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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't ever give my mobile number out to random people on the internet.
But that's just me
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Pay and go SIM card sis is the way to go that’s what I do swap out sims pay and go for swingeing that way if number ends up somewhere it shouldn’t then it’s a easy snap and change without needing to explain to family and friends about why I am changeing my number x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because facebook is a fucktard, despite me not havingy number on there, if I add a contact, they suddenly appear in "recommended friends"  "
That’s because ur Facebook app is snooping ur contacts list at all times
For that instance cheap android phone and don’t install any off the Facebook apps |
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"Because facebook is a fucktard, despite me not havingy number on there, if I add a contact, they suddenly appear in "recommended friends"
That’s because ur Facebook app is snooping ur contacts list at all times
For that instance cheap android phone and don’t install any off the Facebook apps "
Or don't give your phone number out and use your own phone however you want  |
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"Because facebook is a fucktard, despite me not havingy number on there, if I add a contact, they suddenly appear in "recommended friends"
But it’s still your choice to acknowledge or not? "
But people can ring your number from any other phone, give it out, post it somewhere else...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because facebook is a fucktard, despite me not havingy number on there, if I add a contact, they suddenly appear in "recommended friends"
That’s because ur Facebook app is snooping ur contacts list at all times
For that instance cheap android phone and don’t install any off the Facebook apps
Or don't give your phone number out and use your own phone however you want "
Don’t need to easy to get anyone’s details hence why this happens ie read terms and conditions off what in it
On page 260 out off 400 bs will have we have the right to do what ever we want with any information on ur phone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because facebook is a fucktard, despite me not havingy number on there, if I add a contact, they suddenly appear in "recommended friends"
But it’s still your choice to acknowledge or not? "
It is, but it also means I may pop up on their recommended friends, and I dont need fabbers seeing my real name and friends etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We do give our phone numbers out for WhatsApp group chats with females or couples. Single guys its different because they either end up hounding mrs or they just don't have the banter we require to continue the conversation lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because facebook is a fucktard, despite me not havingy number on there, if I add a contact, they suddenly appear in "recommended friends"
That’s because ur Facebook app is snooping ur contacts list at all times
For that instance cheap android phone and don’t install any off the Facebook apps
Or don't give your phone number out and use your own phone however you want "
Exactly why I dont
Kik works just fine |
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"If I trust someone then I give them my number it just so we can speak over the phone etc xx"
Totally! If I’ve got as far as thinking I want their genitalia in my mouth and wherever else I figure a phone number is a small ask...  |
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"Because facebook is a fucktard, despite me not havingy number on there, if I add a contact, they suddenly appear in "recommended friends"
That’s because ur Facebook app is snooping ur contacts list at all times
For that instance cheap android phone and don’t install any off the Facebook apps
Or don't give your phone number out and use your own phone however you want
Exactly why I dont
Kik works just fine"
I have never had a problem getting to meet someone I am interested in, without sharing a phone number. |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"If I trust someone then I give them my number it just so we can speak over the phone etc xx
Totally! If I’ve got as far as thinking I want their genitalia in my mouth and wherever else I figure a phone number is a small ask... "
Exactly xxx |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Giving your phone number opens up a whole number of possibilities to potentially track you down - which when we are talking about giving it to a random stranger on an internet site could be a dangerous thing.
Giving someone my number opens up the potential for them to be able to find my Facebook, various other social media accounts and other personal information - about 6 or 7 years ago a far right group (Britain First) objected to a comment I made on FB about them - they were able to track me from there to LinkedIn where they were then able to locate my employer and report me for "harrassment" - now fortunately my employer took it with a pinch of salt and effectively asked them to prove it, which they never did, but it could have gone the other way and had a massive impact.
So now only people I implicitly trust get my number or other personal details - if you want to have voice or video conversations there are several apps that allow you to do that without exchanging numbers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is only one person I've given my mobile number to off Fab.
And that's cos I trust him 100%
We text daily and he's a close friend and we help eachother with the shit life throws at us.
But that's different.
If it was to someone who wanted a meet, no chance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I've had stalkers call my number and leave creepy messages on my phone, it was everyday. Was so bad I had to inform the police as they were calling all the time. Oh yeah, had another incident where my number and photos were left on some hooker website. All of a sudden got texts from random dudes asking if I was available. Never again. |
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Ok, some seriously bad experiences here but surely still the block option? I personally think if you’ve got past the chatty stage and are wanting to meet then a phone mjmvef is still ok to ask for .... naive maybe xx |
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"Well I've had stalkers call my number and leave creepy messages on my phone, it was everyday. Was so bad I had to inform the police as they were calling all the time. Oh yeah, had another incident where my number and photos were left on some hooker website. All of a sudden got texts from random dudes asking if I was available. Never again. "
This + used LinkedIn to all my colleagues with photos & lies & put me on several sites & sent 2-4 blokes to my house every night for over a month....police did nothing!
