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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you're in the wrong do you 'fess up or do you blag it and no way admit you're in the wrong?
I happily do admit to being in the wrong these days but back in the day no way.
How about you?
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Bit of both if I am honest |
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"If you're in the wrong do you 'fess up or do you blag it and no way admit you're in the wrong?
I happily do admit to being in the wrong these days but back in the day no way.
How about you?
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I used to thing admitting to being wrong was weak, but actually as I’ve got older (grown up maybe?) I think it shows really strength and actually earns respect |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you're in the wrong do you 'fess up or do you blag it and no way admit you're in the wrong?
I happily do admit to being in the wrong these days but back in the day no way.
How about you?
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I got brought up on ..
If you’re right be 100% right
If your wrong be 100% Wrong
No harm or weakness saying you’re wrong |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I'm probably already apologising before I need to, it's a bit of a habit of mine.  So yes, if I'm in the wrong and it's clear I am, I will. Sometimes apologising is more about making me feel better than the recipient of it though and I think that's true for a fair few apologies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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When I’m wrong I have to admit it and need forgiveness so I can put it behind me. Sometimes I may not realise I was wrong at the time but if/ when it dawns on me I’m not too proud to admit Iv been a cunt |
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"If you're in the wrong do you 'fess up or do you blag it and no way admit you're in the wrong?
I happily do admit to being in the wrong these days but back in the day no way.
How about you?
Bit of both if I am honest "
It's an interesting one .And what makes you decide which way to go? |
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Have to own it. It’s the vest way and usually leads to a resolution.
Maybe not the one you want but much better than trying to pass the blame or be defensive. Not always the easy path though and I’ve certainly lost a job because of it before |
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"If you're in the wrong do you 'fess up or do you blag it and no way admit you're in the wrong?
I happily do admit to being in the wrong these days but back in the day no way.
How about you?
I used to thing admitting to being wrong was weak, but actually as I’ve got older (grown up maybe?) I think it shows really strength and actually earns respect "
I agree.Deffo think it takes more balls/vag to admit you're in the wrong than try and blag it. |
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Course I can.... it just never happens.
On a serious note, yeah. I'm an overthinker anyway so it kinda goes hand it hand.
Sometimes I admit I ain't realised someone has taken something I've said the wrong way or I have been thoughtless, sometimes the overthinker side of me asks questions that I have no right to ask really and I overstep the mark. I'd rather they told me so I can put it right. I forget that not everyone is as open as I am. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes, I’m happy to admit I’m wrong, I can’t stand stubborn people, it’s one of the worst traits.
Stubborn is never fun  "
I don’t think being stubborn is necessarily about not admitting you’re wrong, although it can be.
It can also mean being determined to get something done, or not giving up easily. Stubborn people can be hard work but can also make a very positive contribution, in my experience. |
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"In my personal life, fess up.
At work, share the ‘responsibility’. No ‘I’ in team after all  "
Work is another interesting one, you're right.
There can be a whole load of shady dynamics that go on in some workplaces, and sometimes in my experience it doesn't pay to be too open and honest,sadly. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Course I can.... it just never happens.
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That's kind of the mentality of a few though isn't it? I think we can be so focused on our truth and us being right that we lose sight of others having their truths and sometimes we're the villain in their story. I know I have in the past but now I'm at a point where I can say what I've done wrong and own that, even if it doesn't paint me in the best light. |
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Fess up and get on with it...at my last job I made a few small mistakes but it would have been a nightmare if I had tried covering it up. Far easier to own up and rectify it. My old boss said I was a dick head at times but at least an honest dick head |
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"Course I can.... it just never happens.
That's kind of the mentality of a few though isn't it? I think we can be so focused on our truth and us being right that we lose sight of others having their truths and sometimes we're the villain in their story. I know I have in the past but now I'm at a point where I can say what I've done wrong and own that, even if it doesn't paint me in the best light."
Exactly sometimes both are right and other times both wrong, then there's the time it's halfy halfy. Like you say they see their truth and you see your truth.
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"If you're in the wrong do you 'fess up or do you blag it and no way admit you're in the wrong?
I happily do admit to being in the wrong these days but back in the day no way.
How about you?
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Really trying to be honest and authentic... easier and more productive in a social setting... at work, not so much. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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If there's absolutely no question I am wrong and it's an objective thing then no question I hold my hand up to it.
Something more subjective and opinion based however, and if I believe in what I am saying then I'm a stubborn bugger and will stick to my guns unless my opinion is changed to believe otherwise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Quick to hold my hands up and apologise if I am wrong.
Can't stand those who don't, who keep going even when they know they are wrong. Winning is not everything |
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I (Jason) used to be awful for not admittimg I'm wrong. I always knew best and didn't take criticism well. But rhiannons broken that out if me. She's so supportive and understanding she's helped me be more open to being wrong and learning from it |
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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago
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"If you're in the wrong do you 'fess up or do you blag it and no way admit you're in the wrong?
I happily do admit to being in the wrong these days but back in the day no way.
How about you?
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yes if im in the wrong i admit it ,always have done ,always will do x |
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I think for me personally I've noticed before that I post something assuming everyone knows my sense of humour , and (I admit this) forgetting that people who dont use the forums a lot can misconstrue it for a sarcastic dig .
I own up to that and will always apologise if that's the case |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Absolutely, I will always own up and apologise if I've done something wrong. I also expect the same in return, It's not cute being stubborn when your an adult |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I (Jason) used to be awful for not admittimg I'm wrong. I always knew best and didn't take criticism well. But rhiannons broken that out if me. She's so supportive and understanding she's helped me be more open to being wrong and learning from it"
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By (user no longer on site)
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In a discussion, I rarely assume I'm 100% right
Then again, the chances are you aren't either
So, let's meet in the middle
In terms of cocking up at work, get it out there, most bosses are supportive and will work with you to resolve the situation
I apologise quite readily these days, both in & out of work
Do it in person or by phone though
I rarely feel typed apologies come across as genuine
Take time out and mean it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm very happy to admit if I was in the wrong and apologise if needed etc. I think being like this helps you grow as a person and you can walk away from the situation in a positive light. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you're in the wrong do you 'fess up or do you blag it and no way admit you're in the wrong?
I happily do admit to being in the wrong these days but back in the day no way.
How about you?
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Back in the day, no never admitted it,young an probably afraid of what punishment I'd get lol as I got older I've no problem admittin when I'm in the wrong..maturity counts for something I guess.. maybe now I like to be punished lol (ms snoop) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've had to learn to apologise less. I'll always own it if I've messed up, but I used to assume responsibility for other people's fuck-ups too. I'd apologise for basically existing! It was a combination of being taught by tyrannical parents to always be polite and never offend anyone at any cost and feeling a deep discomfort if I thought I'd made a mistake and needing someone to 'forgive' me before moving on, and black-and-white thinking which didn't allow room for more subjective issues and shades of grey.
Fortunately I don't function like that anymore. Yay me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As a youngster I may have fabricated a story or two to get out of trouble but now why waste time and energy. If you’ve messed up just put your hand up and admit it. You’ll be respected much more for it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I openly apologise if it’s clearly a mistake of mine, or be upfront and explain my perspective, I think some people can view things negatively / purposeful when it’s not actually as bad or good as they interpret though.
To be stubborn and pretend things haven’t happened is a sign of immaturity in my eyes, generally, or perhaps lack of self awareness. I’m not particularly judgmental though if people make mistakes I suppose, stubborn behaviour mainly create the most difficulties for themselves, I find. |
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