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By *parkle1974 OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

If you can't handle it then maybe this site isn't fir you.

Sometimes in life you can't always get what you want....

As you were.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think often people a no as rejection but actually I'm not sure that it always is.

What I mean by that is often it isn't as personal as the person who has been told no takes it.

Iv had people message me in the past telling me that I've wasted their time after they are the ones that have sent the message and I have simply said no even when my Profile says I'm not meeting.

So that's suggests to me that the person feels rejected in one way or another to get a reaction like that.

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By *ikely ladMan over a year ago

Hounslow

If it's polite and not just being ignored, i think the majority of us boys are fine with that.

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By *urtyGentMan over a year ago

eastleigh

"If you can't handle it then maybe this site isn't fir you.

Sometimes in life you can't always get what you want....

As you were."

Agreed. Even the most “successful” profiles experience rejection. You won’t be for everybody. We are all looking for something different. Embrace it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't be the only one to have been rejected in the real world too I imagine, and having been rejected there first makes it fairly easy to be rejected by someone I haven't met before whos on the other side of the country. Even if the woman lived next door, we like who we like and we don't get frisky with those we don't like in that way. It's no big deal, grow up and move on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Rejection is just a part of life and need to live with it in most cases what ever it is ,as adults we brush ourselves down move on and except it wasn't mend to be

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By *obletonMan over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

"If you can't handle it then maybe this site isn't fir you.

Sometimes in life you can't always get what you want....

As you were."

But if you try sometimes

You get what you need

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By *ausageNmashCouple over a year ago

Andover

Wear a thick skin

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It happens but you know what they say plenty more cock in the sea

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Or maybe let people use the site however they wish

I wouldn’t class having a first message deleted as rejection.

To feel rejected would come after you’ve spent time with someone and then they decide you’re not for them.

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By *icolerobbieCouple over a year ago

walsall

"Or maybe let people use the site however they wish

I wouldn’t class having a first message deleted as rejection.

To feel rejected would come after you’ve spent time with someone and then they decide you’re not for them. "

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By *oxychicWoman over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"Or maybe let people use the site however they wish

I wouldn’t class having a first message deleted as rejection.

To feel rejected would come after you’ve spent time with someone and then they decide you’re not for them. "
exactly this

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The trouble is *some* people lose sight of reality when they sign up to a site like this - because its underlying purpose is to meet other people for sex, all the "norms" of attraction, respect, decency etc go out the window for them and they think that, just by creating a profile, it's a pass to sex on tap.

As I often say, in the real world you aren't attracted to more than around 10% of people you encounter, and of that 10%, probably around 10% will be attracted to you - it's no different here, so if you're blindly messaging people expecting to meet it's inevitable 99% of the time it's going to be a no.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends on how the rejection is presented.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think people have to realise that every one has differing tastes ans wants .

Rejection is just part of fab. The best attitude is smile and move on

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

"If it's polite and not just being ignored, i think the majority of us boys are fine with that. "
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I agree. In my experience men are just happy to get a response to a message, whether it’s a polite no or a chatty reply.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It does depend how you have been rejected. There were three occasions in my life where I felt the pain of rejection acutely. One was grossly unfair with a betrayal at the heart of it, another felt like a betrayal but was actually just an incompatibility and the other because i felt shit about myself because of how it was said.

Dealing with each of them in a relatively dignified way was my way of coping and maintaining a level of personal pride. However it was hard to remain fairly stoic when I felt so hurt.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Rejection is never nice. That's why I'm polite when I tell people no autographs.

On here, though, unless an existing relationship with someone here is ending, it's a bit unwise to feel put out if you ask for a meet and get a polite no thanks.

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By *ninja000Man over a year ago

Manchester

So does anyone fancy a Fuck?

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By *arbarianzCouple over a year ago

BARNSTAPLE

"So does anyone fancy a Fuck?

I mean, you have to know that the most amusing response here is..no thanks?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

For sure just move on! Has to b a mutual attraction and if it's not there it's just not x

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By *luebell888Woman over a year ago

Glasgowish

Nobody likes being rejected but we are all adults so should just accept it when it happens. I will never forget the man who one minute called me sex on legs then changed this to me being a wrinkled old tart after a polite "no thank you". So childish.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

"Nobody likes being rejected but we are all adults so should just accept it when it happens. I will never forget the man who one minute called me sex on legs then changed this to me being a wrinkled old tart after a polite "no thank you". So childish."