Ended up having to move twice, cars damaged, one of my car burnt out after I moved, so now no social media at all, no nudes (I didn't give them to him in the first place, hacked my laptop), old android phone that allows all permissions to be turned off & 6 numbers later.
Highly unlikely to give out my number. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Ok, some seriously bad experiences here but surely still the block option? I personally think if you’ve got past the chatty stage and are wanting to meet then a phone mjmvef is still ok to ask for .... naive maybe xx"
Even with the block option on your phone though still doesn't stop someone tracking you into WhatsApp, Facebook, LinkedIn and other ways...in fact pretty much anywhere your phone is linked to.
I agree if you've built a level of trust that the risk diminishes the more that trust builds, and pretty much anyone I meet gets my phone number for their security - but then I only used to meet people that I had built a level of trust with.
There is no right or wrong to it - we each make our own risk assessments and decide what's best for us. |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"Why is it so hard, moving things forward, to exchange phone numbers? Surely in this age of being able to block and delete if it doesn’t go well, why is it such an issue to exchange numbers? "
Fur me it's Skype or zoom and that way i can vari if the person or couple are real. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fab chat = initial application
Kik = interview stage
WhatsApp = you've got the job! 
I go through phases where I lose all interest and delete Fab and Kik, so I only swap numbers with the people I intend to stay in contact with longer term. Anyone pushing for it before we're actual friends would put me off. |
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"Ok, some seriously bad experiences here but surely still the block option? I personally think if you’ve got past the chatty stage and are wanting to meet then a phone number is still ok to ask for .... naive maybe xx
Even with the block option on your phone though still doesn't stop someone tracking you into WhatsApp, Facebook, LinkedIn and other ways...in fact pretty much anywhere your phone is linked to.
I agree if you've built a level of trust that the risk diminishes the more that trust builds, and pretty much anyone I meet gets my phone number for their security - but then I only used to meet people that I had built a level of trust with.
There is no right or wrong to it - we each make our own risk assessments and decide what's best for us."
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By *ourdoyMan
over a year ago
South |
"Fab chat = initial application
Kik = interview stage
WhatsApp = you've got the job!
I go through phases where I lose all interest and delete Fab and Kik, so I only swap numbers with the people I intend to stay in contact with longer term. Anyone pushing for it before we're actual friends would put me off."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because facebook is a fucktard, despite me not havingy number on there, if I add a contact, they suddenly appear in "recommended friends" "
That's whatsapp not Facebook.
I've had the same issue but I also don't have a Facebook anymore |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is it so hard, moving things forward, to exchange phone numbers? Surely in this age of being able to block and delete if it doesn’t go well, why is it such an issue to exchange numbers? "
Agree, that many people are drama group types. If someone is so worried about giving out their number simply buy a £20 back up phone and keep that for Fab stuff only . Job done . Peoples nature to over complicate the simplest of things. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
Since I've joined it's how deep the conversation are in making each other feel comfortable to give out numbers and I've always felt very much appreciated when I've asked and their happy to my respect is a very solid one and those whose number I've had knows this but I could say same about them but seems like they have been just like myself and that is a lovely thing to have as it's a nicer way getting to know each other calmly I'm not one of those who sends hundreds of messages just because I didn't get a response and all on here know I don't act like that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is it so hard, moving things forward, to exchange phone numbers? Surely in this age of being able to block and delete if it doesn’t go well, why is it such an issue to exchange numbers?
Agree, that many people are drama group types. If someone is so worried about giving out their number simply buy a £20 back up phone and keep that for Fab stuff only . Job done . Peoples nature to over complicate the simplest of things."
Why spend £20 on a phone, top it up, when I can message for free on here?  |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Because facebook is a fucktard, despite me not havingy number on there, if I add a contact, they suddenly appear in "recommended friends"
That’s because ur Facebook app is snooping ur contacts list at all times
For that instance cheap android phone and don’t install any off the Facebook apps "
You can turn this setting off happens to fb messenger as well |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
somewhere, someplace |
"Because facebook is a fucktard, despite me not havingy number on there, if I add a contact, they suddenly appear in "recommended friends" "
They find me on Facebook without exchanging numbers somehow  |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Why is it so hard, moving things forward, to exchange phone numbers? Surely in this age of being able to block and delete if it doesn’t go well, why is it such an issue to exchange numbers?
