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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I use really dark in situations which are hard, tragic, upsetting... a coping mechanism if you will
I believe thats referred to as gallows humour
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How do you think it benefits the person who is using it? I am curious because I do it myself sometimes.  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I don't think a "good sense of humour" can be defined in general terms as it's a very subjective thing - always used to make me laugh when you saw it on dating ads as it has become one of those "catch all" phrases that is supposed to be a positive thing.
For me, I can see humour in lots of different ways from the quite dark and sometimes bizarre to silly and slapstick to quite puerile.
Not entirely sure I can define mine other than I like to laugh and enjoy spending time with someone I can laugh with and to come back to my original point perhaps instead of a "good sense of humour" being desirable perhaps it should be a "compatible sense of humour". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I use really dark in situations which are hard, tragic, upsetting... a coping mechanism if you will
I believe thats referred to as gallows humour
How do you think it benefits the person who is using it? I am curious because I do it myself sometimes. "
I think a lot of the best humour is a way of dealing with subjects which we’re not comfortable talking about in a serious way. It’s definitely a good way of relieving stress and tensions.
Kings and Queens used to employ ‘fools’ to tell them the things no one else would dare to. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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Kings and Queens used to employ ‘fools’ to tell them the things no one else would dare to."
Had not thought of the jester at court, a bit like today's Private Eye or Charlie Hebdo? |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I think a good sense of humour is one that can be adapted by audience and also by content
A good sense of humour should be both flexible and fluid "
Totally agree about the fluidity - humour is not set in stone, is it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Kings and Queens used to employ ‘fools’ to tell them the things no one else would dare to.
Had not thought of the jester at court, a bit like today's Private Eye or Charlie Hebdo? "
Can’t message you. I was going to make you laugh too |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"A good sense of humour can get you everything life can throw at you. We heartedly laugh every day at one thing or another. It keeps us sane."
Back to coping mechanism then - does that make jokes acceptable for example about Lockdown? |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"A good sense of humour is one that aligns with mine.
Anything else is a bad sense of humour to me.
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I think that is often when people feel really in tune with each other... when they share that alignment, and conversely they feel at odds when they cannot laugh together? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A good sense of humour is one that aligns with mine.
Anything else is a bad sense of humour to me.
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This ^
It's far too subject to have a single definition of a GSOH. |
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"A good sense of humour can get you everything life can throw at you. We heartedly laugh every day at one thing or another. It keeps us sane.
Back to coping mechanism then - does that make jokes acceptable for example about Lockdown? "
Yes for us it does. If you can find some humour in every bad situation, it really helps. It helps to ease the pressure of a bad situation. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"A good sense of humour is one that aligns with mine.
Anything else is a bad sense of humour to me.
This ^
It's far too subject to have a single definition of a GSOH."
I would agree with you, that is why I am curious as to what people find is a GSOH. For some it is primarily slapstick, for others it is more satirical, then there are those who laugh at other people's (little) misfortunes like tripping over and then there are those you say stand-up comedians define their sense of humour. I find it really interesting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sense of humour is like sexuality, in that you can’t help what you are attracted to or find funny, it’s innate. Saying that, if you find Mrs Browns Boys funny, then we wouldn’t have anything in common and I wouldn’t want to speak to you. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"A good sense of humour can get you everything life can throw at you. We heartedly laugh every day at one thing or another. It keeps us sane.
Back to coping mechanism then - does that make jokes acceptable for example about Lockdown?
Yes for us it does. If you can find some humour in every bad situation, it really helps. It helps to ease the pressure of a bad situation."
I am with you on that - there is usually something that can be identified as funny. I walked past a guy this morning who was polishing his car, at length and with enormous diligence. As I walked past he laughed and said... Well, I used to hate doing this but now I consider it a privilege under lockdown" |
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"A good sense of humour can get you everything life can throw at you. We heartedly laugh every day at one thing or another. It keeps us sane.
Back to coping mechanism then - does that make jokes acceptable for example about Lockdown?
Yes for us it does. If you can find some humour in every bad situation, it really helps. It helps to ease the pressure of a bad situation. I am with you on that - there is usually something that can be identified as funny. I walked past a guy this morning who was polishing his car, at length and with enormous diligence. As I walked past he laughed and said... Well, I used to hate doing this but now I consider it a privilege under lockdown" "
Exactly. Simple humour and saying something to make someone smile is great. We need more humour in the world. |
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By *ollbiMan
over a year ago
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"A good sense of humour can get you everything life can throw at you. We heartedly laugh every day at one thing or another. It keeps us sane."
seconded!...long live the funny guy/gal. Aenybawdy whoew ken maeyke me laaf aboot wee jawbbies floetin en the tawilet gets maah voet.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A good sense of humour is one that aligns with mine.
Anything else is a bad sense of humour to me.
This ^
It's far too subject to have a single definition of a GSOH.
I would agree with you, that is why I am curious as to what people find is a GSOH. For some it is primarily slapstick, for others it is more satirical, then there are those who laugh at other people's (little) misfortunes like tripping over and then there are those you say stand-up comedians define their sense of humour. I find it really interesting. "
I think that like our sexual preferences, what we find funny is an instinctive reaction that’s a product of our personal psychology and experiences, especially from our early life.
For some reason most of my favourite comedians are Jewish and Americans although I’m neither. Something in their humour appeals to the outsider in me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Kings and Queens used to employ ‘fools’ to tell them the things no one else would dare to.
Had not thought of the jester at court, a bit like today's Private Eye or Charlie Hebdo? "
Yes, and look at the reaction to Charlie Hebdo to see how powerful satire and mockery still are. |
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By *obajxMan
over a year ago
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I read this joke yesterday and am still giggling at it today
Does it mean I have a GSOH or a stupid one?
The gas man knocked at a door, young lad about 14 answered dressed in suspenders, wig, basque, full make-up, glass of brandy in one hand and a spliff like a Cornetto in the other
Gas man says, 'Hiya mate, is your mam or dad in?'
Kid replies, 'What do you fuckin think?'
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find anything amusing. In the words of comedians like jimmy carr and russell howard. You can make a joke out of literally any situation. It may not be to some peoples tastes. But fuck it. Dont listen if you're easily offended. If you know they do risque/edgy stuff. Just dont watch.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I use really dark in situations which are hard, tragic, upsetting... a coping mechanism if you will
I believe thats referred to as gallows humour
How do you think it benefits the person who is using it? I am curious because I do it myself sometimes. "
My mum died in the most horrific way a few years ago, and there is so much crying and screaming but myself and my sisters found that saying the awful things about it and laughing it off was the only way we could handle it.
I have always had an observational quick sense of humour but can be quite pisstaking at times. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think a good GSOH is the ability to laugh at most things, not take yourself too serious and not be offended over the slightest thing.
Some people are born laughing, I swear I was as I laugh alot, some people are just serious all the time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There’s not a lot of things I’m certain about in life but as far as Having gsoh I can guarantee if it is laughter you are looking for I can definitely make you smile |
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