Ha ha yes have had simlar like u fat old slag after first saying something complimentary some just cant take rejection I guess x

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By *arbarianzCouple over a year ago

BARNSTAPLE

Yeah, he should've been truthful from the start!

I KID I KID! It was wide open, I couldn't help myself! :D 3

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By *luebell888Woman over a year ago

Glasgowish

Yeah, he should've been truthful from the start!

I KID I KID! It was wide open, I couldn't help myself! :D 3

. Good job my wrinkles are thick.x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You could get rejected from anything in life. You just have to learn to deal with it. I guess if you’ve always got what you want, rejection is a dent in the pride.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's just not enough hot women on here, so rejection is inevitable from those that are as they get inundated with messages.

I think most men realise this and don't let rejection bother them on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

those words ''mo thanks'' often and i mean often spark a very nasty replies or a why not /try me /oh please so i no longer reply as per rules of the site.

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By *issnkWoman over a year ago

Barnsley

I’ve been called every name under the sun on here when telling someone I’m not interested

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By *konCouple over a year ago

cardiff

We had a right charmer yesterday - which is in all fairness , a very rare thing . Someone from the west midlands . Way outside our operations area even in normality when we’re not meeting anyone .

“

Thanks but you’re way to far for us even in normal times “ x

Was responded to with a barrage of abuse as a block

Silly chap newby , begging for a meet and a verification

We got one of our friends to proxy message him and tell him how childish and I’ll mannerd he was and they blocked him

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not all men get shitty at that reply.

If a woman or a couple dont desire you its their choice.

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By *verage JosephMan over a year ago

Grays & London

I’m totally used to the ghosting & rejection on here! And you know what it’s their loss!

I’m not the best looking, I’m not the fittest, I’ve not got the biggest cock & I’m shit at messaging!

But when people give me the chance to meet for a social they are always surprised how my personality come through.

So I’m not your cuppa. Then that’s your loss

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By *verage JosephMan over a year ago

Grays & London

But 1 thing I’ve never done and still don’t get is when people start abusing someone because they get rejected?!

Like they think abusing someone will get them to change there mind

Get over it

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

"But 1 thing I’ve never done and still don’t get is when people start abusing someone because they get rejected?!

Like they think abusing someone will get them to change there mind

Get over it"

Think it's a saving face thing for them like well I wouldn't want to anyway! But just makes me think phew glad I didnt decide to meet them tbh x

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By *reatformeatWoman over a year ago

my own bubble

"We had a right charmer yesterday - which is in all fairness , a very rare thing . Someone from the west midlands . Way outside our operations area even in normality when we’re not meeting anyone .

“

Thanks but you’re way to far for us even in normal times “ x

Was responded to with a barrage of abuse as a block

Silly chap newby , begging for a meet and a verification

We got one of our friends to proxy message him and tell him how childish and I’ll mannerd he was and they blocked him

Should have just left it at that he’s probably feeling very smug that you went out of your way to respond to his little rant you played right into his hands x

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By *elshcouple18Couple over a year ago

Cardiff

We've been rejected a few times, and have rejected too, but always try and be nice about it. If they can't handle rejection, then they'd not be for us anyway. Not on here for the drama, just a bit of good old honest fun..

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By *verage JosephMan over a year ago

Grays & London

"But 1 thing I’ve never done and still don’t get is when people start abusing someone because they get rejected?!

Like they think abusing someone will get them to change there mind

Get over it

Think it's a saving face thing for them like well I wouldn't want to anyway! But just makes me think phew glad I didnt decide to meet them tbh x"

Yeah maybe I just don’t get it... I’d rather say good luck hope you find what you’re looking for etc etc.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"We had a right charmer yesterday - which is in all fairness , a very rare thing . Someone from the west midlands . Way outside our operations area even in normality when we’re not meeting anyone .

“

Thanks but you’re way to far for us even in normal times “ x

Was responded to with a barrage of abuse as a block

Silly chap newby , begging for a meet and a verification

We got one of our friends to proxy message him and tell him how childish and I’ll mannerd he was and they blocked him

Why involve your friends. Surely just a block and report would be enough? No need for additional drama really.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"We had a right charmer yesterday - which is in all fairness , a very rare thing . Someone from the west midlands . Way outside our operations area even in normality when we’re not meeting anyone .

