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That one person

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Is there one person on this app that you have been absolutely dying to talk to but for what ever reason have never had the stones to message or they never messaged you back?

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By *hunky GentMan over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Nope. Those i want to talk to i make an effort to attract their attention.

If they don't want to talk then i respect their wishes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is there one person on this app that you have been absolutely dying to talk to but for what ever reason have never had the stones to message or they never messaged you back? "

Nope not one

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By *icolerobbieCouple over a year ago

walsall

Nope, I’d to talk to them. They might not talk back though.

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By *uriousscouserWoman over a year ago

Wirral

Nope, I message a lot. Oh, I've had some not message back though, which is fine.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is there one person on this app that you have been absolutely dying to talk to but for what ever reason have never had the stones to message or they never messaged you back? "

I'm sadly out of the age range of the woman I'd love to talk to.

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By *isAdventure69Woman over a year ago

Hampshire

"Is there one person on this app that you have been absolutely dying to talk to but for what ever reason have never had the stones to message or they never messaged you back?

Nope not one"

Yes , several ... some because I know we're not a match despite having the hot for them, others hummm .... I just avoid punching above my weight.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep, messaged many a time but never actually spoke spoke. Even just an ordinary chat i reckon would have been a hoot but never happened. Still I live in hope lol.

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"Is there one person on this app that you have been absolutely dying to talk to but for what ever reason have never had the stones to message or they never messaged you back?

Nope not one

Yes , several ... some because I know we're not a match despite having the hot for them, others hummm .... I just avoid punching above my weight.

With a figure like that you'd never be punching above

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Is there one person on this app that you have been absolutely dying to talk to but for what ever reason have never had the stones to message or they never messaged you back?

Nope not one

Yes , several ... some because I know we're not a match despite having the hot for them, others hummm .... I just avoid punching above my weight.

Are you joking. You could never be punching above your weight.

For one you're absolutely stunning and have an incredible figure and two we have spoken in the past and you have an amazing personality. Anyone would be lucky to get a message from you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not to dying for but definitely there are few who I would like to speak to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Nope. Those i want to talk to i make an effort to attract their attention.

If they don't want to talk then i respect their wishes. "

I like that dude. I always do my best to respect a woman's wishes. I would never send any abuse or anything like that just because I wouldn't get a reply. It's too disrespectful and that just not who I am.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Is there one person on this app that you have been absolutely dying to talk to but for what ever reason have never had the stones to message or they never messaged you back?

I'm sadly out of the age range of the woman I'd love to talk to. "

This was my point exactly. I find the people I am attracted to unfortuantely don't like a younger guy. I feel your pain man.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes.

Although I'm very outspoken and flirty in the forum, Im a bit shy when interested in someone and don't make the first move.

I've never sent a first message on here, ever.

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By *isAdventure69Woman over a year ago

Hampshire

"Is there one person on this app that you have been absolutely dying to talk to but for what ever reason have never had the stones to message or they never messaged you back?

Nope not one

Yes , several ... some because I know we're not a match despite having the hot for them, others hummm .... I just avoid punching above my weight.

With a figure like that you'd never be punching above

You're too kind , it's all smoke and mirrors and holding my tummy in

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

I've always messaged the ones I like.... if you don't try then you never know x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes.

Although I'm very outspoken and flirty in the forum, Im a bit shy when interested in someone and don't make the first move.

I've never sent a first message on here, ever.

Then don't be shy. You've got this. I have faith in you.

I think I have only ever received a first message like once or twice and I feel you what it is lovely to be messaged first.

I think you might surprise yourself.

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By *isAdventure69Woman over a year ago

Hampshire

"Is there one person on this app that you have been absolutely dying to talk to but for what ever reason have never had the stones to message or they never messaged you back?

Nope not one

Yes , several ... some because I know we're not a match despite having the hot for them, others hummm .... I just avoid punching above my weight.

Are you joking. You could never be punching above your weight.

For one you're absolutely stunning and have an incredible figure and two we have spoken in the past and you have an amazing personality. Anyone would be lucky to get a message from you.

