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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Is it against forum rules to green arrow someone and negatively comment on every post they make.

I have had someone do this for a while, not if I comment on something, but if I make a thread, they will find some way of putting the thread down or disagreeing with me.

It is quite annoying and have no idea why they are doing it.

Can you report this or is it a "just suck it up, you're on a forum" thing

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By *layful HarlequinMan over a year ago

iver heath

I have no idea about the answer sorry but out of curiosity man or woman?? Thinking woman myself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think there's much ground to punish them unfortunately, it's a public forum after all. I'd just ignore them completely, they're clearly just trying to get a rise out if you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it against forum rules to green arrow someone and negatively comment on every post they make.

I have had someone do this for a while, not if I comment on something, but if I make a thread, they will find some way of putting the thread down or disagreeing with me.

It is quite annoying and have no idea why they are doing it.

Can you report this or is it a "just suck it up, you're on a forum" thing"

Holy crap I’ve just realised what the green arrow does, now something makes complete sense

But sorry I have no answer sorry, as you can tell I’m still learning

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it against forum rules to green arrow someone and negatively comment on every post they make.

I have had someone do this for a while, not if I comment on something, but if I make a thread, they will find some way of putting the thread down or disagreeing with me.

It is quite annoying and have no idea why they are doing it.

Can you report this or is it a "just suck it up, you're on a forum" thing"

Big hugs op sorry to hear that is happening to you

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think to an extent it's a "suck it up" thing as it is after all an open forum and any qualified member of the site is entitled to comment - that said if it's persistent and obvious that it's being done to stir trouble then a report to admin to take a view wouldn't, in my opinion, be out of order.

Trouble is proving that is the case and suspect the answer may well be along the "open forum" lines

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By *ablo minibar123Woman over a year ago

I guess you could report it and let admin decide whether it is an issue. It definitely sucks the fun out of posting or starting threads and can be very draining.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

If it is constant, it can be reported and the mods will look into it.

I have found that there can be a discrepancy between how we perceive something to be posted, compared to how another posts something based on our personal bias - I was reminded of this last night. If it is clear douchery, report it. That's not really fair or on and can be an attempt at pushing you out of the fora.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have no idea about the answer sorry but out of curiosity man or woman?? Thinking woman myself "

Female yes, I wont go further than that as to not "name and shame"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't think there's much ground to punish them unfortunately, it's a public forum after all. I'd just ignore them completely, they're clearly just trying to get a rise out if you."

I have ignored for a year but it doesnt stop

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By *dam1971Man over a year ago

Bedford

I guess you can report any posts if they’re against the rules?

Unfortunately, deliberately being a twat isn’t against site rules. If it were we could lose dozens of people, hundreds even. Possibly thousands

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Deliberate trolling is abuse.

I'd report it

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By *ig1gaz1Man over a year ago

bradford

Best way is to ignore them ivy.

Dont bite as there only jealous.

The fact that theyve chased every thread post you make, Shows there bitter and being petty about it.

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman over a year ago

in the waves

Definitely report. I think if you have someone blocked there is a rule about interacting with them on the forum.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman over a year ago

Reading

I would laugh at it if you can. How sad their life must be to be doing this. All they deserve its your derision.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Let’s hope this thread in which you highlight the issue Ivy will be seen by your troll and it will stop

Otherwise just report every time it happens.... "

We will see. I doubt they will comment on this one anyway, or will and it will be a nice comment as to not show themselfs

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's, sadly, very difficult to prove.

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By *oanonmyboneMan over a year ago

maybe close

Everyday a school day. Didn’t even realise the green arrow had a function

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it against forum rules to green arrow someone and negatively comment on every post they make.

I have had someone do this for a while, not if I comment on something, but if I make a thread, they will find some way of putting the thread down or disagreeing with me.

It is quite annoying and have no idea why they are doing it.

Can you report this or is it a "just suck it up, you're on a forum" thing"

Have you tried to message them directly? Call them out & see if you can ask them if they have a specific issue?

If not, it might be worth speaking to admin to see if there’s any support they can offer.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS over a year ago

Cheshire

"Is it against forum rules to green arrow someone and negatively comment on every post they make.

I have had someone do this for a while, not if I comment on something, but if I make a thread, they will find some way of putting the thread down or disagreeing with me.

It is quite annoying and have no idea why they are doing it.

Can you report this or is it a "just suck it up, you're on a forum" thing"

Sounds more like they’re harassing you rather than an issue with the green arrow. But that could be difficult for the mods to do anything about unfortunately.

The plus side to the green arrow for the majority of posters is you can see if that person making a comment is consistent with their argument or point of view. Even if they have an agenda and only seem to be commenting on certain subjects or in your case those contributing to the thread.

My advice contact the mods with your concerns and see if they can help.

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By *acDreamyMan over a year ago

Wirral

"Deliberate trolling is abuse.

I'd report it

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Is it against forum rules to green arrow someone and negatively comment on every post they make.

I have had someone do this for a while, not if I comment on something, but if I make a thread, they will find some way of putting the thread down or disagreeing with me.

It is quite annoying and have no idea why they are doing it.

