s what I was meaning, it’s over the top and who are they to say I must have had a verification in the last 3 months to take me seriously, I mean it’s my choice who I show what to and I’m not going to be told by a total stranger what I should disclose just to keep them happy | |||
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"Just be a confident person...don't allow yourself to be at anyone's mercy. Why do you let yourself be buffeted by people like that. Sorry it boggles my mind how you can allow yourself to be badgered by such folly. " I’m not badgered at all, I’ve been doing this for 22 years and I know how it all works, it just infuriates me when people still think they can control others on here, I don’t respond or go along with demands at all anymore, I did when I was 20 but I’ve learnt now. I want to write to all the people who I see trying to rule the way people act but I’d be typing all day, so thought it best to just put a post in here | |||
"Can I get some advice.. I clearly have no verifications and joined over year ago, however I’ve rarely been on to recently and also not some horny dog. How can i get noticed by anyone worthwhile?? " Just keep plodding along, don’t be guided by others, do your own thing and you’ll get there in the end | |||
" I’m not badgered at all, I’ve been doing this for 22 years and I know how it all works, it just infuriates me when people still think they can control others on here, I don’t respond or go along with demands at all anymore, I did when I was 20 but I’ve learnt now. I want to write to all the people who I see trying to rule the way people act but I’d be typing all day, so thought it best to just put a post in here " I think people who *demand* others to change their profile might think very highly of themselves and expect others to do as they're told to please them. You would be surprised at how many who actually submit to such demands. | |||
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"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct " See it as a positive. They are being open about their opinions. You don't want to meet people with those types of opinions. Time saved- you know immediately that you're not compatible so no need to waste time chatting.  | |||
"I ended up hiding mine after a guy i said "no thank you" to contacted some of my veris and told lies about me." Jeepers ..that's weird | |||
"Why worry about people whose criteria you don't match? They're only hoops to jump through if you see them as hoops and not just an indication that you don't match what they are looking for. People are allowed preferences about who they meet regardless of the criteria behind those preferences. It just comes across as entitled when others bemoan those preferences."  | |||
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"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct " I dont even read verifications, I dont particularly talk to guys with loads of veris, I think its just a way for attention seeking in my opinion, if you have a few, no more then 10 that's well enough to show your no fake...that's just me x | |||
"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct I dont even read verifications, I dont particularly talk to guys with loads of veris, I think its just a way for attention seeking in my opinion, if you have a few, no more then 10 that's well enough to show your no fake...that's just me x" I don't ask for verifications (maybe my first one I did) if you are sociable its quiet easy for them to build up.. | |||
"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct I dont even read verifications, I dont particularly talk to guys with loads of veris, I think its just a way for attention seeking in my opinion, if you have a few, no more then 10 that's well enough to show your no fake...that's just me x I don't ask for verifications (maybe my first one I did) if you are sociable its quiet easy for them to build up.." If you mean horny rather than social that makes more sense to me haha | |||
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"shouldn't everybodys verifications be at least 10 month's old now though ... excepting webcam veri's of course? " My last one I veried a guy I fucked 2 years ago so he could prove hes genuine, he just verified me back out of politeness x | |||
"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct I dont even read verifications, I dont particularly talk to guys with loads of veris, I think its just a way for attention seeking in my opinion, if you have a few, no more then 10 that's well enough to show your no fake...that's just me x I don't ask for verifications (maybe my first one I did) if you are sociable its quiet easy for them to build up.. If you mean horny rather than social that makes more sense to me haha " Horny and sociable  | |||
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"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct I dont even read verifications, I dont particularly talk to guys with loads of veris, I think its just a way for attention seeking in my opinion, if you have a few, no more then 10 that's well enough to show your no fake...that's just me x I don't ask for verifications (maybe my first one I did) if you are sociable its quiet easy for them to build up.. If you mean horny rather than social that makes more sense to me haha Horny and sociable "Their social cause their horny haha | |||
"Given that socials and play meets are out for now, how would people recommend we even get veri'd in this day and age?" I second that, one guy got sooooo angry at me cause I wouldnt verify him, even tho all we did was chat lol | |||
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"Given that socials and play meets are out for now, how would people recommend we even get veri'd in this day and age?" Going on cam in the chat rooms | |||