Agree, that many people are drama group types. If someone is so worried about giving out their number simply buy a £20 back up phone and keep that for Fab stuff only . Job done . Peoples nature to over complicate the simplest of things.
Why spend £20 on a phone, top it up, when I can message for free on here? "
Why 20 pound SIM deals are low as 14 pound I pay 11 pound with no contract this expired 2013 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because facebook is a fucktard, despite me not havingy number on there, if I add a contact, they suddenly appear in "recommended friends"
That’s because ur Facebook app is snooping ur contacts list at all times
For that instance cheap android phone and don’t install any off the Facebook apps
You can turn this setting off happens to fb messenger as well "
On iPhones you can as that what the apple vs Facebook war is over
On android it’s a bit harder if you got ur phone rooted yes you can get in to the root privileges and stop It |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Why is it so hard, moving things forward, to exchange phone numbers? Surely in this age of being able to block and delete if it doesn’t go well, why is it such an issue to exchange numbers?
Agree, that many people are drama group types. If someone is so worried about giving out their number simply buy a £20 back up phone and keep that for Fab stuff only . Job done . Peoples nature to over complicate the simplest of things.
Why spend £20 on a phone, top it up, when I can message for free on here? "
Exactly this - there are plenty of "secure" ways to be able to communicate with people, including voice/video calls, without the need to give any number out - nothing overly complicated in that and I've saved £20 plus top ups |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Because facebook is a fucktard, despite me not havingy number on there, if I add a contact, they suddenly appear in "recommended friends"
That’s because ur Facebook app is snooping ur contacts list at all times
For that instance cheap android phone and don’t install any off the Facebook apps
You can turn this setting off happens to fb messenger as well
On iPhones you can as that what the apple vs Facebook war is over
On android it’s a bit harder if you got ur phone rooted yes you can get in to the root privileges and stop It "
It's in the messenger settings as a option if you turn on or off same goes for Facebook as they ask if you would like to connect numbers with the apps |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because facebook is a fucktard, despite me not havingy number on there, if I add a contact, they suddenly appear in "recommended friends"
That’s because ur Facebook app is snooping ur contacts list at all times
For that instance cheap android phone and don’t install any off the Facebook apps
You can turn this setting off happens to fb messenger as well
On iPhones you can as that what the apple vs Facebook war is over
On android it’s a bit harder if you got ur phone rooted yes you can get in to the root privileges and stop It
It's in the messenger settings as a option if you turn on or off same goes for Facebook as they ask if you would like to connect numbers with the apps"
They tracking so much more google apple vs Facebook
Basically if you install Facebook ur gave everything up including bank deals |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Because facebook is a fucktard, despite me not havingy number on there, if I add a contact, they suddenly appear in "recommended friends"
That’s because ur Facebook app is snooping ur contacts list at all times
For that instance cheap android phone and don’t install any off the Facebook apps
You can turn this setting off happens to fb messenger as well
On iPhones you can as that what the apple vs Facebook war is over
On android it’s a bit harder if you got ur phone rooted yes you can get in to the root privileges and stop It
It's in the messenger settings as a option if you turn on or off same goes for Facebook as they ask if you would like to connect numbers with the apps
They tracking so much more google apple vs Facebook
Basically if you install Facebook ur gave everything up including bank deals "
If you turn off find my device it's unable to track much as apps track movement of the device |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Is it because there not who they say they are ?? "
I think for many it Is, and maybe bad experiences for some, others it just takes time. It’s a good way to out time wasters or problematic people but you might also miss out. We wouldn’t consider meeting anyone who won’t give out a number |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because facebook is a fucktard, despite me not havingy number on there, if I add a contact, they suddenly appear in "recommended friends"
That’s because ur Facebook app is snooping ur contacts list at all times
For that instance cheap android phone and don’t install any off the Facebook apps
You can turn this setting off happens to fb messenger as well
On iPhones you can as that what the apple vs Facebook war is over
On android it’s a bit harder if you got ur phone rooted yes you can get in to the root privileges and stop It
It's in the messenger settings as a option if you turn on or off same goes for Facebook as they ask if you would like to connect numbers with the apps
They tracking so much more google apple vs Facebook
Basically if you install Facebook ur gave everything up including bank deals
If you turn off find my device it's unable to track much as apps track movement of the device"
It’s location services for that to be turned off |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Because facebook is a fucktard, despite me not havingy number on there, if I add a contact, they suddenly appear in "recommended friends"
That’s because ur Facebook app is snooping ur contacts list at all times
For that instance cheap android phone and don’t install any off the Facebook apps
You can turn this setting off happens to fb messenger as well
On iPhones you can as that what the apple vs Facebook war is over
On android it’s a bit harder if you got ur phone rooted yes you can get in to the root privileges and stop It
It's in the messenger settings as a option if you turn on or off same goes for Facebook as they ask if you would like to connect numbers with the apps
They tracking so much more google apple vs Facebook
Basically if you install Facebook ur gave everything up including bank deals
If you turn off find my device it's unable to track much as apps track movement of the device
It’s location services for that to be turned off "
Yes my dear |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
Also resetting your previous device location I would always empty as this is keeping a record of you which all apps collect and if you delete a app and reinstall it'll ask you preference I never do as I'm giving them consent to my personal information... |
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"Is it because there not who they say they are ??