Can you report this or is it a "just suck it up, you're on a forum" thing

Have you tried to message them directly? Call them out & see if you can ask them if they have a specific issue?

If not, it might be worth speaking to admin to see if there’s any support they can offer.

This is how I discovered they had blocked me, I went to inbox them to ask why

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Block them if you haven't already.

It's against forum rules to try and bypass a block to get at someone, report her then.

I've had this before myself and it's beyond annoying!

Good luck lovely!

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By *reatformeatWoman over a year ago

my own bubble

Mmmm as you have just done in mine you mean ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh damn that’s awful I was talking to someone awhile back that was having the same issue it’s not nice

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Mmmm as you have just done in mine you mean ??"

Sorry what?

You are allowed to disagree on a thread

That one I just commented in of yours is the first I have ever seen of you, so nothing like what this thread is about

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

If they're not breaking forum rules nothing you can do but ignore them. Unfortunately, you've just given them additional attention via this thread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If they're not breaking forum rules nothing you can do but ignore them. Unfortunately, you've just given them additional attention via this thread. "

I am ok with giving them the attention tbh, as long as they realise I know what they are upto

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By *reatformeatWoman over a year ago

my own bubble

"Mmmm as you have just done in mine you mean ??

Sorry what?

You are allowed to disagree on a thread

That one I just commented in of yours is the first I have ever seen of you, so nothing like what this thread is about

Just don’t do to others what you don’t like having done to yourself hun . Enjoy

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By *oxychicWoman over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"If they're not breaking forum rules nothing you can do but ignore them. Unfortunately, you've just given them additional attention via this thread. "
exactly this , are u sure your not reading to much into it, sometimes its hard to know how to take things in written form, especially if u don't know them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just try to ignore .. stevie wonder to their comments ..

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By *layful HarlequinMan over a year ago

iver heath

"Mmmm as you have just done in mine you mean ??

Sorry what?

You are allowed to disagree on a thread

That one I just commented in of yours is the first I have ever seen of you, so nothing like what this thread is about

Just don’t do to others what you don’t like having done to yourself hun . Enjoy

Like you have just done (right) followed both posts and I had a feeling you would post here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Mmmm as you have just done in mine you mean ??

Sorry what?

You are allowed to disagree on a thread

That one I just commented in of yours is the first I have ever seen of you, so nothing like what this thread is about

Just don’t do to others what you don’t like having done to yourself hun . Enjoy

You are making no sense here.

I have never green arrowed anyone to stalk and harrass them

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Ultimately it's a childish game that says more about them than you. Don't give them the attention they clearly crave, they'll find better things to do.

But the technique is worth highlighting. It happens, and sunlight is a good disinfectant.

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"Is it against forum rules to green arrow someone and negatively comment on every post they make.

I have had someone do this for a while, not if I comment on something, but if I make a thread, they will find some way of putting the thread down or disagreeing with me.

It is quite annoying and have no idea why they are doing it.

Can you report this or is it a "just suck it up, you're on a forum" thing"

I've had similar and it's not very nice. Report and the mods will deal with it if they can. Hope it stops. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it against forum rules to green arrow someone and negatively comment on every post they make.

I have had someone do this for a while, not if I comment on something, but if I make a thread, they will find some way of putting the thread down or disagreeing with me.

It is quite annoying and have no idea why they are doing it.

Can you report this or is it a "just suck it up, you're on a forum" thing

Have you tried to message them directly? Call them out & see if you can ask them if they have a specific issue?

If not, it might be worth speaking to admin to see if there’s any support they can offer.

This is how I discovered they had blocked me, I went to inbox them to ask why"

Then I’d suggest you report it, no one is here to be abused. Using your phone you can screenshot any incidents.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Mmmm as you have just done in mine you mean ??

Sorry what?

You are allowed to disagree on a thread

That one I just commented in of yours is the first I have ever seen of you, so nothing like what this thread is about

Just don’t do to others what you don’t like having done to yourself hun . Enjoy

Posting a comment on a thread to share an opinion is hardly the same as stalking someone around the forums and following them onto every thread to comment...

2/3 comments does not a stalker make.

The OPs issue isn't with the person disagreeing it's with them following her around to dig specifically at her.

Hope that's helped you understand a little better

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Mmmm as you have just done in mine you mean ??

Sorry what?

You are allowed to disagree on a thread

That one I just commented in of yours is the first I have ever seen of you, so nothing like what this thread is about

Just don’t do to others what you don’t like having done to yourself hun . Enjoy

Posting a comment on a thread to share an opinion is hardly the same as stalking someone around the forums and following them onto every thread to comment...

2/3 comments does not a stalker make.

The OPs issue isn't with the person disagreeing it's with them following her around to dig specifically at her.

Hope that's helped you understand a little better

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

I've had it before now and it can make it feel like you've got no breathing space. Like your "safe place" is being violated. I know that sounds bizarre considering it's an open forum but that's how it felt for me.

If I've blocked someone I don't post on their threads. I think that's the respectable thing to do. I've not realised I've been blocked by others and posted on their threads tho.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it against forum rules to green arrow someone and negatively comment on every post they make.

