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Pick someone with experience. You should try to find someone who you know has had some experience hooking up -- even better if you've heard she is great in bed. Since that's what you'll be doing, it's good to have a sense that the person will deliver. It will also help if the person has had some casual flings before, so she is experienced in that department. If the person has only had one relationship and it lasted seven years, he may not be your best bet.
You're not trying to be coy here -- you're looking for a hook-up buddy
Keep it casual. You can hang out with your friend with benefits, but you need to make it clear that it's not a date. For one thing, you should spend more time in bed together than out of it. You can go out for a drink -- but not for dinner , and don't bring your "friend" as a date to a wedding or a part
The joy of a friends with benefits relationship is that you can still have enough time to pursue your own goals or just all of the fun times you have hanging out with your friends. You can keep hooking up with your friend while having plenty of time to do all of the things you love during the day.
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no why do you say that this is my impressions with friends with benefits after mine ended about 12 months ago so I am looking for other friends with benefitsit is all about escapism from the normal routine of life |
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Not my idea of finding a friend with benefits.
Finding someone who comes with references that they can deliver in bed 
Should spend more time in bed than out of it
Limits on interactions out if bed, drinks but no meal
The social aspect is just as important as the sex side, hence 'friend' with benefits. I certainly don't seek someone who puts so much focus on bed and thinks time out of bed should have limitations. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think you're talking more about fab type friends with benefits which really are more benefits with friends where the relationship is built on sex then friendship
I way prefer real life friends with benefits where the relationship is built on friendship first and includes everything that you do with friends with the added benefit of a physical relationship when two people feel that way inclined! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pick someone with experience. You should try to find someone who you know has had some experience hooking up -- even better if you've heard she is great in bed. Since that's what you'll be doing, it's good to have a sense that the person will deliver. It will also help if the person has had some casual flings before, so she is experienced in that department. If the person has only had one relationship and it lasted seven years, he may not be your best bet.
You're not trying to be coy here -- you're looking for a hook-up buddy
Keep it casual. You can hang out with your friend with benefits, but you need to make it clear that it's not a date. For one thing, you should spend more time in bed together than out of it. You can go out for a drink -- but not for dinner , and don't bring your "friend" as a date to a wedding or a part
The joy of a friends with benefits relationship is that you can still have enough time to pursue your own goals or just all of the fun times you have hanging out with your friends. You can keep hooking up with your friend while having plenty of time to do all of the things you love during the day.
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Pardon me, but what a load of old shit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t think it’s something that can be written down and listed, everyone is different, and therefore their dynamic will be different, and it’ll be what works for them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no why do you say that this is my impressions with friends with benefits after mine ended about 12 months ago so I am looking for other friends with benefitsit is all about escapism from the normal routine of life"
Shouldn't a friend with benefits be part of your life? Friend being the clue? Don't you mean a fuck buddy? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t think it’s something that can be written down and listed, everyone is different, and therefore their dynamic will be different, and it’ll be what works for them "
But fabbers like a clearly defined list of what different kinds of relationship should be |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"Fantastic, now how do I find one?  "
You know how Batman has the bat signal? Well there is also the tit signal. It shines a light up to the sky like this ( * ) ( * ) and the local women come running. 
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I think you are describing a fuck buddy more than a fwb.
And as for the references no thanks I'll find out for myself if I want to know what someone is like in bed. References from anyone holds no appeal to me I won't listen to them nor talk about anyone I have met either.
A fwb is a friend not just someone I meet for sex. I've had both and I prefer the fwb situation. Fb well they come and go literally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was only asking you a question so I can see different people's points of View"
Ahh, ok. It wasn’t really phrased as a question, more of a statement, so maybe we’ve got the wrong end of the stick. |
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" don't bring your "friend" as a date to a wedding
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I've done better than that. I gave one away at her wedding in my sucro-paternalistic role.
The icing on the wedding cake was, for me, and those concerned, the carnal knowledge of 3 other females in the fairly small party! |
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"I was only asking you a question so I can see different people's points of View"
Your opening post was a statement on what limitations should be placed on a friend with benefits arrangement in your opinion. It did come across as a clear cut statement rather than a discussion, hence the slightly ruffled feathers. |
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"just relax no need to get upset and gets on your moral high ground"
Think it’s just the way you’ve worded it OP, sometimes these things sound better in your head than written down
In my opinion you have described a F’buddy rather than FWB but we all have our own ideas of what we want no matter what we call them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fantastic, now how do I find one?
You know how Batman has the bat signal? Well there is also the tit signal. It shines a light up to the sky like this ( * ) ( * ) and the local women come running.
I've got a crate of Perry, would that work?
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Is there anyone out there looking for a FWB
I’d be happy to to work on your rules..
