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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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I used to as I feel that in general people deserve a second chance. And accidents/ flat tyres/ babysitters not turning up... this does happen. It is possible.
If the excuse sounds half baked - that is a different story and no, I would not. It would result in a block. |
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"I used to as I feel that in general people deserve a second chance. And accidents/ flat tyres/ babysitters not turning up... this does happen. It is possible.
If the excuse sounds half baked - that is a different story and no, I would not. It would result in a block."
Yea we blocked him on our couples account but now he’s recognised me and mailed again .I’m sceptical to say the least |
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"At least they let you know, that in my books is worth a second chance as shit happens. Though, I would be wary the next time.
If it's just a no show though, then no second chances.
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Although, saying that if I actually had a few people interested in me, those would probably take priority. |
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over a year ago
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I wouldn't have been chatting for a few months. I meet within 2 weeks of the first message or not at all.
I've had an outlandish excuse for someone cancelling a meet before. I met him later and his reason was actually true. Weird... but true. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It all depends, on how much i liked them the first time ans also if they were jolly contrite .
I am very forgiving 
We all know you are  xx"
ha ha you still owe me a story report ha ha  |
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"At least they let you know, that in my books is worth a second chance as shit happens. Though, I would be wary the next time.
If it's just a no show though, then no second chances.
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This is our take. Anyone who didn’t show without letting us know never gets a second chance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends if it’s a first meet then no never
If we had meet before then yes as I can understand things in real life crop up
But if they make a habit off it would have to tell them it’s been fun but sorry pulled out off meets to meny times x |
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"It all depends, on how much i liked them the first time ans also if they were jolly contrite .
I am very forgiving
We all know you are xx ha ha you still owe me a story report ha ha "
Be On your desk in the morning sir  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It all depends, on how much i liked them the first time ans also if they were jolly contrite .
I am very forgiving
We all know you are xx ha ha you still owe me a story report ha ha
Be On your desk in the morning sir "
lol i shall pop a star on your chart young lady |
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"If someone was chatting to you on here for a few months and you arranged a meet and they cancelled with an half baked excuse few hours before would you give them a second chance ?"
The crux of the matter here id suggest is the " half baked"
By that I assume its in line with "can't come now the cat looks poorly" and not "ive just found out I'm sars 2 positive"
This must have happened quite a while back are you still chatting what did you decide
Sorry if I've wrongly assumed this is a personal experience op and not just a conversation piece   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to as I feel that in general people deserve a second chance. And accidents/ flat tyres/ babysitters not turning up... this does happen. It is possible.
If the excuse sounds half baked - that is a different story and no, I would not. It would result in a block.
Yea we blocked him on our couples account but now he’s recognised me and mailed again .I’m sceptical to say the least "
If you have previously blocked him then trust yourself, keep him blocked.
We all know genuine reasoning for cancelling happen, but if it is a half baked excuse and you don’t believe it then it is a cue for you to move on.
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We don't meet anyone we haven't chatted to for a good while first. If the chat doesn't flow or the contact fizzles out we view it as the best possible indication that we're not suited. We also only meet socially the first time and find that puts off anyone who's here for loads of one-offs with no intention of anything regular. Yes, we've had to cancel at late notice a couple of times over the years but because we'd got to know those guys quite well by that time, they believed us and went on to become regular partners. We'd tend to give the benefit of the doubt once but twice in a row and that would be that. |
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over a year ago
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I met a couple here not long after I joined. Actually, they were my first meet from fab. They were 50 miles away, but I was happy to travel. Had two meets, and arranged a third. A few days before the third meet, I message to apologise, as I'd be unable to make the date.
They were totally understanding... and blocked me. |
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Nope - don’t lie to me about stupid shit init. Be an adult & upfront with me and I’ll accept it. But try bull me, nope.
Unless there’s a valid excuse - then id just wish them well and probably not talk to them again |
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"I met a couple here not long after I joined. Actually, they were my first meet from fab. They were 50 miles away, but I was happy to travel. Had two meets, and arranged a third. A few days before the third meet, I message to apologise, as I'd be unable to make the date.
They were totally understanding... and blocked me."
Thats a little harsh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmmm.... It depends. I’m guessing if you’d been chatting to him for a while then there was something you liked and a connection had been established.
I’d be tempted to give him another chance on the understanding that if it happens again he’s history.
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I always arrange a meet to coincide with something else ( shopping etc) so I have a back up plan, so far to date I've not needed it but there is always the first time
Yes I would give a second chance as I know how quickly plans can change with work, kids, life etc.
If I found out he had cancelled me for another meet then  |
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I have done then they did it again and the excuses and timings led me to believe he is possibly married so I stopped it there and then as I don’t meet married/attached (no judgement just preference) |
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"I have done then they did it again and the excuses and timings led me to believe he is possibly married so I stopped it there and then as I don’t meet married/attached (no judgement just preference) "
Exactly what I’m thinking to be honest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. I'm not a fan of second chances altogether. I don't believe people change. They just get more clever pretending they have good intentions. Must come with experience over the years. |
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"If someone was chatting to you on here for a few months and you arranged a meet and they cancelled with an half baked excuse few hours before would you give them a second chance ?"
Yes. If they told me as soon as they could.
They'd have to re arrange though ..... |
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