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Rasism? Sexism? Both or Neither?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

So after seeing a fair amount of mainly female profiles stating "No Black guys" i read a forum post on here from a black guy who was frustrated by it.

The majority of comments defended the womans choice in sexual partner.

(This is the background to my question)

My question is if a male posted on his profile that he wasnt interested in Black women would he get the same defence as the ladies?

(Im in no way judging anybody or anyones personal views my question is to start a healthy discussion)

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Probably not. Men are treated very differently than women on fab.

I've never understood why people need to express this particular preference, surely you can tell from photos

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS  over a year ago

London

Does stating "No TV/TS" as sexist?

To me it makes it clearer and easier, just like any other "no this" or "no that".

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I would definitely agree with both of the responses above.

Personally I think it's better to say what you are looking for rather than what you are not.

Say no thank you or don't respond to anybody you are not interested in and put your filters on and just rely on photos.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Does stating "No TV/TS" as sexist?

To me it makes it clearer and easier, just like any other "no this" or "no that". "

Personally I think the on kind of TV that should ever be in a bedroom is a TV/TS.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS  over a year ago

London


"I would definitely agree with both of the responses above.

Personally I think it's better to say what you are looking for rather than what you are not.

Say no thank you or don't respond to anybody you are not interested in and put your filters on and just rely on photos."

I agree fully.

I just, personally, don't like when people shout racism, sexism, xxphobias, shaming etc out of profile (or threads) that chose to have statements like that.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Hasn't this subject been done to death??

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Hasn't this subject been done to death??"

Possibly you have seen a fair amount of it. I have not.

Does tat mean because you have seen it and i havent i shouldnt ask the question?

Whats the solution...a list of topics that people like you dont want to hear anymore?

What would that mean for newcomers to the site?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

I feel that the point of the post was to see if we felt the different ways men are treated than women and not solely about whether its right or wrong to express our preferences if that makes sense?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Hasn't this subject been done to death??

Possibly you have seen a fair amount of it. I have not.

Does tat mean because you have seen it and i havent i shouldnt ask the question?

Whats the solution...a list of topics that people like you dont want to hear anymore?

What would that mean for newcomers to the site?"

A simple search of the forums will give you all the answers you need.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Hasn't this subject been done to death??

Possibly you have seen a fair amount of it. I have not.

Does tat mean because you have seen it and i havent i shouldnt ask the question?

Whats the solution...a list of topics that people like you dont want to hear anymore?

What would that mean for newcomers to the site?

A simple search of the forums will give you all the answers you need. "

Ive searched..and i haven't found the question i asked.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"So after seeing a fair amount of mainly female profiles stating "No Black guys" i read a forum post on here from a black guy who was frustrated by it.

The majority of comments defended the womans choice in sexual partner.

(This is the background to my question)

My question is if a male posted on his profile that he wasnt interested in Black women would he get the same defence as the ladies?

(Im in no way judging anybody or anyones personal views my question is to start a healthy discussion)

"

On a previous profile 'sorry but no black/asian im not racist but am only attracted to pale ladys'

I got so so much abuse off white women

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By *os19Man  over a year ago

Edmonton


"So after seeing a fair amount of mainly female profiles stating "No Black guys" i read a forum post on here from a black guy who was frustrated by it.

The majority of comments defended the womans choice in sexual partner.

(This is the background to my question)

My question is if a male posted on his profile that he wasnt interested in Black women would he get the same defence as the ladies?

(Im in no way judging anybody or anyones personal views my question is to start a healthy discussion)

"

. I think that a male posting on his profile he isn’t interested in black women should get the same defence as a female stating no black guys.As far as I am concerned Fabs is about preference and perhaps making your fantasy become reality.To my way of thinking been on Fabs does not mean I am a equal opportunity employer when it comes to sex.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS  over a year ago

London


"

On a previous profile 'sorry but no black/asian im not racist but am only attracted to pale ladys'

I got so so much abuse off white women "

Ha..it's the way you described it.

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By *ohnny2006Man  over a year ago

worcester


"So after seeing a fair amount of mainly female profiles stating "No Black guys" i read a forum post on here from a black guy who was frustrated by it.

The majority of comments defended the womans choice in sexual partner.

(This is the background to my question)

My question is if a male posted on his profile that he wasnt interested in Black women would he get the same defence as the ladies?

(Im in no way judging anybody or anyones personal views my question is to start a healthy discussion)

"

This is a interesting topic. Because it's the last bastion of discrimination the left leaning types won't touch.

But let's spread this out further, why is it okay to discriminate against anyone sexually?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

The funny thing is people rarely read the profiles. They are enticed by the imagery. I have seen straight guys actually be write "no men, only into women" because they don't want to be contacted but still get messaged by men. Best solution I find is either ignore message, reply politely or tighten filter option. I do agree it is better to say what you are after vs. What you are not.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"So after seeing a fair amount of mainly female profiles stating "No Black guys" i read a forum post on here from a black guy who was frustrated by it.

The majority of comments defended the womans choice in sexual partner.

(This is the background to my question)

My question is if a male posted on his profile that he wasnt interested in Black women would he get the same defence as the ladies?

(Im in no way judging anybody or anyones personal views my question is to start a healthy discussion)

This is a interesting topic. Because it's the last bastion of discrimination the left leaning types won't touch.

***But let's spread this out further, why is it okay to discriminate against anyone sexually?***"

*** What do you mean?

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By *uriousblondwifeCouple  over a year ago

wickford


"Hasn't this subject been done to death??

Possibly you have seen a fair amount of it. I have not.

Does tat mean because you have seen it and i havent i shouldnt ask the question?

Whats the solution...a list of topics that people like you dont want to hear anymore?

What would that mean for newcomers to the site?

A simple search of the forums will give you all the answers you need. "

This ladie is a serial negative responser in the forums...ive noticed this

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"So after seeing a fair amount of mainly female profiles stating "No Black guys" i read a forum post on here from a black guy who was frustrated by it.

The majority of comments defended the womans choice in sexual partner.

(This is the background to my question)

My question is if a male posted on his profile that he wasnt interested in Black women would he get the same defence as the ladies?

(Im in no way judging anybody or anyones personal views my question is to start a healthy discussion)

"

Women can do no wrong. Everything men do is wrong.

I think it depends on how they word it and/ or ask the question on the forum. Some people believe what I said above.

If the person asks in a fiery way then they rile people up from the start. Although even a simple question can make some people irate.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I feel that the point of the post was to see if we felt the different ways men are treated than women and not solely about whether its right or wrong to express our preferences if that makes sense?"

I'd say yes, men are treated a lot differently in response to various things. Not sure why it should be so but I've seen posts in here from women who got supportive responses and thought... Had that been a man asking/saying the same thing he'd be slaughtered.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

A man need not put a preferance for women in age colour or body type.

He can just reply with a no thank you.

Nobody should be judged because of a preferance.

I wonder who is doing the judging ? Is it a white man/woman being offended on behalf of a black/asian man woman.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I dont buy into it as a preference, never have.

Pretty it up however you like but its judging someone as part of a group, rather than as an individual.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"A man need not put a preferance for women in age colour or body type.

He can just reply with a no thank you.

Nobody should be judged because of a preferance.

I wonder who is doing the judging ? Is it a white man/woman being offended on behalf of a black/asian man woman.

"

We agree totally. To us preference is just that. It isn't prejudice, it is a simply a choice.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Probably not. Men are treated very differently than women on fab.

I've never understood why people need to express this particular preference, surely you can tell from photos "

Well said Mod !

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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By *ljamMan  over a year ago

Edinburgh

My feeling is it's at best incredibly shallow and at worst racist. Broadcasting your blanket dismissal of an entire race... that does smell like racism to me. Calling it preference all day long doesn't change that either. It's also narrow-minded and self-limiting... who knows, best fuck of your life could be from the *insert race here* person you haven't met yet.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I dont buy into it as a preference, never have.

Pretty it up however you like but its judging someone as part of a group, rather than as an individual."

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

If someone isn’t attracted to a particular race I wouldn’t call it racist I’d call it preference

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

People hide a lot of misconceptions, stereotypes & bigotry behind the word 'preference'

When challenged, the cry is generally the same 'my body, my choice'

Whilst that is undoubtedly the case, it still doesn't address why those preferences exist

I think it is good, once in a while, that we ask questions of ourselves and challenge our 'preferences'

If I am pointing fingers here, I also point them at myself, as I too harbour preferences based on life events & experience, stereotype and preconceptions

I am a complete fussy fucker

If I listed all my preferences (ideals) here, you could pin a whole load of -ists on my tail

I deliberately don't list them as, in many cases, they are flexible and my end choices tend to be person specific

I'd sooner leave the opportunity to contact me open and I can engage or discount on a message by message basis

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By *bang13Couple  over a year ago

Kidderminster

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By *ad NannaWoman  over a year ago

East London

If you hang around the forums long enough you'll see just how differently men are treated to women/couples/TV/TS.

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By *ackformore100Man  over a year ago

Tin town


"I dont buy into it as a preference, never have.

Pretty it up however you like but its judging someone as part of a group, rather than as an individual."

Is it? Always? What about people who get turned on by (have a preference for) long legs? Big tits? Shaven pussies? It's not judging anyone. It's saying what is visually or possibly physically pleasing to them. It's not judging anyone...

If I prefer yellow lingerie is that allowed.? If so why?

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple  over a year ago

Maidstone


"If you hang around the forums long enough you'll see just how differently men are treated to women/couples/TV/TS."

Agreed. Not all men but most men.

With reference to preferences etc. As someone already said, set your filters and if someone you’re not attracted to contacts you you’re under no obligation to reply to them, let alone have sex with them.

No need for discrimination or drama.

Lou x

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By *ljamMan  over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I dont buy into it as a preference, never have.

Pretty it up however you like but its judging someone as part of a group, rather than as an individual.

Is it? Always? What about people who get turned on by (have a preference for) long legs? Big tits? Shaven pussies? It's not judging anyone. It's saying what is visually or possibly physically pleasing to them. It's not judging anyone...

If I prefer yellow lingerie is that allowed.? If so why? "

The examples you've given do involve judging people's attributes. That is pretty obvious.

Yes, it is allowed for you to prefer yellow lingerie. There's a leap between preferring a colour of lingerie, and pathologically refusing to entertain any other colour. The first is fine, I prefer to wear trainers for the comfort, but I'll wear other shoes too. The second is fucking stupid, and if you transfer it over to race then it's racist.

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By *ohnsnowmanMan  over a year ago

Don't Go Back to Sexville

Yeah I agree. Also, I think you have to think about how it feels for people who already get the shitty end of the stick to see no asians or no blacks on a profile. Just another sign that they are being treated differently based on the colour of their skin. Like someone else said. Look at the photo.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I have been on and off fab for years. I think this is one of the most recurring topics in the forums!

Yes there is sexism, racism, all the other “ism”s. The same way it is in the real world. The only difference is online people have more anonymity.

Also men are certainly treated different to women on this site. I tried a bit of an experiment in the threads once haha it turned out just as I expected

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I think the ‘preference’ argument is very weak.