Xx"

Shush you ... You're just a wonderful human being

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've always messaged the ones I like.... if you don't try then you never know x"

Exactly. Have the confidence to drop them a message. What's the worst that can happen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Is there one person on this app that you have been absolutely dying to talk to but for what ever reason have never had the stones to message or they never messaged you back?

Nope not one

Yes , several ... some because I know we're not a match despite having the hot for them, others hummm .... I just avoid punching above my weight.

Are you joking. You could never be punching above your weight.

For one you're absolutely stunning and have an incredible figure and two we have spoken in the past and you have an amazing personality. Anyone would be lucky to get a message from you.

Shush you ... You're just a wonderful human being

I will not shush, you shush not having confidence in yourself.

I will fight you.

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"I've always messaged the ones I like.... if you don't try then you never know x

Exactly. Have the confidence to drop them a message. What's the worst that can happen. "

Normally they tell me to jog on

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've always messaged the ones I like.... if you don't try then you never know x

Exactly. Have the confidence to drop them a message. What's the worst that can happen.

Normally they tell me to jog on

That's definitely a lie.

Either that or you have been messaging the blind.

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By *hunky GentMan over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I've always messaged the ones I like.... if you don't try then you never know x

Exactly. Have the confidence to drop them a message. What's the worst that can happen.

Normally they tell me to jog on

If you do jog on - my lap is always available.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've always messaged the ones I like.... if you don't try then you never know x

Exactly. Have the confidence to drop them a message. What's the worst that can happen.

Normally they tell me to jog on

I'd be very surprised this is true!

You're quite a catch

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There was one woman and I eventually put on my big girl pants and did it. She didn't reply

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By *ily WhiteWoman over a year ago

No, I message anyone that I'm interested in...sometimes out of the blue, sometimes off of the back of a thread or status...if you don't message you may never know if they like you or not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There was one woman and I eventually put on my big girl pants and did it. She didn't reply

Oh noooo. There is always time. She might still reply.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There was one woman and I eventually put on my big girl pants and did it. She didn't reply

Oh noooo. There is always time. She might still reply. "

It was about a year ago

but I like your optimism!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I did it recently, had a.nice few messages back and forth but no more than that. would love to arrange a social when we can, but not sure if they are interested

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No, I message anyone that I'm interested in...sometimes out of the blue, sometimes off of the back of a thread or status...if you don't message you may never know if they like you or not. "

That is very very true.

Gotta try or you'll just never know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There was one woman and I eventually put on my big girl pants and did it. She didn't reply

Oh noooo. There is always time. She might still reply.

It was about a year ago

but I like your optimism!"

Ahhhh okay. You can still never say never. Imagine if she just pops up one day. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not at the moment. I usually find my way sooner or later, maybe because I'm not most approachable, so i know how to tackle similar

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No to not have the stones as I am pretty straight forward when it comes to that I will just message away

Yes to them not message back though but the way I see it as that’s they loses to no honest with you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes as I'm out of some age ranges , roll on 50 lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Not at the moment. I usually find my way sooner or later, maybe because I'm not most approachable, so i know how to tackle similar

What makes you think you're not the most approachable? X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not at the moment. I usually find my way sooner or later, maybe because I'm not most approachable, so i know how to tackle similar

What makes you think you're not the most approachable? X"

self awareness

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Not at the moment. I usually find my way sooner or later, maybe because I'm not most approachable, so i know how to tackle similar

What makes you think you're not the most approachable? X

self awareness "

Self aware in what sense? X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Loads and loads. Getting over the hurdle of that first message is such a chore. I can spend ages crafting them, to no avail.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not at the moment. I usually find my way sooner or later, maybe because I'm not most approachable, so i know how to tackle similar

What makes you think you're not the most approachable? X

self awareness

Self aware in what sense? X"

Am I in a hot seat? I'm comfortable with my answer, without further spilling of the guts

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By *00KissesCouple over a year ago

Stourbridge

Go for it Deaks, you have a lot to offer and nothing to lose.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Loads and loads. Getting over the hurdle of that first message is such a chore. I can spend ages crafting them, to no avail."

