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Have you ever been in love?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I have.
But I won't allow it to happen again.
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Yes and that ended with her wanting to be with someone else 
Not since and never again  single Pringle forever haha  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I have.
But I won't allow it to happen again.
Yes and that ended with her wanting to be with someone else
Not since and never again single Pringle forever haha "
I am staying single now (with regular fucking when allowed)
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I have.
But I won't allow it to happen again.
Yes and that ended with her wanting to be with someone else
Not since and never again single Pringle forever haha
I am staying single now (with regular fucking when allowed)
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Same here, so much easier but boring as shit at the moment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I havent been in a relationship so wouldnt say I have been in love that way, but I have fallen for some of the one nighters I have met and liked them alot "
That is very sad shag very sad indeed.
Yes I’ve been in love and luckily I still am in love !!
T |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I have and yes i will again, when the right person comes along , I find it sad that a few have said never again , take that chance not everyone the same "
I’m one of the ones to say never again  not because I believe everyone is the same but the ones I have loved since have never been reciprocated so I’ve not been proven wrong haha, and I’m not getting any younger 
Ps I adore the fact that a lot here are still in love with each other  |
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Yes, it can be a wonderful feeling. It can also hurt, but I believe that you sometimes need to take risks to experience the best things in life...hearts mend in time, and I'd rather risk suffering that pain than never feel the joy of love |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think we can choose how we label falling in love. I have now chosen to call it infatuation if it isn’t reciprocated. Falling in love if it is mutual. I also put a time boundary on it, in the sense that sufficient time needs to have evolved for the depth of mutual connection to be profound enough to call love.
So a brief intense period of getting the feels, that peters out quite quickly I call it mutual infatuation. If only I or the other person feels it I call it infatuation and if it develops into something more lasting but still has that depth of intensity as I say we fell in love. Therefore I think that happened twice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think we can choose how we label falling in love. I have now chosen to call it infatuation if it isn’t reciprocated. Falling in love if it is mutual. I also put a time boundary on it, in the sense that sufficient time needs to have evolved for the depth of mutual connection to be profound enough to call love.
So a brief intense period of getting the feels, that peters out quite quickly I call it mutual infatuation. If only I or the other person feels it I call it infatuation and if it develops into something more lasting but still has that depth of intensity as I say we fell in love. Therefore I think that happened twice. "
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"I havent been in a relationship so wouldnt say I have been in love that way, but I have fallen for some of the one nighters I have met and liked them alot "
Yes since 1986 still together now and I love her even more now than ever before. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've felt love quite a few times and willingly give it to all of my closest male and female friends
In love no never. I doubt I'll ever drop that guard"
I said exactly the same thing...and got hit completely out of the blue. It taught me I was capable and it is out there and yes at the time worth the risk of letting someone in...would I again? Only if it’s not by choice...that for me is the tell. |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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I have and my downfall is I fall in love too easy and get hurt a lot, still recovering from the last time.
This heart is firmly closed and it's going to take someone mighty special to open it up again. I think I may be single for a long while. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The first time, many many years ago, and brought with it highs and lows, the worst of which was her death. That still echos through almost every aspect of my life, and has caused me more than a few issues.
Anything in the decades since then has been misguided, and misinterpreted by me, such that I now know and accept that it wasn't love. And this was brought home to me when I met someone, and very rapidly and uncontrollably found myself well and truly in love.
It can happen when you least expect it, and I'm not convinced it's controllable either. I was quite satisfied in my own mind that I was truly emotionally locked down. I'd met the perfect storm. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This heart is firmly closed and it's going to take someone mighty special to open it up again."
Been there, done that, got the T-shirt... When you do meet that someone mighty special all bets are off! |
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
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"I havent been in a relationship so wouldnt say I have been in love that way, but I have fallen for some of the one nighters I have met and liked them alot
That is very sad shag very sad indeed.
Yes I’ve been in love and luckily I still am in love !!
T"
That is good. I have chosen the single life and I like it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The first time, many many years ago, and brought with it highs and lows, the worst of which was her death. That still echos through almost every aspect of my life, and has caused me more than a few issues.