I know the difference between straight and gay sexuality. I know the difference between tall and short, slim or curvy, a 20 year old and a 50 year old. I understand those preferences if you have them.

But being ‘black’ or ‘Asian’ tells me nothing about that person’s sexuality, appearance or character. It doesn’t even tell me about their skin tone (which I can see in photos anyway) as many ‘black’ people have light skin, many ‘white’ people are dark and ‘Asian’ covers billions of people of every possible appearance.

I don’t think those ‘preferences’ are necessarily racist (though some will be) but they do perpetuate stereotypes about ‘black’ or ‘Asian’ people all being similar. Same with those who specify black men usually mention BBC or VWE, another stereotype.

Time for Fab to join the 21st century and leave those particular ‘preferences’ out of profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

As you spend more time here OP you'll realise that this can be a very judgey, sexist, homophbic, racist, Daily Mail reader kind of place

Usually dressed up with the word 'preference ' in the sentence somewhere.

The only thing that is good about profiles with these outspoken 'preferences' is that knowing who to avoid is easier.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I usually see no white men bbc only lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I usually see no white men bbc only lol"

I think it’s a psychological thing. We tend to see and remember the things which are negative to us. I often see “no asians” but also same as you I have seen loads of bbc only!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I've got " no cheating knobheads" on my profile.

Stating 'preferences ' clearly doesn't work

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By *entlemanrogueMan  over a year ago

Motherwell


"Does stating "No TV/TS" as sexist?

To me it makes it clearer and easier, just like any other "no this" or "no that". "

Not to start a riot, but is Tv/Ts a sex?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Does stating "No TV/TS" as sexist?

To me it makes it clearer and easier, just like any other "no this" or "no that".

Not to start a riot, but is Tv/Ts a sex?

"

Wish we could reply with gifs and memes on here

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Your profile on here is your own little piece of personal marketing and branding. Everyone is free to write whatever they wish to attract the target group they have chosen. I never take it personally

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By *8v3nCouple  over a year ago

Coventry

Ok.. if anyone with that in their profile reads this I was wondering what is it what makes to write something like that in the profile. Is it really just about colour? I ve never understood it. Perhaps it is not to do with race, but ethnicity - I imagine there could be some cultural quirks which may be a big turn on or turn off like socks in sandals

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By *heGateKeeperMan  over a year ago

Stratford


"I usually see no white men bbc only lol

I think it’s a psychological thing. We tend to see and remember the things which are negative to us. I often see “no asians” but also same as you I have seen loads of bbc only!

"

Agreed. Confirmation bias is a thing on here

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I think as long as it's worded as a preference (or not one) then it's okay. There's a huge difference between saying you're not into slim women than saying "no stick insects" or something horrible, for example.

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By *8v3nCouple  over a year ago

Coventry


"I think as long as it's worded as a preference (or not one) then it's okay. There's a huge difference between saying you're not into slim women than saying "no stick insects" or something horrible, for example. "

Stick insects, snails, rabits, bearded dragons, careful may get you in trouble

Having said so, we ourselves have vixen.

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By *ljamMan  over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I think as long as it's worded as a preference (or not one) then it's okay. There's a huge difference between saying you're not into slim women than saying "no stick insects" or something horrible, for example. "

Totally agree. The racists... sorry, I mean "preffericists", should word it like "I'm not racist but..." or, "I can't be racist, I've got a black friend, but..." that way they're totally in the clear.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Hasn't this subject been done to death??

Possibly you have seen a fair amount of it. I have not.

Does tat mean because you have seen it and i havent i shouldnt ask the question?

Whats the solution...a list of topics that people like you dont want to hear anymore?

What would that mean for newcomers to the site?

A simple search of the forums will give you all the answers you need.

This ladie is a serial negative responser in the forums...ive noticed this "

Haha yes agree x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Gotta love the "preference" conversation. As prolific as it is we still contribute to these threads because it is a key debate that remains unresolved in this community.

Every time it rears it's incendiary head I ask this question: For those who indicate "no Asians" on their profile is this a cultural preference or a skin colour preference?" Do white skinned Russians have the same effect on your libido as black skinned Indians?

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By *stbury DavenportMan  over a year ago

Nottingham

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By *stbury DavenportMan  over a year ago

Nottingham


"As you spend more time here OP you'll realise that this can be a very judgey, sexist, homophbic, racist, Daily Mail reader kind of place"

Yep. Fab is by far the nastiest, most bigoted web forum I've ever participated in. There are a significant number of properly horrible people on here.

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By *icolerobbieCouple  over a year ago

walsall


"So after seeing a fair amount of mainly female profiles stating "No Black guys" i read a forum post on here from a black guy who was frustrated by it.

The majority of comments defended the womans choice in sexual partner.

(This is the background to my question)

My question is if a male posted on his profile that he wasnt interested in Black women would he get the same defence as the ladies?

(Im in no way judging anybody or anyones personal views my question is to start a healthy discussion)

"

Yes op, I don’t think it would be any different if it was a male or female. Rightly or wrongly, both would be accused of racism.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS  over a year ago

Horsham

The thing is sexual preference, is different from one person to the next.

You can't label a lesbian sexist, for not wanting to meet men. A person can't help what they find sexually attractive.

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By *offiaCoolWoman  over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"The thing is sexual preference, is different from one person to the next.

You can't label a lesbian sexist, for not wanting to meet men. A person can't help what they find sexually attractive. "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"The thing is sexual preference, is different from one person to the next.

You can't label a lesbian sexist, for not wanting to meet men. A person can't help what they find sexually attractive. "

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By *icolerobbieCouple  over a year ago

walsall


"As you spend more time here OP you'll realise that this can be a very judgey, sexist, homophbic, racist, Daily Mail reader kind of place

Yep. Fab is by far the nastiest, most bigoted web forum I've ever participated in. There are a significant number of properly horrible people on here. "

I’m sure there are much more nastier if you searched hard enough.

I’d advise trying to avoid anything that makes you feel bitter.

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By *nabelle21Woman  over a year ago

B38

I think anyone who writes off a whole race has racist undertones towards that race.

Maybe subconsciously but still

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By *nabelle21Woman  over a year ago

B38

*Unconsciously *

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Lets just all agree.... theres allways going to be someone 'offended' in this delicate world.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I think anyone who writes off a whole race has racist undertones towards that race.

Maybe subconsciously but still "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I think anyone who writes off a whole race has racist undertones towards that race.

Maybe subconsciously but still "

I actually agree with that.

In the work I do we have subconscious prejudice Training.

We all have them it's just about whether we are aware of them or not.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I think anyone who writes off a whole race has racist undertones towards that race.

Maybe subconsciously but still "

And if they do have subconscious racist feelings... then what?

If they aren't openly racist and the 'issue' is only that they don't want to have sex with one (or more) groups of people, where is the harm in that?

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By *ljamMan  over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I think anyone who writes off a whole race has racist undertones towards that race.

Maybe subconsciously but still

And if they do have subconscious racist feelings... then what?

If they aren't openly racist and the 'issue' is only that they don't want to have sex with one (or more) groups of people, where is the harm in that? "

If they broadcast that they want no contact from a particular race then they are openly racist. The harm in that is that it's openly racist.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman  over a year ago

Wirral.


"The thing is sexual preference, is different from one person to the next.

You can't label a lesbian sexist, for not wanting to meet men. A person can't help what they find sexually attractive. "

No they can't. But surely there's no need to broadcast, in black & white, their skin colour preference? It always come off a tad racist. To me, anyway.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman  over a year ago

Wirral.


"I think anyone who writes off a whole race has racist undertones towards that race.

Maybe subconsciously but still

I actually agree with that.

In the work I do we have subconscious prejudice Training.

We all have them it's just about whether we are aware of them or not. "

Same here. And writing it on your profile just causes discord & upset.

As you said earlier, focus on what you DO want. Be nice x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Everyone is entitled to their preferences but I wonder, if a black guy approached a lady (or a black lady approached a guy) in a nightclub, coffee shop ... would you feel comfortable telling that person that you aren’t interested because they are black, could you happily say that out load and not feel embarrassed for the effect that might have on them as a human being or anyone overhearing?

I don’t think there’s a need for it but we use clubs more than fab for meets so it’s never been an issue for us expressing our preferences.

I think if you would feel like a .... saying something out loud in public, then you shouldn’t be saying it online male or female.

Simply ignoring a message or a thanks but no thanks is enough

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I think anyone who writes off a whole race has racist undertones towards that race.

Maybe subconsciously but still "

Yes! I completely agree with you. I genuinely don't know how people can write this on their profile and say it is a preference.

How can you sit there and write black skin doesn't attract you? How can you write off a whole race? And why even say it? It doesn't sit right with me at all.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Does stating "No TV/TS" as sexist?

To me it makes it clearer and easier, just like any other "no this" or "no that". "

No but some people will try and claim its Transphobic.

We are allowed a preference.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Ones trash is another's treasure. Lots of profiles say no *insert race* men/women. Many profiles say looking for *insert race* men/women only. Theres enough members on here for it all to fall into place.

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By *ealthy_and_HungMan  over a year ago

Princes Risborough, Luasanne, Alderney

neither for me thanks

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I think anyone who writes off a whole race has racist undertones towards that race.

Maybe subconsciously but still

Yes! I completely agree with you. I genuinely don't know how people can write this on their profile and say it is a preference.

How can you sit there and write black skin doesn't attract you? How can you write off a whole race? And why even say it? It doesn't sit right with me at all."

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By *heGateKeeperMan  over a year ago

Stratford

Open racism is the best ‘form’ of racism in fairness. At least they’ve accepted it and you know what you’re dealing with

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"As you spend more time here OP you'll realise that this can be a very judgey, sexist, homophbic, racist, Daily Mail reader kind of place

Usually dressed up with the word 'preference ' in the sentence somewhere.

The only thing that is good about profiles with these outspoken 'preferences' is that knowing who to avoid is easier.

"

What...

From what I have seen so far over the last 5 years are those people on the forums atleast are in the minority and are quickly shouted down buy others and chastised.

I would guess if you did a survey you find the majority would call themselves "progressive"

So much so that me (pretty centre leaning liberal) would be thought of as a right wing conservative

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By *ljamMan  over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Open racism is the best ‘form’ of racism in fairness. At least they’ve accepted it and you know what you’re dealing with "

The fact it's open but widely tolerated isn't good. If the people who put that shit on their profiles actually did a little self-reflection... maybe some reading on unc0nscious racism... then it'd be grand. However, the dissembling nonsense spouted by the preference brigade will prevent that, allowing the fragile egos of the self-deluded to remain intact.

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By *leasureUnowCouple  over a year ago

Leamington Spa

Having now read 20 plus replies in this thread it refreshing to see that most people debate respectfully. Yes you get the odd person who tries to increase the temperature. But on the main it's positive.

On question posed I don't think the answer is simple. Some profiles are tactful. Other scream dislike for another races which is a shame because they lose out on amazing experiences.

This is why we love swinging. Not always, but unlike the vanilla world you tend to meet more genuine people and get to see them naked

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

This topic shows the devolution of the human race in 2021.

I can’t believe people over the age of 30 can’t understand the difference between discrimination and sexual attraction......