“

Thanks but you’re way to far for us even in normal times “ x

Was responded to with a barrage of abuse as a block

Silly chap newby , begging for a meet and a verification

We got one of our friends to proxy message him and tell him how childish and I’ll mannerd he was and they blocked him

Should have just left it at that he’s probably feeling very smug that you went out of your way to respond to his little rant you played right into his hands x"

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I'm not everyone's cup of tea, and the same thing the other way round. I don't mind it at all if I get ignored or a polite rejection. Even had a few pleasant chats with them after, so not always a negative thing.

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By *reatformeatWoman over a year ago

my own bubble

I never send a first mail so never had the pleasure of rejection on here , had it in real life though which must be a lot harder to deal with x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Rejection isn't even a valid word on Fab I don't understand why people choose to use it.

This scene is all about preference and who we choose to spend our valuable time with.

Nobody owes any person on here a polite no thanks or explanation as to why they're not interested either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But 1 thing I’ve never done and still don’t get is when people start abusing someone because they get rejected?!

Like they think abusing someone will get them to change there mind

Get over it"

I got abuse from one guy, that I really wasn't in the mood for so I argued with him back n forth for a bit then he tried telling me I was funny and it was all banter so he could try and tempt me again(I wasn't tempted to start, even if I was meeting)

I had an argument with another guy who tried and tempt me with how handsome/great his cock was(so he was told), after I told him I didn't fancy his face, because I had said "I am all about the cock" on a forum thread. Then, because we had been "talking" for a while he thought we were getting on well ffs!

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

Oo oooo ooooo, I've got a video on this one too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oo oooo ooooo, I've got a video on this one too

I’m really enjoying watching your videos, you are bloody brilliant

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

"Oo oooo ooooo, I've got a video on this one too

I’m really enjoying watching your videos, you are bloody brilliant

Some are better than others

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it's polite and not just being ignored, i think the majority of us boys are fine with that. "

Being a couple, we can tell you that we have only come across a very few guys who are fine with this.

Most start giving abuse.

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By *ntrigued32Couple over a year ago

Nottingham

Peach you had me in stitches yesterday.

Jo.Xx

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple over a year ago

Back of the bins.

"If it's polite and not just being ignored, i think the majority of us boys are fine with that.

Being a couple, we can tell you that we have only come across a very few guys who are fine with this.

Most start giving abuse. "

Or the ‘but why?’ Guys constantly asking for a reason.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"If it's polite and not just being ignored, i think the majority of us boys are fine with that. "

My experience suggests that "ignore" gets me way less abuse, so (when my filters allow new messages again) that's what I'll do.

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By *verage JosephMan over a year ago

Grays & London

[Removed by poster at 12/01/21 10:22:29]

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By *verage JosephMan over a year ago

Grays & London

"But 1 thing I’ve never done and still don’t get is when people start abusing someone because they get rejected?!

Like they think abusing someone will get them to change there mind

Get over it

Ha ha ha

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By *ourNextAddictionMan over a year ago

Somerset

Yeah not for the faint hearted - especially if you aren’t on the more talkative/attractive side.

I wonder what the % of people abandoning the site because of rejection alone. I bet pretty high.

Is what it is, like a leaf falling from a tree. You notice it but it makes 0 difference to your day.

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

"Peach you had me in stitches yesterday.

Jo.Xx "

Oh shit, which bit? I'm suffering a small amount of memory loss as to yesterdays antics

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By *he AmbassadorMan over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

"If you can't handle it then maybe this site isn't fir you.

Sometimes in life you can't always get what you want....

As you were."

ahh but did you let them down gently OP

Apparently in this day and age its very important to be Gentle

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But 1 thing I’ve never done and still don’t get is when people start abusing someone because they get rejected?!

Like they think abusing someone will get them to change there mind

Get over it

A lot of guys will use insults/try and start arguments just so they can get any sort of response or conversation out of you.

I used to argue back with people but I can’t even be arsed for that anymore.

99% of my stupid messages are from guys claiming I’m a fake profile or messages saying I’m up my own arse. I just delete them. Far more satisfying.

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By *he AmbassadorMan over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

"But 1 thing I’ve never done and still don’t get is when people start abusing someone because they get rejected?!

Like they think abusing someone will get them to change there mind

Get over it

A lot of guys will use insults/try and start arguments just so they can get any sort of response or conversation out of you.