I completely agree. It's such a bummer when you spend ages writing a message for it to be deleted right away.

I suppose it's how it goes though. Can't force someone to be attracted to you.

I do find that arse hole guys in here have given the good guys a bad name though. We're not all the same.

Im not here to waste any ones time.

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By *arriLadMan over a year ago

North West

Iv put off messaging before, Either didn't think I'd get a reply or thought I was punching

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Not at the moment. I usually find my way sooner or later, maybe because I'm not most approachable, so i know how to tackle similar

What makes you think you're not the most approachable? X

self awareness

Self aware in what sense? X

Am I in a hot seat? I'm comfortable with my answer, without further spilling of the guts

Was just a question. You don't have to answer anything.

As long as you're happy that's all that matters.

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By *avhonaWoman over a year ago

Away with the faeries

Last year there may have been one or two, off the back of some forum activity which I'd thought was clever, funny.

They then fizzled out as the messaging seemed really very different to their considered

thread responses. I'm guessing they just weren't that interested and perhaps were being polite.

I'm not great at making a first move in general so it was a little bit of a leap for me.

Happy to be a little voyeur for now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Go for it Deaks, you have a lot to offer and nothing to lose.

Awwww thank you beaut.

You're the bestest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Last year there may have been one or two, off the back of some forum activity which I'd thought was clever, funny.

They then fizzled out as the messaging seemed really very different to their considered

thread responses. I'm guessing they just weren't that interested and perhaps were being polite.

I'm not great at making a first move in general so it was a little bit of a leap for me.

Happy to be a little voyeur for now.

Awww sometimes that happens though.

Just means you'll have to pick yourself up and try again.

Some guys in here just are not interested in getting to know people on a one to one. They want sex chat from start to finish.

You'll find someone who will be able to stimulate you both physically and mentally.

You got this.

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

I'm unsociable, so, no

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

Nope no one springs to mind! X

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

"Iv put off messaging before, Either didn't think I'd get a reply or thought I was punching"

Always go in with an uppercut

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm unsociable, so, no

I don't believe that. You just posted on a public thread. You can't be that unsociable.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is there one person on this app that you have been absolutely dying to talk to but for what ever reason have never had the stones to message or they never messaged you back?

Nope not one

Yes , several ... some because I know we're not a match despite having the hot for them, others hummm .... I just avoid punching above my weight.

To quote Meghan Trainor...

“All the right junk in all the right places”

“ my mama she told me, "Don't worry about your size,

She says, Boys like a little more booty to hold at night"

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By *avhonaWoman over a year ago

Away with the faeries

"Last year there may have been one or two, off the back of some forum activity which I'd thought was clever, funny.

They then fizzled out as the messaging seemed really very different to their considered

thread responses. I'm guessing they just weren't that interested and perhaps were being polite.

I'm not great at making a first move in general so it was a little bit of a leap for me.

Happy to be a little voyeur for now.

Awww sometimes that happens though.

Just means you'll have to pick yourself up and try again.

Some guys in here just are not interested in getting to know people on a one to one. They want sex chat from start to finish.

You'll find someone who will be able to stimulate you both physically and mentally.

You got this. "

Oh, I've got a couple of lovely friends who do just that. One in particular is my person and I'm very lucky to have found that.

The other examples were specifically when I messaged after having admired from "afar".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll always send a message if I stumble across someone I'd like to chat or meet up with.. no harm in putting yourself out there..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Last year there may have been one or two, off the back of some forum activity which I'd thought was clever, funny.

They then fizzled out as the messaging seemed really very different to their considered

thread responses. I'm guessing they just weren't that interested and perhaps were being polite.

I'm not great at making a first move in general so it was a little bit of a leap for me.

Happy to be a little voyeur for now.

Awww sometimes that happens though.

Just means you'll have to pick yourself up and try again.