Anything in the decades since then has been misguided, and misinterpreted by me, such that I now know and accept that it wasn't love. And this was brought home to me when I met someone, and very rapidly and uncontrollably found myself well and truly in love.
It can happen when you least expect it, and I'm not convinced it's controllable either. I was quite satisfied in my own mind that I was truly emotionally locked down. I'd met the perfect storm. "
Condolences friend |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think we can choose how we label falling in love. I have now chosen to call it infatuation if it isn’t reciprocated. Falling in love if it is mutual. I also put a time boundary on it, in the sense that sufficient time needs to have evolved for the depth of mutual connection to be profound enough to call love.
So a brief intense period of getting the feels, that peters out quite quickly I call it mutual infatuation. If only I or the other person feels it I call it infatuation and if it develops into something more lasting but still has that depth of intensity as I say we fell in love. Therefore I think that happened twice. "
I like this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes. It’s wonderful when it happens but my goodness it hurts when it ends"
Yep sure does. But until i met jen i can say i honestly say what i thought was love was a shame. She is the most honest and loving woman i have ever been with and with no agenda. But as said above it does hurt when it ends. But lovely when it starts also |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"This heart is firmly closed and it's going to take someone mighty special to open it up again.
Been there, done that, got the T-shirt... When you do meet that someone mighty special all bets are off!"
Honestly I don't think I will, I'm at peace with the fact I may be alone for the rest of my life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been on love before, bout was nothing like what I have with my amazing lady. Fell he'd over heals for her as soon as I saw her and the first date was like something out of a film. To find her was worth all the pain I went through previously. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes. It’s wonderful when it happens but my goodness it hurts when it ends"
Oh my word yes! I vow never again.
I have been in head over heels love and when that ends....wow.
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"Tis better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all.
I believe that's how the saying goes anyway 
Very much agree with this train of thought."
Yes, tis better to have loved and lost a short woman than never to have loved a tall |
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Yes I have at school we was in a relationship for 2,1/2 years and 1 day she wasn't at the bus stop as she usually was,I found out later that day her mum got offered a job in America and left the country the next-day ,she never even said bye to me and not seen her since. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tis better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all.
I believe that's how the saying goes anyway
Very much agree with this train of thought.
Yes, tis better to have loved and lost a short woman than never to have loved a tall "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I have at school we was in a relationship for 2,1/2 years and 1 day she wasn't at the bus stop as she usually was,I found out later that day her mum got offered a job in America and left the country the next-day ,she never even said bye to me and not seen her since. "
 it is like a film plot |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Been on love before, bout was nothing like what I have with my amazing lady. Fell he'd over heals for her as soon as I saw her and the first date was like something out of a film. To find her was worth all the pain I went through previously. "
The first date with jenny lasted 9hrs.i thought she might not like me but 9hrs later she said she did not want to leave. Most amazing woman i met except my late mother. |
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"Been on love before, bout was nothing like what I have with my amazing lady. Fell he'd over heals for her as soon as I saw her and the first date was like something out of a film. To find her was worth all the pain I went through previously.
The first date with jenny lasted 9hrs.i thought she might not like me but 9hrs later she said she did not want to leave. Most amazing woman i met except my late mother."
What a great story .... happiness to both of u |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Been on love before, bout was nothing like what I have with my amazing lady. Fell he'd over heals for her as soon as I saw her and the first date was like something out of a film. To find her was worth all the pain I went through previously.
The first date with jenny lasted 9hrs.i thought she might not like me but 9hrs later she said she did not want to leave. Most amazing woman i met except my late mother.
What a great story .... happiness to both of u "
Thank you x |
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"Yes. It’s wonderful when it happens but my goodness it hurts when it ends"
The highs you feel when you are in love are comparable to the lows you suffer when it ends. It hurts so so very much and something genuinely breaks inside you (call it your heart or anything else).
I have had my heart broken and it feels like a part of you has died. Still feel that way. |
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"Yes. It’s wonderful when it happens but my goodness it hurts when it ends
The highs you feel when you are in love are comparable to the lows you suffer when it ends. It hurts so so very much and something genuinely breaks inside you (call it your heart or anything else).
I have had my heart broken and it feels like a part of you has died. Still feel that way."