"Given that socials and play meets are out for now, how would people recommend we even get veri'd in this day and age? Going on cam in the chat rooms " And what if you dont feel comfortable webcamming? | |||
"Given that socials and play meets are out for now, how would people recommend we even get veri'd in this day and age? I second that, one guy got sooooo angry at me cause I wouldnt verify him, even tho all we did was chat lol" Because thats all it takes to confirm someone's who they say they are? lol wow... | |||
"Given that socials and play meets are out for now, how would people recommend we even get veri'd in this day and age? Going on cam in the chat rooms And what if you dont feel comfortable webcamming?" It’s not for everyone People do use them just to chat ... | |||
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"When you attend lots of organised social events your veris can quickly add up. I won’t ever explain myself to anyone over the amount I have " Maybe I just have better things to do haha | |||
"When you attend lots of organised social events your veris can quickly add up. I won’t ever explain myself to anyone over the amount I have Maybe I just have better things to do haha" | |||
"When you attend lots of organised social events your veris can quickly add up. I won’t ever explain myself to anyone over the amount I have Maybe I just have better things to do haha" I’m confused by your reply Better things to do as in not to attend socials or not explain yourself to people? | |||
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"When you attend lots of organised social events your veris can quickly add up. I won’t ever explain myself to anyone over the amount I have Maybe I just have better things to do haha I’m confused by your reply Better things to do as in not to attend socials or not explain yourself to people? " Haha just winding you up lovely x sorry to confuse you haha x | |||
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"Given that socials and play meets are out for now, how would people recommend we even get veri'd in this day and age? Going on cam in the chat rooms And what if you dont feel comfortable webcamming?" Guess that depends how much importance you place on being verified in the current situation when you can't meet anyway - if you don't then it doesn't matter in the slightest, if you do (although personally I wouldn't see why it would matter) then webcam veri is the only option you have | |||
"All of my veris are memories left for me, I show some that I want to and others that I don't want to, they are all special memories. I'm not bothered how many veris a guy has tbh and if anyone doesn't like mine then its up to them. Its your profile do with it what you want to "My memories are in my head not commented on fab, but that's just me lol | |||
"Given that socials and play meets are out for now, how would people recommend we even get veri'd in this day and age? Going on cam in the chat rooms And what if you dont feel comfortable webcamming? Guess that depends how much importance you place on being verified in the current situation when you can't meet anyway - if you don't then it doesn't matter in the slightest, if you do (although personally I wouldn't see why it would matter) then webcam veri is the only option you have " The way i see it though, is if you have at least one veri then, it proves youre real and then others are willing to take a chance in replying... Of course, its getting that first veri thats the tricky part | |||
"I had a meet planned once and the woman said she did not want to meet because she had noticed someone in my veris who she did not trust. She wouldn’t say who or why. I said okay fair enough thanks for letting me know. That didn’t bother me really. Whether it was an excuse or true (tbf I don’t see why she’d make that up, would be an odd thing to make up), why want to meet someone if they wouldn’t want to meet you. " I do that they is a woman around were I am that will not talk to any men that have got a verification from me on their profile ,as I have had messages from them asking the reason why and my answer is I don't know why. Xx | |||
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"I had a meet planned once and the woman said she did not want to meet because she had noticed someone in my veris who she did not trust. She wouldn’t say who or why. I said okay fair enough thanks for letting me know. That didn’t bother me really. Whether it was an excuse or true (tbf I don’t see why she’d make that up, would be an odd thing to make up), why want to meet someone if they wouldn’t want to meet you. I do that they is a woman around were I am that will not talk to any men that have got a verification from me on their profile ,as I have had messages from them asking the reason why and my answer is I don't know why. Xx" Really odd isn’t it. Makes me so curious but people don’t tell why. I think perhaps if it’s people knowing each other? Like perhaps the woman read my veris, and saw someone she knew personally or something? Actually I do remember her saying she had met someone on my veri list and didn’t trust them. Sounded like she thought I was setting her up pr something :/ | |||
"I never dispatched veris - because I judge everyone else's and I'm under no illusion that people won't judge mine
It's only my business who I meet."Very true very true! | |||
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"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct " I would comment but yr veri is out of date! Sorry.. | |||