Some guys in here just are not interested in getting to know people on a one to one. They want sex chat from start to finish.

You'll find someone who will be able to stimulate you both physically and mentally.

You got this.

Oh, I've got a couple of lovely friends who do just that. One in particular is my person and I'm very lucky to have found that.

The other examples were specifically when I messaged after having admired from "afar".

Ahaha. I get that. Well I'm sure the next time you message someone you will have a little more luck. I have faith.

Also it's nice that you have friends on here.

I have recently got some friends on here myself. And it's lovely.

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

That will change when I am hunting again maybe next year, but I am quite happy as I am till then

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By *hunky GentMan over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"No

That will change when I am hunting again maybe next year, but I am quite happy as I am till then

"Hunting"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No

That will change when I am hunting again maybe next year, but I am quite happy as I am till then

Get your sniper at the ready.

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By *ixedDevilMan over a year ago

Bootyville

I'd usually just message them, then they reply to reject me

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By *ookie46Woman over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

If in the past I have messaged people I wanted to.... whether they replied or not is a different matter

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By *andybeachWoman over a year ago

In the middle

When I was meeting regularly I did message first quite a few times and sometimes it worked out sometimes it didn’t, them’s the breaks

now I’m so far out of the game I can’t be bothered to get back in

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By *indergirlWoman over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Yes, and that's purely from stupid self confidence issues, I hardly message anyone first

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are quite a few at the moment. Though, I'm more in the mood to go out and pick women up at bars.

So, I'm working on myself during the lockdown in preparation for the new world where people are craving the now rare social interactions

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"When I was meeting regularly I did message first quite a few times and sometimes it worked out sometimes it didn’t, them’s the breaks

now I’m so far out of the game I can’t be bothered to get back in

What makes you think you are out of the game?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is there one person on this app that you have been absolutely dying to talk to but for what ever reason have never had the stones to message or they never messaged you back?

Nope not one

Yes , several ... some because I know we're not a match despite having the hot for them, others hummm .... I just avoid punching above my weight.

Are you joking. You could never be punching above your weight.

For one you're absolutely stunning and have an incredible figure and two we have spoken in the past and you have an amazing personality. Anyone would be lucky to get a message from you.

Shush you ... You're just a wonderful human being

"
[qoute] you are bloody stunning lady with the perfect body [/qoute]

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes, and that's purely from stupid self confidence issues, I hardly message anyone first

You really do not have any5hing to be self conscious about.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t message first generally. Although I have on a few threads recently. If there was someone I really wanted to meet and it was appropriate timing I wouldn’t hesitate. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. What’s the worst that could happen?

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By *indergirlWoman over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"Yes, and that's purely from stupid self confidence issues, I hardly message anyone first

You really do not have any5hing to be self conscious about. "

Meh maybe when the world's not so mad I'll grow some kahunas and do it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes, and that's purely from stupid self confidence issues, I hardly message anyone first

You really do not have any5hing to be self conscious about.

Meh maybe when the world's not so mad I'll grow some kahunas and do it"

I've got faith in you. You've got this beaut.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes, and that's purely from stupid self confidence issues, I hardly message anyone first

You really do not have any5hing to be self conscious about.

Meh maybe when the world's not so mad I'll grow some kahunas and do it"

Your 13th January pic is so pretty

sorry for offtop OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes, and that's purely from stupid self confidence issues, I hardly message anyone first

You really do not have any5hing to be self conscious about.

Meh maybe when the world's not so mad I'll grow some kahunas and do it

Your 13th January pic is so pretty

sorry for offtop OP

Offtop? I don't know what that means. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes, and that's purely from stupid self confidence issues, I hardly message anyone first

You really do not have any5hing to be self conscious about.

Meh maybe when the world's not so mad I'll grow some kahunas and do it

Your 13th January pic is so pretty

sorry for offtop OP

Offtop? I don't know what that means. Lol.

Off topic. My phone has a mind of its own.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have this struggle everyday haha weather it be on here or in normal everyday life.