I used to argue back with people but I can’t even be arsed for that anymore.

99% of my stupid messages are from guys claiming I’m a fake profile or messages saying I’m up my own arse. I just delete them. Far more satisfying. "
so what your saying here is those are good odds for us non assholes here so,,

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"If you can't handle it then maybe this site isn't fir you.

Sometimes in life you can't always get what you want....

As you were.

ahh but did you let them down gently OP

Apparently in this day and age its very important to be Gentle

I am always polite until the point I'm not

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By *he AmbassadorMan over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

"If you can't handle it then maybe this site isn't fir you.

Sometimes in life you can't always get what you want....

As you were.

ahh but did you let them down gently OP

Apparently in this day and age its very important to be Gentle

I am always polite until the point I'm not

"
ohhh tell me more,,

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"If you can't handle it then maybe this site isn't fir you.

Sometimes in life you can't always get what you want....

As you were.

ahh but did you let them down gently OP

Apparently in this day and age its very important to be Gentle

I am always polite until the point I'm not

ohhh tell me more,,

I couldn't possibly do that, it would corrupt you

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By *iamondCougarWoman over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"The trouble is *some* people lose sight of reality when they sign up to a site like this - because its underlying purpose is to meet other people for sex, all the "norms" of attraction, respect, decency etc go out the window for them and they think that, just by creating a profile, it's a pass to sex on tap.

That’s very true GM

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By *onathan14Man over a year ago

Liverpool

I constantly get rejected.

Its comical because this is just fantasy.its nothing serious.although, it is fair to say , I'm pretty darn ugly and have no personality.

Those who get their titty lip on probably have deep issues to resolve.

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By *educerMan over a year ago

Brentwood

You need to understand rejection to appreciate acception

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By *he AmbassadorMan over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

"If you can't handle it then maybe this site isn't fir you.

Sometimes in life you can't always get what you want....

As you were.

ahh but did you let them down gently OP

Apparently in this day and age its very important to be Gentle

I am always polite until the point I'm not

ohhh tell me more,,

I couldn't possibly do that, it would corrupt you

"
ahhhh lol,

Don't let the shirt and tie fool you OP, I was corrupted a long time ago,, summer 94 if I'm memories serve me right

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"You need to understand rejection to appreciate acception

I like that

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I said no thanks to a guy t'other night, as I didn't fancy meeting him right that second what with it being a rainy night and the plague being on the loose, and suddenly I'd gone from the most desirable woman in his world to a "fat bitch with a diseesed (sic) cunt".

Sadly he blocked me. I cried myself to sleep.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I said no thanks to a guy t'other night, as I didn't fancy meeting him right that second what with it being a rainy night and the plague being on the loose, and suddenly I'd gone from the most desirable woman in his world to a "fat bitch with a diseesed (sic) cunt".

Sadly he blocked me. I cried myself to sleep."

Isn't it always the way

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

Sadly he blocked me. I cried myself to sleep."

He doesn't know what he missed

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By *he AmbassadorMan over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Sadly he blocked me. I cried myself to sleep.

Isn't it always the way"

I bloody well hope not,,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It ain't what you do it's the way that you do it...

Behind every profile, good or bad, there is a person. Just because there is a network of computers between you doesn't excuse being rude or nasty. We should all remember that in all of our online interactions with people.

If we are considering the concept of fab rejection, then I have walked that road enough times to know how I del with it. If we are considering a first message going nowhere, then I adopted a "fire and forget" approach. I send a message, and if something comes back, great. If not, no problem.

I always appreciate a "Thanks, but no thanks" message, and often send a "Thank you for your time" response. I've never sent a nasty message here, under any circumstances.

I once received a rejection saying there was something specifically on my profile which I said was essential but wasn't essential for them. I was tempted to ask what that was exactly, but decided better, although I remain curious.

Unfortunately there are twats and fucktards in all walks of life. I try to be the best "me" I can be and not worry about those who don't conduct themselves well.

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Sadly he blocked me. I cried myself to sleep.

Isn't it always the way"

Spelling mistakes do cut me right through the heart

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Sadly he blocked me. I cried myself to sleep.

He doesn't know what he missed

Aww fanks pretty lady....

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By *he AmbassadorMan over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Sadly he blocked me. I cried myself to sleep.