"See its people like that who make it difficult for newbies to get any veri's at all. Do they not remember when they first signed up and hadnt got veri'd yet? Clearly im not going to be meeting anyone for a while, but that shouldnt preclude me from at least talking to people? Like has been said above, I just move on and dont waste my time on them if they wont waste a minute of theirs on me. They're the ones missing out on talking to/meeting someone potentially great" We’ll talk to anyone, I find my own chat is a much better indicator of someone than the veris. Verifications just prove you exist. | |||
"Can I get some advice.. I clearly have no verifications and joined over year ago, however I’ve rarely been on to recently and also not some horny dog. How can i get noticed by anyone worthwhile?? " Maybe put a bit of effort into writing a profile which reflects you as a 'worthwhile' person. | |||
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"Given that socials and play meets are out for now, how would people recommend we even get veri'd in this day and age? Going on cam in the chat rooms And what if you dont feel comfortable webcamming? Guess that depends how much importance you place on being verified in the current situation when you can't meet anyway - if you don't then it doesn't matter in the slightest, if you do (although personally I wouldn't see why it would matter) then webcam veri is the only option you have The way i see it though, is if you have at least one veri then, it proves youre real and then others are willing to take a chance in replying... Of course, its getting that first veri thats the tricky part" There are many ways to "prove" you're genuine though and to be honest for a single guy the issue isn't being proved real anyway - not many people will pretend to be a single guy. So all a veri does really is give one person's subjective opinion of the person being verified - which may not be the same opinion as someone else. Whilst it's true that *some* people won't meet those that are unverified, there are many that will - and usually a lack of response won't be down to lack of verification alone (in fact it's likely to be a very small part of the reason). | |||
"I had this on my previous profile. At my previous address I used to hold frequent parties etc. With these and my own meets I had around 250 verifications. Folks were judging me on sheer numbers without actually reading them. I was even geting abusive messages (mostly from jealous guys). Decided in the end to delete profile and start again....to many sad sacks on here...." Why delete it? It put off people who aren't compatible with you. | |||
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"Can I get some advice.. I clearly have no verifications and joined over year ago, however I’ve rarely been on to recently and also not some horny dog. How can i get noticed by anyone worthwhile?? " Hope this helps. https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/1112427 E | |||
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"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct " if someone wants to judge me for my verifications it simply means they are not for me. X I often get judged on the number of veries... I like to tell them that this is a newish profile so unfortunately I dont have that many on it | |||
"I had a meet planned once and the woman said she did not want to meet because she had noticed someone in my veris who she did not trust. She wouldn’t say who or why. I said okay fair enough thanks for letting me know. That didn’t bother me really. Whether it was an excuse or true (tbf I don’t see why she’d make that up, would be an odd thing to make up), why want to meet someone if they wouldn’t want to meet you. " This is my point, you’ve missed out because the lady you were meeting judged you on the fact you’d been verified by someone she doesn’t like or trust, who you’ve met or whatever in the past doesn’t make you the person they don’t like, it’s the other person they don’t like, but still you’re the one who’s wasted your time chatting to her in the first place, it’s that type of thing that makes me think we shouldn’t be showing verifications, treat each other as individuals | |||
"I had a meet planned once and the woman said she did not want to meet because she had noticed someone in my veris who she did not trust. She wouldn’t say who or why. I said okay fair enough thanks for letting me know. That didn’t bother me really. Whether it was an excuse or true (tbf I don’t see why she’d make that up, would be an odd thing to make up), why want to meet someone if they wouldn’t want to meet you. This is my point, you’ve missed out because the lady you were meeting judged you on the fact you’d been verified by someone she doesn’t like or trust, who you’ve met or whatever in the past doesn’t make you the person they don’t like, it’s the other person they don’t like, but still you’re the one who’s wasted your time chatting to her in the first place, it’s that type of thing that makes me think we shouldn’t be showing verifications, treat each other as individuals " Has he missed out, or has he lucked in? I guess the answer is based on your perspective. Personally if I had a veri that someone didn’t like and wont meet me based off of, then I would thank my lucky stars that I avoided such a person | |||
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"I had a meet planned once and the woman said she did not want to meet because she had noticed someone in my veris who she did not trust. She wouldn’t say who or why. I said okay fair enough thanks for letting me know. That didn’t bother me really. Whether it was an excuse or true (tbf I don’t see why she’d make that up, would be an odd thing to make up), why want to meet someone if they wouldn’t want to meet you. This is my point, you’ve missed out because the lady you were meeting judged you on the fact you’d been verified by someone she doesn’t like or trust, who you’ve met or whatever in the past doesn’t make you the person they don’t like, it’s the other person they don’t like, but still you’re the one who’s wasted your time chatting to her in the first place, it’s that type of thing that makes me think we shouldn’t be showing verifications, treat each other as individuals " I don't believe he missed out at all. | |||