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Really? Serious question, you'd compromise your own principles and desires for the sake of getting an FWB? |
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"sorry to say I've opened a bag of wormsI did not mean to upset anybody that was not my intention to do so all I can say please accept my apologies"
Its just the way it was worded that is all. I hope you can find the fwb that you are looking for and don't be put off posting on threads |
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Suppose everyone has their own ideas of what a friend with benefits relationship should be like.
For me it'd be someone to hang out with, have all night sessions - not just having sex, talk random stuff and have a laugh as well and even have dinner together on occasion. Someone to go on field trips with to swingers clubs. Not a monogamous relationship, we'd be seeing other people as well if we wanted to.
A fuck buddy in my eyes is someone you hook up with for just the sex.
Someone else might look at this completely differently though.
What you're describing in your post sounds a bit like a blow up doll though tbh |
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Well clearly I've done the friends with benefits thing completely wrong then as I actually liked them for more than aex and if I had needed a plus 1 for anything then I'd have been more than happy to ask them to join me.
Jesus if its just sex then fine, its just sex but to not want to get to know them as well if you both choose to just because of some misguided set of rules.....ludicrous.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The joy of a friends with benefits relationship is that you can still have enough time to pursue your own goals or just all of the fun times you have hanging out with your friends"
Not sure what has happened to you in life, but maintaining a friendship with a good sex life AND pursue life goals AND hang out with friends can all be achieved in a proper relationship. Just sayin. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The joy of a friends with benefits relationship is that you can still have enough time to pursue your own goals or just all of the fun times you have hanging out with your friends
Not sure what has happened to you in life, but maintaining a friendship with a good sex life AND pursue life goals AND hang out with friends can all be achieved in a proper relationship. Just sayin."
pretty much nailed it there off topic name looks familiar   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've only one problem with what you've written OP, and that is that its completely incorrect. Oh, and its written as a statement rather than a question.
Its not my idea of an FWB, and is nothing like the FWB I have. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am not on here looking for lots of notches on the bedpost, I would prefer a regular FWB because as they say quality over quantity."
From your opening post OP it sounds like you're more after a fuck buddy instead of a fwb? |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Having just found large chunks of your OP on various sites including WikiHow - I'd suggest perhaps formulating your own ideas of what an FWB relationship might be to you would be a good place to start OP, rather than relying on a perceived notion of something that is actually quite an individual thing to many with the only "rules" being those set by the people involved |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Id love a friend with benefits.
Someone who wants to share meals, drinks, nights out, nights in, walks, films and lots of sex too.
Fuck buddy imo is what you described in your post OP but with a few things taken out!
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You know guys, maybe the OP was just trying to strike up a conversation and went about it the wrong way.
These are trying times for people whether you are in lockdown with family or on your own it’s not a situation any of us created and maybe he was lonely and thought he would start what he considered an interesting topic as he isnt arguing with anyone’s opinions on this thread.
Just a thought |
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"You know guys, maybe the OP was just trying to strike up a conversation and went about it the wrong way.
These are trying times for people whether you are in lockdown with family or on your own it’s not a situation any of us created and maybe he was lonely and thought he would start what he considered an interesting topic as he isnt arguing with anyone’s opinions on this thread.
Just a thought "
But nobody has been particularly rude nor challenging. He posted quite a strong statement, people disagreed. That is the nature of the forum's, some agree, some disagree. |
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"Pick someone with experience. You should try to find someone who you know has had some experience hooking up -- even better if you've heard she is great in bed. Since that's what you'll be doing, it's good to have a sense that the person will deliver. It will also help if the person has had some casual flings before, so she is experienced in that department. If the person has only had one relationship and it lasted seven years, he may not be your best bet.
You're not trying to be coy here -- you're looking for a hook-up buddy
Keep it casual. You can hang out with your friend with benefits, but you need to make it clear that it's not a date. For one thing, you should spend more time in bed together than out of it. You can go out for a drink -- but not for dinner , and don't bring your "friend" as a date to a wedding or a part
The joy of a friends with benefits relationship is that you can still have enough time to pursue your own goals or just all of the fun times you have hanging out with your friends. You can keep hooking up with your friend while having plenty of time to do all of the things you love during the day.
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That description describes a duck buddy to me.
Friends with benefits I can hang out with & talk to as well as have no commitment sex with. I would take them to a party but I would make it clear before hand if they are coming as a friend or as a plus 1.
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I gad one for about three years then she found a man and got married we still chat from time to time and she’s very happy and I don’t expect anything to happen in the future unless she comes asking me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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my friends with benefits know its mainly sexual i dont do emotional connections or drama so the more sex the better after all its why im here i have plenty of real time friends to socialise with but i also find its what most guys are looking for so again win win
fwb = sex and coffee
fb = sex and fuck off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was only asking you a question so I can see different people's points of View"
Your long post didn’t seem to ask any questions though. It read as if that was the only accepted definition of fwb.
Everyone has different interpretations and it is up to the two people involved to agree what they want.
Women now have choices in life and relationships and on Fab women are the ones doing the choosing a lot of the time. |
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