 |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Does a sub get given a task or should they ask for one?
Humour me here. "
As I understood it they should never get to the point of needing to ask for a task...
But I don't really know! Lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Depends on the couples dynamic details and what they’ve agreed to before getting involved with each other. "
This completely - individual dynamics and agreements is the only correct answer   |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"They could confirm that they are willing to receive tasks.
Should the dom/domme ask if the sub is willing or wait for them to say? "
I would say either? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
It should be both in my opinion, no D is a mind-reader. Yeah they maybe good at picking up their subs clues but they're human. If there's something a sub would like to try or knows will settle them, of course they should talk to their D about it. And then they can take it from there together. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I would say it very much depends on the dynamic and how you have agreed you will interact...
Sometimes my DD requests additional tasks and occasionally i ask for additional tasks - generally when I'm on holiday - a lot depends on our available time... And what we've been exposed to
... But be careful what you wish for you don't always get the cute task you ask for 
Also what i have found with my DD is that there is an expectation he doesn't get less than he had...So your temporary task may unwittingly become a permanent one |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
This isn't a question that can be answered by the public - you'll just get misleading replies (not deliberately)
D/s isn't about any one person's idea on it, it's always about the specific dynamic you have with a partner.
None of it happens immediately, and if you have guys 'telling' you what they want, that's a red flag. Everything needs to be worked out with the individual, and over time will develop and evolve into something that suits you both.
This is a very broad subject. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ensualMan
over a year ago
Sutton |
"Depends on the couples dynamic details and what they’ve agreed to before getting involved with each other. "
Agreed, before any relationship is started and from a neutral standpoint both the dom and sub should discuss what they are looking for out of a D/S relationship and how it will work. Different people will want different things. Although there are those subs who prefer doms that are able to suss them out. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"This isn't a question that can be answered by the public - you'll just get misleading replies (not deliberately)
D/s isn't about any one person's idea on it, it's always about the specific dynamic you have with a partner.
None of it happens immediately, and if you have guys 'telling' you what they want, that's a red flag. Everything needs to be worked out with the individual, and over time will develop and evolve into something that suits you both.
This is a very broad subject."
Totally agree with this, it’s my experience too |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I also totally agree it should be discussed and is individual to the dynamic.
I just wanted to make a point so thanks for the comments. "
Have you made your point, had your discussion and received your spanking for being cheeky yet!!!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"I also totally agree it should be discussed and is individual to the dynamic.
I just wanted to make a point so thanks for the comments.
Have you made your point, had your discussion and received your spanking for being cheeky yet!!! "
I have made my point, the discussion is done.
Me being cheeky???? Never! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Who here likes giving their sub pointless tasks, or tasks that are set up to fail so you get to punish them!!!
#domlife"
Really? That sounds a bit demoralising? Obviously I don’t know your dynamic though |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Who here likes giving their sub pointless tasks, or tasks that are set up to fail so you get to punish them!!!
#domlife"
I have an ongoing impossible task that causes my DD great enjoyment whenever it arises.. I am plotting tho and one day i will figure out how to achieve it and he will have a heart attack laughing |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Travelling |
Surely the only answer is "what fits your own dynamic"
Correct me if I'm wrong, but there are no set rules other than what we make for ourselves. Obviously consent and all the big important stuff about safety.
If you and your partner decide that as a sub that they can request to be given a task, then it still works. We tailor these labels to fit ourselves within the realm of staying true to the essence of such label. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
