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Who has is the hardest finding a match?
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"I would be surprised to hear that woman experience any difficulty finding a match considering that the M:F ratio on Fab is 400:1 ....however nothing has changed since the dawn of time. There will always be more horndogs about." Looked at that way you would think so, and *if* women simply selected based on that level of choice then I'd agree with you, however just because the wealth of choice is bigger, doesn't mean the quality of choice is too. Add to that that women have to sift through an awful lot of rubbish to find what they're looking for and it comes back to what I was saying about "different" problems faced by different categories of user. | |||
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"Men definitely, we all have our preferences and finding the right match is difficult for everyone, but women and couples have their choice to look through with all the messages they get. Men’s messages are often bulk deleted without being read as the women and couples can’t cope with the amount of contact they are receiving, I don’t blame them for that, but it does leave the men at the starting blocks every time when you can’t even get to be seen or heard " | |||
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"Men definitely, we all have our preferences and finding the right match is difficult for everyone, but women and couples have their choice to look through with all the messages they get. Men’s messages are often bulk deleted without being read as the women and couples can’t cope with the amount of contact they are receiving, I don’t blame them for that, but it does leave the men at the starting blocks every time when you can’t even get to be seen or heard " Yes it can be difficult when you have lots and lots of messages to go through all so you skim. I skim and I kinda see what catches my eyes, a lot of the times I don’t even open as there are too many messages (currently 1659 unread) I’d go insane Having said that I think the worse off of the bunch are guys because of the numbers ... hmmm | |||
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"On fab that is? Do you think it's single men, women, couples or perhaps TS/TV?" 99 year old married men who can't drive or accommodate and want teenage lingerie models | |||
"I would be surprised to hear that woman experience any difficulty finding a match considering that the M:F ratio on Fab is 400:1 ....however nothing has changed since the dawn of time. There will always be more horndogs about." I disagree, women may endless amounts of blokes who want to fuck them but that doesn’t mean they don’t have trouble finding what they’re actually looking for on here. | |||
"Yes I agree, I don’t blame ladies and couples bill deleting, I’d probably do the same, but it’s a nicer problem to have to much choice than to never be heard, which I think is what you’re also saying" Is it though? When 99% of that choice isn't for them? Whilst women may have 100 to choose from and only find 1 match - men may try 100 women and get only 1 match so net result is the same - just different ways of arriving at the same conclusion. | |||
"On fab that is? Do you think it's single men, women, couples or perhaps TS/TV? 99 year old married men who can't drive or accommodate and want teenage lingerie models "  | |||
"On fab that is? Do you think it's single men, women, couples or perhaps TS/TV? 99 year old married men who can't drive or accommodate and want teenage lingerie models " DEAD lol haha but true | |||
"I would be surprised to hear that woman experience any difficulty finding a match considering that the M:F ratio on Fab is 400:1 ....however nothing has changed since the dawn of time. There will always be more horndogs about. Looked at that way you would think so, and *if* women simply selected based on that level of choice then I'd agree with you, however just because the wealth of choice is bigger, doesn't mean the quality of choice is too. Add to that that women have to sift through an awful lot of rubbish to find what they're looking for and it comes back to what I was saying about "different" problems faced by different categories of user." | |||
"I would be surprised to hear that woman experience any difficulty finding a match considering that the M:F ratio on Fab is 400:1 ....however nothing has changed since the dawn of time. There will always be more horndogs about." I've been here a few months now and not found one so... | |||
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"Yes I agree, I don’t blame ladies and couples bill deleting, I’d probably do the same, but it’s a nicer problem to have to much choice than to never be heard, which I think is what you’re also saying" I don't believe so. Its also how you use the site. Do you use it to random cast the net? Do you use features such as the forums where you DO have a voice, get heard and get noticed? Do you use the clubs and socials area (pre-covid) and get off your arse and attend these places where other swingers are? So yeah, if guys can't be arsed to make an effort they'll struggle. If they use it to it's full advantage then they really won't, unless of course their expectation is sex on tap. | |||
I think we all have a chance  sometimes just takes patience & self reflection (where are u fucking up lol) | |||