Isn't it always the way

Spelling mistakes do cut me right through the heart

"
maybe he was dyslexic,

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"If you can't handle it then maybe this site isn't fir you.

Sometimes in life you can't always get what you want....

As you were.

ahh but did you let them down gently OP

Apparently in this day and age its very important to be Gentle

I am always polite until the point I'm not

ohhh tell me more,,

I couldn't possibly do that, it would corrupt you

ahhhh lol,

Don't let the shirt and tie fool you OP, I was corrupted a long time ago,, summer 94 if I'm memories serve me right

Sounds intriguing....tell me more

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Sadly he blocked me. I cried myself to sleep.

Isn't it always the way

I bloody well hope not,,

It's ok Ambassador.... the spelling isn't always that bad

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Sadly he blocked me. I cried myself to sleep.

Isn't it always the way

Spelling mistakes do cut me right through the heart

maybe he was dyslexic,

It still hurts my soul, even if that's the case

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By *he AmbassadorMan over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

"If you can't handle it then maybe this site isn't fir you.

Sometimes in life you can't always get what you want....

As you were.

ahh but did you let them down gently OP

Apparently in this day and age its very important to be Gentle

I am always polite until the point I'm not

ohhh tell me more,,

I couldn't possibly do that, it would corrupt you

ahhhh lol,

Don't let the shirt and tie fool you OP, I was corrupted a long time ago,, summer 94 if I'm memories serve me right

Sounds intriguing....tell me more "
I couldn't possibly do that, I'd corrupt you, then you might reject me

Not sure my shirt tails could handle that,,

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Sadly he blocked me. I cried myself to sleep."

Wtf

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By *he AmbassadorMan over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Sadly he blocked me. I cried myself to sleep.

Isn't it always the way

Spelling mistakes do cut me right through the heart

maybe he was dyslexic,

It still hurts my soul, even if that's the case

"
jesus I must drive you nuts so, lol,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sadly he blocked me. I cried myself to sleep."

I've never understood the need to handle a rejection in such a way. How pathetic.

Looking at things objectively and as devils advocate here, is he someone you would have entertained seeing at an other time? In such circumstances, perhaps explaining that the timing isn't right and keep your powder dry.

In the present situation, if I were to message someone it would be with view to striking up a conversation, getting to know them gradually, and seeing if there is a shared interest in meeting when the time is right. From the returned dolly you received, in this case he may not have shared my view.

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Sadly he blocked me. I cried myself to sleep.

Isn't it always the way

Spelling mistakes do cut me right through the heart

maybe he was dyslexic,

It still hurts my soul, even if that's the case

jesus I must drive you nuts so, lol,

The only thing that drives me nuts about you is the distance between your hands and my arse

(Dammit that was smooth)

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By *he AmbassadorMan over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Sadly he blocked me. I cried myself to sleep.

Isn't it always the way

Spelling mistakes do cut me right through the heart

maybe he was dyslexic,

It still hurts my soul, even if that's the case

jesus I must drive you nuts so, lol,

The only thing that drives me nuts about you is the distance between your hands and my arse

(Dammit that was smooth)"
ohhhhh I see our chats are rubbing off on you,, we'll impressed with dá smoothness there sexy hole,,

God Dam covid

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im happy with rejection, not every key fits every lock

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By *amillMan over a year ago

Warrington

Part of the problem with men not being able to accept rejection on here is because they feel entitled to speak to whoever they fancy and expect that they have to like them back.

Just because this is a swingers site doesn’t mean everyone is into you, just like in real life everyone isn’t into you. Knowing that just because you fancy someone doesn’t mean they will fancy you back or have to fancy you back.

Sure there’s plenty of people I’d like to be with, but I can accept that they might not want to be with me.

Seriously though men, what’s the point in getting hung up over one woman ‘rejecting’ you when there’s plenty of others on here that could be interested in you?! Stop wasting your time with those who aren’t interested and find those who are!

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By *he AmbassadorMan over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Sadly he blocked me. I cried myself to sleep.

Isn't it always the way

Spelling mistakes do cut me right through the heart

maybe he was dyslexic,

It still hurts my soul, even if that's the case

jesus I must drive you nuts so, lol,

The only thing that drives me nuts about you is the distance between your hands and my arse

(Dammit that was smooth)"
ohh and BTW, when it comes to your arse, it's hands free all the way, they are needed elsewhere,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Rejection is and should be seen as character building.

