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"I don’t think I want to be In a relationship ... I think I want lots of sex 
But I feel like I don’t want to be alone   
I’m not sure if corona’s getting to me mentally but I feel bloody awful    "
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I don't think it's needy to day that you're feeling bloody awful or apologise for it x
We are in really shitty situation and feelings can be compounded with all that's going on.
It can be lonely for many.
I hope you feel better about things soon x |
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Totally understandable just now.
I didn’t feel lonely until this pandemic arrived as I’m out socially quite a lot and my 3 sons are all still at home but they spend most of their time in their rooms chatting online to friends.
It’s the face to face interactions that are missing but hopefully things will start to get better soon. |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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If it helps I don't really want to be alone but given I'm 35 amd only ever had one relationship that lasted 2yrs I feel the spinster life is what I'm heading for. I've come to peace with that fact though and looking for a nice shawl pattern to start knitting.
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"I don’t think I want to be In a relationship ... I think I want lots of sex
But I feel like I don’t want to be alone
I’m not sure if corona’s getting to me mentally but I feel bloody awful "
These times are tough for everybody but possibly a lot worse for the younger generation; from talking to some people in your age group (in my personal life, not on here) I am hearing a growing sense of loneliness, isolation and hopelessness. Most struggle with the uncertainty of when they are able to pick up normal life and if indeed there will be such a normal life when you can have a good time.
For what it is worth, I believe there will be an end to this, we will manage to live with the virus and those who have been vaccinated and still get it, will experience it a lot less serious. (Not my opinion alone but having spoken to a number of medics).
I think it is both courageous and incredibly honest, OP, to admit that you are struggling and I believe that is the best way out of the sense of feeling down! Like some have suggested, find an online group or a couple of individuals to chat to, not necessarily just on here, perhaps with a view to eventually meeting up when it's possible again. Go for a walk in the local area as fresh air and exercise will do its bit to make you feel a bit better. And....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get completely how you are feeling... Circumstances for me are different but I came out of a bad relationship, I enjoy single life don't get me wrong but would in time like to be in a relationship as ultimately I would like another child.
It's a difficult situation but you will figure it out. |
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"I don’t think I want to be In a relationship ... I think I want lots of sex
But I feel like I don’t want to be alone
I’m not sure if corona’s getting to me mentally but I feel bloody awful
These times are tough for everybody but possibly a lot worse for the younger generation; from talking to some people in your age group (in my personal life, not on here) I am hearing a growing sense of loneliness, isolation and hopelessness. Most struggle with the uncertainty of when they are able to pick up normal life and if indeed there will be such a normal life when you can have a good time.
For what it is worth, I believe there will be an end to this, we will manage to live with the virus and those who have been vaccinated and still get it, will experience it a lot less serious. (Not my opinion alone but having spoken to a number of medics).
I think it is both courageous and incredibly honest, OP, to admit that you are struggling and I believe that is the best way out of the sense of feeling down! Like some have suggested, find an online group or a couple of individuals to chat to, not necessarily just on here, perhaps with a view to eventually meeting up when it's possible again. Go for a walk in the local area as fresh air and exercise will do its bit to make you feel a bit better. And....
talk to the forumites
Hope you feel better soon "
Thanks for you’re lovely positive vibes 
If I could kiss you I would ... as I can’t just try imagine one  |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"I don’t think I want to be In a relationship ... I think I want lots of sex
But I feel like I don’t want to be alone
I’m not sure if corona’s getting to me mentally but I feel bloody awful
These times are tough for everybody but possibly a lot worse for the younger generation; from talking to some people in your age group (in my personal life, not on here) I am hearing a growing sense of loneliness, isolation and hopelessness. Most struggle with the uncertainty of when they are able to pick up normal life and if indeed there will be such a normal life when you can have a good time.
For what it is worth, I believe there will be an end to this, we will manage to live with the virus and those who have been vaccinated and still get it, will experience it a lot less serious. (Not my opinion alone but having spoken to a number of medics).