I am a black man that does not like BBW women sexually..... I have many family members, friends, and co workers that are BBW’s that I love to bit’s .....

Just because you don’t like someone sexually doesn’t mean you will treat them differently in social or work settings.....

Just a quick example..... When I first started swinging there was a couple who used to throw private house parties.... The female half didn’t like black guys sexually but always treated me with respect and talked very highly about me to other couples interested in me....

If I would have called her a racist because she didn’t want to have sex with me... I would have missed out on the 10 - 15 couples that came to her parties.....

Now , Men on Fab have to be sycophants to get any attention on here... So stating in your profile that you’re married, bisexual, looking for athletic/fit women, and only European women.

Would get you called “ Up your own arse “ , “ Dirty Cheater “ , “ Liar “ , and “ racist “.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I have viewed many, many profiles of different types - not always because of a sexual interest, more of an interest in the Western personality. I have seen the "no blacks, no Asians" in various forms on many single female profiles, a couple of times on male/female profiles, but never once on a single male's profile. What am I to conclude from this?

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By *emmabTV/TS  over a year ago

Brentford


"I dont buy into it as a preference, never have.

Pretty it up however you like but its judging someone as part of a group, rather than as an individual."

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This topic shows the devolution of the human race in 2021.

I can’t believe people over the age of 30 can’t understand the difference between discrimination and sexual attraction......

I am a black man that does not like BBW women sexually..... I have many family members, friends, and co workers that are BBW’s that I love to bit’s .....

Just because you don’t like someone sexually doesn’t mean you will treat them differently in social or work settings.....

Just a quick example..... When I first started swinging there was a couple who used to throw private house parties.... The female half didn’t like black guys sexually but always treated me with respect and talked very highly about me to other couples interested in me....

If I would have called her a racist because she didn’t want to have sex with me... I would have missed out on the 10 - 15 couples that came to her parties.....

Now , Men on Fab have to be sycophants to get any attention on here... So stating in your profile that you’re married, bisexual, looking for athletic/fit women, and only European women.

Would get you called “ Up your own arse “ , “ Dirty Cheater “ , “ Liar “ , and “ racist “.

"

With you all the way to the last paragraph.

Someones preferences are just that.

Wording is important though, when I read “no blacks” “no asians” I remember the 1960s and have visions of Enoch Powell .

You could say the same thing by saying caucasian/white only and cause far less offence.

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By *ex-BombsCouple  over a year ago

Flitwick

Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own. "

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like? "

And this is why I don’t state a racial preference.

I’m not predominantly attracted to black women, but if Angela Merkel shows up at my door I would say no thank you, yet if Beyonce did I would break lightspeed to my bedroom, whilst stripping off and oiling myself

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like? "

And what does ‘Asian’ even mean ? It covers billions of people from India to Korea to Indonesia to China and plenty in between, plus those of mixed Asian heritage.

If someone says they prefer tall or thin people I know what this means, with ‘black’ or ‘Asian’ I have no idea and suspect the worst.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like? "

Yes. This.

With Asians I assume it's culture and not skin colour? Vast swathes of Asians have pale skin. Isn't the caucasian region / the caucuses / in Asia?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This topic shows the devolution of the human race in 2021.

I can’t believe people over the age of 30 can’t understand the difference between discrimination and sexual attraction......

I am a black man that does not like BBW women sexually..... I have many family members, friends, and co workers that are BBW’s that I love to bit’s .....

Just because you don’t like someone sexually doesn’t mean you will treat them differently in social or work settings.....

Just a quick example..... When I first started swinging there was a couple who used to throw private house parties.... The female half didn’t like black guys sexually but always treated me with respect and talked very highly about me to other couples interested in me....

If I would have called her a racist because she didn’t want to have sex with me... I would have missed out on the 10 - 15 couples that came to her parties.....

Now , Men on Fab have to be sycophants to get any attention on here... So stating in your profile that you’re married, bisexual, looking for athletic/fit women, and only European women.

Would get you called “ Up your own arse “ , “ Dirty Cheater “ , “ Liar “ , and “ racist “.

"

Agree 100%. If people are not attracted to me or a TV, Trans or whatever because of that I wouldnt label them transphobic

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like? "

Read Rude boy’s post above. It’s very eloquent and easy to understand. Nobody should be able to dictate who should be able to fuck someone, that is the right of the individual alone. I know I’m not attracted to guys shorter than me, it just is and I don’t see why I should question myself and try and work out why. Nobody should be required to justify their sexual choices as long as it’s between consenting adults.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like?

And what does ‘Asian’ even mean ? It covers billions of people from India to Korea to Indonesia to China and plenty in between, plus those of mixed Asian heritage.

If someone says they prefer tall or thin people I know what this means, with ‘black’ or ‘Asian’ I have no idea and suspect the worst."

Yes exactly! You make excellent points. It's like they think they think they all look the same.

I will never understand how people can think this is acceptable.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like?

And what does ‘Asian’ even mean ? It covers billions of people from India to Korea to Indonesia to China and plenty in between, plus those of mixed Asian heritage.

If someone says they prefer tall or thin people I know what this means, with ‘black’ or ‘Asian’ I have no idea and suspect the worst."

Maybe that's a problem with your mindset and bias then

Maybe you see racism where there is none

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By *ex-BombsCouple  over a year ago

Flitwick


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like? "

I don’t have a definitive reason I have just never come across an Asian man I’m attracted to, any person regardless of race there needs to be some form of an attraction to enjoy naughty, hedonistic times

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like? "

Why don’t you give me a chance?

Why are you not interested in me ?

The point of my post is to highlight to you , that you are doing the same thing single men do when you reply “ No thank you “

People are here to connect with people, not explain themselves.....

I’m not trying to be rude , it’s just that you can’t have it both ways....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Without viewing each profile that has replied.

It would be intreasting to see how black/asian men and women thoughts on profiles that state no to them.

Personaly I've never been attracted to black and asian types.But I dont state that as a choice.

We all have a choice. Big or small cocks, tits, fannys body size.

Ignore those moaning because you dont fit what they desire. Just be polite in your reply.

Unless your extremley rude I doubt you will be taken to court because you said no.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman  over a year ago

Wirral.


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like?

And what does ‘Asian’ even mean ? It covers billions of people from India to Korea to Indonesia to China and plenty in between, plus those of mixed Asian heritage.

If someone says they prefer tall or thin people I know what this means, with ‘black’ or ‘Asian’ I have no idea and suspect the worst.

Yes exactly! You make excellent points. It's like they think they think they all look the same.

I will never understand how people can think this is acceptable. "

Me too. It's very sad.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like?

Why don’t you give me a chance?

Why are you not interested in me ?

The point of my post is to highlight to you , that you are doing the same thing single men do when you reply “ No thank you “

People are here to connect with people, not explain themselves.....

I’m not trying to be rude , it’s just that you can’t have it both ways....

"

Yet with height there is a biological desire in most women for taller men. Evolution helps us understand taller men were stronger and faster thus better providers as a whole.

I think race should surely have some level of justification. As mentioned above I am not attracted to most black women, for me it’s facial features just dont align with what I find attractive, yet would I be brazen enough to say “no black women” no because Halle Berry and Michelle Obama are both gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like?

Why don’t you give me a chance?

Why are you not interested in me ?

The point of my post is to highlight to you , that you are doing the same thing single men do when you reply “ No thank you “

People are here to connect with people, not explain themselves.....

I’m not trying to be rude , it’s just that you can’t have it both ways....

"

I'm not trying to force anyone to change their views or dictate who fucks who. If you're happy and others are and all parties involved don’t have an issue then that's fine for you all isn't it? But I've tried to understand this issue many times and I'll never be able to view it as a just a preference and to me, comparing skin colour and height is completely different. I don't see the need for it to be stated.

Why can't you just say you're not attracted to them when both parties connect? Why do people have to make it about skin colour?

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By *ljamMan  over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like?

Why don’t you give me a chance?

Why are you not interested in me ?

The point of my post is to highlight to you , that you are doing the same thing single men do when you reply “ No thank you “

People are here to connect with people, not explain themselves.....

I’m not trying to be rude , it’s just that you can’t have it both ways....

Yet with height there is a biological desire in most women for taller men. Evolution helps us understand taller men were stronger and faster thus better providers as a whole.

I think race should surely have some level of justification. As mentioned above I am not attracted to most black women, for me it’s facial features just dont align with what I find attractive, yet would I be brazen enough to say “no black women” no because Halle Berry and Michelle Obama are both gorgeous"

Yep, there's a leap from I generally don't find x people attractive, to I won't entertain any x people. That's the leap of racism, but many fail to acknowledge it for one reason or another.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman  over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Why haven't you included couples in this discussion.

In my experience, it's generally couples that state this.

I will admit to not looking at profiles often enough to make a numbers statement.

The phrase , 'no blacks' is racist.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman  over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

And before someone with the reactionary emotions of a lizard on hot sand drops the gem ...... Don't call me racist.....

I said the phrase is racist... try some other diversionary tactic... or just stop saying it.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like?

Why don’t you give me a chance?

Why are you not interested in me ?

The point of my post is to highlight to you , that you are doing the same thing single men do when you reply “ No thank you “

People are here to connect with people, not explain themselves.....

I’m not trying to be rude , it’s just that you can’t have it both ways....

"

If someone on Fab is not interested in you as an individual, they are I hope basing that on your individual profile, photos, etc.

If they feel the need to rule out all black men simply because they are black then that’s a different issue.

And ultimately we can all see photos and read profiles. No one is forced to reply or meet anyone at all. So why use wording which carries such discriminatory overtones ?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like?

Why don’t you give me a chance?

Why are you not interested in me ?

The point of my post is to highlight to you , that you are doing the same thing single men do when you reply “ No thank you “

People are here to connect with people, not explain themselves.....

I’m not trying to be rude , it’s just that you can’t have it both ways....

Yet with height there is a biological desire in most women for taller men. Evolution helps us understand taller men were stronger and faster thus better providers as a whole.

I think race should surely have some level of justification. As mentioned above I am not attracted to most black women, for me it’s facial features just dont align with what I find attractive, yet would I be brazen enough to say “no black women” no because Halle Berry and Michelle Obama are both gorgeous

Yep, there's a leap from I generally don't find x people attractive, to I won't entertain any x people. That's the leap of racism, but many fail to acknowledge it for one reason or another."

It might possibly be considered to be racism after considering the context in the world of work and in society. It is NOT racism when it’s my body and my choice of who I want to have sex with.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like?

Why don’t you give me a chance?

Why are you not interested in me ?

The point of my post is to highlight to you , that you are doing the same thing single men do when you reply “ No thank you “

People are here to connect with people, not explain themselves.....

I’m not trying to be rude , it’s just that you can’t have it both ways....

Yet with height there is a biological desire in most women for taller men. Evolution helps us understand taller men were stronger and faster thus better providers as a whole.

I think race should surely have some level of justification. As mentioned above I am not attracted to most black women, for me it’s facial features just dont align with what I find attractive, yet would I be brazen enough to say “no black women” no because Halle Berry and Michelle Obama are both gorgeous

Yep, there's a leap from I generally don't find x people attractive, to I won't entertain any x people. That's the leap of racism, but many fail to acknowledge it for one reason or another.