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Sadly he blocked me. I cried myself to sleep.

Isn't it always the way

Spelling mistakes do cut me right through the heart

maybe he was dyslexic,

It still hurts my soul, even if that's the case

jesus I must drive you nuts so, lol,

The only thing that drives me nuts about you is the distance between your hands and my arse

(Dammit that was smooth) ohhhhh I see our chats are rubbing off on you,, we'll impressed with dá smoothness there sexy hole,,

God Dam covid

*curtsies*

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Sadly he blocked me. I cried myself to sleep.

Isn't it always the way

Spelling mistakes do cut me right through the heart

maybe he was dyslexic,

It still hurts my soul, even if that's the case

jesus I must drive you nuts so, lol,

The only thing that drives me nuts about you is the distance between your hands and my arse

(Dammit that was smooth)"

perv

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By *hunky GentMan over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Rejection can be hard, but you get used to it after the first few hundred times. Lol

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"If you can't handle it then maybe this site isn't fir you.

Sometimes in life you can't always get what you want....

As you were.

ahh but did you let them down gently OP

Apparently in this day and age its very important to be Gentle

I am always polite until the point I'm not

ohhh tell me more,,

I couldn't possibly do that, it would corrupt you

ahhhh lol,

Don't let the shirt and tie fool you OP, I was corrupted a long time ago,, summer 94 if I'm memories serve me right

Sounds intriguing....tell me more I couldn't possibly do that, I'd corrupt you, then you might reject me

Not sure my shirt tails could handle that,,

I'm always up for being corrupted

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By *he AmbassadorMan over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

"If you can't handle it then maybe this site isn't fir you.

Sometimes in life you can't always get what you want....

As you were.

ahh but did you let them down gently OP

Apparently in this day and age its very important to be Gentle

I am always polite until the point I'm not

ohhh tell me more,,

I couldn't possibly do that, it would corrupt you

ahhhh lol,

Don't let the shirt and tie fool you OP, I was corrupted a long time ago,, summer 94 if I'm memories serve me right

Sounds intriguing....tell me more I couldn't possibly do that, I'd corrupt you, then you might reject me

Not sure my shirt tails could handle that,,

I'm always up for being corrupted

"
ohh music to my ears,,

Screen shot,

Have that in writing now, sweet

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Rejection is and should be seen as character building."

No.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But 1 thing I’ve never done and still don’t get is when people start abusing someone because they get rejected?!

Like they think abusing someone will get them to change there mind

Get over it

A lot of guys will use insults/try and start arguments just so they can get any sort of response or conversation out of you.

I used to argue back with people but I can’t even be arsed for that anymore.

99% of my stupid messages are from guys claiming I’m a fake profile or messages saying I’m up my own arse. I just delete them. Far more satisfying. "

I don't usually engage tbh but I occasionally come on here in a bad mood... Or I like to experiment lol

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

As much as I do agree that some people are awful at taking rejection (and there's no need for abusive messages etc), sometimes women take great joy in dickbaiting - deliberately replying to try and antagonize and then crying wolf. If someone's not for you, fair enough. Don't be a dick and point out all the little ways they are not, their grammatical errors etc etc.

Both sides can refrain from being unpleasant if they are unhappy with the message they receive (note, I'm really not excusing or justifying poor behaviour from the rejected party).

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"If you can't handle it then maybe this site isn't fir you.

Sometimes in life you can't always get what you want....

As you were.

ahh but did you let them down gently OP

Apparently in this day and age its very important to be Gentle

I am always polite until the point I'm not

ohhh tell me more,,

I couldn't possibly do that, it would corrupt you

ahhhh lol,

Don't let the shirt and tie fool you OP, I was corrupted a long time ago,, summer 94 if I'm memories serve me right

Sounds intriguing....tell me more I couldn't possibly do that, I'd corrupt you, then you might reject me

Not sure my shirt tails could handle that,,

I'm always up for being corrupted

ohh music to my ears,,

Screen shot,

Have that in writing now, sweet

I'll even put my personal seal on it

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By *he AmbassadorMan over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

"As much as I do agree that some people are awful at taking rejection (and there's no need for abusive messages etc), sometimes women take great joy in dickbaiting - deliberately replying to try and antagonize and then crying wolf. If someone's not for you, fair enough. Don't be a dick and point out all the little ways they are not, their grammatical errors etc etc.