I think for many it Is, and maybe bad experiences for some, others it just takes time. It’s a good way to out time wasters or problematic people but you might also miss out. We wouldn’t consider meeting anyone who won’t give out a number"
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"Ok, some seriously bad experiences here but surely still the block option? I personally think if you’ve got past the chatty stage and are wanting to meet then a phone mjmvef is still ok to ask for .... naive maybe xx"
You are not listening to the replies. The block option doesn't work for some determined weirdos |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes blocking a number is an option but as stated above, it doesn't stop people popping up on social media.
It takes a lot for me to give my number out. I use telegram where I can't be found and neither can my number. Very few people make it as far as having my phone number.
Trust plays a huge part in it. |
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I swap phone numbers quite early on if I'm considering meeting . Not been an issue so far .
People have appeared on my "people you may know" on FB and I'm assuming I've showed up on theirs but again hasn't been a problem.
I obviously must be engaging with sane peeps only
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I agree with those who see it the other way - why do you need my number with so many other ways to communicate?
Unless we have chatted for long enough to be friends, in which case you’re very welcome to it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not difficult for straightforward people
It's got nothing to do with being straightforward, it's about trust and safety "
Incredibly naïve to give out phone numbers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not difficult for straightforward people
It's got nothing to do with being straightforward, it's about trust and safety
Incredibly naïve to give out phone numbers."
I disagree if you’ve built up a good rapport with someone  |
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If a weirdo on here shared my number with other weirdos it would be an issue. I’d have to change my number. Blocking will only work if someone uses the same number each time.
If a weirdo connected my profile with my number and stared it online my privacy would be compromised and my children, parents, employer etc. Could find out and I don’t want them to.
I don’t want to receive calls when I’m with friends, family, colleagues etc.
If I trusted someone and felt comfortable I’d share my number. I don’t know anyone on here from Adam.
If someone really wanted to speak via the phone I’d suggest a video call instead. Or I’d call them and withhold my number.
If someone is desperate for my number and won’t consider alternative means of communication it would seem very suspicious.
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
I've got no wish to get a call late at night after someone's had a drink, gotten horny and decided they'd like to see if I'm free for a meet. Nor do I want them to show up on my Facebook. These things are all linked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I am going to fuck them then I want to chat to them prior and if they can cope with the slow burn of me wanting to take my time in wanting to get to know them to build the trust up then I will give my number. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been on & off here for 10 years or so now
In that time, there are 4 people I have exchanged numbers with
They have my proper #, not a random PAYG
We rarely, if ever, contact each other outside of the site, but it's there, if needed, and one (or both) isn't logged into Fab, e.g if travelling to a social and running late |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also, aside from safety, if you have a few chats going on it's neater to keep them on here or an app like kik than have them dotted in between WhatsApp chats with friends and family. Saves having to constantly shield your phone from kids eyes (although in a lot of cases it's partners eyes and not kids!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because facebook is a fucktard, despite me not havingy number on there, if I add a contact, they suddenly appear in "recommended friends"
But it’s still your choice to acknowledge or not?
It is, but it also means I may pop up on their recommended friends, and I dont need fabbers seeing my real name and friends etc"
I had this once, hence never using WhatsApp for here. It’s why I only ever use telegram now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you're on social media then giving out your phone number will give people access to your FaceTwitInsta accounts.
And then there's the obvious married / attached folk.
If you cant give me your phone number then I cant put your cock in my mouth |
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"If you're on social media then giving out your phone number will give people access to your FaceTwitInsta accounts.