It might possibly be considered to be racism after considering the context in the world of work and in society. It is NOT racism when it’s my body and my choice of who I want to have sex with. "

I agree and I think a better word would be prejudice rather than racism.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"And before someone with the reactionary emotions of a lizard on hot sand drops the gem ...... Don't call me racist.....

I said the phrase is racist... try some other diversionary tactic... or just stop saying it. "

I hate the don’t call me racist people!

There thinking is,

“I am going to be racist”

“I don’t want people though to know I am racist”

“I don’t believe in repercussions for my actions”

“So if people don’t call me racist Im clearly not one!”

“I am more worried about seeming racist than actually being racist”

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

As a mixed race man I think that everyone as there own preferences who.they want to meet or chat with but this is my own opinion

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By *ex-BombsCouple  over a year ago

Flitwick


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like?

Why don’t you give me a chance?

Why are you not interested in me ?

The point of my post is to highlight to you , that you are doing the same thing single men do when you reply “ No thank you “

People are here to connect with people, not explain themselves.....

I’m not trying to be rude , it’s just that you can’t have it both ways....

I'm not trying to force anyone to change their views or dictate who fucks who. If you're happy and others are and all parties involved don’t have an issue then that's fine for you all isn't it? But I've tried to understand this issue many times and I'll never be able to view it as a just a preference and to me, comparing skin colour and height is completely different. I don't see the need for it to be stated.

Why can't you just say you're not attracted to them when both parties connect? Why do people have to make it about skin colour? "

If I don’t find someone attractive why would I want to waste their time? Personally I smoke and a lot of people won’t meet smokers, everyone has their own preferences whatever that maybe, I have a lot of friends of various backgrounds, not everyone you meet will want to engage sexually. I’d much rather be upfront

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like?

Why don’t you give me a chance?

Why are you not interested in me ?

The point of my post is to highlight to you , that you are doing the same thing single men do when you reply “ No thank you “

People are here to connect with people, not explain themselves.....

I’m not trying to be rude , it’s just that you can’t have it both ways....

I'm not trying to force anyone to change their views or dictate who fucks who. If you're happy and others are and all parties involved don’t have an issue then that's fine for you all isn't it? But I've tried to understand this issue many times and I'll never be able to view it as a just a preference and to me, comparing skin colour and height is completely different. I don't see the need for it to be stated.

Why can't you just say you're not attracted to them when both parties connect? Why do people have to make it about skin colour?

If I don’t find someone attractive why would I want to waste their time? Personally I smoke and a lot of people won’t meet smokers, everyone has their own preferences whatever that maybe, I have a lot of friends of various backgrounds, not everyone you meet will want to engage sexually. I’d much rather be upfront "

And as I mentioned above height has evolutionary context as to whats attractive.

People don’t meet smokers because they don’t like the smell.

What is it specifically about race that makes people say no to an entire swathe of the planets population?

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By *ex-BombsCouple  over a year ago

Flitwick


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like?

Why don’t you give me a chance?

Why are you not interested in me ?

The point of my post is to highlight to you , that you are doing the same thing single men do when you reply “ No thank you “

People are here to connect with people, not explain themselves.....

I’m not trying to be rude , it’s just that you can’t have it both ways....

I'm not trying to force anyone to change their views or dictate who fucks who. If you're happy and others are and all parties involved don’t have an issue then that's fine for you all isn't it? But I've tried to understand this issue many times and I'll never be able to view it as a just a preference and to me, comparing skin colour and height is completely different. I don't see the need for it to be stated.

Why can't you just say you're not attracted to them when both parties connect? Why do people have to make it about skin colour?

If I don’t find someone attractive why would I want to waste their time? Personally I smoke and a lot of people won’t meet smokers, everyone has their own preferences whatever that maybe, I have a lot of friends of various backgrounds, not everyone you meet will want to engage sexually. I’d much rather be upfront

And as I mentioned above height has evolutionary context as to whats attractive.

People don’t meet smokers because they don’t like the smell.

What is it specifically about race that makes people say no to an entire swathe of the planets population?"

For me race is irrelevant, If I haven’t come across someone that I find attractive by now I would doubt that’s ever going to change and I would rather be upfront than mislead someone. This is a fab site literally and there is something for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

At what point does people such as myself questioning, not berating or accusing or being negative towards, people using the statement No blacks/ no Asians, imply I think you should fuck people you don't want to?

Nobody is saying that.

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By *ackformore100Man  over a year ago

Tin town


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like? "

Think your putting words in their mouth now. Which isn't really very fair.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like?

Why don’t you give me a chance?

Why are you not interested in me ?

The point of my post is to highlight to you , that you are doing the same thing single men do when you reply “ No thank you “

People are here to connect with people, not explain themselves.....

I’m not trying to be rude , it’s just that you can’t have it both ways....

I'm not trying to force anyone to change their views or dictate who fucks who. If you're happy and others are and all parties involved don’t have an issue then that's fine for you all isn't it? But I've tried to understand this issue many times and I'll never be able to view it as a just a preference and to me, comparing skin colour and height is completely different. I don't see the need for it to be stated.

Why can't you just say you're not attracted to them when both parties connect? Why do people have to make it about skin colour?

If I don’t find someone attractive why would I want to waste their time? Personally I smoke and a lot of people won’t meet smokers, everyone has their own preferences whatever that maybe, I have a lot of friends of various backgrounds, not everyone you meet will want to engage sexually. I’d much rather be upfront

And as I mentioned above height has evolutionary context as to whats attractive.

People don’t meet smokers because they don’t like the smell.

What is it specifically about race that makes people say no to an entire swathe of the planets population?"

It's just awful. I'm going to step away now as this is just making me feel frustrated.

It's like people forget about how much discrimination and hatred people of colour face in life, and by writing stupid shit like NO BLACKS you are just singling them into a group like they are less worthy because of the colour of their skin. It's ignorant and sad. And I honestly will never see the point of stating things like this.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"

If I don’t find someone attractive why would I want to waste their time? Personally I smoke and a lot of people won’t meet smokers, everyone has their own preferences whatever that maybe, I have a lot of friends of various backgrounds, not everyone you meet will want to engage sexually. I’d much rather be upfront "

With respect saying ‘no smokers’ does not have the same historic meaning as ‘no black men’. You don’t have to waste anyone’s time, you can reply and meet who you want. But what is gained by using language which can clearly be hurtful and offensive?

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By *ljamMan  over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like?

Why don’t you give me a chance?

Why are you not interested in me ?

The point of my post is to highlight to you , that you are doing the same thing single men do when you reply “ No thank you “

People are here to connect with people, not explain themselves.....

I’m not trying to be rude , it’s just that you can’t have it both ways....

Yet with height there is a biological desire in most women for taller men. Evolution helps us understand taller men were stronger and faster thus better providers as a whole.

I think race should surely have some level of justification. As mentioned above I am not attracted to most black women, for me it’s facial features just dont align with what I find attractive, yet would I be brazen enough to say “no black women” no because Halle Berry and Michelle Obama are both gorgeous

Yep, there's a leap from I generally don't find x people attractive, to I won't entertain any x people. That's the leap of racism, but many fail to acknowledge it for one reason or another.

It might possibly be considered to be racism after considering the context in the world of work and in society. It is NOT racism when it’s my body and my choice of who I want to have sex with. "

"Might possibly" be considered racism in the worlds of work and society?! There's no might or possibly about it... just like openly declaring "no blacks/Asians etc." is signalling to the world that you are summarily judging entire ethnicities based on... wait for it... race! I'm sure there's a word for that.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"At what point does people such as myself questioning, not berating or accusing or being negative towards, people using the statement No blacks/ no Asians, imply I think you should fuck people you don't want to?

Nobody is saying that. "

You are judging. Why do you need to question someone for what they choose to write on their profile? You don’t know their history or reasons. Live and let live. If it doesn’t suit you, block and move on.

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By *partharmonyCouple  over a year ago

Ruislip


"So after seeing a fair amount of mainly female profiles stating "No Black guys" i read a forum post on here from a black guy who was frustrated by it.

The majority of comments defended the womans choice in sexual partner.

(This is the background to my question)

My question is if a male posted on his profile that he wasnt interested in Black women would he get the same defence as the ladies?

(Im in no way judging anybody or anyones personal views my question is to start a healthy discussion)

"

In my experience on the forums, I would say yes they would get the same support.

It's not necessarily very sensible because many guys have difficulty getting conversions going on here even without excluding chunks of the population.

My personal opinion about all this is it's perfectly OK to have such preferences, but it would be better to keep them to yourself. Anybody can just not respond to or politely decline people who don't meet your preferences. That would still give the same outcome but avoid the risk of offence.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


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"Might possibly" be considered racism in the worlds of work and society?! There's no might or possibly about it... just like openly declaring "no blacks/Asians etc." is signalling to the world that you are summarily judging entire ethnicities based on... wait for it... race! I'm sure there's a word for that."

Hi Aljam, can’t message you because of filters but I agree and support all your comments

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"At what point does people such as myself questioning, not berating or accusing or being negative towards, people using the statement No blacks/ no Asians, imply I think you should fuck people you don't want to?

Nobody is saying that.

You are judging. Why do you need to question someone for what they choose to write on their profile? You don’t know their history or reasons. Live and let live. If it doesn’t suit you, block and move on."

You know me, I have an inquiring mind and I'm asking questions based on the debate at hand.

The most common question I ask remains unanswered. Is it cultural or aesthetic reasons that make people write no blacks or asians.

I'm allowed to be intrigued, right? This is the right room for that?

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By *ex-BombsCouple  over a year ago

Flitwick


"At what point does people such as myself questioning, not berating or accusing or being negative towards, people using the statement No blacks/ no Asians, imply I think you should fuck people you don't want to?

Nobody is saying that.

You are judging. Why do you need to question someone for what they choose to write on their profile? You don’t know their history or reasons. Live and let live. If it doesn’t suit you, block and move on.

You know me, I have an inquiring mind and I'm asking questions based on the debate at hand.

The most common question I ask remains unanswered. Is it cultural or aesthetic reasons that make people write no blacks or asians.

I'm allowed to be intrigued, right? This is the right room for that? "

Intrigue is always good! Personally aesthetically

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"At what point does people such as myself questioning, not berating or accusing or being negative towards, people using the statement No blacks/ no Asians, imply I think you should fuck people you don't want to?

Nobody is saying that.

You are judging. Why do you need to question someone for what they choose to write on their profile? You don’t know their history or reasons. Live and let live. If it doesn’t suit you, block and move on.

You know me, I have an inquiring mind and I'm asking questions based on the debate at hand.

The most common question I ask remains unanswered. Is it cultural or aesthetic reasons that make people write no blacks or asians.

I'm allowed to be intrigued, right? This is the right room for that?

Intrigue is always good! Personally aesthetically "

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

When I first joined Fab, I found it really sad that black men had to ask in their opening messages if I was into black guys or not. I didn't realise it was because there are so many profiles on here stating colour preferences.

Once I had a few mixed veri's it soon stopped the need.

