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By *reya73 OP Woman
over a year ago
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To the younger man.
I apologise for blocking you all out. Its just a filtering system. My choice.
I like experience, confidence, integrity, wisdom, maturity and good communication. I'm not saying younger men don't have these qualities but.. It seems safer for me to presume, in a big pond, that men my age or older are more likely to possess them. Not always so, I'm sure. We are who we are. I see that filters don't take into account individuality.
So..
To whom it may concern.. Convince the older women that we should maybe open out to the men younger than us.
Women.. Chip in too please Your reasons for and your hesitations are welcome.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had messages from 22/23 years old at the weekend when I had no filters on.
I’m a believer in age is just a number (well I thought I was), but they just look so young and it felt wrong. Felt like I should be reading then a bedtime story!
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Everyone has their own options, if you think someone is too young just by age that’s fair enough, your choice. But you may be surprised by a few younger gents how much you do click so is it worth filtering these out immediately to avoid the others |
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By *reya73 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I had messages from 22/23 years old at the weekend when I had no filters on.
I’m a believer in age is just a number (well I thought I was), but they just look so young and it felt wrong. Felt like I should be reading then a bedtime story!
Happy to read reasons why I should change my mind."
Me too.
Age isn't just a number. But it depends on the context I think. Both of my partners are 8 years younger than me. Sometimes I feel it, sometimes I don't. It can be very subtle and down to life experience and understanding/how much we need to be understood. And, I want to see them and for them to see me as fellow humans. Its complex I think. Although I'm sure, if this thread takes off.. It may also highlight the non complexities
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By *reya73 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Everyone has their own options, if you think someone is too young just by age that’s fair enough, your choice. But you may be surprised by a few younger gents how much you do click so is it worth filtering these out immediately to avoid the others "
Indeed... As a youngun, I was pretty savvy, unusually wise and surrounded by older friends. I wasn't the typical young lady.. Which has got me questioning.
Sexually, younger men can meet my energy. However, I need some other traits too to engage the rest of me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your only as old as the man you feel 
Nah only joking, I think maturity, experience and confidence comes from experience, not years.
This isn't me touting for older women to contact me.
Just sayin |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had messages from 22/23 years old at the weekend when I had no filters on.
I’m a believer in age is just a number (well I thought I was), but they just look so young and it felt wrong. Felt like I should be reading then a bedtime story!
Happy to read reasons why I should change my mind.
Me too.
Age isn't just a number. But it depends on the context I think. Both of my partners are 8 years younger than me. Sometimes I feel it, sometimes I don't. It can be very subtle and down to life experience and understanding/how much we need to be understood. And, I want to see them and for them to see me as fellow humans. Its complex I think. Although I'm sure, if this thread takes off.. It may also highlight the non complexities
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That’s a very good point, although I know some younger people who are very mature in their outlook, so I suppose it depends on the individual.
Maybe I should test it out and see  |
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By *reya73 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Your only as old as the man you feel
Nah only joking, I think maturity, experience and confidence comes from experience, not years.
This isn't me touting for older women to contact me.
Just sayin "
Your input valued.. Touting or not |
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By *amillMan
over a year ago
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I think when it comes to filtering out people of any age not just younger but those who may filter older too, it comes down to whether you see age as a barrier. I often find women state that the reason they aren’t interested in younger men is down to being a similar age to their own children and they find that off putting, which is totally fine and understandable.
Although, from the opening comment it would appear you’re more interested in the qualities a man may possess as opposed to being off put by a different factor.
Whilst it’s true that many my age lack the maturity and experience, you may be pleasantly surprised to find that some are years ahead of their age. I guess the trickier part when searching for someone younger is that it’s difficult to portray a level of experience without sounding arrogant or cocky.
It can also be difficult to read a persons maturity from their profile and while in some cases it will be glaringly obvious from cliche text or a certain style of writing.
Confidence is also a quality which is hard to gauge from a few lines of text and photos, I think it’s probably also safe to say that many my age get off on the fantasy of a more mature woman, but don’t actually have the bottle to follow through with their actions and that sour taste can spoil your view of others.