" Personally if I had a veri that someone didn’t like and wont meet me based off of, then I would thank my lucky stars that I avoided such a person" this is my view too . Only time I got a little offended was when someone said to me "please don't verify me as I people may not meet me" x | |||
"I had a meet planned once and the woman said she did not want to meet because she had noticed someone in my veris who she did not trust. She wouldn’t say who or why. I said okay fair enough thanks for letting me know. That didn’t bother me really. Whether it was an excuse or true (tbf I don’t see why she’d make that up, would be an odd thing to make up), why want to meet someone if they wouldn’t want to meet you. This is my point, you’ve missed out because the lady you were meeting judged you on the fact you’d been verified by someone she doesn’t like or trust, who you’ve met or whatever in the past doesn’t make you the person they don’t like, it’s the other person they don’t like, but still you’re the one who’s wasted your time chatting to her in the first place, it’s that type of thing that makes me think we shouldn’t be showing verifications, treat each other as individuals I don't believe he missed out at all. " Some people don't meet people who meet TVs as Tina mentioned earlier. Should I hide my veris from TVs to find out after "I'd have never met you if I realised you met those kinds of people" I'd be raging and both parties would likely feel violated that they met with someone that they normally wouldn't give the time of day to, let alone share their bodies with. Ya get me? | |||
"Can I get some advice.. I clearly have no verifications and joined over year ago, however I’ve rarely been on to recently and also not some horny dog. How can i get noticed by anyone worthwhile?? " How will anyone know they are worth your while? | |||
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"When you attend lots of organised social events your veris can quickly add up. I won’t ever explain myself to anyone over the amount I have " I agree smart lady | |||
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" This is my point, you’ve missed out because the lady you were meeting judged you on the fact you’d been verified by someone she doesn’t like or trust, who you’ve met or whatever in the past doesn’t make you the person they don’t like, it’s the other person they don’t like, but still you’re the one who’s wasted your time chatting to her in the first place, it’s that type of thing that makes me think we shouldn’t be showing verifications, treat each other as individuals " I don’t think I missed out. Yes time got “wasted” if you see like that. Time gets “wasted” in all kind of situations. If someone isn’t comfy with my veris thats fine with me. Same if they don’t like my face, my beard or anything else. I want to play with someone who wants to play with me. People will always judge, for an array of reasons. Also if I talk to someone for any amount of time and expect they can’t say no to meeting at any point, then that’s a bit creepy. | |||
" This is my point, you’ve missed out because the lady you were meeting judged you on the fact you’d been verified by someone she doesn’t like or trust, who you’ve met or whatever in the past doesn’t make you the person they don’t like, it’s the other person they don’t like, but still you’re the one who’s wasted your time chatting to her in the first place, it’s that type of thing that makes me think we shouldn’t be showing verifications, treat each other as individuals I don’t think I missed out. Yes time got “wasted” if you see like that. Time gets “wasted” in all kind of situations. If someone isn’t comfy with my veris thats fine with me. Same if they don’t like my face, my beard or anything else. I want to play with someone who wants to play with me. People will always judge, for an array of reasons. Also if I talk to someone for any amount of time and expect they can’t say no to meeting at any point, then that’s a bit creepy. " I agree. I don't see it as time wasted either. Honestly, if all was going good, meet on the cards and then I had my hair cut short and it put the person off meeting me, I'd understand that short hair wasn't for them. | |||
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"Verifications are either too much or too little for some people but I've learnt noones opinion of you matters. I've had guys say I've been around the block cause I have a lot of veris, other guys say in a fantasist as my veris are mainly from socials. That's why they remain hidden. my only requirement by meeting a guy is that he has a veri and its for my safety and that he is who he says he is. I have taken chances on unverified and been badly burnt so I very rarely will meet unverified but never say never." People say “oh veris are not important” but they really are. I only once met someone without a veri and it turned out to be a situation I thought I was going to die in, luckily managed to get (run) out the house and test how fast my car went from 0-60mph. | |||
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" I agree. I don't see it as time wasted either. Honestly, if all was going good, meet on the cards and then I had my hair cut short and it put the person off meeting me, I'd understand that short hair wasn't for them. " I can imagine it’s frustrating being judged but I think whats really frustrating many of the guys is the fact they’re not getting meets. Somewhere deep down there is a factor of entitlement or expectation rattling around. That’s a discussion for another thread though. | |||