Ive messaged a couple people now and have had no reply, some are polite and mature enough to send a message back and tell me they aren't interested. But since i never really get replies i have stopped messages almost completely

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By *indergirlWoman over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"Yes, and that's purely from stupid self confidence issues, I hardly message anyone first

You really do not have any5hing to be self conscious about.

Meh maybe when the world's not so mad I'll grow some kahunas and do it

Your 13th January pic is so pretty

sorry for offtop OP

Thankyou

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One person? There's way more than one person I've been ignored by!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes, and that's purely from stupid self confidence issues, I hardly message anyone first

You really do not have any5hing to be self conscious about.

Meh maybe when the world's not so mad I'll grow some kahunas and do it

Your 13th January pic is so pretty

sorry for offtop OP

Offtop? I don't know what that means. Lol.

Off topic. My phone has a mind of its own. "

Ahhh don't worry about it.

Absolutely no problem with me if you are complimenting someone. We need more of that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"One person? There's way more than one person I've been ignored by!"

Did someone say something

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"One person? There's way more than one person I've been ignored by!"

Not on about being ignored by them.

Just if there is one person that when you see you just so "damn I would love her/him to be in my life".

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By *stbury DavenportMan over a year ago

Nottingham

"Is there one person on this app that you have been absolutely dying to talk to but for what ever reason have never had the stones to message or they never messaged you back? "

One person? No. Shitloads of them? Yes. Hah.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes, I’ll respond if someone I like messages me first, but don’t want to go punching over x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Several. Some because I feel I’m punching over and they probably get, like, a gazillion messages every second anyway so what’s the point. Others because that have “won’t meet smokers” on their profile and cigs win. Some more because they live, you know, like super duper far away.

Mostly, though, it’s because I’ve yet to come up with a zinger of an opener. Once I do, Hotlist of mine BEWARE!

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By *ugofirstMan over a year ago

livingston

One that sent me a nice message yesterday thanking me for something but I am outwith their wants so they were being polite which is a nice trait.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Several. Some because I feel I’m punching over and they probably get, like, a gazillion messages every second anyway so what’s the point. Others because that have “won’t meet smokers” on their profile and cigs win. Some more because they live, you know, like super duper far away.

Mostly, though, it’s because I’ve yet to come up with a zinger of an opener. Once I do, Hotlist of mine BEWARE!"

Ahaha you got this dude.

My suggestion is read the profile and come up with a banging zinger related to that. You can't go wrong with that. Shows you have read and understand what they are looking for.

If I was to like the look of someone and there was something in their profile that ruled me out I just wouldn't message. No point wasting anyone time.

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I have a habit of waiting and waiting and hoping. And then I talk myself into sending a message, and the following 3 minutes go like this....

Hit send

Panic because I'm punching

Figure they'll just want to have a friendly chat

Decide what the hell, because it's not real life anyway

Check if they've read the message

Check if they're online

Close the browser

Open the browser and deliberately not look at messages

Tell myself to stop being a dick

Realise they're probably either looking at my profile and laughing at the thought they might want to chat to me or they haven't read the message

Give up

I can pack a lot into 3 minutes.

These days I settle for being gobsmacked if anyone I find attractive messages me, and other than that I just send a message off the back of a forum thread.

And in actual answer to the OP, there was. And I thank god for the forum

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"One that sent me a nice message yesterday thanking me for something but I am outwith their wants so they were being polite which is a nice trait."

That is lovely. There needs to be more people like that around.

I know some men hate the words "you're not my type, but thank you" honestly if I was to get a reply like this that would actually be really nice as it shows they have made an effort just as much as you have in the first place.

Unfortuantely a lot of people lack respect for eachother on the internet.

I get guys message me all the time, and I'll always reply with "thank you, sorry but I'm straight". It's nice to be nice and doesn't cost a penny.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have a habit of waiting and waiting and hoping. And then I talk myself into sending a message, and the following 3 minutes go like this....