I’m not sure how helpful this is in making the case, but wanted to provide some insight.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To the younger man.
I apologise for blocking you all out. Its just a filtering system. My choice.
I like experience, confidence, integrity, wisdom, maturity and good communication. I'm not saying younger men don't have these qualities but.. It seems safer for me to presume, in a big pond, that men my age or older are more likely to possess them. Not always so, I'm sure. We are who we are. I see that filters don't take into account individuality.
So..
To whom it may concern.. Convince the older women that we should maybe open out to the men younger than us.
Women.. Chip in too please Your reasons for and your hesitations are welcome.
X "
I'm a firm believer that age is just a number, and there is a big difference between youth and naivety/inexperience.
The problem with younger guys is that they often see being with an older woman as a badge of honour, something to tick off the bucket list, but I don't see it as any different to women my own age or younger.
Given the chance, I'd love to attempt to sway you towards the younger gent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also, why is it presumed thy "older" women are mature, confident, experienced etc?
Because we are. So ya boo sucks to you, men are poo heads  "
You didn't have to kick me in the shin though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's completely up to you! Even though some younger men show great maturity for their age, I can see why it's easier to block them all to make things easier for you.
Everyone has a reason for their age range and it's up to us to respect that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Also, why is it presumed thy "older" women are mature, confident, experienced etc?
Because we are. So ya boo sucks to you, men are poo heads
You didn't have to kick me in the shin though "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Also, why is it presumed thy "older" women are mature, confident, experienced etc?
Because we are. So ya boo sucks to you, men are poo heads
You didn't have to kick me in the shin though
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(I think she likes me) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Also, why is it presumed thy "older" women are mature, confident, experienced etc?
Because we are. So ya boo sucks to you, men are poo heads
You didn't have to kick me in the shin though
(I think she likes me) "
Wait until I pull your hair and flash my knickers |
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"Also, why is it presumed thy "older" women are mature, confident, experienced etc?
Because we are. So ya boo sucks to you, men are poo heads "
Waa this made me laugh, M is 9 years younger and I'm most definitely more childish |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Also, why is it presumed thy "older" women are mature, confident, experienced etc?
Because we are. So ya boo sucks to you, men are poo heads
You didn't have to kick me in the shin though
(I think she likes me)
Wait until I pull your hair and flash my knickers "
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Time after time, on dating sites, older women say "I couldn't go out with someone the same age as my son". (That tends to work in my favour)
Is it some sort of taboo?
I'm sure no such taboo exists with men contemplating bedding someone the same age as their daughter! |
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By *reya73 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I think when it comes to filtering out people of any age not just younger but those who may filter older too, it comes down to whether you see age as a barrier. I often find women state that the reason they aren’t interested in younger men is down to being a similar age to their own children and they find that off putting, which is totally fine and understandable.
Although, from the opening comment it would appear you’re more interested in the qualities a man may possess as opposed to being off put by a different factor.
Whilst it’s true that many my age lack the maturity and experience, you may be pleasantly surprised to find that some are years ahead of their age. I guess the trickier part when searching for someone younger is that it’s difficult to portray a level of experience without sounding arrogant or cocky.
It can also be difficult to read a persons maturity from their profile and while in some cases it will be glaringly obvious from cliche text or a certain style of writing.
Confidence is also a quality which is hard to gauge from a few lines of text and photos, I think it’s probably also safe to say that many my age get off on the fantasy of a more mature woman, but don’t actually have the bottle to follow through with their actions and that sour taste can spoil your view of others.
I’m not sure how helpful this is in making the case, but wanted to provide some insight.
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Thank you.. Brilliant insight. Yes you're right about the off putting thing of our children's age.
Also, it's the knowing that many men (and women) are often wise beyond their years. I was one of these for many life reasons.. And just personality. Its one of the things that intrigues me.
I don't want to be a fantasy or a niche nor would I want to treat a younger man as such... Although that's fine for some.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Also, why is it presumed thy "older" women are mature, confident, experienced etc?
Because we are. So ya boo sucks to you, men are poo heads
Waa this made me laugh, M is 9 years younger and I'm most definitely more childish "
I’m going for playful |
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