Women can pretty much dictate whatever they want as the m:f ratio is so skewed. Men are probably tarring themselves declaring such opinions. Life isn't always fair and fab greatly showcases that.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman  over a year ago

Victoria, London

It's stating a preference up front. Same as we see guys that won't see BBWs. It's fine, we move on, not waste time.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like?

Why don’t you give me a chance?

Why are you not interested in me ?

The point of my post is to highlight to you , that you are doing the same thing single men do when you reply “ No thank you “

People are here to connect with people, not explain themselves.....

I’m not trying to be rude , it’s just that you can’t have it both ways....

I'm not trying to force anyone to change their views or dictate who fucks who. If you're happy and others are and all parties involved don’t have an issue then that's fine for you all isn't it? But I've tried to understand this issue many times and I'll never be able to view it as a just a preference and to me, comparing skin colour and height is completely different. I don't see the need for it to be stated.

Why can't you just say you're not attracted to them when both parties connect? Why do people have to make it about skin colour?

If I don’t find someone attractive why would I want to waste their time? Personally I smoke and a lot of people won’t meet smokers, everyone has their own preferences whatever that maybe, I have a lot of friends of various backgrounds, not everyone you meet will want to engage sexually. I’d much rather be upfront

And as I mentioned above height has evolutionary context as to whats attractive.

People don’t meet smokers because they don’t like the smell.

What is it specifically about race that makes people say no to an entire swathe of the planets population?

It's just awful. I'm going to step away now as this is just making me feel frustrated.

It's like people forget about how much discrimination and hatred people of colour face in life, and by writing stupid shit like NO BLACKS you are just singling them into a group like they are less worthy because of the colour of their skin. It's ignorant and sad. And I honestly will never see the point of stating things like this.

"

These kind of Liberal lefty comments do nothing but create division. They don't educate but just give reason to become tribal and even more fanatical.

Nobody would communicate if they have to abide by not saying something they have a preference or opinion about if they thought it's going to hurt someones feelings. The only thing that's ignorant is not letting someone have their view because it doesn't fit in with your own...

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By *DGF20Man  over a year ago

Dublin

So if someone said not interested into black guys, asians or similar that's mean racismor sexism?

Jesus some people are obviously really bored in lockdown...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I really hate it when people are offended on my behalf......

Why do white people care so much if someone doesn’t want to have sex with me?

Having interracial sex with someone is not the standard of judging racism/prejudice in people...

Employment opportunities for black/Asians and housing discrimination against black/Asians is a better litmus test of society’s and people’s racism/prejudices......

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By *ljamMan  over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like?

Why don’t you give me a chance?

Why are you not interested in me ?

The point of my post is to highlight to you , that you are doing the same thing single men do when you reply “ No thank you “

People are here to connect with people, not explain themselves.....

I’m not trying to be rude , it’s just that you can’t have it both ways....

I'm not trying to force anyone to change their views or dictate who fucks who. If you're happy and others are and all parties involved don’t have an issue then that's fine for you all isn't it? But I've tried to understand this issue many times and I'll never be able to view it as a just a preference and to me, comparing skin colour and height is completely different. I don't see the need for it to be stated.

Why can't you just say you're not attracted to them when both parties connect? Why do people have to make it about skin colour?

If I don’t find someone attractive why would I want to waste their time? Personally I smoke and a lot of people won’t meet smokers, everyone has their own preferences whatever that maybe, I have a lot of friends of various backgrounds, not everyone you meet will want to engage sexually. I’d much rather be upfront

And as I mentioned above height has evolutionary context as to whats attractive.

People don’t meet smokers because they don’t like the smell.

What is it specifically about race that makes people say no to an entire swathe of the planets population?

It's just awful. I'm going to step away now as this is just making me feel frustrated.

It's like people forget about how much discrimination and hatred people of colour face in life, and by writing stupid shit like NO BLACKS you are just singling them into a group like they are less worthy because of the colour of their skin. It's ignorant and sad. And I honestly will never see the point of stating things like this.

These kind of Liberal lefty comments do nothing but create division. They don't educate but just give reason to become tribal and even more fanatical.

Nobody would communicate if they have to abide by not saying something they have a preference or opinion about if they thought it's going to hurt someones feelings. The only thing that's ignorant is not letting someone have their view because it doesn't fit in with your own..."

As soon as someone uses the term liberal lefty unironically you know they're going to come up with some absolute nonsense. So it has borne out.

You don't think going out of your way to illustrate race as a defining criteria for sexual attraction isn't divisive? Then there's not a lot of hope for any reasonable communication in the first place. As for your views, of course you're free to hold them and express them. I'm free to call them how I see them... and as you might imagine, your feelings of offense or otherwise matter very little.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like?

Why don’t you give me a chance?

Why are you not interested in me ?

The point of my post is to highlight to you , that you are doing the same thing single men do when you reply “ No thank you “

People are here to connect with people, not explain themselves.....

I’m not trying to be rude , it’s just that you can’t have it both ways....

I'm not trying to force anyone to change their views or dictate who fucks who. If you're happy and others are and all parties involved don’t have an issue then that's fine for you all isn't it? But I've tried to understand this issue many times and I'll never be able to view it as a just a preference and to me, comparing skin colour and height is completely different. I don't see the need for it to be stated.

Why can't you just say you're not attracted to them when both parties connect? Why do people have to make it about skin colour?

If I don’t find someone attractive why would I want to waste their time? Personally I smoke and a lot of people won’t meet smokers, everyone has their own preferences whatever that maybe, I have a lot of friends of various backgrounds, not everyone you meet will want to engage sexually. I’d much rather be upfront

And as I mentioned above height has evolutionary context as to whats attractive.

People don’t meet smokers because they don’t like the smell.

What is it specifically about race that makes people say no to an entire swathe of the planets population?

It's just awful. I'm going to step away now as this is just making me feel frustrated.

It's like people forget about how much discrimination and hatred people of colour face in life, and by writing stupid shit like NO BLACKS you are just singling them into a group like they are less worthy because of the colour of their skin. It's ignorant and sad. And I honestly will never see the point of stating things like this.

These kind of Liberal lefty comments do nothing but create division. They don't educate but just give reason to become tribal and even more fanatical.

Nobody would communicate if they have to abide by not saying something they have a preference or opinion about if they thought it's going to hurt someones feelings. The only thing that's ignorant is not letting someone have their view because it doesn't fit in with your own..."

These kind of narrow minded righty comments do nothing but create division. They don't educate but just give reason to become tribal and even more fanatical.

Nobody would question peoples views if they have to abide by saying something they have a preference or opinion about if they thought it's going to hurt someones feelings without having any logical reasoning .

The only thing that's ignorant is not having any idea why you do or don’t prefer something

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Probably not. Men are treated very differently than women on fab.

I've never understood why people need to express this particular preference, surely you can tell from photos "

This. .

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By *ate_BMan  over a year ago

London

I don't get the 'No black guys' thing because there're a lot of non-black women that have a preference for black guys. I dunno, maybe living in London reflects my view better.

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By *ljamMan  over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I really hate it when people are offended on my behalf......

Why do white people care so much if someone doesn’t want to have sex with me?

Having interracial sex with someone is not the standard of judging racism/prejudice in people...

Employment opportunities for black/Asians and housing discrimination against black/Asians is a better litmus test of society’s and people’s racism/prejudices......"

I really don't give a flying fuck about the people you have sex with, but I do care about the society and culture I live in and I don't like ignorance or racism or stupidity or any combination of the three from any quarter. This post is today's topic for discussion so I'm pitching in. If the discussion is about another issue then I'll have my say on that too.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I look at it perhaps differently, a person could have 50% of his or her family and friend group black and asians and be perfectly happy and love them all but sexually might not in fact be turned on by blacks or asians. Does this mean that they are wrong, when looking for just a sexual encounter, not to want meet those groups full stop? Is that actually racist or is it a sexual preference?

Personally I see absolutely no need to have ever put any preferences or dislikes on my profile because I can easily just make an informed choice at the time of contact! No ism/preference quandary and noone upset!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I look at it perhaps differently, a person could have 50% of his or her family and friend group black and asians and be perfectly happy and love them all but sexually might not in fact be turned on by blacks or asians. Does this mean that they are wrong, when looking for just a sexual encounter, not to want meet those groups full stop? Is that actually racist or is it a sexual preference?

Personally I see absolutely no need to have ever put any preferences or dislikes on my profile because I can easily just make an informed choice at the time of contact! No ism/preference quandary and noone upset! "

With great legs comes great wisdom

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I look at it perhaps differently, a person could have 50% of his or her family and friend group black and asians and be perfectly happy and love them all but sexually might not in fact be turned on by blacks or asians. Does this mean that they are wrong, when looking for just a sexual encounter, not to want meet those groups full stop? Is that actually racist or is it a sexual preference?

Personally I see absolutely no need to have ever put any preferences or dislikes on my profile because I can easily just make an informed choice at the time of contact! No ism/preference quandary and noone upset!

With great legs comes great wisdom

"

Thanks! Hahahahahahahaha

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By *innie The MinxWoman  over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"My feeling is it's at best incredibly shallow and at worst racist. Broadcasting your blanket dismissal of an entire race... that does smell like racism to me. Calling it preference all day long doesn't change that either. It's also narrow-minded and self-limiting... who knows, best fuck of your life could be from the *insert race here* person you haven't met yet."

Agreed.

I very very rarely fancy blonde men.

I'd never put "no blonde men" on my profile because a) it would be shallow and unnecessary and b) I might well miss out on someone wonderful.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I really hate it when people are offended on my behalf......

Why do white people care so much if someone doesn’t want to have sex with me?

Having interracial sex with someone is not the standard of judging racism/prejudice in people...

Employment opportunities for black/Asians and housing discrimination against black/Asians is a better litmus test of society’s and people’s racism/prejudices......

I really don't give a flying fuck about the people you have sex with, but I do care about the society and culture I live in and I don't like ignorance or racism or stupidity or any combination of the three from any quarter. This post is today's topic for discussion so I'm pitching in. If the discussion is about another issue then I'll have my say on that too."

You obviously do give a flying fuck as you answered it straight away and then took to defending your right to answer

I dont really understand what the fuck someone's profile and who they will or won't have sex with is anyone else's business. Same as people who won't fuck fatties, slims, gingers....etc.

If you don't like it, report it and let admin decide what is or isn't appropriate, instead of stamping feet and demanding your opinion or fact is the right one.

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By *ackformore100Man  over a year ago

Tin town


"My feeling is it's at best incredibly shallow and at worst racist. Broadcasting your blanket dismissal of an entire race... that does smell like racism to me. Calling it preference all day long doesn't change that either. It's also narrow-minded and self-limiting... who knows, best fuck of your life could be from the *insert race here* person you haven't met yet.

Agreed.

I very very rarely fancy blonde men.

I'd never put "no blonde men" on my profile because a) it would be shallow and unnecessary and b) I might well miss out on someone wonderful.

"

And if that works for you.. That's great. Other people may prefer to say different things on their profiles.

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By *emini ManMan  over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I see this has descended into the usual circular "is it an ism" debate about preferences rather than what the OP was actually asking which was whether a guy expressing a particular preference would be answered any differently from a woman expressing the same preference.