Hit send

Panic because I'm punching

Figure they'll just want to have a friendly chat

Decide what the hell, because it's not real life anyway

Check if they've read the message

Check if they're online

Close the browser

Open the browser and deliberately not look at messages

Tell myself to stop being a dick

Realise they're probably either looking at my profile and laughing at the thought they might want to chat to me or they haven't read the message

Give up

I can pack a lot into 3 minutes.

These days I settle for being gobsmacked if anyone I find attractive messages me, and other than that I just send a message off the back of a forum thread.

And in actual answer to the OP, there was. And I thank god for the forum

Ahaha you do make me smile you little overthinker.

You're gorgeous and anyone would be luck to receive a message from you. You've got this beautiful. Don't doubt yourself so much.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes, I don't message anyone I think I'd be punching above my weight with.

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By *hunky GentMan over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Yes, I don't message anyone I think I'd be punching above my weight with.

If i did that I'd never talk to anyone. Lol

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I have a habit of waiting and waiting and hoping. And then I talk myself into sending a message, and the following 3 minutes go like this....

Hit send

Panic because I'm punching

Figure they'll just want to have a friendly chat

Decide what the hell, because it's not real life anyway

Check if they've read the message

Check if they're online

Close the browser

Open the browser and deliberately not look at messages

Tell myself to stop being a dick

Realise they're probably either looking at my profile and laughing at the thought they might want to chat to me or they haven't read the message

Give up

I can pack a lot into 3 minutes.

These days I settle for being gobsmacked if anyone I find attractive messages me, and other than that I just send a message off the back of a forum thread.

And in actual answer to the OP, there was. And I thank god for the forum

Ahaha you do make me smile you little overthinker.

You're gorgeous and anyone would be luck to receive a message from you. You've got this beautiful. Don't doubt yourself so much. "

Aww D.... you're so lovely.

Get your glasses checked though honey.... little??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, I have messaged everyone I fancy and they all ignore me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes, I don't message anyone I think I'd be punching above my weight with.

But why not? If you put the same principle into life you will never get anywhere. You'll never get that job you deserve, you'll never going on the holiday you want or you won't buy that flash car.

Don't worry about what other think and have faith in yourself. You might not be everyone's cup of tea, but you are someone's.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have a habit of waiting and waiting and hoping. And then I talk myself into sending a message, and the following 3 minutes go like this....

Hit send

Panic because I'm punching

Figure they'll just want to have a friendly chat

Decide what the hell, because it's not real life anyway

Check if they've read the message

Check if they're online

Close the browser

Open the browser and deliberately not look at messages

Tell myself to stop being a dick

Realise they're probably either looking at my profile and laughing at the thought they might want to chat to me or they haven't read the message

Give up

I can pack a lot into 3 minutes.

These days I settle for being gobsmacked if anyone I find attractive messages me, and other than that I just send a message off the back of a forum thread.

And in actual answer to the OP, there was. And I thank god for the forum

Ahaha you do make me smile you little overthinker.

You're gorgeous and anyone would be luck to receive a message from you. You've got this beautiful. Don't doubt yourself so much.

Aww D.... you're so lovely.

Get your glasses checked though honey.... little??

Oh shush you or I will fight you.

It's true. Have some faith in yourself.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Nope. Experience tells me that those ones are never all that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, I'd just message them. Even if I think I may not be their type there's always a chance that the attraction may be reciprocated.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Theres one or two i wish i could get the guts to message but i wont

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is there one person on this app that you have been absolutely dying to talk to but for what ever reason have never had the stones to message or they never messaged you back? "

I don’t see why? You seem completely lovely, happy and nice. Do it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope, cause if they don’t reply then they’re obviously not the cool person I thought they were.

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By *indergirlWoman over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"Yes.

Although I'm very outspoken and flirty in the forum, Im a bit shy when interested in someone and don't make the first move.

I've never sent a first message on here, ever.

Snap, painfully shy when I like the look of someone, I've never sent a message first

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

I’m shy. Everyone is that one person

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Definitely, I am a realist.