And then there's the obvious married / attached folk.
If you cant give me your phone number then I cant put your cock in my mouth "
Absolutely!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because facebook is a fucktard, despite me not havingy number on there, if I add a contact, they suddenly appear in "recommended friends" "
Because this |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I won't give out my number until after I have met someone if someone keeps pushing for my phone number I stop chatting. In fact there is only a very small amount of people on here who have my number and that is only because I trust them.It's too easy to find out information about someone if you give your number out and after a friend got hassled for months from a guy who kept calling her at all hours on different phones I wont be changing my mind either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly thought it was just me that does not give out their number. The very first and last line on my profile says I do not and will not give out my number, but the times I get asked by a guy after two or three messages for my phone number is ridiculous. X |
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"Why is it so hard, moving things forward, to exchange phone numbers? Surely in this age of being able to block and delete if it doesn’t go well, why is it such an issue to exchange numbers? "
Nope we never give out numbers, regardless. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is it so hard, moving things forward, to exchange phone numbers? Surely in this age of being able to block and delete if it doesn’t go well, why is it such an issue to exchange numbers? "
Because they are Wierdos that think it’s perfectly fine to meet someone without having a phone conversation first.....
It’s always funny to me , that they can send 1 million pics/videos in all sorts of undress , having sex , and with their faces .... But giving out their number is a problem....
It’s a huge red flag for me and I’ve turned down meets because of this very thing.....
Definitely catfish.....
Buyers beware |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not difficult for straightforward people
It's got nothing to do with being straightforward, it's about trust and safety "
I trust with my safety, the people I give my number to.
See...straightforward  |
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"Why is it so hard, moving things forward, to exchange phone numbers? Surely in this age of being able to block and delete if it doesn’t go well, why is it such an issue to exchange numbers?
Because they are Wierdos that think it’s perfectly fine to meet someone without having a phone conversation first.....
It’s always funny to me , that they can send 1 million pics/videos in all sorts of undress , having sex , and with their faces .... But giving out their number is a problem....
It’s a huge red flag for me and I’ve turned down meets because of this very thing.....
Definitely catfish.....
Buyers beware "
I’d have a phone conversation, I’d just withhold my number first. If we met for a social, got along fine and planned to have further meets I might consider swapping numbers but there are various other ways we can chat with each other. The red flag for me would be someone insisting on getting my number and not willing to consider the other methods of communication. You don’t need to share numbers for a video call, for example.
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Why is it so hard, moving things forward, to exchange phone numbers? Surely in this age of being able to block and delete if it doesn’t go well, why is it such an issue to exchange numbers?
Because they are Wierdos that think it’s perfectly fine to meet someone without having a phone conversation first.....
It’s always funny to me , that they can send 1 million pics/videos in all sorts of undress , having sex , and with their faces .... But giving out their number is a problem....
It’s a huge red flag for me and I’ve turned down meets because of this very thing.....
Definitely catfish.....
Buyers beware "
"Definitely catfish"?!
I think this thread has shown clearly that isn't the case the majority of the time - and there's a world of difference sharing pics etc that can't necessarily be traced back to the owner and a phone number that can (again as shown on this thread).
Ultimately it's a matter of personal judgement and preference - would I give my number out to a random person I've only just started talking to, but don't really know that well if it meant I'd get a meet? No way in the world would I.
Would I give my number to someone I'd built a level of trust with and got to know a little? I've insisted on doing so for their own safety in the past.
There are many ways that people can establish how genuine someone is without having to give their phone number and without it meaning they are a catfish for not giving it. |
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Use an old and a cheap sim only deal and have a number solely for meets etc away from your personal life completely.
You don't have to have the phone with you at all times and can turn it off and get on with your life without worrying about what people might do with the number etc. |
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"Use an old and a cheap sim only deal and have a number solely for meets etc away from your personal life completely.
You don't have to have the phone with you at all times and can turn it off and get on with your life without worrying about what people might do with the number etc. "
That should say old phone. Dam my typing |
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I’ve given my number to three fab people but only after we’ve had satisfactory sex.
I wouldn’t give out my number beforehand as you could be any thing until I’ve met you.
I wouldn’t give out my number if the sex was unsatisfactory for obvious reasons. |
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"Why is it so hard, moving things forward, to exchange phone numbers? Surely in this age of being able to block and delete if it doesn’t go well, why is it such an issue to exchange numbers?
Because they are Wierdos that think it’s perfectly fine to meet someone without having a phone conversation first.....