Both sides can refrain from being unpleasant if they are unhappy with the message they receive (note, I'm really not excusing or justifying poor behaviour from the rejected party)."
I'm wondering, do these guys ever stop and think, would they be the same if the got rejected at a bar in a hotel for example, I doubt it, so why change tact behind a keyboard or screen, makes no sense, unless your an asshole deepdown to begin with.

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By *he AmbassadorMan over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

"If you can't handle it then maybe this site isn't fir you.

Sometimes in life you can't always get what you want....

As you were.

ahh but did you let them down gently OP

Apparently in this day and age its very important to be Gentle

I am always polite until the point I'm not

ohhh tell me more,,

I couldn't possibly do that, it would corrupt you

ahhhh lol,

Don't let the shirt and tie fool you OP, I was corrupted a long time ago,, summer 94 if I'm memories serve me right

Sounds intriguing....tell me more I couldn't possibly do that, I'd corrupt you, then you might reject me

Not sure my shirt tails could handle that,,

I'm always up for being corrupted

ohh music to my ears,,

Screen shot,

Have that in writing now, sweet

I'll even put my personal seal on it

as I'm about to get in the shower for a scrub,,

Ohhh I'm excited now

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By *rive u crazyMan over a year ago

Sheffield

"Wear a thick skin "

You're right but a thick skin makes you insensitive

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By *ixedDevilMan over a year ago

Bootyville

Yh rejection does suck, however you've got to realise that you're not everyone's cup of tea. Sometimes it's nothing personal.

Sparkle can I rest assured that I won't be rejected by you?

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

Both sides can refrain from being unpleasant if they are unhappy with the message they receive (note, I'm really not excusing or justifying poor behaviour from the rejected party). I'm wondering, do these guys ever stop and think, would they be the same if the got rejected at a bar in a hotel for example, I doubt it, so why change tact behind a keyboard or screen, makes no sense, unless your an asshole deepdown to begin with. "

Anonymity affords a certain degree of leeway when it comes to your response; people might feel more confidence to act in a way they wouldn't normally because there's not that degree of culpability there would be in a f2f interaction. Societal conventions, the desire to be approved, the lack of serious repercussions stops us from throwing our toys out of the pram when presented with a less than ideal scenario. Even the fact that those who give the abuse might not see the receiving person as a person in the same way, just words on a screen. It's complicated and obviously it's not right.

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"Yh rejection does suck, however you've got to realise that you're not everyone's cup of tea. Sometimes it's nothing personal.

Sparkle can I rest assured that I won't be rejected by you?

You certainly won't be

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

There are often threads about rejection and why not.

It's not always 'rejection' though is it ?

It is assumed that the male doing the asking is a mature, well adjusted adult with great experience of life, how to operate socially and how to treat others.

The problem for me is this ...... IF they were all of the above, they wouldn't react to rejection in the way that gets described so often.

IF... they are not all of the above ( which is more than probable given their reaction ) then WHY is it a talking point.

In a nutshell a 'sad sack takes it personally and reacts without grace'

This is not a revelation nor a talking point. It's a non event.

Equally it seems to be assumed that the woman who rejects did it sweetly and politely and even if she did she got a message back fuelled with rancid bile.

It's then assumed that she is mortally wounded and helpless and a poor poor victim. The reaction of some women to rudeness from 'unstable' suitors is to scream victim in the forum.

Don't confuse that with those who start up an intelligent comment on the phenomena. I'm talking about those that think it's brings them their five minutes of fame.

I tire of hearing about how single bastards spoil it for the majority of single lovelies.

Let's hear it more about the women who feel it brings them the attention they so desperately lack in their lives and don't care who it's from.

What does their reaction say about them ? Most know they can filter or block without comment but do they ? Course not.

Lastly:- If someone says NO to you ( male or female ) it's not all about you. Maybe something else is going on in their lives. Death, disease, debt , depression ..... religion , lack of self esteem ..... Not everyone is sitting their in YOUR frame of mind.

Peace Out......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It ain't what you do it's the way that you do it...

I always appreciate a "Thanks, but no thanks" message, and often send a "Thank you for your time" response. I've never sent a nasty message here, under any circumstances.

Unfortunately there are twats and fucktards in all walks of life. I try to be the best "me" I can be and not worry about those who don't conduct themselves well."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There are often threads about rejection and why not.