That’s why I’m never going to risk getting that close to anyone again, for me the highs aren’t worth the inevitable agony. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That’s why I’m never going to risk getting that close to anyone again, for me the highs aren’t worth the inevitable agony."
The take away from that is you think it is avoidable?
Keep the door firmly shut. Make the chamber of your emotions airtight, so nothing gets in or out. Locked down, more than we are right now or ever can be. Then they come along, put some C4 around the door frame, trigger the fuse, blow the door to shit taking some masonry with it, and then before the dust has settled standing before you in the place you never thought they could get to is the most life-changing person you've ever met, and your heart beats to a different rhythm.
Just curious how you'd avoid that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes. It’s wonderful when it happens but my goodness it hurts when it ends"
This.
I have been and it really does hurt when it's over especially when you have to end it for your own wellbeing. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"Yes. It’s wonderful when it happens but my goodness it hurts when it ends
The highs you feel when you are in love are comparable to the lows you suffer when it ends. It hurts so so very much and something genuinely breaks inside you (call it your heart or anything else).
I have had my heart broken and it feels like a part of you has died. Still feel that way."
In some ways it’s worse than someone dying, they are still there just not with you. The difference is normally you heal a few years later you say thank fuck I didn’t end up with that one. |
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"That’s why I’m never going to risk getting that close to anyone again, for me the highs aren’t worth the inevitable agony.
The take away from that is you think it is avoidable?
Keep the door firmly shut. Make the chamber of your emotions airtight, so nothing gets in or out. Locked down, more than we are right now or ever can be. Then they come along, put some C4 around the door frame, trigger the fuse, blow the door to shit taking some masonry with it, and then before the dust has settled standing before you in the place you never thought they could get to is the most life-changing person you've ever met, and your heart beats to a different rhythm.
Just curious how you'd avoid that."
I’m demiromantic, meaning I can’t “fall in love” unless I feel a deep connection with someone. Hence why I’m 42 and only been in love once. I didn’t think it could or would ever happen, so that connection snuck up on me and by the time I knew what was happening it was too late. So yes, I think I can avoid it, it just means keeping people at a bit more of a distance. Which, to avoid feeling like I want to die when it ends, is worth doing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep, madly when I was 16.
8 years and 2 kids later we divorced.
I still love him, I always will, and believe he does me, but love does not conquer all sadly and some people are better off apart |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only 25 myself but ive been in love once before. And am currently in a situation where i am not sure what my feelings are about someone haha. But in both situations the feeling hasn't been mutual so that's fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have been and still are 36 years on.
For it to work you have to have honesty and communication along with being able to give and take.
You only get out what you put in."
Jesus if i had got out what I put in, it would be Christmas every day |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Have been and still are 36 years on.
For it to work you have to have honesty and communication along with being able to give and take.
You only get out what you put in.
Jesus if i had got out what I put in, it would be Christmas every day"
I would have felt like the Queen of England.
For every ounce of energy I put into my marriage he put 0 lol. |
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"Have been and still are 36 years on.
For it to work you have to have honesty and communication along with being able to give and take.
You only get out what you put in.
Jesus if i had got out what I put in, it would be Christmas every day
I would have felt like the Queen of England.
For every ounce of energy I put into my marriage he put 0 lol."
That was my point, you both have to be as involved at all levels.
So many of our friends just can't see it sadly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being in love is such an amazing feeling if the other person feels the same about you.
True, deep, in love is rare. Caring deeply for someone and loving them as a friend is great, but actually being in love is something else and off the scale. Lots of people get the two confused and that's when you can start getting problems. |
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"I havent been in a relationship so wouldnt say I have been in love that way, but I have fallen for some of the one nighters I have met and liked them alot "
Aw shag
I'm happy to report i have loved deeply and had that love reciprocated twice and we are still close friends ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've been racking my brains with regards to this post, about a podcast I listened to a while back. The discussion ended up on the subject of love and heard a wonderful outlook on it. I haven't listened to the whole podcast again, but I'll paraphrase and butcher the main point as follows.
Love is a Fog that dissipates with the first light of reality. So fleeting and temporary, made up of moments in which if no work or effort is put into it, will die/dissappear/fade as we take it for granted.
Or something like that, but it did resonate with me. |
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