Personally I would hope not, but sadly it probably would - that said I think women/couples tend to state preferences for who they *won't* meet as a means to deflect unwanted messages which explains why it's more commonly seen on women's/couples profiles than it might be on men's, even if it *is* expressed in poor terms.

Could those preferences be expressed better or differently? Of course they could and should be, but part of the underlying problem comes down to the fact they are forced to have a *need* to express them by the unwanted/abusive messages in the first place, regardless of what the preference might be, so it just ends up being a perpetual cycle, of vile messages driving ranty and "won't meet x, y, z" preferences.

I'm not even entering the "is it an ism?" debate as that is one that there will never be agreement on - the truth probably lies somewhere in the middle of the two extremes that always form the focus of the discussion, with neither side ever seeing the other's perspective.

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By *ornucopiaMan  over a year ago

Bexley

The subject puts me in mind of those 1960s

bedsit landlords' cards.

Has 'No DSS' ever appeared on a Fab profile?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like?

Why don’t you give me a chance?

Why are you not interested in me ?

The point of my post is to highlight to you , that you are doing the same thing single men do when you reply “ No thank you “

People are here to connect with people, not explain themselves.....

I’m not trying to be rude , it’s just that you can’t have it both ways....

I'm not trying to force anyone to change their views or dictate who fucks who. If you're happy and others are and all parties involved don’t have an issue then that's fine for you all isn't it? But I've tried to understand this issue many times and I'll never be able to view it as a just a preference and to me, comparing skin colour and height is completely different. I don't see the need for it to be stated.

Why can't you just say you're not attracted to them when both parties connect? Why do people have to make it about skin colour? "

Why are you not attracted to men over 80? Have you ruled them all out?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Its just an individuals preference. I see women's profiles that state "black men only". Its not racist it is what people are attracted to, thats what we're all here for after all. Everyone's entitled to their own personal choice, thats what makes us all different. Dont get hung up on it!!!

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By *ljamMan  over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I really hate it when people are offended on my behalf......

Why do white people care so much if someone doesn’t want to have sex with me?

Having interracial sex with someone is not the standard of judging racism/prejudice in people...

Employment opportunities for black/Asians and housing discrimination against black/Asians is a better litmus test of society’s and people’s racism/prejudices......

I really don't give a flying fuck about the people you have sex with, but I do care about the society and culture I live in and I don't like ignorance or racism or stupidity or any combination of the three from any quarter. This post is today's topic for discussion so I'm pitching in. If the discussion is about another issue then I'll have my say on that too.

You obviously do give a flying fuck as you answered it straight away and then took to defending your right to answer

I dont really understand what the fuck someone's profile and who they will or won't have sex with is anyone else's business. Same as people who won't fuck fatties, slims, gingers....etc.

If you don't like it, report it and let admin decide what is or isn't appropriate, instead of stamping feet and demanding your opinion or fact is the right one. "

I think you're failing to understand my post. I don't care about his, or anyone's, shagging individually. My point is about the general principle, which is what this whole conversation has been about... but thanks for your reply

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

It's a waste of breath trying to explain to people that put why putting a statement like 'no blacks or Asians'

is offensive

It's like trying to explain to a toddler with no filter not to point at the disabled lady on the bus.

To be fair the toddler would actually learn from this - but by the time someone is an adult it's too late.

No one is asking anyone to fuck anyone they don't find attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I look at it perhaps differently, a person could have 50% of his or her family and friend group black and asians and be perfectly happy and love them all but sexually might not in fact be turned on by blacks or asians. Does this mean that they are wrong, when looking for just a sexual encounter, not to want meet those groups full stop? Is that actually racist or is it a sexual preference?

***Personally I see absolutely no need to have ever put any preferences or dislikes on my profile because I can easily just make an informed choice at the time of contact! No ism/preference quandary and noone upset! ***"

Especially ***

Negativity is a turn off for me. If someone's profile says something like

No fatties

No black people

No gingers

No oldies

No dwarves

No sticks

Etc

It puts me off whether I'm in the groups they mention or not.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Again, people mention preference, well a preference is that it’s not a hard no xxx, yet people treat it as a hard no xxx, so again I will explain ( and gingers as mentioned above by someone proves my point)

Age as a preference has a logic to it with ‘verility’ (plus you werent always that age)

Height as a preference is linked to our evolution

Non or smokers as a preference to it has logic due to smell or preference to smell

Gingers ( we got there!) has a social stigma to it

So what is it about race that makes people think it is ok to say no *insert race*

I would say those who say no* insert race* would view it as the gingers scenario above

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By *oan of DArcCouple  over a year ago

Glasgow


"I look at it perhaps differently, a person could have 50% of his or her family and friend group black and asians and be perfectly happy and love them all but sexually might not in fact be turned on by blacks or asians. Does this mean that they are wrong, when looking for just a sexual encounter, not to want meet those groups full stop? Is that actually racist or is it a sexual preference?

Personally I see absolutely no need to have ever put any preferences or dislikes on my profile because I can easily just make an informed choice at the time of contact! No ism/preference quandary and noone upset! "

Indeed, quite true.

I've wondered why the site doesn't enable ethnicity filters so people can screen out others of a particular race without resorting to often crass statements non their profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I really hate it when people are offended on my behalf......

Why do white people care so much if someone doesn’t want to have sex with me?

Having interracial sex with someone is not the standard of judging racism/prejudice in people...

Employment opportunities for black/Asians and housing discrimination against black/Asians is a better litmus test of society’s and people’s racism/prejudices......"

I completely agree, but it is almost impossible to get white people to understand this so I stopped trying on these kinds of posts. I find being told what I should or shouldn't be offended by offensive in itself. Just reading through the above posts shows quite clearly that the majority of people of colour who have responded aren't bothered by it, it's the white folk that get angry on my behalf who make us all seem petty and pedantic. We're really not - please treat us as equals

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I really hate it when people are offended on my behalf......

Why do white people care so much if someone doesn’t want to have sex with me?

Having interracial sex with someone is not the standard of judging racism/prejudice in people...

Employment opportunities for black/Asians and housing discrimination against black/Asians is a better litmus test of society’s and people’s racism/prejudices......

I completely agree, but it is almost impossible to get white people to understand this so I stopped trying on these kinds of posts. I find being told what I should or shouldn't be offended by offensive in itself. Just reading through the above posts shows quite clearly that the majority of people of colour who have responded aren't bothered by it, it's the white folk that get angry on my behalf who make us all seem petty and pedantic. We're really not - please treat us as equals "

Thank you and totally agree.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I really hate it when people are offended on my behalf......

Why do white people care so much if someone doesn’t want to have sex with me?

Having interracial sex with someone is not the standard of judging racism/prejudice in people...

Employment opportunities for black/Asians and housing discrimination against black/Asians is a better litmus test of society’s and people’s racism/prejudices......

I really don't give a flying fuck about the people you have sex with, but I do care about the society and culture I live in and I don't like ignorance or racism or stupidity or any combination of the three from any quarter. This post is today's topic for discussion so I'm pitching in. If the discussion is about another issue then I'll have my say on that too.

You obviously do give a flying fuck as you answered it straight away and then took to defending your right to answer

I dont really understand what the fuck someone's profile and who they will or won't have sex with is anyone else's business. Same as people who won't fuck fatties, slims, gingers....etc.

If you don't like it, report it and let admin decide what is or isn't appropriate, instead of stamping feet and demanding your opinion or fact is the right one.

I think you're failing to understand my post. I don't care about his, or anyone's, shagging individually. My point is about the general principle, which is what this whole conversation has been about... but thanks for your reply "

So what if they put....'sorry, but black and Asian men aren't for me, so please dont contact' on their profile.

Is that racist?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I really hate it when people are offended on my behalf......

Why do white people care so much if someone doesn’t want to have sex with me?

Having interracial sex with someone is not the standard of judging racism/prejudice in people...

Employment opportunities for black/Asians and housing discrimination against black/Asians is a better litmus test of society’s and people’s racism/prejudices......

I really don't give a flying fuck about the people you have sex with, but I do care about the society and culture I live in and I don't like ignorance or racism or stupidity or any combination of the three from any quarter. This post is today's topic for discussion so I'm pitching in. If the discussion is about another issue then I'll have my say on that too.

You obviously do give a flying fuck as you answered it straight away and then took to defending your right to answer

I dont really understand what the fuck someone's profile and who they will or won't have sex with is anyone else's business. Same as people who won't fuck fatties, slims, gingers....etc.

If you don't like it, report it and let admin decide what is or isn't appropriate, instead of stamping feet and demanding your opinion or fact is the right one.

I think you're failing to understand my post. I don't care about his, or anyone's, shagging individually. My point is about the general principle, which is what this whole conversation has been about... but thanks for your reply

So what if they put....'sorry, but black and Asian men aren't for me, so please dont contact' on their profile.

Is that racist? "

. Again to that I say what I said above (copied and pasted)

Again, people mention preference, well a preference is that it’s not a hard no xxx, yet people treat it as a hard no xxx, so again I will explain ( and gingers as mentioned above by someone proves my point)

Age as a preference has a logic to it with ‘verility’ (plus you werent always that age)

Height as a preference is linked to our evolution

Non or smokers as a preference to it has logic due to smell or preference to smell

Gingers ( we got there!) has a social stigma to it

So what is it about race that makes people think it is ok to say no *insert race*

I would say those who say no* insert race* would view it as the gingers scenario above

So what exactly is the reasoning behind “no blacks/asians?”

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By *ljamMan  over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I really hate it when people are offended on my behalf......

Why do white people care so much if someone doesn’t want to have sex with me?

Having interracial sex with someone is not the standard of judging racism/prejudice in people...

Employment opportunities for black/Asians and housing discrimination against black/Asians is a better litmus test of society’s and people’s racism/prejudices......

I really don't give a flying fuck about the people you have sex with, but I do care about the society and culture I live in and I don't like ignorance or racism or stupidity or any combination of the three from any quarter. This post is today's topic for discussion so I'm pitching in. If the discussion is about another issue then I'll have my say on that too.

You obviously do give a flying fuck as you answered it straight away and then took to defending your right to answer

I dont really understand what the fuck someone's profile and who they will or won't have sex with is anyone else's business. Same as people who won't fuck fatties, slims, gingers....etc.

If you don't like it, report it and let admin decide what is or isn't appropriate, instead of stamping feet and demanding your opinion or fact is the right one.

I think you're failing to understand my post. I don't care about his, or anyone's, shagging individually. My point is about the general principle, which is what this whole conversation has been about... but thanks for your reply

So what if they put....'sorry, but black and Asian men aren't for me, so please dont contact' on their profile.

Is that racist? "

Yep.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I really hate it when people are offended on my behalf......

Why do white people care so much if someone doesn’t want to have sex with me?

Having interracial sex with someone is not the standard of judging racism/prejudice in people...

Employment opportunities for black/Asians and housing discrimination against black/Asians is a better litmus test of society’s and people’s racism/prejudices......

I really don't give a flying fuck about the people you have sex with, but I do care about the society and culture I live in and I don't like ignorance or racism or stupidity or any combination of the three from any quarter. This post is today's topic for discussion so I'm pitching in. If the discussion is about another issue then I'll have my say on that too.