I am either too far away. No buff enough, they want hung or just plain I won't embarrass myself.

I can use Covid as a good reason now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's someone here that I NEED!

I've told him

But he is age inappropriate and miles away

Oh and there's that nasty cough going around

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By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Travelling

"No, I'd just message them. Even if I think I may not be their type there's always a chance that the attraction may be reciprocated."

This is exactly me. Hell, even if distance is unrealistic you just never know what may happen, so I'll let my interest be known.

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By *heGateKeeperMan over a year ago

Stratford

There was one person I really wanted to see in the flesh and I literally missed by seconds/minutes at a social I attended. It was only because I was too shy to walk over as soon as I got to the venue so I did a lap, went and had a beer on my own and then I got back she was gone

A few others I’d have loved to talk to more but I like the people I talk to privately now and am always open to fresh connections

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By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Travelling

"No, I'd just message them. Even if I think I may not be their type there's always a chance that the attraction may be reciprocated.

This is exactly me. Hell, even if distance is unrealistic you just never know what may happen, so I'll let my interest be known. "

Reading a few replies a out being shy, or feel they are punching above or whatever, I'd like to think I'm approachable enough that even those that may feel shy would let me know of their interest... That's optimistic right there that they are

If you are too shy to say hi, are you really all that interested in them in the first place? Hmmmm...

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

I have no issue initiating a first message and I dont get nervous sending it .

I never ever expect a reply because as has been mentioned earlier , I always think theres not a chance in hell I'm attractive enough for this person .

Astonishingly it appears I'm passable occasionally for some

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes.

Although I'm very outspoken and flirty in the forum, Im a bit shy when interested in someone and don't make the first move.

I've never sent a first message on here, ever.

Then don't be shy. You've got this. I have faith in you.

I think I have only ever received a first message like once or twice and I feel you what it is lovely to be messaged first.

I think you might surprise yourself. "

I may do at some point.

It's just the way I am though, even when out I never make the first move.

But once things allow I may start doing searches and message people.

My plan is to use fabswingers for TV/TS as there are more here than Fabguys.

And use Fabguys to seek out men.

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By *elle xWoman over a year ago

Doire Theas

Nah I’d I wana talk il talk

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When I first started, I used to get quite disheartened when I never got a reply to a well constructed message so just stopped sending the first message assuming they wouldn't be interested.

I think my profile has evolved since then, but I still don't think I have the confidence to send out a first message again even if I did fancy them.

I think of it as Schroedinger's message, if I don't message, they are both interested and not interested

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Theres one or two i wish i could get the guts to message but i wont"

How come you wouldn't message them you little sausage?

I'm sure they would be honoured to receive a message from you.

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By *hunky GentMan over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Cone on people if someone like me can build up the courage to chat to others then so can you.

So much time has been lost in the last 10 months that we shouldn't lose any more.

Big hugs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find reaching out to girls more intimidating than men, but then we get chatting and i discover they felt the same too haha

I find it much easier to approach men... I usually make them laugh, then they pull my pigtails, then i cry

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By *imbobaMan over a year ago

Glasgow

"Is there one person on this app that you have been absolutely dying to talk to but for what ever reason have never had the stones to message or they never messaged you back?

Nope not one

Yes , several ... some because I know we're not a match despite having the hot for them, others hummm .... I just avoid punching above my weight.

With a figure like that you'd never be punching above

You're too kind , it's all smoke and mirrors and holding my tummy in

Don’t listen to MisA. Lovely and great looking too.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Everything in good time, if it's to happen. But with so many possibilities, you have to move on and put some things behind you. If they weren't interested in me, that's great. It would have been a dead end and they spotted it first. They're lucky breaks, when I've moved on, freeing my resources fully for other people and things.

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By *r A.Man over a year ago

Hull

If you don’t message, you never know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Quite a few on my hotlist but way out of my league. Don't think I've ever sent a first message.

On a night out im quite chatty but I usually end up been the friend that everyone enjoys the laughs with. Never seen as the take home type

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