It’s always funny to me , that they can send 1 million pics/videos in all sorts of undress , having sex , and with their faces .... But giving out their number is a problem....
It’s a huge red flag for me and I’ve turned down meets because of this very thing.....
Definitely catfish.....
Buyers beware "
obviously not, look at the amount of women refusing because they've had stalkers...
me, I don't give out my number, I wont give you naked pics neither, even funny over my address.....because I've had issues concerning them all & a TWAT |
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"I think you can be found on Google using your phone number.That could lead to your home address."
Rubbish companies perhaps, private phones , no chance . Do you know the fines Google would face for breaching Gdpr regs. |
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"Use an old and a cheap sim only deal and have a number solely for meets etc away from your personal life completely.
You don't have to have the phone with you at all times and can turn it off and get on with your life without worrying about what people might do with the number etc. "
This is exactly what we do.
Our phone hasn’t been turned on for the last few months as it was only used when we were arranging meets to verify both parties were genuine. |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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"Because facebook is a fucktard, despite me not havingy number on there, if I add a contact, they suddenly appear in "recommended friends"
That’s because ur Facebook app is snooping ur contacts list at all times
For that instance cheap android phone and don’t install any off the Facebook apps
You can turn this setting off happens to fb messenger as well "
On iPhone don't use the Facebook app, is another option. |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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"Giving your phone number opens up a whole number of possibilities to potentially track you down - which when we are talking about giving it to a random stranger on an internet site could be a dangerous thing.
Giving someone my number opens up the potential for them to be able to find my Facebook, various other social media accounts and other personal information - about 6 or 7 years ago a far right group (Britain First) objected to a comment I made on FB about them - they were able to track me from there to LinkedIn where they were then able to locate my employer and report me for "harrassment" - now fortunately my employer took it with a pinch of salt and effectively asked them to prove it, which they never did, but it could have gone the other way and had a massive impact.
So now only people I implicitly trust get my number or other personal details - if you want to have voice or video conversations there are several apps that allow you to do that without exchanging numbers."
Britain first were do laly extremist group. That have been banned under the terrorism act what was scary at the time were random people sharing their posts without realizing what They were sharing. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
People can still be traced via a number I'm not going to go in detail but that's not normal behaviour for anyone to be doing so yes building up trust is very important and at times a guy instinct can give you great advice remember not everyone is similar to past experiences and knowledge is the best |
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It's because some people don't consider having a disposable number, which they could get rid of, should they ever need to. They won't be traceable from it, as they'd just use it for this.
Ideally used with a dual SIM phone, that can thus have 2 phone numbers active on it, all of the time, for calls, texts etc.
A PAYG sim card may only need topping up every few months, so isn't a huge cost.
Some will give a number, others won't. |
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This thread is pure comedy.....
It’s like I’m reading a book about espionage....
This site is meant for people to meet and have great sex.. Not practice spy craft .....
We are meeting people for sex not doing international nuclear arms deals...
But I have to ask everyone that doesn’t give out their numbers a serious question.....
What if you and the person you’re meeting show up to the destination and there is no internet service?
How do you find each other? |
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"This thread is pure comedy.....
It’s like I’m reading a book about espionage....
This site is meant for people to meet and have great sex.. Not practice spy craft .....
We are meeting people for sex not doing international nuclear arms deals...
But I have to ask everyone that doesn’t give out their numbers a serious question.....
What if you and the person you’re meeting show up to the destination and there is no internet service?
How do you find each other?"
I actually agree with you for once
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"This thread is pure comedy.....
It’s like I’m reading a book about espionage....
This site is meant for people to meet and have great sex.. Not practice spy craft .....
We are meeting people for sex not doing international nuclear arms deals...
But I have to ask everyone that doesn’t give out their numbers a serious question.....
What if you and the person you’re meeting show up to the destination and there is no internet service?
How do you find each other?"
Wave a silk hanky at the guy with the carnation in his lapel? |
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"This thread is pure comedy.....
It’s like I’m reading a book about espionage....
This site is meant for people to meet and have great sex.. Not practice spy craft .....
We are meeting people for sex not doing international nuclear arms deals...
But I have to ask everyone that doesn’t give out their numbers a serious question.....
What if you and the person you’re meeting show up to the destination and there is no internet service?
How do you find each other?
Wave a silk hanky at the guy with the carnation in his lapel?"
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"This thread is pure comedy.....
It’s like I’m reading a book about espionage....