You obviously do give a flying fuck as you answered it straight away and then took to defending your right to answer

I dont really understand what the fuck someone's profile and who they will or won't have sex with is anyone else's business. Same as people who won't fuck fatties, slims, gingers....etc.

If you don't like it, report it and let admin decide what is or isn't appropriate, instead of stamping feet and demanding your opinion or fact is the right one.

I think you're failing to understand my post. I don't care about his, or anyone's, shagging individually. My point is about the general principle, which is what this whole conversation has been about... but thanks for your reply

So what if they put....'sorry, but black and Asian men aren't for me, so please dont contact' on their profile.

Is that racist? "

No it isn't. It's polite and to the point. You have the right not to be coerced into having sex with anyone you don't want to, no matter how that coercion is dressed up.

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By *heGateKeeperMan  over a year ago

Stratford

Threads like this make me wish this forum had a more efficient quote function.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I really hate it when people are offended on my behalf......

Why do white people care so much if someone doesn’t want to have sex with me?

Having interracial sex with someone is not the standard of judging racism/prejudice in people...

Employment opportunities for black/Asians and housing discrimination against black/Asians is a better litmus test of society’s and people’s racism/prejudices......

I really don't give a flying fuck about the people you have sex with, but I do care about the society and culture I live in and I don't like ignorance or racism or stupidity or any combination of the three from any quarter. This post is today's topic for discussion so I'm pitching in. If the discussion is about another issue then I'll have my say on that too.

You obviously do give a flying fuck as you answered it straight away and then took to defending your right to answer

I dont really understand what the fuck someone's profile and who they will or won't have sex with is anyone else's business. Same as people who won't fuck fatties, slims, gingers....etc.

If you don't like it, report it and let admin decide what is or isn't appropriate, instead of stamping feet and demanding your opinion or fact is the right one.

I think you're failing to understand my post. I don't care about his, or anyone's, shagging individually. My point is about the general principle, which is what this whole conversation has been about... but thanks for your reply

So what if they put....'sorry, but black and Asian men aren't for me, so please dont contact' on their profile.

Is that racist?

No it isn't. It's polite and to the point. You have the right not to be coerced into having sex with anyone you don't want to, no matter how that coercion is dressed up."

Nobody is forcing anyone to have sex with anyone, but like I said height has a logic to it, age has a logic to it, smoker or non-smoker has a logic to it...

What is the logic behind “no black/asians/gingers”?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

none of this is acceptable at all we should all respect each other

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By *ljamMan  over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I really hate it when people are offended on my behalf......

Why do white people care so much if someone doesn’t want to have sex with me?

Having interracial sex with someone is not the standard of judging racism/prejudice in people...

Employment opportunities for black/Asians and housing discrimination against black/Asians is a better litmus test of society’s and people’s racism/prejudices......

I really don't give a flying fuck about the people you have sex with, but I do care about the society and culture I live in and I don't like ignorance or racism or stupidity or any combination of the three from any quarter. This post is today's topic for discussion so I'm pitching in. If the discussion is about another issue then I'll have my say on that too.

You obviously do give a flying fuck as you answered it straight away and then took to defending your right to answer

I dont really understand what the fuck someone's profile and who they will or won't have sex with is anyone else's business. Same as people who won't fuck fatties, slims, gingers....etc.

If you don't like it, report it and let admin decide what is or isn't appropriate, instead of stamping feet and demanding your opinion or fact is the right one.

I think you're failing to understand my post. I don't care about his, or anyone's, shagging individually. My point is about the general principle, which is what this whole conversation has been about... but thanks for your reply

So what if they put....'sorry, but black and Asian men aren't for me, so please dont contact' on their profile.

Is that racist?

No it isn't. It's polite and to the point. You have the right not to be coerced into having sex with anyone you don't want to, no matter how that coercion is dressed up."

"coerced into having sex"

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I really hate it when people are offended on my behalf......

Why do white people care so much if someone doesn’t want to have sex with me?

Having interracial sex with someone is not the standard of judging racism/prejudice in people...

Employment opportunities for black/Asians and housing discrimination against black/Asians is a better litmus test of society’s and people’s racism/prejudices......

I really don't give a flying fuck about the people you have sex with, but I do care about the society and culture I live in and I don't like ignorance or racism or stupidity or any combination of the three from any quarter. This post is today's topic for discussion so I'm pitching in. If the discussion is about another issue then I'll have my say on that too.

You obviously do give a flying fuck as you answered it straight away and then took to defending your right to answer

I dont really understand what the fuck someone's profile and who they will or won't have sex with is anyone else's business. Same as people who won't fuck fatties, slims, gingers....etc.

If you don't like it, report it and let admin decide what is or isn't appropriate, instead of stamping feet and demanding your opinion or fact is the right one.

I think you're failing to understand my post. I don't care about his, or anyone's, shagging individually. My point is about the general principle, which is what this whole conversation has been about... but thanks for your reply

So what if they put....'sorry, but black and Asian men aren't for me, so please dont contact' on their profile.

Is that racist?

No it isn't. It's polite and to the point. You have the right not to be coerced into having sex with anyone you don't want to, no matter how that coercion is dressed up.

Nobody is forcing anyone to have sex with anyone, but like I said height has a logic to it, age has a logic to it, smoker or non-smoker has a logic to it...

What is the logic behind “no black/asians/gingers”?"

Because on the whole they don't find them attractive? Or have had a bad experience in the past?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I really hate it when people are offended on my behalf......

Why do white people care so much if someone doesn’t want to have sex with me?

Having interracial sex with someone is not the standard of judging racism/prejudice in people...

Employment opportunities for black/Asians and housing discrimination against black/Asians is a better litmus test of society’s and people’s racism/prejudices......

I really don't give a flying fuck about the people you have sex with, but I do care about the society and culture I live in and I don't like ignorance or racism or stupidity or any combination of the three from any quarter. This post is today's topic for discussion so I'm pitching in. If the discussion is about another issue then I'll have my say on that too.

You obviously do give a flying fuck as you answered it straight away and then took to defending your right to answer

I dont really understand what the fuck someone's profile and who they will or won't have sex with is anyone else's business. Same as people who won't fuck fatties, slims, gingers....etc.

If you don't like it, report it and let admin decide what is or isn't appropriate, instead of stamping feet and demanding your opinion or fact is the right one.

I think you're failing to understand my post. I don't care about his, or anyone's, shagging individually. My point is about the general principle, which is what this whole conversation has been about... but thanks for your reply

So what if they put....'sorry, but black and Asian men aren't for me, so please dont contact' on their profile.

Is that racist?

No it isn't. It's polite and to the point. You have the right not to be coerced into having sex with anyone you don't want to, no matter how that coercion is dressed up."

From this brown skinned woman’s POV, no it’s not racist, just shows me who I shouldn’t waste my time on.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I really hate it when people are offended on my behalf......

Why do white people care so much if someone doesn’t want to have sex with me?

Having interracial sex with someone is not the standard of judging racism/prejudice in people...

Employment opportunities for black/Asians and housing discrimination against black/Asians is a better litmus test of society’s and people’s racism/prejudices......

I really don't give a flying fuck about the people you have sex with, but I do care about the society and culture I live in and I don't like ignorance or racism or stupidity or any combination of the three from any quarter. This post is today's topic for discussion so I'm pitching in. If the discussion is about another issue then I'll have my say on that too.

You obviously do give a flying fuck as you answered it straight away and then took to defending your right to answer

I dont really understand what the fuck someone's profile and who they will or won't have sex with is anyone else's business. Same as people who won't fuck fatties, slims, gingers....etc.

If you don't like it, report it and let admin decide what is or isn't appropriate, instead of stamping feet and demanding your opinion or fact is the right one.

I think you're failing to understand my post. I don't care about his, or anyone's, shagging individually. My point is about the general principle, which is what this whole conversation has been about... but thanks for your reply

So what if they put....'sorry, but black and Asian men aren't for me, so please dont contact' on their profile.

Is that racist?

Yep."

So what about people who put no fat people on their profile? Is that something kind of Ist?

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By *heGateKeeperMan  over a year ago

Stratford

Maybe I’m misinterpreting some of the comments but i feel as though the issue is less about opening up your body to have sex with black, white, asian people and more about opening up your mind to not removing those people as options for whatever reasons you might have.

We absolutely have the right to refuse to have sex with whoever we chose, but why anyone would disregard a whole race, ethnicity, culture from their menu is a mindset I don’t personally understand

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By *reatformeatWoman  over a year ago

my own bubble


"Maybe I’m misinterpreting some of the comments but i feel as though the issue is less about opening up your body to have sex with black, white, asian people and more about opening up your mind to not removing those people as options for whatever reasons you might have.

We absolutely have the right to refuse to have sex with whoever we chose, but why anyone would disregard a whole race, ethnicity, culture from their menu is a mindset I don’t personally understand "

Maybe people don’t find a particular race attractive

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Maybe I’m misinterpreting some of the comments but i feel as though the issue is less about opening up your body to have sex with black, white, asian people and more about opening up your mind to not removing those people as options for whatever reasons you might have.

We absolutely have the right to refuse to have sex with whoever we chose, but why anyone would disregard a whole race, ethnicity, culture from their menu is a mindset I don’t personally understand "

I agree, but surely if that is what you choose to do then that is up to them.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman  over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I really hate it when people are offended on my behalf......

Why do white people care so much if someone doesn’t want to have sex with me?

Having interracial sex with someone is not the standard of judging racism/prejudice in people...

Employment opportunities for black/Asians and housing discrimination against black/Asians is a better litmus test of society’s and people’s racism/prejudices......"

What a lovely well worn cliche!

I didn't comment because I thought you were offended.

I don't care if people don't want to have sex with you or if they want to shag your brains out.

A question was asked. I gave my thoughts. Not everything is about you and yours.

I live in this society too.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I really hate it when people are offended on my behalf......

Why do white people care so much if someone doesn’t want to have sex with me?

Having interracial sex with someone is not the standard of judging racism/prejudice in people...

Employment opportunities for black/Asians and housing discrimination against black/Asians is a better litmus test of society’s and people’s racism/prejudices......

I really don't give a flying fuck about the people you have sex with, but I do care about the society and culture I live in and I don't like ignorance or racism or stupidity or any combination of the three from any quarter. This post is today's topic for discussion so I'm pitching in. If the discussion is about another issue then I'll have my say on that too.

You obviously do give a flying fuck as you answered it straight away and then took to defending your right to answer

I dont really understand what the fuck someone's profile and who they will or won't have sex with is anyone else's business. Same as people who won't fuck fatties, slims, gingers....etc.

If you don't like it, report it and let admin decide what is or isn't appropriate, instead of stamping feet and demanding your opinion or fact is the right one.

I think you're failing to understand my post. I don't care about his, or anyone's, shagging individually. My point is about the general principle, which is what this whole conversation has been about... but thanks for your reply

So what if they put....'sorry, but black and Asian men aren't for me, so please dont contact' on their profile.

Is that racist?

No it isn't. It's polite and to the point. You have the right not to be coerced into having sex with anyone you don't want to, no matter how that coercion is dressed up.

