Hi even though we've been on here for a few months, we are still completely new however have enjoyed speaking to a few of yourselves. Whilst in conversation earlier with my wife she asked why are women who like to meet couples called unicorns? I myself didnt know the amswer, could someone please explain. Thank you |
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"My experience only,
I found when getting to know a couple, it was the male who was the one pushing to meet and doing all the messaging.
It is very off putting for me. Im happy to discuss things with the couple but its better sometimes just to chat to the female openly.
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Mines the similar. I like to speak to both in the couple more in a social setting, i get a better idea of the dynamic then. |
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"My experience only,
I found when getting to know a couple, it was the male who was the one pushing to meet and doing all the messaging.
It is very off putting for me. Im happy to discuss things with the couple but its better sometimes just to chat to the female openly.
Mines the similar. I like to speak to both in the couple more in a social setting, i get a better idea of the dynamic then."
Deleted mine in error.
We are rare but we exist.
I've done socials with couples then had the male constantly messaging me ask when we are meeting.
In the end I turned them down. |
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"My experience only,
I found when getting to know a couple, it was the male who was the one pushing to meet and doing all the messaging.
It is very off putting for me. Im happy to discuss things with the couple but its better sometimes just to chat to the female openly.
Mines the similar. I like to speak to both in the couple more in a social setting, i get a better idea of the dynamic then."
Yep, I don't like talking to couples profiles. The rare incidences I've even considered meeting a couple is when I've got to know each of them separately. |
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It's a shame single ladies are put off. I remember it well when I played as a single fem, the amount of times it was the male doing the pushing, or the woman was just doing it to please her man, or the man messaged me separately asking to meet me alone. It really is off putting.
We are different as it's predominantly me that does all the chatting and setting up of meets etc. Mr reads all messages and is fully involved and knows what's going on. He is totally happy to let me take the lead with swinging.
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Best way I found to meet couples was clubs. Meeting through here was too stressful. I even stopped meeting couples due to some of the issues ppl have mentioned already. Now its few and far between i meet couples.
Fab should have a unicorn emoji really   |
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Yeah I imagine it’s difficult for single girls to trust the couple for the reasons mentioned above.
C was a single girl on here prior to us getting together and so she’s in a good place to understand where a single girls mindset is.
We are both pretty relaxed people and certainly not pushy...
K |
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Yep, not many of us around that fully swing.
I love to play with men, women, trans and couples and often attended clubs, I am a fully fledged unicorn with the tattoo to match 
(I cant wait to be the d*unk grandma at the xmas dinner table telling my tattoo stories haha) |
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I would be quite happy to meet with couples but I've had enough on here to put me off. Always male led, more pics of the female and I like to see both. I cancelled a social once for a good reason and what I got back off that was quite frankly awful. I think meeting couples in clubs would have been the way to go but covid has put a stop to that. |
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Then im included. I was introduced to swinging by a couple though i need to agree with a lot here. Its harder to arrange cos in most instances there is no female in the couple at all.
I also find some can be very pushy, like theyre doing me a favour and i shouldnt dare refuse.
There are of course the good and honest ones. The respectful snd genuine ones i would happily meet on occasion, if the arrangement was right.
I dont do couples meets where there is no contact with the male. Thats not a couples meet in my eyes. |
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over a year ago
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As has been said its nicer to use a label that implies the rarity in finding said mythical beast, instead of simply considering it a case of supply and demand where the demand outstrips the supply. Kinda like toilet roll in lockdown #1.
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"Then im included. I was introduced to swinging by a couple though i need to agree with a lot here. Its harder to arrange cos in most instances there is no female in the couple at all.
I also find some can be very pushy, like theyre doing me a favour and i shouldnt dare refuse.
There are of course the good and honest ones. The respectful snd genuine ones i would happily meet on occasion, if the arrangement was right.
I dont do couples meets where there is no contact with the male. Thats not a couples meet in my eyes."
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"Yeah I imagine it’s difficult for single girls to trust the couple for the reasons mentioned above.
C was a single girl on here prior to us getting together and so she’s in a good place to understand where a single girls mindset is.
We are both pretty relaxed people and certainly not pushy...
K"
Same here jenny has been. A single woman on here. She has always been bi. But as said bi single women do get pressured to meet. We are after cpls for fun but if it changed and we were looking to meet a single bi woman id let jenny look and deal with it as sbe understands the single bi female side of it. John |
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"All single women or only those who meet couples? Ive seen this term too and always been confused"
Bi single women who will meet mf cpls are called unicorns. Very rare to find |
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Its tricky as a couple. For all of the understandable reasons mentioned and ladies scepticism of them, which I find a little unfair on women and saddens me a bit.
We tend to, or used to...(insert sad face) Go to clubs to make friends and socialise. Because theres so much less pressure for both us and everyone else.
In our case, Lu generally takes the lead with any contact we have with women. As to be honest. Even though this is a swingers site, I *J* am rather shy chap. But also realise how uncomfortable it must be for women, when men are the driving factor trying to meet them. Also for us. Any ladies/unicorns are primarily for Lu, not myself. So why would I be the driving factor. Frankly I'd be happy just to be in the same building lol.
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I have encountered the issues raised already when chatting with couples and I was almost put off all together.
It's awful when the man messages without the knowledge or consent of their partner. I find it totally disrespectful to all concerned and he wouldn't be someone I'd want to meet.
And I've come across the pushy male half and the feeling that the Mrs wasn't really that into it and just wanted to keep her man happy.
Non of these are a recipe for a great experience. |
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