This site is meant for people to meet and have great sex.. Not practice spy craft .....
We are meeting people for sex not doing international nuclear arms deals...
But I have to ask everyone that doesn’t give out their numbers a serious question.....
What if you and the person you’re meeting show up to the destination and there is no internet service?
How do you find each other?"
Good question when they look nothing like their pic! When n I meet they allways spy me first! X |
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I don't mind giving out my number usually prefer kik, until we meet in person if the possibility of meeting again rises I will give my number then.
I have had a bad experience and you would think from a crazy woman but was from a couple. |
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"This thread is pure comedy.....
It’s like I’m reading a book about espionage....
This site is meant for people to meet and have great sex.. Not practice spy craft .....
We are meeting people for sex not doing international nuclear arms deals...
But I have to ask everyone that doesn’t give out their numbers a serious question.....
What if you and the person you’re meeting show up to the destination and there is no internet service?
How do you find each other?"
With our eyes? I've been lucky that I've never had someone turn up not looking like their pics. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"This thread is pure comedy.....
It’s like I’m reading a book about espionage....
This site is meant for people to meet and have great sex.. Not practice spy craft .....
We are meeting people for sex not doing international nuclear arms deals...
But I have to ask everyone that doesn’t give out their numbers a serious question.....
What if you and the person you’re meeting show up to the destination and there is no internet service?
How do you find each other?"
Hold a sign like at the airport |
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I am very reluctant to give out my phone number as with Fab, Kik , Telegram and even Skype messaging there are plenty of other ways of contacting each other that can be kept separate from every day life and work. |
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"All I would say is there is a couple, men especially black men should be weary off. They appear nice on this site may be a little patriot, but on other sites they are vile."
Let me guess, you didn’t fancy his wife... so then he hurled abuse at you..... SURPRISE SURPRISE
I met a couple I hadn’t seen in years recently... the wife and I were relaxing after playing but for some reason the husband decided to go on a tirade about how they stole the election from Trump..... I’m listening to him thinking... does he realize he is speaking to a black man , after 20 minutes of this I made my excuses and left...
The moral of the story is just because a person enjoys watching a black guy fucking their wife , doesn’t mean they can’t be a racist.....
I know it’s shocking, but let nothing in the lifestyle surprise you.... |
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"All I would say is there is a couple, men especially black men should be weary off. They appear nice on this site may be a little patriot, but on other sites they are vile.
Let me guess, you didn’t fancy his wife... so then he hurled abuse at you..... SURPRISE SURPRISE
I met a couple I hadn’t seen in years recently... the wife and I were relaxing after playing but for some reason the husband decided to go on a tirade about how they stole the election from Trump..... I’m listening to him thinking... does he realize he is speaking to a black man , after 20 minutes of this I made my excuses and left...
The moral of the story is just because a person enjoys watching a black guy fucking their wife , doesn’t mean they can’t be a racist.....
I know it’s shocking, but let nothing in the lifestyle surprise you...."
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"This thread is pure comedy.....
It’s like I’m reading a book about espionage....
This site is meant for people to meet and have great sex.. Not practice spy craft .....
We are meeting people for sex not doing international nuclear arms deals...
But I have to ask everyone that doesn’t give out their numbers a serious question.....
What if you and the person you’re meeting show up to the destination and there is no internet service?
How do you find each other?"
I guess if you've not been impacted in some way by giving your number to relative strangers then you would see it as comedy - but trust me there was nothing in the slightest bit funny about my employment being threatened because a far right group had access to mine!!
As I've said I give my number to people I trust and those I am meeting - but it's certainly not something I give up lightly, and I respect those that choose not to at all - there are many ways of maintaining contact and unless you're meeting in some remote location (which I'd question the sanity of doing) then these days being without internet access of any kind is extremely rare. |
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"This thread is pure comedy.....
It’s like I’m reading a book about espionage....
This site is meant for people to meet and have great sex.. Not practice spy craft .....
We are meeting people for sex not doing international nuclear arms deals...
But I have to ask everyone that doesn’t give out their numbers a serious question.....
What if you and the person you’re meeting show up to the destination and there is no internet service?
How do you find each other?
I guess if you've not been impacted in some way by giving your number to relative strangers then you would see it as comedy - but trust me there was nothing in the slightest bit funny about my employment being threatened because a far right group had access to mine!!
As I've said I give my number to people I trust and those I am meeting - but it's certainly not something I give up lightly, and I respect those that choose not to at all - there are many ways of maintaining contact and unless you're meeting in some remote location (which I'd question the sanity of doing) then these days being without internet access of any kind is extremely rare."