Nobody is forcing anyone to have sex with anyone, but like I said height has a logic to it, age has a logic to it, smoker or non-smoker has a logic to it...

What is the logic behind “no black/asians/gingers”?"

I've always thought of sex as a bit like eating food. For many, the meal has to be visually appealing to the individual as well as tasty. Forcing people to consider choices on a menu with foodstuffs that they already know they won't like is illogical and insulting to the diner. You don't go into a vegan restaurant if you're in the mood for a steak

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By *heGateKeeperMan  over a year ago

Stratford


"Maybe I’m misinterpreting some of the comments but i feel as though the issue is less about opening up your body to have sex with black, white, asian people and more about opening up your mind to not removing those people as options for whatever reasons you might have.

We absolutely have the right to refuse to have sex with whoever we chose, but why anyone would disregard a whole race, ethnicity, culture from their menu is a mindset I don’t personally understand

I agree, but surely if that is what you choose to do then that is up to them. "

I agree as I said everyone has the right to chose or refuse who they have sex with or advertise for on here. Some of the reasons I see, I personally find baffling. It’s simply a mindset that i don’t think I will ever understand or agree with

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By *ljamMan  over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I really hate it when people are offended on my behalf......

Why do white people care so much if someone doesn’t want to have sex with me?

Having interracial sex with someone is not the standard of judging racism/prejudice in people...

Employment opportunities for black/Asians and housing discrimination against black/Asians is a better litmus test of society’s and people’s racism/prejudices......

I really don't give a flying fuck about the people you have sex with, but I do care about the society and culture I live in and I don't like ignorance or racism or stupidity or any combination of the three from any quarter. This post is today's topic for discussion so I'm pitching in. If the discussion is about another issue then I'll have my say on that too.

You obviously do give a flying fuck as you answered it straight away and then took to defending your right to answer

I dont really understand what the fuck someone's profile and who they will or won't have sex with is anyone else's business. Same as people who won't fuck fatties, slims, gingers....etc.

If you don't like it, report it and let admin decide what is or isn't appropriate, instead of stamping feet and demanding your opinion or fact is the right one.

I think you're failing to understand my post. I don't care about his, or anyone's, shagging individually. My point is about the general principle, which is what this whole conversation has been about... but thanks for your reply

So what if they put....'sorry, but black and Asian men aren't for me, so please dont contact' on their profile.

Is that racist?

Yep.

So what about people who put no fat people on their profile? Is that something kind of Ist?"

Go start a post about that and we can discuss it there. This one is about racism.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I really hate it when people are offended on my behalf......

Why do white people care so much if someone doesn’t want to have sex with me?

Having interracial sex with someone is not the standard of judging racism/prejudice in people...

Employment opportunities for black/Asians and housing discrimination against black/Asians is a better litmus test of society’s and people’s racism/prejudices......

What a lovely well worn cliche!

I didn't comment because I thought you were offended.

I don't care if people don't want to have sex with you or if they want to shag your brains out.

A question was asked. I gave my thoughts. Not everything is about you and yours.

I live in this society too. "

And dont we all know it hey? Haha

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I really hate it when people are offended on my behalf......

Why do white people care so much if someone doesn’t want to have sex with me?

Having interracial sex with someone is not the standard of judging racism/prejudice in people...

Employment opportunities for black/Asians and housing discrimination against black/Asians is a better litmus test of society’s and people’s racism/prejudices......

I really don't give a flying fuck about the people you have sex with, but I do care about the society and culture I live in and I don't like ignorance or racism or stupidity or any combination of the three from any quarter. This post is today's topic for discussion so I'm pitching in. If the discussion is about another issue then I'll have my say on that too.

You obviously do give a flying fuck as you answered it straight away and then took to defending your right to answer

I dont really understand what the fuck someone's profile and who they will or won't have sex with is anyone else's business. Same as people who won't fuck fatties, slims, gingers....etc.

If you don't like it, report it and let admin decide what is or isn't appropriate, instead of stamping feet and demanding your opinion or fact is the right one.

I think you're failing to understand my post. I don't care about his, or anyone's, shagging individually. My point is about the general principle, which is what this whole conversation has been about... but thanks for your reply

So what if they put....'sorry, but black and Asian men aren't for me, so please dont contact' on their profile.

Is that racist?

Yep.

So what about people who put no fat people on their profile? Is that something kind of Ist?

Go start a post about that and we can discuss it there. This one is about racism."

and sexism going by the thread title

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I really hate it when people are offended on my behalf......

Why do white people care so much if someone doesn’t want to have sex with me?

Having interracial sex with someone is not the standard of judging racism/prejudice in people...

Employment opportunities for black/Asians and housing discrimination against black/Asians is a better litmus test of society’s and people’s racism/prejudices......

I really don't give a flying fuck about the people you have sex with, but I do care about the society and culture I live in and I don't like ignorance or racism or stupidity or any combination of the three from any quarter. This post is today's topic for discussion so I'm pitching in. If the discussion is about another issue then I'll have my say on that too.

You obviously do give a flying fuck as you answered it straight away and then took to defending your right to answer

I dont really understand what the fuck someone's profile and who they will or won't have sex with is anyone else's business. Same as people who won't fuck fatties, slims, gingers....etc.

If you don't like it, report it and let admin decide what is or isn't appropriate, instead of stamping feet and demanding your opinion or fact is the right one.

I think you're failing to understand my post. I don't care about his, or anyone's, shagging individually. My point is about the general principle, which is what this whole conversation has been about... but thanks for your reply

So what if they put....'sorry, but black and Asian men aren't for me, so please dont contact' on their profile.

Is that racist?

No it isn't. It's polite and to the point. You have the right not to be coerced into having sex with anyone you don't want to, no matter how that coercion is dressed up.

Nobody is forcing anyone to have sex with anyone, but like I said height has a logic to it, age has a logic to it, smoker or non-smoker has a logic to it...

What is the logic behind “no black/asians/gingers”?

Because on the whole they don't find them attractive? Or have had a bad experience in the past?

"

But by saying it on your profile in that way tells me that you cant see the difference between Angela Merkel and Holly Willoughby or between Tyrrana Burke (founder of me too) and Beyonce... so that would surely be racist as you class people of one group as homogenous?

A bad experience I kind of get, but again you can’t class everyone together on the basis of one persons actions, if we did the world would hate Germans forever (hitler) which isn’t true because all the Germans I have met are awesome!

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By *stbury DavenportMan  over a year ago

Nottingham


"The subject puts me in mind of those 1960s

bedsit landlords' cards.

Has 'No DSS' ever appeared on a Fab profile?"

I once saw a Tinder profile that explicitly excluded anyone who uses public transport, because there's "something wrong" with them.

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By *iscreetfuncpl12Couple  over a year ago

Somerset


"Purely down to personal preference whether the profile is a male/female or couples is irrelevant, I personally (Mrs) don’t find Asian men attractive and that’s simply my preference. Sexual choice is very much each to their own.

What is it about every single Asian man you don't find attractive? I'm genuinely curious.

And the same to those who aren't attracted to black skin. What is it about every black person that you don't like?

And what does ‘Asian’ even mean ? It covers billions of people from India to Korea to Indonesia to China and plenty in between, plus those of mixed Asian heritage.

If someone says they prefer tall or thin people I know what this means, with ‘black’ or ‘Asian’ I have no idea and suspect the worst."

For the avoidance of doubt, I will preface this by saying we have preferences, but they are not based on race.

In any other country but the UK it would be fair to say, defining someone as Asian tells you virtually nothing. However, uniquely in the UK, the term Asian is generally accepted to refer to people of South Asian heritage. So much so that the BBC even chose to name a radio station catering for that demographic, the BBC Asian Network, safe in the knowledge that its core audience would recognise it was aimed at them. This strange reduction of Asia to one of its constituent parts in the UK is confusing to non UK Asians. A friend teaching Thailand many years ago, had to reassure his students that they would unlikely to be the targets of racially motivated violence in the UK. This was after they expressed concerns after reading newspaper reports of confrontations between White and Asian groups of youths in the UK.

That is a very long winded way of saying I think people in the UK have a fairly well accepted idea of what Asian means, if someone was described as such.

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By *heGateKeeperMan  over a year ago

Stratford


"Maybe I’m misinterpreting some of the comments but i feel as though the issue is less about opening up your body to have sex with black, white, asian people and more about opening up your mind to not removing those people as options for whatever reasons you might have.

We absolutely have the right to refuse to have sex with whoever we chose, but why anyone would disregard a whole race, ethnicity, culture from their menu is a mindset I don’t personally understand

Maybe people don’t find a particular race attractive "

Again I find that odd. Maybe it’s my personality, maybe it’s my upbringing. With almost 8 billion people in the world I’m sure I can find beauty or attraction in a variety (I’m loathed to say all) of races, ethnicities and cultures. That’s just my view

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By *naswingdressWoman  over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I feel the same way no matter who says things like that. They are not someone I'll get along with.

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By *ackformore100Man  over a year ago

Tin town


"So after seeing a fair amount of mainly female profiles stating "No Black guys" i read a forum post on here from a black guy who was frustrated by it.

The majority of comments defended the womans choice in sexual partner.

(This is the background to my question)

My question is if a male posted on his profile that he wasnt interested in Black women would he get the same defence as the ladies?

(Im in no way judging anybody or anyones personal views my question is to start a healthy discussion)

"

So OP, having started the fire, we haven't heard your views yet. What do you think?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Everyone has different tastes, to me as long as you're not disrespectful with regards to ethnicity, body type etc, your preferences are your preferences and that's ok with me.

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By *ornucopiaMan  over a year ago

Bexley


"

I once saw a Tinder profile that explicitly excluded anyone who uses public transport, because there's "something wrong" with them. "

If I were a Tinder dater I would prefer someone who doesn't have a car. They might start turning up uninvited.

Public transport is almost non-existent round here. If I pick them up and take them home I'm in the driving seat!

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By *icolerobbieCouple  over a year ago

walsall


"The subject puts me in mind of those 1960s

bedsit landlords' cards.

Has 'No DSS' ever appeared on a Fab profile?

I once saw a Tinder profile that explicitly excluded anyone who uses public transport, because there's "something wrong" with them. "

Wonder if the pandemic changes that opinion? I would definitely avoid tube commuters at the moment.

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By *emini ManMan  over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


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Go start a post about that and we can discuss it there. This one is about racism."

Actually it's not - it's about whether a man stating that particular preference would get any different a response to a woman stating it, off the back of a thread about a woman with that stated preference in which it being a preference was ok was the majority response.

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By *ornucopiaMan  over a year ago

Bexley


"Threads like this make me wish this forum had a more efficient quote function."

Hear, hear!

I am struggling with some of these multiple quotes to work out exactly which paragraph some people are venting their ire about, when there is no clear indication as to who wrote what unless you go back and do some detective work.

My habit is to only quote the parts to which my response refers. That saves space and avoids confusion and I wish more posters would do the same.

However, the system is clearly the culprit as it really ought to attribute and isolate each quote when it is requoted, Far too many requoted epics look like the work of only one person when, in fact, multiple authors are involved.

I personally have had stick from a quick reactor who assumed I wrote everything above and below my own input to a discussion, due to this glitch.

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