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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It says on my profile that I have two jobs therefore I can rarely meet at the drop of a hat, if they miss that bit I tell them, if I have a meet arranged on an evening when I am not working, I tell them and if they are not prepared to wait, tough, if that is the case, they are just really looking to empty their sacks. There are a few however, who are prepared to wait and one in particular does long shifts, we are meeting this week for a coffee. I also make it plainly obvious that I meet for a social drink first, those that think we will be going back to theirs (or their hotel room, another desperate to empty their sacks ), I tell them too, if there is no mutual attraction, nothing is going to happen. They either wait for me or they disappear and don't chat again, who needs filters; two jobs is just as good.
But I do understand where you are coming from, when I was doing less hours in the second job, I met a different guy, socially every night of the week over about 2 weeks, decided that was silly and didn't give me any time to myself and really if they are not prepared to wait, they are not worth meeting. Tell them you have a list of people who you would like to meet, that they are on the list, see what they say, if they are quite happy and relaxed about meeting when you are ready, keep them on the list, if they get pushy, take them off the list |