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"The green eyed monsters rages. That’s why mine are hidden "This. Life is so much easier | |||
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"I absolutely read and judge based on the verifications. Not in a "Euw, they're a bit minging" way but if a man has a history of the kind of sex I'm not into, then I'll avoid him, if the virus mention barebacking he's getting blocked and if they've met someone with LOADS of meet verifications then I don't want to meet them either. The verification trail can sometimes be quite an unpleasant path." Oh yes. I always follow the trail | |||
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"I absolutely read and judge based on the verifications. Not in a "Euw, they're a bit minging" way but if a man has a history of the kind of sex I'm not into, then I'll avoid him, if the virus mention barebacking he's getting blocked and if they've met someone with LOADS of meet verifications then I don't want to meet them either. The verification trail can sometimes be quite an unpleasant path." Can be an interesting path and than theres the ones that can cause drama at the drop of the hat so if a guy has met that person I avoid. | |||
"I absolutely read and judge based on the verifications. Not in a "Euw, they're a bit minging" way but if a man has a history of the kind of sex I'm not into, then I'll avoid him, if the virus mention barebacking he's getting blocked and if they've met someone with LOADS of meet verifications then I don't want to meet them either. The verification trail can sometimes be quite an unpleasant path. Can be an interesting path and than theres the ones that can cause drama at the drop of the hat so if a guy has met that person I avoid." Indeed. | |||
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"shouldn't everybodys verifications be at least 10 month's old now though ... excepting webcam veri's of course? My last one I veried a guy I fucked 2 years ago so he could prove hes genuine, he just verified me back out of politeness x" Different time line but same, I've done this a few times with folk who have left & returned. With newbies I will met them sometimes, depends as always if I like them or not same as everyone else. I do take folk at face value though until proven or shown otherwise. They are submitted to the same scrutiny as anyone else really. | |||
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"Nah, I concentrate on the people who do like my profile. " focussing on positives rather than negatives make for a much happier life. | |||
"Nah, I concentrate on the people who do like my profile. " that must be an extensive list | |||
"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct " Haters gonna hate Don't let it annoy you or they've won twice | |||
"I won't meet people with more than 4 veris published (visible to read) on their profile. " What if those 4 verifications are from a long time span, the last 10 years for example? | |||
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"Seems like their is a lot of immature people on here and should be asking themselves why they are here I'm sure most people never bother to read the rules or any other valid information because everyone has joined for a purpose and should respect one another I've never encountered any difficulty as such but haven't had any rude comments but I think those who do act unreasonable should be a limit before they lose their accounts as everyone is a equal regardless having or not having verifications and things like harassment should be a automatic ban "
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"My original post was because I saw a ladies status update which everyone can see, where she named a male users ID, who she had not met and wouldn’t speak to, and went on to say the name and age of the woman he had met, and said have some self respect, she’s in her 60’s you disgusting minger, my point is, yes she can have her opinion and choose not to talk to him, that’s fine, but why go broadcasting it to the whole site, says a lot more about her I think, he’s had a lucky escape in reality, doesn’t stop my blood boiling thinking why she thinks she has the right to say he was a disgusting person because of who he’s been with, she’s entitled to have her opinion, but keep it to herself, which is why I said if it was a comment saying you’re disgusting because you’ve met men, tv’s people of colour, there would be hell on, but it appears ok to basically ridicule 2 people publicly due to age gap, because they’ve met, and had a good time, neither of them asked to have their user names splashed across this woman’s status, the poor woman in her 60’s has probably been inundated with messages now" That's not really about verifications, that's about being a crappy person. Disgusting mingers come in many forms. | |||
"I won't meet people with more than 4 veris published (visible to read) on their profile. What if those 4 verifications are from a long time span, the last 10 years for example? " It's not the quantity it's the indiscretion. | |||