These are three simple steps to meeting someone online for sex....
1 - exchange face pictures to gauge attraction
2 - Have a phone/video conversation to establish boundaries , expectations, and to verify people are not catfish...
3 - Meet in a public then if everything feels right , have great sex.....
We are not splitting atoms here .... We are just meeting people to have sex.... it’s not a crime...
It just seems odd to me to get a second phone and play like I’m James Bond .... Just to meet someone for a drink.....
Maybe I’m just too naive or just crazy
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"This thread is pure comedy.....
It’s like I’m reading a book about espionage....
This site is meant for people to meet and have great sex.. Not practice spy craft .....
We are meeting people for sex not doing international nuclear arms deals...
But I have to ask everyone that doesn’t give out their numbers a serious question.....
What if you and the person you’re meeting show up to the destination and there is no internet service?
How do you find each other?"
I actually had this exact scenario occur last year and we found each other in the place that we’d agreed to meet.
I think it was fate.
We three had the most fantastic sex in a hotel room after many cocktails and laughing.
In the morning we had some more fantastic sex and then I went and got us all breakfast from greggs.
She had black coffee, the vegetarian slice and a croissant.
We then exchanged numbers and with gods grace we shall meet again for some more mutually satisfying sexual experiences. |
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over a year ago
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These are three simple steps to meeting someone online for sex....
1 - exchange face pictures to gauge attraction
2 - Have a phone/video conversation to establish boundaries , expectations, and to verify people are not catfish...
3 - Meet in a public then if everything feels right , have great sex.....
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No, those are *your* three steps that work for you and you are comfortable with - and that is perfectly fine and cool.
If others choose to do so differently that is equally fine and cool if it works for them. Now *that* is simple, and if more people respected others ways of doing things the world would be a happier place all round. |
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"This thread is pure comedy.....
It’s like I’m reading a book about espionage....
This site is meant for people to meet and have great sex.. Not practice spy craft .....
We are meeting people for sex not doing international nuclear arms deals...
But I have to ask everyone that doesn’t give out their numbers a serious question.....
What if you and the person you’re meeting show up to the destination and there is no internet service?
How do you find each other?
I guess if you've not been impacted in some way by giving your number to relative strangers then you would see it as comedy - but trust me there was nothing in the slightest bit funny about my employment being threatened because a far right group had access to mine!!
As I've said I give my number to people I trust and those I am meeting - but it's certainly not something I give up lightly, and I respect those that choose not to at all - there are many ways of maintaining contact and unless you're meeting in some remote location (which I'd question the sanity of doing) then these days being without internet access of any kind is extremely rare.
These are three simple steps to meeting someone online for sex....
1 - exchange face pictures to gauge attraction
2 - Have a phone/video conversation to establish boundaries , expectations, and to verify people are not catfish...
3 - Meet in a public then if everything feels right , have great sex.....
We are not splitting atoms here .... We are just meeting people to have sex.... it’s not a crime...
It just seems odd to me to get a second phone and play like I’m James Bond .... Just to meet someone for a drink.....
Maybe I’m just too naive or just crazy
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Yeah, I think people turn it into a bit of a faff "
I think it's more that it sounds like a bit of a faff when you type it out when reality is it's pretty straightforward.
Certainly never been a faff for me the way I approach it. |
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These are three simple steps to meeting someone online for sex....
1 - exchange face pictures to gauge attraction
2 - Have a phone/video conversation to establish boundaries , expectations, and to verify people are not catfish...
3 - Meet in a public then if everything feels right , have great sex.....
No, those are *your* three steps that work for you and you are comfortable with - and that is perfectly fine and cool.
If others choose to do so differently that is equally fine and cool if it works for them. Now *that* is simple, and if more people respected others ways of doing things the world would be a happier place all round."
Ohh I respect how everyone goes about meeting people... If I don’t like it , I just don’t meet them.....
It actually might come down to being a generational thing.....
I grew up meeting people on the internet and using my phone to communicate.....
Maybe the older generation feels like talking on the phone before a meet is just too much....
All I’m saying is if I am going to meet someone for sex.... I’m going to try to be as transparent as possible to show them I am a real person and to try to put their mind at easy.......
I don’t know how it is in the UK.... But if something nefarious does happen to me... I think it would be easier for the police to get and track my phone records from my mobile carrier, to find the last actual number I communicated with.....
Rather than waiting to find my actual phone to go through my internet browsing history and figure out my passwords.....
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