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"Yes I agree, I don’t blame ladies and couples bill deleting, I’d probably do the same, but it’s a nicer problem to have to much choice than to never be heard, which I think is what you’re also saying I don't believe so. Its also how you use the site. Do you use it to random cast the net? Do you use features such as the forums where you DO have a voice, get heard and get noticed? Do you use the clubs and socials area (pre-covid) and get off your arse and attend these places where other swingers are? So yeah, if guys can't be arsed to make an effort they'll struggle. If they use it to it's full advantage then they really won't, unless of course their expectation is sex on tap." I think people were talking about using fab specifically, not going to clubs, we could in which case just say it’s easy if you use any dating app and go out and socialise in many ways. | |||
"Let's break this down: On the ratio of men to women, men are seriously up against it straight away. So, it's men. Add to that, If you are a male, and are unable to accommodate , that's another mark against you. Men, unable to accommodate. Once you pass 50 it's like putting on an invisibility cloak. So many have already knocked you out of their preference. Men, unable to accommodate, over 50. There are so many men here that you really have to be exceptional to stand out. So, if your Mr. Average, thats an issue. Men, unable to accommodate, over 50, average. Still looking? Tell them you're married! By know if there are any profiles left, it's probably your wife, and that's why you came on here in the first place! So, the ones most up against it are Men, unable to accommodate, over 50, average, and married. Women have different issues here, I accept that, but finding a someone is infinitely easier. If they had low or no standards, any woman on here could probably get something within an hour or less. If they want to be choosy, and they can be, filters mean they can cut through the numbers rapidly, while maintaining their standards. Sure, they will have the chancers and bullshitters to deal with, but if fab had more filters and physical option check boxes, it could be quite simple to find the physical match they want. " Well said | |||
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"Yes I agree, I don’t blame ladies and couples bill deleting, I’d probably do the same, but it’s a nicer problem to have to much choice than to never be heard, which I think is what you’re also saying Is it though? When 99% of that choice isn't for them? Whilst women may have 100 to choose from and only find 1 match - men may try 100 women and get only 1 match so net result is the same - just different ways of arriving at the same conclusion." It may end up as the same result, but the chances of a woman or couple finding someone is higher if they have one hundred choices in the first place, they may end up with10 matches, whereas the guy who only gets one reply is seriously limited with his decisions | |||
"Men definitely, we all have our preferences and finding the right match is difficult for everyone, but women and couples have their choice to look through with all the messages they get. Men’s messages are often bulk deleted without being read as the women and couples can’t cope with the amount of contact they are receiving, I don’t blame them for that, but it does leave the men at the starting blocks every time when you can’t even get to be seen or heard " This is very true and unfortunately it’s taken up by the people who don’t read your profile or read it and still message even though they don’t fit the criteria. I do apologise to thoughts who get side swiped by me having to bulk delete but honestly there is no way I can get through them. For every message you reply to you then get another 5 because people see you on line. | |||
"What's worse? a) Being unable to find what you want because you have too much choice. b) Being unable to find what you want because you have no choice at all. " B | |||
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"Men definitely, we all have our preferences and finding the right match is difficult for everyone, but women and couples have their choice to look through with all the messages they get. Men’s messages are often bulk deleted without being read as the women and couples can’t cope with the amount of contact they are receiving, I don’t blame them for that, but it does leave the men at the starting blocks every time when you can’t even get to be seen or heard This is very true and unfortunately it’s taken up by the people who don’t read your profile or read it and still message even though they don’t fit the criteria. I do apologise to thoughts who get side swiped by me having to bulk delete but honestly there is no way I can get through them. For every message you reply to you then get another 5 because people see you on line. " That’s totally true, if I see a profile that says not looking for single guys or I’m out of an age range, I don’t waste my time or theirs, but I’m sure there are guys filling up ladies and couples messages as they don’t read them, which results in bulk deletes, which deletes the possible good ones ladies might have actually liked, but yes I agree, what other option is there when you have 400 messages, it’s a tricky one | |||
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"I would be surprised to hear that woman experience any difficulty finding a match considering that the M:F ratio on Fab is 400:1 ....however nothing has changed since the dawn of time. There will always be more horndogs about." you would be surprised at how many women have trouble finding what they want | |||