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"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct Seems a bit OTT to me to say they won’t walk to anyone that hasn’t had a verification for months or no verification etc. I’ve met guys with no actual verification on fab and they were fun meets and also who they said they were (they did confirm with pics on other messaging apps) I think people should chill more Yes I’ve seen it all, that’s what I was meaning, it’s over the top and who are they to say I must have had a verification in the last 3 months to take me seriously, I mean it’s my choice who I show what to and I’m not going to be told by a total stranger what I should disclose just to keep them happy " Can you say irony? YOU run your profile how you see fit, THEY run their profile how they see fit. If you're not compatible move on, that's the beauty of fab, all are catered for. No need to call people out because you don't match what they're looking for. People with snooty statuses will put off more than they attract with their pseudo superiority. We're all on Fab looking for whatever floats our boat. Anyone not into casual encounters with strangers will view us all as deviants. So for me, anyone on here looking down their nose at how/who other members meet is akin to Lewis Hamilton chiding Valentino Rossi for going too fast! Hypocrite of the highest order. | |||
"Can I get some advice.. I clearly have no verifications and joined over year ago, however I’ve rarely been on to recently and also not some horny dog. How can i get noticed by anyone worthwhile?? " Define "worthwhile?" | |||
"Why worry about people whose criteria you don't match? They're only hoops to jump through if you see them as hoops and not just an indication that you don't match what they are looking for. People are allowed preferences about who they meet regardless of the criteria behind those preferences. It just comes across as entitled when others bemoan those preferences." Exactly! | |||
"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct I dont even read verifications, I dont particularly talk to guys with loads of veris, I think its just a way for attention seeking in my opinion, if you have a few, no more then 10 that's well enough to show your no fake...that's just me x" Problem is when you meet someone even for a social or randomly at a club, they often veri you because they want one back, you can’t stop the number increasing , just choose not to display them. You can’t get to 10 and then stop them being added , it doesn’t mean your a slut or anything, just you connect well | |||
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Display however many you want, it’s your profile. You’ll please no-one if you try to please everyone and besides, you’re here for you. | |||
"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct " I don’t have that problem | |||
"I had this on my previous profile. At my previous address I used to hold frequent parties etc. With these and my own meets I had around 250 verifications. Folks were judging me on sheer numbers without actually reading them. I was even geting abusive messages (mostly from jealous guys). Decided in the end to delete profile and start again....to many sad sacks on here.... Why delete it? It put off people who aren't compatible with you. " Got pissed off with the abuse.... | |||
"Anyone else dislike people who are so self opinionated they say they won’t talk as your verifications are older than 3 months, or no verifications you must be fake, or too many verifications, then judged if a 20-30 year old has been with a couple in their 60’s on their verifications. I’m fed up of reading status updates where someone is saying people need self respect if they’ve been with older couples, if it was any other social category you’d be called a racist, sexist or homophobe, if people don’t like your profile it’s easy enough to simply say no thanks, people can display what they want or what they don’t want, not for others to direct I dont even read verifications, I dont particularly talk to guys with loads of veris, I think its just a way for attention seeking in my opinion, if you have a few, no more then 10 that's well enough to show your no fake...that's just me x Problem is when you meet someone even for a social or randomly at a club, they often veri you because they want one back, you can’t stop the number increasing , just choose not to display them. You can’t get to 10 and then stop them being added , it doesn’t mean your a slut or anything, just you connect well " You don’t have to verify anyone, it isn’t obligatory. | |||
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"I won't meet people with more than 4 veris published (visible to read) on their profile. " Says the shadow  . Amazing. | |||
"We don’t pay any attention to people’s veris .We like to make our own minds up about people and if people won’t meet us due to veris we have from certain people that’s fine by us we are here for fun not into all that drama anyway." | |||
"We don’t pay any attention to people’s veris .We like to make our own minds up about people and if people won’t meet us due to veris we have from certain people that’s fine by us we are here for fun not into all that drama anyway. " | |||
"I won't meet people with more than 4 veris published (visible to read) on their profile. Says the shadow . Amazing."Thank you that's very kind.  | |||
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" I’m not badgered at all, I’ve been doing this for 22 years and I know how it all works, it just infuriates me when people still think they can control others on here, I don’t respond or go along with demands at all anymore, I did when I was 20 but I’ve learnt now. I want to write to all the people who I see trying to rule the way people act but I’d be typing all day, so thought it best to just put a post in here I think people who *demand* others to change their profile might think very highly of themselves and expect others to do as they're told to please them. You would be surprised at how many who actually submit to such demands. " Yes this I think ! Some people get above themselves! X | |||
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