I think it is both courageous and incredibly honest, OP, to admit that you are struggling and I believe that is the best way out of the sense of feeling down! Like some have suggested, find an online group or a couple of individuals to chat to, not necessarily just on here, perhaps with a view to eventually meeting up when it's possible again. Go for a walk in the local area as fresh air and exercise will do its bit to make you feel a bit better. And....
talk to the forumites
Hope you feel better soon
Thanks for you’re lovely positive vibes
If I could kiss you I would ... as I can’t just try imagine one "
I just sensed that besides looking for lots of sex, the sense of loneliness was there somewhere. Hugs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I totally relate to this, even when married I kept my own place and stayed there a couple of nights a week. I loved the intimacy, companionship and friendship of the relationship, but also need my own personal space and always have. My next relationship if I choose to have one will need to be with somebody who craves the same dynamic. |
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"I don’t think I want to be In a relationship ... I think I want lots of sex
But I feel like I don’t want to be alone
I’m not sure if corona’s getting to me mentally but I feel bloody awful
These times are tough for everybody but possibly a lot worse for the younger generation; from talking to some people in your age group (in my personal life, not on here) I am hearing a growing sense of loneliness, isolation and hopelessness. Most struggle with the uncertainty of when they are able to pick up normal life and if indeed there will be such a normal life when you can have a good time.
For what it is worth, I believe there will be an end to this, we will manage to live with the virus and those who have been vaccinated and still get it, will experience it a lot less serious. (Not my opinion alone but having spoken to a number of medics).
I think it is both courageous and incredibly honest, OP, to admit that you are struggling and I believe that is the best way out of the sense of feeling down! Like some have suggested, find an online group or a couple of individuals to chat to, not necessarily just on here, perhaps with a view to eventually meeting up when it's possible again. Go for a walk in the local area as fresh air and exercise will do its bit to make you feel a bit better. And....
talk to the forumites
Hope you feel better soon
Thanks for you’re lovely positive vibes
If I could kiss you I would ... as I can’t just try imagine one
I just sensed that besides looking for lots of sex, the sense of loneliness was there somewhere. Hugs x"
The looking for lots of sex part ... I missed a lot of years growing up down to a brain tumour at the end of secondary school putting me back 8/10 years
I feel I’ve missed out on that part of life and maturing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I totally relate to this, even when married I kept my own place and stayed there a couple of nights a week. I loved the intimacy, companionship and friendship of the relationship, but also need my own personal space and always have. My next relationship if I choose to have one will need to be with somebody who craves the same dynamic."
I'm the same. Just because someone needs their own space doesn't mean a committed relationship isn't feasible. My ex and I lived together for 18 months but I had to ask him to move out. We continued being together for 3 years after, with him staying over every other night and it worked beautifully. If I ever do feel like I want to find a partner again it would have to be the same sort of set up.
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"I don’t think I want to be In a relationship ... I think I want lots of sex
But I feel like I don’t want to be alone
I’m not sure if corona’s getting to me mentally but I feel bloody awful
Get a dog. Great companions."
Absolutely 100% agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been single for 4 years now and also totally socially isolated for this period.
I think that's why lockdown hasn't hit me as hard as others, cos it's been my life for so long anyways.
I'm turning into Sheldon Cooper from The Big Bang Theory. I actually prefer to be on my own now, people are complicated and I can't be bothered with them.
Makes for a peaceful life. |
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By *arko BMan
over a year ago
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Exercise every morning, maybe start jogging, you will feel a lot better. Trust me!
"I don’t think I want to be In a relationship ... I think I want lots of sex
But I feel like I don’t want to be alone
I’m not sure if corona’s getting to me mentally but I feel bloody awful "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its not being single I fear but rather not finding the girl of my dreams whilst there's plenty of good years left... your out there somewhere...  "
Mmmmm... I'm struggling to find Mr Right too. No one excites me at the moment. |
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I dont want to b single myself
But i would rather b in a relationship than goin round just shaggin anyone one her for a fuck n go
At least if u are you cslan make passionste love with your partner anytime
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"I totally relate to this, even when married I kept my own place and stayed there a couple of nights a week. I loved the intimacy, companionship and friendship of the relationship, but also need my own personal space and always have. My next relationship if I choose to have one will need to be with somebody who craves the same dynamic.
I'm the same. Just because someone needs their own space doesn't mean a committed relationship isn't feasible. My ex and I lived together for 18 months but I had to ask him to move out. We continued being together for 3 years after, with him staying over every other night and it worked beautifully. If I ever do feel like I want to find a partner again it would have to be the same sort of set up.
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This is what I ideally look for in a relationship, committed but not together 24/7. Keep our own homes but stay over regularly. |
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