I have had someone do this for a while, not if I comment on something, but if I make a thread, they will find some way of putting the thread down or disagreeing with me.

They stink of some sort of jealousy, or at some stage you may have belittled them and now they got it in for ya

It is quite annoying and have no idea why they are doing it.

Can you report this or is it a "just suck it up, you're on a forum" thing"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wookiedad and myself stalk eachother on the forum.

We call it Whack-A-Mole

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've had it before now and it can make it feel like you've got no breathing space. Like your "safe place" is being violated. I know that sounds bizarre considering it's an open forum but that's how it felt for me.

If I've blocked someone I don't post on their threads. I think that's the respectable thing to do. I've not realised I've been blocked by others and posted on their threads tho.

It is the respectful thing and I also try to not comment on those I have blocked.

Sometimes I am unaware though as I block alot of local men for my privacy.

I would not, however, block someone and then follow them around, it is odd behaviour

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Wookiedad and myself stalk eachother on the forum.

We call it Whack-A-Mole

Lamppkst pissing friends is fun and generally accepted so you are all good

Me and sophie do it alot, all in fun and with consent

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman over a year ago
Forum Mod

My Own Little World

"Block them if you haven't already.

It's against forum rules to try and bypass a block to get at someone, report her then.

I've had this before myself and it's beyond annoying!

Good luck lovely!

Not entirely correct.

It is against forum rules to use the forums to bypass a block ie asking you why they are blocked, if you can unblock them or asking you to mail them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wookiedad and myself stalk eachother on the forum.

We call it Whack-A-Mole

Lamppkst pissing friends is fun and generally accepted so you are all good

Me and sophie do it alot, all in fun and with consent"

We also take it one step further and make threads about eachother to embarrass eachother

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

If I've blocked someone I don't post on their threads. I think that's the respectable thing to do. I've not realised I've been blocked by others and posted on their threads tho.

It is the respectful thing and I also try to not comment on those I have blocked.

Sometimes I am unaware though as I block alot of local men for my privacy.

I would not, however, block someone and then follow them around, it is odd behaviour"

Absolutely agree 100%

Stalkery and cringey.

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

If I've blocked someone I don't post on their threads. I think that's the respectable thing to do. I've not realised I've been blocked by others and posted on their threads tho.

It is the respectful thing and I also try to not comment on those I have blocked.

Sometimes I am unaware though as I block alot of local men for my privacy.

I would not, however, block someone and then follow them around, it is odd behaviour"

It is odd behaviour, report them and then ignore their posts, they get fed up eventually x

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

Imagine it's because they are jeoulos of u if it's a woman u are stunning x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sweetie have you asked them ?

Peace can’t be kept by force , only achieved through understanding xxx

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"Imagine it's because they are jeoulos of u if it's a woman u are stunning x"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Block them if you haven't already.

It's against forum rules to try and bypass a block to get at someone, report her then.

I've had this before myself and it's beyond annoying!

Good luck lovely!

Not entirely correct.

It is against forum rules to use the forums to bypass a block ie asking you why they are blocked, if you can unblock them or asking you to mail them. "

Really?! Can we campaign to make it a rule? I would take stalking someone around the forums as then trying to bypass a block myself.

Explains why some of the people on my block list continue to follow me onto threads tho I guess!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Imagine it's because they are jeoulos of u if it's a woman u are stunning x"

She’s incredible one of the most delectable woman I’ve ever laid my eyes on

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Sweetie have you asked them ?

Peace can’t be kept by force , only achieved through understanding xxx"

If there's a block in place you can't do it privately. If it's in public it can get ugly fast.

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By * and R cple4Couple over a year ago

swansea

Am I the only person that clicked on green arrow to try and use my Miss Marple skills to see if I can work out who it is

.Maybe it’s just lockdown boredom on my part..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Am I the only person that clicked on green arrow to try and use my Miss Marple skills to see if I can work out who it is

.Maybe it’s just lockdown boredom on my part.."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sweetie have you asked them ?

Peace can’t be kept by force , only achieved through understanding xxx

If there's a block in place you can't do it privately. If it's in public it can get ugly fast."

Very true but better to lay cards on the table if it’s bothering that much, you never know friends can come from the strangest situations when met with a positive open mind.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Sweetie have you asked them ?

Peace can’t be kept by force , only achieved through understanding xxx

If there's a block in place you can't do it privately. If it's in public it can get ugly fast.

Very true but better to lay cards on the table if it’s bothering that much, you never know friends can come from the strangest situations when met with a positive open mind. "

I admire your optimism but don't share it.

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

"Am I the only person that clicked on green arrow to try and use my Miss Marple skills to see if I can work out who it is

.Maybe it’s just lockdown boredom on my part..

I was tempted, but thought I might get accused of taking sides.

I'm an equal opportunities cuntist me.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

I have mentioned a few times on the forum for people to ignore each other for this very reason, however unless mods are aware of any of this then they won't now if it is banter or not, so the best thing to do is report and let someone check it out

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

"I have mentioned a few times on the forum for people to ignore each other for this very reason, however unless mods are aware of any of this then they won't now if it is banter or not, so the best thing to do is report and let someone check it out

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

know *

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